WEBVTT - We're back baby! UTI's, kids on planes. Plus Choosing Life on Her Terms - Exploring Euthanasia with Allison Willcox 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:03.800 Life Uncut acknowledges the traditional custodians of country whose lands 0:00:03.840 --> 0:00:06.560 were never seated. We pay our respects to their elders 0:00:06.559 --> 0:00:07.600 past and present. 0:00:07.600 --> 0:00:11.399 Always was, always will be Aboriginal Land. This episode was 0:00:11.440 --> 0:00:13.360 recorded on Drug Wallamuta Land. 0:00:23.200 --> 0:00:26.200 Hey guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut. 0:00:26.320 --> 0:00:26.840 I'm Brittany. 0:00:26.920 --> 0:00:27.840 Now I'm Laura. 0:00:28.040 --> 0:00:32.479 I have a question for you. Wow, straight out of 0:00:32.520 --> 0:00:33.200 the gate. 0:00:33.400 --> 0:00:35.720 We're not just going to have any like little nuh hello? 0:00:35.840 --> 0:00:36.280 Catch up? 0:00:36.640 --> 0:00:36.840 Nah? 0:00:37.080 --> 0:00:38.640 Do you have a toenail like a little tonel? 0:00:39.320 --> 0:00:39.520 Yeah? 0:00:39.720 --> 0:00:42.599 Like, does your little toe have a fully formed toenail? 0:00:42.920 --> 0:00:46.240 No, it's tiny, way because look look at this shit. 0:00:46.400 --> 0:00:47.960 What is that? 0:00:47.960 --> 0:00:49.480 That's rank? That's your question. 0:00:52.320 --> 0:00:56.720 I have tiny, little fat toes, so like my toes tiny. Okay. 0:00:56.800 --> 0:00:58.480 The reason I'm asking this is because I think that 0:00:58.520 --> 0:01:01.040 there is a portion of the popular out there whose 0:01:01.080 --> 0:01:04.200 little toe has been Yeah, it's just been beaten so hard. 0:01:04.200 --> 0:01:05.640 It's had such a hard life. 0:01:05.920 --> 0:01:08.959 My little toe has had such a hard life that 0:01:09.000 --> 0:01:10.200 the toenail. 0:01:10.240 --> 0:01:11.520 Literally doesn't grow anymore. 0:01:11.600 --> 0:01:13.880 And I mean if you've been following along to the 0:01:13.880 --> 0:01:16.280 pod for a while, you would know, or socials whatever 0:01:16.319 --> 0:01:18.839 I've just gotten back from Bali, I got a foot 0:01:18.880 --> 0:01:20.800 massage and I got my toenails done while I was there. 0:01:20.840 --> 0:01:22.759 I know you got you know you did not. I'm 0:01:22.760 --> 0:01:25.360 calling bullshit. Get a refund because those toes have not 0:01:25.400 --> 0:01:28.039 been done. Case you look at that toe. Look at 0:01:28.040 --> 0:01:31.480 this beat. Wait wait, look she's trying to toes over 0:01:31.520 --> 0:01:31.840 in Hinde. 0:01:32.000 --> 0:01:34.240 Stop looking stoop shaming me for my toes. 0:01:34.360 --> 0:01:34.720 Guys. 0:01:35.040 --> 0:01:37.720 No, the man was there and he was this lovely 0:01:38.200 --> 0:01:43.120 Balinese guy similar age massaging my feet, and even he 0:01:43.319 --> 0:01:46.120 every so often made this look like he was rebulsed, 0:01:46.440 --> 0:01:47.920 and I was like, ah, that's I. 0:01:47.880 --> 0:01:50.559 Reckon, it's paying you pretend like you're enjoying it. Firstly, 0:01:50.600 --> 0:01:52.920 what happened to your feet? Because you said you got 0:01:52.960 --> 0:01:55.880 them done, They're not done. This is the fucking effects 0:01:55.880 --> 0:01:56.800 of the milky foot thing. 0:01:58.280 --> 0:02:00.520 Like I got them done and then literally days later 0:02:00.520 --> 0:02:01.320 they're still shedding. 0:02:01.440 --> 0:02:05.360 It's because you don't wear shoes anyways. Also a problem. 0:02:05.640 --> 0:02:08.519 I feel like when we were made, like however we're 0:02:08.520 --> 0:02:11.520 made by spontaneous combustion, God, whatever, when we were made, 0:02:11.680 --> 0:02:14.320 I feel like he put us together and he starts 0:02:14.320 --> 0:02:15.720 from the top down and by the time he gets 0:02:15.720 --> 0:02:17.320 to the little toe. I feel like it's the last 0:02:17.360 --> 0:02:18.720 thing he puts on the body and he's just got 0:02:18.800 --> 0:02:21.120 nothing left. He's like I've run out of juice. So 0:02:21.120 --> 0:02:23.360 you get this tiny, little smidgy toe. That's what I 0:02:23.360 --> 0:02:26.000 think happens. I have like little chizzo stubs thanks to 0:02:26.040 --> 0:02:29.200 the big bank. Yours are not churio. Yours are more 0:02:29.320 --> 0:02:32.440 like a German sausage, Like they're long and skinny. 0:02:32.520 --> 0:02:35.880 That last one is like a little what's that small 0:02:35.880 --> 0:02:39.799 little potato? What's that type of potato? It's a chat potato? 0:02:42.120 --> 0:02:45.480 Well, how was Barley harther than with your foot experience? 0:02:45.639 --> 0:02:48.000 So this was my very first holiday with our kids. 0:02:48.200 --> 0:02:51.640 I went to Bali for seven days without my children, 0:02:51.800 --> 0:02:54.280 just with my sister and like one star from Tony Mate, 0:02:54.440 --> 0:02:55.920 I mean we worked. I feel like I have to 0:02:56.000 --> 0:02:57.240 justify myself every time. 0:02:57.240 --> 0:02:59.320 But you also don't like even if you went away 0:02:59.360 --> 0:03:00.440 without work, that's okay. 0:03:00.600 --> 0:03:02.400 Now, how dare you, as a mother have a life 0:03:02.400 --> 0:03:06.519 and enjoy yourself without your children? How sacrilege? It was amazing. 0:03:07.320 --> 0:03:10.160 I missed my kids so much, like so so much. 0:03:10.280 --> 0:03:14.000 It was weird enough to side back. I am coming 0:03:14.000 --> 0:03:17.720 to you today from Bali. No I'm back. I'm back 0:03:17.720 --> 0:03:19.320 in the studio. I miss them so much. But it 0:03:19.360 --> 0:03:21.280 also made me realize how much I don't like other 0:03:21.360 --> 0:03:22.200 people's children. 0:03:22.360 --> 0:03:25.080 Is that a terrible thing to say? I think that's standard. 0:03:25.240 --> 0:03:28.200 I love my kids. I don't think they're perfect. I'm 0:03:28.200 --> 0:03:30.440 not like someone who's like, my kids are amazing. Everyone 0:03:30.440 --> 0:03:31.239 else's kids suck. 0:03:31.560 --> 0:03:33.080 You do tell me every day that your kids are 0:03:33.120 --> 0:03:35.800 basically in mensa the genius, But no. 0:03:35.880 --> 0:03:37.600 I think when they're your own children, you just have 0:03:37.680 --> 0:03:39.960 such a different level of patience for their shit, right, 0:03:40.000 --> 0:03:42.200 Like when they're your kids, you're like, Okay, I can 0:03:42.240 --> 0:03:44.520 deal with this because I created you. 0:03:44.520 --> 0:03:45.000 You are my. 0:03:45.040 --> 0:03:48.360 DNA, and I am responsible for whatever it is that 0:03:48.400 --> 0:03:50.360 you do, and because you have to yeah, and you 0:03:50.360 --> 0:03:52.720 can just inside your body, there's a great level of 0:03:52.760 --> 0:03:56.000 patience and everything else. And I guess, like I've said 0:03:56.000 --> 0:03:58.120 this before, but I have. I was never someone who 0:03:58.160 --> 0:04:01.640 was particularly maternal, Like I never had this overwhelming like 0:04:01.720 --> 0:04:03.880 I want to be a mom, I want to have babies. 0:04:04.240 --> 0:04:06.160 But when I had kids, I was like, oh my god, 0:04:06.200 --> 0:04:08.960 I love being a mom and everything changed about my life. 0:04:09.640 --> 0:04:12.280 But when I'm away from my children and I have 0:04:12.360 --> 0:04:14.880 to be around other people's kids. Kids who I am 0:04:15.040 --> 0:04:18.120 I have no connection with. I'm talking like strangers, kids 0:04:18.120 --> 0:04:21.039 on planes and stuff. I realized that my patience for 0:04:21.080 --> 0:04:23.320 other people's children is very low, which is not fair 0:04:23.360 --> 0:04:25.400 because I would hope that some people are more patient 0:04:25.440 --> 0:04:26.719 with my children, but I just don't have it for 0:04:26.760 --> 0:04:27.400 other people's kids. 0:04:27.440 --> 0:04:30.440 But I think there's a really small special subgroup of 0:04:30.440 --> 0:04:33.599 people in the world, like the child cares and teachers. 0:04:33.680 --> 0:04:35.760 Yeah, daycare workers, that's it, Yes. 0:04:35.720 --> 0:04:38.720 That actually enjoy other people's kids. Otherwise, I don't think 0:04:38.720 --> 0:04:41.440 you're a minority like I think. I think the minority 0:04:41.480 --> 0:04:43.320 is people that froth other people's kids. 0:04:43.520 --> 0:04:48.120 Okay, So I say this because so we flew to Bali. 0:04:49.680 --> 0:04:52.640 Oh dear, we flewp Balle. We flew Jetstar. It's a 0:04:52.720 --> 0:04:55.840 small seat for six hours, and directly behind me there 0:04:55.880 --> 0:04:57.760 was like a six year old boy and he had 0:04:57.760 --> 0:04:59.920 brought plato on the plane. He was flying with his dad, 0:05:00.000 --> 0:05:01.279 but maybe he was like five, I don't know. 0:05:01.320 --> 0:05:01.760 He was young. 0:05:02.240 --> 0:05:03.920 He was flying with his dad. His dad was in 0:05:04.000 --> 0:05:05.760 the middle seat, and then he had his other brother 0:05:05.800 --> 0:05:07.400 who was a little bit older, on the other seat 0:05:07.480 --> 0:05:10.000 next to him, like next to his dad, and the 0:05:10.080 --> 0:05:12.599 kid had put the tray table down and was playing 0:05:12.600 --> 0:05:19.080 with Plato, but was like banging, that's banging the trade. 0:05:19.240 --> 0:05:20.520 I don't know if you could hear that from Afar, 0:05:20.760 --> 0:05:22.839 but he was. He was really making a pancake. He 0:05:22.920 --> 0:05:25.120 was really getting into the Plato making, which meant that 0:05:25.160 --> 0:05:28.560 my a pancake. My entire seat on the plane was 0:05:28.720 --> 0:05:32.000 reverberating the entire time, and every time he'd bang his 0:05:32.040 --> 0:05:34.839 little fists onto the tray table, my seat would go 0:05:35.000 --> 0:05:39.480 bud blud bud, and so I waited. I tolerated this 0:05:39.600 --> 0:05:41.839 for a good twenty five minutes until eventually I turned 0:05:41.880 --> 0:05:44.839 around and I was like, look, I'm really sorry to 0:05:44.880 --> 0:05:45.160 the day. 0:05:46.400 --> 0:05:49.640 Yeah, from parent to parent, I'm gonna parent down with you. 0:05:49.680 --> 0:05:51.680 I was like, could you maybe ask him not to 0:05:52.000 --> 0:05:54.920 bang on the seat, and the dad goes, you don't 0:05:54.920 --> 0:05:55.599 bang on the seat. 0:05:55.720 --> 0:05:56.360 That was what I got. 0:05:56.400 --> 0:05:59.560 Anyway, two seconds later, bang bang bang, and I had 0:05:59.560 --> 0:06:01.720 this moment where I was like, fuck you for your 0:06:01.800 --> 0:06:05.080 shitty parenting because he wasn't like the kid was obviously 0:06:05.160 --> 0:06:07.840 occupied and it wasn't affecting the dart. The dad just 0:06:07.880 --> 0:06:09.719 like he just went into coast mode and just let 0:06:09.760 --> 0:06:10.640 it affect everyone else. 0:06:10.680 --> 0:06:12.359 And I was like, how do you So did you 0:06:12.360 --> 0:06:13.000 turn around again? 0:06:13.400 --> 0:06:16.200 Yes, and said it again, but this time to the 0:06:16.279 --> 0:06:19.120 kid directly, which stop your little shit. 0:06:19.440 --> 0:06:20.680 I turned around. 0:06:20.360 --> 0:06:22.719 And I and I said it exactly how I would 0:06:22.760 --> 0:06:24.080 say it to my own children. I turned around and 0:06:24.120 --> 0:06:27.960 I was like, can you please stop hitting the seat 0:06:28.120 --> 0:06:30.800 or you're in that naughty corner? Yeah, and tastu. 0:06:31.200 --> 0:06:32.840 Yeah. He stopped for real five minutes then he started. 0:06:32.880 --> 0:06:35.159 Yet it hits different when like, remember when you're a kid, 0:06:35.440 --> 0:06:36.800 you know what you can push with your parents, but 0:06:36.880 --> 0:06:39.400 when another parent disciplined you, it's cooked. You're like, you 0:06:39.520 --> 0:06:42.720 listen because it just hits different totally. 0:06:42.800 --> 0:06:44.520 But it just reinforces how much your own kids don't 0:06:44.520 --> 0:06:46.120 listen to you. No, no, To be fair, this child 0:06:46.200 --> 0:06:47.919 didn't listen to me either, So it was very similar 0:06:47.960 --> 0:06:48.880 to parenting my own children. 0:06:48.880 --> 0:06:50.280 So what do you do? Just let him kick you. 0:06:50.360 --> 0:06:52.400 Yeah, for for five and a half hours, he kicked 0:06:52.400 --> 0:06:53.839 the back of my seat. Now, actually he kicked it 0:06:53.839 --> 0:06:56.080 for about three hours and then he had a sleep, 0:06:56.120 --> 0:06:58.360 He had a nap, He wore himself. 0:06:59.080 --> 0:07:04.880 I I'm not good at confrontation, but I also have 0:07:05.000 --> 0:07:08.040 really thin patients on a plane and for six hours 0:07:08.480 --> 0:07:10.720 on that tiny jet star seat, I would have lost it. 0:07:10.800 --> 0:07:12.560 I ended up turning around, I think, in total, about 0:07:12.600 --> 0:07:14.320 four or five times to say can you please stop 0:07:14.400 --> 0:07:14.600 hitting this? 0:07:14.800 --> 0:07:16.320 Or I would have asked me you stop hitting the 0:07:16.360 --> 0:07:17.640 seat if there was another seat. 0:07:17.480 --> 0:07:19.120 And three of those times was directed at the dad 0:07:19.160 --> 0:07:20.720 and twice to the kid, which I think is an 0:07:20.720 --> 0:07:22.200 excessive amount of time to have to ask someone to 0:07:22.200 --> 0:07:22.920 stop hitting your seat. 0:07:22.960 --> 0:07:23.880 The dad couldn't care less. 0:07:23.880 --> 0:07:26.520 He did not give a single not one single fuck. 0:07:26.680 --> 0:07:29.720 Was he by himself, no mum, was traveling on his own. 0:07:29.760 --> 0:07:31.640 He had already checked out of his life. Like you know, 0:07:31.680 --> 0:07:34.040 if you have telling if you've got a border plane 0:07:34.080 --> 0:07:36.160 with your two kids and you're not co parenting and 0:07:36.200 --> 0:07:37.800 you're got to do one hundred percent of it yourself. 0:07:37.800 --> 0:07:39.520 He was like, I do not care. 0:07:40.040 --> 0:07:41.920 You cannot ask me to do anything right now. I 0:07:42.000 --> 0:07:44.120 am not listening. I am surviving. And I think I 0:07:44.120 --> 0:07:45.440 should have had more patience for him. 0:07:46.040 --> 0:07:50.360 You know what, he was traveling alone with his kids. Yeah, 0:07:50.440 --> 0:07:52.640 I feel sorry for him. So he was probably just 0:07:52.760 --> 0:07:56.120 like fucking small pos to pay like chicken cop this 0:07:56.280 --> 0:07:57.320 for six hours? 0:07:57.320 --> 0:07:57.680 Do you know what? 0:07:57.720 --> 0:07:58.000 Okay? 0:07:58.160 --> 0:08:00.320 That was the worst. I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. 0:08:00.360 --> 0:08:02.200 They started with the two worst part, my feet and 0:08:02.400 --> 0:08:03.120 my playing troop. 0:08:03.360 --> 0:08:05.080 The rest of that troop was bringing to people all 0:08:05.080 --> 0:08:05.440 they want. 0:08:05.560 --> 0:08:07.760 It was amazing, It was so amazing. But you know what, 0:08:07.800 --> 0:08:10.160 this isn't about me. This is about you because I 0:08:10.200 --> 0:08:13.440 read a Daily Mail article that you are going through 0:08:13.480 --> 0:08:16.760 a heartbreaking period in your relationship. Actually, I will read 0:08:16.760 --> 0:08:21.680 you the headline. Daily Mail wrote a really beautiful article 0:08:21.680 --> 0:08:25.680 about britt This is the article Brittany Hockley reveals heartbreaking 0:08:25.760 --> 0:08:30.560 news about new Swiss soccer boyfriend Benjamin Zerrust. 0:08:30.240 --> 0:08:39.000 Bejaminam Benmin Benjamin don't have to go and your head 0:08:39.080 --> 0:08:41.400 like goes like a little peacock. Sorry, what is the 0:08:41.400 --> 0:08:43.600 heartbreaking news? Okay, I read this. I don't know you 0:08:43.640 --> 0:08:45.720 told me. It's that makes it sound like someone's dying. 0:08:45.880 --> 0:08:47.640 I saw this yesterday and I was like, fuck, did 0:08:47.679 --> 0:08:49.160 you guys break up? And you didn't tell me? 0:08:49.320 --> 0:08:51.440 Like I thought something bad had actually probably. 0:08:51.080 --> 0:08:52.800 Something that would happen, like yeah, I just would go 0:08:52.880 --> 0:08:55.040 into like the depths of depression and you'd have to 0:08:55.080 --> 0:08:56.240 come pull me out and you'd be like, what happened. 0:08:56.240 --> 0:08:57.280 I'd be like I didn't want to tell you. No, 0:08:57.400 --> 0:08:57.839 that's a lie. 0:08:57.880 --> 0:08:59.320 You would just send me a text and then you 0:08:59.320 --> 0:09:00.319 wouldn't answer your phone. 0:09:00.320 --> 0:09:01.079 That's what would happen. 0:09:01.360 --> 0:09:04.000 Brittany likes to be really dramatic in text message and 0:09:04.080 --> 0:09:05.959 then she puts it on do not disturb and doesn't 0:09:06.000 --> 0:09:06.880 answer because. 0:09:06.640 --> 0:09:08.800 It's I can't. I told you, I don't. You guys 0:09:08.800 --> 0:09:11.400 don't believe me. I don't deal with this stuff very well, 0:09:11.600 --> 0:09:13.200 and I want to tell anyone anything, so when I 0:09:13.280 --> 0:09:15.000 have to, it's like I dropped the bomb and then 0:09:15.080 --> 0:09:16.600 run away. So I can't deal with you know. 0:09:16.720 --> 0:09:18.440 But you do it in the most dramatic way possible. 0:09:18.480 --> 0:09:20.640 You'll be like, hey, so Jordan broke up with me. 0:09:20.720 --> 0:09:23.040 I'm super depressed and I you know, my life is 0:09:23.040 --> 0:09:24.720 not going to go on and then you then you 0:09:24.720 --> 0:09:25.280 don't answer. 0:09:25.520 --> 0:09:33.000 It's like, fuck, that is not completely I broke up 0:09:33.040 --> 0:09:33.600 with him, no. 0:09:35.440 --> 0:09:35.720 Chaking. 0:09:36.320 --> 0:09:38.800 Yes, I do drop a bomb and run and then 0:09:38.800 --> 0:09:41.080 I pretend I don't exist anymore because that's how I 0:09:41.120 --> 0:09:43.680 deal with my problems. Okay, it's not healthy. I don't 0:09:43.720 --> 0:09:44.240 recommend it. 0:09:44.400 --> 0:09:46.079 Yeah, and we've done a lot, We've done four years 0:09:46.080 --> 0:09:47.160 of self help on this podcast. 0:09:47.200 --> 0:09:48.840 But it hasn't really helped. Well, hang on, what was 0:09:48.880 --> 0:09:51.640 the Brittany self? What is the heartbreak? I've told me it. 0:09:51.800 --> 0:09:52.160 I don't know. 0:09:52.240 --> 0:09:55.320 Actually, I think we didn't read it, so we could 0:09:55.320 --> 0:09:57.319 be broken up or dying, and you just stop reading. 0:09:57.520 --> 0:10:00.080 Brittany's going through something really bad. I'll just check out here. 0:10:00.440 --> 0:10:02.319 Because I knew it wasn't true. 0:10:04.360 --> 0:10:06.360 This could have been the worst moment of my life. 0:10:06.880 --> 0:10:08.520 You're not gonna tell you now. I'm gonna make you 0:10:08.559 --> 0:10:10.880 read it another date. You'll have to read read it. 0:10:11.160 --> 0:10:12.480 Do you know what you say? This could be the 0:10:12.520 --> 0:10:14.480 worst moment of your life. You look pretty good. You're 0:10:14.520 --> 0:10:16.960 not gonna see him for three months? I'm not, you know, 0:10:17.520 --> 0:10:21.080 to be honest, the article was anti climat Dick one hundred, like, 0:10:21.120 --> 0:10:23.160 you're not gonna see him for three months. I'm like, June, 0:10:23.280 --> 0:10:25.080 you'll be fine, You're gonna be okay. 0:10:25.240 --> 0:10:26.800 It's actually thirteen weeks. 0:10:28.480 --> 0:10:33.640 How do you feel heartbreaknant? As the article said, no to. 0:10:33.760 --> 0:10:37.480 This is the longest we would have gone in the 0:10:37.559 --> 0:10:41.360 last we would have been together fourteen months by the 0:10:41.360 --> 0:10:43.920 time I see him. But in the last year, this 0:10:44.000 --> 0:10:46.160 is the longest. It is a long time, like thirteen 0:10:46.240 --> 0:10:48.160 weeks to then only see each other for two weeks 0:10:48.160 --> 0:10:50.839 at a time. It's a long time, most heartbreaking moment, 0:10:51.600 --> 0:10:54.200 clickbait headline for sure, like I'm gonna live, but it 0:10:54.280 --> 0:10:56.440 is really sad and every time I leave him definitely 0:10:56.480 --> 0:10:59.680 gets harder. We had a really amazing time, but every 0:10:59.679 --> 0:11:02.760 single time I go on holiday, I don't know why. 0:11:02.840 --> 0:11:06.719 I get really sick. Now apparently this is a science thing. 