WEBVTT - FULL SHOW: What to do when your kid has a 'boyfriend' or 'girlfriend' 0:00:10.379 --> 0:00:14.219 I heard podcasts, hear more Kiss podcast playlist and listen 0:00:14.259 --> 0:00:21.899 live on the Free iHeart APPI with Brittle and Laura 0:00:21.939 --> 0:00:23.139 Ben Radio. 0:00:23.339 --> 0:00:25.578 What our windows down? 0:00:26.099 --> 0:00:29.579 My word risen the dust only good fall down. 0:00:30.619 --> 0:00:34.539 I've done much, but yeah I'm not. I'll big get 0:00:34.659 --> 0:00:35.579 and what I want. 0:00:35.899 --> 0:00:37.538 It don't matter where does. 0:00:37.659 --> 0:00:40.458 This is the pickup, Hi, guys, it's the pick up 0:00:40.499 --> 0:00:41.899 with Britt Hartley and Laura Burn. 0:00:42.619 --> 0:00:44.379 I don't know if this has ever happened to you, Laura. 0:00:44.419 --> 0:00:46.819 I know we've spoken about it maybe once in relation 0:00:46.979 --> 0:00:49.899 to garlic. But I have like this new discovery the 0:00:50.019 --> 0:00:52.779 last probably two years. But I've only just been the 0:00:52.819 --> 0:00:55.059 last two weeks really realized it's something. 0:00:55.499 --> 0:00:56.019 What's going on? 0:00:56.219 --> 0:01:01.019 I cannot eat a mint without sneezing. That is so 0:01:01.179 --> 0:01:04.059 weirdly specific because I'm I'm allergic to it, but nothing 0:01:04.099 --> 0:01:04.658 else happens. 0:01:04.658 --> 0:01:05.339 I'm not allergic. 0:01:05.459 --> 0:01:07.819 Like all I do is sneeze every time within one 0:01:07.859 --> 0:01:10.619 minute of putting minti my mouth. I sneeze also happens 0:01:10.658 --> 0:01:14.978 with like listerine, like anything that is minty that goes 0:01:14.979 --> 0:01:17.219 in my mouth, I have a sneezing attack after it. 0:01:17.259 --> 0:01:19.059 Is that weird, Yeah, chewing er. 0:01:19.298 --> 0:01:21.499 I mean, if it's weird, just look into the light 0:01:21.539 --> 0:01:22.219 and have a sneeze. 0:01:22.298 --> 0:01:23.898 Nothing like a good sneeze. 0:01:23.458 --> 0:01:25.819 But it's analogy thing that's formed later in life. Why 0:01:25.859 --> 0:01:27.018 do they come out of nowhere? 0:01:27.179 --> 0:01:28.139 I really don't know. 0:01:28.219 --> 0:01:30.658 But the one person who does the most impressive sneezes 0:01:30.699 --> 0:01:33.499 in this race is produce a grace. No one has 0:01:33.619 --> 0:01:35.859 ever heard anyone sneeze like produce a grace. 0:01:36.018 --> 0:01:38.979 I hate sneezing. Actually say I love to sneeze, but 0:01:39.018 --> 0:01:39.499 that's not true. 0:01:39.499 --> 0:01:41.339 It's because you do seventeen of them in a row. 0:01:41.539 --> 0:01:42.258 I don't need to. 0:01:42.298 --> 0:01:44.178 Try and record you next time, just to play it out. 0:01:44.658 --> 0:01:46.378 It's almost like an unbelievable feat. 0:01:46.699 --> 0:01:48.939 It is, but it takes years off my life. 0:01:48.979 --> 0:01:51.019 Every time I do it, I swear, and every time 0:01:51.059 --> 0:01:53.139 I'm driving, that's the last time I'm driving. 0:01:53.139 --> 0:01:54.699 Because you can't sneeze with your eyes open. 0:01:54.899 --> 0:01:58.379 I think it's actually physiologically impossible to sneeze with their 0:01:58.379 --> 0:02:01.019 eyes open. I remember, I'm trying really hard when there's 0:02:01.059 --> 0:02:02.739 seventeen in a row, when you're on the highway. 