WEBVTT - Solo dates & self love 💗 0:00:00.400 --> 0:00:04.440 The Rise and Conquer Podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of 0:00:04.519 --> 0:00:07.800 the land which this episode is being recorded. We further 0:00:07.960 --> 0:00:12.040 acknowledge country throughout Australia and their connections to land, sea 0:00:12.200 --> 0:00:12.920 and community. 0:00:13.360 --> 0:00:13.920 We pay our. 0:00:13.880 --> 0:00:17.320 Respect to their elders past and present and extend that 0:00:17.440 --> 0:00:28.760 respect to all Aboriginal and terrest Rate Islander peoples today. 0:00:30.640 --> 0:00:34.080 Hello and welcome back to the Rise and Conquer Podcasts. 0:00:34.520 --> 0:00:37.320 This is the podcast for ordinary people who want to 0:00:37.320 --> 0:00:50.960 do extraordinary things. Hello and welcome back to the Rising 0:00:51.040 --> 0:00:54.880 Conker Podcast. It is your host, Georgie Stephenson, and today 0:00:55.040 --> 0:00:59.000 we have a special Valentine's Day episode for you, all 0:00:59.040 --> 0:01:04.160 about self love, solo dates and self acceptance. I do 0:01:04.319 --> 0:01:06.520 just want to do a small trigger warning for the 0:01:06.560 --> 0:01:09.880 second half of this episode. We do touch on body 0:01:09.959 --> 0:01:13.840 image and disordered eating. It is very light, but yeah, 0:01:14.040 --> 0:01:16.480 just wanted to make sure we added that in there. 0:01:16.880 --> 0:01:19.080 But before we get into the show a tier, let's 0:01:19.080 --> 0:01:20.759 do a quick little week update. 0:01:20.920 --> 0:01:22.000 How is your week? 0:01:22.600 --> 0:01:23.280 She got in there. 0:01:26.640 --> 0:01:29.600 It was good. I had a lovely weekend with some girlfriends. 0:01:29.600 --> 0:01:33.119 We caught up with all our babies and the. 0:01:33.120 --> 0:01:34.160 Project has started. 0:01:34.520 --> 0:01:37.520 I know, I love it like me and a te 0:01:37.560 --> 0:01:41.000 are so excited. The vibes are high in the office, 0:01:41.600 --> 0:01:44.199 and oh my god, just the Facebook group of tiar 0:01:44.480 --> 0:01:45.360 it melts my heart. 0:01:45.400 --> 0:01:47.160 Do you die? I die time. 0:01:47.400 --> 0:01:50.920 My favorite thing about the project is when we do 0:01:50.960 --> 0:01:54.320 the live rounds of the Facebook group and seeing everyone 0:01:54.640 --> 0:01:59.960 show up post support. It's just an energy like no 0:02:00.160 --> 0:02:02.880 other and it's yeah, it's amazing. 0:02:03.080 --> 0:02:06.960 It's just always so high vibe. And last week, the 0:02:07.040 --> 0:02:09.440 sweetest lady posted in there. 0:02:09.600 --> 0:02:14.359 She's seventy, Susan Little Shadow, I love you, Susan tell us. 0:02:14.680 --> 0:02:16.679 She actually posted in there saying she wasn't going to 0:02:16.720 --> 0:02:19.120 share because she wasn't sure anyone would resonate with her. 0:02:19.160 --> 0:02:22.680 But she shared and everyone was just hyping her up 0:02:22.720 --> 0:02:26.000 in the comments. Jamie and I literally cried. It was 0:02:26.040 --> 0:02:26.960 just so beautiful. 0:02:28.160 --> 0:02:32.280 So Susan is seventy and she started the project and 0:02:32.320 --> 0:02:35.000 she's like, I finally want to do something for myself. 0:02:35.400 --> 0:02:36.200 And yeah, she was. 0:02:36.160 --> 0:02:38.080 Like, oh, I didn't know about posting because I just 0:02:38.080 --> 0:02:40.320 feel like, you know, I don't know if anyone's going 0:02:40.360 --> 0:02:42.840 to resonate, and she did and then everyone got around 0:02:42.880 --> 0:02:45.600 her and it's so beautiful. 0:02:45.680 --> 0:02:46.120 Best thing. 0:02:46.160 --> 0:02:47.120 We love you Susan. 