0:11:06.760 --> 0:11:09.040 Heaps people wrote to me saying it's like literally science 0:11:09.080 --> 0:11:11.280 behind it, saying that's t when your body finally can 0:11:11.320 --> 0:11:12.920 get sick, because you're like, oh, I'm going to stop 0:11:12.960 --> 0:11:13.360 for a second. 0:11:13.640 --> 0:11:16.200 Pretty actually covid Is that actually true though? 0:11:16.360 --> 0:11:18.679 Well, I had so many messages. I think it is. 0:11:18.760 --> 0:11:21.560 I think there was some study with someone and some persons. 0:11:22.000 --> 0:11:24.360 Yeah, so it was pretty accurate. Yeah. 0:11:24.400 --> 0:11:26.320 So I went over there a little bit unwell, like 0:11:26.360 --> 0:11:29.440 I started to get a cult. But like one day 0:11:29.440 --> 0:11:31.400 in I was great, it was gone, it was nothing. 0:11:31.480 --> 0:11:33.440 I got three amazing days with Ben. 0:11:33.440 --> 0:11:34.280 He got three days off. 0:11:34.280 --> 0:11:36.800 We had three amazing days in Majorca and it was 0:11:36.880 --> 0:11:39.840 just like everything I could have imagined, everything I wanted. 0:11:39.880 --> 0:11:42.240 It was beautiful. Then we got back to Scotland and 0:11:42.280 --> 0:11:43.880 I think I had COVID. I think I was. I 0:11:43.920 --> 0:11:45.839 was basically sick the whole time. I know it doesn't 0:11:45.920 --> 0:11:48.040 look like that. I probably only showed you guys one 0:11:48.679 --> 0:11:51.120 story set actually showing how sick I was. 0:11:51.679 --> 0:11:52.880 But it was so shit. 0:11:52.920 --> 0:11:55.280 And then my sister got it. She's still bedridden. Sherry's 0:11:55.280 --> 0:11:57.400 been been ridden for seven days. And apparently there's this 0:11:57.480 --> 0:12:00.160 new strain of COVID going around the UK. I think 0:12:00.200 --> 0:12:01.000 fucking happens in the UK. 0:12:01.080 --> 0:12:02.880 You didn't want to do a test, didn't want to check. 0:12:03.000 --> 0:12:05.120 Well, it doesn't. I wasn't seeing anyone, and I was 0:12:05.160 --> 0:12:07.880 sick anyway, Like I was just at home and seeing Ben, 0:12:07.960 --> 0:12:10.920 and there's no point checking anymore. The flu's worse than 0:12:10.920 --> 0:12:13.000 COVID these days, so they say. But I was just 0:12:13.080 --> 0:12:16.840 really really unwell and that was most of my holiday, unfortunately, 0:12:16.880 --> 0:12:19.280 but still it was. Ben didn't get sick, and he 0:12:19.320 --> 0:12:21.640 told me he wouldn't. He's like, I've got this crazy immunity. 0:12:21.679 --> 0:12:24.040 He's like a very rarely get sick. So whatever. But 0:12:24.240 --> 0:12:26.360 I got a few days either side that were really 0:12:26.440 --> 0:12:28.360 really good. The start was really good and the last 0:12:28.400 --> 0:12:31.080 couple of days were really good. We just chilled and 0:12:31.120 --> 0:12:32.920 all I can think is like when you're talking about 0:12:33.040 --> 0:12:36.760 your holiday in Bali. I love Ben, but. 0:12:38.720 --> 0:12:41.880 Scotland's not doing it for me anymore. I am not surprised. 0:12:42.040 --> 0:12:44.080 It's like it's worth it because I get to spend 0:12:44.120 --> 0:12:46.280 my holiday with him, but it means that every holiday 0:12:46.280 --> 0:12:49.080 of my entire life I'm in it's somewhere over there 0:12:49.120 --> 0:12:51.360 now and I'm still cold and rainy. 0:12:51.440 --> 0:12:53.040 So how are you going to navigate this? Because, like 0:12:53.040 --> 0:12:54.599 I mean, there's been lots of talk about going and 0:12:54.640 --> 0:12:56.880 spending prolonged periods over there, Like if you are not 0:12:57.040 --> 0:12:59.640 enjoying it as a place to be, how do you be. 0:13:00.720 --> 0:13:02.880 I enjoy it because I'm with him and my sister 0:13:02.960 --> 0:13:04.719 was there, but it's more just the idea. And I 0:13:04.720 --> 0:13:07.320 guess if I was there for longer periods it sounds crazy, 0:13:07.320 --> 0:13:09.040 but you'd be ducking over to Europe, like you can 0:13:09.080 --> 0:13:12.000 be in Paris in like an hour on a plane 0:13:12.280 --> 0:13:14.679 or an hour on a train. Like there are ways 0:13:14.720 --> 0:13:17.800 to escape Scotland, of course, and Scotland's not all bad. 0:13:17.840 --> 0:13:19.720 It's just that the weathers. You're never gonna enjoy it. 0:13:19.720 --> 0:13:21.440 You're never gonna go swimming in the pool. They have 0:13:21.559 --> 0:13:23.800 nice sunny days. But it's not like a hot summer, right, 0:13:24.320 --> 0:13:26.120 so I would just have to escape. But I did 0:13:26.160 --> 0:13:28.680 spend some time with my best friends over there slash 0:13:28.720 --> 0:13:32.720 my only friends, Eugene, Alex and Eugene Ben's gay neighbors 0:13:32.760 --> 0:13:35.640 from next door. If you're new to the podcast, they're 0:13:35.640 --> 0:13:38.200 Ben's best friends in Scotland. Now they're my best friends 0:13:38.240 --> 0:13:41.360 in Scotland. They're Oh, they listen to this, they'll be angry. 0:13:41.360 --> 0:13:42.079 I've got to get it right. 0:13:42.160 --> 0:13:44.320 Last time he said they're sixty five. They're sixty five? 0:13:44.679 --> 0:13:45.240 Are they really? 0:13:45.320 --> 0:13:46.640 Because last time he said that they were in their 0:13:46.640 --> 0:13:47.640 sixties and they were offended. 0:13:47.720 --> 0:13:52.880 So I no, I say seventy. It's Eugene's sixty fifth 0:13:52.880 --> 0:13:55.240 birthday next week, so happy birthday, Eugene. 0:13:55.240 --> 0:13:57.600 And one of them is a psychic. Eugene's a psychic. 0:13:57.679 --> 0:13:59.880 So just so you know, Eugene is a psychic. Las 0:14:00.120 --> 0:14:01.800 time went over there, not last night, but like you know, 0:14:01.880 --> 0:14:04.520 at Christmas time, she went over there and she saw 0:14:04.600 --> 0:14:07.000 him and he said that Mitch and Mitch's boyfriend were 0:14:07.000 --> 0:14:08.920 going to break up. And then literally three weeks after 0:14:09.000 --> 0:14:11.080 Brick got back, they broke up. Yeah, it was a surprise. 0:14:11.200 --> 0:14:14.800 So Eugene was right. Yeah, I did tell Mitch Eugene 0:14:14.800 --> 0:14:17.800 was a really famous psychic in Scotland and in the UK. 0:14:17.960 --> 0:14:20.200 He used to like probably exaggeration, but he used to 0:14:20.200 --> 0:14:21.320 work for like the FBI or something. 0:14:21.360 --> 0:14:21.680 He worked. 0:14:21.880 --> 0:14:23.720 You know how you might see true those true crime 0:14:23.760 --> 0:14:26.960 documentaries where they bring psychics in sometimes when they're really 0:14:26.960 --> 0:14:29.240 desperate to try and find a missing person. 0:14:29.400 --> 0:14:30.280 We've all see a medium. 0:14:30.840 --> 0:14:33.240 Yeah, so he used to do that, and he used 0:14:33.240 --> 0:14:34.440 to do rings for a lot of people. But he 0:14:34.440 --> 0:14:37.720 also was a hospital worker, right, so he's very science 0:14:37.760 --> 0:14:42.000 based but also besees things. Anyway, Yeah, he said about Mitch. 0:14:42.000 --> 0:14:43.600 He was like, Mitch's going to break up with his partner, 0:14:43.640 --> 0:14:45.840 and I was like, no, he's really happy, Like they've 0:14:45.880 --> 0:14:47.720 been together for five years. That's not going to happen. 0:14:47.720 --> 0:14:49.160 He's like, it's going to happen. It's going to happen 0:14:49.320 --> 0:14:52.080 very soon. They're two different people and something, they're going 0:14:52.080 --> 0:14:55.840 different directions and something's going to happen. And then they 0:14:55.840 --> 0:14:58.840 broke up three weeks later or something crazy. But anyway, 0:14:58.880 --> 0:15:03.080 this time we were having lunch and I didn't get 0:15:03.080 --> 0:15:04.200 a reading because you know, I don't want to be 0:15:04.240 --> 0:15:05.120 that annoying person. 0:15:05.320 --> 0:15:06.840 That's like, every time you see him, though, are you 0:15:06.920 --> 0:15:07.960 like tell me what's gonna happen? 0:15:08.080 --> 0:15:09.760 Every time I see him, I look really deeply into 0:15:09.800 --> 0:15:12.520 his eyes, waiting for him to like get it, receive information, 0:15:12.600 --> 0:15:15.640 and tell me anyway, receive nothing. He didn't say anything. 0:15:15.640 --> 0:15:17.200 I didn't ask him, and then he drove me to 0:15:17.200 --> 0:15:18.880 the airport. They took me to the airport. So they 0:15:18.960 --> 0:15:20.760 were driving me to the airport, and then just as 0:15:20.800 --> 0:15:21.760 I was going to get it, I was like, you 0:15:21.760 --> 0:15:23.560 do not have to ask. I was like, did anything 0:15:23.560 --> 0:15:26.600 come through for me this trip? He's like, you're fucking 0:15:26.600 --> 0:15:28.280 getting out of the car now. He's like, no, nothing 0:15:28.320 --> 0:15:30.520 came through. I was like, okay, thanks, but we're sitting 0:15:30.560 --> 0:15:33.320 at lunch and he just went, you guys can't see this, 0:15:33.360 --> 0:15:35.680 but we're just eating and he went and he got 0:15:35.680 --> 0:15:37.920 like this hit and he looked off for a second 0:15:38.480 --> 0:15:39.880 and then he looked at me and he goes, oh, 0:15:40.000 --> 0:15:42.520 Mitch's going to fall in love really soon. And I 0:15:42.560 --> 0:15:44.480 was like, oh really, and he's like, yeah, he's going 0:15:44.560 --> 0:15:47.040 to be in a relationship really soon. And I was 0:15:47.080 --> 0:15:48.760 like that's great. And then he kept eating and it 0:15:48.760 --> 0:15:52.040 and he went got another hit and he goes, huh, 0:15:52.080 --> 0:15:55.360 and he already knows him. So he said that Mitch's 0:15:55.960 --> 0:15:58.600 next partner is someone that he's already met and he 0:15:58.640 --> 0:16:01.240 already knows. Why does he get so many visions about me? 0:16:01.800 --> 0:16:03.080 The vision about me for Fox too? 0:16:03.120 --> 0:16:05.040 Think it's because he excuse me, what about me? I'm 0:16:05.080 --> 0:16:05.600 the one there? 0:16:05.680 --> 0:16:06.840 Do you think it's because he's gay? 0:16:08.440 --> 0:16:12.480 Like maybe they read there's gay people better. Maybe gay 0:16:12.520 --> 0:16:15.360 mediums get different energies from different people. I don't know, 0:16:15.360 --> 0:16:17.560 but Mitch comes through a lot with Eugene. 0:16:17.560 --> 0:16:19.120 That's very interesting. Do you know what? 0:16:19.240 --> 0:16:20.440 This just reminded me of something. 0:16:20.600 --> 0:16:22.760 It's completely off topic, But when I was away and 0:16:22.800 --> 0:16:24.680 I didn't have my own children and Matt was parenting 0:16:24.760 --> 0:16:25.880 completely solo parenting. 0:16:26.000 --> 0:16:27.640 That's a lie. He had his mum, but he was trying, 0:16:27.840 --> 0:16:28.920 oh yeah, we know, that's a lot. 0:16:29.280 --> 0:16:31.480 I sent him a lot of messages being like, I reckon, 0:16:31.480 --> 0:16:33.400 we should have a third kid. I reckon, we should 0:16:33.440 --> 0:16:37.600 just do it next years. All the time I was like, 0:16:37.680 --> 0:16:41.240 I decided away. Yeah yeah, no, I know, And he wasn't. 0:16:41.280 --> 0:16:45.480 So he's really against him. He was really against the idea. 0:16:45.640 --> 0:16:47.720 He was like, that's having a newborn sounds like a 0:16:47.760 --> 0:16:49.640 fucking terrible idea, and I was like, we should just 0:16:49.640 --> 0:16:51.680 do it. We should just like, let's just have one. 0:16:51.760 --> 0:16:53.720 And now that you're back and you're sleep deprived again 0:16:53.760 --> 0:16:55.640 and you got the kids, do you still think that, Yeah, 0:16:56.080 --> 0:16:58.000 why where is this come from? I don't know. 0:16:58.520 --> 0:17:01.400 Maybe the last few, like they're shriveling up. I'm going 0:17:01.440 --> 0:17:03.680 to head into early menopause soon, and they're like, let's 0:17:03.720 --> 0:17:06.840 just go one more chance. Maybe let's hit it, let's go. 0:17:07.200 --> 0:17:07.280 No. 0:17:07.400 --> 0:17:07.760 I don't know. 0:17:07.840 --> 0:17:09.280 I just this part of me that's like, maybe we 0:17:09.320 --> 0:17:10.240 should have one more hit. 0:17:10.480 --> 0:17:12.960 I swear to God correct me if I'm wrong. I'm 0:17:12.960 --> 0:17:15.080 like a crack addict. If it wasn't that long ago 0:17:15.200 --> 0:17:16.639 that Matt was like, I want another kid, and you 0:17:16.640 --> 0:17:19.560 were like, well, cowboy, yeah, how to turn tea bush? 0:17:19.680 --> 0:17:21.800 Because he took he took it off the table. He 0:17:21.920 --> 0:17:23.199 said no, and I'm like, don't say no. 0:17:23.240 --> 0:17:25.360 To me like that baby, you like a child, put 0:17:25.359 --> 0:17:25.639 it in me. 0:17:25.720 --> 0:17:27.560 So now he's like no, he did right back, and 0:17:27.600 --> 0:17:29.720 he wrote fuck me a newborn and I read that 0:17:29.760 --> 0:17:32.520 as fuck me a newborn, like like I should do me. 0:17:32.960 --> 0:17:39.040 Yeah, comma space a newborn? Question yeah, it said. No, 0:17:39.080 --> 0:17:39.919 that's not what it is. 0:17:39.920 --> 0:17:43.720 Punctuation is very important kids, Yeah, yeah, grammar is important. 0:17:43.720 --> 0:17:45.440 But no, yeah, I think so. You still think that, 0:17:46.440 --> 0:17:48.640 but not now, Like, don't go getting too crazy guys, 0:17:48.680 --> 0:17:49.479 Like maybe like next year. 0:17:49.520 --> 0:17:51.440 Oh no, this doesn't excite me. It gives me exciting. 0:17:52.840 --> 0:17:55.240 We have to talk about how it's gonna work. Anyway. Look, 0:17:55.320 --> 0:17:56.639 I love that we've just had a little catch up. 0:17:56.640 --> 0:17:58.120 I mean, we haven't seen each other for the last 0:17:58.160 --> 0:18:00.119 two weeks, but also we had a week off the pod. 0:18:00.480 --> 0:18:02.600 So for us, this is just as much of a 0:18:02.640 --> 0:18:04.240 catch up, is what it sounds like to you guys. 0:18:04.359 --> 0:18:06.239 Yeah, no, really, it's all real. We haven't heard it. 0:18:06.600 --> 0:18:09.840 So I also got a uti over there. Awesome, but 0:18:09.960 --> 0:18:11.520 I didn't get it until the last day. 0:18:11.560 --> 0:18:14.360 Do you know why you got that sex? You were 0:18:14.440 --> 0:18:17.720 having such dirty sex. It's not dirty, No, I know 0:18:17.760 --> 0:18:18.040 it's not. 0:18:18.240 --> 0:18:18.720 I take the back. 0:18:18.720 --> 0:18:21.920 I've had very clean and hygienic I've had so many 0:18:22.200 --> 0:18:24.720 UTIs in my last time. I've had a bladder infection 0:18:24.760 --> 0:18:26.040 because it got so far up there. 0:18:26.080 --> 0:18:27.400 Do you know what it is? It's because I don't 0:18:27.480 --> 0:18:30.120 have sex for three months and then I have enough 0:18:30.160 --> 0:18:31.720 sex to make up for the fact that I didn't 0:18:31.720 --> 0:18:33.639 have sex for three months. That's why I get each hat. 0:18:33.760 --> 0:18:33.960 Yeah. 0:18:34.040 --> 0:18:35.479 Do you know how we had that conversation about how 0:18:35.520 --> 0:18:37.440 your body knows when it wants it to stop. Your 0:18:37.440 --> 0:18:38.760 body's literally like stop. 0:18:38.560 --> 0:18:42.600 Now, please please, he's coming, please please, do not put 0:18:42.600 --> 0:18:44.679 that to do No. So I got ETI on the 0:18:44.760 --> 0:18:46.520 very last day, and I was on the day that 0:18:46.560 --> 0:18:48.199 I was flying out. And when I say get it, 0:18:48.240 --> 0:18:50.600 anyone that's listening has had yout You know, there's a 0:18:50.720 --> 0:18:53.239 very particular feeling at the start when you get it. 0:18:53.280 --> 0:18:56.840 I don't know if you remember, no tingling. It's the heaviness, 0:18:57.000 --> 0:19:00.480 it's the well frequently I mean frequent you in but 0:19:00.600 --> 0:19:03.720 I don't know how to explain it. It's like heavy inside, 0:19:03.840 --> 0:19:07.440 It's really heavy and sensitive and this is like bearing down. 0:19:07.920 --> 0:19:10.280 I don't know that's what I get. Anyway, I get 0:19:10.320 --> 0:19:12.000 that as well, but that's just from my prolapse. 0:19:12.080 --> 0:19:17.120 Yeah, same, same, that's my uterus after walking around. 0:19:16.920 --> 0:19:18.760 All that, I have to dug it back in sometimes. 0:19:19.119 --> 0:19:21.919 So anyway, I could feel this feeling and I was like, 0:19:22.200 --> 0:19:24.960 and for me, it, I mean for most people happens quickly, 0:19:25.000 --> 0:19:26.679 but the last time, remember you guys, I told you 0:19:26.680 --> 0:19:29.160 I had one in Bali, and within like five hours, 0:19:29.200 --> 0:19:31.960 I was wean blood and I was in so much 0:19:32.000 --> 0:19:33.520 pain and Ben had to go to the doctors. Anyway, 0:19:33.520 --> 0:19:35.240 Ben was that training. I could feel that I was 0:19:35.240 --> 0:19:37.160 getting this in a couple of hours. I was getting 0:19:37.200 --> 0:19:40.119 on a plane for twenty five hours of flying, and 0:19:40.119 --> 0:19:41.679 I thought, oh my god, if I get this on 0:19:41.720 --> 0:19:44.119 the plane, because that's how fast it escalates. I was like, 0:19:44.160 --> 0:19:46.920 I need to try and go to a pharmacist right 0:19:46.960 --> 0:19:49.239 now before I get on this plane. I only had 0:19:49.280 --> 0:19:51.639 an hour, so I messaged, of course, Alex and Eugene 0:19:51.640 --> 0:19:54.480 next door, and I was like, hey, guys, I need 0:19:54.520 --> 0:19:56.600 to I've just realized I need some medication before my 0:19:56.680 --> 0:19:58.600 fly is any way you can take me because I 0:19:58.600 --> 0:20:00.800 didn't have a car over there, like yeah, of course. 0:20:00.840 --> 0:20:02.920 So they swung by, got all my staff and took 0:20:02.960 --> 0:20:07.520 me to a pharmacy. Now Alex was like, oh, I'm 0:20:07.520 --> 0:20:09.199 really bad at a Scottish accent, but I'm gonna try. 0:20:09.520 --> 0:20:11.800 Everyone has written in saying, oh my god, Alex is 0:20:11.840 --> 0:20:14.840 like Missus Doubtfire, and he is. He's exactly like Missus Doubtfire. 0:20:14.920 --> 0:20:18.320 He looks like her. He sounds like her. So we 0:20:18.400 --> 0:20:20.080 pull up and Eugene's like, I'm going to stay in 0:20:20.080 --> 0:20:22.639 the car. You guys go in, Alex, take her in. 0:20:22.720 --> 0:20:24.880 Take it to the pharmacy. It's like their local pharmacy, 0:20:24.920 --> 0:20:28.399 because it's different in Scotland. You can't just go and 0:20:28.480 --> 0:20:31.960 get Uti medication over the counter. And I didn't have time. 0:20:32.000 --> 0:20:34.040 So I walk in and he's walking in with me 0:20:34.080 --> 0:20:35.479 and he's like, what's the problem. I said, oh, I've 0:20:35.480 --> 0:20:37.119 got a Uti. I just told them I don't care. 0:20:37.160 --> 0:20:38.639 I was like, he's like, where would you? 0:20:38.840 --> 0:20:39.000 Yeah. 0:20:39.000 --> 0:20:40.679 I said to Alex, I've got a UTI and I 0:20:40.720 --> 0:20:42.320 cannot get on a plane like this. And he's like, 0:20:42.440 --> 0:20:44.639 no worries. And then he said, do you want me 0:20:44.680 --> 0:20:45.679 to come in with you or do you want me 0:20:45.720 --> 0:20:48.639 to st out here? And I said, well no, you 0:20:48.640 --> 0:20:50.119 can come in. He's like, I don't want to embarrass you. 0:20:50.160 --> 0:20:51.760 I said, you're not going to embarrass me, Like, of 0:20:51.760 --> 0:20:55.160 course you can come in. So we walk in and 0:20:55.480 --> 0:20:58.919 there's this tiny little pharmacy and there's about ten people 0:20:58.960 --> 0:21:01.840 in there, scattered around, and we get to the counter 0:21:02.600 --> 0:21:04.880 and everything silent, because you know, when you're in entire 0:21:04.920 --> 0:21:10.240 little pharmacy everyone's really quiet. Alex goes, oh, Michael, hold on, Michael, 0:21:10.840 --> 0:21:13.520 we need some help. Britney here is from Australia. 