WEBVTT - I Had A Threesome With Friends With Benefits Now They Want A Relationship 🤩🍆💦 0:00:00.760 --> 0:00:03.400 The Flex in Rooms daily podcast brought to you. 0:00:08.360 --> 0:00:11.760 Listen to here Flex. We do a lot of investigating 0:00:11.760 --> 0:00:12.520 on this podcast. 0:00:12.800 --> 0:00:16.479 Honestly, I feel like I would love to do more 0:00:16.560 --> 0:00:19.920 investigations because coming to the bottom of something and not 0:00:19.960 --> 0:00:22.279 really having a clear answer is one of my favorite hobbies. 0:00:23.320 --> 0:00:26.200 I like having the answer. There are no answers. There's 0:00:26.280 --> 0:00:29.760 never been a one hundred This is a thing kind 0:00:29.800 --> 0:00:30.080 of thing. 0:00:30.400 --> 0:00:34.040 What I actually like, let me rephrase, is when we 0:00:34.120 --> 0:00:37.320 all come to a unanimous decision that's not necessarily factual, 0:00:37.320 --> 0:00:39.000 but we're all catching the arm of it. 0:00:39.080 --> 0:00:42.520 We're in agreement. That's a really beautikncur. Oh, it's gorgeous, 0:00:42.600 --> 0:00:46.400 it's lovely, but it's rare. And have we come to 0:00:46.440 --> 0:00:49.920 that today? I don't think so. My tummy hurts, honestly, 0:00:50.000 --> 0:00:52.040 I was. I told you I was gurgling before curdling. 0:00:52.920 --> 0:00:54.280 It was stopped sitting, correct. 0:00:54.360 --> 0:00:57.280 I had heated up for capasta for lunch, but I 0:00:57.360 --> 0:00:59.200 used a different type of pasta I use, like this 0:00:59.600 --> 0:01:03.320 squig the Spirals. The Spirals, yeah, but a different brand, 0:01:03.440 --> 0:01:05.200 like a home brand from IgA, And they were a 0:01:05.240 --> 0:01:07.560 little bit smaller and a little bit softer, like perhaps 0:01:07.600 --> 0:01:09.480 I overcooked them. A little bit. They did like a 0:01:09.520 --> 0:01:12.120 little bit overcooked? So they did, didn't they? Yeah, just 0:01:12.160 --> 0:01:14.679 a touch? What have you eaten a bit? No, you 0:01:14.680 --> 0:01:18.240 don't like vodka pasta. I love vod capasta from Mateo 0:01:20.800 --> 0:01:23.200 by a chees Oh right, what if I bring in 0:01:23.240 --> 0:01:27.000 some next. I try to do so many things for you, 0:01:27.040 --> 0:01:29.040 but I love languages are not a line, No, it is. 0:01:29.080 --> 0:01:31.760 I love acts of service, This is my thing. But 0:01:31.840 --> 0:01:35.200 I also know that when people cook for you, it's 0:01:35.240 --> 0:01:36.880 a labor of love, and I don't want to shit 0:01:36.959 --> 0:01:39.360 on the sanctity of a gift by not enjoying it. 0:01:39.920 --> 0:01:42.679 That's fair enough. I mean, you've already done that a 0:01:42.680 --> 0:01:45.039 few times with my cooking. But will but you you 0:01:45.200 --> 0:01:46.960 fed me chicken and then said it was dry? 0:01:47.240 --> 0:01:48.480 What was I meant to say? 0:01:48.720 --> 0:01:50.240 So many people do that. I try and tell my 0:01:50.280 --> 0:01:51.760 friends like my mom used to do it all the time. 0:01:51.800 --> 0:01:54.160 My mom is a big cook and like classic taking 0:01:54.200 --> 0:01:56.640 one for the team, cooking for my extended relatives every 0:01:56.640 --> 0:01:59.240 week after she's gotten home from a twelve hour shift. 0:01:59.840 --> 0:02:03.880 No one's helping up clean up either, kind of servant vibes. 