WEBVTT - How Many Bites Into A Meal Before You Can Send It Back? 🍲

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<v Speaker 1>Flex and Frooms, Flex and Frooms. This is the Flex

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<v Speaker 1>and Frooms catch up podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>It's Flex and Frooms and our producer Brook. It's actually

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<v Speaker 2>just gone to the toilet.

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<v Speaker 1>She's abandon us for a little tinkle. But it's fine.

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<v Speaker 1>I was thinking broadly. I was going to talk about

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<v Speaker 1>it with you on the show, but I'm still trying

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<v Speaker 1>to formulate what the thought is. But I had a

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<v Speaker 1>situation recently where someone was struggling near me, like in

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<v Speaker 1>physical pain, and didn't say anything because they didn't want

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<v Speaker 1>to disrupt the vibe I hate. And I was so

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<v Speaker 1>sad because I was like, do you don't think you're

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<v Speaker 1>more important than the vibe? Do you really think that

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<v Speaker 1>we'd put you in a position where your comfort is

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<v Speaker 1>less important than the vibe? You're insane, so never be me. No.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm trying to figure out, like what is what

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<v Speaker 1>is the moral of the story, you know, like being

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<v Speaker 1>an attention or could save your life. I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>but sometimes it is worth drawing attention to you and

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<v Speaker 1>taking it away from something else just for the moment

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<v Speaker 1>you're deserving of being seen. Maybe don't request it from everyone,

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<v Speaker 1>but definitely like you're in a circle, they got you.

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<v Speaker 1>It's really like painting me how I'm like observing people

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<v Speaker 1>feel alone. I'm seeing a lot of that on my

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<v Speaker 1>time when at the moment I'm like, damn, you guys

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<v Speaker 1>really need a group chat or a best friend.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeple and friends Keeter, Flex and Frooms, Flex and Frooms.

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<v Speaker 2>In very exciting news, my father turned sixty six a

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<v Speaker 2>few weeks ago.

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<v Speaker 1>Shout out to the big dog, big dog.

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<v Speaker 2>Old loving it though. I just had this thought, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>my I remember when I was born and my parents parents.

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<v Speaker 2>I thought my parents' parents are so old. But if

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<v Speaker 2>I have a baby now, my parents would be babe

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<v Speaker 2>age that my grandparents were scary. Life. Life happens, guys.

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<v Speaker 1>It definitely does continuously like happening unbeknownst to us and

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<v Speaker 1>without our consent.

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<v Speaker 2>Anyway, I live in just from my parents, So what

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<v Speaker 2>do I do. I didn't organize a present for my dad.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll say I'm gonna get some cupcakes, and uber Emm says, nah,

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<v Speaker 2>none of that fancy shit. He likes the cupcakes that

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<v Speaker 2>just have pink icing and smiley faces.

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<v Speaker 1>He's one of mine.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a simple man.

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<v Speaker 1>He's kind of like you.

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<v Speaker 2>Very specific food taste. Doesn't drink milk.

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<v Speaker 1>Either, but I'm thinking of getting back into it because

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<v Speaker 1>I want to eat crunchy nuts cereal, and the internet

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<v Speaker 1>said my only alternative is water.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's not going to give or some people do

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<v Speaker 2>orange juice. And anyway, Mum goes to the local bakery

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<v Speaker 2>and gets these little tiny muffins, twelve of them. What

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<v Speaker 2>happens later that night everyone with me.

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<v Speaker 1>Gash stroke, three star health raaking go.

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<v Speaker 2>Our family friends are over and everybody eats them, eats

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<v Speaker 2>the cupcakes. My mom doesn't have one. But then once

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<v Speaker 2>once everyone's gone, she like has a little bite on.

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<v Speaker 2>There's stale. I'm not just stale. They are repugnant. My

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<v Speaker 2>mum is so upset and embarrassed that she's just fed

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<v Speaker 2>all of these guests these absolutely rancid cupcakes, and she goes, nope,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not having any other slove, goes down to the bakery.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh. I thought she would have called the guests back

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<v Speaker 1>to be like, hey, f yi, I don't know what

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<v Speaker 1>happened there. That wasn't one of mine, that was one

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<v Speaker 1>of theirs.

