1 00:00:03,320 --> 00:00:07,040 Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families podcast. It's the podcast for the. 2 00:00:07,040 --> 00:00:10,680 Speaker 2: Time poor parent who just once answers. Now, this is 3 00:00:10,680 --> 00:00:12,520 Speaker 2: why when kids look at you and say, what's a minute, 4 00:00:12,640 --> 00:00:14,400 Speaker 2: they don't know what a minute is, because to a parent, 5 00:00:14,440 --> 00:00:17,480 Speaker 2: a minute is sometime in the near ish future. 6 00:00:17,680 --> 00:00:20,919 Speaker 1: And now here's the scars of our show, my mom 7 00:00:20,960 --> 00:00:23,680 Speaker 1: and Dad. So we're just about record the podcast. 8 00:00:23,720 --> 00:00:27,000 Speaker 2: I'm trying to load the program that we record into 9 00:00:27,160 --> 00:00:30,920 Speaker 2: it's an Adobe program. And I say to Kylie, it's 10 00:00:31,120 --> 00:00:33,120 Speaker 2: a little bit slow to start up, will be there soon. 11 00:00:33,320 --> 00:00:34,639 Speaker 2: And Kylie says to me. 12 00:00:35,400 --> 00:00:37,360 Speaker 3: So are you. Sometimes it's all good. 13 00:00:37,360 --> 00:00:40,360 Speaker 2: A bit slow to start up. Actually really struggling today. 14 00:00:40,960 --> 00:00:43,760 Speaker 2: It's been an amazing week. Earlier this week I got 15 00:00:43,760 --> 00:00:47,239 Speaker 2: to talk to a live audience, no more webinars in 16 00:00:47,320 --> 00:00:49,519 Speaker 2: Southeast Queensland. I was able to stand in front of 17 00:00:49,520 --> 00:00:51,800 Speaker 2: an audience of real people instead of starring at a 18 00:00:51,800 --> 00:00:55,360 Speaker 2: screen or a camera, and talk to people for nearly 19 00:00:55,360 --> 00:00:58,639 Speaker 2: two hours on raising kids and dealing with anxiety in 20 00:00:58,680 --> 00:00:59,200 Speaker 2: your child. 21 00:00:59,240 --> 00:01:00,560 Speaker 1: It was amazing. 22 00:01:00,600 --> 00:01:05,520 Speaker 2: Down on the Gold Coasts Helensvale Library, fantastic auditorium, full house. 23 00:01:05,760 --> 00:01:07,600 Speaker 1: It just felt so good. I came alive. 24 00:01:08,720 --> 00:01:11,920 Speaker 2: I really really loved talking to real people rather than 25 00:01:11,920 --> 00:01:13,440 Speaker 2: talking to screens. 26 00:01:13,600 --> 00:01:15,640 Speaker 3: And you must have given them your life, because you've 27 00:01:15,680 --> 00:01:17,960 Speaker 3: waken up with a not very much life today. 28 00:01:18,080 --> 00:01:18,160 Speaker 4: No. 29 00:01:18,280 --> 00:01:20,320 Speaker 1: Well, and this is the thing. I gave it everything 30 00:01:20,319 --> 00:01:21,560 Speaker 1: and it felt so good. 31 00:01:21,959 --> 00:01:25,040 Speaker 2: But when I do live presentations in front of audiences, 32 00:01:25,040 --> 00:01:27,000 Speaker 2: it means that I have to travel to them and 33 00:01:27,000 --> 00:01:28,800 Speaker 2: then I get home later I'm staying in the hotels 34 00:01:28,840 --> 00:01:30,840 Speaker 2: or whatever. Obviously I came home because we live in Brisie. 35 00:01:30,880 --> 00:01:33,080 Speaker 2: It was only a drive back up the highway. The 36 00:01:33,160 --> 00:01:34,920 Speaker 2: thing is, when I got home, as you know, because 37 00:01:34,920 --> 00:01:36,840 Speaker 2: you waited up for me, I didn't want to go 38 00:01:36,880 --> 00:01:37,319 Speaker 2: to sleep. 39 00:01:37,800 --> 00:01:38,960 Speaker 1: I knew I was exhausted. 40 00:01:39,040 --> 00:01:41,040 Speaker 2: I'd been up early that morning and I had an 41 00:01:41,040 --> 00:01:44,640 Speaker 2: early start again the next morning, but I just didn't 42 00:01:44,720 --> 00:01:46,360 Speaker 2: want to go to sleep, and I knew I was 43 00:01:46,400 --> 00:01:48,960 Speaker 2: going to be tired, but I was so in the moment. 