WEBVTT - Atiyya's lessons from the past year & a sad goodbye 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:03.160 I would like to acknowledge the traditional owners of the 0:00:03.279 --> 0:00:06.640 land on which this episode is being recorded, the Komboom 0:00:06.680 --> 0:00:10.520 Marry people. We pay our respects to elders past, present 0:00:10.600 --> 0:00:14.319 and emerging, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and 0:00:14.360 --> 0:00:22.639 Torres Strait Islander peoples. Today I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson, 0:00:22.760 --> 0:00:30.200 and this is the Rise and Concer Podcast. This is 0:00:30.240 --> 0:00:33.199 the podcast where we ch have mindset, self development and 0:00:33.240 --> 0:00:37.120 becoming your higher self mix soon with a lot of laughs, 0:00:37.240 --> 0:00:40.360 plus behind the scenes of my life running two businesses 0:00:40.440 --> 0:00:43.800 and being among Think of us as the perfect combo 0:00:43.920 --> 0:00:47.479 of brunch with your besties mixed with self development. No 0:00:47.520 --> 0:00:49.839 matter where you are in your journey, We're here to 0:00:49.920 --> 0:00:53.800 help you be curious, pull yourself out, and embrace radical 0:00:53.920 --> 0:00:54.800 self awareness. 0:00:56.680 --> 0:00:58.120 If you're ready to get into. 0:00:57.920 --> 0:01:00.680 The driver's seat of your own life and stop letting 0:01:00.720 --> 0:01:03.520 life pass you by, then you're in the right place. 0:01:11.920 --> 0:01:16.040 Welcome back to the Rising Coon podcast. Guys. 0:01:16.240 --> 0:01:22.840 This is a really sad but also joyous episode mixed emotion. 0:01:23.080 --> 0:01:26.399 It's we have mixed emotions. I don't know how to 0:01:26.400 --> 0:01:28.400 break it to you, guys. 0:01:28.120 --> 0:01:33.040 But our beautiful t tee a tear is leaving RNC. 0:01:36.520 --> 0:01:39.160 Don't a tear, don't cry during this epod no wait, 0:01:40.760 --> 0:01:44.280 and we just wanted to do an episode, one final 0:01:44.360 --> 0:01:45.280 episode together. 0:01:45.800 --> 0:01:47.920 I might be popping up in episodes here and there 0:01:48.000 --> 0:01:49.960 after because we have recorded a few. 0:01:49.920 --> 0:01:52.040 But yeah, this is our last record. 0:01:51.920 --> 0:01:53.760 In life, yeah, in lifetiming. 0:01:54.040 --> 0:02:02.960 So this has been a really long, intuitive journey. We 0:02:03.040 --> 0:02:06.520 are obviously like so honest with you guys on the podcast. 0:02:06.680 --> 0:02:11.880 We share everything, and this episode is no different. Basically 0:02:12.320 --> 0:02:17.679 on my side, I have been wanting shifts in the podcast. 0:02:17.880 --> 0:02:21.760 We have been trialing a lot of things and intuitively 0:02:22.040 --> 0:02:25.880 just feeling like something needs to shift and change. And 0:02:25.919 --> 0:02:28.760 a Tear has also felt the exact same way, and 0:02:28.800 --> 0:02:31.880 we have been doing that, and it's just come to 0:02:31.919 --> 0:02:37.320 a point where we both intuitively have decided that this 0:02:37.440 --> 0:02:40.880 is the end for beautiful tete at Rise and concert, 0:02:41.080 --> 0:02:41.400 for this. 0:02:41.480 --> 0:02:43.600 Moment, for the moment, we never know what I happen. 