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<v Speaker 2>So she doesn't let the guests be Instead, she's going

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<v Speaker 2>straight to the source, walks over to the bakery the

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<v Speaker 2>next day, demands a refund. Yeah small business, no ah.

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<v Speaker 1>No, listen if medium franchise, franchise.

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<v Speaker 2>No, no, no, your bakery. She didn't demand she's not a.

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<v Speaker 1>Full time on card Yeah yeah no.

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<v Speaker 2>But I mean that they were so bad that even

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<v Speaker 2>my dad was like, oh, they're not good, and like

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<v Speaker 2>he doesn't really have a palette. He just consumes, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>he doesn't taste, he just hates. So basically got me thinking,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, like most of the cupcakes had already been eaten.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, she's bringing like half cupcake back to be.

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<v Speaker 1>Like true, she's a stale the day later too, So

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<v Speaker 1>how do you even know? How do we even know?

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<v Speaker 2>But my big question is, FLEXI, you've eaten majority of

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<v Speaker 2>the meal and you find a hair or you realize

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<v Speaker 2>that it's actually gross, do you send it back?

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<v Speaker 1>Is this why you told that whole story?

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<v Speaker 2>Well?

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<v Speaker 1>I want to know.

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<v Speaker 2>Ah, Okay, let me let me paint the scene for you. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>you're sitting down at a restaurant. Let's say no boo,

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<v Speaker 2>let's not say a restaurant.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's redact.

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<v Speaker 2>You're sitting down at a restaurant that you really like.

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<v Speaker 2>That's like relatively good. It's not a chain restaurant, it's

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<v Speaker 2>a local restaurant, but it's expensive. You sit down, put

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<v Speaker 2>a napkin over your lap. Audio food, ravioli. The ravioli turns.

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<v Speaker 1>Up, vodka pasta could change.

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<v Speaker 2>The vodka pasta shows up your little sifting true trying

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<v Speaker 2>to get the source all of their thing. You see

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<v Speaker 2>a hair Oh, I'm not a regular hair. Oh it's

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<v Speaker 2>always pubic. That's the rule of hair and food. Okay, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>it always comes from the pubic, came from below, And

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<v Speaker 2>you think South Pole, what do you do? Do you

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<v Speaker 2>send it back? Let's say you're you've got one quarter left,

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<v Speaker 2>You've seen it right last minute. Do you send it

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<v Speaker 2>back for a new or do you just ask for

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<v Speaker 2>a refund.

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<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't send it back for hair. I think that's

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<v Speaker 1>just part of the risk you take when dining out.

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<v Speaker 1>And honestly, I have watched a couple of chef shows

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<v Speaker 1>in my life, and a lot of them just raw

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<v Speaker 1>dogging it, like no gloves and just hair out. So

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<v Speaker 1>I understand the land of the land. What I will

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<v Speaker 1>send back every time, dirty dishware, dirty carp I. Don't

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<v Speaker 1>care if it smells funny. If I'm catching a little

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<v Speaker 1>residue of like a bit of dry what do what

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<v Speaker 1>you call dried water? What's that called? Anyway? Do you

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<v Speaker 1>get what I'm saying? I think so, the dried water

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<v Speaker 1>and the glass, I'm sending it back. I'm sending it back.

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<v Speaker 1>Can I tell you though? Really quickly? I was in Hobart,

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<v Speaker 1>went to my favorite restaurant. It will not be named.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, you know, you know, you know, shout out

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<v Speaker 1>to Hobart. I take my two friends there. They one

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<v Speaker 1>is vegan, vegetarian ish, you know, oscillates are the ones

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<v Speaker 1>a trough heill eat whatever. So we order. I ordered

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<v Speaker 1>a bunch of food for everyone. Now that my Palett's evolved,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I know how to do this. The food

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<v Speaker 1>gets here and something's off. Now I've come here so

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<v Speaker 1>many times, maybe ten, so I know what it should

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<v Speaker 1>look like. It's not looking that way. The plating is different.