0:02:03.299 --> 0:02:05.739 I remember when I went for my driving my learner's lesson, 0:02:06.139 --> 0:02:08.899 and I sneeze twice and the guy in the next 0:02:08.899 --> 0:02:10.858 to me who was doing the testing. He made a 0:02:10.939 --> 0:02:12.499 joke that if I sneezed again and I had to 0:02:12.579 --> 0:02:14.099 keep closing my eyes, he'd have to fail me. 0:02:14.099 --> 0:02:16.379 And I was like, I think he was joking. I 0:02:16.419 --> 0:02:18.538 think he was joking. But you can't. Yeah, you're right, 0:02:18.579 --> 0:02:19.858 you can't. 0:02:20.418 --> 0:02:23.018 Well, it is Thursday, and you know what that means. 0:02:23.138 --> 0:02:25.858 Dunt Dunton ask uncut. 0:02:25.939 --> 0:02:27.939 This is what we do on our podcast Life Uncut 0:02:27.939 --> 0:02:29.539 podcasts every single week. 0:02:29.619 --> 0:02:32.299 One of my favorite things that we do. You guys 0:02:32.299 --> 0:02:32.939 writing or. 0:02:32.859 --> 0:02:34.858 Call up with your questions or the biggest problem of 0:02:34.899 --> 0:02:37.819 the week. We do our best to answer them. Today 0:02:37.899 --> 0:02:39.459 we have Aaron who is in a bit of a 0:02:39.499 --> 0:02:42.819 pickle with a relationship she's witnessing at work. 0:02:42.939 --> 0:02:44.219 Erin what's the deats? 0:02:44.739 --> 0:02:48.739 So pretty much my boss I found out that he 0:02:48.819 --> 0:02:52.459 was cheating on his wife. But I actually know the 0:02:52.499 --> 0:02:54.298 wife and I don't know how to tell her. 0:02:54.698 --> 0:02:56.019 How did you find out that he's cheating? 0:02:56.059 --> 0:02:58.059 Is it someone at work or is it something that 0:02:58.059 --> 0:02:59.858 you're like, how do you find that out? 0:03:00.138 --> 0:03:00.379 Yeah? 0:03:00.459 --> 0:03:03.538 So I found out through a couple of colleagues. He's 0:03:03.579 --> 0:03:06.299 pretty flirty with everyone at work. To be honest, I 0:03:06.418 --> 0:03:08.819 just heard through a couple of people, and I'm the 0:03:08.859 --> 0:03:11.139 only when that's close to the wife, So I feel 0:03:11.138 --> 0:03:12.538 like I need to tell her. 0:03:12.579 --> 0:03:15.738 This is where you run a risk because it's well, 0:03:15.779 --> 0:03:18.579 it sounds like you're also not one hundred percent. It 0:03:18.579 --> 0:03:21.139 sounds like like it's through the grapevine, like you've seen 0:03:21.138 --> 0:03:23.138 it yourself, but like such and such a set that 0:03:23.179 --> 0:03:25.698 they think or I mean, I could be wrong, but 0:03:25.739 --> 0:03:28.379 the fact that your boss firstly is a huge thing. 0:03:28.418 --> 0:03:30.219 There's a power and balance there. I'm sure you don't 0:03:30.219 --> 0:03:31.019 want to get involved in it. 0:03:31.059 --> 0:03:34.899 But secondly, I think unless you are one hundred percent sure, 0:03:35.059 --> 0:03:36.459 I don't think you can bring it up. 0:03:36.619 --> 0:03:38.859 Well do you think are you one hundred percent sure? 0:03:39.699 --> 0:03:43.219 Well, I've seen the Tinder profile, so I know you 0:03:43.259 --> 0:03:45.099 know there's some bit of evidence there. 0:03:45.339 --> 0:03:48.899 But yeah, yeah, well I think you can say that 0:03:48.979 --> 0:03:50.739 for sure. I think you don't have to say hey, 0:03:50.779 --> 0:03:53.659 he's cheating. I think you can just say, hey, I 0:03:53.699 --> 0:03:56.979 feel really uncomfortable doing this, but you should know this 0:03:57.019 --> 0:03:59.019 could be fake, could be a catfish. But I have 0:03:59.139 --> 0:04:01.419 seen Brett on Tinder. 