44 00:01:49,240 --> 00:01:51,760 Speaker 3: Well, you actually even said let's watch an episode of 45 00:01:51,760 --> 00:01:54,440 Speaker 3: our show. Yeah, And I was like, are you sure, 46 00:01:54,480 --> 00:01:56,480 Speaker 3: and You're like, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, you're fine. 47 00:01:56,640 --> 00:01:59,840 Speaker 2: And what I was really saying was all at morning guy, 48 00:02:00,000 --> 00:02:03,360 Speaker 2: worry about that because I'm night guy and I'm okay. 49 00:02:03,440 --> 00:02:06,640 Speaker 2: Do you remember that, Jerry Seinfeld skit where he's talking 50 00:02:06,640 --> 00:02:08,600 Speaker 2: about morning Guy and night Guy we've played on the 51 00:02:08,600 --> 00:02:09,400 Speaker 2: podcast before. 52 00:02:09,800 --> 00:02:11,960 Speaker 4: You ever do this, like late at night and you're 53 00:02:11,960 --> 00:02:14,320 Speaker 4: watching TV and I stay up late because I'm night 54 00:02:14,360 --> 00:02:16,560 Speaker 4: guy getting up after five hour sleep. 55 00:02:16,600 --> 00:02:21,600 Speaker 1: That's morning Guy's problem. That's not my problem. I'm night guy, 56 00:02:21,680 --> 00:02:22,120 Speaker 1: night guy. 57 00:02:22,880 --> 00:02:28,000 Speaker 4: Night Guy always screws morning Gun because night guy has 58 00:02:28,040 --> 00:02:30,000 Speaker 4: control of when you go to sleep, Morning guy has 59 00:02:30,040 --> 00:02:32,280 Speaker 4: to get up. There's nothing Morning Guy can do to 60 00:02:32,320 --> 00:02:36,240 Speaker 4: get back at night Gun. The only thing morning Guy 61 00:02:36,320 --> 00:02:39,480 Speaker 4: could do is to try and oversleep enough times so 62 00:02:39,520 --> 00:02:41,440 Speaker 4: that day guy loses his job and a night guy 63 00:02:41,480 --> 00:02:42,320 Speaker 4: has no more money. 64 00:02:42,160 --> 00:02:42,600 Speaker 2: To go out. 65 00:02:42,680 --> 00:02:44,519 Speaker 1: I be guys, That's what I'm thinking. 66 00:02:44,639 --> 00:02:48,560 Speaker 2: Like, so right now I'm morning Guy and I hate 67 00:02:48,639 --> 00:02:50,920 Speaker 2: night Guy, and I'm trying to do a podcast and. 68 00:02:51,280 --> 00:02:53,639 Speaker 3: You know, only lasted five minutes of the episode. 69 00:02:53,680 --> 00:02:59,839 Speaker 2: Anyway, I remember, I distinctly remember you waking me up 70 00:03:00,040 --> 00:03:02,239 Speaker 2: because I was asleep on your shoulder trying to watch 71 00:03:02,280 --> 00:03:04,120 Speaker 2: whatever we were watching. I had no idea what was 72 00:03:04,160 --> 00:03:06,720 Speaker 2: going on. And you're like, I remember saying, should we 73 00:03:06,720 --> 00:03:08,560 Speaker 2: turn this off? And I'm like no, no, no, no, no, no, 74 00:03:08,760 --> 00:03:09,760 Speaker 2: keep watching it. This is good. 75 00:03:09,880 --> 00:03:11,720 Speaker 3: This guy is slowly close. 76 00:03:12,400 --> 00:03:14,920 Speaker 2: So this morning Morning guy, who hates night guy, But 77 00:03:15,040 --> 00:03:18,520 Speaker 2: can I just say it felt so good to be 78 00:03:18,560 --> 00:03:21,079 Speaker 2: able to present in front of a live audience. And 79 00:03:21,520 --> 00:03:24,480 Speaker 2: as we continue to see Australia opening up bit by bit, 80 00:03:25,080 --> 00:03:28,400 Speaker 2: the Act today has some new found freedoms. Victoria is 81 00:03:28,480 --> 00:03:32,119 Speaker 2: talking about getting closer. We've got new South Wales who 82 00:03:32,560 --> 00:03:34,760 Speaker 2: are again moving closer and closer to having the kids 83 00:03:34,800 --> 00:03:37,600 Speaker 2: back at school now that Freedom Day has arrived. And 84 00:03:38,040 --> 00:03:41,280 Speaker 2: in Queensland we've been living kind of normally ish for 85 00:03:41,360 --> 00:03:44,000 Speaker 2: some time. Same with South Australia and Western Australia and 86 00:03:44,040 --> 00:03:46,360 Speaker 2: the NT. But it feels so good to know that 87 00:03:46,400 --> 00:03:49,280 Speaker 2: pretty soon, as much as I hate leaving you, it's 88 00:03:49,280 --> 00:03:50,680 Speaker 2: going to be so nice to stand in front of 89 00:03:50,680 --> 00:03:54,480 Speaker 2: audiences again and give talks and watch people's faces. Oh 90 00:03:54,520 --> 00:03:55,800 Speaker 2: that's the other things. 