0:02:47.880 --> 0:02:49.480 We love everyone in the project. 0:02:50.160 --> 0:02:52.720 So, guys, I just wanted to say, like, if you 0:02:52.760 --> 0:02:55.160 have joined us for this live round and you're in 0:02:55.200 --> 0:02:58.120 there and you're ready to go, I'm so proud of 0:02:58.160 --> 0:02:59.720 you and I'm. 0:02:59.600 --> 0:03:00.720 So for you. 0:03:00.880 --> 0:03:04.240 And this is going to be an amazing adventure and 0:03:04.360 --> 0:03:06.559 enjoy it. And it's going to be a little bit uncomfortable, 0:03:07.040 --> 0:03:09.320 but we're here for the uncomfort, aren't we. 0:03:09.280 --> 0:03:10.280 In here for sure? 0:03:10.639 --> 0:03:14.080 That's like any time you get uncomfortable and things feel fuzzy, 0:03:14.480 --> 0:03:16.880 it's like you go into the new level, embrace. 0:03:16.520 --> 0:03:20.440 It exactly, And like, that's something I want to reframe 0:03:20.520 --> 0:03:23.120 for myself this year, is when I'm uncomfortable, I need 0:03:23.160 --> 0:03:26.920 to then turn that into excitement for getting comfortable where 0:03:26.960 --> 0:03:29.280 I am currently uncomfortable, so that I can grow. 0:03:29.800 --> 0:03:34.520 Yes, yes, such such a huge mindset like change, but 0:03:34.760 --> 0:03:37.200 it's like once you can get on board with that, 0:03:37.760 --> 0:03:39.120 it just feels so much better. 0:03:39.360 --> 0:03:41.840 Yeah, it's amazing, so bloty exciting. 0:03:42.240 --> 0:03:45.160 Also, before we get into the episode, we have a 0:03:45.280 --> 0:03:49.680 special love reading from our residence psychic Andrea. 0:03:50.440 --> 0:03:52.920 This one is juicy, how good. 0:03:55.240 --> 0:03:58.040 We thought it would be perfect for Valentine's Day and 0:03:58.080 --> 0:04:01.120 if you want to follow Andrea on Instagram. She does 0:04:01.320 --> 0:04:05.040 for live readings all the time, and also she is 0:04:05.400 --> 0:04:08.800 the psychic friend who I always get my personal readings of, 0:04:08.880 --> 0:04:11.560 like literally like I pay her to get a reading 0:04:11.720 --> 0:04:14.840 and always on point, always gives me so much clarity 0:04:14.960 --> 0:04:17.880 and she's just amazing. So you can follow her on 0:04:18.000 --> 0:04:21.000 Instagram at Andrea Sarah dot. 0:04:20.800 --> 0:04:23.440 Taro, which will pop in show notes of course. 0:04:23.600 --> 0:04:26.000 But here's her reading and then we'll get straight into 0:04:26.040 --> 0:04:30.160 the episode and Happy Valentine's Day, guys, Happy Valentine, Happy 0:04:30.400 --> 0:04:31.440 Gallantine's Day. 0:04:31.640 --> 0:04:34.800 Yes, it's for the goals. It's always for all the goals. 0:04:34.960 --> 0:04:37.960 And I hope you're doing something today that you're just giving, 0:04:38.320 --> 0:04:40.320 Like every day you should be loving yourself, but just 0:04:40.320 --> 0:04:44.120 that little something special. Yeah, yeah, love yours, Love you 0:04:44.279 --> 0:04:51.040 so much. Enjoy the episode, Happy Valentine's Day. 0:04:52.320 --> 0:04:54.400 I'm so excited to do a love reading for you 0:04:54.520 --> 0:04:57.840 all today. Love readings are They're the tea. They're like 0:04:57.880 --> 0:05:00.960 the most exciting reading that I do because we get 0:05:01.000 --> 0:05:03.160 so much intel and I always here for a little 0:05:03.160 --> 0:05:04.480 bit of goss, a little bit of intel. 