WEBVTT - MINI: Lola's INTERESTING new tantrum technique

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<v Speaker 1>You know what, like being a mom.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like every single day with my kids, I

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<v Speaker 2>learn something new or they do something new that really

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<v Speaker 2>just tests my patience.

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<v Speaker 1>Aren't they supposed to learn something new? God?

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<v Speaker 2>No, it's a mutual exchange of learning parenthood and children,

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<v Speaker 2>Like they're learning like how to live and function and

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<v Speaker 2>I'm learning how to survive.

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<v Speaker 1>Faily. So what was this week's lesson?

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<v Speaker 2>So I told you part of this on our podcast

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<v Speaker 2>on Life on Cut, brit But basically, Lola is an

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<v Speaker 2>interesting little creature. She's four years old, and she's filled

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<v Speaker 2>with very big emotions and doesn't really know how to

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<v Speaker 2>control them.

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<v Speaker 1>She's the personality higher of the family, right, Yeah, I

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<v Speaker 1>said that, Yeah, that was a Laura quote. Sorry, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not making that statement about someone else.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if you can actually say that about

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<v Speaker 2>your own kids. You already did, I know, And now

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like I should take a back. She's just

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<v Speaker 2>full of personality. She's very funny. She honestly is such

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<v Speaker 2>a little entertaining human. But she also has like massive

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<v Speaker 2>swings of emotion, and that's when I find it difficult

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<v Speaker 2>to manage her, because once she's on that swing of emotion,

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<v Speaker 2>there is nothing that de escalates her. So she went

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<v Speaker 2>through this real phase. And she's only just turned four,

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<v Speaker 2>but she's a big four year old. She went through

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<v Speaker 2>this phase.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow, you're just thrown in the complimence.

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<v Speaker 2>But she like tall, she's a big girl, and she

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<v Speaker 2>would like if she got so filled with anger, she

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<v Speaker 2>would just start hitting or kicking, right, And once we

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<v Speaker 2>got to that point, like, there's not a lot that

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<v Speaker 2>I can do to try and bring her back down.

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<v Speaker 2>And because she's quite strong, like, if she socker punches,

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<v Speaker 2>you're gonna know about it, and it really hurts. And

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<v Speaker 2>recently she smacked me straight in the face. Oh, like

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<v Speaker 2>it was probably the first time that she's hit me

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<v Speaker 2>and hit me hard enough that it really really upset me.

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<v Speaker 2>And we have really big talks about like not hitting,

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<v Speaker 2>and I could tell that it had kind of registered

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<v Speaker 2>that she really felt remorseful for how bad she'd hit me. Anyway,

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<v Speaker 2>so she's stopped hitting, which is great, Like she's really

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<v Speaker 2>taken that on board. But the problem is is that

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<v Speaker 2>the energy that like anger, has nowhere to go now

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<v Speaker 2>because she's stopped hitting. So she's discovered a new technique, right,

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<v Speaker 2>so recently, now that she's not hitting. She gets so

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<v Speaker 2>angry and you can just tell that they were ray

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<v Speaker 2>just bubbling up on this little four year old that

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<v Speaker 2>she strips naked and then she moons me. And it

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<v Speaker 2>doesn't matter where we are. We could be in there,

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<v Speaker 2>we could be in the grocery store, we could be

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<v Speaker 2>at the movies, we could be at home, it doesn't matter.

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<v Speaker 2>We could be on the street and she will literally

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<v Speaker 2>strip down, button naked and pull her butt cheeks apart

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<v Speaker 2>on the street.

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<v Speaker 1>Where has she learned this? Do it all the time?

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<v Speaker 1>When I don't bake this up? One of you've been

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<v Speaker 1>mooning each other? Is this how you and Matt do

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<v Speaker 1>conflict resolution? Do you just like have a fire, who

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<v Speaker 1>packed the dishwasher and then just pull your pants down?

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<v Speaker 1>But that could end differently. I actually think it would work.

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<v Speaker 2>If you were having a real fight with your husband

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<v Speaker 2>and they just and mooned you, you wouldn't be able

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<v Speaker 2>to take him seriously. It's a good way of do

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<v Speaker 2>the escalating an argument.

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<v Speaker 1>It'd go straight to the makeup. If you know what

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, No, silly, don't know what I mean. I

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<v Speaker 1>do know what you mean.

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<v Speaker 2>I think I'd have an instant it for my husband

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<v Speaker 2>if his response to every argument was to pull his

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<v Speaker 2>butt cheeks apart.

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<v Speaker 1>But what is worse violence or in decent exposure, Because

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<v Speaker 1>at the moment Laula's doing both.

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<v Speaker 2>I find it amusing that my children find you way

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<v Speaker 2>is pretty much every day to assault me. I'm like

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<v Speaker 2>at the point now where I'm like, look, what's worse?

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<v Speaker 2>Being hit is far worse. So like now it's and

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<v Speaker 2>because it's quite funny, so I have to try and

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<v Speaker 2>walk away and keep a straight face and not react

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<v Speaker 2>to that. How do you do? I hate to storytop, Oh,

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<v Speaker 2>please go When did you moon someone when you were

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<v Speaker 2>so angry?

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<v Speaker 1>When I used to work as a nanny in Italy

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<v Speaker 1>and I had these.

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<v Speaker 2>Two kids, that's just your storytop Already your life is

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<v Speaker 2>better than mine.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I don't have kids, but I sort of did

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<v Speaker 1>for a while. It was like a full time living nanny,

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<v Speaker 1>and the parents were pilots and air hostesses, so they

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<v Speaker 1>would just leave me for days on end. This was

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<v Speaker 1>not what I signed up for anyway. Their kids were

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<v Speaker 1>so bad that they would walk around the house and

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<v Speaker 1>when they were angry at me, pull their pants down,

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<v Speaker 1>moon me and pooh onto the ground. I wish I

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<v Speaker 1>was lying. They would take a dump on the kitchen floor. Yep.

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<v Speaker 1>I would just put newspaper over it and move around it.

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<v Speaker 2>No, you can't. They're not a it's not an animal.

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<v Speaker 1>Yellah.

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<v Speaker 2>That's when a change keeps are out when you say, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm so sorry you've come home your kids on here.

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<v Speaker 1>I put them up for adoption. So it's terrible, but

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<v Speaker 1>that was the only option. I'm not kidding. It happens

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<v Speaker 1>so many times. You quit, yeah, and I want to quit.

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<v Speaker 2>My own family when she does it to me, let alone,

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<v Speaker 2>being the nanny that's getting paid for it.

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<v Speaker 1>I had to hitch hike because they wouldn't. They wouldn't, dude.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't even know how I survived. So we're in

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<v Speaker 1>this little country town and I was like, I can't

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<v Speaker 1>live here anymore. This is wild and they wouldn't take

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<v Speaker 1>me to the main town. So I had to hitch

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<v Speaker 1>hike from a country town to Milan and then get

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<v Speaker 1>a bus from Milan, and like that was how I

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<v Speaker 1>got out. A hitch hiked that could have ended very differently.

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<v Speaker 2>This story has ed those places that I never thought

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<v Speaker 2>it would, And all I'm worrying now is that the

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<v Speaker 2>only place for Lola to go is the follow through,

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<v Speaker 2>So that's what we're left with everyone.

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<v Speaker 1>That might be the next step when she can't control

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<v Speaker 1>her anger.

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<v Speaker 2>I hope not anywhere. Update you all on it later