91 00:03:56,360 --> 00:03:58,080 Speaker 3: I'm just going to say that to you. I'm talking 92 00:03:58,080 --> 00:04:00,720 Speaker 3: before these people, but you can't actually see their expression, 93 00:04:00,920 --> 00:04:02,280 Speaker 3: like she's a completely covering off. 94 00:04:02,320 --> 00:04:04,280 Speaker 2: I hope that they're smiling behind those masks, because it 95 00:04:04,280 --> 00:04:07,120 Speaker 2: feels like I said something really funny right then, but 96 00:04:07,160 --> 00:04:09,160 Speaker 2: you can hear the laughter at least, so it was 97 00:04:09,200 --> 00:04:11,480 Speaker 2: really nice anyway, We're Justin and Kylie Colson. I'm the 98 00:04:11,480 --> 00:04:13,120 Speaker 2: founder of happy Families dot com dot a U, the 99 00:04:13,160 --> 00:04:15,160 Speaker 2: author of six books about raising happy families, and together 100 00:04:15,240 --> 00:04:18,320 Speaker 2: we are the parents of six daughters, and every Friday 101 00:04:18,320 --> 00:04:21,000 Speaker 2: we have this conversation called I'll do Better Tomorrow and 102 00:04:21,240 --> 00:04:22,839 Speaker 2: my I'll do Better Tomorrow is not about going to 103 00:04:22,839 --> 00:04:25,320 Speaker 2: bed on time, although it probably could be, but this 104 00:04:25,360 --> 00:04:27,359 Speaker 2: is where we share highlights and low lights from the 105 00:04:27,360 --> 00:04:29,080 Speaker 2: week that was, the things that we got right, the 106 00:04:29,080 --> 00:04:31,240 Speaker 2: things that we got wrong, so that we can be 107 00:04:31,240 --> 00:04:33,920 Speaker 2: more reflective as parents, because this is how you improve. 108 00:04:34,000 --> 00:04:36,840 Speaker 2: This is how you do this stuff better by reflecting 109 00:04:36,839 --> 00:04:38,800 Speaker 2: on what happened and then making a commitment to being 110 00:04:39,000 --> 00:04:43,640 Speaker 2: more intentional. So Kylie, for older better tomorrow. Do you 111 00:04:43,680 --> 00:04:45,680 Speaker 2: want to go first today, ladies, before gentlemen. 112 00:04:46,880 --> 00:04:49,599 Speaker 3: Well, the other day I asked Emily if she would 113 00:04:49,600 --> 00:04:50,719 Speaker 3: go on tidy her room. 114 00:04:50,800 --> 00:04:52,400 Speaker 2: For those of you who areknew to the podcast, Emily 115 00:04:52,440 --> 00:04:54,359 Speaker 2: is our youngest of six daughters. 116 00:04:54,400 --> 00:04:59,080 Speaker 3: She is seven, and her room was a mess. 117 00:05:00,160 --> 00:05:03,960 Speaker 2: I think a mess is understating the danger that people 118 00:05:04,000 --> 00:05:06,400 Speaker 2: would experience if they walked in there, Like she's kind 119 00:05:06,440 --> 00:05:08,440 Speaker 2: of turned it upside down and inside out. 120 00:05:08,480 --> 00:05:10,320 Speaker 1: You really couldn't find the carpet. 121 00:05:10,440 --> 00:05:12,080 Speaker 3: Well, she has a dinosaur room and she has a 122 00:05:12,120 --> 00:05:14,360 Speaker 3: handful of fake plants. Well they were just like there 123 00:05:14,400 --> 00:05:16,760 Speaker 3: was a jungle. You couldn't even walk in the door. 124 00:05:17,000 --> 00:05:20,839 Speaker 2: Yeah, but she's got books everywhere and rocks, yeah, and 125 00:05:20,880 --> 00:05:23,360 Speaker 2: things that she's brought in from outside. Because she's got 126 00:05:23,400 --> 00:05:26,120 Speaker 2: a jungle room. She brings plants in from the garden. 