0:02:43.720 --> 0:02:47.640 We honestly never know because we love each other so 0:02:47.760 --> 0:02:51.000 much and we've had so much fun together and. 0:02:51.080 --> 0:02:53.639 I literally don't even it doesn't still doesn't feel real. 0:02:53.960 --> 0:02:57.079 I know, like I'll come back, I'll be here next week. 0:02:57.080 --> 0:03:01.440 I'll be like, oh, there's the tiersha goal. 0:03:02.240 --> 0:03:06.600 I Yeah, I think it's so funny because neither of 0:03:06.680 --> 0:03:11.200 us know why or how or what's happening, but we 0:03:11.280 --> 0:03:14.240 know it's the right thing. And I was even talking 0:03:14.280 --> 0:03:16.120 to G before, and I'm like, I don't think we 0:03:16.200 --> 0:03:18.720 even need to say more than that, Like it's it 0:03:18.720 --> 0:03:22.440 feels intally intuitively right for me, it feels intuitively right 0:03:22.480 --> 0:03:25.800 for G. And that is something we preach on the 0:03:25.800 --> 0:03:28.640 podcast in that even when it doesn't make sense, you 0:03:28.919 --> 0:03:29.400 have to. 0:03:29.360 --> 0:03:30.320 Follow your intuition. 0:03:30.840 --> 0:03:36.400 Yes, And so despice it feeling so shit, we're both 0:03:36.440 --> 0:03:39.160 doing it and maybe I'll come back in a couple 0:03:39.200 --> 0:03:40.640 of months and I'll be able to tell you guys 0:03:40.640 --> 0:03:42.520 a wild story and it'll all make sense. 0:03:43.280 --> 0:03:45.520 Absolutely. Yeah, it doesn't make sense right now. 0:03:45.680 --> 0:03:49.440 So if you're confused, shaw them to the clubs. 0:03:50.120 --> 0:03:53.640 No again. And like a Tea said, like we preach 0:03:53.720 --> 0:03:54.160 this word. 0:03:54.360 --> 0:03:58.080 We preach following your intuition making decisions where it's like 0:03:58.120 --> 0:04:02.120 it doesn't logically make sense, but like intuitively you just know. 0:04:02.200 --> 0:04:03.320 It's the right decision. 0:04:03.960 --> 0:04:06.920 And you know what's crazy too, is like we talk, 0:04:07.080 --> 0:04:09.840 we have so many stories from our community like this 0:04:10.360 --> 0:04:13.720 where they have so much courage, and they're just like, no, 0:04:14.080 --> 0:04:15.800 I know this largely it doesn't make sense, but I 0:04:15.840 --> 0:04:17.479 need to make this decision. 0:04:17.680 --> 0:04:21.280 And so I'm really quite proud of us. 0:04:21.200 --> 0:04:24.680 In this because to run a you know, business this 0:04:24.720 --> 0:04:28.880 way and you know, to be like that is it's hard. 0:04:29.080 --> 0:04:33.279 It's so hard. I hate being courated. So I'm sure 0:04:33.320 --> 0:04:34.680 you feel the exact same way. 0:04:34.720 --> 0:04:39.440 Like it feels like, yeah, very interesting, but also we're 0:04:39.480 --> 0:04:40.159 just trusting. 0:04:40.520 --> 0:04:43.880 We are trusting, trusting. No one knows what's next, but 0:04:44.400 --> 0:04:45.400 it's but it's. 0:04:45.240 --> 0:04:46.480 Definitely an end of an error. 0:04:46.640 --> 0:04:47.040 It is. 0:04:47.279 --> 0:04:50.360 It's an end of an error. And obviously the podcast 0:04:50.560 --> 0:04:53.440 is going to continue. You just won't have t t 0:04:53.600 --> 0:04:59.440 and her beautiful insights and recommendations. Look our Texa and 0:04:59.480 --> 0:05:01.080 she'll send recommendations. 0:05:01.120 --> 0:05:04.600 I'm sure I will because they're always so good. 0:05:04.880 --> 0:05:07.440 Yeah, but yeah, basically, just we wanted to do this 0:05:07.520 --> 0:05:10.320 episode telling you because I know how much you guys 0:05:10.360 --> 0:05:13.120 love a Tia and how sad you'll be also, and 0:05:13.200 --> 0:05:14.000 I'm so sad. 0:05:14.400 --> 0:05:17.599 I'm so sad, and I love our community so much, 0:05:17.839 --> 0:05:22.920 so I'm devastated because you are all so inspiring and 0:05:23.040 --> 0:05:25.760 every time I meet anyone that listens to the podcast, 0:05:25.839 --> 0:05:28.680 I'm like, oh my god, you're just so cool, and 0:05:28.760 --> 0:05:32.359 like it's so amazing, so cool, so cool and so 0:05:32.560 --> 0:05:35.800 talented and so incredible, and like, I'm obviously going to 0:05:35.920 --> 0:05:39.400 keep listening to the pod and follow socials and everything. 