WEBVTT - ASK UNCUT - Shut it down! He's NOT leaving his wife. 0:00:19.560 --> 0:00:22.960 Hi, guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life 0:00:23.000 --> 0:00:26.639 One Cut. This is Thursday's down and dirty, spicey edition. 0:00:26.840 --> 0:00:29.319 We call this bad Boy Ask Gun Cut, and this 0:00:29.440 --> 0:00:31.920 is where you're writing your questions and we do our 0:00:31.960 --> 0:00:32.840 best to answer them. 0:00:33.080 --> 0:00:36.400 I'm Brittany and I'm Keisha, feeling in for Laura. 0:00:37.440 --> 0:00:42.600 We have another little appearance by producer Keisha this week. Unfortunately, guys, 0:00:42.680 --> 0:00:44.440 Laura was a little bit under the weather this week 0:00:44.479 --> 0:00:47.239 and she just wasn't able to get here for this episode. 0:00:47.320 --> 0:00:51.200 But she sends her deepest condolences. But we have Keisha. 0:00:51.360 --> 0:00:53.760 Kisha, You've made a few appearances and we absolutely love 0:00:53.800 --> 0:00:54.840 having you, so thank. 0:00:54.680 --> 0:00:57.680 You for joining us today. Thank you for having me. 0:00:57.880 --> 0:01:00.840 I am very excited because it's breaking up the monotony 0:01:00.960 --> 0:01:04.520 of my boring as shit life right now in lockdown. 0:01:04.760 --> 0:01:07.560 Well, I mean this is my first question. How are you? 0:01:07.640 --> 0:01:09.440 How's things things? 0:01:09.600 --> 0:01:11.640 I mean, I mean, I'm filling in for Laura, so 0:01:11.680 --> 0:01:14.080 I probably sound really similar to her where I'm like, 0:01:14.160 --> 0:01:16.920 it's a real wave for me at the moment. Some 0:01:17.120 --> 0:01:19.840 days are pretty low and some days are okay, and 0:01:19.840 --> 0:01:22.040 I'm having a pretty good day today. I feel like 0:01:22.360 --> 0:01:27.120 I listened to Tuesday's episode with Hugh from The Resilience Project, 0:01:27.160 --> 0:01:29.280 and I was like, Yes, this is exactly what I 0:01:29.319 --> 0:01:31.320 need to listen to you right now. I'm feeling good 0:01:31.920 --> 0:01:35.039 and I have had one kind of spicy thing happened 0:01:35.080 --> 0:01:37.400 in my life that I have been dying to tell 0:01:37.400 --> 0:01:40.600 you about, and I've deliberately tried to keep my mouth 0:01:40.640 --> 0:01:42.840 shut and not tell you when we've been talking normally 0:01:42.959 --> 0:01:44.160 so that I could share it on the pod. 0:01:44.480 --> 0:01:46.240 I love this, and I love that we do this, 0:01:46.360 --> 0:01:48.160 Like obviously Laura and I do this all the time, 0:01:48.200 --> 0:01:50.840 but we're like, we really want to tell each other something, 0:01:50.880 --> 0:01:53.160 something funny has happened or something We've had this question 0:01:53.200 --> 0:01:54.520 that we want to ask each other, but we do 0:01:54.560 --> 0:01:56.080 our best. We're like, we can't tell you. We've got 0:01:56.120 --> 0:01:59.000 to say before the podcast because you genuinely want the 0:01:59.040 --> 0:02:02.120 real reaction. But I'm here for this, Keisha. Let me 0:02:02.160 --> 0:02:04.880 live vicariously through you back home, like you're living vicariously 0:02:04.920 --> 0:02:07.280 through me. What has been happening? What is so spicy 0:02:07.360 --> 0:02:08.200 that you couldn't tell me? 0:02:08.680 --> 0:02:11.520 So? I have been set up on a date. 0:02:12.720 --> 0:02:16.000 Very exciting, right, Yes, Okay, I remember those days. This 0:02:16.120 --> 0:02:19.399 is exciting, This exciting time. But you know what setups 0:02:19.440 --> 0:02:21.000 can be. I don't know how I feel about them. 0:02:21.040 --> 0:02:22.600 I'll wait to you tell me your story, but I 0:02:23.160 --> 0:02:24.799 don't know how I feel about them, especially if they're 0:02:24.800 --> 0:02:25.880 a blind setup. 