0:02:04.320 --> 0:02:06.400 And sometimes she'd be like she made like a beautiful 0:02:06.520 --> 0:02:09.440 roast pork belly, and maybe like the pork belly crackling 0:02:09.480 --> 0:02:12.520 isn't like one hundred percent crackling. She's like, Oh, I'm sorry, 0:02:12.560 --> 0:02:16.840 I'm sorry, I'm home, I'm sorry. Just constant apologies. You 0:02:16.919 --> 0:02:20.440 make it taste worse when you apologize. Yeah, just run 0:02:20.480 --> 0:02:23.280 with it. The other day I made this absolutely disgusting 0:02:23.400 --> 0:02:27.919 fucked curry with jar sauce, and my mate came over, 0:02:27.960 --> 0:02:31.320 who's like a real foodie, and she didn't say so 0:02:31.480 --> 0:02:34.639 this is delicious. I thought, if only she lied. I 0:02:34.680 --> 0:02:36.360 don't know if she lied or not, but maybe it 0:02:36.440 --> 0:02:41.519 was good. It wasn't good. I tasted it alas fuck. 0:02:41.560 --> 0:02:46.280 I love the podcast. Let's get into it. 0:02:46.280 --> 0:02:48.760 Freaks flex and frooms. 0:02:48.919 --> 0:02:51.560 Up next is a love line. Had a threesome with 0:02:51.639 --> 0:02:53.960 friends with benefits. Now she wants a relationship. While I 0:02:54.000 --> 0:02:57.200 don't ooh strap in, we've all been there. She, who's 0:02:57.240 --> 0:02:59.280 a twenty eight year old female, has been in a 0:02:59.320 --> 0:03:01.960 friends with benefit relationship with me, twenty seven male, for 0:03:02.000 --> 0:03:05.000 the past year. Okay, recently, she told me that one 0:03:05.000 --> 0:03:08.320 of her fantasies is to have a male female male threesome, 0:03:08.720 --> 0:03:11.799 and after some deliberation, I agreed. Love it sis. Yeah, 0:03:11.800 --> 0:03:14.919 I love that. It's a bit of me. Really, Okay, 0:03:15.000 --> 0:03:17.720 I'm the opposite. We had the threesome around two weeks 0:03:17.760 --> 0:03:20.000 ago and I thought it was it, But yesterday my 0:03:20.040 --> 0:03:22.440 friends had Benefits really surprised me by saying that she 0:03:22.520 --> 0:03:25.959 wants an exclusive relationship with me now. I will be honest. 0:03:26.160 --> 0:03:28.079 I had asked her once or twice before to be 0:03:28.200 --> 0:03:30.840 my GIF in the past, but she said she wasn't ready. WHOA, 0:03:31.120 --> 0:03:34.000 now she's ready the tables dot turn. But how do 0:03:34.080 --> 0:03:36.280 I tell her that I literally saw her have sex 0:03:36.280 --> 0:03:38.440 with someone else right in front of my eyes, and 0:03:38.480 --> 0:03:42.120 I'm not likely to forget that. Yes, we were not exclusive, 0:03:42.120 --> 0:03:44.360 but feelings were there, and I was able to convince 0:03:44.440 --> 0:03:46.960 myself of the threesome only after telling myself that we 0:03:47.000 --> 0:03:49.640 will never actually be in a relationship. I would never 0:03:49.720 --> 0:03:52.320 agree to a threesome with someone I'm dating. But how 0:03:52.320 --> 0:03:54.480 do I tell her all this without not coming across 0:03:54.520 --> 0:03:55.119 as her ful? 0:03:56.280 --> 0:03:57.880 This is so stressful. 0:03:58.800 --> 0:04:03.240 This is a twists and turn, so to recap people 0:04:03.480 --> 0:04:05.960 Friends with Benefits. The guy I want to take the girl, 0:04:06.000 --> 0:04:08.640 the girl wasn't ready. The girl suggests a threesome. He 0:04:08.720 --> 0:04:10.840 agrees to it. On the condition that they're not going 0:04:10.880 --> 0:04:14.560 to be together anyway they do it. She decides she 0:04:14.600 --> 0:04:17.680 wants to be with him, He's like, nah, it was 0:04:17.720 --> 0:04:20.040 never gonna be you. So that I say, what a setup? 0:04:20.360 --> 0:04:21.760 What a stitch up? 0:04:22.000 --> 0:04:24.320 By who? I mean everybody involved? 0:04:24.440 --> 0:04:27.039 It's a mutual stitch up because you have the girl 0:04:27.120 --> 0:04:30.960 here who everybody knows that once you confess your attraction 0:04:31.040 --> 0:04:33.320 to someone or you'll want to be in a romantic relationship. 0:04:33.480 --> 0:04:35.880 If it doesn't amount to anything and you still maintain 0:04:35.960 --> 0:04:38.479 a friendship, you know that the person's still keen. 0:04:38.839 --> 0:04:39.080 Right. 0:04:39.720 --> 0:04:41.440 For example, if I said to you through me, we 0:04:41.480 --> 0:04:43.760 should date and you're like, no, let's just be coworkers. 