0:21:13.640 --> 0:21:14.840 She's got a bun in. 0:21:14.960 --> 0:21:17.960 YOUTI and I was like, what the fuck? 0:21:18.160 --> 0:21:18.640 Alex? 0:21:18.760 --> 0:21:21.000 I was like, everyone in the thing turned around. 0:21:21.240 --> 0:21:23.919 It only came on this morning, but it's given them 0:21:24.000 --> 0:21:24.959 lots of pain. 0:21:25.200 --> 0:21:28.159 And I was like, Alex, I was like, remember how 0:21:28.240 --> 0:21:29.720 you just said you don't want to come in because 0:21:29.720 --> 0:21:32.359 you want embarrass me. I was like, everyone in here doesn't. 0:21:32.080 --> 0:21:32.399 Need to know. 0:21:32.440 --> 0:21:34.040 I have you two. I. Then the lady at the 0:21:34.080 --> 0:21:36.959 back turns around. Don't worry, Darland. I just picked up 0:21:37.000 --> 0:21:39.560 my ut medication. She's like eighty. And I was like, 0:21:39.680 --> 0:21:41.640 this is the worst moment of my life. 0:21:41.840 --> 0:21:43.120 Do you know what is the worst moment of my life? 0:21:43.160 --> 0:21:46.000 You're a Scottish accent. It's fucking awful. 0:21:48.119 --> 0:21:50.880 But I was like, this is an unnecessary moment. Then 0:21:50.920 --> 0:21:53.359 it was so hard. It was like trying to get crack. 0:21:53.680 --> 0:21:55.239 Not that I've ever tried to get cracked, but this 0:21:55.280 --> 0:21:58.800 is how I imagine it was. Iron cracks probably easier it was. 0:21:58.880 --> 0:22:00.359 I had to sit and I had to we allowed 0:22:00.400 --> 0:22:02.800 a whole form with my whole history. I had to 0:22:02.800 --> 0:22:04.760 sit in a private room. He wasn't going to give 0:22:04.800 --> 0:22:06.320 it to me. He's like, I can't give you this, 0:22:06.359 --> 0:22:10.359 and I'm like, please give me this medication. Oh my gosh, 0:22:10.359 --> 0:22:12.600 she's about the weird blot and it was a nightmare. Anyway, 0:22:12.600 --> 0:22:15.200 I got my medication, got on the plane, dealt within 0:22:15.320 --> 0:22:17.639 five hours, got home and I just want to report 0:22:17.640 --> 0:22:18.720 that has gone. Thanks. 0:22:18.960 --> 0:22:21.200 Okay, does that mean that we'll never have to listen 0:22:21.200 --> 0:22:21.359 to that? 0:22:25.720 --> 0:22:26.560 Wait? So, is that it? 0:22:26.560 --> 0:22:28.160 That's your number one update from Scotland. 0:22:28.160 --> 0:22:29.680 You just went away with the love of your life 0:22:29.720 --> 0:22:34.000 and the story. Yes, but Ben still loved me when 0:22:34.000 --> 0:22:35.760 I was at the depths of my despair and he 0:22:35.800 --> 0:22:37.680 looked after me so like, I just feel like he's 0:22:38.040 --> 0:22:38.639 my forever. 0:22:39.240 --> 0:22:42.639 Oh, oh my god, it's so cute. 0:22:43.000 --> 0:22:45.760 Okay. One other thing I will tell you. This absolutely 0:22:45.800 --> 0:22:47.960 blew my mind and I can't believe I forgot until 0:22:48.000 --> 0:22:48.440 right now. 0:22:48.920 --> 0:22:50.320 We really should make a list of the shit that 0:22:50.320 --> 0:22:52.119 we're supposed to talk about, because we get to this 0:22:52.160 --> 0:22:53.000 point where I do. 0:22:53.000 --> 0:22:56.879 Make a list in my head. I was driving along 0:22:57.320 --> 0:23:02.600 in Scotland and guess what I saw past me? Eleprecorn 0:23:03.640 --> 0:23:08.040 close a life bun cut jumper. No, stop it in 0:23:08.200 --> 0:23:09.600 Scotland's stop it? 0:23:09.880 --> 0:23:10.120 Yes? 0:23:10.359 --> 0:23:12.679 Was it one of Ben's family members? No, it was 0:23:12.720 --> 0:23:15.359 a stranger. And we were zipping past and she was 0:23:15.359 --> 0:23:17.480 walking past, and I tried to wind the window down 0:23:17.520 --> 0:23:19.600 really fast, but I was about fifty meters past at 0:23:19.640 --> 0:23:22.320 this point and I yelled out really loudly, we love love. 0:23:22.520 --> 0:23:25.040 And she turned around but I was too far away. 0:23:25.160 --> 0:23:29.040 Then she was like, stop in Australia. She's like, someone 0:23:29.080 --> 0:23:31.560 gave this away. I found it on the road and 0:23:31.600 --> 0:23:34.520 then I told Sherry and she was like, I saw 0:23:34.600 --> 0:23:36.440 a this is in Glasgow. She goes, I saw a 0:23:36.480 --> 0:23:38.359 girl walking around Edinburgh with a life on cut jumper 0:23:38.400 --> 0:23:40.640 as well. Can we got to two people in Scotland? 0:23:40.680 --> 0:23:42.520 Guys, this is just a promo. I know it's getting 0:23:42.520 --> 0:23:44.600 Warman out, but our fucking life on cut jumpers are 0:23:44.640 --> 0:23:47.600 so nice. Like the quality of them if so good. 0:23:47.720 --> 0:23:50.160 If you haven't got yourself a life and cut jumper 0:23:50.200 --> 0:23:52.760 yet there's still some available and like you know what, 0:23:52.920 --> 0:23:54.920 it doesn't even matter if you don't like the podcast. 0:23:54.920 --> 0:23:58.879 The quality of the jumpers of fucking litty City. I 0:23:58.920 --> 0:24:00.840 was trying to say, then, and let me see it again. 0:24:01.000 --> 0:24:03.159 I had a similar situation in Bali. So we were 0:24:03.160 --> 0:24:06.359 waiting for Gojack and this is also like a reminder 0:24:06.400 --> 0:24:07.800 of the live shows. But we were waiting for a 0:24:07.840 --> 0:24:10.920 Gojack and the Gojack had pulled up. If you haven't 0:24:10.920 --> 0:24:12.640 been to Bali, Gojack is kind of like the Uber 0:24:12.680 --> 0:24:15.359 equivalent over there, right, and you can book a scooter 0:24:15.480 --> 0:24:17.560 or you can book a car. Anyway, we were waiting 0:24:17.560 --> 0:24:19.720 for a car to pick us up, and the car 0:24:19.720 --> 0:24:21.800 had stopped. It was finishing off a trip, and then 0:24:21.840 --> 0:24:24.080 it started again, but the trip hadn't finished, and so 0:24:24.280 --> 0:24:26.640 we're on this tiny little one lane like going on 0:24:26.640 --> 0:24:28.639 one direction and the cars coming down the road and 0:24:28.680 --> 0:24:30.920 we can see it still full, so it hasn't finished 0:24:31.240 --> 0:24:33.920 the drop off. Anyway, the people in the car wind 0:24:33.960 --> 0:24:36.480 the window down and they were like, oh, we're so sorry. 0:24:36.480 --> 0:24:38.800 We got the address wrong. Our addresses just a little 0:24:38.800 --> 0:24:40.440 bit further. And then as they were in the middle 0:24:40.440 --> 0:24:41.520 of the sentence, she was like. 0:24:41.800 --> 0:24:44.400 Oh my god, it's life on cut. 0:24:44.800 --> 0:24:46.680 And the girl who was in the Gojack. 0:24:46.440 --> 0:24:49.360 Was like, why so sorry? When we talk your Gojack. 0:24:49.080 --> 0:24:51.680 And she got out. It was so cute. She got out. 0:24:51.800 --> 0:24:54.360 She stole your star, She stolent Uber she didn't give 0:24:54.359 --> 0:24:56.199 it back. She stole my Gojack. She loved you, but 0:24:56.280 --> 0:24:58.080 not enough to give you the uber back, which I 0:24:58.240 --> 0:25:00.320 have a lot of respect for. She got out and 0:25:00.359 --> 0:25:02.439 she was like, I'm coming to your Sydney live show. 0:25:02.600 --> 0:25:04.919 So it was very cool. Running into life is in 0:25:05.000 --> 0:25:06.840 BALI who are coming to the live shows? 0:25:06.920 --> 0:25:07.720 That is really cool. 0:25:07.760 --> 0:25:09.760 And this is your reminder that if you don't have 0:25:09.840 --> 0:25:12.560 your live show tickets yet, the shows start in two 0:25:12.640 --> 0:25:15.400 weeks now. Our very first show is Adelaide and it's 0:25:15.440 --> 0:25:17.640 going to be so much fun. And if you haven't 0:25:17.680 --> 0:25:21.080 sent us, you're accidently unfiltered stories. You ask Guncut questions. 0:25:21.240 --> 0:25:23.800 If you're coming to a live show, we want real 0:25:24.000 --> 0:25:26.119 life content. You can remain anonymous. 0:25:26.240 --> 0:25:26.800 You shouldn't. 0:25:26.920 --> 0:25:28.480 We would love to get you up on stage and 0:25:28.480 --> 0:25:30.600 do it all together. But if you want to remain anonymous, 0:25:30.600 --> 0:25:33.760 it's okay. Just come to the shows, get your tickets, 0:25:33.920 --> 0:25:36.119 send us your content. At every single show, we've got 0:25:36.160 --> 0:25:38.000 different guests coming. And if you've been following along on 0:25:38.080 --> 0:25:40.000 Instagram on Life on Cut podcast, you will see that 0:25:40.040 --> 0:25:43.240 we've been dropping. We've been bred caraming the guests along. 0:25:43.520 --> 0:25:46.800 In Adelaide, we have Emily Weir and also Kelly Finlayson. 0:25:47.200 --> 0:25:49.480 Now Emily, you guys might know her from home and away, 0:25:49.920 --> 0:25:54.040 But the reason why I wanted and dancing with the stuff, Yeah, 0:25:54.040 --> 0:25:57.000 she was like the runner up. She was fucking amazzing 0:25:57.040 --> 0:26:00.000 with a salcer, also with her fantastic whipped you with 0:26:00.040 --> 0:26:00.520 her tassel. 0:26:00.680 --> 0:26:04.080 She was so so my god, how did I not 0:26:04.160 --> 0:26:06.200 think of this as if I'm not making you guys 0:26:06.200 --> 0:26:09.040 do a dance off for the live show, fucking brilliant. 0:26:09.320 --> 0:26:12.680 I will do the floss because I have forgotten my 0:26:13.200 --> 0:26:15.879 sulcinering with Emily, and I will do some sort of 0:26:15.920 --> 0:26:16.680 work in the background. 0:26:16.720 --> 0:26:16.960 Okay. 0:26:16.960 --> 0:26:19.320 So the reason why I wanted to get em on 0:26:19.640 --> 0:26:21.600 the live show and I was so excited for us 0:26:21.640 --> 0:26:23.600 to interview her is because we were doing like press 0:26:23.640 --> 0:26:25.760 around dancing with the stars, and we were sitting in 0:26:25.760 --> 0:26:29.480 the green room of like the Today Show. Right, and Emily, 0:26:29.920 --> 0:26:32.400 she will stay out late, she will party as hard 0:26:32.400 --> 0:26:33.960 as the rest of them. But when I say party, 0:26:34.040 --> 0:26:36.760 she is completely sober. She doesn't drink, she doesn't do 0:26:36.800 --> 0:26:37.440 any drugs. 0:26:37.720 --> 0:26:41.800 She is stone cold, soberrady, one eighty cleany, but not 0:26:41.840 --> 0:26:47.960 a Meani. I liked Mark in our next jumper, which 0:26:48.160 --> 0:26:50.199 you know, and we've spoken about sobriety quite a bit 0:26:50.200 --> 0:26:52.919 on this podcast. We've done episodes on conscious sobriety before. 0:26:53.400 --> 0:26:56.120 I was kind of shocked when Emily said, I can't 0:26:56.160 --> 0:26:56.960 remember what we were doing. 0:26:56.960 --> 0:26:58.760 Maybe it was like at one of the finals for 0:26:58.840 --> 0:27:00.440 dancing and I was like running aroun with the bottle 0:27:00.440 --> 0:27:02.119 of gin backstage and I was like on a swig 0:27:02.160 --> 0:27:04.320 and she and she was very much like, no, I'm sober. 0:27:04.840 --> 0:27:06.879 And it still struck me as like a bit of 0:27:06.920 --> 0:27:10.119 a oh, like weird, yeah, weird. And I hate that 0:27:10.680 --> 0:27:13.159 I had that reaction because I should know better, but 0:27:13.200 --> 0:27:15.800 I did have this instant like, oh, you don't drink, Okay, 0:27:15.800 --> 0:27:18.280 that's interesting. Anyway, the next day, when we were in 0:27:18.320 --> 0:27:19.840 the green room of the day room, we were talking 0:27:19.880 --> 0:27:23.920 about it, and Emily she said, you know, I never 0:27:23.960 --> 0:27:25.720 would have achieved the things that I've achieved, and I 0:27:25.760 --> 0:27:27.720 would never be where I am now in my career 0:27:27.800 --> 0:27:29.919 or in my personal life if I hadn't stopped drinking. 0:27:30.000 --> 0:27:33.040 And so I am so looking forward to having that conversation, 0:27:33.320 --> 0:27:35.840 a broader conversation around that on stage, because I think 0:27:35.880 --> 0:27:39.439 Emily is she's so she's honestly the life of the party. 0:27:39.480 --> 0:27:43.440 She's so inspirational, and I think her approach to alcohol 0:27:43.560 --> 0:27:45.640 is something that's very, very relatable to a lot of us. 0:27:45.680 --> 0:27:48.120 She's also such a breath of fresh air. She's got 0:27:48.160 --> 0:27:51.600 so much energy, and she's so chatty and she's so happy. 0:27:51.680 --> 0:27:53.560 She's just like one of those people that you love 0:27:53.640 --> 0:27:56.240 to be around. So I'm super excited about that. But then, 0:27:56.480 --> 0:27:59.520 speaking of inspiration, we also have Kelly Finlayson. You guys 0:27:59.600 --> 0:28:01.800 might have heard the episode we did with Kelly a 0:28:01.840 --> 0:28:05.800 little while ago. So Kelly is Adelaide based, and she 0:28:06.040 --> 0:28:09.920 has been battling bowel cancer which spread to her lungs 0:28:09.920 --> 0:28:12.240 stage four for quite a long time. She sort of 0:28:12.280 --> 0:28:14.159 found out immediately after she was pregnant. She had it 0:28:14.200 --> 0:28:16.000 when she was pregnant. So she's got a little girl, 0:28:16.200 --> 0:28:19.399 and we're going to catch up with Kelly and talk 0:28:19.440 --> 0:28:21.760 a lot about what that process is like where she's 0:28:21.760 --> 0:28:23.879 at now because it was spreading and she was trying 0:28:23.920 --> 0:28:27.000 some new alternative treatments. I know you guys loved that 0:28:27.040 --> 0:28:29.880 episode so much. She's also the most positive and bright 0:28:29.920 --> 0:28:32.359 and bubbly person as well. So Adelaide is gonna be 0:28:32.400 --> 0:28:34.720 incredible I'm really looking forward to. Even if you haven't 0:28:34.720 --> 0:28:36.480 listened to Kelly's story, you'll get enough of it at 0:28:36.520 --> 0:28:37.960 the show. But if you have listened to it, there'll 0:28:37.960 --> 0:28:39.880 be plenty of things that are new to follow on 0:28:39.960 --> 0:28:40.680 from it as well. 0:28:40.880 --> 0:28:42.480 But yes, go and get your tickets. It's life on 0:28:42.520 --> 0:28:44.840 cutpodcast dot com dot a you. There is a ticket 0:28:44.880 --> 0:28:47.640 link page on the website and you can get tickets 0:28:47.640 --> 0:28:49.959 to all the shows there. But Adelaide, you are our 0:28:50.000 --> 0:28:51.560 number one baby, and we are coming for you in 0:28:51.600 --> 0:28:56.080 two weeks. All right, it is time for Accidentally Unfiltered 0:28:56.360 --> 0:28:58.280 And Britt has been pissing herself for the last twenty 0:28:58.280 --> 0:28:59.400 five minutes about this one. 0:28:59.440 --> 0:29:01.760 But sometimes I wonder. Sometimes I find things funny and 0:29:01.760 --> 0:29:03.520 I'm like, does anyone else funny? It'sunny? Are my sigo? 0:29:03.760 --> 0:29:04.240 Okay? 0:29:04.400 --> 0:29:07.280 Hey, ladies, It's taken me a while to write this 0:29:07.320 --> 0:29:09.840 one in it is a memory I'd rather forget. When 0:29:09.880 --> 0:29:12.280 I was nineteen or twenty, I went through a weird 0:29:12.320 --> 0:29:16.880 phase where my discharge stunk. I must have had BV 0:29:17.120 --> 0:29:19.640 or something and just not known it. But I'm talking 0:29:20.000 --> 0:29:20.600 really bad. 0:29:20.960 --> 0:29:21.400 Obviously. 0:29:21.440 --> 0:29:23.600 I was really self conscious and worried about it. As 0:29:23.600 --> 0:29:25.000 it has never happened to me before. 0:29:25.480 --> 0:29:25.920 Anyway. 0:29:26.400 --> 0:29:28.320 One day I was hanging out with this guy I 0:29:28.440 --> 0:29:30.760 was in love with, and he grabbed my phone to 0:29:30.840 --> 0:29:35.160 google something and my last search result came up. He 0:29:35.240 --> 0:29:39.760 reads it out loud, Why does my vagina discharge stick? 0:29:41.080 --> 0:29:44.320 Ha ha? He had a shocked look on his face, 0:29:44.360 --> 0:29:48.000 And I tell you, my survival instincts kicked in. I said, oh, 0:29:48.120 --> 0:29:53.120 ha ha, very funny, Michael, very funny for googling that Michael, 0:29:53.560 --> 0:29:56.960 and acted unfazed as if our mutual friend Michael, who 0:29:57.000 --> 0:29:59.520 is known as a jokester, had taken my phone. 0:30:00.000 --> 0:30:00.760 You're a good bat. 0:30:01.600 --> 0:30:03.640 I think he believed me and it just got brushed 0:30:03.640 --> 0:30:06.320 aside and never discussed again. But I tell you my 0:30:06.400 --> 0:30:07.640 fight or flight kicked in. 0:30:08.320 --> 0:30:09.800 Good lie, that's a solid like. 0:30:10.000 --> 0:30:12.640 Michael the joke Stop. No, it is not Michael, the 0:30:12.720 --> 0:30:15.600 jokes that took my phone and googled why does my 0:30:15.600 --> 0:30:18.920 life for trying to dischouge stick? As a side note, 0:30:19.280 --> 0:30:21.160 we got an update. There's a side note. I am 0:30:21.200 --> 0:30:23.360 now twenty six and have been with the above mentioned 0:30:23.360 --> 0:30:26.320 bloke for four years. We own properties together and live together, 0:30:26.400 --> 0:30:29.800 and my discharge no longer stinks. My unsolicited advice to 0:30:29.840 --> 0:30:32.440 listeners go to the doctors and delete your search history. 0:30:32.520 --> 0:30:37.640 Happy ending, but the trauma lives on. Wow, but I reckon, 0:30:37.680 --> 0:30:41.120 there'd be so many stories about when something when you've 0:30:41.160 --> 0:30:43.360 googled someone and then you open your phone in that 0:30:43.400 --> 0:30:45.040 person sees it. I feel like it happened to me 0:30:45.080 --> 0:30:46.840 a couple of weeks ago. Actually, I just got a flashback. 0:30:47.000 --> 0:30:48.560 I'll have to sit on that and think who it was. 0:30:48.920 --> 0:30:50.600 I was at work. This is many, many many years 0:30:50.600 --> 0:30:51.920 ago when I used to work an office and I 0:30:51.960 --> 0:30:53.960 remember one of my colleagues opened something on his phone 0:30:53.960 --> 0:30:54.920 and he'd been watching porn. 0:30:55.880 --> 0:30:58.240 Just came as, I reckon, that's really common. 0:30:58.840 --> 0:31:00.960 I reckon, that's really good. All so can I also 0:31:01.000 --> 0:31:04.000 want to say getting BV is also common. Fucking everyone 0:31:04.080 --> 0:31:05.960 has a stint of it at some point in their life. 0:31:06.000 --> 0:31:07.960 Just go and get some antibiotics. 0:31:08.000 --> 0:31:09.560 Yeah, but I think the moral of the story is 0:31:09.600 --> 0:31:12.920 here is that like, if you get it, fine, but. 0:31:12.920 --> 0:31:13.560 Go to the doctor. 0:31:13.640 --> 0:31:13.840 Yeah. 0:31:13.880 --> 0:31:16.120 But the problem is is because nobody ever talks about it. 0:31:16.120 --> 0:31:18.000 No one's ever like I've got back to gagonosis. 0:31:18.040 --> 0:31:18.200 Yeah. 0:31:18.200 --> 0:31:19.800 When I was in my early twenties, I hadn't ever 0:31:19.840 --> 0:31:23.000 had it. Oh fuck. It was the worst. I was like, what. 0:31:25.240 --> 0:31:29.480 Vagina sty dead? And my boyfriend at the time was 0:31:29.480 --> 0:31:31.880 a doctor and he was like, you have BV. And 0:31:31.920 --> 0:31:33.960 now it turns out there's been research that's come out 0:31:34.000 --> 0:31:36.560 that it's from them actually catch it from guys and 0:31:36.600 --> 0:31:38.160 he was cheating on me. So you know what, that 0:31:38.200 --> 0:31:41.000 doesn't checks out. That is some but yeah, so just 0:31:41.080 --> 0:31:44.440 like go and get yourself checked because it's like, it's 0:31:44.560 --> 0:31:46.840 not normal to smell that bad, and it's also shouldn't 0:31:46.840 --> 0:31:48.800 be embarrassing, and it's so easy to treat, but it's 0:31:48.800 --> 0:31:52.200 also so easy to ignore. I have one which I 0:31:52.200 --> 0:31:54.200 think is cute, and it's the podcast related. I was 0:31:54.240 --> 0:31:56.160 listening to your episode from quite a while ago where 0:31:56.160 --> 0:31:58.280 you were talking about squirting on the way to school 0:31:58.280 --> 0:32:00.640 pickup in the car. When I got and I started 0:32:00.640 --> 0:32:02.640 walking through the school, I went to open my phone 0:32:02.640 --> 0:32:05.680 and somehow managed to hit play on the podcast, and 0:32:05.720 --> 0:32:08.640 it was right when Laura said, very loudly, well, it 0:32:08.680 --> 0:32:10.680 really depends on how much liquid and what can be 0:32:10.720 --> 0:32:13.920 defined as squirting, And it came out so loud through 0:32:13.920 --> 0:32:15.920 my speaker right in the middle of the school pickup 0:32:15.960 --> 0:32:17.880 when all of the parents were standing there waiting for 0:32:17.920 --> 0:32:20.320 their small children. I fumbled with my phone, trying to 0:32:20.320 --> 0:32:23.040 turn the volume down, but instead I hit the emergency 0:32:23.040 --> 0:32:26.040 call on the home screen. I panicked turned my phone off. 0:32:26.400 --> 0:32:29.120 Everyone was looking at me, and everybody heard that I 0:32:29.160 --> 0:32:31.040 was listening to a podcast about squirting. 