WEBVTT - MINI: Help! I'm still in love with my ex... 💔

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<v Speaker 1>It's Thursday afternoon, let's.

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<v Speaker 2>Do this askun part is a favorite here at the pickup,

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<v Speaker 2>and it's a fan favorite.

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<v Speaker 1>Too, I'm told.

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<v Speaker 2>But it's where we answer listeners questions like the deepest,

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<v Speaker 2>darkest problems. I love this segment like I love in

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<v Speaker 2>partying my years of wisdom and not how.

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<v Speaker 1>Much wisdom do you have for truckloads?

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<v Speaker 3>I couldn't it? Zero like actual certificates or walls. No

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<v Speaker 3>psychology like psychology, dere you got some degrees?

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<v Speaker 4>You know?

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<v Speaker 1>The University of life is where you graduated. I went

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<v Speaker 1>to a proper university. Anyway, we.

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<v Speaker 2>Do have like a really heartfelt listener that's called up

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<v Speaker 2>with a bit of a problem.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, dev joins us today. I believe you're still in

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<v Speaker 1>love with your ex?

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<v Speaker 4>Right?

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<v Speaker 1>What's going on?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, tricky situation. So we kind of started dating quite

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<v Speaker 4>early on, and we dated for four and a half years,

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<v Speaker 4>so I feel like I'm still quite bonded to her.

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<v Speaker 1>How long have you guys?

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<v Speaker 3>Been broken up?

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<v Speaker 4>For? Two years?

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<v Speaker 5>Oh?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>And how can I get your ages?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah? So where I'm turning twenty one on Saturday? Sunny enough?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, Can I want to tell you something straight off

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<v Speaker 2>the bat Yeah, there is nothing and it never will

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<v Speaker 2>be anything as intense and as strong as your first love.

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<v Speaker 2>And it sounds like if you're twenty one and you

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<v Speaker 2>were together for four years that this is probably My

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<v Speaker 2>guess is it's your first love and.

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<v Speaker 1>It is why far, the hardest thing to get over.

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<v Speaker 4>It's kind of like the worst and best thing to

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<v Speaker 4>happen to me. I think I did need the breakup

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<v Speaker 4>to kind of figure stuff out on my own.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, why did you guys break up?

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<v Speaker 4>There was never really anything like one incident that kind

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<v Speaker 4>of tipped. It was a bunch of small stuff that

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<v Speaker 4>we didn't really deal with in time, and it just

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<v Speaker 4>added up and eventually it was just like, this isn't working.

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<v Speaker 1>We can't dev Have you spoken to them? Sins?

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<v Speaker 4>You?

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<v Speaker 1>Are you in no contact? What's the communication?

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<v Speaker 4>Like?

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<v Speaker 1>Are you still talking?

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<v Speaker 4>Oh? Messy to say the least. So I actually broke

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<v Speaker 4>no contact with her three weeks ago, like nearly a

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<v Speaker 4>month ago, and had to go. We started talking. There

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<v Speaker 4>was obviously like the cat's upsonalities, sake and stuff, and

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<v Speaker 4>then I kind of realized like, I don't know who

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<v Speaker 4>this person really is anymore.

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<v Speaker 2>But also on top of that, you were seventeen when

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<v Speaker 2>you started dating. You were a different person at seventeen

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<v Speaker 2>to twenty one. You're going to be a different person

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<v Speaker 2>again at twenty five and a different person at thirty.

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<v Speaker 1>But when you said, like you caught up and she

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<v Speaker 1>felt different, she probably is different.

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<v Speaker 2>And sometimes that's what you need to find because you,

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<v Speaker 2>for the last two years have probably probably been hanging

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<v Speaker 2>on to what you had and who you were as

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<v Speaker 2>a couple and who she was. And the fact of

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<v Speaker 2>the matter is you caught up with her again and

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<v Speaker 2>she's not what you remembered, So maybe that's what you

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<v Speaker 2>needed the closure.

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<v Speaker 1>To move on.

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<v Speaker 4>I think you're going to be proud of me, because

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<v Speaker 4>when after I realized that, like, I don't know this person,

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<v Speaker 4>I kind of wanted to close that door behind me,

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<v Speaker 4>and so I kind of did it in a roundabout

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<v Speaker 4>a way, which I might get judged for, but I

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<v Speaker 4>gave her a gift, and I wanted to put in

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<v Speaker 4>the effort that I felt like I should have put

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<v Speaker 4>in throughout the whole relationship and try and kind of

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<v Speaker 4>make up for my faults. And I guess close it

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<v Speaker 4>up in like a neat little bow. And so I

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<v Speaker 4>went really over the top. Will you come on?

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<v Speaker 5>Were you deep down hoping that she's Oh my god,

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<v Speaker 5>I made a mistake. I want you back. Is that

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<v Speaker 5>was that why you did the gift?

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<v Speaker 4>No? No, okay, So it sounds really stupid that that

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<v Speaker 4>wasn't the rationale behind it. It was kind of like

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<v Speaker 4>I put in one hundred and ten percent into that.

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<v Speaker 4>If that didn't work, nothing was ever going to work

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<v Speaker 4>and it would have never worked out. So it's like

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<v Speaker 4>now it's because.

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<v Speaker 1>On one question, what was the gift?

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<v Speaker 4>Dev Oh, oh, you're gonna hate me. We used to

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<v Speaker 4>build legos together, so I got her like a set

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<v Speaker 4>of Lego roses, and then I made roses using ribbon.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh you're breaking.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, even done, I'm not even done the worst.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh god, I don't think it can.

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<v Speaker 4>I absolutely can. I got her a pink builder bear

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<v Speaker 4>and then to match the build a bear, I learned

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<v Speaker 4>knitting to make the build a bear.

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<v Speaker 1>Dave, I'm sorry, you're lying to yourself. This is not

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<v Speaker 1>this is not a good bye gift. You're in man.

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<v Speaker 1>That's that.

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<v Speaker 2>No one, You've gotta you gotta block and delete that

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<v Speaker 2>number death no more build a bear.

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<v Speaker 4>No, no, no, she's blocked. It's in the past. But in

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<v Speaker 4>my head, you're gonna You're gonna shoot me for this.

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<v Speaker 1>But Jesus, either more works or or.

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<v Speaker 4>No one else will ever be able to live up

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<v Speaker 4>to that present.

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<v Speaker 1>You are so proud for your selfish real You're.

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<v Speaker 3>You're not toxic is It's my favorite call I've ever had.

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<v Speaker 2>Damn good luck kick that lego over blocked the number

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<v Speaker 2>and it's time to move on. But you give that

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<v Speaker 2>love and lego to someone else good.

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<v Speaker 5>If you need help, like dev need to hit us

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<v Speaker 5>up in the DMS. That is gold the pickup on Instagram.

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<v Speaker 5>Next on the show the things you do in your

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<v Speaker 5>car that you don't do in public. That's the question.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, So I discovered something, and that is that everyone

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<v Speaker 3>is pretty disgusting inside their cars.

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<v Speaker 1>And I have a confession to make, all right, That's

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<v Speaker 1>next on the Pickup