0:04:43.800 --> 0:04:46.920 It never happened it could you know? I'd say yes no. 0:04:46.960 --> 0:04:49.040 But if you said no, yeah, and then we continue 0:04:49.080 --> 0:04:51.360 to be coworkers, there's gonna be an undertone of like 0:04:51.760 --> 0:04:52.479 will they won't they? 0:04:52.520 --> 0:04:54.480 Will they won't they lingering? Yeah. 0:04:54.560 --> 0:04:56.920 So then you have this girl who's kind of done 0:04:56.960 --> 0:04:58.360 him a disservice, maybe being like I don't want to 0:04:58.400 --> 0:04:59.839 be with you, I'm not ready, but what I am 0:05:00.240 --> 0:05:02.320 four it is to sleep with you and another person 0:05:02.800 --> 0:05:04.840 like you think he was ready for that. He wasn't, 0:05:05.040 --> 0:05:09.000 and then on his end, him agreeing to it is fine, 0:05:09.080 --> 0:05:12.159 so he should enjoy, but wanting to tell her that 0:05:12.200 --> 0:05:15.480 he won't date her because he's seen her have sex 0:05:15.480 --> 0:05:17.480 with somebody else in front of his eyes. It's never 0:05:17.520 --> 0:05:21.680 gonna go down. Well, it's not gonna go down. Well bruh, Yeah, 0:05:21.720 --> 0:05:22.080 it's a bit. 0:05:22.120 --> 0:05:25.000 How are you going? I I mean it comes down 0:05:25.040 --> 0:05:27.479 to what I take from this is that if you 0:05:27.680 --> 0:05:30.360 were in a relationship with someone, could you have a 0:05:30.400 --> 0:05:33.240 threesome with someone else in terms of seeing them boots 0:05:33.279 --> 0:05:38.719 someone else? Yes, you could. I could as well, But 0:05:38.800 --> 0:05:41.560 I think for a lot of people concept I've got 0:05:41.560 --> 0:05:45.520 some friends who are dating and one of them is like, yeah, 0:05:45.520 --> 0:05:47.760 I'd be down for a threesome, but the other one 0:05:47.800 --> 0:05:51.280 is like, no, I couldn't. I wonder as well if 0:05:51.279 --> 0:05:54.720 there's some elements of I know a lot of guys 0:05:54.760 --> 0:05:58.200 are fine with girl and girl but not keen on 0:05:58.400 --> 0:06:02.080 guy guy. I feel like that's the default for a 0:06:02.080 --> 0:06:02.640 lot of men. 0:06:03.000 --> 0:06:05.360 But either way, what's done is done. I don't think 0:06:05.440 --> 0:06:07.400 that he has to go into detail about why he 0:06:07.440 --> 0:06:09.240 doesn't want to be with her, because you're not going 0:06:09.279 --> 0:06:11.480 to find the right words to say that I have 0:06:11.560 --> 0:06:15.080 now ridded you of potential girlfriend possibility because I saw 0:06:15.120 --> 0:06:18.640 you enjoy a very natural thing. So just say no 0:06:19.279 --> 0:06:21.359 that you're not interested in it anymore. And if she 0:06:21.880 --> 0:06:24.039 seeks out more information, you now have to do the 0:06:24.080 --> 0:06:27.760 mental math and say, is this honesty worth it? Is 0:06:27.800 --> 0:06:30.120 it going to land in a way that's beneficial for 0:06:30.160 --> 0:06:30.800 both parties? 0:06:31.080 --> 0:06:33.520 Likely not, and if not, it's time to find a 0:06:33.560 --> 0:06:35.160 new friends with benefits. 0:06:34.720 --> 0:06:36.880 Literally flex and frooms. 0:06:37.160 --> 0:06:41.520 Before I met miss Frumini, before we engaged in many 0:06:41.560 --> 0:06:45.599 a conversation, many a discourse, I used to scroll through 0:06:45.920 --> 0:06:48.880 videos on my timeline, like self development videos, and everyone 0:06:48.960 --> 0:06:51.280 hit to me. I was like, this is all valuable information. 