0:02:26.160 --> 0:02:28.880 So I will give a little bit of context. As 0:02:28.919 --> 0:02:31.919 some of our wonderful podcast family know, I am living 0:02:31.960 --> 0:02:35.040 at Britt's house while you're away. I'm currently sitting in 0:02:35.040 --> 0:02:35.760 your lounge room. 0:02:35.840 --> 0:02:38.200 It must be kind of weird for you. You literally have 0:02:38.320 --> 0:02:41.600 taken over my life. You've stillid in with Laura, with 0:02:41.639 --> 0:02:43.359 Laura and Matt all the time you're in my house, 0:02:43.400 --> 0:02:44.520 You're opening my packages. 0:02:45.080 --> 0:02:48.239 That's true. Look lockdown when you live alone. I think 0:02:48.280 --> 0:02:50.640 for anyone living alone right now, they would relate to 0:02:50.680 --> 0:02:53.720 the fact that it can be pretty bloody lonely. And 0:02:53.760 --> 0:02:56.440 I am quite an extroverted person. So I have been 0:02:57.080 --> 0:02:59.760 struggling a little bit. And I've been talking to one 0:02:59.760 --> 0:03:02.200 of my friends who lives in Queensland pretty much every 0:03:02.240 --> 0:03:05.200 day on the phone, and the other week kind of 0:03:05.200 --> 0:03:07.440 been talking to her about how much I've been feeling 0:03:07.480 --> 0:03:10.520 quite lonely and whatnot. And I feel like I'm getting 0:03:10.560 --> 0:03:12.359 better at it. I feel like I'm starting to manage 0:03:12.360 --> 0:03:13.960 the loneliness, and she was like, do you know what 0:03:14.000 --> 0:03:16.919 I actually thought of this today? I have a friend 0:03:17.040 --> 0:03:19.400 that lives a couple of minutes away from you. I 0:03:19.400 --> 0:03:22.200 think you're really suited to each other. You both are going, 0:03:22.280 --> 0:03:25.280 you're active, you're extroverted, You've got similar interests and whatnot. 0:03:25.360 --> 0:03:27.440 So you both want to get down and dirty, you 0:03:27.480 --> 0:03:31.400 both want to feel in sometime. Absolutely hot girl summer copy, 0:03:31.919 --> 0:03:34.080 hot girl waxed and vax summer. 0:03:33.919 --> 0:03:35.640 Waxvaxed and ready to climax. 0:03:36.200 --> 0:03:38.600 She said, here, let me send you their Instagram account 0:03:38.640 --> 0:03:41.000 and you can follow them. So the Instagram account was 0:03:41.000 --> 0:03:42.360 sent to me and I looked at the profile and 0:03:42.400 --> 0:03:43.920 I was like, oh my god, you're so right, Like 0:03:43.960 --> 0:03:46.400 they look freaking awesome. Let me slide into the DMS. 0:03:46.440 --> 0:03:49.720 You know, I'll make the first step. As it turns out, Britt, 0:03:49.840 --> 0:03:53.400 I've actually been set up by a friend to make 0:03:53.440 --> 0:03:58.720 a friend. So it's not quite what you're thinking. 0:03:58.240 --> 0:04:01.040 Oh, it's a friend set up. It's a friend day. 0:04:01.680 --> 0:04:03.000 Is it a male or female? 0:04:03.280 --> 0:04:07.680 It's a female. And I'm straight and I'm experimenting. I'm 0:04:07.680 --> 0:04:08.280 not curious. 0:04:08.400 --> 0:04:09.320 You're straighty one eighty. 0:04:09.480 --> 0:04:11.360 Yeah, I've moved here a few days before we went 0:04:11.400 --> 0:04:15.160 into lockdown. So in our five kilometer radius that I'm 0:04:15.160 --> 0:04:16.960 allowed to exercise in, I've got a. 0:04:16.920 --> 0:04:19.279 Total of three friends, and Laura is one of them. 0:04:19.640 --> 0:04:23.160 Yeah, I don't know very many people around here. And 0:04:23.240 --> 0:04:25.880 like I said, I've been spending so much time, you know, 0:04:25.960 --> 0:04:28.560 working from home and living alone, and I've kind of 0:04:28.600 --> 0:04:32.520 just been like I need some human beings in my life. 0:04:33.040 --> 