WEBVTT - It's Time To Take Your Power Back - G's Hotline ☎️ 0:00:00.560 --> 0:00:03.640 I'd like to acknowledge the traditional owners on which this 0:00:03.720 --> 0:00:08.160 episode is being recorded, the combo marry people. We pay 0:00:08.320 --> 0:00:12.360 our respects to elders past, present and emerging, and extend 0:00:12.480 --> 0:00:16.520 that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples. 0:00:16.560 --> 0:00:24.279 Today I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson, and this is the 0:00:24.400 --> 0:00:31.960 Rise and Conquer Podcast. This is the podcast where we 0:00:32.040 --> 0:00:35.800 ch have mindset, self development and becoming your higher self 0:00:36.320 --> 0:00:39.000 mix soon with a lot of laughs, plus behind the 0:00:39.040 --> 0:00:42.280 scenes of my life running two businesses and being among 0:00:42.800 --> 0:00:45.440 Think of us as the perfect combo of brunch with 0:00:45.479 --> 0:00:49.040 your besties mixed with self development. No matter where you 0:00:49.080 --> 0:00:52.040 are in your journey, we're here to help you be curious, 0:00:52.280 --> 0:00:57.880 pull yourself out, and embrace radical self awareness. If you're 0:00:57.920 --> 0:01:00.280 ready to get into the driver's seat of your own 0:01:00.400 --> 0:01:02.680 life and stop letting life cast you by. 0:01:03.240 --> 0:01:04.399 Then you're in the right place. 0:01:09.959 --> 0:01:14.680 Hello everybody, and welcome back to the RNC potty, Happy Friday. 0:01:14.640 --> 0:01:21.000 And welcome back to the body. Can you tell it? 0:01:21.120 --> 0:01:25.840 Thursday afternoon, a Tia writes, being like a little script 0:01:25.880 --> 0:01:28.680 and then I just usually ran and go off, But 0:01:28.680 --> 0:01:30.200 then I like looked back and I was like. 0:01:30.200 --> 0:01:32.320 Oh yep, I was about to say the same bit. 0:01:32.800 --> 0:01:33.400 So that's great. 0:01:33.440 --> 0:01:37.440 Anyway, you can tell we're a bit delirious guys. Today 0:01:37.600 --> 0:01:41.160 we are answering a fun hotline question all to do 0:01:41.440 --> 0:01:46.000 with unrequited love and taking your power back. So if 0:01:46.000 --> 0:01:49.520 you're currently in a situationship or even a friendship and 0:01:49.640 --> 0:01:52.320 finding yourself putting more energy into that relationship than the 0:01:52.360 --> 0:01:55.920 other person, then you're going to love this episode. I'm 0:01:56.000 --> 0:01:59.520 not gonna lie. I went on a bit of a tangent. 0:01:59.600 --> 0:02:04.560 You could hell. I was like, you could tell there 0:02:04.640 --> 0:02:07.240 was like a topic on my brain and I wanted 0:02:07.240 --> 0:02:10.480 it to like fit into this episode. And then we 0:02:10.560 --> 0:02:13.920 listened to it back and I thought, does it relate? 0:02:17.040 --> 0:02:19.720 But I really tried. I really more just wanted to 0:02:19.760 --> 0:02:22.120 talk about personal power. We did bring it back at 0:02:22.160 --> 0:02:23.960 the end. Yeah, look, we bring it back at the end. 0:02:24.040 --> 0:02:27.320 So enjoy this fun episode. We really give you all 0:02:27.360 --> 0:02:29.679 the angles, which is what we do here at R 0:02:29.760 --> 0:02:32.560 and C. But before we get into it, a quick 0:02:32.720 --> 0:02:34.680 weekly update a tear. 0:02:35.400 --> 0:02:38.880 Well, we shot something really exciting last week that I 0:02:38.919 --> 0:02:40.200 can't say anything more about. 0:02:40.520 --> 0:02:41.840 On Friday, what did we shoot? 0:02:41.880 --> 0:02:51.320 Oh yes, I'll have to bleep that out but there 0:02:51.400 --> 0:02:53.440 is a sneak peek in our Facebook group, so if 0:02:53.480 --> 0:02:55.760 you want to go into the Facebook group, you'll get 0:02:55.760 --> 0:02:57.840 a sneak peek. So exciting. 