1 00:00:00,520 --> 00:00:04,800 Speaker 1: Who what is that bite sized one six five phone 2 00:00:04,840 --> 00:00:07,560 Speaker 1: number right now? Is sleeping in separate rooms the death 3 00:00:08,080 --> 00:00:13,520 Speaker 1: of your relationship? What do you think? 4 00:00:13,600 --> 00:00:19,239 Speaker 2: What I'd say, as long as. 5 00:00:22,280 --> 00:00:24,759 Speaker 3: If there's no intimacy, if you're sleeping in separate beards, 6 00:00:24,920 --> 00:00:26,840 Speaker 3: and you're not spending the nights together at all. 7 00:00:26,880 --> 00:00:28,280 Speaker 2: So if it's like you get home from work and 8 00:00:28,320 --> 00:00:28,640 Speaker 2: you go. 9 00:00:28,600 --> 00:00:30,680 Speaker 3: To your bedroom and they go to their bedroom and 10 00:00:30,680 --> 00:00:31,560 Speaker 3: you barely see each. 11 00:00:31,440 --> 00:00:32,800 Speaker 2: Other, yeah, I think you're in big trouble. 12 00:00:33,120 --> 00:00:35,440 Speaker 3: Yeah, But I think if you still spend the night together, 13 00:00:36,000 --> 00:00:38,960 Speaker 3: even have maybe a bit of romance in one of 14 00:00:39,000 --> 00:00:40,600 Speaker 3: your rooms, like we want to come to my room, 15 00:00:40,680 --> 00:00:42,440 Speaker 3: or why don't we Why don't we go to your. 16 00:00:42,680 --> 00:00:44,360 Speaker 1: So you make it a bit of an exciting thing, 17 00:00:44,479 --> 00:00:45,120 Speaker 1: and then. 18 00:00:45,200 --> 00:00:48,040 Speaker 2: You go back to your bedrooms and sleep. I think 19 00:00:48,080 --> 00:00:48,680 Speaker 2: it's fine. 20 00:00:49,200 --> 00:00:52,480 Speaker 1: Yeah. The reason we're talking about it, there's a couple 21 00:00:52,520 --> 00:00:56,240 Speaker 1: on TikTok who have decided to move and they're like 22 00:00:56,840 --> 00:00:59,320 Speaker 1: they're permanently in different rooms. I find this interesting. So 23 00:00:59,600 --> 00:01:01,320 Speaker 1: they're one of the reasons they've done it is because 24 00:01:01,840 --> 00:01:03,840 Speaker 1: they want to have their own space that they want 25 00:01:03,880 --> 00:01:07,520 Speaker 1: to design in their own way. So, like I think 26 00:01:07,560 --> 00:01:09,319 Speaker 1: a lot of couples are used to the idea of 27 00:01:09,360 --> 00:01:12,119 Speaker 1: having a spare room. Sure right, you know, so mine 28 00:01:12,120 --> 00:01:13,360 Speaker 1: of you goes in the spare bed. You know, if 29 00:01:13,400 --> 00:01:15,440 Speaker 1: you get home late, go in the spare room. 30 00:01:15,480 --> 00:01:17,240 Speaker 2: Don't wake me up. If you get home at one. 31 00:01:17,160 --> 00:01:19,360 Speaker 3: Or two, yeah, mate, in the spare m So practically 32 00:01:19,360 --> 00:01:20,640 Speaker 3: that always makes a lot of sense. 