0:04:35.840 And so my friend has like set me up with 0:04:36.160 --> 0:04:39.520 her friend and we started messaging on Instagram and then 0:04:39.680 --> 0:04:42.200 we started texting, Oh my god, this is so cute, 0:04:42.560 --> 0:04:47.120 and we met up the other day. I was walking 0:04:47.240 --> 0:04:50.600 down to our meetup spot and I was thinking at 0:04:50.600 --> 0:04:53.200 the time, my god, this feels so much like a 0:04:53.240 --> 0:04:55.560 Hinge date. Like I wonder if she's gonna like me. 0:04:55.680 --> 0:04:57.719 I wonder if she's gonna think I'm cool. 0:04:59.279 --> 0:05:01.080 Is she gonna think I I look like my pictures? 0:05:01.720 --> 0:05:03.000 That's actually what I thought. 0:05:03.040 --> 0:05:04.880 I was like, Oh my gosh, this person has only 0:05:04.920 --> 0:05:07.520 seen my Instagram, and like, I am so much hotter on. 0:05:07.480 --> 0:05:10.239 Instagram that what I am. Particularly right now. 0:05:10.080 --> 0:05:13.720 Because it's been nine weeks since any place that looks 0:05:13.760 --> 0:05:16.840 after me has been opened. My eyebrows are growing out 0:05:16.839 --> 0:05:17.440 of control. 0:05:17.720 --> 0:05:20.880 How ridiculous are women that this is what we're thinking about. 0:05:20.960 --> 0:05:24.480 You've been in lockdown for nine weeks, You're going stir crazy. 0:05:24.480 --> 0:05:25.080 You need a friend. 0:05:25.080 --> 0:05:27.039 You're on the way to meet just a friend that 0:05:27.160 --> 0:05:29.280 someone has introduced you to, and all you can think 0:05:29.320 --> 0:05:30.880 of is like, is she gonna judge my hair? Is 0:05:30.880 --> 0:05:33.080 she gonna judge my eyebrow? Hi, I haven't got a 0:05:33.160 --> 0:05:35.480 tan on. I look better at my phonos. We're so silly. 0:05:35.680 --> 0:05:38.920 I saw her standing there, or what resembled her Instagram, 0:05:38.920 --> 0:05:40.360 and I went up and I was like, Hey. 0:05:40.240 --> 0:05:40.800 I'm Keisha. 0:05:41.000 --> 0:05:42.440 Like, it's nice to meet you. 0:05:42.720 --> 0:05:45.760 And for someone who is usually quite confident, I was like, 0:05:46.200 --> 0:05:48.120 oh my gosh, I have not been in this experience 0:05:48.120 --> 0:05:49.920 for so long. Anyway, I hung out with her. She's 0:05:49.920 --> 0:05:53.880 a freaking legend. She is intimidatingly fit, and so now 0:05:53.960 --> 0:05:56.360 I feel like I've got a train and get fit 0:05:56.480 --> 0:05:58.600 up before I can go and exercise. 0:05:58.120 --> 0:06:00.560 With Yeah, welcome to BONDI. It's like when when you 0:06:00.600 --> 0:06:01.159 get a cleaner. 0:06:01.200 --> 0:06:02.680 Every time I get a cleaner, I have to clean 0:06:02.680 --> 0:06:03.960 my house before the cleaner comes. 0:06:03.960 --> 0:06:06.000 It's like I want my house to be clean for them. 0:06:06.000 --> 0:06:07.600 It's the same thing. You gotta get fit before you 0:06:07.600 --> 0:06:09.880 can hang out with a fit pit one. 0:06:09.839 --> 0:06:13.520 Hundred percent and so yet to have friend date number two, 0:06:13.760 --> 0:06:16.160 but I'm very much looking forward to it, although I'm 0:06:16.200 --> 0:06:18.400 not sure whether I should text her first. 0:06:18.200 --> 0:06:21.120 Like this is very much reminiscent of the dating game. 0:06:21.279 --> 0:06:24.200 You're still waiting, still waiting for the text, like I 0:06:24.240 --> 0:06:26.320 had a really good time today, Like, let's do it 0:06:26.360 --> 0:06:26.920 again soon. 0:06:27.640 --> 0:06:29.080 I want to freak her out. I don't want it 0:06:29.080 --> 0:06:30.920 to be like, Okay, you're a bit weird and you're 0:06:30.920 --> 0:06:31.640 a bit full on. 0:06:31.960 --> 0:06:33.719 But I have a total I mean, now I have 0:06:33.800 --> 0:06:35.719 four friends in my five komita radius. 