0:32:31.200 --> 0:32:33.200 To be fair, that was probably listening to Yeah if 0:32:33.240 --> 0:32:35.480 their mums, I hope, so yeah? And is there not 0:32:35.720 --> 0:32:36.640 you tell them about it? 0:32:36.720 --> 0:32:38.800 Life one God, you live your best squirting life. Do 0:32:38.920 --> 0:32:41.360 nothing to be ashamed of BV and a squirter. That 0:32:41.520 --> 0:32:42.200 is so funny. 0:32:42.200 --> 0:32:44.560 What a way to round that episode out. Okay, well 0:32:44.560 --> 0:32:48.000 should we talk about what the episode is about? Look yet? 0:32:48.000 --> 0:32:51.240 No? Now we shouldn't. We should have just ended here. 0:32:51.440 --> 0:32:54.840 No, look today, I'm really excited to bring you this episode. 0:32:54.880 --> 0:32:58.240 And the reason I say excited is because this story 0:32:58.520 --> 0:33:00.120 is a friend of mine, a friend I went to 0:33:00.160 --> 0:33:03.920 school with, and she has a truly incredible story, and 0:33:03.960 --> 0:33:07.680 she's so passionate and happy and vibrant and positive that 0:33:07.880 --> 0:33:09.680 I just feel like I wanted the world to know 0:33:09.760 --> 0:33:13.400 her story. So her name is Alison Wilcox. Alison and 0:33:13.440 --> 0:33:17.320 her sister, Sally, are three years apart. Alison went to 0:33:17.360 --> 0:33:20.120 school with my sister Sherry in the same year, and 0:33:20.640 --> 0:33:23.240 I was in Sally's year, so like we all have 0:33:23.320 --> 0:33:26.160 known each other a very long time. When Allison was 0:33:26.160 --> 0:33:28.600 only eighteen years old, she was in a really bad 0:33:28.720 --> 0:33:33.120 car accident where she nearly died and she was left 0:33:33.160 --> 0:33:36.440 as a paraplegic. She has since over the years had 0:33:37.680 --> 0:33:42.120 upwards of one hundred operations, all from these secondary conditions 0:33:42.200 --> 0:33:44.360 from the accident. Like it's not like she how the 0:33:44.400 --> 0:33:47.680 accident was done. She's just spent her whole life literally 0:33:47.760 --> 0:33:50.080 since that day in hospital, six months at a time. 0:33:50.640 --> 0:33:52.880 And her sister Sally, who I went to school with, 0:33:52.960 --> 0:33:55.600 has just been like a savior for her. They're best friends, 0:33:55.640 --> 0:33:57.680 they call each other's soulmates. Then they've really looked after 0:33:57.760 --> 0:34:01.240 each other. I recently thought again about Ali's story because 0:34:01.280 --> 0:34:03.600 I saw her on the project talking about this bucket 0:34:03.600 --> 0:34:05.720 list that she's ticking off. She's decided to go and 0:34:05.760 --> 0:34:09.040 travel the world tick a bucket list off because she 0:34:09.080 --> 0:34:11.360 doesn't know how long she has to live. When the 0:34:11.400 --> 0:34:15.160 time comes, she has decided to do voluntary euthanasia. So 0:34:15.200 --> 0:34:17.680 she has decided that she will be in charge of 0:34:17.680 --> 0:34:20.719 when her life ends, as opposed to letting her injuries 0:34:20.719 --> 0:34:23.560 and her body decide whether you know someone or you 0:34:23.640 --> 0:34:27.640 don't hearing somebody that's your age go through that, and 0:34:27.719 --> 0:34:29.759 she was so happy and positive when she was talking 0:34:29.760 --> 0:34:31.080 about it, and I just thought, I just want to 0:34:31.120 --> 0:34:33.400 tell your story, like, let the world know how amazing 0:34:33.400 --> 0:34:34.120 you are for me. 0:34:34.280 --> 0:34:36.760 I mean, I loved speaking to Ali, and I think, 0:34:36.920 --> 0:34:39.120 you know, you nailed it so well Britain saying that 0:34:39.239 --> 0:34:41.880 she's so positive, which I think for a lot of people, 0:34:41.920 --> 0:34:43.719 you think, how could you be so positive when you're 0:34:43.719 --> 0:34:46.120 faced with such adversity. But Ali is the type of 0:34:46.160 --> 0:34:49.840 person that I think she deals with tragedy with dark humor, 0:34:49.920 --> 0:34:52.120 Like it's that whole anecdote of like if you don't laugh, 0:34:52.160 --> 0:34:54.480 you cry. But I think one of the parts of 0:34:54.480 --> 0:34:58.000 this conversation that's so interesting is Allie's speaking about euthanasia 0:34:58.080 --> 0:35:00.319 and what she considers and wants to do with her 0:35:00.400 --> 0:35:02.680 end of life, because it is such a complex topic, 0:35:03.160 --> 0:35:05.719 and she's speaking about it from her own personal experiences, 0:35:05.960 --> 0:35:08.560 but also touching on how that affects her family and 0:35:08.640 --> 0:35:11.839 her parents and her sister. It's a really beautiful chat 0:35:11.880 --> 0:35:15.000 and I think her story is just profoundly incredible. 0:35:16.760 --> 0:35:19.760 Allie welcome to life on cut and I appreciate it. Well, Allie. 0:35:19.800 --> 0:35:21.359 It's always good to start at the bottom and then 0:35:21.360 --> 0:35:24.080 work our way back up from there. We do a 0:35:24.080 --> 0:35:26.080 thing at the start of every interview. It is called 0:35:26.120 --> 0:35:30.040 an accidentally unfiltered story, your most embarrassing story, and I 0:35:30.160 --> 0:35:31.280 hear you have a good one. 0:35:31.440 --> 0:35:34.360 I'll get you to choose which one my first period 0:35:34.760 --> 0:35:36.280 or a nude story. 0:35:36.120 --> 0:35:39.239 My first period, or we go both, but I reckon 0:35:39.280 --> 0:35:40.200 go a nude story. 0:35:40.400 --> 0:35:43.279 Okay, all right, I'm like, I don't know all my 0:35:43.360 --> 0:35:48.120 male friends will listen to this. Within the first weeks 0:35:48.120 --> 0:35:50.839 of being home from the hospital after my accident, all 0:35:50.880 --> 0:35:53.440 my friends were around Port McCrorie and we used to 0:35:53.440 --> 0:35:57.200 party a lot. So we hired a townhouse that was 0:35:57.440 --> 0:36:00.000 up the road from my house, the two story townhouse. 0:36:00.160 --> 0:36:02.239 So we're having a party there and I found out 0:36:02.320 --> 0:36:05.440 they had a spa, which was just a hot spa, 0:36:05.520 --> 0:36:06.440 so I was like, I need to get in there 0:36:06.440 --> 0:36:08.040 would be good for my body. And I was dating 0:36:08.080 --> 0:36:10.000 this Mexican guy at the time, and it was a 0:36:10.080 --> 0:36:13.000 huge language barrier between us, and all he could say 0:36:13.120 --> 0:36:14.760 was mummy and all I said was puppy. 0:36:15.160 --> 0:36:17.280 So we didn't really think, well, that was a great 0:36:17.360 --> 0:36:18.399 connection you guys had. 0:36:20.600 --> 0:36:23.840 Yeah, exactly, like this is good. So we went in 0:36:23.840 --> 0:36:26.480 the spa, him and I and we pretty much skinny 0:36:26.480 --> 0:36:28.359 dipped in the spa and I got out of the spar. 0:36:28.480 --> 0:36:30.680 He lifted me out. He was great, Like all the 0:36:30.680 --> 0:36:33.399 guys I've dated since my accident, they've just been really 0:36:33.440 --> 0:36:35.880 carrying a kind so he would lifted me everywhere. So 0:36:35.920 --> 0:36:38.200 he lifted me out of the spa. And when I 0:36:38.239 --> 0:36:40.440 got out of the spar I realized I didn't know 0:36:40.440 --> 0:36:42.640 how to dress myself. So I was so new to 0:36:42.640 --> 0:36:45.480 my accident, and my mum would dress me for about 0:36:45.520 --> 0:36:47.440 two three years, and I was like, fucka, how am 0:36:47.440 --> 0:36:48.640 I going to put my money so on? How I'm 0:36:48.640 --> 0:36:49.560 going to put my bra on? 0:36:50.080 --> 0:36:50.880 Oh my god. 0:36:50.960 --> 0:36:53.680 I slipped my boobchoop dress over and then we went 0:36:53.719 --> 0:36:56.680 back to the townhouse and he piggybacked me up to 0:36:56.719 --> 0:36:59.279 the second floor and we sat on the veranda and 0:36:59.320 --> 0:37:01.279 I was in my wheel and I don't know if 0:37:01.320 --> 0:37:03.839 it was the wine or if it was dark, but 0:37:03.960 --> 0:37:07.160 I started to roll and I didn't realize that there 0:37:07.200 --> 0:37:10.880 was no railing on the brander. Oh my god, I 0:37:11.000 --> 0:37:15.520 fell three meters off the veranda onto the concrete on 0:37:15.560 --> 0:37:17.680 the ground. I rolled out into the road. As soon 0:37:17.680 --> 0:37:20.279 as I hit the ground, my boob tube went up 0:37:20.320 --> 0:37:22.520 and down and went around my stomach. 0:37:22.680 --> 0:37:24.040 Alie, this is messed up. 0:37:24.120 --> 0:37:28.520 Only people in this house party Allie and he was 0:37:28.600 --> 0:37:33.440 at the top and he was screaming, mummy, mommy, and 0:37:33.480 --> 0:37:37.000 I was like, good, my puppy helped me. We were 0:37:37.000 --> 0:37:40.160 screaming so loudly that everyone in this house came out 0:37:41.080 --> 0:37:44.280 and they were just saw me laying slats. 0:37:43.840 --> 0:37:46.680 On the ground nude. And I couldn't sit up or 0:37:47.280 --> 0:37:50.120 do anything at that time. So my best friend raced 0:37:50.160 --> 0:37:52.360 out and like lifted me into my wheelchair and I 0:37:52.400 --> 0:37:54.360 was like, oh Holly, that's the worst. 0:37:54.640 --> 0:37:57.440 We can't love it, Ellie. This isn't a news story. 0:37:57.600 --> 0:38:00.520 That's fux. That's the trauma. You were fell up a 0:38:00.560 --> 0:38:01.719 bony onto the road. 0:38:01.800 --> 0:38:03.920 I was laying on the ground. I was like, if 0:38:03.960 --> 0:38:06.920 I ever become unemployed, I could be a leveler for 0:38:06.960 --> 0:38:09.560 a builder. Gildish to pay me to go into the 0:38:09.560 --> 0:38:12.560 houses and tell the wind the floor's not level. 0:38:12.719 --> 0:38:13.759 Because you'll roll off. 0:38:14.600 --> 0:38:16.439 Yeah. After that, I was like, I need to date 0:38:16.520 --> 0:38:18.080 someone where there's no language barrier. 0:38:18.400 --> 0:38:20.480 I think the best part of this is laying on 0:38:20.520 --> 0:38:27.040 the ground naked screaming mummy Poppy. That is incredible. It 0:38:27.120 --> 0:38:29.000 is incredible. But now I need to hear the period 0:38:29.000 --> 0:38:30.680 story because if it's almost as good as that one, 0:38:30.719 --> 0:38:31.799 I don't know if you can top it. 0:38:32.160 --> 0:38:34.840 So I was a bitch to my mum when I 0:38:34.880 --> 0:38:37.200 was fifteen. I got my period when I was pretty late, 0:38:37.280 --> 0:38:39.040 so he's just surf a lot. So the first day 0:38:39.040 --> 0:38:42.080 I got my period was after school, was like three pm, 0:38:42.400 --> 0:38:43.919 and Mom was like, do you want me to help 0:38:43.960 --> 0:38:45.680 you with anything? And I was like pretty much like 0:38:45.800 --> 0:38:49.480 fuck off, leave me alone. So I put a tampon 0:38:49.520 --> 0:38:51.000 in and then I went out to it and I 0:38:51.040 --> 0:38:52.920 was like, drive me to the beach. You want to 0:38:52.920 --> 0:38:54.719 go for a surf. So she drove me to the 0:38:54.760 --> 0:38:58.080 beach and my boyfriend at the time was out Bodybody, 0:38:58.400 --> 0:39:00.520 and I was like, cool, here's here, it would be 0:39:00.600 --> 0:39:02.799 nice to see him. I feel like crap. So I 0:39:02.840 --> 0:39:06.400 went out and I just caught away, stood up and 0:39:06.440 --> 0:39:11.120 I felt something dropped between my legs and I just 0:39:11.160 --> 0:39:15.040 looked down and there was the most inflated tample like 0:39:15.080 --> 0:39:18.719 it looked like a marshmallow. Speaking on my surfboard. He 0:39:18.760 --> 0:39:21.400 looked at me, he looked at that. He caught a 0:39:21.400 --> 0:39:24.799 wave in never said anything too. And then I got 0:39:24.800 --> 0:39:26.840 in the car to my mom and I explained to 0:39:26.880 --> 0:39:29.520 what happened. She was like, how did that happen? And 0:39:29.560 --> 0:39:31.600 I was like, well, aren't you just supposed to put 0:39:31.640 --> 0:39:34.799 a tampon like in between your lips like a song. 0:39:34.920 --> 0:39:38.000 You was like, no, you're supposed to put it. 0:39:37.960 --> 0:39:41.040 Up like a hot dog dog, like a hot dog. 0:39:41.360 --> 0:39:42.959 Literally, it was like a hot dog. 0:39:44.080 --> 0:39:44.279 Yeah. 0:39:44.400 --> 0:39:46.520 It was just awful. And then I was like, I 0:39:46.520 --> 0:39:48.440 should probably be nicer to my mom. She was like 0:39:48.560 --> 0:39:51.280 offering to help me, and I was like, it's off. 0:39:52.040 --> 0:39:55.080 But it's also crazy that at fifteen, through your friends, 0:39:55.080 --> 0:39:57.680 all through school or some signed a chat, you haven't 0:39:57.920 --> 0:39:59.120 been taught how to put a tamp on. 0:39:59.200 --> 0:40:00.920 It on one And you're like, I feel like my 0:40:00.920 --> 0:40:02.879 parents should have told me this at some point prior 0:40:03.040 --> 0:40:05.200 tending to put a tampont in, But also like, how 0:40:05.239 --> 0:40:08.000 did at no point of sex education or like schooling, 0:40:08.400 --> 0:40:10.279 was there not a class where someone said, here is 0:40:10.280 --> 0:40:12.160 a pad and this is a tampon. Just so that 0:40:12.200 --> 0:40:14.520 we know that there's some consistency to the education that's 0:40:14.560 --> 0:40:15.080 going out. 0:40:15.000 --> 0:40:17.399 And the more you actually picture and think about, like 0:40:17.719 --> 0:40:22.360 pulling the lips apart and just horizontally putting tap And 0:40:22.400 --> 0:40:23.440 it was so easy. 0:40:23.680 --> 0:40:25.719 And everyone was saying how hard it was to put 0:40:25.760 --> 0:40:27.480 them in when you first got your parents, and I 0:40:27.560 --> 0:40:29.080 was like, oh, that was too busy. 0:40:30.600 --> 0:40:32.120 She's like, what's everyone talking? 0:40:32.360 --> 0:40:34.200 And that didn't raise any red flags. 0:40:34.200 --> 0:40:34.799 It's so good. 0:40:34.840 --> 0:40:36.560 It must be loose or something. I don't know. 0:40:36.960 --> 0:40:39.360 Oh my god, that's so important. I mean, that's a 0:40:39.360 --> 0:40:41.960 really important part of this story. So before your accident 0:40:42.000 --> 0:40:45.279 at Tampon at eighteen, No, before at eighteen, you were 0:40:45.440 --> 0:40:47.799 super active. You were an amazing I remember, like, you're 0:40:47.840 --> 0:40:50.399 an amazing surfer. You served every single day. So tell 0:40:50.440 --> 0:40:52.600 us a little bit about your life before the accident. 0:40:52.800 --> 0:40:55.359 So I was very lucky growing up, Mum and dad 0:40:55.400 --> 0:40:57.920 living at home. They were both chef they both became 0:40:58.000 --> 0:41:01.400 nurses when I was about twelve. It's a very caring environment. 0:41:01.840 --> 0:41:03.880 I have an older sister who's four years older than me, 0:41:04.200 --> 0:41:07.200 and we were both really active. I got into a 0:41:07.200 --> 0:41:10.560 few sports when I was young, but nothing beat surfing. 0:41:11.120 --> 0:41:14.320 So when I was about ten, I got into surfing 0:41:14.320 --> 0:41:17.839 competitively and I did it every day, and I've got 0:41:17.880 --> 0:41:20.440 really good friendships from that. My house was across the 0:41:20.480 --> 0:41:22.360 road from the beach, so I letter you could just 0:41:22.400 --> 0:41:24.560 walk across the road every day and go for a surf. 0:41:25.239 --> 0:41:27.439 And back then I could be at the beach from ten. 0:41:27.960 --> 0:41:30.480 My parents would just let me go do whatever. In 0:41:30.560 --> 0:41:32.879 Port we grew up in a really nice town, really 0:41:32.880 --> 0:41:36.120 good community, so everyone was outside being active. Yeah, so 0:41:36.160 --> 0:41:37.360 I had a really good childhood. 0:41:37.480 --> 0:41:39.480 Alie, how old were you when the accident happened. 0:41:39.760 --> 0:41:42.040 I was six weeks after my eighteenth birthday. 0:41:42.160 --> 0:41:44.520 Can you talk us through what happened that day, like, 0:41:44.600 --> 0:41:46.000 what was the sequence of events. 0:41:46.320 --> 0:41:48.200 Yeah, I was going on my first road trip with 0:41:48.440 --> 0:41:51.719 friends out to Narrowbright. We're going to the races. So 0:41:51.760 --> 0:41:54.120 we left on Friday and we're coming home on Sunday. 0:41:54.239 --> 0:41:56.640 So we went to the races on the Saturday, and 0:41:56.680 --> 0:41:59.640 then we left early on the Sunday to get home 0:41:59.680 --> 0:42:03.239 for work and stuff on Monday. And Narraw Brays through 0:42:03.280 --> 0:42:06.560 Welcome Mountain Ranges. So it's about a five hour drive 0:42:06.680 --> 0:42:07.960 west from Port McCrary. 0:42:08.080 --> 0:42:10.640 And they're really windy mountains, aren't they. 0:42:10.800 --> 0:42:14.400 Yeah, really windy and steep, and it's not trees and 0:42:14.440 --> 0:42:17.279 stuff on them. It's just like cliffs. That drop off 0:42:17.840 --> 0:42:20.640 started raining just a little bit, and then everyone was exhausted. 0:42:20.640 --> 0:42:22.960 In the car. I was in the front seat, My 0:42:23.040 --> 0:42:26.120 best friend was in the backseat, she's still my best 0:42:26.160 --> 0:42:29.480 friend to this day. And then the driver she was 0:42:29.600 --> 0:42:32.480 texting and driving. And back then I didn't think much 0:42:32.520 --> 0:42:35.239 of it. I was eighteen. I didn't think that was 0:42:35.280 --> 0:42:38.160 bad or anything. But she looked down at a text 0:42:38.239 --> 0:42:43.040 message and then overcrackt to the car. And then we 0:42:43.120 --> 0:42:48.160 rolled fourteen times off the mountain cliff embankment. And we're 0:42:48.200 --> 0:42:51.120 still pretty far away from Port McCrary, like two hours, 0:42:51.200 --> 0:42:54.839 so it was pretty rural area. So it took three 0:42:54.880 --> 0:42:57.359 hours for an ambulance to come. But yeah, we rolled 0:42:57.360 --> 0:42:58.800 fourteen times down the mountain. 0:42:59.080 --> 0:43:01.040 And so what happened the bottom of the mountain. Had 0:43:01.080 --> 0:43:03.600 you knocked yourself unconscious on the way down or were 0:43:03.640 --> 0:43:05.000 you conscious the whole time? 0:43:05.440 --> 0:43:08.480 Yeah, so on the third roll, I got knocked out. 0:43:08.640 --> 0:43:11.800 Oh my god. That I was thinking, Oh, this doesn't 0:43:11.800 --> 0:43:14.200 happen to my friends or family, will be fine, or 0:43:14.280 --> 0:43:17.240 just be being on the car, and I just envisioned 0:43:17.320 --> 0:43:19.520 us getting out and seeing a small ding on the 0:43:19.520 --> 0:43:22.480 front and being in trouble for crashing. So that's all 0:43:22.520 --> 0:43:24.759 I thought, we were crashing that when we got to 0:43:24.760 --> 0:43:29.640 the bottom, I became conscious and I couldn't breathe, and 0:43:29.680 --> 0:43:33.160 I knew then that something was seriously wrong. I never 0:43:33.239 --> 0:43:36.880 knew exactly how wrong, but when I couldn't breathe, I 0:43:36.960 --> 0:43:40.719 was like, this is not good. Tim climbed over me 0:43:41.320 --> 0:43:43.359 to get out of the car, and she kept saying 0:43:43.400 --> 0:43:46.040 to me, come on, Ali, get out, get out, get out, 0:43:46.400 --> 0:43:49.680 because there was fuel everywhere. I could feel fuel burning me. 0:43:50.600 --> 0:43:52.680 So she was screaming at me to get out, and 0:43:52.880 --> 0:43:56.560 I couldn't even talk because I couldn't breathe. But I 0:43:56.600 --> 0:43:58.719 was saying I can't move, I can't move, help me. 0:43:59.280 --> 0:44:03.080 And then she ended up tearing all the cords in Hello, 0:44:03.760 --> 0:44:06.160 So technically she shouldn't be able to walk. It's one 0:44:06.200 --> 0:44:08.879 of those stories you hear with adrenaline. But she got 0:44:08.880 --> 0:44:12.239 me out, gave me CPR, got me awake, so I 0:44:12.320 --> 0:44:15.200 kept going in and out of consciousness, stop breathing. So 0:44:15.239 --> 0:44:17.120 she got me out of the car and then climbed 0:44:17.120 --> 0:44:19.960 to the top of the mountain and screamed for help. 0:44:20.360 --> 0:44:24.439 And she did that with two torn quad muscles, which, 0:44:24.560 --> 0:44:28.640 like you just said, physiologically, that should mean you are 0:44:28.680 --> 0:44:31.080 not walking around, Like this is what he's connecting your 0:44:31.200 --> 0:44:33.640 need to your hip. You should not be walking. But 0:44:33.680 --> 0:44:35.680 she managed to climb a mountain and find help. 0:44:35.840 --> 0:44:36.600 Yeah, exactly. 