Speaker 1: Today, I'm Sam, when this is your motivational moment for
Speaker 1: this week, We're going to talk about building confidence. Now,
Speaker 1: even in the term I use then building confidence, not
Speaker 1: having confidence, because I think sometimes we think confidence is
Speaker 1: something we're born with rather than something we can influence
Speaker 1: and grow. And I'm here to tell you it's absolutely
Speaker 1: the latter. We can grow more confident. We can become
Speaker 1: more confident. It's not a set and forget scenario. Yes,
Speaker 1: sure we all have different starting positions, but we can
Speaker 1: all build from there. The other misconception I think with
Speaker 1: confidence is that confidence isn't our ability to succeed, it's
Speaker 1: our belief in our ability to succeed. Now, I wish
Speaker 1: just to say something as a cocky young trainer in
Speaker 1: the fitness game when I was learning the ropes, I
Speaker 1: fake it till you make it, fake it do you
Speaker 1: make it? And it was kind of just something i'd
Speaker 1: stupidly tell myself, But as I look back, I really did,
Speaker 1: you know, there are a number of times I'd put
Speaker 1: myself in uncomfortable situations where I didn't really feel like
Speaker 1: I belonged there yet or know what I was talking about.
Speaker 1: But it was important that there was an air of
Speaker 1: confidence there to give my client's confidence in me, and
Speaker 1: then I could go and do the research and the
Speaker 1: hustle and the behind the scenes later. So at the
Speaker 1: time I had to see that client, I was ready,
Speaker 1: but you know, I just wanted to. I could tell
Speaker 1: that if I didn't have the confidence in myself, why
Speaker 1: would they have the confidence in me as a paying
Speaker 1: customer and or something. And I was always really conscious of,
Speaker 1: you know, when I was twenty in pimple face and
Speaker 1: running around in my little short shorts, you know, not
Speaker 1: not as a thirty year old plus, but in the
Speaker 1: really early days, I definitely felt that. So I guess
Speaker 1: the natural question is, well, that's all well and good,
Speaker 1: even understanding the distinction that it's our belief in our
Speaker 1: ability to succeed rather than our actual ability to succeed.
Speaker 1: How do we get that belief? Where does that belief
Speaker 1: come from? Well, it comes from previous experience. And this
Speaker 1: is really important. When you are faced with a daunting
Speaker 1: or challenging or scary situation and you feel that you
Speaker 1: need some confidence, you go back into the archives and
Speaker 1: you think about another moment where you didn't think you
Speaker 1: could do it, or you were scared or you're out
Speaker 1: of your comfort zone, but you push yourself and you
Speaker 1: did it, and you clean enormous amounts of confidence by
Speaker 1: going back into the archives and pulling out from these
Speaker 1: previous experiences. Now, the best case is it's a previous
Speaker 1: experience in a similar field. So you're about to do
Speaker 1: something in the workforce or in a relationship or whatever
Speaker 1: whatever it might be, and you can go back into
Speaker 1: the archive in a very similar circumstance. But if you
Speaker 1: can't do that, if you're going into that little kit
Speaker 1: bag and that's a bit empty in that particular category,
Speaker 1: just go back to anything that you did that time.
Speaker 1: I told myself I was going to sign up for
Speaker 1: a ten k fun run. I didn't think I could
Speaker 1: do it, but I did the training and I actually
Speaker 1: crossed the finish line. And never in my wildest dreams
Speaker 1: that I think I could achieve that, but I did.
Speaker 1: I need to lose ten kilos, I didn't have a
Speaker 1: lot of self belief or self confidence, but I did it.
Speaker 1: Or a terrible public speaker, but I got up there
Speaker 1: and I did it. Whatever it might be, any of
Speaker 1: these situations will help give you confidence moving forward. It's
Speaker 1: always looking back to keep going forward, looking back, to
Speaker 1: keep going forward and building the layers, building the layers,
Speaker 1: building the layers. So then the more times you challenge yourself,
Speaker 1: you put yourself in these precarious, challenging situations, the more
Speaker 1: times you go into the archives, and then the more
Speaker 1: times you face your fears and you actually do the act.
Speaker 1: It's doing the act that builds the confidence. It's doing
Speaker 1: the act that puts another wonderful memory, wonderful occasion in
Speaker 1: the archives for next time. And each time you do it,
Speaker 1: it's probably a more impressive memory to draw from them
Speaker 1: the last. So what I want you to do, so
Speaker 1: you've got a bit more of a practical tool to
Speaker 1: help you build confidence in these situations is start journaling.
Speaker 1: Journal times where you have felt confident, and you're going
Speaker 1: to write it, read it, repeat it, write it, read it,
Speaker 1: repeat it. I mean, I always think of American Beauty
Speaker 1: with Annette Benning. She's she's washing the whole house. I
Speaker 1: will sell this house today. I will sell this house today.
Speaker 1: Just telling yourself over and over and over and over again,
Speaker 1: and then you're going to take on that first snowball
Speaker 1: and watch that snowball of confidence grow from there