Speaker 1: I'd like to acknowledge the traditional owners on which this
Speaker 1: episode is being recorded, the combo marry people. We pay
Speaker 1: our respects to elders past, present and emerging, and extend
Speaker 1: that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples.
Speaker 1: Today I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson, and this is the
Speaker 1: Rise and Conquer Podcast. This is the podcast where we
Speaker 1: ch have mindset, self development and becoming your higher self
Speaker 1: mix soon with a lot of laughs, plus behind the
Speaker 1: scenes of my life running two businesses and being among
Speaker 1: Think of us as the perfect combo of brunch with
Speaker 1: your besties mixed with self development. No matter where you
Speaker 1: are in your journey, we're here to help you be curious,
Speaker 1: pull yourself out, and embrace radical self awareness. If you're
Speaker 1: ready to get into the driver's seat of your own
Speaker 1: life and stop letting life cast you by.
Speaker 2: Then you're in the right place.
Speaker 1: Hello everybody, and welcome back to the RNC potty, Happy Friday.
Speaker 2: And welcome back to the body. Can you tell it?
Speaker 1: Thursday afternoon, a Tia writes, being like a little script
Speaker 1: and then I just usually ran and go off, But
Speaker 1: then I like looked back and I was like.
Speaker 2: Oh yep, I was about to say the same bit.
Speaker 2: So that's great.
Speaker 1: Anyway, you can tell we're a bit delirious guys. Today
Speaker 1: we are answering a fun hotline question all to do
Speaker 1: with unrequited love and taking your power back. So if
Speaker 1: you're currently in a situationship or even a friendship and
Speaker 1: finding yourself putting more energy into that relationship than the
Speaker 1: other person, then you're going to love this episode. I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna lie. I went on a bit of a tangent.
Speaker 1: You could hell. I was like, you could tell there
Speaker 1: was like a topic on my brain and I wanted
Speaker 1: it to like fit into this episode. And then we
Speaker 1: listened to it back and I thought, does it relate?
Speaker 1: But I really tried. I really more just wanted to
Speaker 1: talk about personal power. We did bring it back at
Speaker 1: the end. Yeah, look, we bring it back at the end.
Speaker 1: So enjoy this fun episode. We really give you all
Speaker 1: the angles, which is what we do here at R
Speaker 1: and C. But before we get into it, a quick
Speaker 1: weekly update a tear.
Speaker 3: Well, we shot something really exciting last week that I
Speaker 3: can't say anything more about.
Speaker 2: On Friday, what did we shoot?
Speaker 1: Oh yes, I'll have to bleep that out but there
Speaker 1: is a sneak peek in our Facebook group, so if
Speaker 1: you want to go into the Facebook group, you'll get
Speaker 1: a sneak peek. So exciting.
Speaker 3: Yeah, how was your week, Georgie. I think you've done
Speaker 3: a lot of exciting shooting.
Speaker 2: Oh, she's trained, She's.
Speaker 1: Trained in the best way possible. So much exciting shit
Speaker 1: happened this week. So I went to Byron on Sunday
Speaker 1: with Tim and Ivy and Cooper and his family, and
Speaker 1: that was beautiful. We stayed at this We didn't stay
Speaker 1: so Tim and Ivy went home, but for the next
Speaker 1: two nights I stayed at this really beautiful retreat house
Speaker 1: because we then had an NH team day on Monday.
Speaker 1: Sorry went there tt.
Speaker 2: It's okay, I understand.
Speaker 1: And it was just incredible because it was a really
Speaker 1: pivotal moment for us as a team to all come together.
Speaker 1: We went through and really solidified our brand values and
Speaker 1: it was really cool because when we were brainstorming, everyone
Speaker 1: was so aligned and it was it's cool to see
Speaker 1: that what our mission is, what we want to embody
Speaker 1: and what we believe in is already what we do.
Speaker 2: If that makes sense.
Speaker 3: I love that and was that the first time you've
Speaker 3: done a team day like that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like we've done various team days randomly in the past,
Speaker 1: but like I guess, like a serious one like that
Speaker 1: for sure. So that was really cool. And then we
Speaker 1: did some personal goals, some goals within our roles, and then.