0:06:35.800 --> 0:06:38.159 Now I love that. For you, it's increasing exponentially. 0:06:38.520 --> 0:06:40.560 I have gone on a friend day before so and 0:06:40.600 --> 0:06:43.960 it turned out very successfully. The same sort of a 0:06:44.000 --> 0:06:48.279 thing without the worldwide pandemic and lockdown, et cetera. Happened 0:06:48.279 --> 0:06:51.960 to me probably Actually I'd only been living in Sydney 0:06:52.320 --> 0:06:55.080 for probably six months, right, I'd moved from Port mcquarie, 0:06:55.520 --> 0:06:57.560 and there was this girl that I knew in Port McQuary. 0:06:57.880 --> 0:07:01.039 Her name was Kate. I'm just gonna out hi, Kate, 0:07:01.120 --> 0:07:04.320 if you're listening. We went to the same gym right. 0:07:04.320 --> 0:07:05.159 We went to the same. 0:07:05.040 --> 0:07:07.920 Gym for years, but we never spoke a word to 0:07:08.000 --> 0:07:10.640 each other. I thought she was a bitch, because she was, 0:07:10.720 --> 0:07:12.640 but it turns out she just painfully shy. But she 0:07:12.720 --> 0:07:14.600 just never wanted to make eye contact with anyone. She 0:07:14.640 --> 0:07:17.480 never spoke to any one, and I just I was like, oh, 0:07:17.520 --> 0:07:19.560 I just assumed she thought she was too good for everyone. 0:07:19.560 --> 0:07:22.240 But she's the most beautiful human. And this is why 0:07:22.280 --> 0:07:25.120 you can't judge a book by its cover, because she 0:07:25.200 --> 0:07:27.480 was just painfully shy. Like she was just a really 0:07:27.480 --> 0:07:30.360 shy girl. Anyway, I moved to Sydney and then after 0:07:30.400 --> 0:07:33.000 about six months, I got a message from someone else 0:07:33.040 --> 0:07:34.240 that I went to the gym with that I was 0:07:34.240 --> 0:07:37.440 friends with, and she was like, hey, I know this 0:07:37.520 --> 0:07:40.040 is a super random, but you know, okay, from the gym, 0:07:40.120 --> 0:07:43.080 she just moved to Sydney. She doesn't know anyone, you know. 0:07:43.160 --> 0:07:44.560 I just thought i'd let you know she's moved not 0:07:44.600 --> 0:07:46.520 far from you. And I had just moved to Sydney 0:07:46.520 --> 0:07:48.600 six months ago alone as well. I didn't really know anyone, 0:07:48.600 --> 0:07:50.720 so I knew what it was like. So I was like, 0:07:50.760 --> 0:07:53.400 you know what, Instead, it was set up. It was 0:07:53.440 --> 0:07:55.160 like if this is a number in case, like I 0:07:55.160 --> 0:07:56.560 thought you guys could hang out. It might make it 0:07:56.600 --> 0:07:58.760 feel good. I totally didn't have to, but I was like, 0:07:58.840 --> 0:08:00.560 I know what it's like. Even though I think this 0:08:00.600 --> 0:08:02.240 girl hates me, I'm still just going to reach out. 0:08:02.240 --> 0:08:04.240 I'm sure I'll never hear from her. So I shot 0:08:04.280 --> 0:08:06.080 her a message and I was like, Hey, it's Britant 0:08:06.080 --> 0:08:08.440 from Port, like from that gym that we went to 0:08:08.560 --> 0:08:10.280 for two years and never spoke to each other. 0:08:10.840 --> 0:08:12.160 I was like, hey, it's britt. 0:08:11.920 --> 0:08:14.040 Look such and such said that you've just moved to Sydney. 0:08:14.640 --> 0:08:16.480 I'm in a suburb over. This is my number. I 0:08:16.480 --> 0:08:18.760 know what it's like. If you ever want a friend 0:08:18.840 --> 0:08:19.400 or something, you. 0:08:19.320 --> 0:08:19.880 Know, let me know. 0:08:20.640 --> 0:08:23.080 Think you know, I'd never hear from her. Ten minutes later, 0:08:23.160 --> 0:08:25.120 she messaged me. She's like, oh my god, I would 0:08:25.160 --> 0:08:26.320 absolutely love that. 0:08:26.440 --> 0:08:28.040 Can we meet? And I was like, okay. 0:08:28.400 --> 0:08:32.200 We met the next day, and then I like flash 0:08:32.240 --> 0:08:34.760 forward five or six years and I'm am seeing her wedding. 