0:05:39.920 --> 0:05:44.080 I adore you all so much, so I definitely probably 0:05:44.080 --> 0:05:44.919 won't be going at it. 0:05:45.080 --> 0:05:48.479 I'll still be showing up to like events. 0:05:47.160 --> 0:05:49.000 So absolutely popping up. 0:05:49.040 --> 0:05:53.080 But yeah, I just wanted to share also, fifteen lessons 0:05:53.120 --> 0:05:55.800 I've learned this year, because I know we've spoken about 0:05:55.839 --> 0:05:59.159 it briefly on the podcast before, but I'm currently in 0:05:59.200 --> 0:06:01.800 a nine year. Well, I've just finished a nine year. 0:06:01.800 --> 0:06:04.200 I'm now in a one year, but a nine year 0:06:04.360 --> 0:06:07.279 in numerology, when you go through that as your personal 0:06:07.360 --> 0:06:10.520 year is when lots of things have to fall apart 0:06:10.560 --> 0:06:14.840 for other things to come in. And when I reflected 0:06:14.880 --> 0:06:17.360 from birthday to birthday, I've just. 0:06:17.360 --> 0:06:20.120 Had wild It's been a wild year. 0:06:20.520 --> 0:06:24.440 It's been so transformative in like every aspect of my life. 0:06:24.440 --> 0:06:27.760 I think the only thing that didn't get completely upheaved 0:06:28.279 --> 0:06:32.559 until now was work. So I've been through the ringer 0:06:34.480 --> 0:06:36.240 and I'm excited for what's to come. 0:06:36.600 --> 0:06:39.560 I feel like everyone this year has had so much 0:06:39.680 --> 0:06:42.960 change though, so much change, it's actually wild. Like we 0:06:42.960 --> 0:06:47.039 were even just saying, like off air because my content creator, 0:06:47.160 --> 0:06:50.360 my PA has resigned. Yeah, and so we're about to 0:06:50.360 --> 0:06:53.440 get this new team member and like she's leaving and 0:06:53.480 --> 0:06:55.640 you're leaving, and I'm like, oh my god, so much 0:06:55.720 --> 0:06:56.440 is changing and. 0:06:56.400 --> 0:06:58.320 It feels so crazy. 0:06:58.960 --> 0:07:02.920 But also again being in that like the universe doesn't 0:07:02.960 --> 0:07:05.400 get it wrong. This is obviously meant to be. I'm 0:07:05.480 --> 0:07:08.440 trusting it. I'm not like putting my feet down stomping 0:07:08.440 --> 0:07:10.960 my feet. I'm going with the flow and I'm trusting it. 0:07:11.000 --> 0:07:14.120 And like these are the moments where we get to 0:07:14.200 --> 0:07:17.120 practice what we preach on this podcast. 0:07:17.240 --> 0:07:18.600 Yeah, so it's been interesting. 0:07:18.720 --> 0:07:19.920 It's been very interesting. 0:07:20.000 --> 0:07:22.320 So Titty, I would love for you to share the 0:07:22.360 --> 0:07:23.239 fifteen lessons. 0:07:23.320 --> 0:07:26.920 Yes, there might be sixteen. I'm SKay bonus lesson. The 0:07:26.960 --> 0:07:30.320 first one is actually one that I've really seen a 0:07:30.360 --> 0:07:33.520 shift over the past couple of years. But it's you 0:07:33.640 --> 0:07:36.280 really do become like the five people you spend most 0:07:36.320 --> 0:07:40.160 of your time with, so choose wisely, and this is 0:07:40.200 --> 0:07:43.080 something that you have complete control over, even if you 0:07:43.160 --> 0:07:46.920 feel like you don't. So put yourself in places and 0:07:46.960 --> 0:07:49.920 be careful of the places you put yourself in as 0:07:49.920 --> 0:07:52.840 to what you might absorb subconsciously, and if you don't 0:07:52.920 --> 0:07:55.800 like something, change it. I've even had a year where 0:07:55.840 --> 0:07:57.840 I've made a lot of a lot of new friends, 0:07:57.920 --> 0:08:00.320 I've lost some friends, and it's like, all he's been 0:08:00.360 --> 0:08:02.920 a very conscious decision, and I've almost been a bit 0:08:02.960 --> 0:08:05.440 cutthroat of like, oh I don't want that, I'm leaving it. 0:08:06.000 --> 0:08:08.480 And something that's helped me is