0:44:36.840 --> 0:44:39.240 Wow, what happened to the driver? 0:44:40.000 --> 0:44:43.279 She was fine, She didn't get any serious injuries. I 0:44:43.280 --> 0:44:46.279 think she was shocked. She just seemed really shocked at 0:44:46.280 --> 0:44:49.439 the accident. I don't remember much of her. I think 0:44:49.480 --> 0:44:52.919 they sat her away, but I remember Kim sitting next 0:44:52.920 --> 0:44:55.359 to me when I was waiting for the ambulance, and 0:44:55.400 --> 0:44:57.920 I had so much blood in my eyes. I kept 0:44:57.960 --> 0:45:00.880 saying to her, you're bleeding, You're bleeding, but it was 0:45:00.920 --> 0:45:02.640 coming out of my brain through my eyes. 0:45:02.719 --> 0:45:06.239 Oh my god, God. And why you said that? You 0:45:06.320 --> 0:45:09.120 felt like, I mean, you couldn't breathe. What was happening 0:45:09.160 --> 0:45:10.240 to your lungs at the time. 0:45:10.840 --> 0:45:13.959 So I broke all my ribs and they went through 0:45:14.000 --> 0:45:17.480 my lungs. So I was slowly drowning in my own blood. 0:45:18.040 --> 0:45:20.680 Oh my god, Elie, So I had like a leader 0:45:20.719 --> 0:45:21.800 of blood in my lungs. 0:45:22.080 --> 0:45:25.239 Were you in pain at that time or do you 0:45:25.280 --> 0:45:27.560 sort of go past the pain threshold? Because you hear 0:45:27.600 --> 0:45:30.759 sometimes people in these intense situations, they don't actually have 0:45:30.840 --> 0:45:32.759 any comprehension of how bad it is. 0:45:33.800 --> 0:45:36.560 I could feel the pain. That's what kept bringing me 0:45:36.600 --> 0:45:38.200 out of my life. When I was unconscious. It kept 0:45:38.200 --> 0:45:40.920 bringing me out, and the police officer didn't know what 0:45:41.000 --> 0:45:43.840 to do with me because I would stop breathing. He 0:45:43.960 --> 0:45:46.359 kept sitting me up, and every time I sat me up, 0:45:46.360 --> 0:45:49.160 I felt my neck collapsed. Oh my god, I could 0:45:49.200 --> 0:45:52.600 feel just pain all over my body. But he didn't 0:45:52.600 --> 0:45:54.640 know what to do. He was the new police officer. 0:45:55.160 --> 0:45:57.080 He was the first one on the scene with all 0:45:57.120 --> 0:45:59.960 emergency services, so I think he freaked out a bit. 0:46:00.280 --> 0:46:03.400 And so what happened when the emergency services arrived? What 0:46:03.440 --> 0:46:04.759 did they do to you? How did they treat you? 0:46:04.760 --> 0:46:05.919 And then how did you get out of there? 0:46:06.120 --> 0:46:08.640 So the ambulance came. I think as soon as they 0:46:08.680 --> 0:46:11.160 saw me, they were like, yeah, we can't take you 0:46:11.200 --> 0:46:11.799 to Port Base. 0:46:12.239 --> 0:46:16.719 God no, Port McCrory Base Hospital. If everyone is like 0:46:17.360 --> 0:46:19.480 ports of retirement towns. I mean, I worked at that 0:46:19.520 --> 0:46:24.239 hospital for ten years. It's equipped for low key emergencies, 0:46:24.239 --> 0:46:25.400 but not something like this. 0:46:25.719 --> 0:46:28.640 So they came and then as soon as they saw me. 0:46:28.680 --> 0:46:31.040 They were like, we need to call a helicopter. So 0:46:31.080 --> 0:46:34.440 the helicopter came from Newcastle. Their ambulance gave me a 0:46:34.480 --> 0:46:37.759 green whistle and they had to lift me up the 0:46:37.880 --> 0:46:40.680 hill and I was having the best time of life, 0:46:41.160 --> 0:46:42.719 Like as soon as they came that kareema, so I 0:46:42.719 --> 0:46:45.560 was like, this is great. Then it took about three 0:46:45.600 --> 0:46:48.720 hours to get there from the ambulance, I think, and 0:46:49.000 --> 0:46:51.799 I had a really lovely helicopter driver. I'm matty sure. 0:46:51.800 --> 0:46:54.040 It was like a pasta. And then I had a 0:46:54.040 --> 0:46:58.440 paramedic and they took me to roll not sure they 0:46:58.480 --> 0:47:03.160 were supposed to stop at John Hunter, but their paramedic 0:47:03.200 --> 0:47:05.879 said I would die if they stopped there because they 0:47:05.880 --> 0:47:08.319 weren't equipped to do with me because it was that bad. 0:47:08.360 --> 0:47:11.040 But usually you get trey yards to John Hunter. So 0:47:11.120 --> 0:47:13.480 I was that bad that they just skipped that and 0:47:13.480 --> 0:47:16.719 they ended up getting reprimanded for that. And like, I'm 0:47:16.760 --> 0:47:18.920 pretty sure the paramedic loss is on in four days 0:47:19.000 --> 0:47:19.400 or something. 0:47:19.760 --> 0:47:22.920 I heard you speak about this. And the paramedic who 0:47:22.960 --> 0:47:26.040 was flying the helicopter he made the decision that he 0:47:26.080 --> 0:47:28.359 was like the Newcastle hospital is just not equipped enough 0:47:28.440 --> 0:47:32.080 and he without the approval and against their wishes, he 0:47:32.160 --> 0:47:34.520 took you to another better equipped hospital. 0:47:34.600 --> 0:47:38.080 I remember them arguing. So it put me into like 0:47:38.160 --> 0:47:41.200 an induced coma in the helicopter, but my pain kept 0:47:41.280 --> 0:47:44.080 waken me out of that. And I remember a nurse 0:47:44.160 --> 0:47:46.200 trying to get me off at John Hunter because that's 0:47:46.200 --> 0:47:48.960 a refiel petrol there, and he was just like, no, 0:47:49.040 --> 0:47:51.000 remember taking arguing about it. 0:47:51.160 --> 0:47:53.439 I mean, it's such an incredible and also a huge 0:47:53.520 --> 0:47:55.600 risk that he took in order to do that. I mean, 0:47:55.640 --> 0:47:58.239 it's probably what saved your life, but also that's such 0:47:58.239 --> 0:48:02.560 a personal risk for his own career, and also you know, 0:48:02.600 --> 0:48:04.560 who knows what could have happened between that flight from 0:48:04.600 --> 0:48:06.080 Newcastle to Sydney. 0:48:05.880 --> 0:48:08.520 Exactly something happened. He had been so much trouble. 0:48:08.760 --> 0:48:12.239 Allison, what's your relationship like now with your friend who 0:48:12.280 --> 0:48:15.120 was driving the car? I asked this because you know, 0:48:15.239 --> 0:48:19.640 at seventeen eighteen, like we all did stupid things when 0:48:19.680 --> 0:48:22.399 we were driving, whether it be texting or driving too 0:48:22.480 --> 0:48:25.680 fast or just not paying attention because we all think 0:48:25.680 --> 0:48:29.320 are invincible. Have you got a relationship with that friend? Still? 0:48:29.440 --> 0:48:32.960 No, we don't talk anymore. I think at eighteen we 0:48:33.080 --> 0:48:36.560 both didn't understand the consequences of what happened. Yeah, so 0:48:37.520 --> 0:48:41.800 I didn't realize what my journey was and she didn't 0:48:41.800 --> 0:48:46.239 realize what her journey would be, So she lost a license. 0:48:46.600 --> 0:48:49.799 But I think our parents made the decision to cut 0:48:49.840 --> 0:48:52.680 contact for the both of us because I think for 0:48:52.760 --> 0:48:55.240 her to see me in a wheelchair every day would 0:48:55.239 --> 0:48:58.080 have been a lot for her. And then also the 0:48:58.120 --> 0:49:01.239 first five years after spinal injury, you go through so 0:49:01.360 --> 0:49:04.800 much mental health issues. So yeah, I think my parents 0:49:04.840 --> 0:49:07.920 made this decision for us. We spoke a couple of times, 0:49:08.280 --> 0:49:11.480 and she apologized, and she was really upset about her 0:49:12.239 --> 0:49:14.080 It must be I mean. 0:49:14.160 --> 0:49:16.200 I can't imagine. I can't put myself in that position, 0:49:16.520 --> 0:49:19.520 but it must be hard for you to hear that 0:49:19.520 --> 0:49:21.640 a part of the reason you're not friends is because 0:49:22.160 --> 0:49:25.160 she couldn't bear to look at you, like she couldn't 0:49:25.200 --> 0:49:25.760 bear the grief. 0:49:25.800 --> 0:49:28.080 There must be a part of you that's like, how 0:49:28.120 --> 0:49:29.120 the fuck do you think I. 0:49:29.080 --> 0:49:31.319 Feel like I'm the one that's now in a wheelchair, Like, 0:49:31.480 --> 0:49:32.520 suck it up a little bit. 0:49:33.080 --> 0:49:35.960 Yeah, there was a few things I wanted to do. 0:49:36.560 --> 0:49:38.920 I was like, when I get home, I'll take her 0:49:39.000 --> 0:49:41.360 up for lunch and I'll go to a place to stairs, 0:49:41.840 --> 0:49:44.960 oh and just not be able to get in. And 0:49:45.120 --> 0:49:49.760 I was like, okay, no, that's awful for both of us. Yeah. Yeah. 0:49:49.800 --> 0:49:54.040 So at eighteen, like now, I don't have any anger 0:49:54.760 --> 0:49:58.319 or I don't feel any emotions at all because I 0:49:58.400 --> 0:50:03.360 know it wasn't out of maliciousness. And I see people 0:50:03.360 --> 0:50:05.959 texting all the time. My friends still text and drive 0:50:06.400 --> 0:50:08.200 and it's just that common, and I know it's such 0:50:08.239 --> 0:50:09.120 a little mistake. 0:50:09.560 --> 0:50:11.640 It must infuriate you though, when it's your friends and 0:50:11.680 --> 0:50:14.279 you're like, this is why I'm like I am now. 0:50:14.480 --> 0:50:18.000 Yeah, yeah, can you talk us through? What were the 0:50:18.040 --> 0:50:19.400 injuries that were sustained? 0:50:20.040 --> 0:50:24.520 I got fucked up. Yeah, so I broke nine vertebra 0:50:24.640 --> 0:50:27.719 in my back from C three to T six. The 0:50:27.760 --> 0:50:30.800 biggest one was a burst fracture at T four which 0:50:30.920 --> 0:50:33.719 caused the spinal cord injury. So they set out a 0:50:33.719 --> 0:50:37.040 complete spina cord injury, so that means my spinal cord 0:50:37.160 --> 0:50:40.080 was fully squished. There's no blood in that section. And 0:50:40.120 --> 0:50:43.800 then I broke my collarbone my right hand. I popped 0:50:43.800 --> 0:50:46.080 something behind my eye with it, That's why there was 0:50:46.080 --> 0:50:48.719 so much blood. I broke my jaw. I lost a 0:50:48.719 --> 0:50:51.240 lot of my tea broke on my ribs, punction lungs. 0:50:51.640 --> 0:50:54.560 Was your brain okay? Like could you imagine that you'd 0:50:54.600 --> 0:50:56.360 have a bleed on the brain or something, because it 0:50:56.400 --> 0:50:56.920 sounds like. 0:50:56.960 --> 0:51:00.400 Yeah, Well, when the car rolled, the car collapse dawned 0:51:00.440 --> 0:51:04.000 to me. And for the first few months they thought 0:51:04.040 --> 0:51:06.880 I had a brain injury because they kept coming in 0:51:06.880 --> 0:51:08.239 and doing all the tests, but I was on a 0:51:08.280 --> 0:51:10.279 lot of drugs. So then they ended up doing the 0:51:10.320 --> 0:51:14.160 test six months after and it came back normal. But 0:51:14.200 --> 0:51:16.560 then I think to myself the amount of times had 0:51:16.600 --> 0:51:21.120 been under anesthetic and medications, like, there's got to be something, 0:51:21.480 --> 0:51:22.280 yeah there. 0:51:22.680 --> 0:51:25.399 Yeah, what did your recovery process look like? So when 0:51:25.440 --> 0:51:27.960 you went into rehab and then for how long were 0:51:27.960 --> 0:51:30.279 you in hospital? Like not just your recovery process, but 0:51:30.360 --> 0:51:33.200 like how your family were able to support you through that, 0:51:33.239 --> 0:51:35.719 Like what was that period like post the accident? 0:51:36.040 --> 0:51:39.319 So that was really difficult for my family. My best 0:51:39.320 --> 0:51:42.239 friend Kim called Dad the night of the outset. The 0:51:42.320 --> 0:51:47.040 cops didn't, she did, and he packed me one day's 0:51:47.040 --> 0:51:48.640 worth of clothes because he thought he would be me 0:51:48.680 --> 0:51:51.239 back the next day. So just no, and they drove 0:51:51.400 --> 0:51:55.359 down at nine pm. We crashed at six pm. They 0:51:55.480 --> 0:51:58.080 left sports at like nine or ten pm and got 0:51:58.120 --> 0:52:01.200 there like three am, and I just remember looking at 0:52:01.239 --> 0:52:03.480 my mom. I was on a ventilator by that point. 0:52:03.640 --> 0:52:05.200 I remember looking at my mum as she walked through 0:52:05.239 --> 0:52:08.160 the door and she just collapsed onto the ground and 0:52:08.200 --> 0:52:10.319 she couldn't look at me, so she didn't come into 0:52:10.320 --> 0:52:14.200 the room because I just looked awful, had blood. They 0:52:14.200 --> 0:52:17.040 couldn't clean the blood off me for months because they 0:52:17.080 --> 0:52:19.719 couldn't roll me or move me. And then Dad, he 0:52:19.880 --> 0:52:23.560 was really proactive and like logistical about it, so he 0:52:23.600 --> 0:52:26.839 came in and just started organizing everything. My sister flee 0:52:26.880 --> 0:52:29.479 down the next day. We ended up spending a year 0:52:29.520 --> 0:52:33.960 in hospital. I spent six months in acute spun Award 0:52:34.680 --> 0:52:37.720 and then six months at Royal Rehab in Sydney. 0:52:38.200 --> 0:52:41.760 Did you realize how bad it was before this moment 0:52:41.880 --> 0:52:45.080 or when your mom walked in and she couldn't be 0:52:45.120 --> 0:52:46.560 in the room or look at you. Was that a 0:52:46.600 --> 0:52:48.680 moment where you were like, fuck, this must be worse 0:52:48.719 --> 0:52:49.200 than I thought. 0:52:49.640 --> 0:52:53.480 Well, you don't really understand unless you work in the 0:52:53.480 --> 0:52:57.480 medical field. That's spinal God in dreamings forever, So I 0:52:57.560 --> 0:52:59.399 was like, oh, yeah, I'll just do rehab and it'll 0:52:59.440 --> 0:53:01.880 be fine. Yeah. So I never really understood any of 0:53:01.920 --> 0:53:05.680 it until six months in when I wasn't getting better, 0:53:06.120 --> 0:53:09.560 and like I had so many secondary complications from spinal 0:53:09.640 --> 0:53:12.759 cording injury that I realized I was going to be 0:53:12.800 --> 0:53:16.520 sick forever. So it wasn't until then I just thought 0:53:16.560 --> 0:53:19.000 I'd be doing rehab like a broken leg. 0:53:19.480 --> 0:53:22.520 Yeah. How many surgeries have you now had as part 0:53:22.560 --> 0:53:24.560 of your recovery process? 0:53:24.840 --> 0:53:27.960 Probably over one hundred. So every year I lose function 0:53:28.080 --> 0:53:32.160 in mums, and that due to spinal fluid that gets 0:53:32.200 --> 0:53:35.479 caught on the scar tissue. It's got a SEARINGX that's 0:53:35.480 --> 0:53:37.960 really Red's like three percent of people I could just 0:53:38.000 --> 0:53:42.279 get it. So every I've become a quatriplated for a 0:53:42.280 --> 0:53:44.920 few months and then they drain the fluid and that 0:53:45.080 --> 0:53:47.319 surgery is fifteen hours long. 0:53:47.600 --> 0:53:49.799 So just to be clear on that for those that 0:53:49.840 --> 0:53:52.759 are listening. So Allison's situation is that she can't use 0:53:52.760 --> 0:53:55.279 her legs and she's in a wheelchair. But because of 0:53:55.360 --> 0:53:58.319 this condition, for a few months, you become a quad 0:53:58.360 --> 0:54:00.759 you can't use your arms or anything. They drain it 0:54:00.840 --> 0:54:03.560 and you get the use of your arms again. Correct, Yeah, 0:54:03.600 --> 0:54:07.000 and then that is changing now in the future, they 0:54:07.000 --> 0:54:08.640 can't do those operations anymore, is. 0:54:08.640 --> 0:54:12.640 That right, Yes, So each time that surgery happens, I 0:54:12.719 --> 0:54:15.520 lose a bit more function, and each time they do it, 0:54:15.840 --> 0:54:19.319 I get more and more complications from the surgery. So 0:54:19.560 --> 0:54:22.200 last year I was in hospital for six months. They 0:54:22.200 --> 0:54:25.200 did the surgery, but they couldn't close my back because 0:54:25.239 --> 0:54:27.880 it just won't close anymore. So I had a giant 0:54:27.960 --> 0:54:31.160 hole in my back for six months, and then I 0:54:31.200 --> 0:54:33.840 had a holy my spinal cord, so all my brain 0:54:33.920 --> 0:54:36.880 fluid was leaking out, so my brain was sitting in 0:54:36.920 --> 0:54:41.160 my neck for six months. And then your brain fluid 0:54:41.239 --> 0:54:44.520 kills muscles when it touches it. So my trap in 0:54:44.560 --> 0:54:47.719 my back dyed. All my muscles in my back died, 0:54:48.040 --> 0:54:50.400 so they had to do like a full reconstructor surgery 0:54:50.520 --> 0:54:53.200 on my back. That was six months in hospital laying 0:54:53.360 --> 0:54:56.480 flat with a massive migrain and you could feel my 0:54:56.560 --> 0:55:00.160 brain in my neck. That would happen again, except I 0:55:00.200 --> 0:55:03.120 will end up passing away from it, probably get many 0:55:03.160 --> 0:55:07.000 giitis or an infection after the six months, and they'll 0:55:07.040 --> 0:55:09.240 just never be able to close back. 0:55:09.560 --> 0:55:11.600 So from the next time that that happens, That's what 0:55:11.640 --> 0:55:12.920 they say, the next operation. 0:55:13.480 --> 0:55:16.680 So they put a shunt in every year, but because 0:55:16.680 --> 0:55:20.279 I'm so active, it's just a really complicated secondary complicated, 0:55:20.920 --> 0:55:23.120 like there's only one surgeon that can operate on it 0:55:23.160 --> 0:55:23.680 in the world. 0:55:23.920 --> 0:55:24.520 Wow. 0:55:24.760 --> 0:55:27.279 They put a shunt in and then it slides out 0:55:27.440 --> 0:55:29.440 or it breaks, so they have to put a new 0:55:29.440 --> 0:55:33.040 shunt in. So when the next shunk fails, I'll just 0:55:33.080 --> 0:55:35.480 lose function in my arms and then my brain. 0:55:36.000 --> 0:55:37.880 Do you know what that looks like in terms of 0:55:37.880 --> 0:55:38.399 time frame? 0:55:39.040 --> 0:55:42.320 So I usually could only get a year between surgeries. 0:55:42.560 --> 0:55:47.040 The most I've had is like two years back. But 0:55:47.320 --> 0:55:50.120 leave it and go and operate. I'll probably get like 0:55:50.200 --> 0:55:53.160 three or four years. But once the shunk comes out, 0:55:53.520 --> 0:55:56.319 it could either be a slow decline or a pasticline, 0:55:56.520 --> 0:55:57.840 but it'll be very painful. 0:55:58.480 --> 0:56:00.600 And is that what you've decided you do? Have you 0:56:00.640 --> 0:56:04.480 decided to do an operation again when it happens or 0:56:04.560 --> 0:56:05.319 to not do no? 0:56:05.480 --> 0:56:08.399 So the doctor said they don't want to approad, so 0:56:08.480 --> 0:56:10.759 they were there one to make the call as they 0:56:10.760 --> 0:56:12.160 said it to me and just standing at the end 0:56:12.200 --> 0:56:14.440 of the bed and Brad was sitting next to me 0:56:14.480 --> 0:56:17.840 in Sally and they just looked horrified, But in my 0:56:17.920 --> 0:56:20.799 brain I was like, thank god someone said it. I 0:56:20.840 --> 0:56:23.520 would have felt like I failed if it was me 0:56:23.600 --> 0:56:26.520 making the decision, but they made it for me. So 0:56:26.600 --> 0:56:30.120 I was like, finally I can be at peace and 0:56:30.200 --> 0:56:31.919 not do medical stuff all the time. 0:56:32.200 --> 0:56:35.040 Like you were almost relieved, and Brad is your partner, 0:56:35.239 --> 0:56:39.239 You almost relieved that they were saying, don't choose. We're 0:56:39.280 --> 0:56:40.840 telling you we can't operate anymore. 0:56:41.280 --> 0:56:45.239 Yeah, and I could find some cowboy neurosurgeon that would 0:56:45.239 --> 0:56:48.759 do it, but it would just go terribly. So the 0:56:48.800 --> 0:56:53.839 best neurosurgeon for this in the world said no more. So. Yeah, 0:56:53.880 --> 0:56:56.920 it was like a weight lifted off my shoulders. 