0:02:57.919 --> 0:03:00.880 Yeah, how was your week, Georgie. I think you've done 0:03:00.880 --> 0:03:02.040 a lot of exciting shooting. 0:03:02.480 --> 0:03:07.400 Oh, she's trained, She's. 0:03:07.280 --> 0:03:11.399 Trained in the best way possible. So much exciting shit 0:03:11.520 --> 0:03:15.119 happened this week. So I went to Byron on Sunday 0:03:15.680 --> 0:03:18.720 with Tim and Ivy and Cooper and his family, and 0:03:18.720 --> 0:03:21.799 that was beautiful. We stayed at this We didn't stay 0:03:21.919 --> 0:03:24.040 so Tim and Ivy went home, but for the next 0:03:24.040 --> 0:03:26.840 two nights I stayed at this really beautiful retreat house 0:03:27.440 --> 0:03:31.600 because we then had an NH team day on Monday. 0:03:32.520 --> 0:03:33.640 Sorry went there tt. 0:03:33.760 --> 0:03:38.920 It's okay, I understand. 0:03:39.840 --> 0:03:43.280 And it was just incredible because it was a really 0:03:43.320 --> 0:03:47.440 pivotal moment for us as a team to all come together. 0:03:48.000 --> 0:03:52.360 We went through and really solidified our brand values and 0:03:52.400 --> 0:03:54.680 it was really cool because when we were brainstorming, everyone 0:03:54.760 --> 0:03:58.040 was so aligned and it was it's cool to see 0:03:58.160 --> 0:04:01.720 that what our mission is, what we want to embody 0:04:02.040 --> 0:04:04.480 and what we believe in is already what we do. 0:04:04.920 --> 0:04:05.800 If that makes sense. 0:04:05.840 --> 0:04:08.120 I love that and was that the first time you've 0:04:08.120 --> 0:04:09.160 done a team day like that. 0:04:10.000 --> 0:04:14.040 Yeah, Like we've done various team days randomly in the past, 0:04:14.120 --> 0:04:17.279 but like I guess, like a serious one like that 0:04:17.520 --> 0:04:21.039 for sure. So that was really cool. And then we 0:04:21.200 --> 0:04:25.880 did some personal goals, some goals within our roles, and then. 0:04:25.720 --> 0:04:26.960 We got onto this. 0:04:27.120 --> 0:04:30.240 We called it a dreaming session, and we got everyone 0:04:30.400 --> 0:04:35.240 to just do like their biggest, most creative goals and 0:04:35.320 --> 0:04:38.440 dreams for n Hah, Like nothing was out of the realm. 0:04:39.560 --> 0:04:43.520 Oh my god, it was crazy. It was kind of 0:04:43.520 --> 0:04:45.640 cool because I kind of started it and was just 0:04:45.680 --> 0:04:48.880 went really fucking big, really fast. But everyone was like, 0:04:49.120 --> 0:04:51.440 oh my god, I had like a similar idea or 0:04:51.839 --> 0:04:54.800 you know, we would then build on it, and oh 0:04:54.839 --> 0:04:58.000 my god. They were incredible, and it just got me 0:04:58.160 --> 0:05:01.839 so hyped for NH's future. And I guess just I 0:05:01.960 --> 0:05:05.600 felt really emotional thinking about how incredible our team is 0:05:06.240 --> 0:05:08.760 and how lucky I am to be like surrounded by 0:05:08.800 --> 0:05:13.280 such incredible people and to you know, have built alongside 0:05:13.279 --> 0:05:17.479 the team such he like such a company that is 0:05:17.520 --> 0:05:22.000 like it encompasses everything that it is, Like it's so 0:05:22.120 --> 0:05:26.240 transparent in like what it is. It's so embodied in 0:05:26.480 --> 0:05:32.479 being a community based you know company, and I don't know. 0:05:32.560 --> 0:05:35.279 I just I'm still like even processing it all. But 0:05:35.520 --> 0:05:37.920 it was incredible. So glad we did that. And then 0:05:37.960 --> 0:05:40.960 the next day we had the content team stay was 0:05:41.000 --> 0:05:43.760 like a fun little sleepover, felt like I was at camp. 0:05:45.240 --> 0:05:46.839 Me and the girls were like delirious by the end 0:05:46.880 --> 0:05:49.960 of We're just like giggling. And then we shot for 0:05:50.000 --> 0:05:52.960 a campaign the next day for and H. I was like, 0:05:53.000 --> 0:05:53.960 can't tell you, guys. 0:05:53.760 --> 0:05:56.960 Can you give us alasta? 