0:06:51.920 --> 0:06:54.400 Wasn't until I started sharing them with you where I 0:06:54.520 --> 0:06:57.440 realized that, you know, it's not very helpful for the 0:06:57.480 --> 0:06:59.919 person who's actually dealing with the thing. So, for example, 0:07:00.200 --> 0:07:03.000 I would scroll past the video talking about how not 0:07:03.120 --> 0:07:06.000 everyone will like you, and I'm like, that's real, that's 0:07:06.080 --> 0:07:08.440 great information. And then I would share that video with 0:07:08.480 --> 0:07:10.960 you and you'd like that give me anxiety? King's sick 0:07:11.080 --> 0:07:15.000 cool cool cool cool cool. So I came across this video. 0:07:15.040 --> 0:07:16.960 It's called the twenty five percent rule for anxiety, and 0:07:16.960 --> 0:07:19.400 I want to know if when you hear this it's 0:07:19.520 --> 0:07:24.040 empowering and helpful it makes you feel really enabled to 0:07:24.120 --> 0:07:26.280 walk through the world with confidence, or if it is 0:07:26.320 --> 0:07:29.640 the reason why you have an anxiety attack. 0:07:30.600 --> 0:07:33.400 Remember the twenty five percent rule for social anxiety. Twenty 0:07:33.400 --> 0:07:35.040 five percent of people will like you and nothing you 0:07:35.080 --> 0:07:36.920 can do will make them not like you. Twenty five 0:07:36.960 --> 0:07:38.560 percent of people won't like you, and nothing you can 0:07:38.600 --> 0:07:40.480 do will make them like you. Twenty five percent of 0:07:40.480 --> 0:07:42.080 people will like you, but something you do could make 0:07:42.080 --> 0:07:44.160 them not like you. Twenty five percent of people won't 0:07:44.200 --> 0:07:46.040 like you, but something you do could make them like you. 0:07:46.040 --> 0:07:47.800 You can't really tell who is who in most cases, 0:07:47.800 --> 0:07:49.240 and you have no control over who they are and 0:07:49.240 --> 0:07:51.240 how they react to you, so it doesn't make sense 0:07:51.240 --> 0:07:52.960 to try and figure it out or try to control it. 0:07:53.080 --> 0:07:55.680 Just let it go. Someone's reaction or perception of you 0:07:55.760 --> 0:07:57.440 is not your fault. Just do your best, and don't 0:07:57.480 --> 0:07:59.600 let yourself get caught up using your imagination to guess 0:07:59.600 --> 0:08:02.520 what people thinking about you. Let me repeat the last part. 0:08:03.000 --> 0:08:05.240 Don't waste time and energy worrying about or assuming you 0:08:05.240 --> 0:08:07.640 know what anyone is thinking about you using your imagination 0:08:07.760 --> 0:08:09.640 is most likely not accurate at all, and especially if 0:08:09.640 --> 0:08:12.320 you have anxiety, it can't be trusted anyways. You don't 0:08:12.360 --> 0:08:14.400 need to respond to anything immediately. You don't need to 0:08:14.400 --> 0:08:15.880 go out of your way to make sure someone doesn't 0:08:15.880 --> 0:08:18.280 think the wrong thing. In the majority of situations, it 0:08:18.360 --> 0:08:20.400 just doesn't matter, and it's okay for people to be wrong. 0:08:21.040 --> 0:08:22.600 So take a load off your mind and don't let 0:08:22.600 --> 0:08:24.840 your imagination get the best of you. Remember the twenty 0:08:24.920 --> 0:08:27.160 five percent rule for social anxiety. 0:08:28.920 --> 0:08:30.119 It's not an internal loop. 0:08:31.280 --> 0:08:33.960 At one point, I feel like when he said twenty 0:08:34.000 --> 0:08:35.760 five percent of people will like you and there's something 0:08:35.800 --> 0:08:36.960 you can do about it, He's like, yah, I. 0:08:36.960 --> 0:08:40.120 Love this Vie, and then it was a downhill from there. 0:08:41.760 --> 0:08:43.400 That to me, I hear that, I'm like, those are 0:08:43.400 --> 0:08:46.000 fantastic odds, because what you're saying is half people I 0:08:46.000 --> 0:08:50.040 will meet will like me and half won't. And that 0:08:50.160 --> 0:08:52.480 feels like pretty accurate. 