being in a nine year. 0:08:08.680 --> 0:08:11.600 Every time I've evaluated something, I've said, do I want 0:08:11.640 --> 0:08:14.520 to commit to this for my next cycle which is 0:08:14.720 --> 0:08:19.000 ten years? And that's so that's so powerful. It's so powerful, 0:08:19.000 --> 0:08:21.000 and it helps you be a bit more cutthroat and 0:08:21.080 --> 0:08:24.360 okay with like making those cuts. And I think I 0:08:24.400 --> 0:08:26.960 am now going to carry that energy in every year 0:08:27.360 --> 0:08:30.160 because truly, every decision you make is do I want 0:08:30.200 --> 0:08:32.880 to hold onto this for a cycle or I'm not 0:08:33.000 --> 0:08:36.520 tolerating this. So be careful who you surround yourself with. 0:08:36.760 --> 0:08:39.840 And another example I have of this was from when 0:08:39.880 --> 0:08:43.560 I first started working here to now, my outlook on 0:08:43.679 --> 0:08:47.400 investing into my health and fitness has completely shifted. Like 0:08:47.559 --> 0:08:50.439 I am someone who else felled sick paying fifteen dollars 0:08:50.679 --> 0:08:54.160 a week for Jim, and now I think I'm probably 0:08:54.280 --> 0:09:00.319 paying like collectively, like ninety and it's such a big difference. 0:09:00.880 --> 0:09:03.280 But I feel so good about it because I've been 0:09:03.320 --> 0:09:06.560 surrounded by people who prioritize and invest in their health 0:09:06.559 --> 0:09:09.760 and fitness, and like, I've realized your health is your wealth, 0:09:09.880 --> 0:09:12.000 and like, that's been such a shift for me. So 0:09:12.320 --> 0:09:14.360 that is something that I've seen, such a clear cut 0:09:14.480 --> 0:09:18.760 version of how who you surround yourself with matters. 0:09:19.200 --> 0:09:20.280 I love that so much. 0:09:20.440 --> 0:09:23.160 The next one is a beautiful quote that I came across. 0:09:23.240 --> 0:09:26.120 It stuck with me. Is nothing that is meant for 0:09:26.160 --> 0:09:29.080 you will ever get away. Love deeply and without the 0:09:29.160 --> 0:09:32.920 need to possess or own, Let beautiful connections pass through you, 0:09:32.960 --> 0:09:37.040 without attachment. Slam your heart into the people and places 0:09:37.080 --> 0:09:39.520 and the things that ignite your soul. And I promise 0:09:39.559 --> 0:09:42.040 the right things will stay. You will never lose what 0:09:42.160 --> 0:09:42.640 is for you. 0:09:43.400 --> 0:09:45.160 Oh wow, that's beautiful. 0:09:45.240 --> 0:09:47.160 It's very beautiful. True it is. 0:09:47.440 --> 0:09:50.800 And I this is something that I'm still working on 0:09:50.920 --> 0:09:54.360 because I struggle to sometimes open my heart and be 0:09:54.520 --> 0:09:57.760 super vulnerable and I can be guarded as a form 0:09:57.760 --> 0:10:01.120 of protection, but I I think that there's so much 0:10:01.240 --> 0:10:04.640 beauty in allowing yourself to feel so deeply and let 0:10:04.720 --> 0:10:06.719 yourself get hurt, and like, yeah, you will, and it 0:10:06.760 --> 0:10:09.720 will happen over and over again, but you'll bounce back. 0:10:09.760 --> 0:10:11.520 And if you get to feel the shit, you also 0:10:11.600 --> 0:10:14.280 get to feel the really, really good things and that's 0:10:14.280 --> 0:10:15.720 so much more worth it. 0:10:16.080 --> 0:10:19.200 Yeah, Like without the depth of the pain, you don't 0:10:19.200 --> 0:10:21.040 know the depth of the happiness exactly. 