0:05:57.080 --> 0:06:01.400 No? No, tried, guys, you guys, we'll find out soon's 0:06:01.480 --> 0:06:07.520 it's coming quite soon. It's just think it's for the community. Yeah, 0:06:07.560 --> 0:06:10.280 it's really fucking exciting. And yeah. Then I finally got 0:06:10.279 --> 0:06:12.640 to go home, so I be and Tim I miss 0:06:12.680 --> 0:06:16.120 them so much. And then I had my second live 0:06:16.240 --> 0:06:19.000 call for Rebirth this week A big week. 0:06:19.160 --> 0:06:20.880 Wow. Yeah, that was a. 0:06:20.800 --> 0:06:21.560 Lot of energy. 0:06:21.600 --> 0:06:22.440 That was a vibe. 0:06:22.480 --> 0:06:26.120 That was incredible. So guys, if you still want to 0:06:26.200 --> 0:06:29.159 join rebirth, you can join and get access to the 0:06:29.200 --> 0:06:32.440 first live calls and still join in on the last 0:06:32.480 --> 0:06:36.400 two and still join in in the Facebook group and 0:06:36.640 --> 0:06:40.760 our event. I'm not so just say too much mother 0:06:41.279 --> 0:06:44.360 and yeah, so big, big week. And then today's just 0:06:44.360 --> 0:06:46.200 been like an admin day. I'm like, I've got to 0:06:46.240 --> 0:06:48.960 get all my shit Doneah, i still got to do 0:06:49.000 --> 0:06:51.720 all the admin shit of running a business. So look, 0:06:51.800 --> 0:06:53.640 she's tired, but she's grateful. 0:06:53.880 --> 0:06:54.440 We love that. 0:06:54.760 --> 0:07:03.560 Yeah, well let's get into this episode. 0:07:04.520 --> 0:07:07.960 First hotline in a while, guys, give it to me. 0:07:08.320 --> 0:07:11.320 So our question, this one was actually pulled from our 0:07:11.440 --> 0:07:13.680 R and C community Facebook group. 0:07:13.840 --> 0:07:15.240 If you're not in there, hop in there. 0:07:16.200 --> 0:07:18.240 If you're not in there, what are you actually doing? Yes? 0:07:18.520 --> 0:07:19.720 Because what do you do on the weekend? 0:07:20.160 --> 0:07:22.080 Because we have so much fun in there, and that's 0:07:22.120 --> 0:07:24.520 where we get all our ideas for the podcast. 0:07:24.640 --> 0:07:29.000 Basically, it's amazing. It's the best community. 0:07:29.600 --> 0:07:33.040 So the question that was sent in is, Hi, rn 0:07:33.120 --> 0:07:36.440 C fam, I'm new to all things manifestation and wiru 0:07:36.560 --> 0:07:39.560 as G would say, and I'm absolutely loving it. I 0:07:39.640 --> 0:07:41.679 have a bit of a crush on a friend. He's 0:07:41.800 --> 0:07:45.840 absolutely not available but is super flirty. I feel like 0:07:45.920 --> 0:07:49.880 I give my power away so much by engaging with him. 0:07:50.000 --> 0:07:52.640 But he's a good friend too, so I don't want 0:07:52.640 --> 0:07:55.400 to lose the great connection we have. I would love 0:07:55.400 --> 0:07:58.920 your advice on getting over unrequited feelings. If there's a 0:07:58.960 --> 0:08:01.200 potty app on this please let me know this is 0:08:01.240 --> 0:08:05.000 the episode and taking my power back. I've been single 0:08:05.040 --> 0:08:07.760 for a while now and haven't met anyone I really 0:08:07.800 --> 0:08:10.840 connect with, so maybe I'm projecting so much too. 0:08:10.880 --> 0:08:14.000 I'm pakia so much. So let's just go in parts. 