0:08:34.840 --> 0:08:37.679 We're still best of friends, all from this one little 0:08:37.960 --> 0:08:38.480 friend date. 0:08:38.600 --> 0:08:40.760 So I think that, like, hats off to you. 0:08:40.840 --> 0:08:44.520 This this stuff really does work, and it's so hard 0:08:44.559 --> 0:08:45.439 to make friends. 0:08:45.480 --> 0:08:47.040 As an adult right. 0:08:47.080 --> 0:08:49.679 Like one hundred percent. And I mean I've moved around 0:08:49.720 --> 0:08:53.120 the country a number of times. I've moved internationally as well, 0:08:53.559 --> 0:08:56.240 and I've had a couple of these situations, Like every 0:08:56.240 --> 0:08:59.240 time that you've moved somewhere new, you kind of have 0:08:59.320 --> 0:09:01.600 to re establish yourself. You've got to re establish a 0:09:01.640 --> 0:09:04.840 friendship circle, and it can take a while, and particularly 0:09:05.360 --> 0:09:07.000 in times like we're in right now. I mean, it's 0:09:07.000 --> 0:09:09.240 not like you're meeting people through hobbies. And that's what 0:09:09.320 --> 0:09:11.560 started the Life Uncut meetup groups. 0:09:11.240 --> 0:09:11.360 You know. 0:09:11.400 --> 0:09:13.520 It was people kind of saying I would love to 0:09:13.720 --> 0:09:17.400 meet like minded people. I want to make some friends 0:09:17.400 --> 0:09:19.559 as an adult, but we can't have them right now 0:09:19.600 --> 0:09:21.880 where I am because we're in damn lockdown. 0:09:22.280 --> 0:09:23.000 No we can't. 0:09:23.040 --> 0:09:24.959 But they are speaking of the grooves like that was 0:09:25.000 --> 0:09:27.200 the next thing I was gonna say. They're still going 0:09:27.240 --> 0:09:28.920 on in all the places around the country that are 0:09:29.080 --> 0:09:31.719 in lockdown. They're still doing these meetup groups and we're 0:09:31.720 --> 0:09:34.000 getting tagged and send photos of you guys hanging out 0:09:34.000 --> 0:09:36.360 all the time. And I'm talking twenty thirty forty people 0:09:36.440 --> 0:09:39.240 getting together. So if you guys are listening right now, 0:09:39.320 --> 0:09:41.040 and maybe you want to line up some new friends 0:09:41.040 --> 0:09:43.360 for when lockdown finishes, or maybe you're not in lockdown 0:09:43.400 --> 0:09:45.679 at the moment, jump on the Facebook discussion group if 0:09:45.679 --> 0:09:47.400 you're not already on there, because there are so many 0:09:47.440 --> 0:09:50.040 people having Like on last weekend gone I think it 0:09:50.080 --> 0:09:52.000 was in Brisbane or the Sunshine Coasts. They had the 0:09:52.040 --> 0:09:54.560 girls had this big pub crawl. They all dressed up. 0:09:54.600 --> 0:09:57.520 It was absolutely amazing, like I was so here for it. 0:09:57.679 --> 0:10:01.719 I saw that, and to be honest, I was like, ugh, fuck. 0:10:01.520 --> 0:10:03.840 You guys, that looks like so much fun. 0:10:04.200 --> 0:10:07.120 I stopped living your best life what I would do 0:10:07.280 --> 0:10:07.720 right now. 0:10:07.760 --> 0:10:10.960 But in all seriousness, I am actually so grateful of 0:10:11.040 --> 0:10:12.719 my friend that has set me up on a friend day. 0:10:12.880 --> 0:10:14.680 So if you have a friend that's in lockdown and 0:10:14.720 --> 0:10:17.760 you have another friend that exists within their kind of area, 0:10:17.880 --> 0:10:20.320 tee them up, set them up on social media, make 0:10:20.360 --> 0:10:21.120 them be friends. 0:10:21.480 --> 0:10:23.040 Be sure. I thought you were just about. 