0:04:01.779 --> 0:04:04.619 You're gonna call your boss's wife and say, hey. 0:04:04.739 --> 0:04:06.859 Friend, she knows her well it's still it's. 0:04:06.699 --> 0:04:07.219 Still I don't know. 0:04:07.219 --> 0:04:09.699 Okay, Wait, firstly, I guess, like, in terms of the 0:04:09.699 --> 0:04:11.699 workplace that you work at, is this a job that 0:04:11.779 --> 0:04:14.379 you like would be devastated to lose, or are you 0:04:14.459 --> 0:04:16.659 now in a situation where you're like, do you know what, 0:04:17.579 --> 0:04:19.819 I could leave this job and get something else that's 0:04:19.859 --> 0:04:22.139 of equal you know, value and everything else. 0:04:23.099 --> 0:04:25.299 I mean, I love my job. I don't want to 0:04:25.299 --> 0:04:27.419 lose it, That's the thing, you know. And like, I'm 0:04:27.659 --> 0:04:29.699 also love my boss and I don't want to cause 0:04:29.739 --> 0:04:32.099 any drama and if he found out, I definitely lose 0:04:32.139 --> 0:04:32.499 my job. 0:04:32.579 --> 0:04:34.179 How close are you to his wife? 0:04:35.099 --> 0:04:37.179 I'd say we're pretty close. Like we've gone out to 0:04:37.259 --> 0:04:38.579 lunch a couple of times together. 0:04:39.339 --> 0:04:40.659 Maybe just put your hand in the sand. 0:04:40.939 --> 0:04:41.379 I don't know. 0:04:42.619 --> 0:04:44.499 It's so like and I know that this is so 0:04:44.579 --> 0:04:47.939 polarizing and like cheating is Honestly, anytime we answer any 0:04:48.019 --> 0:04:50.419 questions around cheating, it's like the one thing that gets people. 0:04:50.179 --> 0:04:51.419 Absolutely rage baited. 0:04:51.899 --> 0:04:54.579 I worry that you're putting yourself in the firing line 0:04:54.779 --> 0:04:58.219 of something that's going to blow up for you in 0:04:58.259 --> 0:05:00.579 your workplace when you've not done anything wrong. 0:05:00.619 --> 0:05:02.979 It's different if you find out like that it's a 0:05:02.979 --> 0:05:06.659 friend's husband, that's one thing, But when your friend's husband 0:05:06.699 --> 0:05:09.339 is also in charge of your life life and your. 0:05:09.219 --> 0:05:11.259 Career, that's such a big responsibility. 0:05:11.339 --> 0:05:12.539 I think it gets too messy. 0:05:12.739 --> 0:05:15.939 The only thing you could somehow anonymously do maybe print 0:05:15.979 --> 0:05:17.419 it out and leave it on a desk or something. 0:05:17.499 --> 0:05:18.619 Don't say who is wrong so. 0:05:18.579 --> 0:05:19.819 I can't get traced back to you. 0:05:19.859 --> 0:05:20.659 But if you feel like. 0:05:20.619 --> 0:05:23.139 You really need if you're close enough to her and 0:05:23.179 --> 0:05:25.219 you're and you think she really needs to know, you 0:05:25.339 --> 0:05:27.219 just have to weigh up where it comes from, because 0:05:27.259 --> 0:05:29.059 if it does fall back onto you at the end 0:05:29.099 --> 0:05:32.339 of the day, like, is that situation worth. 0:05:32.099 --> 0:05:33.139 Losing your job over? 0:05:33.259 --> 0:05:35.619 Would you if this was you, would you ever speak 0:05:35.619 --> 0:05:37.779 to your boss about it directly rather than going to 0:05:37.819 --> 0:05:40.299 the wife firsts. 0:05:40.379 --> 0:05:43.659 Once your boss knows, there's just you can't move on 0:05:43.699 --> 0:05:43.939 from that. 0:05:44.019 --> 0:05:45.859 You never forget it. There will always be in balance 0:05:45.899 --> 0:05:46.899 and your head will be on there. 0:05:46.979 --> 0:05:47.259 Chap. 0:05:47.539 --> 0:05:49.419 Yeah, but he also probably should know that everyone knows. 0:05:49.459 --> 0:05:50.459 If everyone's talking. 0:05:50.219 --> 0:05:52.499 About it, why should we protect him. He should know 0:05:52.539 --> 0:05:53.179 the everyone knows. 