0:08:15.120 --> 0:08:18.120 Firstly, should we tell them why we're not using the 0:08:18.120 --> 0:08:22.640 word woo wu Yes, let's do it. So firstly, I 0:08:22.760 --> 0:08:26.960 want to announce to you guys, I say this, We 0:08:27.080 --> 0:08:30.000 have said this so much on the podcast, and it's 0:08:30.040 --> 0:08:32.720 wo woo. It's about when you're talking about anything spiritual 0:08:32.960 --> 0:08:38.199 or MANIFESTI and we actually will not be saying it 0:08:38.320 --> 0:08:41.480 any longer. And I also encourage you guys not to 0:08:41.559 --> 0:08:44.319 say it. And it has come from I saw these 0:08:44.320 --> 0:08:48.240 beautiful stories from Holly as a party and we've actually 0:08:48.240 --> 0:08:50.800 heard her on the podcast. That was such an amazing episode, 0:08:50.920 --> 0:08:53.120 wasn't it a tr It was beautiful. If you haven't 0:08:53.200 --> 0:08:54.680 listened to it, it's all about how to not be 0:08:54.720 --> 0:08:56.559 a people pleaser, go listen to it. A tea will 0:08:56.559 --> 0:09:01.160 link it and on her stories she said, I specifically like, 0:09:01.280 --> 0:09:07.360 don't use the words woo woo because that comes from 0:09:07.840 --> 0:09:13.880 I guess like language back in the day where it's 0:09:13.960 --> 0:09:19.920 like watering down the powerfulness of spirituality. Yeah, and manifesting. 0:09:20.160 --> 0:09:23.240 And it's a term I think she said, coined in 0:09:23.320 --> 0:09:27.800 the seventies or eighties that almost kind of to call 0:09:27.880 --> 0:09:28.920 women crazy. 0:09:29.640 --> 0:09:34.400 Yeah, it's like very it's a bit demeaning to spirituality, 0:09:34.480 --> 0:09:38.200 and it makes it seem like a joke. I'd say, yeah, 0:09:38.240 --> 0:09:43.080 and like less less then well like not legit? Yeah, 0:09:43.120 --> 0:09:43.680 what's that word? 0:09:43.880 --> 0:09:44.920 Not legitimate? 0:09:45.080 --> 0:09:50.719 Yeah? That this podcast is me just asking you if 0:09:50.720 --> 0:09:53.719 that word makes sense. So that's a quick ps. That's 0:09:53.760 --> 0:09:57.200 why we won't be using woo wu anymore, because this 0:09:57.320 --> 0:10:03.400 shit is legit. And thank you for Holly for pointing 0:10:03.440 --> 0:10:06.720 that out and educating us. Her stories are great. Okay, 0:10:06.840 --> 0:10:09.800 So I've got almost a two parter when you're saying 0:10:09.800 --> 0:10:12.280 this question a tea and because a tea reads this 0:10:12.400 --> 0:10:14.720 live to me, So I haven't had time to fully 0:10:14.760 --> 0:10:17.360 digest this. But first of all, I was thinking two parts. 0:10:17.360 --> 0:10:19.960 So first of all, I want to talk about personal 0:10:20.040 --> 0:10:22.960 power in general, and then let's go into this very 0:10:23.000 --> 0:10:27.520 specific scenario. Yeah, I have actually thinking. I've been thinking 0:10:27.559 --> 0:10:32.600 a lot about personal power, and the definition for me 0:10:33.600 --> 0:10:44.200 of personal power is harnessing, trusting, and acting on your 0:10:44.360 --> 0:10:50.040 power when it is not swayed or influenced by someone else. 0:10:51.120 --> 0:10:53.840 That's what I would say personal power is. For me, 0:10:54.880 --> 0:10:57.079 let me give you a scenario, and this is great, 0:10:57.120 --> 0:11:00.679 because not great, but I feel like would be able 0:11:00.679 --> 0:11:04.840 to resonate with this. It's like, actually, not everyone, but 0:11:04.920 --> 0:11:07.160 if you have a small business, if you have anything 0:11:07.320 --> 0:11:10.680 on social media, Yeah, when you upload a post to 0:11:10.760 --> 0:11:15.400 social media and you get good feedback, you get likes, comments, shares, 0:11:15.559 --> 0:11:18.679 I don't know, it goes viral on TikTok. You get 0:11:18.800 --> 0:11:23.520 this outside feedback that that was good, that you should 0:11:23.559 --> 0:11:26.000 do more, and you start to get power from that. 0:11:26.520 --> 0:11:30.199 And I would call that leveraging power. You're like cool 0:11:30.280 --> 0:11:33.760 people like when I talk about this, it's really exciting. 0:11:34.120 --> 0:11:37.920 It's validation, I guess. So you continue to create content 0:11:38.160 --> 0:11:42.280 like that or whatever. Yeah, So what I would say 0:11:42.360 --> 0:11:47.040 personal power is, for instance, me having this really amazing 0:11:47.080 --> 0:11:51.200 message to share on social media. Me sharing on social media, 0:11:51.760 --> 0:11:55.920 it not maybe getting as many views, likes, shares, or whatever. 