0:05:04.560 --> 0:05:05.080 We love it. 0:05:05.680 --> 0:05:07.479 So the girls have asked me to do to reading Stay, 0:05:07.480 --> 0:05:09.760 which I'm thrilled about because it's going to help you 0:05:09.839 --> 0:05:12.880 decipher which messages for you and which message is not 0:05:12.960 --> 0:05:14.719 for you. So the fact reading that I'm going to 0:05:14.760 --> 0:05:17.920 do for you guys will be the ones that are 0:05:17.920 --> 0:05:22.680 in connection, so relationship, situationship, that type of vibe, just 0:05:22.760 --> 0:05:25.600 because they're reading from such a large or it is 0:05:25.640 --> 0:05:28.320 like a collective reading. Just take to the parts that 0:05:28.480 --> 0:05:30.800 resonate for you. Don't try and make the full message fit. 0:05:31.320 --> 0:05:33.080 Sometimes it's not meant for you and it's meant for 0:05:33.120 --> 0:05:35.840 someone else. And we're just going to try and extract 0:05:35.880 --> 0:05:40.200 the message that is coming through today. And then the 0:05:40.240 --> 0:05:43.000 next message will be for my honeys that are open 0:05:43.080 --> 0:05:46.200 to love, open to dating, kind of like figuring out 0:05:46.240 --> 0:05:49.640 what's happening next in their love life. So very excited 0:05:49.680 --> 0:05:51.479 to see what comes through. Let me shuffle and I'll 0:05:51.560 --> 0:05:54.640 jump back on and spill the tea with you before 0:05:55.080 --> 0:05:57.560 my relationship honeys. We have like a bit of a 0:05:57.560 --> 0:06:01.039 split message here, so I've the the energy that is 0:06:01.080 --> 0:06:03.760 relevant is definitely pissis in scorpio, so that could be 0:06:03.800 --> 0:06:07.200 you or that could be them. And also the split 0:06:07.279 --> 0:06:11.080 energy is an air sign male, so yeah, that's coming 0:06:11.120 --> 0:06:14.760 through as liberal Gemini and Aquarius. So the more with 0:06:14.839 --> 0:06:17.360 the water sign, I can actually see this is really 0:06:17.400 --> 0:06:19.760 exciting for you guys. There is like a little bit 0:06:19.800 --> 0:06:22.360 of a tower moment happening in the connection, but it's 0:06:22.400 --> 0:06:24.960 a good thing. Like it could be like restructuring the 0:06:25.040 --> 0:06:29.359 relationship is needed, or redirection, just making little tweaks to 0:06:29.400 --> 0:06:32.360 make the connection and the foundation stronger for the future, 0:06:32.720 --> 0:06:34.960 because I can feel so this is only going to 0:06:34.960 --> 0:06:37.359 be for some of you, or that it's resonating with 0:06:37.839 --> 0:06:39.840 that there is going to be a deeper level of commitment. 0:06:40.000 --> 0:06:43.560 So depending on your current relationship, this could be like 0:06:43.640 --> 0:06:46.360 going if you're dating, moving in together, or if you've 0:06:46.360 --> 0:06:49.040 been or even like an engagement, because we have the 0:06:49.120 --> 0:06:52.320 hyrofin here which speaks to a level of commitment that 0:06:52.400 --> 0:06:55.000 is deeper. So that's very exciting. But I can see 0:06:55.000 --> 0:06:57.000 that there is some restructure that is going to happen 0:06:57.040 --> 0:06:59.479 for us. But like it's important to know that this 0:06:59.600 --> 0:07:02.359 is not thing to be worried about, that this is normal. 0:07:02.920 --> 0:07:06.200 It's actually quite healthy to keep growing and like making 0:07:06.200 --> 0:07:08.880 little tweaks when if like they're being brought to the surface, 0:07:09.000 --> 0:07:10.920 and I think it's just a reminder that when you 0:07:10.960 --> 0:07:14.400 do this, that it's creating like a strong foundation. And 0:07:14.400 --> 0:07:16.680 then like a little cheeky side note that there is 0:07:16.720 --> 0:07:19.480 a deeper level of commitment coming. So do the work 0:07:19.560 --> 0:07:22.920 first and then we will see what happens with this 0:07:23.000 --> 0:07:25.680 horrifment car which is really exciting. And then for my 0:07:26.040 --> 0:07:28.360 ones that are like connecting with a male that is 0:07:28.440 --> 0:07:31.800 an air sign. We do have some stuff that is 0:07:31.840 --> 0:07:34.160 being brought to the surface. There's like an intense energy 0:07:34.240 --> 0:07:36.280 around them at the moment. I don't know if it's 0:07:36.320 --> 0:07:40.280 more so around your person's energy, but I do see 0:07:40.360 --> 0:07:42.040 like they are kind of going through it. I feel 0:07:42.080 --> 0:07:43.960 like it's them also going through it, and maybe that 0:07:44.080 --> 0:07:46.400 you are kind of like a bystander in this. So 0:07:47.280 --> 0:07:49.640 it is important to protect your energy. Like it's yeah, 0:07:49.680 --> 0:07:52.040 I think it's really good to be a supportive person 0:07:52.080 --> 0:07:54.920 in their life, but it's also important to pull back 0:07:54.920 --> 0:07:56.880 your energy and also, you know, make sure that you 0:07:58.160 --> 0:08:01.120 put your emotional and your mental health needs first. I 0:08:01.120 --> 0:08:03.960 can see that this situation is going to improve, but 0:08:04.000 --> 0:08:05.960 like it does have to, like the energy does have 0:08:06.080 --> 0:08:08.040 to dissipate and it has to calm down a little 0:08:08.040 --> 0:08:10.320 bit so you can be that supporting role, but make 0:08:10.360 --> 0:08:12.120 sure that you are putting you know, you protect your 0:08:12.240 --> 0:08:14.520 energy and protect your needs regardless if you're in a 0:08:14.560 --> 0:08:17.840 situation or relationship, it's really important to you know, give 0:08:17.880 --> 0:08:20.480 that love to yourself because otherwise you can't really support 0:08:20.480 --> 0:08:23.640 them anyway. And then you know, it'll be a smoother 0:08:23.720 --> 0:08:25.880 road for both of you if you just pull back 0:08:25.880 --> 0:08:29.440 a little bit. If that's resonating with you so exciting, 0:08:29.600 --> 0:08:32.040 it will definitely get better. Even that doesn't sound like 0:08:32.080 --> 0:08:35.080 it is exciting, but yeah, just remember to put your 0:08:35.520 --> 0:08:38.480 put your you know, to be balancing between your the 0:08:38.679 --> 0:08:41.920 energy and their energy, because then it will definitely smooth out. 0:08:42.240 --> 0:08:45.880 So now for my dating and looking for love or 0:08:45.880 --> 0:08:49.280 open to love, honeys, this is definitely my favorite type 0:08:49.280 --> 0:08:51.680 of reading because we're going to see who was coming 0:08:51.720 --> 0:08:53.640 in next to what type of energy that we're going 0:08:53.679 --> 0:08:56.480 to be connecting with next. Are you going to keep 0:08:56.520 --> 0:08:59.520 your like linkers open for or like you know? It's 0:08:59.559 --> 0:09:01.400 exciting because you'll be able to see if this connects 0:09:01.440 --> 0:09:03.440 with you in the short term future. So let's see, 0:09:03.480 --> 0:09:06.040 I'll pull some cards and I'll let you know. So 0:09:06.120 --> 0:09:08.040 let's have a look. We have a few cards that 0:09:08.120 --> 0:09:10.880 have popped up really beautiful. One card is like, I 0:09:10.880 --> 0:09:12.560 feel like the first message that we need to get 0:09:13.040 --> 0:09:15.440 out there is because it's come through so strong and 0:09:15.480 --> 0:09:18.800 definitely from like your higher self, and it's like, girl, 0:09:18.880 --> 0:09:21.360 you're not dating right now, Like this is like it's 0:09:21.440 --> 0:09:25.080 like for real. They are like, you know, put on 0:09:25.280 --> 0:09:27.080 dating on for a pause. Like if especially if you're 0:09:27.080 --> 0:09:29.520 feeling like a bit frustrated and burnt out with like 0:09:29.559 --> 0:09:32.800 connecting with people, They're just saying, like, you know, you 0:09:32.840 --> 0:09:35.400 need to like invest your energy into you. Now is 0:09:35.440 --> 0:09:38.240 not the time, Like your time will definitely come, and 0:09:38.240 --> 0:09:41.040 it probably towards later in the year is going to 0:09:41.080 --> 0:09:43.160 be more of a social time for you, and your 0:09:43.280 --> 0:09:44.679 energy is going to feel like you want to be 0:09:44.720 --> 0:09:46.079 able to give to people, You want to be able 0:09:46.120 --> 0:09:48.559 to connect and have those outings, but at the moment 0:09:48.559 --> 0:09:50.080 there's kind of like a little bit of a block, 0:09:50.440 --> 0:09:53.880 and your intuition is just like, please listen to me, like, 0:09:53.960 --> 0:09:56.680 you know, don't force connections right now because you are 0:09:57.160 --> 0:10:00.520 going to like potentially be frustrated or burnt out. So 0:10:00.800 --> 0:10:02.880 that is the first message that came through really strong 0:10:02.960 --> 0:10:05.120 for someone's intuition. I'm going to say there's a few 0:10:05.120 --> 0:10:08.840 people's intuition. Reinvesting that energy inwards instead of outwards is 0:10:08.880 --> 0:10:12.760 super important for you, especially especially right for right now, 0:10:12.880 --> 0:10:16.720 other hand, we have another message here. This is happening. 0:10:17.000 --> 0:10:19.840 I would say in the next three weeks or three months, 0:10:20.000 --> 0:10:22.000 there's going to be communication. This is going to be 0:10:22.120 --> 0:10:25.400 someone reaching out to you. There's this new line of 0:10:25.400 --> 0:10:28.480 communication that's coming in. But I think this possibly for 0:10:28.480 --> 0:10:31.040 some people for something that's going to be a pass 0:10:31.080 --> 0:10:33.640 can like someone reaching out from the past. For others, 0:10:33.720 --> 0:10:35.880 it's going to be a new person. But yeah, there 0:10:35.920 --> 0:10:38.559 is like this feeling of like like I think this 0:10:38.600 --> 0:10:40.599 is a small amount of you like, oh, it's not 0:10:40.640 --> 0:10:42.560 going to happen for me, like you know, kind of 0:10:42.559 --> 0:10:44.240 giving up on the dating scene. And then there's going 0:10:44.280 --> 0:10:46.000 to be like this message or this phone call that's 0:10:46.040 --> 0:10:47.280 kind of come in and it's going to be like 0:10:48.120 --> 0:10:51.360 it's a very big surprise. And then for others, you're 0:10:51.440 --> 0:10:53.680 like fully ready, Like there is definitely a lot of 0:10:53.679 --> 0:10:56.280 you that are actually really ready in a really stable place, 0:10:56.320 --> 0:10:59.560 that are like, you know good either way. You know, 0:10:59.679 --> 0:11:01.520 you're in this really good mindset, which I think is 0:11:01.559 --> 0:11:04.480 really healthy and it's really like peaceful. And then we 0:11:04.520 --> 0:11:07.360 do have like a healing guy. We've got a King 0:11:07.400 --> 0:11:09.440 of Cops here, which is great. King of Cops is 0:11:09.840 --> 0:11:16.480 all about emotional support, really vulnerable done like some healing workers, 0:11:16.559 --> 0:11:19.400 pretty self aware. They may be a little bit spiritual. 0:11:19.520 --> 0:11:21.880 I always feel like this card brings up this like 0:11:22.520 --> 0:11:26.800 they're spiritual without like really associating with spirituality, Like they 0:11:26.840 --> 0:11:29.080 just kind of are that way because they are natural healers. 0:11:29.080 --> 0:11:31.400 It's just like it's a natural skill that they have. 0:11:31.880 --> 0:11:35.280 Very empathic and they're very attuned to your needs. So 0:11:35.320 --> 0:11:37.720 they're going to be a giver, which is really beautiful. 