0:10:21.720 --> 0:10:26.000 And so that's something that I'm really leaning into and 0:10:26.080 --> 0:10:29.320 have started and I'm working on feeling deeper, which is 0:10:29.679 --> 0:10:33.880 an interesting journey. The next one is sometimes all you 0:10:33.960 --> 0:10:36.280 have to do is take a moment and look at 0:10:36.320 --> 0:10:38.920 your lives from the eyes of sixteen year old you. 0:10:39.920 --> 0:10:40.960 How would she feel? 0:10:41.840 --> 0:10:42.440 So true? 0:10:42.679 --> 0:10:45.280 And sixteen year old me would think I'm the best 0:10:45.280 --> 0:10:49.000 person ever, so she'd be like, you're so cool. Yeah, 0:10:49.000 --> 0:10:52.079 I love that. So I think sometimes just taking that 0:10:52.120 --> 0:10:54.600 step back to connect with your inner child and go. 0:10:55.120 --> 0:10:58.680 Are you confused or like, are you hurt? Are you angry? 0:10:58.760 --> 0:11:02.760 And honoring that little human that's still inside you, because 0:11:03.200 --> 0:11:05.839 if you don't listen to them, it's just going to 0:11:05.880 --> 0:11:09.240 be so much worse and you'll feel so disconnected from yourself, 0:11:09.720 --> 0:11:12.080 and like connecting and talking to your and a child 0:11:12.320 --> 0:11:15.800 is something that's so powerful and healing and actually helps 0:11:15.800 --> 0:11:18.199 you figure out how you feel about things more than 0:11:18.360 --> 0:11:19.480 adult you know. 0:11:19.679 --> 0:11:20.239 Sometimes. 0:11:20.600 --> 0:11:22.199 Yeah, yeah, that's beautiful. 0:11:22.280 --> 0:11:25.400 The next one is when people show you who they are. 0:11:25.800 --> 0:11:26.160 Listen. 0:11:27.160 --> 0:11:31.880 This one's a really powerful one, but it's actions speak 0:11:31.960 --> 0:11:35.480 louder than words. So listen when people talk, but remember 0:11:35.559 --> 0:11:38.240 what they do and how they make you feel. So 0:11:38.360 --> 0:11:40.800 for me, this is something that goes both ways, because 0:11:41.880 --> 0:11:44.320 some people will rise up to the plate and like 0:11:44.440 --> 0:11:46.720 shock you and you'll be like, oh my god, I 0:11:46.760 --> 0:11:50.400 didn't think you had that in you, and they'll surprise you, 0:11:50.440 --> 0:11:53.160 and like let them, give them the space and believe 0:11:53.200 --> 0:11:56.360 it when they do that, and allow that connection to 0:11:56.400 --> 0:11:59.640 be something you invest into and bloom. But in the 0:11:59.679 --> 0:12:03.360 same way, if someone's not quite meeting your standards, don't 0:12:03.400 --> 0:12:05.520 be scared to just sort of let it fizzle. 0:12:05.960 --> 0:12:10.240 Yeah, yeah, I love that. Yeah, Like, actions speak louder 0:12:10.280 --> 0:12:10.720 than words. 0:12:10.840 --> 0:12:11.160 Yeah. 0:12:11.240 --> 0:12:14.439 The next one is you will never truly be comfortable 0:12:14.520 --> 0:12:17.160 somewhere that is not meant for you, and your happiness 0:12:17.280 --> 0:12:20.360 doesn't actually have to make sense to other people. And 0:12:20.440 --> 0:12:23.160 I think this is something that I've like I would 0:12:23.160 --> 0:12:25.559 get stuck in the comparison trap earlier on in the year, 0:12:25.679 --> 0:12:27.640 and as soon as you get to know someone's situation, 0:12:27.720 --> 0:12:29.200 you're like, oh, you're not even happy, so why are 0:12:29.240 --> 0:12:29.640 you doing that? 0:12:30.120 --> 0:12:33.040 Oh I know that's even just like you know, what 0:12:33.080 --> 0:12:35.439 I love right now is like on this is going 0:12:35.440 --> 0:12:38.480 on a rent but like on TikTok, girls are showing 0:12:38.720 --> 0:12:43.200 beautiful videos of them and their partner, but then like 0:12:43.280 --> 0:12:46.360 writing like he doesn't know this yet, but he strangles me. 0:12:46.920 --> 0:12:50.000 Or like yeah, really beautiful moments. 0:12:49.559 --> 0:12:52.320 That are like aesthetic, but then they're telling the real 0:12:52.440 --> 0:12:56.200 truth and I'm like, oh my god. Well because again 0:12:56.360 --> 0:12:59.480 just reminding us as like what people portray even what 0:12:59.559 --> 0:13:01.880 you see, like friends talk about anything. It's like there's 0:13:01.960 --> 0:13:03.640 just so much more behind closed. 