0:11:56.840 --> 0:12:01.480 That not meaning anything to me. So me continuing to 0:12:01.600 --> 0:12:06.000 put out content like that or to believe into my message, Yeah, 0:12:06.080 --> 0:12:09.079 just because I'm not getting the whatever feedback I thought 0:12:09.120 --> 0:12:13.400 I might get so like personal power, That's what I 0:12:13.480 --> 0:12:18.479 really see, is like when you're locking into something continuously 0:12:19.200 --> 0:12:22.280 no matter how other people are acting or how other 0:12:22.320 --> 0:12:27.199 people are doing, and it's from this complete place of like, yeah, 0:12:27.320 --> 0:12:29.440 I know myself, I know what I want, I know 0:12:29.520 --> 0:12:31.960 what I believe in, and I get to just keep 0:12:32.040 --> 0:12:35.040 doing me and acting as me, even if it's like 0:12:35.480 --> 0:12:39.520 I'm not getting like the certain feedback. Yes, would you 0:12:39.520 --> 0:12:41.360 say that's what personal power is? Yes? 0:12:41.520 --> 0:12:42.000 I love it. 0:12:42.080 --> 0:12:45.360 I think in like a sense of maybe I don't 0:12:45.360 --> 0:12:47.360 put as much on social media. Yeah I do in 0:12:47.400 --> 0:12:50.040 a work sense, but not so much personally. 0:12:50.440 --> 0:12:50.640 Is that? 0:12:52.240 --> 0:12:54.720 An example that comes to mind for me is like 0:12:55.280 --> 0:12:58.600 if you're having a conversation with a close friend and 0:12:58.720 --> 0:13:03.040 maybe they are a bit dismissive of something new you're trying. 0:13:03.040 --> 0:13:04.080 If you're trying a new. 0:13:03.960 --> 0:13:07.200 Hobby or activity, or you're getting really passionate about a 0:13:07.200 --> 0:13:11.120 specific topic and that's not really resonating with your family 0:13:11.280 --> 0:13:14.920 or your friends, and you're not getting that like excitement 0:13:15.000 --> 0:13:18.280 you might normally get from them, but not letting that 0:13:18.440 --> 0:13:22.280 sway you or affect your level of excitement or passion 0:13:22.360 --> 0:13:24.080 about that thing hugely. 0:13:24.280 --> 0:13:27.880 Yes, I love that, and it honestly reminds me. You know, 0:13:28.480 --> 0:13:31.680 five years ago when I got into manifesting, when no 0:13:31.720 --> 0:13:34.160 one even knew what it was, Yeah, and I would 0:13:34.200 --> 0:13:36.520 talk about it, and I even remember being like so 0:13:36.679 --> 0:13:39.520 conscious that so many people didn't even know what it was. 0:13:40.160 --> 0:13:43.600 And so what I loved about that moment and that 0:13:43.720 --> 0:13:46.200 version of myself is like I kept talking about it, 0:13:46.360 --> 0:13:49.400 I kept believing in it, and it's like now manifesting 0:13:49.440 --> 0:13:53.040 is like trending. Yeah, so everywhere, It's literally everywhere. So 0:13:53.080 --> 0:13:58.079 that's even like moments like that of even questioning and 0:13:58.360 --> 0:14:01.800 like asking yourself and I know this is going really wide, 0:14:01.880 --> 0:14:06.560 but where do you give your personal power away from 0:14:06.640 --> 0:14:10.560 outside influences? Do you wear something and if you don't 0:14:10.559 --> 0:14:16.160 get feedback, do you change your style? So true or 0:14:16.240 --> 0:14:18.840 like anything like in regards to what you post on 0:14:18.880 --> 0:14:23.040 social media, anythink of how you be, what you believe in, 0:14:23.200 --> 0:14:26.640 what you read, what you consume. Is it from a 0:14:26.760 --> 0:14:32.400 place of you needing an influenced influence of validation from 0:14:32.520 --> 0:14:36.240 others or is it from this like deep knowing and trusting. 