Speaker 1: You know what, like being a mom.
Speaker 2: I feel like every single day with my kids, I
Speaker 2: learn something new or they do something new that really
Speaker 2: just tests my patience.
Speaker 1: Aren't they supposed to learn something new? God?
Speaker 2: No, it's a mutual exchange of learning parenthood and children,
Speaker 2: Like they're learning like how to live and function and
Speaker 2: I'm learning how to survive.
Speaker 1: Faily. So what was this week's lesson?
Speaker 2: So I told you part of this on our podcast
Speaker 2: on Life on Cut, brit But basically, Lola is an
Speaker 2: interesting little creature. She's four years old, and she's filled
Speaker 2: with very big emotions and doesn't really know how to
Speaker 2: control them.
Speaker 1: She's the personality higher of the family, right, Yeah, I
Speaker 1: said that, Yeah, that was a Laura quote. Sorry, I'm
Speaker 1: not making that statement about someone else.
Speaker 2: I don't know if you can actually say that about
Speaker 2: your own kids. You already did, I know, And now
Speaker 2: I feel like I should take a back. She's just
Speaker 2: full of personality. She's very funny. She honestly is such
Speaker 2: a little entertaining human. But she also has like massive
Speaker 2: swings of emotion, and that's when I find it difficult
Speaker 2: to manage her, because once she's on that swing of emotion,
Speaker 2: there is nothing that de escalates her. So she went
Speaker 2: through this real phase. And she's only just turned four,
Speaker 2: but she's a big four year old. She went through
Speaker 2: this phase.
Speaker 1: Wow, you're just thrown in the complimence.
Speaker 2: But she like tall, she's a big girl, and she
Speaker 2: would like if she got so filled with anger, she
Speaker 2: would just start hitting or kicking, right, And once we
Speaker 2: got to that point, like, there's not a lot that
Speaker 2: I can do to try and bring her back down.
Speaker 2: And because she's quite strong, like, if she socker punches,
Speaker 2: you're gonna know about it, and it really hurts. And
Speaker 2: recently she smacked me straight in the face. Oh, like
Speaker 2: it was probably the first time that she's hit me
Speaker 2: and hit me hard enough that it really really upset me.
Speaker 2: And we have really big talks about like not hitting,
Speaker 2: and I could tell that it had kind of registered
Speaker 2: that she really felt remorseful for how bad she'd hit me. Anyway,
Speaker 2: so she's stopped hitting, which is great, Like she's really
Speaker 2: taken that on board. But the problem is is that
Speaker 2: the energy that like anger, has nowhere to go now
Speaker 2: because she's stopped hitting. So she's discovered a new technique, right,
Speaker 2: so recently, now that she's not hitting. She gets so
Speaker 2: angry and you can just tell that they were ray
Speaker 2: just bubbling up on this little four year old that
Speaker 2: she strips naked and then she moons me. And it
Speaker 2: doesn't matter where we are. We could be in there,
Speaker 2: we could be in the grocery store, we could be
Speaker 2: at the movies, we could be at home, it doesn't matter.
Speaker 2: We could be on the street and she will literally
Speaker 2: strip down, button naked and pull her butt cheeks apart
Speaker 2: on the street.
Speaker 1: Where has she learned this? Do it all the time?
Speaker 1: When I don't bake this up? One of you've been
Speaker 1: mooning each other? Is this how you and Matt do
Speaker 1: conflict resolution? Do you just like have a fire, who
Speaker 1: packed the dishwasher and then just pull your pants down?
Speaker 1: But that could end differently. I actually think it would work.
Speaker 2: If you were having a real fight with your husband
Speaker 2: and they just and mooned you, you wouldn't be able
Speaker 2: to take him seriously. It's a good way of do
Speaker 2: the escalating an argument.
Speaker 1: It'd go straight to the makeup. If you know what
Speaker 1: I mean, No, silly, don't know what I mean. I
Speaker 1: do know what you mean.
Speaker 2: I think I'd have an instant it for my husband
Speaker 2: if his response to every argument was to pull his
Speaker 2: butt cheeks apart.
Speaker 1: But what is worse violence or in decent exposure, Because
Speaker 1: at the moment Laula's doing both.
Speaker 2: I find it amusing that my children find you way
Speaker 2: is pretty much every day to assault me. I'm like
Speaker 2: at the point now where I'm like, look, what's worse?
Speaker 2: Being hit is far worse. So like now it's and
Speaker 2: because it's quite funny, so I have to try and
Speaker 2: walk away and keep a straight face and not react
Speaker 2: to that. How do you do? I hate to storytop, Oh,
Speaker 2: please go When did you moon someone when you were
Speaker 2: so angry?
Speaker 1: When I used to work as a nanny in Italy
Speaker 1: and I had these.
Speaker 2: Two kids, that's just your storytop Already your life is
Speaker 2: better than mine.
Speaker 1: Well, I don't have kids, but I sort of did
Speaker 1: for a while. It was like a full time living nanny,
Speaker 1: and the parents were pilots and air hostesses, so they
Speaker 1: would just leave me for days on end. This was
Speaker 1: not what I signed up for anyway. Their kids were
Speaker 1: so bad that they would walk around the house and
Speaker 1: when they were angry at me, pull their pants down,
Speaker 1: moon me and pooh onto the ground. I wish I
Speaker 1: was lying. They would take a dump on the kitchen floor. Yep.
Speaker 1: I would just put newspaper over it and move around it.
Speaker 2: No, you can't. They're not a it's not an animal.
Speaker 1: Yellah.
Speaker 2: That's when a change keeps are out when you say, okay,
Speaker 2: I'm so sorry you've come home your kids on here.
Speaker 1: I put them up for adoption. So it's terrible, but
Speaker 1: that was the only option. I'm not kidding. It happens
Speaker 1: so many times. You quit, yeah, and I want to quit.
Speaker 2: My own family when she does it to me, let alone,
Speaker 2: being the nanny that's getting paid for it.
Speaker 1: I had to hitch hike because they wouldn't. They wouldn't, dude.
Speaker 1: I don't even know how I survived. So we're in
Speaker 1: this little country town and I was like, I can't
Speaker 1: live here anymore. This is wild and they wouldn't take
Speaker 1: me to the main town. So I had to hitch
Speaker 1: hike from a country town to Milan and then get
Speaker 1: a bus from Milan, and like that was how I
Speaker 1: got out. A hitch hiked that could have ended very differently.
Speaker 2: This story has ed those places that I never thought
Speaker 2: it would, And all I'm worrying now is that the
Speaker 2: only place for Lola to go is the follow through,
Speaker 2: So that's what we're left with everyone.
Speaker 1: That might be the next step when she can't control
Speaker 1: her anger.
Speaker 2: I hope not anywhere. Update you all on it later