0:13:03.320 --> 0:13:05.920 Doors, so much more behind closed doors. And I think 0:13:06.120 --> 0:13:08.480 for me, that's a lesson I've been learning is like 0:13:08.559 --> 0:13:12.640 things can look amazing on the outside, but you actually 0:13:12.960 --> 0:13:15.840 never know what's happening, and if something's not feeling right, 0:13:16.160 --> 0:13:18.440 it's okay to change it no matter what other people 0:13:18.480 --> 0:13:20.520 will think. Like it could be a friendship, it could 0:13:20.559 --> 0:13:23.920 be a relationship, it could be what like where you live, 0:13:24.400 --> 0:13:26.520 like you might just pack up and go overseas if 0:13:26.559 --> 0:13:29.400 you feel like it, And you can make these shifts 0:13:29.400 --> 0:13:31.880 and changes and follow your intuition, and it doesn't have 0:13:31.960 --> 0:13:34.360 to make sense, because there's no point living. 0:13:34.080 --> 0:13:37.559 A life to look happy to other people. You need 0:13:37.640 --> 0:13:38.400 to feel happy. 0:13:39.440 --> 0:13:42.320 The next one is never let someone else dim your light. 0:13:42.600 --> 0:13:43.160 Shine bright. 0:13:43.360 --> 0:13:44.000 She's a goodie. 0:13:44.200 --> 0:13:44.439 Love that. 0:13:44.679 --> 0:13:47.040 And this one for me is like, I'm someone that 0:13:47.080 --> 0:13:49.520 gets told I'm too much. I'm someone that gets told 0:13:49.640 --> 0:13:51.320 that I need to tone it down and not be 0:13:51.360 --> 0:13:54.480 as intense and not be as forward and fiery, and 0:13:54.880 --> 0:13:58.680 I have learnt this year. It's like, you actually don't 0:13:58.720 --> 0:14:00.959 have to listen to that. And I'm not going to 0:14:01.080 --> 0:14:05.840 live my life in other people's perceptions and projections because 0:14:05.880 --> 0:14:07.840 they're too scared to embrace their full self. 0:14:08.160 --> 0:14:08.480 Love that. 0:14:08.679 --> 0:14:11.280 The next one is another quote that I love. So 0:14:11.559 --> 0:14:14.600 ships don't sink because of the water around them. Ships 0:14:14.640 --> 0:14:17.520 sink because of the water that gets in them. Don't 0:14:17.559 --> 0:14:20.360 let what's happening around you get inside you and weigh 0:14:20.360 --> 0:14:20.760 you down. 0:14:21.080 --> 0:14:22.760 Ah, that's a powerful one. 0:14:22.840 --> 0:14:23.800 She's a goodie. 0:14:23.920 --> 0:14:27.480 And I think this one's so powerful because especially with 0:14:27.640 --> 0:14:30.800 like things happening around the world and in society, Like, 0:14:30.880 --> 0:14:34.920 you actually have no control over what's happening around you 0:14:35.440 --> 0:14:37.880 at the end of the day, but you do have 0:14:37.960 --> 0:14:41.200 control over what you let in. So learn to protect 0:14:41.320 --> 0:14:45.320 your energy, be careful what you let in, and let 0:14:45.360 --> 0:14:47.720 the good stuff in and feel the good stuff. But 0:14:47.880 --> 0:14:49.800 if there's something that you're like, oh, I actually don't 0:14:49.800 --> 0:14:51.480 want to have anything to do with that, and I'm 0:14:51.560 --> 0:14:53.920 going to choose to be a bit maybe a bit ignorant, 0:14:54.160 --> 0:14:56.480 choose that because that's what's right for you, and that's 0:14:56.520 --> 0:14:57.360 what feels good for you. 0:14:57.480 --> 0:14:59.040 I know I was sinking the other day. 0:14:59.240 --> 0:15:02.040 Is like most like ignorance is bliss, like it is 0:15:02.080 --> 0:15:05.360 if you don't know, you would have never like thought 0:15:05.480 --> 0:15:07.720 or compared or all that sort of thing. So like, 0:15:07.760 --> 0:15:10.160 stop putting yourself in places where you have to find 0:15:10.200 --> 0:15:11.160 out exactly. 