0:08:52.920 --> 0:08:57.839 No, because twenty five percent of the people so half 0:08:57.880 --> 0:08:59.600 of the people that like you, So it's fifty cents 0:08:59.559 --> 0:09:02.720 of people like you. Yes, twenty five percent will like 0:09:02.720 --> 0:09:04.360 you no matter what. The other twenty five will like 0:09:04.440 --> 0:09:06.640 you except for when you do something wrong. Yes, that 0:09:06.800 --> 0:09:10.960 is anxiety manifest Oh, I think, but it's just a fact. 0:09:12.040 --> 0:09:12.480 Is it a fact? 0:09:12.520 --> 0:09:12.640 Though? 0:09:12.640 --> 0:09:14.280 How do they come up with these numbers? I mean, 0:09:14.360 --> 0:09:15.439 let's say the numbers are different. 0:09:15.520 --> 0:09:17.240 Let's say it's like ten percent of people will like 0:09:17.280 --> 0:09:19.200 you and there's nothing you can do about it. For 0:09:19.240 --> 0:09:21.559 then nine people won't like you and there's nothing you 0:09:21.600 --> 0:09:22.600 could do about it. 0:09:24.400 --> 0:09:27.600 I guess it's good, but it's very antithetical to how 0:09:27.640 --> 0:09:31.640 anxiety works. Yes, but I believe that anxiety is something 0:09:31.640 --> 0:09:33.160 that you should try to work through. So this is 0:09:33.160 --> 0:09:36.240 probably a very important part of it, particularly with social anxiety. 0:09:37.000 --> 0:09:40.520 So perhaps hearing this theory with help from a psychologist 0:09:40.600 --> 0:09:43.400 to help hold your hand through it. Perhaps it is 0:09:43.440 --> 0:09:46.000 the writing for a large fee. 0:09:45.880 --> 0:09:48.959 Instead of unsolicited on the job. I'm like, what this 0:09:48.960 --> 0:09:49.720 this trigger. 0:09:50.720 --> 0:09:53.959 Triggering as hell? Nah, I kind of get it. It's 0:09:53.960 --> 0:09:55.720 probably a good thing to know, especially on the internet, 0:09:55.760 --> 0:09:57.560 because I think the odds will be even worse. 0:09:58.000 --> 0:10:01.120 Yes, Yes, on TikTok nine people are ready to roast 0:10:01.120 --> 0:10:02.800 you one hundred percent. 0:10:03.559 --> 0:10:03.880 Rip. 0:10:04.400 --> 0:10:08.400 This is flex and frooms on Kada classes. 0:10:08.000 --> 0:10:11.079 In session here is where you'll do the most learning. 0:10:11.120 --> 0:10:14.280 For today, We've updated the curriculum. We've got some new 0:10:14.360 --> 0:10:17.199 data and some new evidence to support our suspicions that 0:10:17.320 --> 0:10:20.080 Instagram is the new dating app. 0:10:20.280 --> 0:10:24.199 This is through me hypothesis. Please explain. My hypothesis was 0:10:24.240 --> 0:10:25.880 that with the new notes app, you can put a 0:10:25.880 --> 0:10:28.679 little status up and when people go to their DMS, 0:10:29.200 --> 0:10:31.439 there's a little picture of you with a bubble above 0:10:31.480 --> 0:10:33.320 your head, and you can put in whatever you like. 0:10:33.559 --> 0:10:35.920 So I decided, being a single woman coming into the 0:10:35.960 --> 0:10:38.440 spring summer season, yes, I need to get near it, 0:10:38.520 --> 0:10:41.920 and so I put all right, i'll bite who's single? Yes, 0:10:41.960 --> 0:10:44.839 and we wanted to see what happened. Now. My hypothesis 0:10:44.920 --> 0:10:47.120 came when I first saw the notes feature, because I thought, 0:10:47.400 --> 0:10:49.240 you're already in the dms, and when you go into 0:10:49.240 --> 0:10:50.920 your DMS, you're horny looking for a little bit of 0:10:50.960 --> 0:10:51.680 self validation. 0:10:52.720 --> 0:10:58.160 Okay, don't continue. Sorry, I can't hide my reactions. 0:10:59.240 --> 0:11:04.839 I didn't mean to act like that. So it's not 0:11:04.920 --> 0:11:08.240 just me. No, it's not just me, And so I 0:11:08.240 --> 0:11:11.439 put it out there. Did they get any bites? I 0:11:11.480 --> 0:11:14.040 don't kiss and tell, but I'll say yeah I did. 0:11:14.559 --> 0:11:19.000 Did you hear that grumble? But also through me said, okay, 0:11:19.040 --> 0:11:22.360 I'll bite who's single. I said, I feared that that 0:11:22.480 --> 0:11:25.960 would encourage you know friends, you know doing banter to 0:11:26.000 --> 0:11:29.360 come through as opposed to real leads. And we were 0:11:29.360 --> 0:11:32.760 looking for real leads right We're trying to convert. So 0:11:32.880 --> 0:11:36.880 I put up a note of my own and said, okay, 0:11:36.880 --> 0:11:41.040 who's taking me on a date? So two very opposing 0:11:41.160 --> 0:11:43.080 strategies for the same outcome. 