Speaker 1: Come on in.
Speaker 2: Hello everyone, Happy Thursday.
Speaker 3: Hello everybody.
Speaker 4: I just read the cutest article and this is such
Speaker 4: a feel good for your little Thursday afternoon.
Speaker 3: Did you know this?
Speaker 4: So people who receive frequent hugs get sick less often
Speaker 4: and they recover more easily than those who do not
Speaker 4: get hugged.
Speaker 3: Brah We can all hug each other. And my partner
Speaker 3: lives on the other side of the world.
Speaker 4: You don't just have to hug your boyfriend. You could
Speaker 4: hug anyone. Hug your dog, hug your kids.
Speaker 2: Hugy GP when you're going to get checked, hug anyone?
Speaker 3: Are you allowed to hug your GP?
Speaker 2: I've hugged my GP.
Speaker 3: What do you How did they respond?
Speaker 5: He was a prostate check. I can't remember, but he
Speaker 5: definitely touched me consentually.
Speaker 2: I don't quite remember.
Speaker 4: Someone touching her insides is not quite agree.
Speaker 5: Okay, want to quickly test it. You hug Britt Laura
Speaker 5: and just see if it instantly gives you.
Speaker 3: I'm a hugger, though I love a hut.
Speaker 2: We all are we hugged today on microphone?
Speaker 4: Sure some people out there who aren't huggers, and I
Speaker 4: think they don't know what they're missing.
Speaker 2: Out on Yeah, people hate the physical touch.
Speaker 3: No, I'm a real hugger.
Speaker 2: There we go. We'll go out and hug someone today
Speaker 2: as per the pickup.
Speaker 4: That's your orders everyone, Yeah, go hug someone and it's
Speaker 4: good for your help.
Speaker 5: You'll feel better. Hey, listen, changing things up for a
Speaker 5: bit as we start the show, we're starting on a
Speaker 5: more somber note. As you would have heard by now,
Speaker 5: the devastating news came through this morning that our former
Speaker 5: one direction Styly and Pain has passed away today at
Speaker 5: age thirty one. So this on behalf of the pickup
Speaker 5: is our tribute to him.
Speaker 4: Ask Uncut, So Ask Uncut is something we do every Thursday.
Speaker 4: We also do it on Life on Cut on our podcast,
Speaker 4: and it's where you guys call up. We can deep,
Speaker 4: darker burning questions and we do our best to answer them.
Speaker 4: And look, today's one might be a little bit controversial.
Speaker 5: Yes, this is going to be a hit, a nerve
Speaker 5: for those who love to celebrate the holidays. Kathy joins
Speaker 5: us live today. Hi Kathy, what's going on in your life?
Speaker 6: Hi? Look, I've got this really big problem. So if
Speaker 6: I had my way, I've had my Christmas decorations up tomorrow,
Speaker 6: but my husband doesn't want them up until Christmas Eve.
Speaker 6: And I'm just not too sure how to fix this dilemma,
Speaker 6: and more importantly, how I can win Christmas.
Speaker 2: Eve Christmas dilemma.
Speaker 6: Honey, I know it's not right.
Speaker 3: This is way too soon.
Speaker 1: I'm on your husband's side in that sense, but also
Speaker 1: Christmas Eve is way too late.
Speaker 3: That's like neither of these work for me. I disagree.
Speaker 3: I think go for it.
Speaker 4: It's not even Halloween more, I know, but you know what,
Speaker 4: it's Halloween very soon, and you know that it's the second,
Speaker 4: the second that Halloween is ended, all of like your
Speaker 4: David Jones, your coals, you came up, everyone's gonna have
Speaker 4: the Christmas decorations ready to go.
Speaker 2: They already are. It's happening, little Marshmallow Santas.
Speaker 3: That's happening for consumerism. They want it, they want your money.
Speaker 1: I don't think you should be putting Christmas decorations up
Speaker 1: till maybe, like I don't know.
Speaker 3: Four weeks before, five weeks before.
Speaker 5: First of December is when my family has traditionally done it,
Speaker 5: and we always take it down on New Year's Day.
Speaker 2: It's a tradition. It's a month.