0:14:36.600 --> 0:14:39.640 It's like very surface level example. What what just came 0:14:39.680 --> 0:14:41.560 to mind is like you try a cute dress on 0:14:41.600 --> 0:14:43.320 at the shops and you want to buy it, and 0:14:43.360 --> 0:14:45.160 you send a picture to your friend and then they're 0:14:45.280 --> 0:14:47.280 not feeling it, and then you don't buy it. You're 0:14:47.320 --> 0:14:49.120 just given your power away hugely. 0:14:51.000 --> 0:14:54.320 So anyway, it's so interesting that this question came up 0:14:54.360 --> 0:14:58.760 because I've been really thinking about my personal power and 0:14:58.800 --> 0:15:01.360 when I do give it a way and how I 0:15:01.400 --> 0:15:06.000 can harness it more because I truly believe harnessing, and 0:15:06.120 --> 0:15:09.720 because it's also like I truly believe that's not something 0:15:09.800 --> 0:15:13.040 you're born with. No, well, actually you probably are born 0:15:13.080 --> 0:15:16.760 with it, but after conditioning, you're very much taught not 0:15:16.840 --> 0:15:19.960 to believe in your personal power. So it's something like 0:15:20.080 --> 0:15:22.640 literally just in my spare time I've been thinking about 0:15:23.120 --> 0:15:26.520 or my spare time, in. 0:15:26.400 --> 0:15:30.080 All my spare time that five minutes a day. 0:15:29.960 --> 0:15:39.400 Yeah, such money of like where do you in a 0:15:39.840 --> 0:15:42.720 range sense, like where are you sitting with your personal power? 0:15:42.720 --> 0:15:45.560 And how quick are you to give it away? Or 0:15:46.120 --> 0:15:48.920 are you currently Because I'm on a journey of strengthening 0:15:48.960 --> 0:15:53.840 my personal power and I even like me who, I 0:15:53.840 --> 0:15:55.840 feel like I've done so much work on personal power 0:15:56.200 --> 0:15:58.920 and like, oh, there's certain avenues where I could really 0:15:58.920 --> 0:16:01.360 strengthen it. And that's what I've been thinking about lately. 0:16:01.480 --> 0:16:04.640 So anyway, that was a bit rogue, But we love 0:16:04.640 --> 0:16:07.160 a roget we love a roguep But getting back to 0:16:07.160 --> 0:16:11.440 the question, yes, so like I would be interested to 0:16:11.640 --> 0:16:14.600 know because she is talking about taking her power back. 0:16:15.600 --> 0:16:19.480 Is it a sense of he gives you attention and 0:16:19.520 --> 0:16:22.280 then your whole day gets better? Like is that where 0:16:22.280 --> 0:16:25.800 the personal power is lacking? Or what do you kind of. 0:16:27.520 --> 0:16:31.200 Get from what she's saying. Is when she says, I 0:16:31.240 --> 0:16:34.280 feel like I give my power away by engaging with him, 0:16:34.520 --> 0:16:37.960 is almost she's investing her energy and time and she 0:16:38.080 --> 0:16:40.960 knows it's not going anywhere because she said he's absolutely 0:16:41.040 --> 0:16:44.760 not available. So it's like she likes him, she has 0:16:44.800 --> 0:16:48.200 a crush on him. He's flirty, so she's flirting back, 0:16:48.280 --> 0:16:51.760 but it's not going anywhere. So you're kind of like 0:16:52.080 --> 0:16:54.840 you are giving your power away because he's sort of 0:16:54.880 --> 0:16:59.320 getting the benefits of like relationship conversation without any of 0:16:59.360 --> 0:16:59.920 the commitment. 0:17:01.760 --> 0:17:05.080 M you know what I mean. Yeah, he's not earned 0:17:05.119 --> 0:17:09.240 her attention. He hasn't earned it. He hasn't earned it. 0:17:09.880 --> 0:17:10.639 Very interesting. 0:17:10.800 --> 0:17:13.000 That's sort of where my mind goes because. 0:17:12.720 --> 0:17:15.399 It is interesting because she also says like he is 0:17:15.440 --> 0:17:16.280 a pretty good friend. 0:17:16.720 --> 0:17:19.920 Yes, I don't know if I'm Vie. 0:17:23.119 --> 0:17:25.000 Let's actually talk about the flirting part. 0:17:25.200 --> 0:17:26.359 Yeah, because it's funny. 