WEBVTT - MOTIVATIONAL MOMENT: Fake it til you make it ⚡

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<v Speaker 1>Today, I'm Sam, when this is your motivational moment for

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<v Speaker 1>this week, We're going to talk about building confidence. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>even in the term I use then building confidence, not

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<v Speaker 1>having confidence, because I think sometimes we think confidence is

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<v Speaker 1>something we're born with rather than something we can influence

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<v Speaker 1>and grow. And I'm here to tell you it's absolutely

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<v Speaker 1>the latter. We can grow more confident. We can become

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<v Speaker 1>more confident. It's not a set and forget scenario. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>sure we all have different starting positions, but we can

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<v Speaker 1>all build from there. The other misconception I think with

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<v Speaker 1>confidence is that confidence isn't our ability to succeed, it's

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<v Speaker 1>our belief in our ability to succeed. Now, I wish

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<v Speaker 1>just to say something as a cocky young trainer in

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<v Speaker 1>the fitness game when I was learning the ropes, I

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<v Speaker 1>fake it till you make it, fake it do you

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<v Speaker 1>make it? And it was kind of just something i'd

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<v Speaker 1>stupidly tell myself, But as I look back, I really did,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, there are a number of times I'd put

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<v Speaker 1>myself in uncomfortable situations where I didn't really feel like

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<v Speaker 1>I belonged there yet or know what I was talking about.

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<v Speaker 1>But it was important that there was an air of

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<v Speaker 1>confidence there to give my client's confidence in me, and

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<v Speaker 1>then I could go and do the research and the

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<v Speaker 1>hustle and the behind the scenes later. So at the

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<v Speaker 1>time I had to see that client, I was ready,

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<v Speaker 1>but you know, I just wanted to. I could tell

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<v Speaker 1>that if I didn't have the confidence in myself, why

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<v Speaker 1>would they have the confidence in me as a paying

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<v Speaker 1>customer and or something. And I was always really conscious of,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, when I was twenty in pimple face and

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<v Speaker 1>running around in my little short shorts, you know, not

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<v Speaker 1>not as a thirty year old plus, but in the

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<v Speaker 1>really early days, I definitely felt that. So I guess

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<v Speaker 1>the natural question is, well, that's all well and good,

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<v Speaker 1>even understanding the distinction that it's our belief in our

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<v Speaker 1>ability to succeed rather than our actual ability to succeed.

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<v Speaker 1>How do we get that belief? Where does that belief

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<v Speaker 1>come from? Well, it comes from previous experience. And this

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<v Speaker 1>is really important. When you are faced with a daunting

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<v Speaker 1>or challenging or scary situation and you feel that you

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<v Speaker 1>need some confidence, you go back into the archives and

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<v Speaker 1>you think about another moment where you didn't think you

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<v Speaker 1>could do it, or you were scared or you're out

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<v Speaker 1>of your comfort zone, but you push yourself and you

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<v Speaker 1>did it, and you clean enormous amounts of confidence by

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<v Speaker 1>going back into the archives and pulling out from these

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<v Speaker 1>previous experiences. Now, the best case is it's a previous

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<v Speaker 1>experience in a similar field. So you're about to do

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<v Speaker 1>something in the workforce or in a relationship or whatever

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<v Speaker 1>whatever it might be, and you can go back into

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<v Speaker 1>the archive in a very similar circumstance. But if you

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<v Speaker 1>can't do that, if you're going into that little kit

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<v Speaker 1>bag and that's a bit empty in that particular category,

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<v Speaker 1>just go back to anything that you did that time.

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<v Speaker 1>I told myself I was going to sign up for

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<v Speaker 1>a ten k fun run. I didn't think I could

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<v Speaker 1>do it, but I did the training and I actually

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<v Speaker 1>crossed the finish line. And never in my wildest dreams

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<v Speaker 1>that I think I could achieve that, but I did.

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<v Speaker 1>I need to lose ten kilos, I didn't have a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of self belief or self confidence, but I did it.

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<v Speaker 1>Or a terrible public speaker, but I got up there

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<v Speaker 1>and I did it. Whatever it might be, any of

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<v Speaker 1>these situations will help give you confidence moving forward. It's

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<v Speaker 1>always looking back to keep going forward, looking back, to

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<v Speaker 1>keep going forward and building the layers, building the layers,

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<v Speaker 1>building the layers. So then the more times you challenge yourself,

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<v Speaker 1>you put yourself in these precarious, challenging situations, the more

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<v Speaker 1>times you go into the archives, and then the more

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<v Speaker 1>times you face your fears and you actually do the act.

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<v Speaker 1>It's doing the act that builds the confidence. It's doing

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<v Speaker 1>the act that puts another wonderful memory, wonderful occasion in

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<v Speaker 1>the archives for next time. And each time you do it,

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<v Speaker 1>it's probably a more impressive memory to draw from them

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<v Speaker 1>the last. So what I want you to do, so

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<v Speaker 1>you've got a bit more of a practical tool to

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<v Speaker 1>help you build confidence in these situations is start journaling.

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<v Speaker 1>Journal times where you have felt confident, and you're going

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<v Speaker 1>to write it, read it, repeat it, write it, read it,

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<v Speaker 1>repeat it. I mean, I always think of American Beauty

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<v Speaker 1>with Annette Benning. She's she's washing the whole house. I

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<v Speaker 1>will sell this house today. I will sell this house today.

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<v Speaker 1>Just telling yourself over and over and over and over again,

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<v Speaker 1>and then you're going to take on that first snowball

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<v Speaker 1>and watch that snowball of confidence grow from there