Speaker 4: Yeah, but who says Kathy? I'm with you. You live your
Speaker 4: Christmas life. If you are that jolly and that joyful
Speaker 4: and you want to get some decorations up, go for it.
Speaker 7: What is he? What is he?
Speaker 3: What do you put up?
Speaker 7: Like?
Speaker 3: How how hard do you go?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 6: Inside outside? I just really go for it. And I've
Speaker 6: got a special Christmas T shirt I'd really like to
Speaker 6: bring out now, but maybe.
Speaker 2: I think that's too money.
Speaker 3: Now they've got Christmas jump as it came out, now ya.
Speaker 2: They're highly flammable those things.
Speaker 3: That's all right, Well, I mean stay away from it.
Speaker 2: I'm going to be a bit of a psychic. Y.
Speaker 5: I'm predicting you're one of those people that instead of
Speaker 5: taking the Christmas tree down, you just cover it in
Speaker 5: a white sheet and leave it up all year round.
Speaker 3: The whole next year.
Speaker 6: I've got cats and dogs. They bring it down for me.
Speaker 2: Okay, because that's insane behavior when people do that.
Speaker 3: Okay, I think find the happy medium.
Speaker 1: You've got to keep your husband happy as well, So
Speaker 1: let's just find a happy medium.
Speaker 2: Wait, how long you've you been together? Is just a
Speaker 2: new marriage.
Speaker 6: We've been together twenty years?
Speaker 2: So do you have this fight every business.
Speaker 6: No, I win most years.
Speaker 4: It is the date getting progressively earlier, Like every year
Speaker 4: you kind of creepy forward and for it's gonna be March,
Speaker 4: and you're like, time to put him back up.
Speaker 2: Baby.
Speaker 6: I think that's the problem.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Okay, she's too early. Happy medium be first of
Speaker 2: December for the end.
Speaker 3: Of November, so it's a month before. I think middle
Speaker 3: of November.
Speaker 1: Guys, it's okay, he said, Now you've been vetoed.
Speaker 3: It's too early.
Speaker 2: Do you make him do it? Is that the problem? Kathy? Like?
Speaker 2: Do you force him to get up the step ladder
Speaker 2: and nail in the festjournal? Then maybe hire a hobby
Speaker 2: or something?
Speaker 4: Yeah, I reckon you can. What is it when you
Speaker 4: pay a fiver or something? What's the air tasker? Air
Speaker 4: tasking that just.
Speaker 3: Get it done?
Speaker 2: Hey, do you mind coming to my house wearing the shirt?
Speaker 2: Is compulsory?
Speaker 5: I don't think that's gonna work, Kathy.
Speaker 6: I think that's going down another road. But I'm still
Speaker 6: feeling like I'm hearing the earliest good.
Speaker 4: No, that's what she's You lean into what you want
Speaker 4: to do, and I'm I think it's joyful and go
Speaker 4: for it.
Speaker 1: Problems Merry Christmas, Cathy.
Speaker 2: It's basically Christmas.
Speaker 3: Pretty much is down. It's the downhill run now of
Speaker 3: the year.
Speaker 4: It already feels like I've heard Mariah carry a couple
Speaker 4: of times. People have started talking about her again, and
Speaker 4: that means it's coming.
Speaker 2: She's defrosting.
Speaker 5: If you've got a Christmas related question now until the
Speaker 5: end of the year, we're only doing Christmas related to
Speaker 5: ask gun.
Speaker 3: Cuts, Welcome back to Christmas, especially the figure.
Speaker 5: That's not true. But you can dms at the pickup.
Speaker 5: We'll get you on the show that held Kathy Fie Kathy.
Speaker 3: Hey, I'm going to flip the vibe here a little bit. Guys.
Speaker 3: I'm so excited.
Speaker 1: After the break, we're going to be speaking to someone
Speaker 1: that I think has probably one of the most interesting
Speaker 1: and unusual jobs in Australia. I didn't even know this existed.
Speaker 1: He's the coffin whisperer. His job is to go to
Speaker 1: people's deathbeds, get their last confessions or their instructions for
Speaker 1: their funeral, and then carry them out after they've passed away.