0:56:57.640 --> 0:57:00.520 Alison, how do you how do you even begin to 0:57:00.560 --> 0:57:06.000 compartmentalize this? Going from being eighteen looking forward to having 0:57:06.280 --> 0:57:08.680 all of you know, whatever the plans were for life 0:57:08.719 --> 0:57:12.040 ahead of you, to then being given this diagnosis that 0:57:12.080 --> 0:57:14.440 seems to just be compounding as the years go on. 0:57:14.760 --> 0:57:18.080 How do you manage to maintain even a glimmer of positivity? 0:57:18.120 --> 0:57:20.160 And I know that you are very stoic about this, 0:57:20.280 --> 0:57:22.400 and you seem to have still so many things that 0:57:22.440 --> 0:57:23.360 you're looking forward to. 0:57:23.880 --> 0:57:28.280 Yeah, so the first five years was really difficult. I 0:57:28.320 --> 0:57:31.880 spent four years in hospital and I just like I 0:57:31.920 --> 0:57:34.480 had a million things go wrong. I've had my bower move, 0:57:35.040 --> 0:57:38.479 I've had a million blooder surgeries, like just a lot 0:57:38.560 --> 0:57:40.880 of stuff do with a lot of chronic pain. So 0:57:40.920 --> 0:57:43.160 as soon as I'm feeling well, I don't know what 0:57:43.200 --> 0:57:46.160 it is, I just feel happy. Yeah, So the days 0:57:46.160 --> 0:57:50.200 I'm feeling good, I have anxiety or depression. I don't 0:57:50.200 --> 0:57:52.080 know why. I think it's like a coping like I 0:57:52.120 --> 0:57:56.160 want to use the day I feel well. So yeah, 0:57:56.160 --> 0:57:58.720 I'm not sure, and I always have something to look 0:57:58.760 --> 0:58:02.080 forward to, and my support system's really huge. 0:58:02.240 --> 0:58:04.680 Well, speaking of your support system, I mean, we'll come 0:58:04.720 --> 0:58:06.920 back to what your future looks like and your plans, 0:58:07.080 --> 0:58:10.760 because your plans sound amazing. But let's go back to Brad, 0:58:10.800 --> 0:58:13.080 your partner. How long have you been with Brad and 0:58:13.120 --> 0:58:14.760 how did you guys meet because we love a love 0:58:14.800 --> 0:58:15.320 story here. 0:58:16.440 --> 0:58:22.760 So Brad was actually captain with Sherry at school. Yes, yeah, 0:58:23.360 --> 0:58:26.160 and he was dating one of my best friends at 0:58:26.160 --> 0:58:28.880 the time. He dated her for eight years and we 0:58:29.080 --> 0:58:32.440 remained friends, been friends since we were twelve. We started 0:58:32.440 --> 0:58:35.680 hanging out a lots about four years ago and I 0:58:35.720 --> 0:58:38.360 got into jet skiing and he was like, oh, I 0:58:38.400 --> 0:58:40.880 could make your hoist to get on the JETSKO went 0:58:40.960 --> 0:58:43.040 home to sell and I was like, this dude can 0:58:43.080 --> 0:58:45.320 make me shit. Knew we how to make me the 0:58:45.360 --> 0:58:46.200 caller stuff. 0:58:46.280 --> 0:58:47.240 I need to keep him around. 0:58:47.360 --> 0:58:50.760 He was like, yeah, she's like you should date him. 0:58:51.160 --> 0:58:54.240 And then my aunt and my sister for like six months, 0:58:54.480 --> 0:58:56.520 every day we're like, you need to date Brad. You 0:58:56.560 --> 0:58:59.640 need to break Brade, and then yeah, I asked him 0:58:59.640 --> 0:59:02.160 on a day and he said he's been waiting for that. 0:59:02.520 --> 0:59:03.880 So it was really sweet. 0:59:05.520 --> 0:59:07.040 I mean, what was it like for you when you 0:59:07.040 --> 0:59:09.760 started dating again after having an accident. I would assume 0:59:09.760 --> 0:59:12.960 that a lot of people might feel a bit insecure 0:59:13.120 --> 0:59:16.120 or a bit worried about, you know, the complications that 0:59:16.160 --> 0:59:19.400 come from even just the mobility side of things. Were 0:59:19.440 --> 0:59:21.480 you ever worried or were you just like, let's do 0:59:21.520 --> 0:59:22.160 this brand. 0:59:22.080 --> 0:59:24.120 As soon as they told me I couldn't walk again, 0:59:24.680 --> 0:59:26.920 I called one of my friends and I said, do 0:59:26.960 --> 0:59:28.240 you think I'll be able to do Doggie? 0:59:30.120 --> 0:59:32.520 Probably if you just lay on your tummy right. 0:59:32.480 --> 0:59:35.280 Yeah, And I was like, okay, I need to try. 0:59:35.560 --> 0:59:39.240 So I love that that was your first thought ali luck. 0:59:39.440 --> 0:59:44.000 Yeah, I think my wheelchair is a good deterrent to 0:59:44.320 --> 0:59:45.240 fuck boys too. 0:59:45.560 --> 0:59:46.120 Yeah, amazing. 0:59:46.240 --> 0:59:49.040 So every man I've dated up to my accident has 0:59:49.120 --> 0:59:53.600 been the most caring human you could find. So I've 0:59:53.640 --> 0:59:56.960 been quite lucky. But yeah, the first year, I just 0:59:56.960 --> 0:59:59.360 went a bit wild. I was a bit worried I 0:59:59.440 --> 1:00:03.120 wasn't gonna be attractive anymore, and I was like really insecure. 1:00:03.760 --> 1:00:06.160 But as soon as I got home, guys that I 1:00:06.200 --> 1:00:08.960 was with before, like, we're asking me on dates and stuff, 1:00:09.080 --> 1:00:12.040 So it was fine and I can still do doggie 1:00:12.160 --> 1:00:13.040 so well. 1:00:13.080 --> 1:00:14.840 I mean that's a question that I think a lot 1:00:14.880 --> 1:00:17.160 of people the dog you one not yeah, the doggie. 1:00:17.200 --> 1:00:20.640 But the question a lot of people probably wonder with 1:00:20.840 --> 1:00:23.640 somebody in your situation is like, I'm not sure exactly 1:00:23.640 --> 1:00:24.880 where your feeling stops. 1:00:24.960 --> 1:00:26.320 Is it from your waist down? 1:00:26.720 --> 1:00:31.160 I have all feeling. So my injury actually is in 1:00:31.640 --> 1:00:33.760 complete and it took me years to work it out. 1:00:34.400 --> 1:00:37.320 But yeah, I lost my wheelchair virginity. When I was 1:00:37.360 --> 1:00:40.400 still in hospital, I had a neck race on and 1:00:40.520 --> 1:00:43.800 my hands in casts, and someone you and I both 1:00:43.880 --> 1:00:46.320 know signed me out of hospital for the night and 1:00:46.360 --> 1:00:47.680 we went to a hotel. 1:00:48.840 --> 1:00:50.000 You need to tell me this. 1:00:50.440 --> 1:00:55.240 Thow me around on il Are you kidding? 1:00:55.280 --> 1:00:59.920 So someone we know came in, kidnapped you from the hospitals, signed, 1:01:00.480 --> 1:01:02.960 fucked your brains out, put you back in the wheelchair, 1:01:03.120 --> 1:01:05.360 willed you back. Yeah, that is that one of got 1:01:05.400 --> 1:01:13.520 to be one of the best. Can't tell me this 1:01:13.640 --> 1:01:14.920 is going to be the greed. I can't wait to 1:01:14.960 --> 1:01:15.400 tell Sherry. 1:01:16.440 --> 1:01:19.600 Yeah. I'm like it was so good. The doctor's like, 1:01:19.680 --> 1:01:21.960 what are you doing? Where are you going? I was like, oh, 1:01:22.000 --> 1:01:24.120 I've just got to go shopping and thatics never came 1:01:24.160 --> 1:01:26.680 back for the night. And then my doctor grounded me. 1:01:26.920 --> 1:01:28.800 She's like, you're not llowed out again. I know what 1:01:28.920 --> 1:01:31.800 you're up to, bitch. 1:01:32.120 --> 1:01:33.640 Let me go and do my things. 1:01:33.760 --> 1:01:36.080 I know what you're up to. You're like, yeah, I'm 1:01:36.080 --> 1:01:38.040 being an eighteen year old, That's what I'm up to. 1:01:38.560 --> 1:01:40.720 I love this because I think that often this, I mean, 1:01:40.760 --> 1:01:43.040 we've spoken to many people in the past who have 1:01:43.560 --> 1:01:47.280 been through disabilities and coming into disability from being fully 1:01:47.320 --> 1:01:51.240 able bodied, and there is this like feeling of insecurity 1:01:51.280 --> 1:01:52.880 or this feeling of like, how am I going to 1:01:53.000 --> 1:01:54.920 date again? How am I going to love again? Like 1:01:55.440 --> 1:01:58.280 and I think there has been many beautiful stories about 1:01:58.280 --> 1:02:00.880 how people have overcome that. But but I love that 1:02:01.040 --> 1:02:03.600 for you that that wasn't a barrier. And I think 1:02:03.600 --> 1:02:06.760 that that's an amazing message because I think we get 1:02:06.800 --> 1:02:09.440 fed this idea that it should be a barrier, and 1:02:09.480 --> 1:02:10.920 I think a lot of it does come down to 1:02:11.320 --> 1:02:15.280 your own perspective and your own feelings around yourself and 1:02:15.320 --> 1:02:18.720 how how you perceive yourself rather than how other people 1:02:18.760 --> 1:02:19.280 perceive you. 1:02:19.480 --> 1:02:21.880 It hasn't slowed Alley Down's just fucking in the hospital. 1:02:24.160 --> 1:02:24.800 I love. 1:02:26.600 --> 1:02:29.680 What's us chatting about this peladay with one of my friends. 1:02:29.840 --> 1:02:32.800 And I don't think it's disability that dops you. I 1:02:32.840 --> 1:02:37.080 think people that were insecure before it just heightens everything. 1:02:37.320 --> 1:02:41.280 Yeah, and you were this confident, vibrant, active person and 1:02:41.360 --> 1:02:43.560 nothing changed, Like you still do all the things you do. 1:02:43.800 --> 1:02:46.120 You're still dating, you're still fucking, you're still surfing, you're 1:02:46.120 --> 1:02:50.600 still traveling the world. Like your personality persona hasn't changed. 1:02:50.640 --> 1:02:51.800 It's just made it a bit harder. 1:02:51.920 --> 1:02:54.560 Well, I mean, do you feel like it's psychologically changed 1:02:54.600 --> 1:02:57.480 anything for you? I mean, obviously it's changed loads of 1:02:57.480 --> 1:03:00.800 things for you physically, but from like a psychological perspective. 1:03:00.840 --> 1:03:02.720 Do you think it's had an impact on your personality 1:03:02.760 --> 1:03:03.040 at all? 1:03:03.520 --> 1:03:07.840 I was a brat before, and I am so much 1:03:07.920 --> 1:03:11.560 more grateful soon as had my accident. I was best 1:03:11.560 --> 1:03:15.360 friends with my parents and we had a really great relationship. 1:03:15.760 --> 1:03:18.480 They passed away. Mom passed away when I was twenty 1:03:18.520 --> 1:03:22.160 one and dad passed away four years ago. But from 1:03:22.200 --> 1:03:26.520 eighteen until then we had a really great relationship. So 1:03:26.600 --> 1:03:30.120 I think it's made me more grateful for things. Yeah, 1:03:30.160 --> 1:03:32.680 and I don't get angry anymore. I think it's like 1:03:32.960 --> 1:03:36.880 helped that a lot. I'm just really calm in all situations, 1:03:36.960 --> 1:03:41.400 so most small things, trivial things, they're not issues to 1:03:41.480 --> 1:03:42.040 me anymore. 1:03:42.360 --> 1:03:45.720 What was that time, like, your family obviously looked after 1:03:45.720 --> 1:03:48.320 you a lot, Sally and both of your parents, and 1:03:48.360 --> 1:03:50.400 then your mom passed away. Is I think it was 1:03:50.440 --> 1:03:53.880 only three or four years after the accident, Is that right? Yeah? 1:03:53.920 --> 1:03:56.520 What was that like to have two out of three 1:03:56.560 --> 1:03:59.640 of the people that literally looked after you pass away. 1:04:00.280 --> 1:04:03.160 I think it was way bigger if I didn't have 1:04:03.160 --> 1:04:06.280 my accident. Mum was my best friend for the first 1:04:06.320 --> 1:04:08.840 four years. It was very lonely because I was that sick, 1:04:09.400 --> 1:04:12.920 being in hospital all the time. All my friends still, 1:04:13.120 --> 1:04:17.400 the world kept turning, but mums didn't. Hers stopped with me, 1:04:18.480 --> 1:04:23.400 So it was very lonely after she passed, and I 1:04:23.480 --> 1:04:27.440 had a sense of guilt after because you could just 1:04:27.440 --> 1:04:30.320 see their stress that she was under. You could just 1:04:30.360 --> 1:04:33.400 see as soon as I had my accident, she wasn't 1:04:33.400 --> 1:04:35.760 the same person and it was a lot for them 1:04:35.800 --> 1:04:39.360 to see me sick all the time. Yeah, so it 1:04:39.480 --> 1:04:41.040 was really difficult. 1:04:41.480 --> 1:04:44.120 I'm so sorry you went through that, Alley. I think, Yeah, 1:04:44.240 --> 1:04:47.040 I mean when I was listening to your story and 1:04:47.640 --> 1:04:50.080 I think when you're a mom, my first thought was like, 1:04:50.120 --> 1:04:51.920 I can't imagine what that would be like as a 1:04:52.000 --> 1:04:55.960 mum to have to see their child suffering so much 1:04:56.360 --> 1:04:57.919 and all you want to do is take the pain away. 1:04:57.960 --> 1:05:00.680 And I'm so sorry that you had to go through 1:05:00.680 --> 1:05:03.800 that with your family. But also it's truly beautiful that 1:05:04.000 --> 1:05:07.000 it's something that brought you and your mum closer together 1:05:07.160 --> 1:05:09.080 and that you were able to have that friendship with her. 1:05:09.560 --> 1:05:12.280 Yeah, I'm very lucky. I have a very good family. 1:05:12.720 --> 1:05:16.120 Sally and I are inseparable. We can't go a day 1:05:16.120 --> 1:05:19.680 without seeing each other or talking, so it's brought us 1:05:19.760 --> 1:05:20.560 closer too. 1:05:20.960 --> 1:05:23.280 And do you guys live together now or what you're 1:05:23.280 --> 1:05:23.720 set up? 1:05:25.560 --> 1:05:28.040 I'm going to sound like a freak. I lived in 1:05:28.040 --> 1:05:30.440 her garage for a bit, try to save money to travel. 1:05:30.520 --> 1:05:32.960 Hang on, she know you were in the garage or 1:05:33.000 --> 1:05:34.480 did you just like wheel in there and park and 1:05:34.480 --> 1:05:35.160 you're like I'm done? 1:05:35.280 --> 1:05:37.760 You like, yeah, try to kick me out. No, I 1:05:37.880 --> 1:05:40.520 moved across the road and we both decided that was 1:05:40.560 --> 1:05:41.240 too far away. 1:05:41.720 --> 1:05:43.480 Oh that's back into the house. 1:05:43.920 --> 1:05:47.200 And Brad keeps saying it's like everybody loves Raymond, and 1:05:47.240 --> 1:05:49.680 I'm like, it's the best thing ever. 1:05:50.120 --> 1:05:53.520 I actually love that and seeing your bond because I 1:05:53.560 --> 1:05:55.400 try and put myself in that situation and I would 1:05:55.400 --> 1:05:57.320 have done exactly the same thing as Sale has done. 1:05:57.440 --> 1:06:00.160 And I love seeing how close you are and how 1:06:00.240 --> 1:06:01.480 much you both mean to each other. 1:06:02.080 --> 1:06:03.800 Just Brad live with you now as well. 1:06:04.200 --> 1:06:08.360 Yeah, so let's talk about what life is going to 1:06:08.400 --> 1:06:11.479 look like now. So you have been told that you 1:06:11.600 --> 1:06:14.720 possibly have a few years left, which I cannot imagine, 1:06:14.760 --> 1:06:16.400 but it seems like you've taken that in your stride 1:06:16.440 --> 1:06:18.280 and you've made some really big life decisions on what 1:06:18.280 --> 1:06:19.960 you're going to do for the future. What have you 1:06:20.000 --> 1:06:21.439 decided to do with your remaining time? 1:06:21.840 --> 1:06:26.720 I am going to blow all my money, so he 1:06:26.840 --> 1:06:30.320 sold I have, and I'm going to just travel for 1:06:30.360 --> 1:06:34.280 the next two to three years. I fought my insurance 1:06:34.400 --> 1:06:37.880 and got Brad paid as a carer. So now I'll 1:06:37.920 --> 1:06:40.600 be able to go to any country I want and 1:06:40.640 --> 1:06:42.560 he'll be able to care for me. So moving to 1:06:42.600 --> 1:06:46.080 the USA for six months and then down to Mexico 1:06:46.440 --> 1:06:49.080 three a few months, then to Canada. I want to 1:06:49.160 --> 1:06:52.280 learn how to ski or snowboard, and they're going to 1:06:52.520 --> 1:06:55.480 ship over my mountain bike to Whistler and then we're 1:06:55.520 --> 1:06:57.840 going to go to Europe for a year or two years, 1:06:58.400 --> 1:07:01.160 and I want to see everywhere the world. Where people 1:07:01.200 --> 1:07:04.120 always ask me what's on your list? I'm like everything, Well, I. 1:07:04.040 --> 1:07:05.560 Think I said to you, what's on your bucket list? 1:07:05.600 --> 1:07:08.920 There's like three hundred things. Yeah, and have you written 1:07:08.920 --> 1:07:09.400 it all down? 1:07:09.480 --> 1:07:12.080 Like, have you written down like an itemized bucket list 1:07:12.080 --> 1:07:13.600 of the things that you want to do together? 1:07:13.840 --> 1:07:18.800 So I have like Morocco, Turkey, Croatia. It's mainly places 1:07:18.880 --> 1:07:23.440 over experiences like I don't want to go skydiving and 1:07:23.520 --> 1:07:26.040 stuff like that. I just want to explore the world. 1:07:26.360 --> 1:07:28.960 What impact does it have on your relationship with Brad 1:07:29.000 --> 1:07:32.520 when you are so aware of your own mortality? And 1:07:32.560 --> 1:07:34.640 I say this because you know, most of us have 1:07:34.720 --> 1:07:37.040 no idea how much time we have with our partners, 1:07:37.080 --> 1:07:41.240 whereas you have a much greater understanding of what and 1:07:41.280 --> 1:07:43.760 how many years you have left. How does that affect 1:07:43.760 --> 1:07:44.280 the two of you. 1:07:45.520 --> 1:07:48.080 He's caused me morbid all the time because I make 1:07:48.200 --> 1:07:51.360 jokes about it. We talk about youth and asia a lot. 1:07:51.960 --> 1:07:55.440 I'm usually just joking about it. So he gets really upset. 1:07:55.920 --> 1:07:58.800 The first six months after my surgeries last year, I 1:07:58.800 --> 1:08:00.640 couldn't really bring it up without any getting up with sir. 1:08:01.520 --> 1:08:04.480 But all of this happens because he never saw me 1:08:04.560 --> 1:08:07.320 go through something so big. So I've only been dating 1:08:07.400 --> 1:08:09.960 for two to three years and he wasn't that close. 1:08:10.080 --> 1:08:12.960 You have to be family to really understand the impact 1:08:13.400 --> 1:08:16.919 six months of hospital has. So after all that happened, 1:08:17.240 --> 1:08:19.479 he was like, I understand why you are the way 1:08:19.520 --> 1:08:22.519 you are because I can't sit still. I want to 1:08:22.560 --> 1:08:25.280 do a million things. When I'm well, I just travel 1:08:25.360 --> 1:08:28.400 three months the year. So it's like, okay, finally understand 1:08:28.439 --> 1:08:31.200 that and he's on board with it. The start of 1:08:31.200 --> 1:08:33.800 my surgeries last year, he said, for e very week 1:08:33.920 --> 1:08:35.519 you're in here, we can go away for a month. 1:08:36.040 --> 1:08:38.040 And he thought I'd only been there for two weeks, 1:08:38.360 --> 1:08:40.080 and then I was in there for six months and 1:08:40.120 --> 1:08:44.760 I'm like, well, you better keep this because you've promised it. So, yeah, 1:08:44.760 --> 1:08:47.360 he's really on board with all of my plans Now. 1:08:47.439 --> 1:08:51.200 Before he was on board and supportive, but he was 1:08:51.240 --> 1:08:53.760 a workaholic. Now he's not a workaholic. 1:08:54.040 --> 1:08:55.000 Your priority shift. 1:08:55.080 --> 1:08:57.559 Yeah, do you feel like you guys don't fight or 1:08:57.720 --> 1:09:00.479 argue or sweat the small stuff because of that, because 1:09:00.479 --> 1:09:02.720 you know you've got this limited time that you're like, 1:09:03.000 --> 1:09:04.799 why we like, let's not waste our breath. 1:09:05.320 --> 1:09:09.200 Yeah, he's like the loveliest person and so supportive. We 1:09:09.320 --> 1:09:12.759 never fight. We're just happy to be hanging out together. 1:09:13.320 --> 1:09:16.200 You spoke about then and said you made jokes about euthanasia, 1:09:16.479 --> 1:09:18.880 But I did listen to you talk about how your 1:09:18.960 --> 1:09:23.840 dad actually signed some sort of documentation around euthanasia. Can 1:09:23.880 --> 1:09:26.240 you talk me through what that was and what that 1:09:26.280 --> 1:09:26.800 looked like for you. 1:09:26.960 --> 1:09:31.400 So around year three, after my accident, my stomach stopped working, 1:09:31.840 --> 1:09:35.040 so I hir like a nasal tube and they're like 1:09:35.080 --> 1:09:37.960 we need to remove your whole stomach. And I was 1:09:38.080 --> 1:09:41.240 so unwell, like to the points like nausey is the worst. 