Speaker 2: We got onto this.
Speaker 1: We called it a dreaming session, and we got everyone
Speaker 1: to just do like their biggest, most creative goals and
Speaker 1: dreams for n Hah, Like nothing was out of the realm.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, it was crazy. It was kind of
Speaker 1: cool because I kind of started it and was just
Speaker 1: went really fucking big, really fast. But everyone was like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, I had like a similar idea or
Speaker 1: you know, we would then build on it, and oh
Speaker 1: my god. They were incredible, and it just got me
Speaker 1: so hyped for NH's future. And I guess just I
Speaker 1: felt really emotional thinking about how incredible our team is
Speaker 1: and how lucky I am to be like surrounded by
Speaker 1: such incredible people and to you know, have built alongside
Speaker 1: the team such he like such a company that is
Speaker 1: like it encompasses everything that it is, Like it's so
Speaker 1: transparent in like what it is. It's so embodied in
Speaker 1: being a community based you know company, and I don't know.
Speaker 1: I just I'm still like even processing it all. But
Speaker 1: it was incredible. So glad we did that. And then
Speaker 1: the next day we had the content team stay was
Speaker 1: like a fun little sleepover, felt like I was at camp.
Speaker 1: Me and the girls were like delirious by the end
Speaker 1: of We're just like giggling. And then we shot for
Speaker 1: a campaign the next day for and H. I was like,
Speaker 1: can't tell you, guys.
Speaker 3: Can you give us alasta?
Speaker 1: No? No, tried, guys, you guys, we'll find out soon's
Speaker 1: it's coming quite soon. It's just think it's for the community. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's really fucking exciting. And yeah. Then I finally got
Speaker 1: to go home, so I be and Tim I miss
Speaker 1: them so much. And then I had my second live
Speaker 1: call for Rebirth this week A big week.
Speaker 2: Wow. Yeah, that was a.
Speaker 1: Lot of energy.
Speaker 2: That was a vibe.
Speaker 1: That was incredible. So guys, if you still want to
Speaker 1: join rebirth, you can join and get access to the
Speaker 1: first live calls and still join in on the last
Speaker 1: two and still join in in the Facebook group and
Speaker 1: our event. I'm not so just say too much mother
Speaker 1: and yeah, so big, big week. And then today's just
Speaker 1: been like an admin day. I'm like, I've got to
Speaker 1: get all my shit Doneah, i still got to do
Speaker 1: all the admin shit of running a business. So look,
Speaker 1: she's tired, but she's grateful.
Speaker 2: We love that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well let's get into this episode.
Speaker 2: First hotline in a while, guys, give it to me.
Speaker 3: So our question, this one was actually pulled from our
Speaker 3: R and C community Facebook group.
Speaker 2: If you're not in there, hop in there.
Speaker 1: If you're not in there, what are you actually doing? Yes?
Speaker 2: Because what do you do on the weekend?
Speaker 1: Because we have so much fun in there, and that's
Speaker 1: where we get all our ideas for the podcast.
Speaker 2: Basically, it's amazing. It's the best community.
Speaker 3: So the question that was sent in is, Hi, rn
Speaker 3: C fam, I'm new to all things manifestation and wiru
Speaker 3: as G would say, and I'm absolutely loving it. I
Speaker 3: have a bit of a crush on a friend. He's
Speaker 3: absolutely not available but is super flirty. I feel like
Speaker 3: I give my power away so much by engaging with him.
Speaker 3: But he's a good friend too, so I don't want
Speaker 3: to lose the great connection we have. I would love
Speaker 3: your advice on getting over unrequited feelings. If there's a
Speaker 3: potty app on this please let me know this is
Speaker 3: the episode and taking my power back. I've been single
Speaker 3: for a while now and haven't met anyone I really
Speaker 3: connect with, so maybe I'm projecting so much too.
Speaker 2: I'm pakia so much. So let's just go in parts.
