WEBVTT - MINI: Puberty Blues

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<v Speaker 1>Christ Yeah, welcome friends to the Christian O'Connell Show podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Christian O'Connell's show. That's the How's your day? Yesterday?

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<v Speaker 3>An interesting day. Daughter's getting older, reaching teenage years, pre

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<v Speaker 3>teenage years. Anyway, they had house.

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<v Speaker 2>She's getting on to be like thirty or something.

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<v Speaker 3>Feels like attitude. It's like a thirty year old.

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<v Speaker 2>Can I say, how are you finding this transition?

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<v Speaker 3>It's very difficult. The whole house has to It's evolving,

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<v Speaker 3>isn't it, and we have to move with it. And

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<v Speaker 3>it's some it is. It's very hard.

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<v Speaker 4>And it's like it because that kid that you've known

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<v Speaker 4>for years, right, they're not one day, They're just not

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<v Speaker 4>there anymore.

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<v Speaker 1>That's it.

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<v Speaker 3>That's exactly Jack. It's like someone Yes.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, it has popped up with some was with some

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<v Speaker 4>washing that i'd folded and not to the door, and

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<v Speaker 4>she was like.

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<v Speaker 2>Cunning and I went in there and she went, not.

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<v Speaker 1>Today, you feel like stuff you're delivering clean washing.

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<v Speaker 4>Clean washing, folded, the washed, dried and folded and apparently

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<v Speaker 4>not today like some sort of elt and John diva

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<v Speaker 4>grazing hell. And then I went like this okay, took

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<v Speaker 4>my wife then goes to me get back up.

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<v Speaker 5>Then I'm like caught between.

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<v Speaker 4>Two very strong women and I'm just still week cast man.

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<v Speaker 4>I was like actually hovering in a center point on

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<v Speaker 4>the stairs. I don't know where I am on this

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<v Speaker 4>sliding scale of.

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<v Speaker 6>You were still there at eight when came to bed.

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<v Speaker 6>It's terrifying.

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<v Speaker 3>Teens are terrifying. She scares me.

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<v Speaker 6>Gordy's never going to be like that. He's too sweet, sweet.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, this Gordy.

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<v Speaker 2>You wait, you get Gordy three point zero or something.

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<v Speaker 4>They have upgrades and downgrades and emo grades.

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<v Speaker 3>They're like a fluffy little kitten and then all and

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<v Speaker 3>they're like meducer. But they had house carnivals athletics carnival

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<v Speaker 3>at school yesterday for the middle school.

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<v Speaker 6>So she went to that.

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<v Speaker 4>Great tell me to do it as well once it

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<v Speaker 4>gets a bit cold, and that the teachers know what

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<v Speaker 4>they're doing to get the energy out of them.

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<v Speaker 3>Anyway, so her house house color is burgundy, and as

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<v Speaker 3>the parents could go and watch them, and I thought

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<v Speaker 3>that's fun because it's not often you can actually go

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<v Speaker 3>to school and watch them these days.

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<v Speaker 2>Tell me you're filming it all?

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<v Speaker 6>Of course, what's you're competing in?

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<v Speaker 3>Nothing? So what do you feels her mates, No, that's

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<v Speaker 3>a bit creepy.

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<v Speaker 2>That your mum's look.

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<v Speaker 3>She she didn't want to compete, but she was like

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<v Speaker 3>a head of the cheers squad. And we said, you

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<v Speaker 3>know what, that's fine, you're having a go. She's not

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<v Speaker 3>fond of you know.

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<v Speaker 2>I get it. I'm the guy.

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<v Speaker 5>Yes, that back to I would not today.

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<v Speaker 3>Whatever you say up some trainers and.

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<v Speaker 2>Cheers. That was the thing.

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<v Speaker 3>Now, anyway, that's not the project. So the house colour's burgundy.

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<v Speaker 3>And as I'm approaching, I noticed this something on her face. Anyway,

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<v Speaker 3>I get there and I notice she's wearing makeup.

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<v Speaker 2>We should probably going out in the afternoon.

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<v Speaker 4>Didn't have anything to do because other suckers are doing

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<v Speaker 4>the actual competing.

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<v Speaker 6>Came up and I said to.

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<v Speaker 3>Her, are you wearing eyeliner? And she's like, Mom, shut up,

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<v Speaker 3>We're all wearing it. So apparently they had like burgundy eyeliner,

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<v Speaker 3>and then they had like the house name up their arms.

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<v Speaker 6>That's not like the spirit of the day, Patsy vision.

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<v Speaker 2>This is woken us. They're wearing eyeliner. Now, Chris, this

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<v Speaker 2>is the beginning of.

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<v Speaker 6>I'll just have to crop you out of all the photos.

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<v Speaker 4>Be honest, if we'd have all known back in the

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<v Speaker 4>day that you could opt out of doing house sports.

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<v Speaker 2>There was so much misery, there was no doubt, so

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<v Speaker 2>much misery.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm not even sure if I'm on the radio twenty

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<v Speaker 4>five years later looking for some peace from those days.

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<v Speaker 2>Some scars never heal.

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<v Speaker 3>That high jump terrified.

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<v Speaker 2>Me, just most of it.

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<v Speaker 6>Pats, what sport did you pick? We had to do.

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<v Speaker 7>You had to at least one sport on f stay,

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<v Speaker 7>so we did. I did, like a triple jump or

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<v Speaker 7>something that is hardly anyone competed in.

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<v Speaker 4>Triple jump is also really hard and it makes no sense.

