WEBVTT - The Difference Between Mean, Nasty & Rude 😡

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<v Speaker 1>Flex and Frooms. Flex and Frooms. This is the Flex

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<v Speaker 2>You are back with Flexi and through me and Flexi,

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<v Speaker 2>I have a question for you.

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<v Speaker 1>Are you ready question? Please keep your ears open.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you think that's a difference between mean, nasty and rude?

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<v Speaker 1>Mmmm mmmmm.

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<v Speaker 2>Rude?

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<v Speaker 3>I think is incidental and in the eye of the recipient.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, like some people perceive passive behavior to be rude,

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<v Speaker 3>nervous behavior to be rude. Generationally, some things are considered

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<v Speaker 3>rude when really they're just not a social norm anymore.

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<v Speaker 1>Get it.

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<v Speaker 3>Wearing a hat indoors is considered rude. You know, using

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<v Speaker 3>a phone during a meeting is considered rude. Sometimes we dabble,

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<v Speaker 3>so I think, yeah, that's just like it's incidental.

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<v Speaker 1>We all fall victim to it.

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<v Speaker 3>We don't always mean it, but it happens me, I

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<v Speaker 3>would think, is usually an action that is like starting

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<v Speaker 3>with you, Sorry, I.

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<v Speaker 2>Was playing on my phone to be rude. You didn't

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<v Speaker 2>even notice. Oh sorry, another one that didn't land.

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<v Speaker 3>Pardon me, It's okay, walk it off, okay, Mean, I

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<v Speaker 3>would say, is often what happens as a result of

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<v Speaker 3>you feeling bad. I'm having a bad day. Therefore I

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<v Speaker 3>might act mean. Usually I don't think it's about you.

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<v Speaker 3>It's more about how I'm feeling. And then as a result,

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<v Speaker 3>you're impacted by what I'm going through. And then nasty

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<v Speaker 3>is pointed like I'm trying to hurt your feelings today.

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<v Speaker 1>What do you reckon?

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<v Speaker 2>You've done a pretty good summation, Thank you, I would say, sir.

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<v Speaker 2>I agree that rude is cross generational. It's also stars

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<v Speaker 2>of communication. Oh yeah, Like I've got some friends that

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<v Speaker 2>are very direct with me.

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<v Speaker 1>Are the friends that are.

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<v Speaker 2>Totally indirect and then get mad and are passive and like,

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<v Speaker 2>now that I've known them for many years, I know

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<v Speaker 2>neither of.

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<v Speaker 1>Them being rude.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just their way of speaking to me. Ye mean,

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<v Speaker 2>mean is mean spirited. I think people that are mean

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<v Speaker 2>someone's been mean to them. Like, I think it's a transference.

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<v Speaker 1>Hurt people, hurt.

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<v Speaker 2>People precisely, And I think nasty is of a similar strain.

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<v Speaker 1>But it's turbocharged. Ooh nasty.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like calikush, what's that? Oh, I've had enough?

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<v Speaker 1>What's that? Nasty is like.

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<v Speaker 3>It's tricky because I don't think I would use the

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<v Speaker 3>phrase nasty, but you know, a nasty person.

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<v Speaker 1>Nasty, that's like, that's like a next level. It's like

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<v Speaker 1>you you do that rancid whoa, whoa, whoa whoa?

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<v Speaker 2>What would I rather be? I would rather be rude,

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<v Speaker 2>of course, I don't want to be mean. I think

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<v Speaker 2>in order from worst to best, nasty is the worst

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<v Speaker 2>you can be. Mean is bad, but also your actions

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<v Speaker 2>can just be considered mean when you're just looking out

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<v Speaker 2>for yourself, and rude is definitely the most plausible deniability

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<v Speaker 2>accountability moment.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah she was so rude, she's so mean, she was

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<v Speaker 1>so nasty. Yeah, I take rude. Yeah, it will take rude.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, granted, you've got to be all of them

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<v Speaker 3>at any given point. No one's worse than the other.

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<v Speaker 3>Like you have some nasty people who are really quite polite.

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<v Speaker 1>In doing so.

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<v Speaker 3>You know.

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<v Speaker 1>So I was watching this TikTok of.

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<v Speaker 3>It was like this skit of your mum who's just

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<v Speaker 3>noticed that your friends bleached their eyebrows, and they start

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<v Speaker 3>saying all this backward, just like insincere stuff, and you're

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<v Speaker 3>kind of like, that's quite nasty.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not really rude. It's like not really hitting that.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like babes.

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<v Speaker 3>You don't need to be doing all of that. The

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<v Speaker 3>tone is polite, but it's not good. So like, let's say,

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<v Speaker 3>for an example, you showed me we're looking at a

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<v Speaker 3>piece of art. We're at an art gallery, some local artists.

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<v Speaker 3>We're looking at it. We clearly don't like it. Someone

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<v Speaker 3>says to us, what do you think? And we're like, ah,

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<v Speaker 3>not for us, but you know, it's nice rude to rude, okay,

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<v Speaker 3>just practicing, okay, just practicing, developing our craft.

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<v Speaker 1>We've come to a good summation. We would like to

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<v Speaker 1>be rude.

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<v Speaker 2>If you've ever been rude to you, this is a

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<v Speaker 2>get out of free pass and it's been a pleasure.

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<v Speaker 3>I would love to know if people to be preferred

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<v Speaker 3>to be seen as passive, aggressive or aggressive, like progressive

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<v Speaker 3>in like in an ideal world, if people could only

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<v Speaker 3>see you as two things, passive, aggressive or aggressive, which

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<v Speaker 3>would you prefer?

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<v Speaker 1>Regressive or aggressive? Said aggressive twice. Sounds like you're saying regressive. Sorry,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm mumbling. I'd rather be I know. I don't want

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<v Speaker 1>to discuss it. We're talking about it next thing. Year.

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