Speaker 1: Firstly, should we tell them why we're not using the
Speaker 1: word woo wu Yes, let's do it. So firstly, I
Speaker 1: want to announce to you guys, I say this, We
Speaker 1: have said this so much on the podcast, and it's
Speaker 1: wo woo. It's about when you're talking about anything spiritual
Speaker 1: or MANIFESTI and we actually will not be saying it
Speaker 1: any longer. And I also encourage you guys not to
Speaker 1: say it. And it has come from I saw these
Speaker 1: beautiful stories from Holly as a party and we've actually
Speaker 1: heard her on the podcast. That was such an amazing episode,
Speaker 1: wasn't it a tr It was beautiful. If you haven't
Speaker 1: listened to it, it's all about how to not be
Speaker 1: a people pleaser, go listen to it. A tea will
Speaker 1: link it and on her stories she said, I specifically like,
Speaker 1: don't use the words woo woo because that comes from
Speaker 1: I guess like language back in the day where it's
Speaker 1: like watering down the powerfulness of spirituality. Yeah, and manifesting.
Speaker 1: And it's a term I think she said, coined in
Speaker 1: the seventies or eighties that almost kind of to call
Speaker 1: women crazy.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like very it's a bit demeaning to spirituality,
Speaker 3: and it makes it seem like a joke. I'd say, yeah,
Speaker 3: and like less less then well like not legit? Yeah,
Speaker 3: what's that word?
Speaker 2: Not legitimate?
Speaker 1: Yeah? That this podcast is me just asking you if
Speaker 1: that word makes sense. So that's a quick ps. That's
Speaker 1: why we won't be using woo wu anymore, because this
Speaker 1: shit is legit. And thank you for Holly for pointing
Speaker 1: that out and educating us. Her stories are great. Okay,
Speaker 1: So I've got almost a two parter when you're saying
Speaker 1: this question a tea and because a tea reads this
Speaker 1: live to me, So I haven't had time to fully
Speaker 1: digest this. But first of all, I was thinking two parts.
Speaker 1: So first of all, I want to talk about personal
Speaker 1: power in general, and then let's go into this very
Speaker 1: specific scenario. Yeah, I have actually thinking. I've been thinking
Speaker 1: a lot about personal power, and the definition for me
Speaker 1: of personal power is harnessing, trusting, and acting on your
Speaker 1: power when it is not swayed or influenced by someone else.
Speaker 1: That's what I would say personal power is. For me,
Speaker 1: let me give you a scenario, and this is great,
Speaker 1: because not great, but I feel like would be able
Speaker 1: to resonate with this. It's like, actually, not everyone, but
Speaker 1: if you have a small business, if you have anything
Speaker 1: on social media, Yeah, when you upload a post to
Speaker 1: social media and you get good feedback, you get likes, comments, shares,
Speaker 1: I don't know, it goes viral on TikTok. You get
Speaker 1: this outside feedback that that was good, that you should
Speaker 1: do more, and you start to get power from that.
Speaker 1: And I would call that leveraging power. You're like cool
Speaker 1: people like when I talk about this, it's really exciting.
Speaker 1: It's validation, I guess. So you continue to create content
Speaker 1: like that or whatever. Yeah, So what I would say
Speaker 1: personal power is, for instance, me having this really amazing
Speaker 1: message to share on social media. Me sharing on social media,
Speaker 1: it not maybe getting as many views, likes, shares, or whatever.
Speaker 1: That not meaning anything to me. So me continuing to
Speaker 1: put out content like that or to believe into my message, Yeah,
Speaker 1: just because I'm not getting the whatever feedback I thought
Speaker 1: I might get so like personal power, That's what I
Speaker 1: really see, is like when you're locking into something continuously
Speaker 1: no matter how other people are acting or how other
Speaker 1: people are doing, and it's from this complete place of like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I know myself, I know what I want, I know
Speaker 1: what I believe in, and I get to just keep
Speaker 1: doing me and acting as me, even if it's like
Speaker 1: I'm not getting like the certain feedback. Yes, would you
Speaker 1: say that's what personal power is? Yes?