0:11:43.600 --> 0:11:45.760 I was looking at the discourse around this on the 0:11:45.800 --> 0:11:48.400 video that we put up, yes, and people were saying 0:11:48.440 --> 0:11:50.240 that maybe your approach is a little bit too. 0:11:50.440 --> 0:11:53.080 Let's actually read out some of these comments, because I 0:11:53.120 --> 0:11:55.640 know not everybody's on Instagram like they used to be. 0:11:55.720 --> 0:11:58.880 Some people have deactivated, done the monthly hiatus. 0:11:59.080 --> 0:12:02.240 No judgment, no judgment. So here we are. I'm just 0:12:02.240 --> 0:12:03.160 gonna read through. 0:12:03.640 --> 0:12:06.240 This person says I did post you up the other 0:12:06.320 --> 0:12:08.040 night and got a few bites. I think you're both 0:12:08.080 --> 0:12:12.240 onto something. From experience, I can confirm it absolutely is 0:12:12.520 --> 0:12:15.360 the new dating app. Someone said, we need the MSN 0:12:15.440 --> 0:12:16.920 function where you can log in and log at a 0:12:16.960 --> 0:12:19.440 million times and hope you crush will see through me. 0:12:19.559 --> 0:12:20.320 Is my player? 0:12:21.760 --> 0:12:25.520 I choose you flex It filters out any possible platonic 0:12:25.600 --> 0:12:27.920 vibes and gets you what you want. Oh my god, 0:12:27.960 --> 0:12:31.760 did Froom's longest tune coffee DM slide happen from this? 0:12:32.400 --> 0:12:33.800 Do we get a half made on that? What happened 0:12:33.840 --> 0:12:34.040 with that? 0:12:34.120 --> 0:12:34.240 No? 0:12:34.320 --> 0:12:35.680 We haven't. I have to put the I have to 0:12:35.679 --> 0:12:37.360 put the video on Instagram, but I'm a bit scared 0:12:37.360 --> 0:12:40.360 to put it up because I'm worried. Like my feo 0:12:40.480 --> 0:12:42.800 is that when you get near it and then you 0:12:42.840 --> 0:12:45.040 start saying on Instagram, I'm getting near it, I'm getting 0:12:45.080 --> 0:12:47.240 near it, it drives up. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, So 0:12:47.280 --> 0:12:48.760 I think that's gonna have to be parked for a 0:12:48.800 --> 0:12:51.600 little while. Yeah, get the coins up in terms. 0:12:51.559 --> 0:12:53.480 Like we let people know we are getting near it, 0:12:53.480 --> 0:12:55.320 but the specifics of what we got near have to 0:12:55.360 --> 0:12:58.360 remain a mystery. Yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah okay cool. 0:12:58.720 --> 0:13:00.959 So and then we kept going people like Frims will win, 0:13:01.080 --> 0:13:04.160 Flex will win, La La la la, You're all wrong. Okay. 0:13:04.400 --> 0:13:06.640 This is my issue with doing studies. You don't get 0:13:06.679 --> 0:13:08.600 the results you want, you get the results you need. 0:13:08.679 --> 0:13:11.840 I can confirm what resulted on my end is a 0:13:11.880 --> 0:13:16.920 bunch of people, I'd say four people I often flirt with, 0:13:17.160 --> 0:13:23.000 like a flirt, a flirtation ship yep. Mostly platonic flirtation 0:13:23.160 --> 0:13:25.920 ships coming through wasting my time. I said, please, you're 0:13:25.960 --> 0:13:28.240 clogging up the space. You're clogging up the space. It 0:13:28.280 --> 0:13:31.880 was never gonna be you. So there was that I did, 0:13:32.080 --> 0:13:35.480 How do I phrase this? Make progress with my crush? 