0:05:53.139 --> 0:05:54.819 Stuff that I don't know. 0:05:54.939 --> 0:05:57.019 Honestly, I actually don't feel like we've beat Eddie help 0:05:57.059 --> 0:05:59.259 at all because I think if I was in this situation, I. 0:05:59.179 --> 0:06:01.579 Don't think I would get involved, and I don't I know. 0:06:01.459 --> 0:06:03.859 That that is not how everyone would respond to this, 0:06:03.979 --> 0:06:05.979 but I just worry about the drama it brings into 0:06:06.019 --> 0:06:06.499 your life. 0:06:07.019 --> 0:06:08.979 If this was me, I would want to know. 0:06:09.179 --> 0:06:11.579 So I think in that case, then she needs to 0:06:11.659 --> 0:06:13.739 know what you know without knowing it's you that know that. 0:06:13.939 --> 0:06:16.459 How are you going to do that? How would you, 0:06:16.859 --> 0:06:19.219 as I said, print it out the Tinder profile, put 0:06:19.219 --> 0:06:21.499 it on a desk, make it anonymous, bring it to attention, 0:06:21.699 --> 0:06:22.819 write an anonymous note. 0:06:22.859 --> 0:06:24.619 Hey, I don't want to get involved, but I have 0:06:24.699 --> 0:06:26.259 seen your part of your husband on Tinder. 0:06:26.779 --> 0:06:28.459 I don't want to get involved for my own personal reasons, 0:06:28.499 --> 0:06:30.179 but I think it's important you know, do with it 0:06:30.259 --> 0:06:32.099 what you will. I'm not saying that's the right way 0:06:32.139 --> 0:06:33.819 to go about it, but there are definitely ways to 0:06:33.899 --> 0:06:35.819 let somebody know without getting involved. 0:06:35.899 --> 0:06:38.139 The only thing I've always said in relation to these, 0:06:38.659 --> 0:06:39.419 if you're going to be. 0:06:39.459 --> 0:06:43.579 That person that anonymously brings to attention that someone's partner 0:06:43.619 --> 0:06:46.579 is cheating, it can't just be a statement i've seen 0:06:46.619 --> 0:06:48.699 your partner cheating. There has to be evidence attached to it. 0:06:48.739 --> 0:06:50.699 Otherwise you send them into a bit of a spiral 0:06:50.779 --> 0:06:51.259 on like. 0:06:51.859 --> 0:06:54.419 Not knowing is it real? Is a fake? It makes 0:06:54.419 --> 0:06:54.819 it worse. 0:06:54.859 --> 0:06:56.659 If you're going to go down that track, you have 0:06:56.699 --> 0:06:58.899 to give her enough evidence or reason to believe that 0:06:58.979 --> 0:07:02.419 whoever you are, the vigilante that you are, she actually 0:07:02.459 --> 0:07:03.939 has some basis to it. Eron. 0:07:04.099 --> 0:07:04.579 I don't know. 0:07:04.619 --> 0:07:07.179 I mean, this is an impossibly hard thing feed to navigate. 0:07:07.259 --> 0:07:09.219 My worry is that there's no arm to care with that. 0:07:09.299 --> 0:07:11.299 You just drop a bomb on someone's life and then 0:07:11.339 --> 0:07:13.379 you don't have to deal with any of the emotional 0:07:13.379 --> 0:07:14.059 flow on from it. 0:07:14.139 --> 0:07:15.779 Yeah, but it's not a choice because of that. The 0:07:15.859 --> 0:07:17.619 choice is because she doesn't want to lose a job. 0:07:17.699 --> 0:07:19.899 She's in a tricky between a rock and a hard place. 0:07:19.939 --> 0:07:22.019 It's it's probably the worst place to be. But I 0:07:22.059 --> 0:07:22.379 don't know. 0:07:22.499 --> 0:07:23.419 Let us know what you do, though. 0:07:24.459 --> 0:07:26.579 I will, I definitely will. I'm thinking to leave a 0:07:26.659 --> 0:07:29.179 letter on her car. Maybe I'm not the car. 0:07:29.459 --> 0:07:32.259 Not the car. I don't know. I don't. 0:07:33.819 --> 0:07:34.979 Go see to a therapist. 0:07:35.019 --> 0:07:38.619 We're not qualified, don't I know? My advice was brilliant. 0:07:38.659 --> 0:07:39.939 Take mine. Let me know how you go. 0:07:40.339 --> 0:07:42.659 Thanks Eron, definitely give us call back and let us 0:07:42.699 --> 0:07:43.259 know how it goes. 0:07:44.059 --> 0:07:46.059 I will. Thanks. Guys. 0:07:47.059 --> 0:07:49.739 How old were you when you had your first big crush? 