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<v Speaker 4>It doesn't replicate like running one hundred meters fifteen hundred

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<v Speaker 4>meters right, even shot put in traveling, I could understand

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<v Speaker 4>that You're like.

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<v Speaker 2>What what is them?

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<v Speaker 4>A hob skip me and then a jump, not that

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<v Speaker 4>this is natural? Is this much together a couple of

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<v Speaker 4>rando events or to create that the one that I

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<v Speaker 4>used to because in the UK when I grew up

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<v Speaker 4>in the eighties, there's sort of UK sort of Olympic

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<v Speaker 4>strategy was like, let's not worry about the swimming events, right, we.

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<v Speaker 2>Haven't got outdoor polls.

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<v Speaker 4>We're going to smash athletics because here rain slight summer

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<v Speaker 4>but mainly rain and mud. We can make the kids

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<v Speaker 4>go out running. So all it was was like endless

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<v Speaker 4>outdoor athletics of like one hundred meters, two hundred meters,

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<v Speaker 4>four hundred meters, and then the dreaded sort of fun.

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<v Speaker 4>We have to do a five k cross country run

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<v Speaker 4>where I remember on the day I accidentally forgot my trainers.

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<v Speaker 4>So he went, okay, Google lost property and all I

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<v Speaker 4>could find was football wich was studs actual and not

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<v Speaker 4>like those plastic molded ones out metallic studs and run

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<v Speaker 4>five k.

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<v Speaker 2>The first k was going through these housing estates, so

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<v Speaker 2>it's concrete. So we have.

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<v Speaker 4>As my shins are being broken way, you got some

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<v Speaker 4>psycho actual pe teacher who was occasionally kicking me physically

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<v Speaker 4>in the ass.

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<v Speaker 5>PTSD. I actually think he was actually.

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<v Speaker 2>In the war.

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<v Speaker 5>Plus he had a pipe.

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<v Speaker 7>Consider yourself lucky though, that you didn't have the swimming

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<v Speaker 7>carnival that was at to day was one thing, but

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<v Speaker 7>that swimming carnival once a year and again they had

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<v Speaker 7>they said you have to do at least one event.

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<v Speaker 7>So every year I chose backstroke because it was the

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<v Speaker 7>least likely that.

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<v Speaker 2>They made you do backstroke.

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<v Speaker 6>You had to pick it.

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<v Speaker 7>Always one swim strokes so hard, well better than butterfly

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<v Speaker 7>or that breast stroke or something that you've literally never

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<v Speaker 7>done before.

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<v Speaker 4>And the boys that were very good at that monsters

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<v Speaker 4>work just like physical freaks. Just like that's like enormous,

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<v Speaker 4>like Adam's apples and everything.

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<v Speaker 5>They were like like five years older than you.

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<v Speaker 2>That's a man. That's why it's a man.

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<v Speaker 6>That's why I'm so unfair.

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<v Speaker 7>I couldn't swim and I didn't want to be in

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<v Speaker 7>my board sorts in front of the girls.

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<v Speaker 5>It's so shaming, isn't it.

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<v Speaker 2>Rio, you're actually quieted sports person? But was it also

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<v Speaker 2>a health you school?

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, I'm just saying, like school seeming kindib is so

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<v Speaker 1>triggering because I remember, like we would have to we

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<v Speaker 1>didn't get to wear board shots.

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<v Speaker 6>We had to wear like speedos.

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<v Speaker 2>Wo.

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<v Speaker 4>Let's just say right, boys develop at different being trying

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<v Speaker 4>to get changed in that room and all the comments

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<v Speaker 4>because that's so boys are l like, wow, Yes, I

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<v Speaker 4>understand why some men break later on in life. It's

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<v Speaker 4>because of what happened in there and the things that

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<v Speaker 4>you said in your part of feel so much shame.

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<v Speaker 2>It's shocking.

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<v Speaker 7>I didn't hit puberty into like an ungodly seventeen very

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<v Speaker 7>very light, very like serious late.

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<v Speaker 6>Seriously, how did you like your voice?

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<v Speaker 2>When did your voice mentioned the today or tomorrow? Seventeen?

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<v Speaker 2>Bloody hell?

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<v Speaker 7>Would have it would have been before me. And you

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<v Speaker 7>know what, in the sex head classes which they had

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<v Speaker 7>when we were growing up, they did a lot of

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<v Speaker 7>like if your growing hair under your arms, that's okay.

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<v Speaker 7>They made they prepared you for if you're going.

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<v Speaker 2>Through puberty early changes are coming.

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<v Speaker 7>It's okay, it's okay. They didn't do anything for the

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<v Speaker 7>boys who were very late Blue it might take a

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<v Speaker 7>few more years.

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<v Speaker 6>But everybody else has got hair under their arms. You

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<v Speaker 6>might not.

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<v Speaker 2>So do you go to annoy all boys school?

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<v Speaker 1>I went to an all boys school, and I remember

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<v Speaker 1>as well having hair.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you think that was easier or harder?

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<v Speaker 1>It was harder, definitely for me. I was a late

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<v Speaker 1>bloomer like Jack, and I remember just like standing up

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<v Speaker 1>on the blocks, this scrawny little like kid clearly hadn't developed.

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<v Speaker 2>That's anxious now, like you've got to go and do it.

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<v Speaker 6>Swimming Carnival still make me shiver.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I remember when the girls, My daughters are very

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<v Speaker 4>very good swimming, so they used to compete and win

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<v Speaker 4>and going there like pts, like thinking.

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<v Speaker 5>That I'm gonna have to go and get changed in

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<v Speaker 5>standing on those that day.

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