33 00:01:22,360 --> 00:01:26,160 Speaker 1: This seems like having your own space that you've designed 34 00:01:26,160 --> 00:01:29,200 Speaker 1: in your own way feels very separate. Yeah, but that 35 00:01:29,600 --> 00:01:31,679 Speaker 1: for me, that's it that yeah, But. 36 00:01:31,760 --> 00:01:34,399 Speaker 3: Is it okay though if you're still having those exciting 37 00:01:34,480 --> 00:01:36,279 Speaker 3: like oh you want to stay the night in mind. 38 00:01:37,120 --> 00:01:40,560 Speaker 1: Yeah. It's interesting because I used to think that. I 39 00:01:40,640 --> 00:01:42,240 Speaker 1: used to think that having sleeping in a separate room 40 00:01:42,319 --> 00:01:44,160 Speaker 1: was differently the end of the relationship, Like it was 41 00:01:44,200 --> 00:01:46,040 Speaker 1: like I was, you'd be really worried about it. My 42 00:01:46,080 --> 00:01:47,720 Speaker 1: part son would always be like, just going sleep in 43 00:01:47,720 --> 00:01:50,040 Speaker 1: the other room. It's fine if I needed to have 44 00:01:50,080 --> 00:01:51,800 Speaker 1: a good sleep, because I mean, at the end of 45 00:01:51,840 --> 00:01:55,480 Speaker 1: the day, you sleep better, just zero chance of getting 46 00:01:56,360 --> 00:01:57,920 Speaker 1: if you just look at the pure facts of it, 47 00:01:58,200 --> 00:01:59,760 Speaker 1: you have less chance of being worken up. 48 00:02:00,520 --> 00:02:02,600 Speaker 2: It literally halves it at the very least, it halves it. 49 00:02:02,680 --> 00:02:07,840 Speaker 1: Yes, so you'll just eradicates it. Sure, yeah, so you 50 00:02:07,880 --> 00:02:08,560 Speaker 1: couldn't put that down. 51 00:02:08,600 --> 00:02:10,839 Speaker 2: Good job, No, no, sorry, what it's your maths is wrong. 52 00:02:11,160 --> 00:02:14,120 Speaker 2: But I'll continue though. It is because you're still a 53 00:02:14,160 --> 00:02:15,720 Speaker 2: chance to wake up yourself. 54 00:02:17,560 --> 00:02:18,120 Speaker 1: Yourself. 55 00:02:18,280 --> 00:02:20,960 Speaker 3: I'm sorry, but you can wake yourself up. But then 56 00:02:21,000 --> 00:02:22,960 Speaker 3: if you remove your partner, you have a fifty percent 57 00:02:23,080 --> 00:02:23,600 Speaker 3: less chance. 58 00:02:23,639 --> 00:02:26,720 Speaker 1: I don't We're gonna walk away from it. We're gonna 59 00:02:26,720 --> 00:02:31,640 Speaker 1: walk away. We're gonna walk away, all right. So so 60 00:02:32,040 --> 00:02:33,799 Speaker 1: I used to think that that was the end of things. 61 00:02:33,840 --> 00:02:36,440 Speaker 1: But then since we had a kid, sure it became 62 00:02:36,480 --> 00:02:39,000 Speaker 1: a necessity. And I've spoken to you about this before. 63 00:02:39,120 --> 00:02:41,320 Speaker 1: Like you know, Max is only three months old now, 64 00:02:41,440 --> 00:02:43,760 Speaker 1: she wakes up three or four times a night. Whatever 65 00:02:43,800 --> 00:02:48,960 Speaker 1: it is, if both of us is in the same bed, 66 00:02:49,040 --> 00:02:51,480 Speaker 1: she's in a CoA sleeper where she and she's woken 67 00:02:51,560 --> 00:02:55,119 Speaker 1: up three or four times that night, the relationship, that's 68 00:02:55,160 --> 00:02:57,920 Speaker 1: the relationship killer, because the next day, both of us 69 00:02:57,919 --> 00:03:01,240 Speaker 1: are running on like five percent. And when you're both 70 00:03:01,320 --> 00:03:04,919 Speaker 1: running on five percent, the word forgiveness does not exist. 71 00:03:05,120 --> 00:03:07,040 Speaker 3: And you, yeah, both of you would be going that 72 00:03:07,200 --> 00:03:09,200 Speaker 3: I need this time because I'm tired. 