Speaker 7: Wow.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I can't wait.
Speaker 2: I'm a sick o honor joining his necks on the
Speaker 2: pickup I'm a bit.
Speaker 1: Of a sicko Mitch and Laura. That's not a surprise
Speaker 1: to anyone, But I cannot tell you how excited I
Speaker 1: am for this chat that we're about to have. We're
Speaker 1: about to speak to Bill Edgar, who I think has
Speaker 1: one of the most interesting, creepy, intriguing, disturbing jobs in Australia.
Speaker 1: So he's a businessman, he's a counselor, he's an author,
Speaker 1: he's a private detective sure, but the best part is
Speaker 1: he's a coffin confessor. This is what he calls himself.
Speaker 1: Bill's job is to go to people's deathbeds. So people
Speaker 1: as they know they don't have much time left, or
Speaker 1: maybe they do whatever it is they He goes to
Speaker 1: their deathbed and he gets their dying wish and their
Speaker 1: dying confession. So maybe it's something that this dying person
Speaker 1: wants to happen at their own funeral. Maybe it's just
Speaker 1: something they want to confess. And Bill has to go
Speaker 1: and stand up at the funeral or the grave site
Speaker 1: and like and say the confession, Hey, I know Johnny's
Speaker 1: passed away, he's employed me to blah blah blah blah.
Speaker 1: And then they get all these secrets out. It's actually insane.
Speaker 1: I find it so fascinating. He charges ten thousand dollars
Speaker 1: to do this, and I have so many questions around,
Speaker 1: like the how, the why, the what the deepest secrets?
Speaker 1: So I have got Bill on the phone to have
Speaker 1: a chat toy, Hi Bill, Welcome to the pickup.
Speaker 7: Hey guys, thanks for having me.
Speaker 3: Hi Bill, Bill. How does one end up.
Speaker 1: Confessing people's dying last wish?
Speaker 7: Oh? You know what, It started as a joke. I
Speaker 7: just told a dying man that I crash his funeral
Speaker 7: for him, and he took me up on the offer.
Speaker 4: When you said you're going to crash his funeral, like,
Speaker 4: why were you crashing his funeral?
Speaker 3: What was the like?
Speaker 4: What was the sentiment behind it that he needed his
Speaker 4: funeral crashed?
Speaker 7: Oh? I got to meet this gentleman probably eight ten
Speaker 7: weeks before his death, and we were talking about death,
Speaker 7: the afterlife and everything in between, and I suggested he
Speaker 7: do a eulogy and he said that he'd been through
Speaker 7: enough funerals where the eulogy isn't played out of disrespect
Speaker 7: or whatever it is. And I just said, yeah, it
Speaker 7: just as a joke, you know what. Graham I can
Speaker 7: always crash your funeral for you, mate. And a couple
Speaker 7: of weeks later, I get a text and he says, Bill,
Speaker 7: You're going to crash my funeral for me, and I'm
Speaker 7: going to pay you ten grand to do it.
Speaker 3: Wow, what a what a fee he put on that
Speaker 3: for you?
Speaker 5: And what was what was it that you crashed? Would
Speaker 5: you mind telling us, like, what happened? What did you
Speaker 5: have to say?
Speaker 7: Well, his best mate, while performing the eulogy with his
Speaker 7: crocodile tears to two to three minutes into that eulogy,
Speaker 7: I was to stand up, excuse myself and say to
Speaker 7: the crowd, excuse me. My name's phil Epia. S down,
Speaker 7: shove up or buger off. The man in the coffin's
Speaker 7: got something to say. And this is what it is,
Speaker 7: you know, best made of mine. You've been trying to
Speaker 7: screw my wife while I'm on my deathbed. And if
Speaker 7: my brother, his wife and their daughter at my funeral,
Speaker 7: they can bugger off too. I haven't seen him in
Speaker 7: thirty years. Their vultures get lost.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, what happened when you said this?