0:10:22.800 --> 0:10:24.600 To say so, if you guys have a friend in Bondni, 0:10:24.679 --> 0:10:27.160 please send me their number, send me up. I was like, 0:10:27.240 --> 0:10:31.240 you're really putting the call out all right, Well, Kisha, 0:10:31.280 --> 0:10:33.480 I'm glad you're making friends. I feel like my little girls. 0:10:33.480 --> 0:10:35.520 I've sent it a preschool and she's making friends. She's 0:10:35.559 --> 0:10:36.400 like spreading wings. 0:10:36.840 --> 0:10:39.760 Before we get in to ask and cut, which we 0:10:39.800 --> 0:10:41.760 do have some really great questions, We've actually. 0:10:41.480 --> 0:10:43.800 Got one that I'm like, poor, I don't know how 0:10:43.800 --> 0:10:44.880 I feel about it. It's tricky. 0:10:45.240 --> 0:10:48.040 But before we get into that, last time you came 0:10:48.080 --> 0:10:51.280 on as a co host, Keisha, we had some comments 0:10:51.360 --> 0:10:54.600 on the Facebook group that said, like they're all positive, 0:10:54.640 --> 0:10:58.320 but they said, it appears that Kisha and Matt have 0:10:58.480 --> 0:11:01.880 both hosted this podcast multiple times, but neither of you 0:11:02.040 --> 0:11:05.480 have shared your own accidentally unfiltered. Now, every guest we 0:11:05.559 --> 0:11:08.120 ever have on the podcasts, we have one rule, and 0:11:08.160 --> 0:11:10.120 it's like, you've got to spill your most embarrassing moment, 0:11:10.200 --> 0:11:11.000 you know, the drill. 0:11:11.080 --> 0:11:11.400 Keisha. 0:11:11.480 --> 0:11:13.120 Somehow you've managed to get away with it, and I 0:11:13.160 --> 0:11:15.640 don't know how that slipped by my radar, but today's 0:11:15.640 --> 0:11:16.000 the day. 0:11:16.240 --> 0:11:19.440 Do you have an accidentally unfiltered for us? 0:11:19.600 --> 0:11:23.240 Look, it was definitely deliberate that I got away with it, 0:11:23.280 --> 0:11:26.440 because I'm kind of one of those people that I 0:11:26.480 --> 0:11:28.600 feel as though sometimes I read because I go through 0:11:28.640 --> 0:11:31.920 our Instagram messages as well, and sometimes I read people's 0:11:31.920 --> 0:11:34.920 accidentally unfiltered. So I'm like, why are we embarrassed by that? 0:11:34.920 --> 0:11:36.480 That happens to me all the time. 0:11:37.400 --> 0:11:40.200 Same sometimes people write that, and I was like, far out. 0:11:40.240 --> 0:11:42.319 If you knew my life, you would feel so much 0:11:42.360 --> 0:11:43.319 better about yours. 0:11:43.800 --> 0:11:44.520 One hundred percent. 0:11:44.800 --> 0:11:47.560 So, to be completely honest, it was through listening to 0:11:47.960 --> 0:11:51.080 Tuesday's episode of Hugh van Kilenberg from The Resilience Project 0:11:51.400 --> 0:11:54.880 that made me kind of I feel as though, if 0:11:54.880 --> 0:11:58.080 I'm being completely honest, my mind blanks out a lot 0:11:58.160 --> 0:12:00.400 of the embarrassing shit that happens to me, so that 0:12:00.440 --> 0:12:02.440 I'm like, that happened, I'm going to forget about it 0:12:02.480 --> 0:12:04.319 so that I don't have to live through that trauma 0:12:04.400 --> 0:12:04.920 ever again. 0:12:05.280 --> 0:12:07.360 Same, I feel like, how am I thirty four years 0:12:07.360 --> 0:12:09.520 old and I'm still getting flashed? Like you just said, 0:12:09.520 --> 0:12:11.880 something happens. I get a flashback of this mortifying moment, 0:12:11.920 --> 0:12:13.400 and I'm like, how have I gotten to this point 0:12:13.440 --> 0:12:14.599 of my life and I've forgotten that? 0:12:14.920 --> 0:12:17.440 Well, it was through listening to Tuesday's episode that I 0:12:17.480 --> 0:12:20.160 was like, oh my gosh, I fully forgot that this 0:12:20.240 --> 0:12:22.800 happened to me. So for my accidentally unfiltered it's quite 0:12:22.800 --> 0:12:25.640 innocent