127 00:05:26,640 --> 00:05:28,200 Speaker 3: So I had asked her if she would go and 128 00:05:28,240 --> 00:05:29,880 Speaker 3: do that, and I had a few bits and pieces 129 00:05:29,880 --> 00:05:31,360 Speaker 3: to do, and she said, well, I need you to 130 00:05:31,400 --> 00:05:34,000 Speaker 3: come and help me. And I said that's okay, if 131 00:05:34,000 --> 00:05:36,280 Speaker 3: you just get started, Mummy will come in and help 132 00:05:36,320 --> 00:05:39,520 Speaker 3: you very soon. Well about maybe half an hour had 133 00:05:39,520 --> 00:05:42,039 Speaker 3: gone past, and I passed her in the lound room. 134 00:05:42,200 --> 00:05:45,480 Speaker 3: She was nowhere near the bedroom, and I knew instinctively 135 00:05:45,600 --> 00:05:47,800 Speaker 3: that nothing had been done. And I said, Emily, I 136 00:05:47,960 --> 00:05:49,880 Speaker 3: need you to go and clean your room. And she 137 00:05:49,920 --> 00:05:52,280 Speaker 3: said I need your help. And I said, I promise 138 00:05:52,360 --> 00:05:54,040 Speaker 3: you I will come and help you. I just need 139 00:05:54,080 --> 00:05:56,200 Speaker 3: you to start. And she looked at me and she said. 140 00:05:55,960 --> 00:05:59,720 Speaker 2: But you just make it more fun, right, which might 141 00:05:59,720 --> 00:06:01,120 Speaker 2: be true or maybe she's just lazy. 142 00:06:03,160 --> 00:06:03,960 Speaker 1: But what I love. 143 00:06:03,839 --> 00:06:07,360 Speaker 3: About that is sometimes the job just feels so overwhelming, 144 00:06:07,600 --> 00:06:09,679 Speaker 3: especially for a seven year old, even if you're thirty 145 00:06:09,720 --> 00:06:11,960 Speaker 3: four or forty four, or I don't even know how 146 00:06:11,960 --> 00:06:13,400 Speaker 3: old I am, twenty. 147 00:06:13,120 --> 00:06:15,560 Speaker 1: One, let's go with thirty four. I like that. 148 00:06:17,279 --> 00:06:20,839 Speaker 3: And sometimes it's just nice to have somebody there. Yeah, 149 00:06:21,520 --> 00:06:24,360 Speaker 3: and she recognizes and knows that if Mum's in there, 150 00:06:25,040 --> 00:06:27,240 Speaker 3: I just make it a bit more bearable. 151 00:06:27,520 --> 00:06:28,480 Speaker 1: Can I throw something in? 152 00:06:28,520 --> 00:06:31,200 Speaker 2: That is so there's a really nice sound of that, 153 00:06:31,240 --> 00:06:32,840 Speaker 2: I'll do better tomorrow. But there's also a little bit 154 00:06:32,839 --> 00:06:34,400 Speaker 2: of a dark side to it, and that is that 155 00:06:34,440 --> 00:06:35,800 Speaker 2: you said go and get started and I'll be with 156 00:06:35,800 --> 00:06:37,960 Speaker 2: you shortly, and thirty minutes later you were still doing 157 00:06:37,960 --> 00:06:40,039 Speaker 2: what you were doing and she was playing in the 158 00:06:40,040 --> 00:06:41,840 Speaker 2: living room. We've got to remember that when we say 159 00:06:41,880 --> 00:06:44,120 Speaker 2: to the kids, I'll be there in a minute. This 160 00:06:44,240 --> 00:06:45,720 Speaker 2: is why when kids look at you and say, what's 161 00:06:45,720 --> 00:06:47,480 Speaker 2: a minute, they don't know what a minute is, because 162 00:06:47,520 --> 00:06:50,279 Speaker 2: to a parent, a minute is sometime in the near 163 00:06:50,360 --> 00:06:52,680 Speaker 2: ish future. It might be thirty seconds, or it might 164 00:06:52,720 --> 00:06:53,719 Speaker 2: be fifteen minutes. 165 00:06:53,760 --> 00:06:55,479 Speaker 3: And well, I was feeling good because she said I 166 00:06:55,480 --> 00:06:58,520 Speaker 3: made it fun. You're now making me look like the 167 00:06:58,560 --> 00:06:59,040 Speaker 3: bad ones. 168 00:06:59,240 --> 00:07:01,599 Speaker 1: The idea I'll do it to Sorry, I am going 169 00:07:01,680 --> 00:07:02,839 Speaker 1: to share my one right after break. 170 00:07:02,920 --> 00:07:05,560 Speaker 3: I will tell you that it did get cleaned and 171 00:07:05,600 --> 00:07:06,440 Speaker 3: we did have fun. 172 00:07:06,680 --> 00:07:09,040 Speaker 1: It's their Happy Families podcast. 