73 00:03:09,480 --> 00:03:12,760 Speaker 1: But if yeah, you're a child still there. 74 00:03:12,200 --> 00:03:14,720 Speaker 3: There's one freshy, that's right, say the fresh you slept 75 00:03:14,720 --> 00:03:16,919 Speaker 3: in the spear, save your legs and fresh you can 76 00:03:17,000 --> 00:03:20,839 Speaker 3: go handball to me. Obviously that's a metaphor. Yes, I'll 77 00:03:20,880 --> 00:03:22,359 Speaker 3: take the baby for the morning. 78 00:03:23,120 --> 00:03:27,200 Speaker 4: Just protecting yourself from you never know, no, Peter, do 79 00:03:27,280 --> 00:03:28,080 Speaker 4: animals mate. 80 00:03:30,000 --> 00:03:31,840 Speaker 2: Unless you're referring to your child as an animals. 81 00:03:31,960 --> 00:03:38,960 Speaker 1: Oh no, they're going to come for both now, child services. 82 00:03:37,240 --> 00:03:38,080 Speaker 2: Coming too careful. 83 00:03:38,440 --> 00:03:39,960 Speaker 3: But then you go, you're the fresh one, you go, 84 00:03:40,080 --> 00:03:41,400 Speaker 3: I'll take her in the morning. You can have a 85 00:03:41,440 --> 00:03:42,720 Speaker 3: sleep now, yes, yeah. 86 00:03:42,600 --> 00:03:46,000 Speaker 1: And that has been a godsend. Having another room has 87 00:03:46,160 --> 00:03:48,720 Speaker 1: saved us in that respect. And yeah, we've had a 88 00:03:49,040 --> 00:03:50,760 Speaker 1: you know, we've had a late night visit here and there. 89 00:03:50,840 --> 00:03:53,600 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, and it's been it's been cute, you know, 90 00:03:53,880 --> 00:03:57,240 Speaker 1: have late night visits the baby. I had one the 91 00:03:57,280 --> 00:04:04,280 Speaker 1: baby handball and Jedtison, allright, give us care right now? 92 00:04:04,320 --> 00:04:07,960 Speaker 1: Thirty one or six five is sleeping in separate rooms 93 00:04:08,000 --> 00:04:10,280 Speaker 1: the death of your relationship? Has it actually ended your 94 00:04:10,280 --> 00:04:15,240 Speaker 1: relationship before having a baby. If it happened for more 95 00:04:15,280 --> 00:04:17,080 Speaker 1: than a week, I would say we're in trouble, as 96 00:04:17,120 --> 00:04:19,279 Speaker 1: you said, right now, Third and one oh six ' 97 00:04:19,320 --> 00:04:23,719 Speaker 1: five is sleeping in separate rooms the death of the relationship. 98 00:04:23,839 --> 00:04:25,760 Speaker 1: I think one of the things we haven't discussed so 99 00:04:25,800 --> 00:04:28,839 Speaker 1: far is why. And I'm taking it because I've been 100 00:04:28,880 --> 00:04:31,440 Speaker 1: sleeping in a different bed from sem for yeah, probably 101 00:04:31,480 --> 00:04:33,400 Speaker 1: going on three months now, since we had the baby. 102 00:04:33,400 --> 00:04:35,279 Speaker 1: It made even a little bit when she was really, really, 103 00:04:35,320 --> 00:04:38,719 Speaker 1: really pregnant and she was surrounded by like effectively a 104 00:04:38,839 --> 00:04:42,240 Speaker 1: moat if you think about an old medieval castle, a 105 00:04:42,360 --> 00:04:44,520 Speaker 1: mot of pillows, and there was just no room for 106 00:04:44,560 --> 00:04:45,039 Speaker 1: me in the bed. 107 00:04:45,320 --> 00:04:47,839 Speaker 3: Yeah, we've got the cat in our bed now as well, 108 00:04:49,080 --> 00:04:50,760 Speaker 3: because ms pretty pregnant cats. 109 00:04:50,800 --> 00:04:53,320 Speaker 1: I rolled onto the cat last night deliberately. 