0:15:11.360 --> 0:15:14.800 The next one is take a lined action, but know 0:15:14.880 --> 0:15:17.720 when it's time to release control and leave things in 0:15:17.760 --> 0:15:20.680 the hands of the universe. Life is a lot easier 0:15:20.680 --> 0:15:24.560 that way. So this one is like, you can actually 0:15:24.560 --> 0:15:26.120 only do so much at the end of the day. 0:15:26.280 --> 0:15:29.280 There's sometimes going to be experiences and things that happen 0:15:29.400 --> 0:15:31.880 that you have no control over, Like you could get 0:15:31.920 --> 0:15:34.400 blindsided by a breakup, or you could lose a friendship 0:15:34.440 --> 0:15:36.320 that you thought was really good, or like a family 0:15:36.320 --> 0:15:39.240 member could get sick, and like, you can only do. 0:15:39.120 --> 0:15:40.520 So much in those situations. 0:15:40.560 --> 0:15:44.720 So take whatever action you need that's within your that's 0:15:44.840 --> 0:15:48.440 actually within your control, and that gives you the closure 0:15:48.680 --> 0:15:53.000 or helps you regulate your emotions. But don't stress about 0:15:53.040 --> 0:15:57.080 things you can't control. An exercise that helped me in 0:15:57.120 --> 0:16:00.520 some situations where I had no control was like circle 0:16:00.560 --> 0:16:03.680 of control exercise. So I literally do a circle and 0:16:03.840 --> 0:16:07.200 inside the circle I wrote everything I actually have control over. 0:16:07.280 --> 0:16:11.080 So like my emotions, where I get my information from 0:16:11.200 --> 0:16:14.360 how much research I do towards a situation. Those are 0:16:14.360 --> 0:16:16.880 things I have control over. What do I not have 0:16:16.960 --> 0:16:22.040 control over? Other people maybe certain situations, And like looking 0:16:22.080 --> 0:16:24.600 at things like that helps you put into spective how 0:16:24.680 --> 0:16:27.000 little control you have, and it is so much easier 0:16:27.000 --> 0:16:29.920 to release what you don't have control over the next 0:16:30.000 --> 0:16:33.400 one is just because you carry it well doesn't mean 0:16:33.480 --> 0:16:36.480 it's not heavy. People won't always understand this or know 0:16:36.520 --> 0:16:38.720 what to do, but that doesn't make you any less 0:16:38.720 --> 0:16:41.960 worthy or able to ask for help, love and compassion. 0:16:42.640 --> 0:16:44.800 I think for me this came from like a bit 0:16:44.840 --> 0:16:47.680 of people pleasing, but I would sometimes struggle to ask 0:16:47.720 --> 0:16:51.520 for help when I was really like unhappy or upset 0:16:51.800 --> 0:16:54.400 or just needed like a cuddle from my best friend. 0:16:55.000 --> 0:16:59.880 And just because you're going through something hard and you're 0:17:00.120 --> 0:17:03.480 managing doesn't mean that you can't have an off day 0:17:03.800 --> 0:17:06.080 or ask someone to be your shoulder to cry on. 0:17:06.200 --> 0:17:09.560 Because people are there for you, so let them be 0:17:09.680 --> 0:17:10.199 there for you. 0:17:10.600 --> 0:17:12.879 Ye're like, you don't have to carry it all. 0:17:12.920 --> 0:17:14.040 Yeah, even if you can. 0:17:14.560 --> 0:17:14.800 Yes. 0:17:15.080 --> 0:17:17.840 The next one is you don't owe anything to anyone. 