173 00:07:09,480 --> 00:07:13,520 Speaker 5: Our Screens Creating Tension at Home, Tweens, teens and Screens 174 00:07:13,600 --> 00:07:18,160 Speaker 5: is a webinar to guide families to healthy, safe superscreen solutions. 175 00:07:18,360 --> 00:07:22,240 Speaker 5: Bye today at happyfamilies dot com dot au slash shop. 176 00:07:22,920 --> 00:07:25,320 Speaker 3: It's the Happy Families podcast, the podcast for the time 177 00:07:25,320 --> 00:07:27,600 Speaker 3: poor parent who just wants answers now, and today we're 178 00:07:27,640 --> 00:07:30,840 Speaker 3: sharing the lessons that we've learned from our week. Clearly 179 00:07:31,120 --> 00:07:33,000 Speaker 3: I have some lessons to learn because as much as 180 00:07:33,040 --> 00:07:36,520 Speaker 3: I am the fun parent, I left my child waiting 181 00:07:36,520 --> 00:07:37,920 Speaker 3: too long to get her room clean. 182 00:07:38,200 --> 00:07:38,360 Speaker 4: Well. 183 00:07:38,400 --> 00:07:41,000 Speaker 2: I got a phone call this morning, very very early, 184 00:07:41,720 --> 00:07:43,640 Speaker 2: very early. And by the way, when I say this morning, 185 00:07:43,640 --> 00:07:45,720 Speaker 2: obviously this is going to air on Friday. The podcast 186 00:07:45,800 --> 00:07:47,680 Speaker 2: drops on a Friday, we're recording it the day before. 187 00:07:47,800 --> 00:07:49,640 Speaker 2: So Thursday morning, I get this phone call from our 188 00:07:49,680 --> 00:07:52,040 Speaker 2: eldest daughter, moved out and married in her early twenties, 189 00:07:52,080 --> 00:07:54,360 Speaker 2: living life, going to UNI, working all that sort of stuff. 190 00:07:55,080 --> 00:07:58,000 Speaker 1: Pouring rain in Brisbane, some really torrential rain that we've 191 00:07:58,000 --> 00:07:58,360 Speaker 1: had over the. 192 00:07:58,360 --> 00:08:03,200 Speaker 2: Last little while, and she to say that I'm just 193 00:08:03,240 --> 00:08:06,200 Speaker 2: going to let you know how much I appreciate you 194 00:08:06,360 --> 00:08:10,960 Speaker 2: teaching me to drive, because she was driving through the 195 00:08:11,160 --> 00:08:14,200 Speaker 2: rain and people were driving dangerously and not very well, 196 00:08:14,240 --> 00:08:15,000 Speaker 2: and they didn't have. 197 00:08:14,960 --> 00:08:18,480 Speaker 3: Their lights on. They were slowing right down, which obviously 198 00:08:18,480 --> 00:08:20,840 Speaker 3: when you're on a freeway with a one hundred kilometer 199 00:08:21,000 --> 00:08:24,440 Speaker 3: speed limit, no one was using their lights or their 200 00:08:24,600 --> 00:08:28,680 Speaker 3: havard lights or anything. Just so dangerous. And she was like, 201 00:08:28,840 --> 00:08:32,040 Speaker 3: I'm completely comfortable. I know what I'm doing. I can 202 00:08:32,200 --> 00:08:33,920 Speaker 3: drive to the conditions. 203 00:08:33,360 --> 00:08:34,360 Speaker 1: Because my dad taught me. 204 00:08:34,679 --> 00:08:37,640 Speaker 3: And she was grateful, and oh gosh, I. 205 00:08:37,600 --> 00:08:39,959 Speaker 2: Don't know if I can say this without making I'm 206 00:08:40,000 --> 00:08:42,480 Speaker 2: not trying to shame you, I promise, But isn't it 207 00:08:42,480 --> 00:08:44,160 Speaker 2: good that I taught her? Because when you tried to 208 00:08:44,200 --> 00:08:46,120 Speaker 2: teach her, have we told the story about what happened? 209 00:08:46,200 --> 00:08:49,480 Speaker 3: You tried to We may have told this story. 210 00:08:49,679 --> 00:08:51,320 Speaker 1: If I tell it again for people who are new 211 00:08:51,360 --> 00:08:52,560 Speaker 1: to the podcast or missed it, Well, you. 212 00:08:53,040 --> 00:08:54,760 Speaker 3: Weren't even there, so I don't know how you can 213 00:08:54,760 --> 00:08:56,959 Speaker 3: tell the story. 214 00:08:57,240 --> 00:08:59,520 Speaker 2: Okay, all right, So here's the deal. Chanelle goes to 215 00:08:59,520 --> 00:09:02,120 Speaker 2: get HER's license she gets her l's. I've said to 216 00:09:02,200 --> 00:09:05,600 Speaker 2: Kylie that morning, you're not she goes before school, before school. 