110 00:04:53,480 --> 00:04:55,280 Speaker 3: No, no, not definitely, wasn't one. 111 00:04:57,360 --> 00:04:59,080 Speaker 1: We've already peaked their interest. 112 00:05:00,320 --> 00:05:02,479 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's shocking moment. Yeah, shocking moment. 113 00:05:02,560 --> 00:05:07,400 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, no it guys. You become forgotten. Yeah, very quickly. 114 00:05:07,720 --> 00:05:10,240 Speaker 1: You fade into the background, and then you then you 115 00:05:10,279 --> 00:05:12,080 Speaker 1: move into the other room, and then all of a sudden, 116 00:05:12,080 --> 00:05:13,640 Speaker 1: you give a new life. You're like, wow, I've got 117 00:05:13,680 --> 00:05:16,000 Speaker 1: this space, this space, I can do what I want 118 00:05:16,000 --> 00:05:19,120 Speaker 1: in here. You know, body, read, mate, I read, look 119 00:05:19,120 --> 00:05:23,160 Speaker 1: at you, you rogue? I read until ten thirty. Come 120 00:05:23,160 --> 00:05:25,680 Speaker 1: and find me the light on. I can't even turn 121 00:05:25,680 --> 00:05:27,520 Speaker 1: the light on in my room when the co sleepers 122 00:05:27,560 --> 00:05:30,120 Speaker 1: in there. Oh really no you can't because you wake 123 00:05:30,160 --> 00:05:30,640 Speaker 1: the baby out. 124 00:05:30,720 --> 00:05:31,279 Speaker 2: Get a kindle. 125 00:05:31,640 --> 00:05:34,239 Speaker 1: Get a kindle that's light, no blue light. This segment 126 00:05:34,320 --> 00:05:38,240 Speaker 1: is brought to you by Kindle especially. It was all 127 00:05:38,320 --> 00:05:41,320 Speaker 1: just a long con for a kindle at bloody got We've. 128 00:05:41,200 --> 00:05:43,160 Speaker 4: Done six minutes of gear on sleeping on the other 129 00:05:43,240 --> 00:05:49,080 Speaker 4: room day, Will you get that? But the reason that 130 00:05:49,200 --> 00:05:51,640 Speaker 4: I think it can start to signal the end of 131 00:05:51,640 --> 00:05:53,960 Speaker 4: a relationship is what I realized when I go back 132 00:05:54,000 --> 00:05:55,640 Speaker 4: to the same bed and it's the cuddling. 133 00:05:55,920 --> 00:05:59,840 Speaker 1: It's I'm not a tactile person at all. I'm not, 134 00:06:00,480 --> 00:06:02,920 Speaker 1: but I know as soon as it's just you want 135 00:06:02,920 --> 00:06:05,840 Speaker 1: to be held. You want some sort of physical affection 136 00:06:05,920 --> 00:06:07,719 Speaker 1: with your partner. And if you're not, if you're not 137 00:06:07,800 --> 00:06:10,000 Speaker 1: getting it in the same bed as in the morning 138 00:06:10,000 --> 00:06:12,719 Speaker 1: and in the night, you might hug each other in 139 00:06:12,720 --> 00:06:15,640 Speaker 1: the kitchen, on the couch, you might, yeah, but it's 140 00:06:15,640 --> 00:06:18,680 Speaker 1: funny for a very as I said, non tactile person 141 00:06:18,720 --> 00:06:20,960 Speaker 1: like myself, I don't need physical affection. That's not my 142 00:06:21,080 --> 00:06:25,800 Speaker 1: love language. Sure it goes missing and strange how much 143 00:06:25,800 --> 00:06:26,320 Speaker 1: you crave it. 144 00:06:26,400 --> 00:06:28,160 Speaker 3: You have to really make time for if you are 145 00:06:28,160 --> 00:06:29,120 Speaker 3: doing the separate bed thing. 