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<v Speaker 1>But specifically I ordered corn for my vegan friend and

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<v Speaker 1>the corn came on a bed of meat. Assorted me.

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<v Speaker 1>I never seen this before. I never seen this. So

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<v Speaker 1>as I pick up the corn by the skewer, the

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<v Speaker 1>cop no no, no, by a little it's had a

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<v Speaker 1>little skewer in it. I picked it up. I said,

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<v Speaker 1>I guess, I guess it's fine. I put it on

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<v Speaker 1>her plate. The waiter comes, He's like, I'm so sorry,

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<v Speaker 1>that's not your food. I'm so sorry, it's not your food.

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<v Speaker 1>Takes the corn I took off plate, assembles it back

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<v Speaker 1>on the plate, goes to the next table. Hi, this

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<v Speaker 1>is your food. Couldn't be me.

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<v Speaker 2>It couldn't be me.

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<v Speaker 1>It couldn't be me, Babe, I trust me. You shouldn't

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<v Speaker 1>trust me. You're anyway. At that point, I said, I

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<v Speaker 1>wish I was more of a vigilante, but I said,

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<v Speaker 1>every man for himself to my.

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<v Speaker 2>Community, it's better over here. Flex and rooms on kater Flexi. Recently,

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<v Speaker 2>I was talking about intrusive thoughts right correct now. Over

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<v Speaker 2>the last few weeks, I've decided I actually want to

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<v Speaker 2>rephrase that term because I actually don't think what I'm

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<v Speaker 2>experiencing is intrusive thoughts, because true intrusive thoughts are just

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<v Speaker 2>that they're intrusive, and they're often disturbing or upsetting. And

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<v Speaker 2>my intrusive thought being the fact that I'm having a

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<v Speaker 2>dance off with a family that owns a milk.

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<v Speaker 1>Bar reoccurring some spontaneous thoughts or something. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>That's a what's it called? Not an intrusive thought? It's

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<v Speaker 2>an impulsive thought? Anyway. I had a listener submission about

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<v Speaker 2>what it could be. It's from a woman called Sophie,

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<v Speaker 2>I consider her long term employee. Thank you, Sophie for

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<v Speaker 2>your wack. She goes are the intrusive thoughts that aren't

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<v Speaker 2>intrusive in bunny rabbits. I think the correct psychological terminology

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<v Speaker 2>is recurring thoughts or recurring thought patterns highly associated with OCD.

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<v Speaker 2>But we all have these thoughts, and it's safe to

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<v Speaker 2>say we don't all have OCD. Anyway, Illi, boss, have

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<v Speaker 2>a great day.

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<v Speaker 1>X love that message. I really there are a few

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<v Speaker 1>things I appreciate more than when people take the time

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<v Speaker 1>out to continue the conversation with us, like that thing. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>let's say we disagree on how to pronounce a word

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<v Speaker 1>and someone's like, it's actually this. I'm like, yeah, thank you,

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<v Speaker 1>that's helpful, Thanks for actually listening. You know what?

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<v Speaker 2>An absolute pleasure? Unbeknownst to me, or rather against my will,

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<v Speaker 2>anxiety seems to come up as a concept here on

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<v Speaker 2>the flex and from show we do talk about philosophy

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<v Speaker 2>against your will? No, not really, but you just talk

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<v Speaker 2>about what you see, you know. I feel like, hmm,

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<v Speaker 2>now I'm having anxiety. No, no, I'm joking. I'm joking. Essentially,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm trying to figure out a new dictionary for how

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<v Speaker 2>to talk about what I experience that gives power to

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<v Speaker 2>how it actually feels, the specifics of it, not the

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<v Speaker 2>broad like it's broadly a thought.

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<v Speaker 1>No no, no, it's a very specific thing that's happening here.

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<v Speaker 2>So instead of using the term anxiety and intrusive thoughts,

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<v Speaker 2>and I must say this is off my own back.

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<v Speaker 2>No one has called me in or out on this one.