Speaker 7: Well, yeah, you could hear a pin drop. But at
Speaker 7: the same time, those that truly loved the man. They
Speaker 7: knew and understood. And the best mate ob looks, he
Speaker 7: just ran out. He left really quickly. The other three
Speaker 7: that were in attendance, they stood up and they left
Speaker 7: as well, and a few other people left. I think
Speaker 7: they thought they were going to get targeted. But it
Speaker 7: was his fill and it is his funeral, so why
Speaker 7: not he got to have you stay.
Speaker 4: I wann't know what happened with the wife. I mean,
Speaker 4: was the wife was she still there? Was she did
Speaker 4: she get up and leave? Or was she was the
Speaker 4: one who was telling him that this was happening.
Speaker 7: Yeah, she was very grateful for what happened. This this
Speaker 7: so called best mate is no longer in her life
Speaker 7: or you know, anywhere around them. She was very upset
Speaker 7: about the best mate trying to do what he was
Speaker 7: trying to do. Oh wow. And obviously she didn't want
Speaker 7: to put too much on her dying husband. But at
Speaker 7: the same time, he could see everything from his bedroom on,
Speaker 7: you know. And it was one of those cases that
Speaker 7: when you're lying on your deathbed and you, yeah, you
Speaker 7: got no energy, you sleep most of the time, you've
Speaker 7: got no confidentation, you've got nothing, and then you needed help.
Speaker 2: Edgar, is there a line for you? Do you think
Speaker 2: to yourself, I want this to be ethical? Is there
Speaker 2: any ethical element to it? Or no? Will you do
Speaker 2: absolutely anything once that, once you've been.
Speaker 7: Paid, I know no, it's definitely ethics and morals and
Speaker 7: my integrity. I mean, look, at the end of the day,
Speaker 7: I am an investigator. I'd like to investigate everybody's claims.
Speaker 7: I'm very careful. I sit with my clients and we
Speaker 7: go through everything. I will not act for a third party.
Speaker 7: In other words, if you wanted me to crash your
Speaker 7: mother's or father's here, I can't do that. I can
Speaker 7: only crash on behalf of them.
Speaker 2: Okay, well, hold on, this is very, very exciting.
Speaker 5: Why don't we go to a break you let's get
Speaker 5: some story, some deathbed confession stories.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I need more.
Speaker 2: You're happy to stick around and tell us some after this, Bill,
Speaker 2: absolutely all right, stay there.
Speaker 5: We're back after this with the Coffin Confessor on the
Speaker 5: pickup Britt, Laura and Mitch joined by Bill Edgar. He's
Speaker 5: the Coffin Confessor. He's a counsel as an author, he's
Speaker 5: a businessman, a detective, and he's channeling his work now
Speaker 5: into going to the deathbed of people that are terminally ill,
Speaker 5: getting a secret that they want off their chest, and
Speaker 5: then revealing it to their friends and family.
Speaker 2: In the world.
Speaker 1: Hey, Bill, is there ever any requests that someone has
Speaker 1: asked you to do that you've had to put your
Speaker 1: foot down and say I can't do that, that's too far.
Speaker 7: It was, but I ended up doing it anyway because
Speaker 7: I am the coffee professor and it was a message.
Speaker 7: It was for me to actually be a lady suicide
Speaker 7: note and that was confronting. But at the same time,
Speaker 7: there's nothing that was going to stop this lady doing
Speaker 7: what she did.
Speaker 5: Wow, that can be a real tense job. I can
Speaker 5: only imagine. Tell us one of the craziest confessions that
Speaker 5: you've ever had to do. Like if you're at a
Speaker 5: pub having a couple of beers and your mates, go,
Speaker 5: tell us us the best story.
Speaker 2: What is it?
Speaker 7: I think I got to say the best story, or
Speaker 7: the most confronting story for me, was going to the
Speaker 7: viewing of the body and pin pricking the body because
Speaker 7: the person was petrified of being fremated.
Speaker 4: Alight, Oh no, they wanted you to all in check
Speaker 4: and make sure they were dead.
Speaker 3: That's awful.
Speaker 7: Well, that's right. We all have a phobia, we all
Speaker 7: have a fear, and we've all got a skeleton in
Speaker 7: the closet. So it's just one of those jobs that
Speaker 7: had to be done. So now I'm placing items in coffins,
Speaker 7: mobile phone, Soto's jewelry, whatever it is. Plus, I'm delivering
Speaker 7: gifts from the afterlife, which is a beautiful thing to do.
