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Speaker 1: This is a will and Woody podcast, Mini. But when

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Speaker 1: you're in a rash, My partner Sam gave birth to

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Speaker 1: a little baby girl called Max. Yeah, daddy, it's absolutely huge.

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Speaker 1: You want to see a photo of the little angel.

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Speaker 1: Got a head al onto Willen Woods. She's on there.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: It was epic, mate, It was so good. It has

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Speaker 1: been the number one thing that every parent has told

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Speaker 1: me is just for be petal pet sleep.

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Speaker 3: Sure.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and we had I think it was three nights

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Speaker 1: in hospital all that we had. Yeah, and losing sleep

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Speaker 1: just yeah, it just doesn't it doesn't cut it.

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Speaker 4: You have aged like fifteen years in three days. You

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Speaker 4: sort of look like a leathery boot a bit.

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Speaker 1: Of Roger sheet about me.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, a little bit, a little bit.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it was, Yeah, it was. It was taxing. But

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Speaker 1: largely the reason for that is and like people had already,

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Speaker 1: Our parents would know this, but your child only once

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Speaker 1: and the only thing it thinks about is your partner's breasts. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that is it.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, So you've got common ground, which is great with

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Speaker 4: your child already.

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Speaker 1: So all night Sam can't get out of bed, So

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Speaker 1: all I'm doing is getting up getting the child out

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Speaker 1: of the bassinet. And then carrying it over to Sam.

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Speaker 1: She feeds run out for you know, fifteen to twenty minutes,

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Speaker 1: as long as she can. I sleep while she feeds,

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Speaker 1: and then she yells my name out and then I go.

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Speaker 1: Then I go and get the child. I take it

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Speaker 1: back to the basinet, changes everyone needs to and then

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Speaker 1: try and sleep before it starts crying, before it wants

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Speaker 1: more food. Has been right, Yeah, same thing all night,

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Speaker 1: every night for three nights.

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Speaker 4: Is she jewel duel feeding.

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Speaker 1: Your feed on your feed on both breasts? Yeah right, okay, yeah, yeah, okay, yeah,

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Speaker 1: just even just to give your nipples a break because

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Speaker 1: to latch properly, and yeah that's a whole nother story.

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Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 1: But so it's really interesting from my side of this,

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Speaker 1: I've never felt more irrelevant. But I was talking to

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Speaker 1: Sam a little bit about it. It's really funny how

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Speaker 1: every woman who gives birth and breastfeeds, or whether she

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Speaker 1: pumps or whatever she does, your relationship with your breasts

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Speaker 1: is like now totally different because now they're performing the

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Speaker 1: function that they're actually on.

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Speaker 3: Four.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, of course they've always been lying dormant like a

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Speaker 4: volcano for the first.

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Speaker 1: About lying dormant.

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Speaker 4: Well, no, I know you get in there, but I'm

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Speaker 4: saying like that they haven't had it in there. But well,

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Speaker 4: I don't know what you meant by that comment, but

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Speaker 4: I'm saying, for twenty eight yearsh know you meant.

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Speaker 1: My yor coment about my partner's breasts.

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Speaker 4: I mean that they're dormant, like volcanoes in that they

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Speaker 4: I mean, there's an a rustique which it's extraordinary that

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Speaker 1: It really is, And like as I said, from my

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Speaker 1: side of the spectrum, it's fascinating. But for her and

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Speaker 1: for all women, you go through this transition where your

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Speaker 1: breasts are and I'm just trying to wrap my head

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Speaker 1: around this. I really want some women to call and

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Speaker 1: talk about this more because I just think it's fascinating.

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Speaker 1: Your breasts go from this object of sexuality, of desirability

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Speaker 1: that magical things, that weirdest thing that's just the weirdest

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Speaker 1: so she's got like she's got and like it's just

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Speaker 1: everything's changed and it's the only thing keeping Max alive.

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Speaker 4: Her breast.

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Speaker 1: These things that I used to look at and feel

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Speaker 1: is it is so funny. So I really want to

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Speaker 1: I really want to hear from some other women right now.

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Speaker 1: How did did this happen to you? This this idea

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Speaker 1: of transitioning from breasts being sexual to breasts being well,

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Speaker 1: more importantly, did you how do you transition back? Is

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Speaker 1: there a point where, like you and like that's what

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Speaker 1: I said before, is there a point where my child

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Speaker 1: The ironic thing is they've never been bigger. They're absolute

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Speaker 4: I will not my wife's breasts.