0:07:50.859 --> 0:07:53.779 I was probably one of the first kids to have 0:07:53.819 --> 0:07:56.419 like a proper boyfriend in primary school and I think 0:07:56.499 --> 0:08:00.459 I was ND five Indie six, which is like ten. 0:08:00.859 --> 0:08:02.339 What does a proper boyfriend look like? 0:08:02.379 --> 0:08:05.219 When you're Oh my god, I never thought does that 0:08:05.299 --> 0:08:05.779 even mean? 0:08:06.099 --> 0:08:08.379 Listened to this, I was traumatized. 0:08:08.779 --> 0:08:11.979 I was school captain and like sort of like the 0:08:11.979 --> 0:08:14.259 cool kid, I guess, but I was really a nerd inside, 0:08:14.579 --> 0:08:17.179 and I'll never forget I didn't actually really want a boyfriend, 0:08:17.379 --> 0:08:19.979 but the whole year made this big deal to meet 0:08:19.979 --> 0:08:22.459 behind the Demoudables after school one day and they formed 0:08:22.459 --> 0:08:24.499 a big circle around us, and I had to kiss 0:08:24.539 --> 0:08:26.339 my boyfriend on the lips for the first time, and 0:08:26.379 --> 0:08:28.299 it was just a peck, and I remember not wanting 0:08:28.339 --> 0:08:29.739 to do it, but I felt like I had to. 0:08:30.179 --> 0:08:33.019 Then they all circled us and they were going kiss kiss. 0:08:33.379 --> 0:08:35.259 I'm traumatized thinking back to it. 0:08:35.539 --> 0:08:37.059 That was my first experience. 0:08:37.458 --> 0:08:39.738 I feel like this sounds like like the most classic 0:08:39.819 --> 0:08:42.699 version of like a little childhood experience, like we didn't 0:08:42.699 --> 0:08:44.899 have the demoundables, we had the wet weathershed no, how 0:08:44.979 --> 0:08:47.539 no play everyone we went if it rained? 0:08:47.579 --> 0:08:48.339 How was the wet weather? 0:08:48.339 --> 0:08:48.619 Shehed? 0:08:48.659 --> 0:08:49.739 But no, it's same thing. 0:08:49.859 --> 0:08:52.059 Like I don't ever remember having a boyfriend in school 0:08:52.099 --> 0:08:54.259 because I was not cool, But I do remember being 0:08:54.259 --> 0:08:57.219 like deeply infatuated in love with several boys. It would 0:08:57.259 --> 0:09:00.139 change like every six months. It'd be like Julian Lorenzo Nelson, 0:09:00.219 --> 0:09:00.779 someone or other. 0:09:00.779 --> 0:09:03.339 I remember his name was Chadh Chad. 0:09:03.379 --> 0:09:04.299 That's a naughty boy name. 0:09:04.419 --> 0:09:06.899 He had long hair too down to his shoulders to. 0:09:07.019 --> 0:09:09.499 Set the boy, wasn't he ye Chad. Well, the reason 0:09:09.499 --> 0:09:11.379 why I'm talking about this is like my kids are young. 0:09:11.499 --> 0:09:15.299 Marley's just started school, she's in kindergarten, and I thought 0:09:15.339 --> 0:09:17.379 we had a little bit more time up our sleeve 0:09:17.499 --> 0:09:19.419 before the boyfriend girlfriend Chad would start. 0:09:19.499 --> 0:09:20.099 But it is. 0:09:20.259 --> 0:09:24.419 No, No, they have started so young. I don't think 0:09:24.459 --> 0:09:26.699 they meet anything by it. Like I think it's very innocent. 0:09:26.779 --> 0:09:28.419 I think it's kind of a kin to playing like 0:09:28.499 --> 0:09:30.179 mums and Dad's role play, you know, like. 0:09:30.139 --> 0:09:31.379 Well, we don't want to play that too. 0:09:31.419 --> 0:09:33.419 Six we know how that is up? 0:09:35.099 --> 0:09:37.539 Well, this is how I got into this problem exactly. No, 0:09:37.619 --> 0:09:39.939 but I think it's more like a kind of a 0:09:40.059 --> 0:09:42.579 role play, like they see romantic things on TV, or 0:09:42.579 --> 0:09:44.779 they see you know, princes and princesses and everything else. 0:09:44.939 --> 0:09:46.259 We have crushes, that's normal. 