1:09:41.240 --> 1:09:43.080 I just felt like I had a hangover without the 1:09:43.120 --> 1:09:47.160 party book. Yeah, so it was pretty shit. So my 1:09:47.600 --> 1:09:50.400 mum spoke about euthanasia a lot, and he signed me 1:09:50.520 --> 1:09:53.920 up to Belgium and we actually had a date sets 1:09:54.120 --> 1:09:57.040 And then Sally didn't know about it, but she saw 1:09:57.040 --> 1:10:00.360 it on dad's computer and she ended up throwing computer 1:10:00.439 --> 1:10:02.960 across the room and she was like, this is ridiculous. 1:10:03.320 --> 1:10:05.679 So that was It was really difficult at that time 1:10:05.720 --> 1:10:10.280 because I hadn't lived yet where now I feel like 1:10:10.439 --> 1:10:12.960 I've been able to do everything I wanted. But then 1:10:13.040 --> 1:10:15.200 I just I was like twenty one at the time, 1:10:15.960 --> 1:10:17.200 and I was so unwell. 1:10:17.439 --> 1:10:19.160 I can't imagine what that was like for both of you, 1:10:19.240 --> 1:10:22.120 but even a father, I can't imagine for your dad 1:10:22.200 --> 1:10:24.200 to say, like to be brave enough to say I 1:10:24.240 --> 1:10:26.800 love you enough that I will help you sign up 1:10:26.840 --> 1:10:29.240 to let you go. I can't imagine and you coming 1:10:29.320 --> 1:10:32.160 to terms with like I'm so tired and done with 1:10:32.200 --> 1:10:34.960 this that I want to pass away. But I can't 1:10:35.000 --> 1:10:36.640 imagine what your dad was going through that time, and 1:10:36.680 --> 1:10:40.120 I also get I can sort of understand Sally's reaction 1:10:40.400 --> 1:10:43.519 by being really selfish and being like, I don't want 1:10:43.520 --> 1:10:44.120 to let you go. 1:10:44.920 --> 1:10:49.000 Yeah, I think my parents were just as worn down 1:10:49.040 --> 1:10:52.559 as me by that point. And yeah, now that I 1:10:52.560 --> 1:10:56.599 have a niece who I love so much, like she's 1:10:56.640 --> 1:10:59.120 my favorite person in the world. Don't tell Sally, but 1:11:00.360 --> 1:11:03.160 she'll probably with her. Yeah, I don't know how i'd 1:11:03.160 --> 1:11:05.559 react if she was that unwell. I could not let 1:11:05.560 --> 1:11:07.720 her do euthanasia, but then I couldn't let her live 1:11:07.840 --> 1:11:10.200 like that. It would be the hardest. 1:11:11.040 --> 1:11:13.920 Was it Sally's reaction that stopped you from going? Hey, 1:11:14.000 --> 1:11:16.120 you said you had a date booked. Was it her 1:11:16.920 --> 1:11:18.640 reaction that made you reconsider? 1:11:19.600 --> 1:11:24.320 No. There was this doctor in the port base. It 1:11:24.439 --> 1:11:29.880 was an odd dude. I went in and I was like, look, 1:11:29.960 --> 1:11:32.880 I'm going to kill myself. I can't keep being this sick. 1:11:33.360 --> 1:11:36.160 And he was like, a cost to me will change 1:11:36.160 --> 1:11:39.080 your life, It will revolutionize your life. And I was like, 1:11:39.280 --> 1:11:41.160 I'm twenty one, I'm not getting a colost to me. 1:11:42.120 --> 1:11:45.080 And I went home for a few weeks and this 1:11:45.200 --> 1:11:49.360 is really disgusting. I started vomiting thown pieces so that 1:11:49.439 --> 1:11:54.559 happened a lot. Yeah, and remember vomiting that and thinking 1:11:54.760 --> 1:11:57.479 maybe this is freaking weird. Doctor's up to something. So 1:11:57.920 --> 1:12:00.519 I ended up going down to Sydney. I didn't do 1:12:00.560 --> 1:12:02.439 it at Port Based. I did at the spinal unit 1:12:02.880 --> 1:12:06.280 and had my stomach removed and the next day I 1:12:06.280 --> 1:12:10.120 felt fine. Wow, like it was just overnight, even after 1:12:10.160 --> 1:12:13.120 a massive surgery. I felt better than I had in 1:12:13.439 --> 1:12:15.479 four years by accident. 1:12:15.920 --> 1:12:19.400 Is it because where your spinal cord was crushed, it 1:12:19.560 --> 1:12:22.120 corresponds to so many different organs? Is that why there's 1:12:22.160 --> 1:12:24.080 been this like ongoing complication. 1:12:24.160 --> 1:12:27.120 So my injury is high. I say it's around my 1:12:27.240 --> 1:12:29.640 nipple level, but that was my nipple level when I 1:12:29.680 --> 1:12:31.920 was eighteen, so it's a bit higher than it is now. 1:12:34.400 --> 1:12:38.040 So it's above all your stomach, and it's also above 1:12:38.080 --> 1:12:42.360 your autonomic nervous system. So my heart and blood pressure 1:12:43.160 --> 1:12:48.640 is controlled lower than that level. So if I get constipated, 1:12:49.080 --> 1:12:51.680 I can have a stroke. So that was one of 1:12:51.680 --> 1:12:53.360 the things that it was like, you'll have a stroke 1:12:53.680 --> 1:12:55.040 or you need a cost. 1:12:54.800 --> 1:12:57.360 To me, how do you feel about euthanasia? Now? I 1:12:57.360 --> 1:12:59.000 know you said you had a date when you were younger, 1:12:59.280 --> 1:13:02.439 but now that you know that there is a time 1:13:02.479 --> 1:13:04.840 limit and you are going to deteriorate, and you can 1:13:04.840 --> 1:13:06.320 tell us about some of the things that they did 1:13:06.400 --> 1:13:07.720 say is going to happen to you. How do you 1:13:07.720 --> 1:13:10.320 feel about euthanasia? Is it something you will relook at. 1:13:11.160 --> 1:13:16.280 Yeah, so, my psych and I talk about it very often. 1:13:17.000 --> 1:13:19.800 I'm okay with it now. I'm not okay with it 1:13:20.280 --> 1:13:22.679 right now because I don't feel unwell and I still 1:13:22.680 --> 1:13:25.200 have energy to do stuff, and I still have arm function. 1:13:26.120 --> 1:13:28.559 But I know that in the next four or five 1:13:28.680 --> 1:13:30.840 years it will be a decision that I would have 1:13:30.920 --> 1:13:35.400 to make, and my family knows what my decision will be, 1:13:35.439 --> 1:13:38.280 which will be I'm going to do euthanasia before I 1:13:38.320 --> 1:13:43.439 suffer anymore. And yeah, it gets discussed a lot. I 1:13:43.479 --> 1:13:46.560 think when you get into the position of even deciding euthanasia, 1:13:47.240 --> 1:13:51.519 it's either go through hell and feel awful or that. 1:13:52.640 --> 1:13:56.680 So it's a pretty easy decision and it's made for you. 1:13:57.120 --> 1:13:59.600 Whereas if you're well and you're like, well, if I 1:13:59.720 --> 1:14:03.000 died tomorrow, that's really sad, but it's sort of bleaker 1:14:03.040 --> 1:14:06.719 either way. After suffering for so long the first five years, 1:14:06.960 --> 1:14:08.200 I wouldn't want to do that again. 1:14:08.920 --> 1:14:11.920 How does your sister Sally respond to that conversation now 1:14:11.920 --> 1:14:13.080 when you talk about it. 1:14:14.080 --> 1:14:18.600 Well, she's got to keep me as a vegetable in 1:14:18.680 --> 1:14:24.840 her house. So hallie, I've made deals with my best 1:14:24.840 --> 1:14:27.040 friends to try and break in and turn off my 1:14:27.080 --> 1:14:31.360 life support. But yeah, she doesn't want it to happen, 1:14:32.200 --> 1:14:35.280 and she'd be fine with it. She sees me stuffer 1:14:35.320 --> 1:14:37.880 every day. I have really bad chronic pain to the 1:14:37.960 --> 1:14:42.280 point like it's really debilitating, and she sees that every day. 1:14:42.520 --> 1:14:45.719 So when it gets that point, should be fine. But yeah, 1:14:45.840 --> 1:14:47.400 she would like to keep me in her house. 1:14:47.800 --> 1:14:50.040 What does it look like for euthanasia? And I asked 1:14:50.040 --> 1:14:51.960 this because it's such a hot debate and I've heard 1:14:51.960 --> 1:14:54.360 so many people talk about it. So many countries don't 1:14:54.400 --> 1:14:58.000 allow voluntary euthanasia and some do. The ones that do 1:14:58.200 --> 1:15:01.120 have this crazy prerequis it where you've you've got to 1:15:01.120 --> 1:15:03.320 go through these psych tests and be of like a 1:15:03.360 --> 1:15:05.920 stable state of mind to do it. Have you looked 1:15:05.920 --> 1:15:07.760 into that enough now that you know how that would 1:15:07.760 --> 1:15:09.400 look for you where you'd have to go? Can you 1:15:09.479 --> 1:15:10.879 do that at home here in Australia? 1:15:11.520 --> 1:15:15.640 No, you can't. My type of illness wouldn't allow it. 1:15:15.640 --> 1:15:19.120 It would only be allowed for terminal cancer. I'm not 1:15:19.160 --> 1:15:21.280 sure what the laws are in Queensland at the moment, 1:15:21.600 --> 1:15:25.360 but I know Melbourne passed it for terminal cancer like 1:15:25.400 --> 1:15:28.880 stage four cancer, so I'd have to do old overseas, 1:15:29.160 --> 1:15:31.200 and the place where i'd do that would be Belgium. 1:15:31.439 --> 1:15:35.800 They've got very loose euthanatial laws, so I'm not sure 1:15:35.800 --> 1:15:38.040 if it's like that now, but when we're looking into it, 1:15:38.439 --> 1:15:42.200 if you had anxiety or depression, you can get euthanase there. 1:15:42.800 --> 1:15:45.840 Which is that is I mean that is crazy to 1:15:45.840 --> 1:15:47.599 me because I feel like that is something that you 1:15:47.680 --> 1:15:50.960 can come out of, whereas your condition is different. You've 1:15:50.960 --> 1:15:55.639 been scientifically medically given a deterioration, Whereas it's pretty crazy 1:15:55.680 --> 1:15:57.000 to think you can go in and say I don't 1:15:57.000 --> 1:15:57.839 feel great today. 1:15:58.080 --> 1:16:00.960 There was one story I read in a Facebook group 1:16:01.000 --> 1:16:03.680 about it. This lady her mom passed away and the 1:16:03.840 --> 1:16:06.520 grief was too bad, so she got euthanized. 1:16:07.880 --> 1:16:10.519 I feel like that is why often it is such 1:16:10.560 --> 1:16:15.519 a hugely debated and controversial conversation, because I think it 1:16:15.640 --> 1:16:18.680 is such a permanent solution, and if it is a 1:16:18.680 --> 1:16:22.400 permanent solution to an impermanent state, then that is why 1:16:22.680 --> 1:16:25.439 I think people feel so so strongly about it. But 1:16:25.520 --> 1:16:28.280 I think anyone who has seen a family member suffer, 1:16:28.760 --> 1:16:32.960 anyone who's seen a family member just waiting to pass away, 1:16:34.000 --> 1:16:35.639 can understand like that that's not a. 1:16:35.560 --> 1:16:36.880 Way to proviy it. 1:16:36.880 --> 1:16:38.160 It's terrificic. 1:16:38.200 --> 1:16:42.280 When I was watching Mum die, the death rattle everything 1:16:42.320 --> 1:16:45.519 about that, and it just looks so painful, And when 1:16:45.520 --> 1:16:48.960 they've become unresponsive, I'm like, what's the point of watching 1:16:49.000 --> 1:16:51.519 them suffer for like a few days a week? 1:16:51.920 --> 1:16:54.800 Yeah, And it's also frightening, you know, like you're you're 1:16:54.840 --> 1:16:58.960 so sad for your family member, but also like it's petrified. Sorry, 1:16:59.120 --> 1:17:02.080 it's really petrified. I you know, I did the same 1:17:02.080 --> 1:17:05.240 thing with my grandfather, and you just you're like, what's 1:17:05.280 --> 1:17:07.559 the point? It doesn't make sense. And I think that 1:17:07.560 --> 1:17:10.400 that they're the instances that really when the debate and 1:17:10.439 --> 1:17:12.640 the conversation around euthanasia comes up, that there is an 1:17:12.720 --> 1:17:14.160 understanding there yea. 1:17:14.320 --> 1:17:16.679 In your head, how do you know when the timing 1:17:16.760 --> 1:17:18.519 is going to be right for something like that? Like 1:17:18.600 --> 1:17:20.840 what needs to be happening to you and in you 1:17:20.960 --> 1:17:23.439 for you to decide, because it's also not I mean, 1:17:24.800 --> 1:17:27.360 fuck Allie, I can't even imagine it, like the preparation 1:17:27.479 --> 1:17:29.160 that you have to do, like you have to travel 1:17:29.160 --> 1:17:30.800 over somewhere to do it, and not like you can 1:17:30.840 --> 1:17:32.760 wake up and say today's the day. I feel like 1:17:32.800 --> 1:17:35.679 it like this is Yeah, I can't fathom even asking 1:17:35.720 --> 1:17:37.479 the question. I'm like, how do I even ask you 1:17:37.520 --> 1:17:38.000 that question? 1:17:38.920 --> 1:17:39.520 Yeah. 1:17:39.800 --> 1:17:43.320 I think once I get to a point where there's 1:17:43.360 --> 1:17:47.040 no quality of life, then the decision will be made. 1:17:47.640 --> 1:17:50.760 But until then, it'll be on the raid and it'll 1:17:50.760 --> 1:17:53.720 be talked about. So I think the final decision when 1:17:53.720 --> 1:17:57.000 there's no quality of life, and as you said, you 1:17:57.000 --> 1:18:00.800 have to travel overseas for it, so it's going to 1:18:00.840 --> 1:18:04.240 be such a drawn out process where obviously I'd prefer 1:18:04.400 --> 1:18:06.799 to do it here with all my family and friends 1:18:06.880 --> 1:18:10.639 around me. But yeah, so the process of just getting 1:18:10.680 --> 1:18:15.760 overseas being that unwell, doing all the paperwork, Yes, it. 1:18:15.720 --> 1:18:17.960 Will be a lot, I'm so sorry. 1:18:17.680 --> 1:18:18.880 A lot of my family too. 1:18:19.320 --> 1:18:21.519 Yeah, it'll be so much for your family. And I 1:18:21.560 --> 1:18:23.719 also think that there must be some sort of comfort 1:18:23.720 --> 1:18:25.679 in the fact that this is a conversation that has 1:18:25.720 --> 1:18:29.080 been ongoing for a long time, even if that comfort 1:18:29.200 --> 1:18:32.400 isn't brought to you know Sally or Brad now, but 1:18:33.040 --> 1:18:35.240 knowing that it's not something that you made a decision 1:18:35.320 --> 1:18:38.080 lightly on, it's something that you've really been considered about 1:18:38.240 --> 1:18:40.599 in terms of how you want to live out your life. Als, 1:18:40.720 --> 1:18:43.200 what's your number one? You have this beautiful bucket list, 1:18:43.240 --> 1:18:45.040 and you have all these places that you're going to visit. 1:18:45.240 --> 1:18:47.080 What's the most important thing to you over the next 1:18:47.160 --> 1:18:48.120 couple of years. 1:18:48.760 --> 1:18:51.280 Eight? Great Mexican food. 1:18:52.720 --> 1:18:54.920 Honestly, there is no better. 1:18:55.240 --> 1:18:57.559 Try not to get typhoid or no. 1:18:57.640 --> 1:19:00.920 The food in Mexico. You'll realize you've never had proper Mexican. 1:19:01.120 --> 1:19:03.679 Like the Mexican that we do here is rubbish. 1:19:04.080 --> 1:19:07.759 If they make minced packet Mexican, I'll be really upset. 1:19:08.400 --> 1:19:10.400 How has that Because you've actually traveled a lot, You've 1:19:10.400 --> 1:19:13.280 been to a lot of countries. Okay, two questions. What 1:19:13.320 --> 1:19:15.000 are some things you wish people would know or like? 1:19:15.120 --> 1:19:17.840 What has traveling been like? Is it just ten times 1:19:17.880 --> 1:19:20.080 more difficult to do anything? You have to plan so 1:19:20.200 --> 1:19:20.799 far ahead. 1:19:21.160 --> 1:19:26.320 Oh man, this trip that I've been planning. My insurance 1:19:26.360 --> 1:19:30.120 company has been fighting me so much so just to 1:19:30.160 --> 1:19:33.760 go overseas. They said they'd cover my medicare and then 1:19:33.840 --> 1:19:38.200 last week they said they wouldn't. So going to the US, 1:19:38.280 --> 1:19:42.920 you obviously need good medical insurance, but also booking hotels, 1:19:43.200 --> 1:19:46.800 like you can't book a wheelchair accessible hotel online, you 1:19:46.800 --> 1:19:49.559 need to email the hotel bookis don't legally have to 1:19:49.680 --> 1:19:52.400 keep your room. So I five book a wheelchair accessible 1:19:52.560 --> 1:19:55.320 hotel through them. I could rock up and not have 1:19:55.400 --> 1:19:58.160 a roll in shower. So it's truly difficult. I've gotten 1:19:58.200 --> 1:20:01.880 really good at like on airbm looking at zooming on 1:20:02.000 --> 1:20:03.800 the windows and looking out to see if it's a 1:20:03.840 --> 1:20:05.880 two story building or a one story building. 1:20:06.040 --> 1:20:06.320 Yeah. 1:20:06.600 --> 1:20:09.479 So yeah, it takes like four hours to book one 1:20:09.520 --> 1:20:13.000 hotel and then the airlines home. A wheelchair gets broken, 1:20:13.040 --> 1:20:15.920 a lot jet starts paid me out twenty grand, so 1:20:16.120 --> 1:20:19.559 far from breaking you. And sometimes I'm not even allowed 1:20:19.560 --> 1:20:22.320 on the plane because you're only allowed two people disabilities 1:20:22.320 --> 1:20:25.240 on the plane at once, so if they accidentally bought three, 1:20:25.320 --> 1:20:26.200 you get kicked off. 1:20:26.360 --> 1:20:26.960 Is that true? 1:20:27.000 --> 1:20:27.960 I did not know that. 1:20:28.160 --> 1:20:31.599 Yeah, it's a lot. When I first had accident, I 1:20:31.640 --> 1:20:35.880 got home and I remember having a full mental breakdown 1:20:36.080 --> 1:20:39.639 because I realized society wasn't built for me, the world 1:20:39.680 --> 1:20:43.120 wasn't built for me, and From that point, I realized 1:20:43.160 --> 1:20:46.000 how hard my life would be, but it's worth it, 1:20:46.280 --> 1:20:48.840 Like I get a lot of joy and I feel 1:20:48.840 --> 1:20:51.200 really proud of myself once I planned a really big 1:20:51.240 --> 1:20:55.519 trip like this and I'm there and everything's going okay. Also, 1:20:55.600 --> 1:20:59.400 you just need to roll with the punches, like sometimes 1:20:59.680 --> 1:21:02.080 I can't after a few days because. 1:21:02.000 --> 1:21:02.920 Sorry Brad hour. 1:21:03.640 --> 1:21:07.479 Yeah, like Brad just carries me in there. 1:21:07.840 --> 1:21:10.800 And who pays for Because this is a question I 1:21:10.880 --> 1:21:12.679 was clocking in and I've worked in the hospital system. 1:21:12.720 --> 1:21:15.360 I don't even know. When you have had fourteen years 1:21:15.360 --> 1:21:19.240 of these operations and hundreds of operations, who's paying for them? 1:21:19.280 --> 1:21:20.840 Do you have to pay for a certain amount or 1:21:20.840 --> 1:21:21.400 does it government? 1:21:21.360 --> 1:21:27.680 So it goes through the oh comprehensive insurance, So in 1:21:27.720 --> 1:21:30.880 New South Wales, instead of getting conversation, go to the 1:21:30.920 --> 1:21:34.559 government and then they decide what they'll pay for, so 1:21:34.680 --> 1:21:38.439 all of it's covered. But I still probably spend ten 1:21:38.520 --> 1:21:42.400 twenty grands just for medical curve, like I have to 1:21:42.400 --> 1:21:44.439 pay for AMRI the other day, and as you know, 1:21:45.200 --> 1:21:48.200 I had like six different places there are aremorrowing in 1:21:48.240 --> 1:21:51.800 my back. It's just two thousand dollars. So like it's 1:21:51.800 --> 1:21:54.240 all the little things that are. It's such an We're 1:21:54.320 --> 1:21:58.200 very lucky in Australia. Oh, Medicare covers a lot. I'm 1:21:58.280 --> 1:22:01.240 legally not allowed to get Medicare as it was from 1:22:01.280 --> 1:22:04.040 a car accident. So I get a Medicare bill every year. 1:22:04.439 --> 1:22:09.799 But they're pretty good. If I don't pay it, they sort. 1:22:09.680 --> 1:22:12.680 Of let its lie. But it's just it's so incredibly 1:22:12.960 --> 1:22:16.479 unfair and it's so discriminatory in itself that people who 1:22:16.560 --> 1:22:19.720 are suffering with chronic pain and chronic illness from accidents 1:22:19.840 --> 1:22:22.759 or from injury, that they are still out of pocket. 1:22:22.760 --> 1:22:24.960 Because often these are people who are now no longer 1:22:25.000 --> 1:22:27.200 able to work because of their injuries, and yet they 1:22:27.240 --> 1:22:29.960 still have to fork out these insane amounts of money 1:22:30.040 --> 1:22:32.479 to be able to live a life or to have 1:22:32.640 --> 1:22:36.840 better mobility. It is such an unfair system. Even though 1:22:36.920 --> 1:22:39.000 it is one of the better ones, it is still 1:22:39.040 --> 1:22:39.519 not fair. 1:22:39.840 --> 1:22:42.840 Yeah, Alie, what is something that you would want to 1:22:42.920 --> 1:22:44.840 leave people? Like, what's a message right now that you 1:22:44.880 --> 1:22:47.320 want people to know? It could be an affirmation, a 1:22:47.439 --> 1:22:49.840 quote you live by, your biggest life lesson that you've 1:22:49.920 --> 1:22:52.680 learned since going through this, Something that people can sit 1:22:52.720 --> 1:22:54.920 there right now and will change the way they think 1:22:55.200 --> 1:22:55.599 that's a. 1:22:55.520 --> 1:22:59.400 Big bish they've actually thought about it. 1:22:59.560 --> 1:23:03.360 Sally. I was just laughing because Sally always says when 1:23:03.360 --> 1:23:05.720 people ask her that ten out of ten fun all 1:23:05.760 --> 1:23:08.439 the time, and I'm like, Okay, that's a good one 1:23:08.520 --> 1:23:11.519 to live by. No, if you could change something and 1:23:11.560 --> 1:23:14.920 you're not happy, change it and do the things you enjoy. 