and quite sweet. So for this we're going back 0:12:25.640 --> 0:12:30.000 to year seven, and I actually remember at the time, 0:12:30.440 --> 0:12:32.439 you know when you go to high school. I went 0:12:32.480 --> 0:12:34.559 to one of like one of the high schools where 0:12:35.080 --> 0:12:37.080 a lot of the primary schools from around the area 0:12:37.200 --> 0:12:39.240 combined to go to the one high school. So there 0:12:39.240 --> 0:12:40.960 was like two hundred and fifty kids in my year, 0:12:41.440 --> 0:12:44.840 and I was so stoked with how many new boys 0:12:44.880 --> 0:12:45.720 there were. 0:12:45.480 --> 0:12:48.000 To look at and to like. I was like, yes, 0:12:48.080 --> 0:12:53.200 we're in Heaven's seven. Anyway, I ended up having this big. 0:12:53.040 --> 0:12:55.640 Crush on a boy and I'm gonna name him because 0:12:55.760 --> 0:12:58.280 you know, I have no idea in Australia where he 0:12:58.480 --> 0:13:00.679 is or what his life is, but he's was Heath. 0:13:00.800 --> 0:13:03.679 But if you're listening to Life on come find him shot. 0:13:03.960 --> 0:13:06.559 Anyway, Heath and I were in the same music class, 0:13:06.640 --> 0:13:09.400 and back in the day, I was quite a good pianist, 0:13:09.640 --> 0:13:12.000 so I was pretty good at the piano. I was 0:13:12.000 --> 0:13:13.720 thinking I was on like grade five or grade six 0:13:13.720 --> 0:13:14.680 by this point. 0:13:14.960 --> 0:13:16.920 Anyway, Heath was a really. 0:13:16.760 --> 0:13:20.320 Good guitar player, and so, in what I thought was 0:13:20.360 --> 0:13:22.679 just the most genius way to flirt with a boy 0:13:22.720 --> 0:13:25.760 at the age of thirteen, I was like, how about 0:13:26.160 --> 0:13:28.880 if I teach you the piano, you teach me to 0:13:28.880 --> 0:13:30.000 play the guitar. 0:13:30.240 --> 0:13:32.680 And he was like, yeah, that sounds cool. 0:13:32.800 --> 0:13:35.880 So we struck a deal, and on this particular day, 0:13:36.760 --> 0:13:39.400 we were out the front of our music room. And 0:13:39.440 --> 0:13:41.800 now that I'm telling this story, I can quite literally 0:13:41.880 --> 0:13:44.720 see it, like I can see all of this happening, 0:13:44.840 --> 0:13:48.600 almost like it was in slow motion. You feel the mortification, hmm. 0:13:48.840 --> 0:13:50.840 So I had no idea whether he had a crush 0:13:50.840 --> 0:13:53.559 on me. And I had liked him for ages. I'm 0:13:53.559 --> 0:13:55.720 talking like months and months and months, and I just 0:13:55.760 --> 0:13:58.720 had absolutely no idea how he felt about me. So 0:13:59.240 --> 0:14:01.440 we were sitting down and he was teaching me some 0:14:01.480 --> 0:14:04.000 basic chords on the guitar, and he was teaching me 0:14:04.040 --> 0:14:06.760 how to strum, and all of a sudden, he turns 0:14:06.800 --> 0:14:08.560 to me and he looked at me and he said, 0:14:09.920 --> 0:14:13.440 do you know you're beautiful? And I felt like I 0:14:13.559 --> 0:14:16.319 just froze and my heart was raising a million miles 0:14:16.360 --> 0:14:18.120 an hour, and I was so shocked. 0:14:18.320 --> 0:14:19.720 This is the cutest thing ever. 0:14:19.880 --> 0:14:22.400 And I was like, oh my gosh, that is like 0:14:22.480 --> 0:14:24.600 the sweetest thing you've ever said to me. Like, to 0:14:24.640 --> 0:14:27.200 be honest, I really like you, and I've kind of 0:14:27.240 --> 0:14:30.200 wondered whether you felt the same way about me, and 0:14:30.680 --> 0:14:32.720 I went on and on and on about how I 0:14:32.800 --> 0:14:33.680 really liked him. 0:14:34.000 --> 0:14:36.680 He turned to me and he looked really. 