Speaker 7: I rock up at somebody's house. It could be six seven,
Speaker 7: eight months after somebody's died, on an anniversary of birthday,
Speaker 7: and I'm delivering a.
Speaker 3: Gift that's really special.
Speaker 4: Do you find that these people because you're spending time
Speaker 4: with people in the most vulnerable last moments? Do many
Speaker 4: people who you've spoken to have regrets or are there
Speaker 4: things that they wish they'd done differently about their life?
Speaker 4: And that's the type of thing that you're enacting or taking.
Speaker 7: Out, you know, I believe we all have that moment,
Speaker 7: you know, especially I noticed it more on the people's
Speaker 7: saft beds that they wish they had more time and
Speaker 7: time to one thing we can't buy, we can't there's
Speaker 7: nothing we can do. Time. It just comes in the name.
Speaker 7: So it's really one of those things that people wish
Speaker 7: they had time. But I got to say, everybody that
Speaker 7: I've met who's now no longer alive, they've all said
Speaker 7: the same thing as in, they're not the fear of
Speaker 7: death is nothing. They don't see your death. What they
Speaker 7: see you is leaving their loved ones behind. That's the
Speaker 7: biggest fear. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Well, if you had to say the juiciest secret
Speaker 1: that you've had to pass on, what is it?
Speaker 7: Oh, the juiciest would have to be the lady who
Speaker 7: passed away and left me a message to tell her
Speaker 7: son that his sister was his mother grandmother.
Speaker 2: Oh my my, oh wow, and ten thousand dollars you
Speaker 2: could have that experience.
Speaker 3: To me, that to me sounds horrible.
Speaker 4: Imagine that being how you find out, like you don't
Speaker 4: need to know that after the fact, is they're going
Speaker 4: to die and take that wish with them. I just
Speaker 4: I wouldn't want to know. I think that's so how
Speaker 4: did you respond to it?
Speaker 3: She's like, I'm Grandma's sister.
Speaker 7: I think it's one of those things that you know,
Speaker 7: people can't seem to live or let go of things,
Speaker 7: and so they hire me to do that for them.
Speaker 7: At the same time, I've asked many a person that
Speaker 7: why meet, you know, why not do it yourself, or
Speaker 7: why not get a friend, and they just have no
Speaker 7: trust to or or they just can't do it when
Speaker 7: it's issues of infidelity, and I find that either revenge
Speaker 7: people doing it as a revenge thing, or they're coming
Speaker 7: clean and going you know what. So recently I crashed
Speaker 7: a fear or where the lady said that she knew
Speaker 7: her husband had been sleeping around and that she decided
Speaker 7: to do the same, and he had no idea. But
Speaker 7: when he did find out, he broke down terribly. And
Speaker 7: I said, well, you know what, man, she found out
Speaker 7: you were doing it, and she let it go, but
Speaker 7: you kept doing it. So now she's done it.
Speaker 5: You're more so the confrontation expert, right than it is
Speaker 5: the Coffin Confessor. I mean people hate confrontation. I guess
Speaker 5: that is why people are so drawn to you.
Speaker 7: Yeah, almost a huge thing. Yeah, for sure. At the
Speaker 7: end of the day, keep telling people I'm just a messenger.
Speaker 7: It's not me, it's your luve.
Speaker 5: Look, if you want more from Bill Edgar, you can
Speaker 5: get his book The Coffin Confessor. More stories like that
Speaker 5: inside Hey, thanks for coming on the show, Bill, very
Speaker 5: exciting stuff interesting.
Speaker 7: Thanks Bill so much and your listeners good man.
Speaker 2: And if you wanted services, DM Bill.
Speaker 4: I just think, I mean, going like I think, when
Speaker 4: you're going to die, having such vengeance or wanting to, like,
Speaker 4: you know, enact revenge on someone, it just seems really sad.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's their dying wish. If it makes them happy,
Speaker 3: I think them.
Speaker 2: All right, we're done, let's get out of here. We
Speaker 2: need to end the show.