217 00:09:05,840 --> 00:09:07,920 Speaker 2: Just take us straight to school. I'll get her driving. 218 00:09:08,120 --> 00:09:10,120 Speaker 2: And I really want to be the dad that teaches 219 00:09:10,160 --> 00:09:12,200 Speaker 2: the kids to drive. I'll teach her. I'll give her 220 00:09:12,360 --> 00:09:15,600 Speaker 2: first lesson tonight. And you said no worries, except she 221 00:09:15,679 --> 00:09:17,640 Speaker 2: was so excited when she got her l's and passed 222 00:09:17,640 --> 00:09:20,360 Speaker 2: the test that on the way to school she said, Mama, Mama, Mom, 223 00:09:20,360 --> 00:09:22,720 Speaker 2: can I please just try driving just once? 224 00:09:23,440 --> 00:09:24,440 Speaker 1: And what did you say, honey? 225 00:09:25,559 --> 00:09:29,840 Speaker 2: Okay, just rolled over, just acquiesced. We had this conversation 226 00:09:29,960 --> 00:09:32,280 Speaker 2: and so well, you didn't give. 227 00:09:32,160 --> 00:09:34,840 Speaker 3: Me any reason why I shouldn't. 228 00:09:34,559 --> 00:09:37,280 Speaker 1: Rule number one. Always provide a very clear rationale. 229 00:09:37,360 --> 00:09:39,800 Speaker 3: I would do it after school. 230 00:09:40,320 --> 00:09:42,679 Speaker 2: I didn't provide that rationale for any request that I made, 231 00:09:42,720 --> 00:09:44,440 Speaker 2: And so you'd be like, yeah, I can teach her. 232 00:09:44,600 --> 00:09:47,000 Speaker 2: So anyway, you've pulled into a church car park and 233 00:09:47,280 --> 00:09:50,559 Speaker 2: it's completely empty. We've got a manual car and you're 234 00:09:50,559 --> 00:09:53,560 Speaker 2: trying to teach her how to pull the clutch in 235 00:09:53,600 --> 00:09:55,800 Speaker 2: and out and just move the car forward. The timing 236 00:09:55,880 --> 00:09:58,720 Speaker 2: right right, Yeah, get that little massage of the left 237 00:09:58,720 --> 00:10:00,960 Speaker 2: and right foot happening and had that go. 238 00:10:02,360 --> 00:10:04,320 Speaker 3: It was disastrous. 239 00:10:04,559 --> 00:10:06,600 Speaker 1: So after her demonstrating. 240 00:10:06,040 --> 00:10:10,480 Speaker 3: Smoke coming out the back not even bunny hops, there 241 00:10:10,480 --> 00:10:12,600 Speaker 3: was no bunny hops. There was just a holy of. 242 00:10:12,559 --> 00:10:16,360 Speaker 2: Smoke and engine revving, installing and installing. So, after she 243 00:10:16,440 --> 00:10:20,440 Speaker 2: demonstrated her utter and complete incompetence and incapacity for doing 244 00:10:20,440 --> 00:10:22,360 Speaker 2: anything without at least some more. 245 00:10:22,240 --> 00:10:24,680 Speaker 3: Help you, I told her it's time to go to school. 246 00:10:24,760 --> 00:10:28,040 Speaker 2: Right, You've said, let's swap seats, I'll drive, And she says, oh, 247 00:10:28,240 --> 00:10:30,240 Speaker 2: can I just try and pull the car out onto 248 00:10:30,240 --> 00:10:31,199 Speaker 2: the side of the road. 249 00:10:32,320 --> 00:10:34,440 Speaker 3: And you said, you know when when you say it 250 00:10:34,559 --> 00:10:38,960 Speaker 3: like that seriously, Yeah, but when. 251 00:10:38,880 --> 00:10:40,199 Speaker 1: You're in the moment, it felt like it was a 252 00:10:40,280 --> 00:10:41,120 Speaker 1: nice thing to do, right. 253 00:10:42,040 --> 00:10:46,000 Speaker 3: She was so excited, She was so excited, and I 254 00:10:46,240 --> 00:10:49,000 Speaker 3: just wanted to give her that feeling that she wanted. 255 00:10:49,440 --> 00:10:52,120 Speaker 3: So just a little bit of background here, though, she'd 256 00:10:52,160 --> 00:10:54,360 Speaker 3: been watching all of her friends who had got their 257 00:10:54,440 --> 00:11:02,280 Speaker 3: licenses or were preparing to get their learners driving automatic car. 258 00:11:02,400 --> 00:11:04,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, but even so, watching somebody drive is not the 259 00:11:04,520 --> 00:11:05,560 Speaker 2: same as drive. 