0:09:46.459 --> 0:09:48.979 But Marley has a boyfriend, and a lot of the 0:09:49.099 --> 0:09:52.019 kids in school and in kindergarten have boyfriends or girlfriends 0:09:52.179 --> 0:09:54.299 that they talk about, and the school has had to 0:09:54.299 --> 0:09:56.219 bring in a band, like the classes brought in a 0:09:56.259 --> 0:09:58.219 band where the kids are no longer allowed to talk 0:09:58.259 --> 0:09:59.939 about boyfriends and girlfriends. 0:09:59.459 --> 0:10:01.179 At all because it was a boyfriend's name. 0:10:01.299 --> 0:10:04.139 No, I can't do that to her. That Chad, It's 0:10:04.179 --> 0:10:07.819 not Chad Chicken. The poor kid doesn't even probably know 0:10:07.899 --> 0:10:08.458 he's a boyfrien. 0:10:08.899 --> 0:10:11.379 Do they hold hands? Like, what's the equivalent? 0:10:11.419 --> 0:10:12.939 Is it just like you're the boy that I would 0:10:12.979 --> 0:10:14.939 pick if I wanted to, Like, they don't even talk. 0:10:15.139 --> 0:10:17.339 I don't know. I think they do chat, but I 0:10:17.379 --> 0:10:18.338 don't think. 0:10:18.179 --> 0:10:20.739 It's anything more like I think they're five years old, 0:10:20.739 --> 0:10:21.899 Like it's very innocent. 0:10:22.419 --> 0:10:24.619 I guess at five you still know to like hold 0:10:24.659 --> 0:10:27.899 hands and stuff. Like, I don't know. I'm not a parent, but. 0:10:27.979 --> 0:10:31.379 It surprises me because recently, Mally, we were off, like, 0:10:31.539 --> 0:10:32.979 you know, she was off with her other friends and 0:10:32.979 --> 0:10:34.899 she's got other little boys with similar age that she's 0:10:34.939 --> 0:10:37.219 friends with, and they're off in the corner having a chat. 0:10:37.299 --> 0:10:39.499 And he was chatting about his girlfriend at school. So 0:10:39.539 --> 0:10:40.899 it's not just my kid's school. 0:10:40.979 --> 0:10:42.339 No, It's like no. 0:10:42.419 --> 0:10:45.659 But I mean, like, it seems like kindergarten is not 0:10:46.139 --> 0:10:48.459 such a young or obscure age for kids to start 0:10:48.499 --> 0:10:50.939 talking about having a quote unquote boyfriend or girlfriend. 0:10:51.019 --> 0:10:51.819 That's weird to me. 0:10:51.979 --> 0:10:54.419 I'm sorry, it's your first year of school. You're like 0:10:54.619 --> 0:10:57.578 just out of diapers. Some kids are still in diapers. 0:10:59.499 --> 0:11:00.339 Kids in school. 0:11:00.419 --> 0:11:02.499 Yeah, some kids are late to the party line. 0:11:02.579 --> 0:11:04.259 They're not going to school, and there's very few kids 0:11:04.259 --> 0:11:05.379 are going to schools. 0:11:05.379 --> 0:11:07.419 But those undies, the thick undies. 0:11:07.699 --> 0:11:09.499 But Britt, I'm not sure what is the best way 0:11:09.539 --> 0:11:11.579 to navigate around it, because I guess my thing is 0:11:11.659 --> 0:11:13.499 is I don't want to make a big deal about it, 0:11:13.539 --> 0:11:15.899 because I do feel like with kids, the bigger deal 0:11:15.939 --> 0:11:17.779 you make about something, the more they latch onto it 0:11:17.779 --> 0:11:18.739 because it becomes special. 0:11:18.939 --> 0:11:20.579 You also don't want to shame them for like having 0:11:20.619 --> 0:11:21.339 a boyfriend. 