0:17:26.440 --> 0:17:28.840 Me and Jamie I have spoken about this, and I 0:17:28.880 --> 0:17:33.800 have joked that me and Jamie are like labradors and 0:17:33.840 --> 0:17:38.560 we're just like really really just like really nice humans. Yeah, 0:17:39.560 --> 0:17:41.320 and sometimes. 0:17:40.720 --> 0:17:43.520 People think you're flirting. Yes, sometimes people. 0:17:43.280 --> 0:17:47.760 Can perceive me as flirty, but I'm like, I'm just like, 0:17:48.240 --> 0:17:51.080 for example, if you got into a conversation with me 0:17:51.119 --> 0:17:53.720 a tear, I'm going to give you my time and energy. 0:17:53.760 --> 0:17:57.640 And also because I'm such a great conversationist. 0:17:59.119 --> 0:18:00.760 It's like I'm not flow with you. 0:18:00.800 --> 0:18:04.719 No, Like I just don't ever feel like I'm flirting 0:18:04.720 --> 0:18:09.840 with you. All right, great, No, It's just it's funny 0:18:09.840 --> 0:18:11.880 because me and Jamie have talked about it because she goes, Yeah, 0:18:11.920 --> 0:18:14.160 people say I'm flirty too, but I'm just really nice. 0:18:14.240 --> 0:18:15.800 People used to tell me I was flirty. 0:18:15.960 --> 0:18:18.920 Really, my god, it's just like a common theme. I think, Yeah, 0:18:19.000 --> 0:18:21.760 I did a conversation thing. I love. 0:18:21.920 --> 0:18:22.760 I love conversations. 0:18:22.880 --> 0:18:25.600 Yeah. Like, but when you're like having a conversation with someone, 0:18:25.680 --> 0:18:28.280 you're giving them your attention, You're smiling. You're happy you 0:18:28.320 --> 0:18:31.040 made them laugh. We're all pretty funny, Like it's the 0:18:31.160 --> 0:18:31.760 funny thing. 0:18:31.840 --> 0:18:35.440 Yeah, because I'm a fucking joke stuff Like I'm hilarious 0:18:37.880 --> 0:18:40.560 and we all think we're funny. My god, this is 0:18:40.600 --> 0:18:41.080 such a thing. 0:18:41.119 --> 0:18:43.880 So it's like banter, and then people will just get 0:18:44.680 --> 0:18:48.080 I think because people aren't used to having deep conversations 0:18:48.240 --> 0:18:52.600 or being so comfortable with people. They're not avidly trying 0:18:52.640 --> 0:18:53.320 to impress. 0:18:53.720 --> 0:18:54.800 They think you're flirting. 0:18:55.680 --> 0:18:57.320 See that is the thing with me, is like I 0:18:57.320 --> 0:19:00.840 can go zero to one hundred deep level straight away. Yeah, 0:19:00.840 --> 0:19:03.080 because that's just what I'm interested in. Yeah, service of 0:19:03.080 --> 0:19:06.080 a questions here, Yeah, because it's like, is he just 0:19:06.119 --> 0:19:06.560 like us? 0:19:08.400 --> 0:19:09.600 Is he maybe not flirting? 0:19:10.080 --> 0:19:12.480 Yeah, there's so many things to this. 0:19:12.680 --> 0:19:13.840 There's so many layers. 0:19:13.960 --> 0:19:16.960 I don't know. I think, if you know this is 0:19:17.000 --> 0:19:19.520 not going anywhere, this is me being straight right now. 0:19:20.280 --> 0:19:24.359 If you know this is not going anywhere, but you know, 0:19:24.880 --> 0:19:28.440 you're almost like it's almost like giving me the vibes 0:19:28.480 --> 0:19:31.720 of you're almost tricking yourself, like it could because you're 0:19:31.720 --> 0:19:34.239 engaging and you feel good. You're getting a dopamine here. 0:19:34.359 --> 0:19:36.119 You're like, oh, this makes me feel good. But then 0:19:36.160 --> 0:19:38.479 you hate yourself at the same time because you're like, yeah, 0:19:38.680 --> 0:19:41.280 I'm just really getting in a trap here. I think 0:19:41.359 --> 0:19:44.320 you need to put down a boundary, absolutely, And I 0:19:44.359 --> 0:19:47.200 think you need to limit the time or just ease 0:19:47.320 --> 0:19:51.600 off and see how it works out. Because it also 0:19:51.720 --> 0:19:54.639 like he could just be a really great friend, and 0:19:54.680 --> 0:19:59.080 I think let's normalize females and males having deep relationships 0:19:59.119 --> 0:19:59.920 that aren't sexual. 