0:13:35.520 --> 0:13:36.960 We'll leave it at that, We'll leave it at that 0:13:37.080 --> 0:13:40.400 and yep, yep. But most of all, I'd say, from 0:13:40.480 --> 0:13:44.480 my perspective, it will not be then new Hinge because 0:13:45.080 --> 0:13:47.120 the only people you have access to in the notes 0:13:47.120 --> 0:13:49.760 app is people you follow and people who follow you, right, 0:13:49.840 --> 0:13:52.400 and so now you have to start following all of 0:13:52.400 --> 0:13:55.880 your prospects and they have to start following you. It's 0:13:56.120 --> 0:13:59.200 just it's too difficult, too many steps. You're better off 0:13:59.600 --> 0:14:02.160 just reacting to an Instagram story. 0:14:02.760 --> 0:14:05.640 True that this is the thing of why I wasn't 0:14:05.679 --> 0:14:09.160 so forward. Is that, as we always say, plausible deniability 0:14:09.200 --> 0:14:10.880 when it comes to dating. We want to say, oh, 0:14:10.880 --> 0:14:14.480 I was just joking, But it made me think about, 0:14:14.520 --> 0:14:16.000 oh my god, who are the people that I follow? 0:14:16.000 --> 0:14:18.520 Who are the people that follow me? There's form of flames, 0:14:18.760 --> 0:14:21.360 there's work contacts, there's people who are not quite down 0:14:21.360 --> 0:14:23.840 with the humor, and yet I'm coming in straight and 0:14:23.920 --> 0:14:25.880 I know because not that many people do know. It's 0:14:26.080 --> 0:14:28.120 I'd be hitting up the top regardless of how often 0:14:28.160 --> 0:14:30.680 we So it's giving you an early adopter. It's giving 0:14:30.720 --> 0:14:36.200 people another opportunity to unfollow. Oh no, why would you 0:14:36.240 --> 0:14:38.200 think that? Yeah, like old flames, I hard don't want 0:14:38.200 --> 0:14:38.520 to see this. 0:14:38.800 --> 0:14:41.200 No way, it's not even like that. What I will 0:14:41.280 --> 0:14:43.760 say is, I did wonder who thought we were being 0:14:43.760 --> 0:14:46.200 facetious and just taking the piss and who thought we 0:14:46.200 --> 0:14:46.640 were being free? 0:14:46.760 --> 0:14:48.200 They totally thought we were taking the piece after we 0:14:48.200 --> 0:14:50.320 did that video. Let's be honest, because no one wants 0:14:50.320 --> 0:14:54.920 to end up on the podcast, are you sure? Yeah? 0:14:54.960 --> 0:14:58.160 Who knows. All gonna say is we're getting near it, folks, 0:14:58.680 --> 0:15:01.000 and I suggest you also getting get near its summer 0:15:01.000 --> 0:15:02.040 spring experience. 0:15:02.400 --> 0:15:03.960 This is flex and froomes. 0:15:05.200 --> 0:15:08.880 I'm often googling stuff, but how do I explain this? 0:15:08.960 --> 0:15:11.360 Like the other day, I googled why does my mouth 0:15:11.440 --> 0:15:16.320 taste sour after chocolate chip biscuits? A lot doesn't come up, 0:15:16.680 --> 0:15:19.680 but that's odd to me. I also googled the other 0:15:19.760 --> 0:15:23.480 day why does my mouth taste sour after dinner rolls? 0:15:23.560 --> 0:15:25.400 You know those ones you get and you put them 0:15:25.400 --> 0:15:27.320 in the oven and then they're like, oh, it's the 0:15:27.360 --> 0:15:29.880 starch and the sodium and the bi carb and the 0:15:29.960 --> 0:15:32.480 yeast or whatever. I don't know, it's it's reacting with 0:15:32.520 --> 0:15:35.960 my inner mouth bacteria. But like you need the bacteria 0:15:35.960 --> 0:15:37.960 in your mouth to do the stuff, babes. I don't know, 0:15:38.360 --> 0:15:39.800 but I was at the airport the other day and 0:15:39.840 --> 0:15:42.240 I'm big on apple juice. IM beg on all juices actually, 0:15:42.440 --> 0:15:45.200 but usually apple juice is the dominant juice at airport, 0:15:45.240 --> 0:15:47.920 which I find odd because you think it be orange juice. 