WEBVTT - MINI: Athletic Parenting...is it okay? 🏃

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<v Speaker 1>Funnily enough, something I want to talk about today is parenting.

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<v Speaker 1>And I say that's funny because I don't have kids.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't parent. But there was a post that sort

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<v Speaker 1>of got my attention online from this woman. Her name

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<v Speaker 1>is on Instagram k d Kasa. She is seventy thousand followers,

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<v Speaker 1>so she has a little bit of a following there,

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<v Speaker 1>and she posted something that has taken off and got

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<v Speaker 1>millions of views and sparked a huge debate online about

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<v Speaker 1>parenting styles and can you parent or slash punish your

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<v Speaker 1>children for negative behavior with exercise. Now, she's put a

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<v Speaker 1>photo up and her son is outside running on like

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<v Speaker 1>beautiful manicured lawn, and she has said, you talk back, laps,

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<v Speaker 1>you hit your sister laps, you don't put your shoes

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<v Speaker 1>on when asked, barefoot sprints bro. Obviously that's a bit

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<v Speaker 1>of a joke, but it sparked this huge debate on

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<v Speaker 1>if your child is messing up, is it okay for

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<v Speaker 1>the punishment instead of go sit in the corner or

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<v Speaker 1>you're grounded or sitting in your room, is it okay

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<v Speaker 1>for the punishment to be like, hey, you're going to

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<v Speaker 1>go cut a lap of the house you're gonna go

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<v Speaker 1>cut a lap of the yard, You're gonna do twenty

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<v Speaker 1>pushups or whatever it is, it's okay to bring exercise

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<v Speaker 1>into When.

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<v Speaker 2>You say that, there was heaps of comments like what

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<v Speaker 2>was the general consensus in the comments section?

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<v Speaker 1>Two thousands thousands for it?

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<v Speaker 2>Against it?

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<v Speaker 1>No, both, No, A lot of people saying you can't

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<v Speaker 1>punish your children with that, that like you're doing the

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<v Speaker 1>wrong thing. You're giving them a negative association with exercise.

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<v Speaker 1>And then a lot of people.

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<v Speaker 2>Say, maybe that's probably a fair point.

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<v Speaker 1>Well no, because I thought of when I read through it,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sort of pro that this is okay. And the

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<v Speaker 1>reason I say that is she had to keep amending

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<v Speaker 1>her as it grew to millions of followers. She kept

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<v Speaker 1>amending her statement about what she would, her thoughts and

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<v Speaker 1>why she thinks it's okay. And she's like, think about

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<v Speaker 1>when you are anxious or when you have built up

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<v Speaker 1>energy or whatever it is, when you go in exercise,

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<v Speaker 1>it releases and doorphins, it becomes positive and you feel good.

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<v Speaker 1>She's like, this, this is as much as them, these

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<v Speaker 1>kids going to burn off some energy so that they

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<v Speaker 1>can be better behaved. As it is about learning some

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<v Speaker 1>discipline and structure.

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<v Speaker 2>What do you think I think when it comes to discipline,

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<v Speaker 2>I put that in like you know, a quotation marks.

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<v Speaker 2>The reason why people get so angry is because they

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<v Speaker 2>think of the most extreme version, like if you're if

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<v Speaker 2>Lola hits her sister and I'm like, Lola, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>go outside and run around the backyard and come back inside.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, what's the difference between that and saying, Lola,

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<v Speaker 2>you can have a time out.

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<v Speaker 3>Taking some calls here at the pickup, give us a

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<v Speaker 3>buys Crystal's call. What are your thoughts on this?

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<v Speaker 4>I think absolutely not. I don't want my kids to

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<v Speaker 4>think that if they do something wrong, I'm going to

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<v Speaker 4>just throw them outside and make them run around. I

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<v Speaker 4>think that there's better way to teach your kids.

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<v Speaker 2>What do you do though, when they do something wrong?

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<v Speaker 2>How do you do it?

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<v Speaker 4>I sit down and I chat to them about it

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<v Speaker 4>and enforced boundaries and things like that. But I definitely

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<v Speaker 4>would not punish my kids by making them do exercise

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<v Speaker 4>or be like drop and give me twenty No way,

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<v Speaker 4>I think I would.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, I think it's later. I think it really is

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<v Speaker 3>the easy way out for parents. Jamie's joined us Hi,

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<v Speaker 3>what's your thoughts on this? Jamie High?

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<v Speaker 5>Hey, guys, my dad did it with me and my

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<v Speaker 5>siblings when we were younger, and I do it with

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<v Speaker 5>my girls now with my husband. Were you were a

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<v Speaker 5>basketball family, we were made to run suicides whenever we misbehaved.

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<v Speaker 1>And what's your relationship with exercise now that he made

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<v Speaker 1>you do that?

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<v Speaker 5>Amazing? We walk every day, we run and I leave

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<v Speaker 5>about ten houses from my parents.

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<v Speaker 1>So I grew up like this too. But it wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>never framed as a punishment, And I think that's the thing.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's like my parents would be like this,

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<v Speaker 1>four of us kids eighteen months apart. They'd be like,

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<v Speaker 1>you guys are doing my heading. You're mucking up. Go

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<v Speaker 1>burn some energy, get outside, come back in an hour,

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<v Speaker 1>go play, go ride your bike. And the fact is

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<v Speaker 1>half the time it fixes the problem because you do

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<v Speaker 1>have energy to burn.

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<v Speaker 3>It's a parent based.

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<v Speaker 5>On the kid.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, if you've got a feit, a kid boy

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<v Speaker 3>running around a fairy suit, I mean, for God's sake,

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<v Speaker 3>don't make him do laps. I hate you for it.

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<v Speaker 3>Speaking for personal experience.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, well, look coming up, As everybody knows, there

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<v Speaker 2>was some pretty big news that came out this morning,

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<v Speaker 2>which is Biden has pulled out of the race for

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<v Speaker 2>running for president. But I got myself into a bit

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<v Speaker 2>of trouble on the weekend because I read a headline

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<v Speaker 2>that wasn't true.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, that's eggs on the pickup.