Speaker 2: I love it.
Speaker 3: I think in like a sense of maybe I don't
Speaker 3: put as much on social media. Yeah I do in
Speaker 3: a work sense, but not so much personally.
Speaker 1: Is that?
Speaker 3: An example that comes to mind for me is like
Speaker 3: if you're having a conversation with a close friend and
Speaker 3: maybe they are a bit dismissive of something new you're trying.
Speaker 2: If you're trying a new.
Speaker 3: Hobby or activity, or you're getting really passionate about a
Speaker 3: specific topic and that's not really resonating with your family
Speaker 3: or your friends, and you're not getting that like excitement
Speaker 3: you might normally get from them, but not letting that
Speaker 3: sway you or affect your level of excitement or passion
Speaker 3: about that thing hugely.
Speaker 1: Yes, I love that, and it honestly reminds me. You know,
Speaker 1: five years ago when I got into manifesting, when no
Speaker 1: one even knew what it was, Yeah, and I would
Speaker 1: talk about it, and I even remember being like so
Speaker 1: conscious that so many people didn't even know what it was.
Speaker 1: And so what I loved about that moment and that
Speaker 1: version of myself is like I kept talking about it,
Speaker 1: I kept believing in it, and it's like now manifesting
Speaker 1: is like trending. Yeah, so everywhere, It's literally everywhere. So
Speaker 1: that's even like moments like that of even questioning and
Speaker 1: like asking yourself and I know this is going really wide,
Speaker 1: but where do you give your personal power away from
Speaker 1: outside influences? Do you wear something and if you don't
Speaker 1: get feedback, do you change your style? So true or
Speaker 1: like anything like in regards to what you post on
Speaker 1: social media, anythink of how you be, what you believe in,
Speaker 1: what you read, what you consume. Is it from a
Speaker 1: place of you needing an influenced influence of validation from
Speaker 1: others or is it from this like deep knowing and trusting.
Speaker 3: It's like very surface level example. What what just came
Speaker 3: to mind is like you try a cute dress on
Speaker 3: at the shops and you want to buy it, and
Speaker 3: you send a picture to your friend and then they're
Speaker 3: not feeling it, and then you don't buy it. You're
Speaker 3: just given your power away hugely.
Speaker 1: So anyway, it's so interesting that this question came up
Speaker 1: because I've been really thinking about my personal power and
Speaker 1: when I do give it a way and how I
Speaker 1: can harness it more because I truly believe harnessing, and
Speaker 1: because it's also like I truly believe that's not something
Speaker 1: you're born with. No, well, actually you probably are born
Speaker 1: with it, but after conditioning, you're very much taught not
Speaker 1: to believe in your personal power. So it's something like
Speaker 1: literally just in my spare time I've been thinking about
Speaker 1: or my spare time, in.
Speaker 2: All my spare time that five minutes a day.
Speaker 1: Yeah, such money of like where do you in a
Speaker 1: range sense, like where are you sitting with your personal power?
Speaker 1: And how quick are you to give it away? Or
Speaker 1: are you currently Because I'm on a journey of strengthening
Speaker 1: my personal power and I even like me who, I
Speaker 1: feel like I've done so much work on personal power
Speaker 1: and like, oh, there's certain avenues where I could really
Speaker 1: strengthen it. And that's what I've been thinking about lately.
Speaker 1: So anyway, that was a bit rogue, But we love
Speaker 1: a roget we love a roguep But getting back to
Speaker 1: the question, yes, so like I would be interested to
Speaker 1: know because she is talking about taking her power back.
Speaker 1: Is it a sense of he gives you attention and
Speaker 1: then your whole day gets better? Like is that where
Speaker 1: the personal power is lacking? Or what do you kind of.
Speaker 3: Get from what she's saying. Is when she says, I
Speaker 3: feel like I give my power away by engaging with him,
Speaker 3: is almost she's investing her energy and time and she
Speaker 3: knows it's not going anywhere because she said he's absolutely
Speaker 3: not available. So it's like she likes him, she has
Speaker 3: a crush on him. He's flirty, so she's flirting back,
Speaker 3: but it's not going anywhere. So you're kind of like
Speaker 3: you are giving your power away because he's sort of
Speaker 3: getting the benefits of like relationship conversation without any of
Speaker 3: the commitment.