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<v Speaker 2>It's more rather a self censoring technique. I want to

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<v Speaker 2>bring back worry. Yeah, let's talk about being worried. Let's

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<v Speaker 2>say on a.

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<v Speaker 1>It's nice to admit that I said it the other

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<v Speaker 1>day to someone I'm really worried, like about a certain situation.

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<v Speaker 1>She's like, there it is, You're dancing around it. You

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<v Speaker 1>need I feel I think, No, no, not there it is,

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<v Speaker 1>You're worried, I said, Damn.

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<v Speaker 2>I do wonder though, if we need to come up

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<v Speaker 2>with a whole new term, because even the term worried

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<v Speaker 2>gives me a little top like reminds you of a toddler, like, oh, worry?

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<v Speaker 2>What like worried sounds like obviously? Okay. Anxiety can be

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<v Speaker 2>a disorder. It also can be a feeling. You can

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<v Speaker 2>feel anxious about having anxiety or proper but it doesn't

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<v Speaker 2>how do I feel distressed? No, distressed is like panic

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<v Speaker 2>stations and.

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<v Speaker 1>Worries, concerned, apprehensive, destray, doubtful.

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<v Speaker 2>Nah, it's not giving.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, well, I think maybe you'd be better off honoring

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<v Speaker 1>like the complexity of the feeling as opposed to trying

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<v Speaker 1>to squish it down into like a really clean word.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, you know what I'm thinking. Let's say I feel

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<v Speaker 2>whatever way about a situation and I go to my

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<v Speaker 2>best friend, and I will say worry or anxiety based

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<v Speaker 2>on how I want them to react and help me. So,

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<v Speaker 2>if I go to my best friend and I say

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<v Speaker 2>I'm really anxious about this thing, I'm wanting her to

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<v Speaker 2>be like, oh, don't be silly, like da da da oh.

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<v Speaker 2>For reason, if I go to her and say I'm

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<v Speaker 2>really worried about this, then it's like this is something

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<v Speaker 2>that we need to fix. This is something like to me.

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<v Speaker 1>When your intention based language it is like when you're worried.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like it's more associated with something that you

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<v Speaker 2>actually should be worried about, whereas anxiety is like something

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<v Speaker 2>being like, Oh, don't be silly.

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<v Speaker 1>They do say only fifteen percent of the things we

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<v Speaker 1>worry about actually happen, so should we even be worried.

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<v Speaker 2>As I've said previously, my mind is let you go

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<v Speaker 2>into the fifteen percent.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, my mind said, Hey, babe, statistics are real

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<v Speaker 1>over here.

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<v Speaker 2>Love good to think about. I reckon, but I would

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<v Speaker 2>like to think about more intentional words. Not for any reason.

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<v Speaker 2>I think you should be able to use whatever words

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<v Speaker 2>you want when you're talking about your leved experience.

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<v Speaker 1>But I disagree. Really yeah, I don't think English is

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<v Speaker 1>the most helped full language. I think it's full of

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<v Speaker 1>contradictions as a foundation. I mean the fact that we

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<v Speaker 1>have a bunch of noises that sound similar but don't

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<v Speaker 1>mean similar things, and that words that sound that they

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<v Speaker 1>should mean something don't mean what they mean or and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, okay, that's not helpful. But also I think

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<v Speaker 1>there is a lot of power and saying what you mean,

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<v Speaker 1>especially when you want to be understood as intended. And

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<v Speaker 1>then sometimes I think that we feel really misunderstood, but

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<v Speaker 1>we don't feel like it's our responsibility to like make

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<v Speaker 1>people understand. Like if you don't get you don't get it.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like, well, how are we going to find the

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<v Speaker 1>words so you get it? Because I can't be in

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<v Speaker 1>this hole alone. I need you to understand. That's why TikTok,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, it's when you're speaking to someone.

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<v Speaker 2>Sorry you say, that's why TikTok's so popular. Yeah, because

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<v Speaker 2>they find specific feelings.

