Speaker 1: It's Thursday afternoon, let's.
Speaker 2: Do this askun part is a favorite here at the pickup,
Speaker 2: and it's a fan favorite.
Speaker 1: Too, I'm told.
Speaker 2: But it's where we answer listeners questions like the deepest,
Speaker 2: darkest problems. I love this segment like I love in
Speaker 2: partying my years of wisdom and not how.
Speaker 1: Much wisdom do you have for truckloads?
Speaker 3: I couldn't it? Zero like actual certificates or walls. No
Speaker 3: psychology like psychology, dere you got some degrees?
Speaker 4: You know?
Speaker 1: The University of life is where you graduated. I went
Speaker 1: to a proper university. Anyway, we.
Speaker 2: Do have like a really heartfelt listener that's called up
Speaker 2: with a bit of a problem.
Speaker 1: Yeah, dev joins us today. I believe you're still in
Speaker 1: love with your ex?
Speaker 4: Right?
Speaker 1: What's going on?
Speaker 4: Yeah, tricky situation. So we kind of started dating quite
Speaker 4: early on, and we dated for four and a half years,
Speaker 4: so I feel like I'm still quite bonded to her.
Speaker 1: How long have you guys?
Speaker 3: Been broken up?
Speaker 4: For? Two years?
Speaker 5: Oh?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 2: And how can I get your ages?
Speaker 4: Yeah? So where I'm turning twenty one on Saturday? Sunny enough?
Speaker 2: Okay, Can I want to tell you something straight off
Speaker 2: the bat Yeah, there is nothing and it never will
Speaker 2: be anything as intense and as strong as your first love.
Speaker 2: And it sounds like if you're twenty one and you
Speaker 2: were together for four years that this is probably My
Speaker 2: guess is it's your first love and.
Speaker 1: It is why far, the hardest thing to get over.
Speaker 4: It's kind of like the worst and best thing to
Speaker 4: happen to me. I think I did need the breakup
Speaker 4: to kind of figure stuff out on my own.
Speaker 1: Yeah, why did you guys break up?
Speaker 4: There was never really anything like one incident that kind
Speaker 4: of tipped. It was a bunch of small stuff that
Speaker 4: we didn't really deal with in time, and it just
Speaker 4: added up and eventually it was just like, this isn't working.
Speaker 1: We can't dev Have you spoken to them? Sins?
Speaker 4: You?
Speaker 1: Are you in no contact? What's the communication?
Speaker 4: Like?
Speaker 1: Are you still talking?
Speaker 4: Oh? Messy to say the least. So I actually broke
Speaker 4: no contact with her three weeks ago, like nearly a
Speaker 4: month ago, and had to go. We started talking. There
Speaker 4: was obviously like the cat's upsonalities, sake and stuff, and
Speaker 4: then I kind of realized like, I don't know who
Speaker 4: this person really is anymore.
Speaker 2: But also on top of that, you were seventeen when
Speaker 2: you started dating. You were a different person at seventeen
Speaker 2: to twenty one. You're going to be a different person
Speaker 2: again at twenty five and a different person at thirty.
Speaker 1: But when you said, like you caught up and she
Speaker 1: felt different, she probably is different.
Speaker 2: And sometimes that's what you need to find because you,
Speaker 2: for the last two years have probably probably been hanging
Speaker 2: on to what you had and who you were as
Speaker 2: a couple and who she was. And the fact of
Speaker 2: the matter is you caught up with her again and
Speaker 2: she's not what you remembered, So maybe that's what you
Speaker 2: needed the closure.
Speaker 1: To move on.
Speaker 4: I think you're going to be proud of me, because
Speaker 4: when after I realized that, like, I don't know this person,
Speaker 4: I kind of wanted to close that door behind me,
Speaker 4: and so I kind of did it in a roundabout
Speaker 4: a way, which I might get judged for, but I
Speaker 4: gave her a gift, and I wanted to put in
Speaker 4: the effort that I felt like I should have put
Speaker 4: in throughout the whole relationship and try and kind of
Speaker 4: make up for my faults. And I guess close it
Speaker 4: up in like a neat little bow. And so I
Speaker 4: went really over the top. Will you come on?
Speaker 5: Were you deep down hoping that she's Oh my god,
Speaker 5: I made a mistake. I want you back. Is that
Speaker 5: was that why you did the gift?
Speaker 4: No? No, okay, So it sounds really stupid that that
Speaker 4: wasn't the rationale behind it. It was kind of like
Speaker 4: I put in one hundred and ten percent into that.
Speaker 4: If that didn't work, nothing was ever going to work
Speaker 4: and it would have never worked out. So it's like
Speaker 4: now it's because.
Speaker 1: On one question, what was the gift?
Speaker 4: Dev Oh, oh, you're gonna hate me. We used to
Speaker 4: build legos together, so I got her like a set
Speaker 4: of Lego roses, and then I made roses using ribbon.
Speaker 1: Oh you're breaking.
Speaker 4: Yeah, even done, I'm not even done the worst.
Speaker 1: Oh god, I don't think it can.
Speaker 4: I absolutely can. I got her a pink builder bear
Speaker 4: and then to match the build a bear, I learned
Speaker 4: knitting to make the build a bear.
Speaker 1: Dave, I'm sorry, you're lying to yourself. This is not
Speaker 1: this is not a good bye gift. You're in man.
Speaker 1: That's that.
Speaker 2: No one, You've gotta you gotta block and delete that
Speaker 2: number death no more build a bear.
Speaker 4: No, no, no, she's blocked. It's in the past. But in
Speaker 4: my head, you're gonna You're gonna shoot me for this.
Speaker 1: But Jesus, either more works or or.
Speaker 4: No one else will ever be able to live up
Speaker 4: to that present.
Speaker 1: You are so proud for your selfish real You're.
Speaker 3: You're not toxic is It's my favorite call I've ever had.
Speaker 2: Damn good luck kick that lego over blocked the number
Speaker 2: and it's time to move on. But you give that
Speaker 2: love and lego to someone else good.
Speaker 5: If you need help, like dev need to hit us
Speaker 5: up in the DMS. That is gold the pickup on Instagram.
Speaker 5: Next on the show the things you do in your
Speaker 5: car that you don't do in public. That's the question.
Speaker 3: Okay, So I discovered something, and that is that everyone
Speaker 3: is pretty disgusting inside their cars.
Speaker 1: And I have a confession to make, all right, That's
Speaker 1: next on the Pickup