0:14:36.400 --> 0:14:38.920 Confused, like he had a full frown on his face, 0:14:39.360 --> 0:14:43.080 eyebrows pressed together. He looked at me and he went, no. 0:14:43.200 --> 0:14:45.520 I meant, do you know the song You're Beautiful? The 0:14:45.560 --> 0:14:48.720 one by James Blunt? Like the guitar cords are really easy, 0:14:48.760 --> 0:14:49.120 and I. 0:14:49.080 --> 0:14:50.200 Was gonna teach you. 0:14:50.160 --> 0:14:54.080 How to play it, and I was like, I want 0:14:54.200 --> 0:14:57.280 to die. I felt like a turtle that was just 0:14:57.400 --> 0:15:01.120 pulling at every single limb into my shell. 0:15:01.280 --> 0:15:03.560 And I was like, how do I get out of 0:15:03.640 --> 0:15:04.560 this scenario? 0:15:04.800 --> 0:15:07.800 Because it is so obvious that this boy does not 0:15:08.040 --> 0:15:10.760 like me and I've just confessed my love for him. 0:15:10.920 --> 0:15:13.200 This is so good because when you tell the story. 0:15:12.960 --> 0:15:15.720 I was just like wow, Like what a mature conversation, 0:15:15.880 --> 0:15:17.280 Like do you know you're beautiful? 0:15:17.520 --> 0:15:19.560 Oh my god, I was wondering how you felt about 0:15:19.560 --> 0:15:21.880 me too. I was like, what year seven? I mean like, 0:15:21.960 --> 0:15:22.840 if I told you what. 0:15:22.800 --> 0:15:25.280 I was saying in year seven, it was on a 0:15:25.280 --> 0:15:27.760 whole nother way of length. Keeter, that is so embarrassing, 0:15:27.800 --> 0:15:29.400 Like that is dead'st really embarrassing. 0:15:29.520 --> 0:15:31.760 It was so embarrassing. He did not like me. He 0:15:31.800 --> 0:15:33.600 did not have a crush on me. I never dated 0:15:33.640 --> 0:15:35.120 the boy, and I'm not even sure if I ever 0:15:35.160 --> 0:15:35.920 spoke to him again. 0:15:36.000 --> 0:15:39.120 After this, I was like, screw your piano lessons. 0:15:39.200 --> 0:15:39.680 I'm out. 0:15:39.920 --> 0:15:41.960 That was the start and the end of our band. 0:15:42.040 --> 0:15:43.520 That was it. You never made it. 0:15:44.560 --> 0:15:46.040 Still to this day, I did not know how to 0:15:46.040 --> 0:15:48.160 play Your Beautiful by James Blunt the guitar. 0:15:49.320 --> 0:15:51.240 All right, let's get into some questions. 0:15:51.440 --> 0:15:54.200 I'm going to kick start question one with one that 0:15:54.280 --> 0:15:57.640 I have pretty strong feelings about. It's like, Keisha, I'm 0:15:57.600 --> 0:16:00.160 going to be interested to hear what you think. So, 0:16:00.240 --> 0:16:02.480 my housemaid is sleeping with a married guy, and it 0:16:02.520 --> 0:16:06.560 makes me incredibly anxious. I have grown to absolutely resent her. 0:16:06.920 --> 0:16:09.400 It's been nearly two years since they've started seeing each other. 0:16:09.880 --> 0:16:12.040 His wife is so gorgeous, and they have been together 0:16:12.080 --> 0:16:15.120 for nearly ten years and married for about three. I 0:16:15.200 --> 0:16:17.280 know her only from Facebook, and she actually works with 0:16:17.320 --> 0:16:19.680 a good friend of mine. Facebook's talking here, That's how 0:16:19.720 --> 0:16:22.280 I know. I just wish I could tell her from 0:16:22.360 --> 0:16:24.760 one woman to another. It absolutely kills me what they 0:16:24.760 --> 0:16:26.600 are both doing, to the point where I leave my 0:16:26.720 --> 0:16:28.920 own house when he comes over, and will literally go 0:16:28.960 --> 0:16:31.040 and hang out at the park up the road alone 0:16:31.160 --> 0:16:33.840 until he is gone. He will come over during the day, 0:16:33.960 --> 0:16:36.360 sleep with my housemate, and then leave our house just 0:16:36.440 --> 0:16:39.640 before his wife returns home from work. I'm then left 0:16:39.680 --> 0:16:42.680 to comfort my housemate when she gets upset, but also 0:16:42.960 --> 0:16:44.800