146 00:06:29,200 --> 00:06:32,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel you don't have cuddle time. 147 00:06:32,120 --> 00:06:34,200 Speaker 1: We don't have cuddle time. No, And it's funny because, 148 00:06:34,240 --> 00:06:35,800 Speaker 1: like I think, as men, I mean, during the song 149 00:06:35,800 --> 00:06:37,920 Speaker 1: I button Bush and George said he doesn't need cuddling 150 00:06:38,000 --> 00:06:41,000 Speaker 1: after loving. Yeah, and you responded to that by saying, 151 00:06:41,000 --> 00:06:43,160 Speaker 1: sometimes you've got to pay the piper, which I thought 152 00:06:43,200 --> 00:06:44,000 Speaker 1: was an interesting chat. 153 00:06:44,000 --> 00:06:46,919 Speaker 2: I certainly didn't say that you've obviously misheard us. 154 00:06:47,320 --> 00:06:48,760 Speaker 1: Let's go to Alexia here. 155 00:06:48,880 --> 00:06:52,480 Speaker 3: I'm thirteen true though, as the bulk of the conversation 156 00:06:52,640 --> 00:06:55,120 Speaker 3: was that we get sweaty, we get really sweaty. 157 00:06:55,160 --> 00:06:59,200 Speaker 1: But as men, you don't traditionally need cuddling. You don't, well, 158 00:06:59,200 --> 00:07:01,080 Speaker 1: you don't think you do, but I think it's different 159 00:07:01,120 --> 00:07:01,559 Speaker 1: for women. 160 00:07:01,800 --> 00:07:04,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, but it's a heat problem for identities. 161 00:07:05,440 --> 00:07:12,000 Speaker 1: Let's go separate rooms. Do your partner? We do? Yeah? 162 00:07:12,960 --> 00:07:13,239 Speaker 2: Maybe? 163 00:07:13,480 --> 00:07:15,880 Speaker 1: Well, good to go, Yeah, we're good to go. Yeah. 164 00:07:16,040 --> 00:07:17,320 Speaker 1: I think it's better to be honest. 165 00:07:18,320 --> 00:07:18,800 Speaker 4: Good nights. 166 00:07:20,600 --> 00:07:23,280 Speaker 1: Really luckily, you know, hug on the couch and stuff. 167 00:07:23,320 --> 00:07:25,160 Speaker 1: We don't need to hug in bed all the time. 168 00:07:26,520 --> 00:07:29,560 Speaker 3: Do you organize little stayovers or sleepovers. 169 00:07:30,960 --> 00:07:32,400 Speaker 4: I wouldn't call it a stay over. 170 00:07:32,920 --> 00:07:35,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, we organize, you know, it's like a post, it's 171 00:07:35,880 --> 00:07:39,080 Speaker 1: a quick it's a drop in. Yeah, yeah, pretty much. 172 00:07:39,760 --> 00:07:42,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, and sorry, I'm just I'm so curious about that 173 00:07:42,160 --> 00:07:44,160 Speaker 3: because I think that's really important to maintain that to 174 00:07:44,200 --> 00:07:45,160 Speaker 3: get your intimacy up. 175 00:07:45,520 --> 00:07:47,280 Speaker 2: Do you just sneak in there? Do you just do 176 00:07:47,320 --> 00:07:48,160 Speaker 2: you just sneak in there? 177 00:07:48,160 --> 00:07:52,200 Speaker 1: Aud Like it's it's not always at night time. Sometimes 178 00:07:52,200 --> 00:07:55,560 Speaker 1: it might be during the day or afternoon or whatever. 