0:20:00.200 --> 0:20:01.359 Oh absolutely, yeah. 0:20:01.400 --> 0:20:04.440 So I also like think it's really important to plan 0:20:04.520 --> 0:20:08.600 to that. But also, if you know you're kind of fooling, 0:20:09.320 --> 0:20:13.159 then that's your responsibility, it's not his responsibility. I agree, 0:20:13.200 --> 0:20:16.520 don't you think taking I think taking responsibility here and be. 0:20:16.520 --> 0:20:18.400 Like, oh, he's. 0:20:18.160 --> 0:20:20.960 Flirting, I'm fooling. This is not a good scenario because 0:20:21.000 --> 0:20:23.960 he's off the market. I'm wasting my time, and I 0:20:24.040 --> 0:20:27.440 need to put this boundary in for my like myself. 0:20:27.640 --> 0:20:29.440 Yeah, I agree. 0:20:29.960 --> 0:20:33.720 I think when it comes to unrequitted feelings, if no 0:20:33.760 --> 0:20:36.840 matter how good a friend he is, if you're starting 0:20:36.840 --> 0:20:39.120 to have a crush on him, you need to pull 0:20:39.240 --> 0:20:42.280 right back because he's obviously in a relationship. Otherwise I 0:20:42.320 --> 0:20:45.280 don't think she'd be saying he's absolutely not available. So 0:20:45.840 --> 0:20:48.800 that's not fair to him if you're if he's in 0:20:48.840 --> 0:20:51.760 the impression we're assuming the best of him right now, Yeah, 0:20:51.800 --> 0:20:54.320 if we're being really nice, and. 0:20:54.240 --> 0:20:55.800 I think but I think that's warranted. 0:20:55.840 --> 0:20:58.359 I think he should if he just thinks he's got 0:20:58.400 --> 0:21:01.679 a great female friend and and all of a sudden, 0:21:02.480 --> 0:21:06.040 you're like falling for him, you like him. He has 0:21:06.080 --> 0:21:09.399 no idea, he's just continuing to have his best galfriend. 0:21:09.440 --> 0:21:09.920 That's you. 0:21:10.400 --> 0:21:14.520 It's kind of really deceiving him. It's not fair to 0:21:14.560 --> 0:21:17.320 the girlfriend as well that he has. 0:21:17.520 --> 0:21:19.200 Or even if he has a partner, or he could 0:21:19.280 --> 0:21:20.760 just like literally have said to her, I'm. 0:21:20.600 --> 0:21:23.560 Not not available. Whatever the situation is. It's not fair 0:21:23.560 --> 0:21:26.199 to him and his potential partner. It's not fair to 0:21:26.240 --> 0:21:30.080 you either, because you're just being a bit in your 0:21:30.160 --> 0:21:34.000 head and creating things that aren't there, and you're just 0:21:34.080 --> 0:21:35.240 going to get hurt. 0:21:37.359 --> 0:21:40.720 You're just getting he's a passionate about I Am. 0:21:41.200 --> 0:21:43.960 He's like, don't do it, do it, don't do it 0:21:44.000 --> 0:21:46.960 to yourself. Well, yeah, I think it's it's boundaries here 0:21:47.040 --> 0:21:50.960 and also catching yourself before there's and being on messiness. Yeah, 0:21:51.000 --> 0:21:53.960 and there's that responsibility and this is a great way 0:21:54.000 --> 0:21:56.800 to end the episode. A tr of I really want 0:21:56.840 --> 0:21:59.800 you guys to think about is like, where are you 0:22:00.040 --> 0:22:04.560 giving your personal powaway? Where are you getting swayed? Where 0:22:04.640 --> 0:22:10.080 you're getting like lead and really really embodying of if 0:22:10.119 --> 0:22:12.920 you do want to be someone who has a lot 0:22:12.920 --> 0:22:16.840 of personal power, of like what that could actually look 0:22:16.960 --> 0:22:19.239 like for you, and even to the thing of like, 0:22:19.320 --> 0:22:22.320 for example, are you someone that if it's raining, you're 0:22:22.359 --> 0:22:22.960 fucking sad? 0:22:23.359 --> 0:22:29.680 Yeah, that's every time you're giving. 0:22:29.400 --> 0:22:34.240