0:11:21.099 --> 0:11:23.578 Or girlfriend and I don't want to embarrass them either, 0:11:24.019 --> 0:11:26.979 but I also kind of want to have what seems 0:11:27.019 --> 0:11:29.419 like an age appropriate conversation for a five year old 0:11:29.499 --> 0:11:32.779 because to me, I don't remember being five and having 0:11:32.939 --> 0:11:35.139 any sort of romantic feelings for anyone. I don't even 0:11:35.299 --> 0:11:38.019 think I knew what a boy was versus anything different, 0:11:38.259 --> 0:11:40.459 whereas I do think it's changed. Maybe it's got to 0:11:40.459 --> 0:11:42.499 do with like all the TV shows now and the 0:11:42.499 --> 0:11:45.179 beautiful movies and whatnot that really romanticize it. 0:11:45.419 --> 0:11:46.739 But I don't know what's changed. 0:11:47.219 --> 0:11:50.339 You probably don't realize because it's all around us, but 0:11:50.539 --> 0:11:53.218 it's everywhere for a kid, even like a. 0:11:53.179 --> 0:11:55.619 Taylor Swift film video clip, like you. 0:11:55.539 --> 0:11:59.659 Said, Taylor Swift, like Travis Kelce. Oh, it's a bit 0:11:59.699 --> 0:12:00.499 of a problem. 0:12:00.179 --> 0:12:03.659 There, TK, I mean TC, I don't know, I don't know, 0:12:03.739 --> 0:12:05.939 like calling whatever. But my point is I think it's 0:12:05.939 --> 0:12:08.099 more prevalent than you think, and maybe we don't notice 0:12:08.099 --> 0:12:10.179 it because it's normal for us, but a five year 0:12:10.179 --> 0:12:12.739 old notices those things. And also it's like if you 0:12:12.739 --> 0:12:14.578 look up to someone like Taylor Swift, then you see 0:12:14.579 --> 0:12:17.779 a video clip of her in kissing a boy or 0:12:17.939 --> 0:12:20.659 holding hands or like her love story or whatever, then 0:12:21.179 --> 0:12:23.499 that's your normal, you know, So I don't know how 0:12:23.539 --> 0:12:25.219 you navigate it. I guess she just continue to ask 0:12:25.259 --> 0:12:27.338 how it's going, No, how's it going? 0:12:27.499 --> 0:12:30.659 How's chat? You see chat school lately? 0:12:30.779 --> 0:12:32.659 Like you just want to create that environment where they 0:12:32.659 --> 0:12:34.179 feel like they can tell you anything. 0:12:34.379 --> 0:12:35.779 Yeah, I definitely agree with that. 0:12:35.899 --> 0:12:37.699 Well, look, I mean, goodluck to any parents who are 0:12:37.699 --> 0:12:39.019 going through the same thing at the moment. 0:12:40.739 --> 0:12:44.379 A woman named Frankie, she's a TikToker thirty five thousand followers. 0:12:44.459 --> 0:12:45.299 She posts a lot. 0:12:45.539 --> 0:12:48.939 She's heavily pregnant, and she's posted a video that's gone 0:12:48.979 --> 0:12:53.179 bonkers started a pretty heated debate online. She recently was 0:12:53.179 --> 0:12:55.458 on a train that was absolutely packed to the brim, 0:12:55.539 --> 0:12:57.939 like people sitting everywhere, people standing in the middle of 0:12:57.979 --> 0:12:59.939 the train, and she herself was standing. 0:13:00.619 --> 0:13:02.459 In this video, she's sort of filmed. 0:13:02.139 --> 0:13:05.979 Herself standing up, heavily pregnant, filmed around, shown everyone sitting down, 0:13:06.099 --> 0:13:09.659 and she just said chivalry for pregnant women doesn't exist anymore. 0:13:09.699 --> 0:13:13.259 I still can't believe not one person even offered, as 0:13:13.299 --> 0:13:15.859 in even offered to stand up so she could sit down. 0:13:15.899 --> 0:13:18.458 Which the ridiculous thing about this is like usually on trains, 0:13:18.459 --> 0:13:21.259 there's usually a separate part of seats which are for 0:13:21.299 --> 0:13:24.139 people who are have you no poor mobility or needs 0:13:24.179 --> 0:13:26.219 assistance or whatever, like, there's seats there that people know 0:13:26.299 --> 0:13:26.819 to get up from. 0:13:26.979 --> 