0:11:37.760 --> 0:11:41.160 I mean, it's a vibe. We can't lie about that. 0:11:41.240 --> 0:11:43.920 So and they are very very ready for a deeper, 0:11:44.120 --> 0:11:47.000 deeper type of love, so they they're really in a 0:11:47.000 --> 0:11:49.960 good place. So King of Cops can be associated with 0:11:50.000 --> 0:11:52.400 a water sign, but it doesn't necessarily have to be. 0:11:52.800 --> 0:11:54.440 I'm going to say, it's more of the energy that 0:11:54.480 --> 0:11:58.959 this person is embodying. So I'm so excited for you all. 0:11:59.360 --> 0:12:01.680 You'll have to let me know if you meet this 0:12:01.800 --> 0:12:05.080 King of Coups because it is a vibe. Thank you 0:12:05.120 --> 0:12:08.319 so much for letting me read through and take care 0:12:08.320 --> 0:12:16.600 of my loves. I'll talk to you soon. Bye. 0:12:18.679 --> 0:12:22.640 So well, let's get into our special Valentine's or should 0:12:22.800 --> 0:12:24.000 be saying Gallentines. 0:12:27.920 --> 0:12:30.200 It's funny because I just had to explain to Georgie 0:12:30.320 --> 0:12:33.079 like Gallata tis guys good to know. 0:12:33.679 --> 0:12:35.559 I'd like had heard it, and I just didn't really 0:12:35.640 --> 0:12:36.440 understand the concept. 0:12:36.559 --> 0:12:39.960 So solo may in this episode we wanted to bring 0:12:40.040 --> 0:12:45.839 you obviously a Valentine's Day inspired episode all about how 0:12:45.880 --> 0:12:47.880 to date yourself and love yourself. 0:12:48.160 --> 0:12:49.920 I love this because it's. 0:12:49.679 --> 0:12:50.839 Like, I feel like. 0:12:53.880 --> 0:12:57.080 So simple, but it's like if you truly can get 0:12:57.080 --> 0:13:00.520 to a place where all you need is like you 0:13:01.160 --> 0:13:05.280 and you don't need external validation from like other people 0:13:05.520 --> 0:13:08.720 to make you feel whole, it is just so powerful, 0:13:09.160 --> 0:13:12.199 Oh for sure. And I think it's such a lifelong 0:13:12.280 --> 0:13:15.160 journey what so many people are on. 0:13:16.080 --> 0:13:18.120 And so let's have a chat about it before we 0:13:18.160 --> 0:13:19.720 get into the episode. Though a tear. 0:13:20.160 --> 0:13:21.800 I know at the end of the episode we're going 0:13:21.840 --> 0:13:26.120 to put in some of the NH team's favorite solo dates. Yes, 0:13:26.240 --> 0:13:27.360 but let's tell the moles. 0:13:27.440 --> 0:13:28.400 Okay, what's yours. 0:13:28.640 --> 0:13:35.320 I'm a simple gal, I'm not so my perfect solo 0:13:35.520 --> 0:13:38.440 date would be I actually did this se O listen 0:13:38.480 --> 0:13:41.880 there tim being like, go and have a solo date 0:13:41.960 --> 0:13:44.120 first of all because we have a change together and 0:13:44.160 --> 0:13:49.439 there's that situation. And then me getting a massage. I'm 0:13:49.480 --> 0:13:54.640 talking full body, ninety minute massage and I'm into like, 0:13:54.800 --> 0:13:59.440 I'm gonna butcher this kahana massage, which is a Hawaiian massage. 0:13:59.480 --> 0:14:03.120 They massa your whole body. It's not like back legs. 0:14:03.400 --> 0:14:07.040 It's like they massage the whole body the whole time. 0:14:08.600 --> 0:14:14.120 I hope you get that picture. And it's it's beautiful. 0:14:14.480 --> 0:14:16.760 And then and it's it's a bit of a spiritual massage. 0:14:16.960 --> 0:14:20.120 I love that they're this beautiful like Hawaiian preannum and stuff. Anyway, 0:14:20.360 --> 0:14:21.800 and then I go to the beach. I get a 0:14:21.840 --> 0:14:24.240 cyeball and I journal and I just have a little 0:14:24.240 --> 0:14:24.960 soak in the sun. 0:14:25.280 --> 0:14:29.000 That's such a nice solow date. Yeah, what about you mine? 0:14:29.160 --> 0:14:29.680 I have two. 0:14:30.280 --> 0:14:33.000 One is going to the cinema by myself. It's my 0:14:33.040 --> 0:14:33.560 favorite thing. 