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<v Speaker 1>Fuzzy wrecking ball, you know, when you when you're talking

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<v Speaker 1>to someone like maybe like you're venting or not even venting,

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<v Speaker 1>but like just like commiserating or like getting a thought

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<v Speaker 1>or like debriefing even right, and you maybe I say like,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, I'm just worried that if I say

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<v Speaker 1>something it's going to give her the wrong impression. And

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<v Speaker 1>then someone's like, oh, so, like you're scared. No, I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't say that. Don't paraphrase like I'm telling you in

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<v Speaker 1>so many words how I'm feeling. Don't try and make

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<v Speaker 1>us sound simple. I'm really stressed because if I go

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<v Speaker 1>to work tomorrow and I'm not prepared I'm going to

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<v Speaker 1>feel like I'm insignificant at my job, and I'm going

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<v Speaker 1>to feel like people are judging me. Sounds like you

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<v Speaker 1>need a break. That's not what I said. Yeah, facts

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<v Speaker 1>like I said. All that I said so you would

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<v Speaker 1>understand what I'm going through, you know I do. Sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>you just hit them like, yeah, that sounds really hard.

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<v Speaker 2>Sorry that you're going through that. Love what I do

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<v Speaker 2>want to do because sometimes I listen to the podcast

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<v Speaker 2>back to go to sleep?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you do that?

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<v Speaker 2>No?

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<v Speaker 1>Quecki?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh shit, wait, there's a word that I try to say,

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<v Speaker 2>the lashievious.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, what's that word? I'm gonna get this up.

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<v Speaker 1>Here we go, get it up.

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<v Speaker 2>Lacivious feeling or revealing an overt sexual interest or desire. Ready,

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<v Speaker 2>here we go.

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<v Speaker 1>Lascivious. Can you read the definition again? Serous? No? You

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<v Speaker 1>what's the definition? Wait?

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<v Speaker 2>Wait wait, it's saying it wrong. Hold on, why is

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<v Speaker 2>it servious? It's lacivious? Hold on a second, guys signing it? Wait,

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<v Speaker 2>everybody'd be quite lascivious?

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<v Speaker 1>All right?

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<v Speaker 2>It means feeling or revealing an overt sexual interest or desire.

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<v Speaker 1>Why the fuck?

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<v Speaker 2>Hold on? One? Was I just because I was gonna

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<v Speaker 2>say lugivious.

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<v Speaker 1>Hold on, so you you've been feeling that?

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<v Speaker 2>No, I just always want to say lucivious as a word.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I want to feel liscivious, but.

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<v Speaker 2>Just period things.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, people aren't that lascivious to me?

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<v Speaker 2>Huh? You fucking the dating apps?

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<v Speaker 1>No, there's your shoe. No, I just like I need

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<v Speaker 1>to see people in more in hornier context. I'm just

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<v Speaker 1>standing around in a bar, is like, not inherently horny.

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<v Speaker 1>It's for the girls, you know. It's all right.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, that's how we need to do our Flex and

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<v Speaker 2>Froom's date night.

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<v Speaker 1>I relax by relax.

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<v Speaker 2>Everybody bring a single friend. Let's go fam Flex and Frooms.

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<v Speaker 1>They're the best. What did you oka? Am I the

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<v Speaker 1>asshole for refusing to watch my niece while my sister

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<v Speaker 1>gives birth. That is the question we're answering today on

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<v Speaker 1>Flex and Froom comprehension. Hats on listening, Ears open. I

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<v Speaker 1>seventeen year old male, have an older sister. She's twenty four.

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<v Speaker 1>She has a two year old daughter, and she recently

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<v Speaker 1>gave birth. It was early and unexpected, and our family

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<v Speaker 1>went to the hospital. Everyone except for me, my sister,

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<v Speaker 1>and my mum just expected me to watch my two

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<v Speaker 1>year old niece. I don't know anything about watching kid.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know how to change a diaper or what

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<v Speaker 1>they can eat. I tried to refuse and leave. I

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<v Speaker 1>also had plans for that day, but my mom basically

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<v Speaker 1>told me if I didn't watch my niece, i'd be grounded,

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<v Speaker 1>and this was an emergency, and that I was being selfish.