260 00:11:05,960 --> 00:11:08,520 Speaker 3: But that's a huge thing. So she was watching her 261 00:11:08,559 --> 00:11:11,960 Speaker 3: friends in the car park drive and reverse back, and 262 00:11:11,960 --> 00:11:14,280 Speaker 3: then reverse into the car park, just this little you know, 263 00:11:14,400 --> 00:11:17,960 Speaker 3: inching out and they don't have to worry about any 264 00:11:17,960 --> 00:11:22,000 Speaker 3: clutches or anything like that. And so it looked very easy, 265 00:11:22,160 --> 00:11:24,480 Speaker 3: and in her mind, that's exactly what she thought was 266 00:11:24,520 --> 00:11:25,120 Speaker 3: going to happen. 267 00:11:25,200 --> 00:11:27,160 Speaker 2: So after fifteen minutes of her demonstrating that that's not 268 00:11:27,200 --> 00:11:29,520 Speaker 2: how it works, you decided to let her have a 269 00:11:29,520 --> 00:11:31,200 Speaker 2: go at driving on a real road. 270 00:11:31,720 --> 00:11:32,320 Speaker 1: You let her. 271 00:11:32,800 --> 00:11:35,720 Speaker 2: It was a quiet right, yeah, was it. Thank Goodness 272 00:11:35,760 --> 00:11:39,360 Speaker 2: for that. Thank Heavens for that. So the car edges 273 00:11:39,760 --> 00:11:42,640 Speaker 2: ever so slowly towards the you know where the curb 274 00:11:43,840 --> 00:11:46,000 Speaker 2: like the driveway dips down and then meets the road, 275 00:11:46,640 --> 00:11:49,840 Speaker 2: the front wheels of resting in that little divot there, 276 00:11:50,200 --> 00:11:53,079 Speaker 2: and you say, okay, release the clutch, let's accelerate a 277 00:11:53,120 --> 00:11:56,960 Speaker 2: little bit. Long story short, She accelerates like crazy. She 278 00:11:57,040 --> 00:12:00,000 Speaker 2: drops the clutch, the car speeds out into the middle 279 00:12:00,160 --> 00:12:02,480 Speaker 2: of the road. She grabs the wheel and turns it 280 00:12:02,520 --> 00:12:05,960 Speaker 2: to the left full lock. The car does like a 281 00:12:06,000 --> 00:12:09,079 Speaker 2: one eighty, spins around, and then she straightens up the 282 00:12:09,080 --> 00:12:12,080 Speaker 2: wheel and the car goes straight towards the gutter, bounces 283 00:12:12,160 --> 00:12:16,000 Speaker 2: up the gutter. She finally manages to find the brake, 284 00:12:16,040 --> 00:12:18,880 Speaker 2: skids across the grass, crashes into the wall of the church. 285 00:12:19,000 --> 00:12:21,320 Speaker 1: The air bags are deployed, the car is a right off. 286 00:12:23,800 --> 00:12:26,000 Speaker 2: The baby in the back seat, by the way, who 287 00:12:26,120 --> 00:12:29,360 Speaker 2: is unscathed, wearing a seat But everything was fine. Air 288 00:12:29,400 --> 00:12:32,959 Speaker 2: bags everywhere, noise everywhere, car horn blaring. And a few 289 00:12:32,960 --> 00:12:35,000 Speaker 2: minutes later you call me and say, Hey, just wondering 290 00:12:35,000 --> 00:12:36,559 Speaker 2: if you could come down to the church down the road. 291 00:12:36,600 --> 00:12:40,920 Speaker 2: I want to show you something. And I've said, did 292 00:12:40,920 --> 00:12:43,920 Speaker 2: you let Chanel drive? And you said ahh, And I'm like, okay. 293 00:12:44,360 --> 00:12:46,200 Speaker 2: I hung up the phone, didn't I didn't ask. I thought, 294 00:12:46,200 --> 00:12:49,440 Speaker 2: either Chanell is a natural or we need a new car. 295 00:12:50,400 --> 00:12:55,079 Speaker 2: And I was right, You're right about what both. 296 00:12:55,280 --> 00:12:56,040 Speaker 3: She's a natural. 297 00:12:56,240 --> 00:12:59,800 Speaker 2: She gave us the opportunity to get ourselves a new car. 298 00:13:00,080 --> 00:13:04,360 Speaker 2: And so Chanelle that night came out in another car 299 00:13:04,440 --> 00:13:04,760 Speaker 2: with me. 300 00:13:05,040 --> 00:13:07,679 Speaker 3: Well, no, no, no, no, no, let's put this again in context. 