179 00:07:55,960 --> 00:07:59,200 Speaker 2: Are you guys in bed? You guys just stay in going. 180 00:07:59,000 --> 00:08:01,920 Speaker 1: On honestly, not not very often, but yeah, you know 181 00:08:02,040 --> 00:08:02,320 Speaker 1: it does. 182 00:08:02,480 --> 00:08:03,119 Speaker 2: It does happen. 183 00:08:03,360 --> 00:08:05,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, but you don't schedule it though, Like it's not 184 00:08:05,800 --> 00:08:07,280 Speaker 1: like a meeting room in the office where you have 185 00:08:07,280 --> 00:08:11,360 Speaker 1: to book no, no, nory, Yeah no, So you just 186 00:08:11,360 --> 00:08:15,160 Speaker 1: sneak in there. That's you know, it's funny there's another 187 00:08:15,200 --> 00:08:18,200 Speaker 1: woman saying she she's okay with the affection side of things. 188 00:08:18,280 --> 00:08:18,480 Speaker 2: Yeah. 189 00:08:18,480 --> 00:08:22,120 Speaker 1: I think that women who are do need physical affection 190 00:08:22,160 --> 00:08:25,000 Speaker 1: are quite vocal about it, like men who need physical 191 00:08:25,000 --> 00:08:27,280 Speaker 1: affection would never say that they are. It'll be interesting. 192 00:08:27,280 --> 00:08:29,280 Speaker 1: I think if Alexi actually spoke to her partner, do 193 00:08:29,280 --> 00:08:30,960 Speaker 1: you need to be hugged more? Because you and I 194 00:08:31,000 --> 00:08:33,960 Speaker 1: actually used to know someone who was who was a 195 00:08:33,960 --> 00:08:36,520 Speaker 1: male escort and the number one thing he got paid 196 00:08:36,559 --> 00:08:38,480 Speaker 1: for was middle aged men coming in there and saying, 197 00:08:38,480 --> 00:08:39,800 Speaker 1: can you just hold me for half an hour? 198 00:08:39,920 --> 00:08:40,120 Speaker 3: Yeah? 199 00:08:41,760 --> 00:08:44,439 Speaker 1: Nothing else, I don't want to do anything. 200 00:08:44,480 --> 00:08:47,200 Speaker 2: Apparently they pay through the nose as well. Yeah, let's 201 00:08:47,200 --> 00:08:47,480 Speaker 2: go to. 202 00:08:47,440 --> 00:08:53,200 Speaker 1: Bruno one six five. Bruno, you you you love to 203 00:08:53,200 --> 00:08:57,360 Speaker 1: sleep in separate rooms. I wouldn't say I love it. 204 00:08:57,679 --> 00:09:00,120 Speaker 1: I just I wish I had a spare room, to 205 00:09:00,200 --> 00:09:02,880 Speaker 1: be honest, because my ministers and I we only have one, 206 00:09:03,280 --> 00:09:07,800 Speaker 1: and she complains with snow. Would be handy to have 207 00:09:08,160 --> 00:09:11,240 Speaker 1: a fair bedroom. It would help the relationship rather than 208 00:09:11,400 --> 00:09:11,800 Speaker 1: ruining it. 209 00:09:12,080 --> 00:09:14,720 Speaker 3: Brenda, my dad's a huge snorer. 210 00:09:15,000 --> 00:09:16,440 Speaker 2: Chuck some tape over your mouth. 211 00:09:17,520 --> 00:09:20,800 Speaker 1: God, am I going to breathe? Mate? Great question. I 212 00:09:20,800 --> 00:09:24,600 Speaker 1: think we're all thinking this thing. Let's wrap it up. 213 00:09:26,760 --> 00:09:31,680 Speaker 1: If more of the boys on the full podcast, just 214 00:09:31,720 --> 00:09:32,440 Speaker 1: scroll up.