Speaker 2: M you know what I mean. Yeah, he's not earned
Speaker 2: her attention. He hasn't earned it. He hasn't earned it.
Speaker 1: Very interesting.
Speaker 2: That's sort of where my mind goes because.
Speaker 1: It is interesting because she also says like he is
Speaker 1: a pretty good friend.
Speaker 2: Yes, I don't know if I'm Vie.
Speaker 1: Let's actually talk about the flirting part.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because it's funny.
Speaker 1: Me and Jamie I have spoken about this, and I
Speaker 1: have joked that me and Jamie are like labradors and
Speaker 1: we're just like really really just like really nice humans. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and sometimes.
Speaker 2: People think you're flirting. Yes, sometimes people.
Speaker 1: Can perceive me as flirty, but I'm like, I'm just like,
Speaker 1: for example, if you got into a conversation with me
Speaker 1: a tear, I'm going to give you my time and energy.
Speaker 1: And also because I'm such a great conversationist.
Speaker 2: It's like I'm not flow with you.
Speaker 1: No, Like I just don't ever feel like I'm flirting
Speaker 1: with you. All right, great, No, It's just it's funny
Speaker 1: because me and Jamie have talked about it because she goes, Yeah,
Speaker 1: people say I'm flirty too, but I'm just really nice.
Speaker 2: People used to tell me I was flirty.
Speaker 1: Really, my god, it's just like a common theme. I think, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I did a conversation thing. I love.
Speaker 2: I love conversations.
Speaker 3: Yeah. Like, but when you're like having a conversation with someone,
Speaker 3: you're giving them your attention, You're smiling. You're happy you
Speaker 3: made them laugh. We're all pretty funny, Like it's the
Speaker 3: funny thing.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because I'm a fucking joke stuff Like I'm hilarious
Speaker 1: and we all think we're funny. My god, this is
Speaker 1: such a thing.
Speaker 3: So it's like banter, and then people will just get
Speaker 3: I think because people aren't used to having deep conversations
Speaker 3: or being so comfortable with people. They're not avidly trying
Speaker 3: to impress.
Speaker 2: They think you're flirting.
Speaker 1: See that is the thing with me, is like I
Speaker 1: can go zero to one hundred deep level straight away. Yeah,
Speaker 1: because that's just what I'm interested in. Yeah, service of
Speaker 1: a questions here, Yeah, because it's like, is he just
Speaker 1: like us?
Speaker 2: Is he maybe not flirting?
Speaker 1: Yeah, there's so many things to this.
Speaker 2: There's so many layers.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I think, if you know this is
Speaker 1: not going anywhere, this is me being straight right now.
Speaker 1: If you know this is not going anywhere, but you know,
Speaker 1: you're almost like it's almost like giving me the vibes
Speaker 1: of you're almost tricking yourself, like it could because you're
Speaker 1: engaging and you feel good. You're getting a dopamine here.
Speaker 1: You're like, oh, this makes me feel good. But then
Speaker 1: you hate yourself at the same time because you're like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm just really getting in a trap here. I think
Speaker 1: you need to put down a boundary, absolutely, And I
Speaker 1: think you need to limit the time or just ease
Speaker 1: off and see how it works out. Because it also
Speaker 1: like he could just be a really great friend, and
Speaker 1: I think let's normalize females and males having deep relationships
Speaker 1: that aren't sexual.
Speaker 2: Oh absolutely, yeah.
Speaker 1: So I also like think it's really important to plan
Speaker 1: to that. But also, if you know you're kind of fooling,
Speaker 1: then that's your responsibility, it's not his responsibility. I agree,
Speaker 1: don't you think taking I think taking responsibility here and be.
Speaker 2: Like, oh, he's.