1:23:15.520 --> 1:23:17.479 Like if you're not happy with your job, get a 1:23:17.560 --> 1:23:20.040 job you enjoy, or study something you really want to study. 1:23:20.400 --> 1:23:22.960 If you have the opportunity to do so, you should 1:23:23.040 --> 1:23:25.880 do it. Don't let your own thoughts stop you. Your 1:23:25.920 --> 1:23:28.160 life is your life. You don't have to do what 1:23:28.200 --> 1:23:30.679 society thinks. As long as you're not hurting anyone else, 1:23:31.160 --> 1:23:32.799 you can do whatever you want in this life. 1:23:33.240 --> 1:23:35.400 Alice, when it comes to disability, what do you think 1:23:35.560 --> 1:23:38.080 is the biggest misconceptions that people. 1:23:37.840 --> 1:23:45.200 Hold that we can't do doggie, that's a wrap that 1:23:45.240 --> 1:23:48.840 we're depressed. That would be the biggest one. Everyone always 1:23:48.880 --> 1:23:51.760 thinks I should be depressed all the time, but it's 1:23:51.800 --> 1:23:54.519 not the case. Sometimes I live a better life than 1:23:54.560 --> 1:23:56.280 some of my friends. Why do you think that is 1:23:56.560 --> 1:23:57.160 mental health? 1:23:57.200 --> 1:24:01.360 I think, yeah, we cannot understaate, like what a resilient 1:24:01.520 --> 1:24:04.280 person you are, and how for all the things that 1:24:04.320 --> 1:24:06.519 you've been through that you can have the incredible mindset 1:24:06.560 --> 1:24:08.280 that you do have. It's been a privilege to have 1:24:08.280 --> 1:24:09.800 a chat with you today and for you to share 1:24:09.800 --> 1:24:12.600 your story. But also, I don't think anyone should have 1:24:12.720 --> 1:24:15.760 to listen to somebody's challenging story to be able to 1:24:15.800 --> 1:24:18.160 appreciate the things that they have in their life that 1:24:18.200 --> 1:24:20.000 are just not so bad. I don't think we should 1:24:20.040 --> 1:24:22.439 have to draw those comparisons. No, but we do. But 1:24:22.560 --> 1:24:24.920 I think that sometimes people do need that reality check. 1:24:25.040 --> 1:24:27.200 And you know, I love that you say that there's 1:24:27.720 --> 1:24:31.080 this understanding, all this thought that people who have a 1:24:31.120 --> 1:24:34.000 disability are depressed, when it's simply just not the case. 1:24:34.120 --> 1:24:36.880 And that's such an ablest view. It's people who take 1:24:36.880 --> 1:24:39.400 for granted their own abilities and they think, well, if 1:24:39.439 --> 1:24:41.320 I was like that, I would be depressed, and that 1:24:41.479 --> 1:24:44.040 I think really minimizes the feelings and thoughts of people 1:24:44.040 --> 1:24:46.679 who have to deal with disability every day. 1:24:47.000 --> 1:24:49.640 Yeah, yeah, Allie, when you're off on your adventure, I 1:24:49.760 --> 1:24:53.040 leave in a week today, probably right now I'll be 1:24:53.080 --> 1:24:55.640 on my plot. So genuate a motherfuckers? 1:24:57.600 --> 1:24:59.160 Is that what you're saying to people? Because you did 1:24:59.200 --> 1:25:01.400 have a I actually, well, I saw you how to 1:25:01.439 --> 1:25:03.920 go in away party and you sort of said, like, 1:25:04.000 --> 1:25:05.720 I realized there are some people I might not ever 1:25:05.760 --> 1:25:06.280 see again. 1:25:06.560 --> 1:25:09.360 I've been cranking a few of my friends, telling them 1:25:09.360 --> 1:25:11.200 that I got to delete everyone's numbers and I don't 1:25:11.200 --> 1:25:13.360 want to talk to anyone, and they've been really sad 1:25:13.520 --> 1:25:16.960 messaging me every day. Be friends, don't worry. 1:25:17.320 --> 1:25:19.920 I am so stoked for you, and I just hope 1:25:19.920 --> 1:25:22.280 you have the best couple of years literally that you 1:25:22.360 --> 1:25:25.280 can possibly have and enjoy every second. And there's going 1:25:25.320 --> 1:25:28.960 to be some fucking tumultuous moments, I'm sure, but it 1:25:29.000 --> 1:25:32.479 sounds like you've got a wondful trip plan. Well, you know, 1:25:32.640 --> 1:25:34.680 we never finished an episode without our suck and our 1:25:34.680 --> 1:25:36.559 sweet the highs and the lows. Lord, do you want 1:25:36.600 --> 1:25:37.679 to kick it off with your suck? 1:25:37.800 --> 1:25:39.720 I feel like you're throwing it to me because you 1:25:39.720 --> 1:25:40.240 are still. 1:25:40.760 --> 1:25:41.320 I could do it. 1:25:41.520 --> 1:25:42.960 I'm yeah, bring it. 1:25:42.960 --> 1:25:47.160 Baby, Okay, Okay, Well I've only been back for one day, 1:25:47.280 --> 1:25:49.400 so my suck can only be with the last day, 1:25:49.560 --> 1:25:52.240 and my suck will be that just that. I'm super jetlagged. 1:25:52.360 --> 1:25:55.160 I was up all night. I feel wired. I was 1:25:55.200 --> 1:25:57.760 like you know, when you're lay there and you're like sleep, sleep, 1:25:57.760 --> 1:25:59.280 you gotta go up before our sleep sleep. And I 1:25:59.360 --> 1:26:01.080 was just like, I can't sleep well on the phone 1:26:01.120 --> 1:26:03.280 to band on friend Sheridan. So my jet LAG's probably 1:26:03.280 --> 1:26:05.880 worse than it's ever been. There, suck. 1:26:06.040 --> 1:26:09.479 I don't relate to this. I'm like a fucking what's 1:26:09.479 --> 1:26:10.080 the right word? 1:26:10.640 --> 1:26:11.120 You wouldn't? 1:26:11.200 --> 1:26:12.719 Can you tell me you're telling the story? 1:26:13.439 --> 1:26:16.719 I an anomaly. I don't really get jet lagged. I've 1:26:16.760 --> 1:26:20.080 never experienced like a wide away in somnia jet lag. 1:26:20.200 --> 1:26:22.960 You get on a plane, you barely sat down, and 1:26:23.000 --> 1:26:25.360 you're asleep. I've never seen anything like. It doesn't matter 1:26:25.439 --> 1:26:27.240 what it is, how it is, what the position is. 1:26:27.280 --> 1:26:28.960 You could have five dogs and kids next to you 1:26:29.000 --> 1:26:30.360 and you get on and you pass out. 1:26:30.400 --> 1:26:31.880 Yeah, I could be on that plane where there was 1:26:31.880 --> 1:26:33.800 the fighting dog and I would sleep the whole time. 1:26:33.960 --> 1:26:36.640 I don't if you haven't seen that article, there was 1:26:36.720 --> 1:26:38.320 a couple who got sat next to a dog that 1:26:38.360 --> 1:26:40.439 farted the entire plane ride, and now they want a refund. 1:26:40.439 --> 1:26:42.200 I could have slept through that. I could sleep through anything. 1:26:42.240 --> 1:26:44.280 What's the difference with the dog fighting and humans fighting? 1:26:44.320 --> 1:26:45.960 Humans always fight on planes. You don't go and get 1:26:45.960 --> 1:26:47.439 a refund and see the guy next to me farted. 1:26:47.800 --> 1:26:49.360 You would ask to move though, wouldn't you? 1:26:49.439 --> 1:26:49.880 I did? 1:26:49.960 --> 1:26:52.799 I have been sat on a plane with the person 1:26:52.840 --> 1:26:56.840 in front kept faring anyway? Did I sat in their 1:26:56.840 --> 1:27:01.519 fart for six hours? Sat breathing in their fart in 1:27:01.560 --> 1:27:04.400 a little air conditioned tin can? So my wait, did 1:27:04.400 --> 1:27:05.520 you say to sweet? 1:27:05.560 --> 1:27:09.000 I'm sweet? My sweet was just geting home to little Delilah. 1:27:08.600 --> 1:27:11.479 Squidlet Burger, who produced a Keisha took care of for 1:27:11.479 --> 1:27:12.200 the week. 1:27:12.600 --> 1:27:14.400 Keisha had it for two weeks, and I still he 1:27:14.439 --> 1:27:17.519 missed and producer Keisha looks after her like a bloody princess. 1:27:18.040 --> 1:27:19.840 But I really missed her. So does that mean that 1:27:19.880 --> 1:27:21.679 when she comes back, she's like, I not you again? 1:27:22.080 --> 1:27:22.639 Pretty much? 1:27:22.760 --> 1:27:24.200 She has a take me back to Keisha's house. 1:27:24.240 --> 1:27:26.840 She doesn't know who her mum is. Yeah, we know 1:27:26.920 --> 1:27:30.639 that Keisha breaks the rules with her. That's why Keisha 1:27:30.720 --> 1:27:33.240 lets her do whatever she wants. I put these strict 1:27:33.320 --> 1:27:35.800 rules on and Keisha's like she didn't like it, and 1:27:35.800 --> 1:27:36.960 I'm like, she's a dot. 1:27:37.120 --> 1:27:39.640 Keisha's sitting here looking like she's been victimized. But I 1:27:39.680 --> 1:27:42.160 did see you walk her without her thinking on at one. 1:27:42.080 --> 1:27:45.360 Point all the time. And Keisha takes her swimming every day, 1:27:45.920 --> 1:27:48.000 so like she loves it. She's like she's on dog vak. 1:27:48.479 --> 1:27:50.479 She lives her best life. Anyway, that was my sweet 1:27:50.479 --> 1:27:51.639 Do you know what it is? And when you think 1:27:51.640 --> 1:27:54.200 about it, Keisha's just the cool auntie. Yeah, she's one 1:27:54.240 --> 1:27:57.200 hundred percent. I'm the disciplinarian and she's the Keisha's the 1:27:57.240 --> 1:27:58.080 one that lets to do any. 1:27:58.080 --> 1:28:00.840 Keisha's the cool drunk art that everyone wants to hang 1:28:00.880 --> 1:28:06.040 out with. Okay, my suck for the wig is that Lola. 1:28:06.240 --> 1:28:09.080 I am usually Lola's favorite, right that kid. She is 1:28:09.160 --> 1:28:11.760 hardwired to me. I am like her soul and my 1:28:11.920 --> 1:28:14.920 soul are conjoined. We do everything together. She is going 1:28:14.960 --> 1:28:17.200 to attached many issues, but y yes, she is as 1:28:17.200 --> 1:28:20.360 attached and she loves me and we are the same. 1:28:20.680 --> 1:28:22.599 She's still pretty much hanging out of my womb. That's 1:28:22.600 --> 1:28:24.479 how attached we are with. 1:28:24.479 --> 1:28:28.559 You, Hernia Herniated. No, with my pro labs. She's hanging 1:28:28.600 --> 1:28:30.160 on to my pro lab still. She's trying to get 1:28:30.200 --> 1:28:30.880 back in my womb. 1:28:31.200 --> 1:28:34.000 So I came home from this trip seven days, first 1:28:34.040 --> 1:28:37.360 trip away from the kids, like decent trip, especially international trip. 1:28:37.439 --> 1:28:37.960 She didn't care. 1:28:38.680 --> 1:28:41.000 As soon as I was out of eyesight, she abandoned 1:28:41.040 --> 1:28:43.120 me for Matt. She was like, oh, that parent's gone, 1:28:43.160 --> 1:28:44.680 now I need to go to the next one, and 1:28:44.760 --> 1:28:48.000 attached to them. She's literally hanging off Matt's uterus, waving 1:28:48.000 --> 1:28:49.920 around off his testicles, trying to get back in there. 1:28:52.479 --> 1:28:55.160 I think that's okay. She needs some independence. 1:28:55.439 --> 1:28:58.160 That's not independence. She has a new favorite. 1:28:58.520 --> 1:29:01.559 No, but that's normal. And you always go through favors 1:29:01.600 --> 1:29:05.360 with parents, especially girls. Favorite are usually the dad that's 1:29:05.360 --> 1:29:06.200 like across the board. 1:29:06.280 --> 1:29:08.280 I know, and that's why I have held on to 1:29:08.439 --> 1:29:11.120 being Lola's favorite for so long. And I know because 1:29:11.240 --> 1:29:12.880 it was always the case, right Like Marley had a 1:29:12.880 --> 1:29:15.160 transition when she was like two, she became Daddy became 1:29:15.160 --> 1:29:17.559 the favorite, and Daddy's been the favorite ever since. But 1:29:17.640 --> 1:29:20.680 Lola and I, I am the favorite. And I got 1:29:20.720 --> 1:29:22.519 home and even last night when she was in the bar, 1:29:22.640 --> 1:29:25.960 she's like, no, Daddy, do it, Daddy, do it? Go away, mummy, 1:29:26.040 --> 1:29:27.479 Daddy do it. She didn't want me to put in 1:29:27.479 --> 1:29:29.400 a bed nothing. Shouldn't you embrace her? 1:29:29.640 --> 1:29:30.960 No, because you don't come back. 1:29:31.439 --> 1:29:33.080 It makes me feel really sad. It makes me feel 1:29:33.080 --> 1:29:35.280 really rejected. I came home and all I wanted. I 1:29:35.280 --> 1:29:37.080 even bribed them with lollies and toys and stuff, and 1:29:37.120 --> 1:29:39.519 she still was like, Daddy, open it, Daddy, do it. 1:29:39.600 --> 1:29:42.320 I was like, you ungrateful little shit. I didn't say that. 1:29:42.400 --> 1:29:44.960 I was like, come back to me here. I am 1:29:45.040 --> 1:29:46.920 told me like, Daddy's gone away. You've locked him in 1:29:46.920 --> 1:29:47.280 the basement. 1:29:47.360 --> 1:29:48.599 It's just mummy home now. 1:29:49.439 --> 1:29:51.200 Daddy went for a run and I was like, Daddy's 1:29:51.240 --> 1:29:54.240 left you, He's gone now. He said he doesn't want 1:29:54.240 --> 1:29:58.400 to be Daddy doesn't love you, Laura too far. 1:29:58.520 --> 1:30:03.639 I didn't say that period a. Look, we've spoken about. 1:30:03.439 --> 1:30:06.760 This my sweet for the week, though, is I mean 1:30:06.880 --> 1:30:08.920 I just got back from a week in Bali. That 1:30:09.000 --> 1:30:11.880 is my sweet for the week. Honestly, sometime that was 1:30:11.880 --> 1:30:12.200 the rule. 1:30:12.240 --> 1:30:13.639 I didn't know we could go from our sweep from 1:30:13.640 --> 1:30:16.080 the last week. Obviously mine was sex with Ben. Yeah, 1:30:16.120 --> 1:30:17.840 I would have hoped that that was I thought we 1:30:17.880 --> 1:30:20.639 was starting just from yesterday. No, it's from the. 1:30:20.600 --> 1:30:25.080 Week prior, Like, I don't know, okay, sex Ben, one 1:30:25.200 --> 1:30:26.560 day of Sweet. 1:30:26.200 --> 1:30:27.920 And Delilah, sex with Ben and then coming home to 1:30:27.960 --> 1:30:31.120 Las not sex with Delilah, sex with Ben Comma space, 1:30:31.280 --> 1:30:35.360 and also seeing Dalilah grammar, okay, punctuation. 1:30:35.640 --> 1:30:38.240 All right, Look, my sweet for the week is I 1:30:38.280 --> 1:30:40.800 felt really worried about going away and spending so much 1:30:40.800 --> 1:30:43.080 time without the girls, And like I said earlier, I 1:30:43.120 --> 1:30:44.640 do feel like I have to justify. You know, it 1:30:44.680 --> 1:30:46.880 was for work, and it was a work trip and 1:30:46.920 --> 1:30:49.559 we worked every single day. But that is what my 1:30:49.640 --> 1:30:53.080 sweet was. It was so amazing to have serious quality 1:30:53.120 --> 1:30:56.400 time to focus on getting through work for Tony May. 1:30:56.479 --> 1:30:59.120 And also just like going with my sister, who's my 1:30:59.240 --> 1:31:01.439 other business part Like, you know, my sister and I 1:31:01.479 --> 1:31:05.280 are both business partners on Tony May and being able 1:31:05.320 --> 1:31:08.479 to focus. And when you're a working mum and your 1:31:08.520 --> 1:31:13.519 concentration is always split across parenting and working, you often 1:31:13.560 --> 1:31:15.680 feel like you're not doing any job well right. You 1:31:15.720 --> 1:31:18.320 feel like you're doing a shitty job at your work 1:31:18.320 --> 1:31:20.639 and a shitty job at parenting and just a shitty job, 1:31:20.960 --> 1:31:23.360 and that always leads you feeling a little bit defeated. 1:31:23.840 --> 1:31:24.280 I had a. 1:31:24.240 --> 1:31:26.680 Week where I actually felt like I did such a 1:31:26.680 --> 1:31:29.840 fucking good job at my job for one week, And yeah, sure, 1:31:29.880 --> 1:31:31.760 I had kind of like almost completely checked out of 1:31:31.760 --> 1:31:34.559 parenting except for a few crazy ass facetimes. But I 1:31:34.560 --> 1:31:37.240 think it's really important that as mums and as working mums, 1:31:37.280 --> 1:31:40.280 we allow ourselves those opportunities to be able to tap 1:31:40.320 --> 1:31:43.280 back into what's important to us alongside parenting, because I 1:31:43.280 --> 1:31:46.160 think often dads can do it. I mean, I see 1:31:46.000 --> 1:31:48.200 my sister's husband goes away on work trips quite a 1:31:48.200 --> 1:31:51.000 bit because his job requires it, and I don't think 1:31:51.000 --> 1:31:53.400 that we have the same expectations around the guilt that 1:31:53.439 --> 1:31:55.600 we feel when it comes to a dad traveling for 1:31:55.640 --> 1:31:58.160 work verse when a mum has to do it. Yeah, 1:31:58.200 --> 1:32:00.040 I just I really enjoyed it. 1:32:00.040 --> 1:32:03.200 It was a really amazing What I'm hearing is every 1:32:03.240 --> 1:32:04.920 month you need to go away from a week to BALI. 1:32:05.040 --> 1:32:06.360 That's that's the message I'm geting. 1:32:06.800 --> 1:32:09.760 Anyway, guys, that is it from us. We will be 1:32:09.800 --> 1:32:11.760 back on Thursday with our Ask Uncut. If you have 1:32:11.920 --> 1:32:15.719 any amazing ask Guncut questions, any big, deep, juicy, saucy, 1:32:15.760 --> 1:32:19.400 ah sexy dilemmas, we will answer them. Also, just a 1:32:19.400 --> 1:32:22.320 little reminder, it is the podcast Awards coming up and 1:32:22.680 --> 1:32:25.800 we would love it if you love the podcast to 1:32:25.920 --> 1:32:28.759 go and jump into the show notes on today's episode, 1:32:28.800 --> 1:32:30.519 there'll be a link there you can go and vote 1:32:30.520 --> 1:32:32.760 for Life on Cut in the Listener's Choice award. And 1:32:33.840 --> 1:32:37.080 we're begging you. No, we're not be cool cool we are. 1:32:36.960 --> 1:32:39.200 Because we don't ever get nominated for anything. Yeah, and 1:32:39.280 --> 1:32:42.720 we need to got that cuts so deep. I know 1:32:42.800 --> 1:32:45.160 that we don't ever get a nomination in our category. 1:32:45.240 --> 1:32:50.120 Like we try so hard, we just never get You 1:32:50.200 --> 1:32:51.080 gotta laugh right. 1:32:50.960 --> 1:32:53.200 No, because it doesn't matter. It's you know, that's all 1:32:53.240 --> 1:32:55.519 the bureaucracy and the politics of matters. 1:32:56.040 --> 1:32:57.600 The Li's Choice. 1:32:57.360 --> 1:32:59.920 Is the only award that fucking matters. And that's why 1:33:00.040 --> 1:33:02.360 you're like, guys, if you love the pod, go vote. 1:33:02.439 --> 1:33:04.880 We would love you forever. And also, Britt will give 1:33:04.880 --> 1:33:06.840 you a puppy. I know you say that every year. 1:33:06.880 --> 1:33:09.000 People know I don't give them puppies. It's been four 1:33:09.080 --> 1:33:10.519 years you've said we give puppies out. 1:33:10.600 --> 1:33:10.760 Yeah. 1:33:10.800 --> 1:33:12.640 And for the people who voted four times, eventually they 1:33:12.680 --> 1:33:14.839 will receive four puppies. That's gonna be a real handful. 1:33:14.920 --> 1:33:17.160 Nothing worse than no one's pupping this dog. 1:33:17.400 --> 1:33:21.360 But also you can vote from multiple emails, So if 1:33:21.400 --> 1:33:23.439 you have a university email, if you have an old 1:33:23.439 --> 1:33:25.360 school hot mail. Have you voted, ge Laura? 1:33:25.479 --> 1:33:27.200 Yeah, the more emails you vote from, the more puppies 1:33:27.240 --> 1:33:27.439 you get. 1:33:27.439 --> 1:33:31.400 And that is from us guys. Yeah nah, but I 1:33:31.439 --> 1:33:33.800 will Laura, that vote could be the decider. 1:33:34.120 --> 1:33:34.760 I'll vote now. 1:33:34.920 --> 1:33:39.280 And from Tony mate, don't forget to your mum, Doy, Dad, Doe, dog, 1:33:39.320 --> 1:33:41.400 two friends and shann love because. 1:33:41.479 --> 1:33:43.120 We love them. 1:33:43.160 --> 1:33:45.640 If we lose by one vote, you're fine. What are 1:33:45.640 --> 1:33:49.680 you gonna do this podcast with myself? Hey, guys, that's Brett. 1:33:50.680 --> 1:33:52.559 Just Keisha's just waiting in the wings. 1:33:52.600 --> 1:33:58.040 She's like he no, Britt and Kisha Okay, bye by baby. 1:34:00.120 --> 1:34:03.040 Can A the Company A. 1:34:04.320 --> 1:34:12.120 Thea al Bay, the