0:13:30.139 Yeah, And I think about when I grew up, it 0:13:30.179 --> 0:13:32.779 was always taught if I was ever in a position 0:13:32.899 --> 0:13:34.779 like that, that you would always stand up and offer 0:13:34.819 --> 0:13:39.059 your seat to elderly, somebody disadvantaged or pregnant women like 0:13:39.099 --> 0:13:41.019 that was just what I learned as a child, and 0:13:41.059 --> 0:13:43.419 I thought that was a really standard thing. But some 0:13:43.459 --> 0:13:46.979 of the comments in this TikTok are so disgusting. I 0:13:46.979 --> 0:13:50.139 want to read you a few Why is your pregnancy 0:13:50.179 --> 0:13:53.779 anyone else's issue? Why is your pregnancy my problem? I 0:13:53.819 --> 0:13:57.139 hate this societal expectation. I mean, it was your choice 0:13:57.139 --> 0:13:59.899 to get pregnant, not theirs. Hey, you wanted a quality, 0:13:59.939 --> 0:14:01.659 you got equality, y'all. 0:14:01.819 --> 0:14:05.699 They're American. I'm sorry I really went into that, y'all. 0:14:05.859 --> 0:14:08.179 What is with that I'm a mother, I'm more important 0:14:08.219 --> 0:14:10.739 than you. You bowed down to me. Attitude and things 0:14:10.779 --> 0:14:12.979 like I don't care that you're pregnant. I care that 0:14:12.979 --> 0:14:15.259 I've had a long day, my back end, feet hurt, 0:14:15.579 --> 0:14:17.739 blah blah, blah like this is just the theme that 0:14:17.899 --> 0:14:20.819 was on this TikTok, and I was actually disgusting, you 0:14:20.859 --> 0:14:21.179 know what. 0:14:21.259 --> 0:14:23.539 Look I mean, I had something happen to me when 0:14:23.579 --> 0:14:25.499 I had Lola. She was only little and she was 0:14:25.579 --> 0:14:27.819 in the car. It was Christmas time. We were going 0:14:27.819 --> 0:14:30.059 into the shopping center. And you know how like in 0:14:30.259 --> 0:14:32.819 Big Westfields they always have like the pram sections. 0:14:32.859 --> 0:14:34.459 So but that's not even Big Westfields. 0:14:34.459 --> 0:14:37.219 Every shopping center now, even the little ones have like 0:14:37.339 --> 0:14:38.219 parking with prams. 0:14:38.259 --> 0:14:39.379 Yes, so it's parking prams. 0:14:39.379 --> 0:14:41.139 It's just an area where you can, you know, easy 0:14:41.179 --> 0:14:43.979 duck in if you're a mom. Anyway, it was Christmas time, 0:14:44.059 --> 0:14:46.659 it was hell busy, and I had already had my indicator, 0:14:46.699 --> 0:14:49.179 and I was waiting to go into this parking spot which. 0:14:49.019 --> 0:14:50.339 Was right in the prams. 0:14:50.819 --> 0:14:53.499 And as I was waiting to go into the parking spot, 0:14:53.579 --> 0:14:55.899 someone else had pulled up, so they kind of blocked 0:14:55.899 --> 0:14:58.619 me from going in, which meant that this woman took 0:14:58.659 --> 0:15:00.779 advantage of it, and she's snuck in and took my space. 0:15:00.819 --> 0:15:03.339 Didn't have a kid, took my space, and I wound 0:15:03.339 --> 0:15:04.819 down my window and I was like, dude, come on, 0:15:04.939 --> 0:15:07.019 I've got a baby in the car. She's been screaming 0:15:07.019 --> 0:15:09.219 for twenty minutes. We've been driving around this car park, 0:15:09.259 --> 0:15:11.539 and she yelled out the window, it's your choice. 0:15:11.579 --> 0:15:12.619 You decided to have kids. 0:15:13.299 --> 0:15:19.299 That grinds my gears, Like I would have been absolutely furious. 0:15:19.339 --> 0:15:21.099 Oh I did. I was like, I wish your mother 0:15:21.219 --> 0:15:23.099 didn't have any kids. And then I was like, oh 0:15:23.099 --> 0:15:24.179 my god, I need to stop. 0:15:24.819 --> 0:15:27.539