Speaker 1: Flirting, I'm fooling. This is not a good scenario because
Speaker 1: he's off the market. I'm wasting my time, and I
Speaker 1: need to put this boundary in for my like myself.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I agree.
Speaker 3: I think when it comes to unrequitted feelings, if no
Speaker 3: matter how good a friend he is, if you're starting
Speaker 3: to have a crush on him, you need to pull
Speaker 3: right back because he's obviously in a relationship. Otherwise I
Speaker 3: don't think she'd be saying he's absolutely not available. So
Speaker 3: that's not fair to him if you're if he's in
Speaker 3: the impression we're assuming the best of him right now, Yeah,
Speaker 3: if we're being really nice, and.
Speaker 1: I think but I think that's warranted.
Speaker 3: I think he should if he just thinks he's got
Speaker 3: a great female friend and and all of a sudden,
Speaker 3: you're like falling for him, you like him. He has
Speaker 3: no idea, he's just continuing to have his best galfriend.
Speaker 2: That's you.
Speaker 3: It's kind of really deceiving him. It's not fair to
Speaker 3: the girlfriend as well that he has.
Speaker 1: Or even if he has a partner, or he could
Speaker 1: just like literally have said to her, I'm.
Speaker 3: Not not available. Whatever the situation is. It's not fair
Speaker 3: to him and his potential partner. It's not fair to
Speaker 3: you either, because you're just being a bit in your
Speaker 3: head and creating things that aren't there, and you're just
Speaker 3: going to get hurt.
Speaker 2: You're just getting he's a passionate about I Am.
Speaker 1: He's like, don't do it, do it, don't do it
Speaker 1: to yourself. Well, yeah, I think it's it's boundaries here
Speaker 1: and also catching yourself before there's and being on messiness. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and there's that responsibility and this is a great way
Speaker 1: to end the episode. A tr of I really want
Speaker 1: you guys to think about is like, where are you
Speaker 1: giving your personal powaway? Where are you getting swayed? Where
Speaker 1: you're getting like lead and really really embodying of if
Speaker 1: you do want to be someone who has a lot
Speaker 1: of personal power, of like what that could actually look
Speaker 1: like for you, and even to the thing of like,
Speaker 1: for example, are you someone that if it's raining, you're
Speaker 1: fucking sad?
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's every time you're giving.
Speaker 1: Your personal power away weather. But do you know what mean? Yeah,
Speaker 1: we're not fucking normalizing this. I love that in this moment,
Speaker 1: I'm saying to get a better problem. Thank you for
Speaker 1: calling me out. I love you, I love you, I
Speaker 1: love you, but get a better problem. It's like in
Speaker 1: these moments, for instance, like where are you literally giving
Speaker 1: your personal powaway? For like things that logic, stupid shit
Speaker 1: strabo And it's like, this is actually a conversation I'd
Speaker 1: love to have. Let's put this in the Facebook group
Speaker 1: a TIA because I would love everyone to talk about
Speaker 1: where they give away their personal power and also how
Speaker 1: they're strengthening their personal power.
Speaker 2: And it might not only be like through a crush.
Speaker 3: It could be through a friendship where maybe you tend
Speaker 3: to get swayed or persuaded into things that you might
Speaker 3: not normally want to do, or you might not be
Speaker 3: super aligned with that person anymore, but you give your
Speaker 3: power away by investing into that relationship even though you're
Speaker 3: not getting anything.
Speaker 2: Out of it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And I think that's also something to remember, is like,
Speaker 3: are the relationships in your life serving you or are
Speaker 3: you too scared to leave a gap and have no
Speaker 3: one there potentially for a little bit before the right
Speaker 3: person does come in.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Because if we're talking manifesting lens, because this person
Speaker 1: has said I've been single for a while, it's like, well,
Speaker 1: is this you know guy who's not available? Is he
Speaker 1: literally filling the space where it's like the new guy
Speaker 1: would come in, girl is ready to come in. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and you're wasting your time, You're wasted in the univers's time.
Speaker 2: You're learning a lesson either or yeah. Yeah, And on
Speaker 2: that note, thank you for listening.
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