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Speaker 1: But obviously it's just hilarious that it's so funny to

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Speaker 1: a I really want to hear from some women out

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Speaker 1: there who had to go through this, And I just

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Speaker 1: want to hear your perspective on the girls, because I

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Speaker 1: can't imagine it. Yeah, I think it's I think it's brilliant.

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Speaker 1: Gives one and six five? Are you a woman? Have

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Speaker 1: your breastfed? Just talk about that transition. I'd love to

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Speaker 1: the totally, totally last in the vortex, given that all

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Speaker 1: talk about this because I like, obviously I'm a guy

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Speaker 1: looking at this from the outside, and Sam's currently passed

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Speaker 1: out with little Max in the bed, so I can't.

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Speaker 2: Talk to her enough.

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Speaker 1: About it, because she's just that she she's you think

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Speaker 1: I'm in the vortex that she falls asleep bastfeeding at

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Speaker 1: and how that must feel for you as a woman,

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Speaker 1: and how you deal with that, and and do you

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Speaker 1: go back? Is there going to be where? Where is

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Speaker 1: there going to be a point where both my child

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Speaker 4: We've got Yanna here, Wilba Yana, what do you think

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Speaker 3: They are guys. They never revert back. You go from

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Speaker 3: and then the first time you're intimate, yeah, you like,

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Speaker 2: Like you.

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Speaker 3: Gonna end up with the mouse.

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Speaker 1: So you're worried. There's a bit of gem left in

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Speaker 3: There there is oh my Jem it's like the never.

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Speaker 4: Ending Tim Jams packet, you know, with the Jim Jams

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Speaker 4: genie a medicine. Here, Madison, you are currently breastfeeding a

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Speaker 4: bit like Will's partner Sem, And yeah, Will's posing the question,

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Speaker 4: you know, your breasts go from this sexual trait or

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Speaker 4: sexual feature to you know, being the life support for

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Speaker 4: a baby. Does it ever go back? Madison? Well, I

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Speaker 4: probably don't know about going back.

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Speaker 3: I'm only yeah, I'm still breastfeeding. She's eight months and she.

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Speaker 4: So okay, it's in that moment of going through that.

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Speaker 3: But I think just the way you guys described it

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Speaker 3: was just beautiful, the fact that, yeah, you go through

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Speaker 3: you don't care who sees it where it is, and

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Speaker 3: that's all that had it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, isn't that amazing? Thanks so much for the call, Mate.

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Speaker 1: That's exactly what I found as well, Like it's just

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Speaker 1: you just don't think of it like the currently I'm

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Speaker 1: I might have thought about birbs the size of SEM's,

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Speaker 1: but right now you don't even think about it. It's

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Speaker 1: just like, that is the way my child's surviving. They're

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Speaker 1: which is why we're taking calls on it from other

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Speaker 1: I want to throw quickly to button push of Joel,

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Speaker 1: not because he's breastfed before, but Joel you were saying, no.

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Speaker 2: You haven't, mate, I was a baby.

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Speaker 1: I did you've been?

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Speaker 4: Oh I no, great point, he's got you there. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: Joel's been on a bird. The other side, it was

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Speaker 4: breastfed until he was fourteen. Apparently that's what your mum

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Speaker 1: You had a question, Will, Yeah, I did, thank you

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Speaker 1: before we were rudely interrupted by this absolute child in

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Speaker 1: the studio. Joel, you were saying, Dak Kristen Bell and

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like an interesting blurred line between motherhood and

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Speaker 2: film Chips with Dak Shepherd and she was the star

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Speaker 2: And it's in the movie. You watch it, and she's

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Speaker 2: got this great scene with Kristen Bell. But she opened

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Speaker 2: mum going hilarius. It has to be done, and he

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Speaker 4: Hilarious, brilliant story. I've got Taylor here and our Taylor

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Speaker 4: you can relate to this.

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Speaker 3: Yes, yeah, I had my daughter, she's almost two now,

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Speaker 4: The other one getting the milk out. So oh oh,

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Speaker 4: how did he.

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Speaker 2: Go about that?

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Speaker 4: Was he sort of pumping with the hands or no?

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Speaker 4: So I had tried the pump and it wasn't working.

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Speaker 3: When I tried everything going in.

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Speaker 4: The shower warm water, nothing was working and it started

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Speaker 4: getting really sore.

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Speaker 3: So he had just had to go there and stuck

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Speaker 2: More of the boys on the Full Show podcast, As

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Speaker 2: You Know you want to