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<v Speaker 1>I left anyways, and now I'm grounded. My sister won't

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<v Speaker 1>talk to me because my mom had to stay home

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<v Speaker 1>with my niece. She's not happy either. I don't think

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<v Speaker 1>i'm the asshole. I don't have any experience with the kid,

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<v Speaker 1>and I already had plans that day. My mom was

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<v Speaker 1>there for my niece's birth, so I don't know why

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<v Speaker 1>it's so important to be there for the second.

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<v Speaker 2>He really said.

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<v Speaker 1>He said, life is hard for young boys.

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<v Speaker 2>Let me stay home and play Xbox with the bros.

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<v Speaker 1>Is he the asshole? I know you want me to

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<v Speaker 1>say yes, but I don't think he is. Have you

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<v Speaker 1>met seventeen year olds generally? Yes? Have you met seventeen

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<v Speaker 1>year old youngest siblings? Siblings who have never had to

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<v Speaker 1>look after another sibling before they don't have those tools.

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<v Speaker 1>They don't have those skills, and I can imagine in

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<v Speaker 1>a situation like this, he'd be purposely obtuse and would

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<v Speaker 1>actually put that kid in more danger by gradually looking

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<v Speaker 1>after him. Now, I will say, if you know you're

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<v Speaker 1>going to give birth, some people don't happens accidentally on

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<v Speaker 1>the toilet more than you think, more than you think,

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<v Speaker 1>actually it does.

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<v Speaker 2>Why is it always in hungry jacks?

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<v Speaker 1>Huh you heard of that? No, haven't.

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<v Speaker 2>You're at caf scene or a McDonald's. I've heard that one.

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<v Speaker 2>I think comes around every six months. Okay, woman has

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<v Speaker 2>accidental baby in toilet of McDonald's. Yeah, what a way

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<v Speaker 2>to go.

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<v Speaker 1>I love that. If you know you're going to give

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<v Speaker 1>birth to a child, you kind of have a vague

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<v Speaker 1>idea of when that's coming up. Let's get some some

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<v Speaker 1>things put in order, like I don't know, maybe a babysitter,

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<v Speaker 1>a family friend you trust, you know to be able

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<v Speaker 1>to get that on lock. Can you really give birth

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<v Speaker 1>stress free knowing your delinquent, obtuse younger sibling has take

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<v Speaker 1>has to look after your current baby. I wouldn't do it.

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<v Speaker 2>I just say bring the baby to the hospital. Oh, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>show it what life looks like whilst occurring.

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<v Speaker 1>I guess two year olds need a lot of like attention.

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<v Speaker 2>Dreckon the two year old child's ever seen its youngest

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<v Speaker 2>sister get born in a hospital setting?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>Really?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah? Out of the I reckon?

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<v Speaker 2>What about it? The sun roof?

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<v Speaker 1>Look, I'm gonna say sun roof desirian Ah.

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<v Speaker 2>At a later date, I want to talk about how

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<v Speaker 2>that offends some people. I put a meme on my

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<v Speaker 2>story a while ago about how like it was, like,

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<v Speaker 2>it's not your birthday, like you came out of a sunroof.

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<v Speaker 1>Babes related though, when I went up dressed up as

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<v Speaker 1>a blue person for Halloween, it was a slightly avatar related.

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<v Speaker 1>I just wanted to a blue person. They wanted to

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<v Speaker 1>do it for fun. I went to a house party

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<v Speaker 1>there happened to be a baby there part of a

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<v Speaker 1>Kendrick Lamar Jesus costume. Don't ask. I held the baby

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<v Speaker 1>for a photo, took a photo, posted it. I said,

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<v Speaker 1>guess what my costume is? Someone said postpartum depression. I

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<v Speaker 1>liked it. Or why am I getting canceled? Why are

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<v Speaker 1>you making jokes about postpartum depression? I said, Babe, Babe,

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<v Speaker 1>do I have to explain that there's no joke. There's

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<v Speaker 1>no joke, And now when I explain it, I look crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>It's avatar James Cameron. You've been listening to the Flex

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<v Speaker 1>and Frooms Daily podcast.

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