301 00:13:07,960 --> 00:13:10,280 Speaker 3: She literally did a runner. I couldn't find her for 302 00:13:10,320 --> 00:13:13,559 Speaker 3: about half an hour. She was hiding, and she swore 303 00:13:13,640 --> 00:13:16,240 Speaker 3: she would never get behind the wheel again. 304 00:13:16,440 --> 00:13:18,720 Speaker 2: And so I gave her a big hug. I cracked 305 00:13:18,760 --> 00:13:20,240 Speaker 2: up and said, this is one of the funniest things. 306 00:13:20,760 --> 00:13:21,320 Speaker 3: Take a photo. 307 00:13:21,440 --> 00:13:23,400 Speaker 2: Let's take some photos, and so I've got photos of 308 00:13:23,440 --> 00:13:26,920 Speaker 2: Chanel with her hand covering her face, with their babes deploying. 309 00:13:26,640 --> 00:13:29,520 Speaker 3: The car looking like a dead bug with its eyeballs 310 00:13:30,000 --> 00:13:31,040 Speaker 3: hanging out the side. 311 00:13:31,120 --> 00:13:32,400 Speaker 2: And that night I took her out of the car. 312 00:13:32,600 --> 00:13:35,480 Speaker 2: And I've taught all the kids drive since then and 313 00:13:35,880 --> 00:13:38,080 Speaker 2: it was a really good learning. I'll do better tomorrow 314 00:13:38,160 --> 00:13:41,120 Speaker 2: is that I don't teach that. You don't teach that. 315 00:13:41,200 --> 00:13:43,120 Speaker 2: I do the teaching of the driving. And she called 316 00:13:43,160 --> 00:13:44,920 Speaker 2: to say thanks because as a result, I. 317 00:13:45,679 --> 00:13:49,080 Speaker 3: Really calm, peaceful life. I don't have to worry about 318 00:13:49,160 --> 00:13:53,040 Speaker 3: dying behind the car. I'm completely in control. 319 00:13:53,160 --> 00:13:54,240 Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, that is. 320 00:13:55,880 --> 00:13:59,240 Speaker 2: The take home message from all of this is number one. 321 00:13:59,600 --> 00:14:01,280 Speaker 2: If you're going to clean with the kids, going back 322 00:14:01,280 --> 00:14:03,839 Speaker 2: to Kylie's old, do better tomorrow. A spoonful of sugar 323 00:14:03,920 --> 00:14:07,520 Speaker 2: helps the medicine go down, Quitting Mary Poppins make it 324 00:14:07,600 --> 00:14:10,960 Speaker 2: fun and cleaning suddenly is not a burden. And the 325 00:14:11,000 --> 00:14:13,559 Speaker 2: take our message from my older better tomorrow is. 326 00:14:15,000 --> 00:14:15,480 Speaker 1: I don't know. 327 00:14:15,600 --> 00:14:17,320 Speaker 2: Actually, it was just really nice to get a phone 328 00:14:17,320 --> 00:14:18,959 Speaker 2: call from my daughter saying that she. 329 00:14:18,960 --> 00:14:22,120 Speaker 1: Appre Maybe that's what it is. She appreciated that. 330 00:14:23,320 --> 00:14:25,280 Speaker 2: I thought he to drive when we invest in things. 331 00:14:25,320 --> 00:14:28,360 Speaker 2: As our kids get older, they learn what appreciation is 332 00:14:28,400 --> 00:14:29,720 Speaker 2: and they call you now and then to make you 333 00:14:29,720 --> 00:14:30,600 Speaker 2: feel awesome as a parent. 334 00:14:32,160 --> 00:14:35,320 Speaker 3: Well, I think it's also just recognizing that we're going 335 00:14:35,400 --> 00:14:38,400 Speaker 3: to make mistakes, which clearly her and I both did 336 00:14:38,440 --> 00:14:42,760 Speaker 3: that day, but we grow through them, and if we're 337 00:14:42,800 --> 00:14:45,280 Speaker 3: able to recognize them for what they are, then we 338 00:14:45,360 --> 00:14:47,800 Speaker 3: give each other the opportunity to continue to learn. 339 00:14:48,520 --> 00:14:49,080 Speaker 1: I like that. 340 00:14:49,280 --> 00:14:51,080 Speaker 2: I like that, but ultimately I think my real old 341 00:14:51,120 --> 00:14:54,040 Speaker 2: do better tomorrow is go to bed on time. 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