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Speaker 2: Do you think that's a difference between mean, nasty and rude?
Speaker 1: Mmmm mmmmm.
Speaker 2: Rude?
Speaker 3: I think is incidental and in the eye of the recipient.
Speaker 3: You know, like some people perceive passive behavior to be rude,
Speaker 3: nervous behavior to be rude. Generationally, some things are considered
Speaker 3: rude when really they're just not a social norm anymore.
Speaker 1: Get it.
Speaker 3: Wearing a hat indoors is considered rude. You know, using
Speaker 3: a phone during a meeting is considered rude. Sometimes we dabble,
Speaker 3: so I think, yeah, that's just like it's incidental.
Speaker 1: We all fall victim to it.
Speaker 3: We don't always mean it, but it happens me, I
Speaker 3: would think, is usually an action that is like starting
Speaker 3: with you, Sorry, I.
Speaker 2: Was playing on my phone to be rude. You didn't
Speaker 2: even notice. Oh sorry, another one that didn't land.
Speaker 3: Pardon me, It's okay, walk it off, okay, Mean, I
Speaker 3: would say, is often what happens as a result of
Speaker 3: you feeling bad. I'm having a bad day. Therefore I
Speaker 3: might act mean. Usually I don't think it's about you.
Speaker 3: It's more about how I'm feeling. And then as a result,
Speaker 3: you're impacted by what I'm going through. And then nasty
Speaker 3: is pointed like I'm trying to hurt your feelings today.
Speaker 1: What do you reckon?
Speaker 2: You've done a pretty good summation, Thank you, I would say, sir.
Speaker 2: I agree that rude is cross generational. It's also stars
Speaker 2: of communication. Oh yeah, Like I've got some friends that
Speaker 2: are very direct with me.
Speaker 1: Are the friends that are.
Speaker 2: Totally indirect and then get mad and are passive and like,
Speaker 2: now that I've known them for many years, I know
Speaker 2: neither of.
Speaker 1: Them being rude.
Speaker 2: It's just their way of speaking to me. Ye mean,
Speaker 2: mean is mean spirited. I think people that are mean
Speaker 2: someone's been mean to them. Like, I think it's a transference.
Speaker 1: Hurt people, hurt.
Speaker 2: People precisely, And I think nasty is of a similar strain.
Speaker 1: But it's turbocharged. Ooh nasty.
Speaker 3: It's like calikush, what's that? Oh, I've had enough?
Speaker 1: What's that? Nasty is like.
Speaker 3: It's tricky because I don't think I would use the
Speaker 3: phrase nasty, but you know, a nasty person.
Speaker 1: Nasty, that's like, that's like a next level. It's like
Speaker 1: you you do that rancid whoa, whoa, whoa whoa?
Speaker 2: What would I rather be? I would rather be rude,
Speaker 2: of course, I don't want to be mean. I think
Speaker 2: in order from worst to best, nasty is the worst
Speaker 2: you can be. Mean is bad, but also your actions
Speaker 2: can just be considered mean when you're just looking out
Speaker 2: for yourself, and rude is definitely the most plausible deniability
Speaker 2: accountability moment.
Speaker 1: Yeah she was so rude, she's so mean, she was
Speaker 1: so nasty. Yeah, I take rude. Yeah, it will take rude.
Speaker 3: I mean, granted, you've got to be all of them
Speaker 3: at any given point. No one's worse than the other.
Speaker 3: Like you have some nasty people who are really quite polite.
Speaker 1: In doing so.
Speaker 3: You know.
Speaker 1: So I was watching this TikTok of.
Speaker 3: It was like this skit of your mum who's just
Speaker 3: noticed that your friends bleached their eyebrows, and they start
Speaker 3: saying all this backward, just like insincere stuff, and you're
Speaker 3: kind of like, that's quite nasty.
Speaker 1: It's not really rude. It's like not really hitting that.
Speaker 1: It's like babes.
Speaker 3: You don't need to be doing all of that. The
Speaker 3: tone is polite, but it's not good. So like, let's say,
Speaker 3: for an example, you showed me we're looking at a
Speaker 3: piece of art. We're at an art gallery, some local artists.
Speaker 3: We're looking at it. We clearly don't like it. Someone
Speaker 3: says to us, what do you think? And we're like, ah,
Speaker 3: not for us, but you know, it's nice rude to rude, okay,
Speaker 3: just practicing, okay, just practicing, developing our craft.
Speaker 1: We've come to a good summation. We would like to
Speaker 1: be rude.
Speaker 2: If you've ever been rude to you, this is a
Speaker 2: get out of free pass and it's been a pleasure.
Speaker 3: I would love to know if people to be preferred
Speaker 3: to be seen as passive, aggressive or aggressive, like progressive
Speaker 3: in like in an ideal world, if people could only
Speaker 3: see you as two things, passive, aggressive or aggressive, which
Speaker 3: would you prefer?
Speaker 1: Regressive or aggressive? Said aggressive twice. Sounds like you're saying regressive. Sorry,
Speaker 1: I'm mumbling. I'd rather be I know. I don't want
Speaker 1: to discuss it. We're talking about it next thing. Year.
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