0:15:48.160 --> 0:15:49.800 But I think it's because you can tell when orange 0:15:49.840 --> 0:15:51.920 juice is off and you can't tell when apple juice 0:15:51.960 --> 0:15:53.120 is off, or can you? 0:15:53.240 --> 0:15:54.000 Because why did. 0:15:53.920 --> 0:15:58.560 I open this spring valley? One of those tops have 0:15:58.640 --> 0:16:01.040 a little suckle and then it comes washing over me 0:16:01.080 --> 0:16:03.320 like it does every time I'm at the airport. This 0:16:03.440 --> 0:16:07.560 apple juice tastes like onions, straight onions or better. 0:16:07.600 --> 0:16:08.120 Yeah, I don't know. 0:16:08.120 --> 0:16:10.520 If you have fond memories of being a child and 0:16:10.560 --> 0:16:13.240 having your parents cut up fruit for you on the 0:16:13.520 --> 0:16:16.640 cross contamination board that's been used to cut up veggies beforehand, 0:16:16.800 --> 0:16:18.600 and so you get the bit of apple that's been 0:16:18.680 --> 0:16:20.560 cut with the with the onion board and you get 0:16:20.560 --> 0:16:22.800 to be the onion residuse, right, you know what I'm 0:16:22.800 --> 0:16:24.400 talking about. Huh, you know what I'm talking about. It's 0:16:24.400 --> 0:16:26.760 exactly like that, except in liquid form. And so when 0:16:26.760 --> 0:16:29.640 I put it on the internet, people did say not many, 0:16:29.880 --> 0:16:31.480 but enough said oh my god, this happens to me 0:16:31.600 --> 0:16:33.640 too all the time. So it could be one of 0:16:33.680 --> 0:16:37.280 two things. Either my taste buds work perfectly and I'm 0:16:37.320 --> 0:16:41.280 really tasting what apples are at the core onion, or 0:16:42.200 --> 0:16:44.680 it is like a coriander DNA thing. 0:16:45.480 --> 0:16:47.680 Okay, we do nice in facts. Let's go through the facts. 0:16:47.760 --> 0:16:50.920 You are a reforming picky eater. I would say you're 0:16:50.920 --> 0:17:00.320 still probably eighty percent pickI eater, but coming out of it. Okay, dogs, however, 0:17:01.720 --> 0:17:06.040 I definitely say something in this thank you. But you 0:17:06.040 --> 0:17:07.760 can also get in your own head. It's like when 0:17:07.800 --> 0:17:10.240 you think you're sick and then suddenly you feel absolutely 0:17:10.240 --> 0:17:12.679 foully ill. So maybe you got a little tiny hint 0:17:12.720 --> 0:17:15.359 of it. Maybe you've just eaten like a hash brown 0:17:15.400 --> 0:17:16.919 that had a little bit too much salt on it. 0:17:17.240 --> 0:17:18.080 Is that what happened? 0:17:18.280 --> 0:17:19.760 Well, No, I did have a banana bread at the 0:17:19.800 --> 0:17:22.800 same time, still a fruit though, still a fruit one 0:17:22.800 --> 0:17:23.640 in exactly. 0:17:24.359 --> 0:17:26.560 There's really nothing worse than cracking a drink open and 0:17:26.600 --> 0:17:28.480 it tasting like balls when you know what it should 0:17:28.480 --> 0:17:29.360 taste like. Exactly. 0:17:29.440 --> 0:17:31.080 So if we know anyone, I don't know, if we 0:17:31.119 --> 0:17:34.159 need maybe like a food scientist that can tell us 0:17:34.160 --> 0:17:37.280 about the chemical compounds of certain things in the way 0:17:37.280 --> 0:17:39.760 they combined to make them taste different in my mouth. 0:17:40.040 --> 0:17:43.400 But I'm telling you, chocolate is savory number one. It's 0:17:43.440 --> 0:17:47.080 not a sweet and apple juice often tastes like onion. 0:17:47.720 --> 0:17:50.879 I think you've got a problem. I don't think it's me, 0:17:51.000 --> 0:17:53.840 But thank you so much for listening. I love chocolate. 0:17:54.200 --> 0:17:56.160 Actually brought some with me in my bag, just giving 0:17:56.200 --> 0:17:56.880 me a pep up. 0:17:56.960 --> 0:17:59.200 You're listening to Flex and Frooms. 0:17:59.600 --> 0:18:03.400 Okay, look Flex has just tagged me in a pick 0:18:03.520 --> 0:18:05.399 in a in a Instagram. 0:18:04.920 --> 0:18:07.600 Story one thing about me, and I will say it's 0:18:07.640 --> 0:18:10.840