0:17:18.040 --> 0:17:20.159 People are going to say and do things that you 0:17:20.200 --> 0:17:22.560 don't agree with. Don't waste your time and energy on 0:17:22.600 --> 0:17:25.600 it because you can't learn people's lessons for them. And 0:17:25.640 --> 0:17:27.520 this is when we all had a group discussion about 0:17:27.600 --> 0:17:29.879 because Georgina said she has a bit of a justice 0:17:29.880 --> 0:17:31.679 wound and that eliminated to me. 0:17:31.840 --> 0:17:32.480 I do too. 0:17:33.160 --> 0:17:35.960 And it's like, when someone's doing something wrong, you almost 0:17:36.040 --> 0:17:38.320 need to show them and prove to them that what 0:17:38.359 --> 0:17:40.439 they're doing is wrong and make them see it. But 0:17:40.880 --> 0:17:42.880 at the end of the day, life's so much more 0:17:42.920 --> 0:17:44.520 peaceful for you if you don't. 0:17:44.920 --> 0:17:47.679 Yeah, because it's actually not on you to teach someone. 0:17:47.880 --> 0:17:48.040 Yeah. 0:17:48.160 --> 0:17:50.199 Men, Me and Coople are talking about that, like with 0:17:50.359 --> 0:17:53.760 family and self development. Yeah, and almost like Cooper's like, oh, 0:17:53.840 --> 0:17:56.520 but I want to help them, I might stop trying 0:17:56.520 --> 0:17:59.440 to save them because he just ends up feeling shitty 0:17:59.440 --> 0:18:01.720 aer because they don't take it, or like all that 0:18:01.760 --> 0:18:04.160 sort of thing. And it's like, just focus on you 0:18:04.440 --> 0:18:06.760 and allow the overflow, and that's all you need to 0:18:06.800 --> 0:18:07.840 focus on exactly. 0:18:07.960 --> 0:18:08.680 Such a big one. 0:18:08.880 --> 0:18:12.480 The next one is one that I've really really learned 0:18:12.520 --> 0:18:16.359 this year is you're so much more resilient and capable 0:18:16.440 --> 0:18:18.840 than you can imagine. Even when you feel like there's 0:18:18.840 --> 0:18:23.679 nothing left, I guarantee you you've got more. And what 0:18:23.840 --> 0:18:26.600 really solidified this for me was like I think it 0:18:26.640 --> 0:18:29.760 was like July or something I'd said to my best friend, 0:18:30.000 --> 0:18:32.320 I've just got nothing left. I was like, I was 0:18:32.320 --> 0:18:35.040 a wet towel and I've been wrong out and there's 0:18:35.200 --> 0:18:38.800 nothing left. I'm like, if anything else happened, I just 0:18:38.840 --> 0:18:45.280 don't know what I'm gonna do. And like me yesterday 0:18:46.600 --> 0:18:49.000 since then, honestly like four or five other things that 0:18:49.160 --> 0:18:52.199 happened and everyone's like, what is going on? I'm like, 0:18:52.240 --> 0:18:54.840 it's a nine year it's fine, it's fine, And like 0:18:55.000 --> 0:18:58.280 I still am still here. I'm still here. I'm still standing, 0:18:58.440 --> 0:19:02.600 I've still got a smile on my face, and I'm fine. 0:19:03.160 --> 0:19:06.080 So I was joking to a tea before we came 0:19:06.200 --> 0:19:09.280 on air, and because I was saying, yesterday my period 0:19:09.320 --> 0:19:11.359 was twenty days late and I was just feeling it, 0:19:11.400 --> 0:19:13.040 and I like said to Cooper, I'm like, I'm out, 0:19:13.440 --> 0:19:16.480 I'm over this, I'm done. And then like got my 0:19:16.520 --> 0:19:20.359 period this morning and I'm like, I feel good, not 0:19:20.400 --> 0:19:21.160 retiring anymore. 0:19:21.160 --> 0:19:24.080 But yesterday I was like, I'm retiring on it. Yeah. 0:19:24.320 --> 0:19:27.679 So if you feel like you've got nothing left, you 0:19:27.760 --> 0:19:29.600 do you do, you do, You'll find it. 0:19:29.840 --> 0:19:32.520 Have an app, have a cuddle, have some chocolate. 0:19:32.400 --> 0:19:33.880 And come back stronger the next day. 0:19:34.040 --> 0:19:34.760 Yeah. 0:19:34.880 --> 0:19:37.800 The next one is the present is the only thing 0:19:37.840 --> 0:19:40.159 we truly have. If you don't start living in it, 0:19:40.200 --> 0:19:43.440 you don't really live at all. Focus on the step 0:19:43.480 --> 0:19:46.440 in front of you, not the whole staircase. Take things 0:19:46.520 --> 0:19:48.800 day by day, and you'll be shocked at how far 0:19:48.960 --> 0:19:51.800