0:14:33.720 --> 0:14:35.040 I've literally never done this. 0:14:35.240 --> 0:14:37.960 Oh you have, It's it's life changing. 0:14:38.040 --> 0:14:39.760 Like the first time I did it, I was like, oh, 0:14:39.760 --> 0:14:41.040 people to think I'm a weirdo. 0:14:41.520 --> 0:14:42.960 But like one, no one can even see you. 0:14:43.000 --> 0:14:47.440 It's dark and it's just so like you get so 0:14:47.600 --> 0:14:49.440 immersed and as long as it's a good movie and 0:14:49.480 --> 0:14:50.160 it's one you. 0:14:50.160 --> 0:14:52.680 Enjoy, I just feel super creative after it. 0:14:53.680 --> 0:14:55.280 Did you go see Avatar alone? 0:14:55.440 --> 0:14:56.760 Now with my friend? 0:14:57.120 --> 0:14:58.000 Would have been so good? 0:14:58.080 --> 0:14:58.480 Sealing? 0:14:58.560 --> 0:15:01.080 Yeah, that would have been in a amazing movie to 0:15:01.080 --> 0:15:03.000 see on your own, because you're also like I feel 0:15:03.040 --> 0:15:04.680 like when you go to the movies with someone else 0:15:04.800 --> 0:15:06.440 kind of want to like look at them to see 0:15:06.440 --> 0:15:10.000 if they're enjoying the movie sometimes whereas that doesn't happen 0:15:10.440 --> 0:15:13.120 if you're by yourself, like it's just you and like this. 0:15:13.240 --> 0:15:16.120 Magical thing in front of you so interesting. 0:15:16.280 --> 0:15:18.880 And then my other favorite solo date is a little 0:15:18.920 --> 0:15:21.280 bubble bath with a lush bath bomb and some ebs 0:15:21.280 --> 0:15:23.040 and salts and candles, and. 0:15:23.040 --> 0:15:23.800 You love your bath? 0:15:24.000 --> 0:15:25.680 I love my What do you do in the bath? 0:15:25.880 --> 0:15:29.920 Sometimes I read a book. Sometimes I'll just like watch 0:15:29.960 --> 0:15:32.680 a random TV show. Sometimes I just lie there. 0:15:32.880 --> 0:15:34.800 How you like, how do you go reading a book 0:15:34.880 --> 0:15:37.120 in the bath? Because I always have this weird phobia 0:15:37.120 --> 0:15:37.960 that I'm going to drop it. 0:15:38.000 --> 0:15:40.600 I have that phobia, but I'm like, eh, get a 0:15:40.640 --> 0:15:42.280 new one. Yeah, I know what page of one? 0:15:42.520 --> 0:15:47.480 Like you're a badass. I'm so bad living life on 0:15:47.520 --> 0:15:47.800 the air. 0:15:48.840 --> 0:15:49.440 I love that. 0:15:49.640 --> 0:15:52.360 I also got one of those like things from Target though, 0:15:52.400 --> 0:15:54.720 that would being the bath caddy that. Yeah, so I 0:15:54.800 --> 0:15:56.720 just put the book on there smart and I'm like, 0:15:56.800 --> 0:15:58.080 I won't it's not gonna fall. 0:15:59.280 --> 0:16:02.160 I don't trust once. 0:16:02.240 --> 0:16:04.440 Actually I did go in the bath in like with 0:16:04.520 --> 0:16:10.640 an iPad. I thought this paper but willing to keep 0:16:10.680 --> 0:16:13.680 yourself I know, oh yeah, I did any think of that? Wow, dangerous. 0:16:13.800 --> 0:16:15.480 Don't do that. That's beautiful. 0:16:15.520 --> 0:16:19.520 And I think what I've realized, especially as I've gotten older, 0:16:19.880 --> 0:16:23.320 is when you do prioritize yourself and you know, stuff 0:16:23.360 --> 0:16:27.320 like solo dates and it's really like, no, I'm actually 0:16:27.320 --> 0:16:30.880 going to plan like like you would you know, your 0:16:30.920 --> 0:16:33.120 partner or your friend or whatever, and I'm going to 0:16:33.200 --> 0:16:36.120 plan this time and it be like really sacred and 0:16:36.120 --> 0:16:39.680 beautiful and intentional. Yeah, And like you know, we talk 0:16:39.720 --> 0:16:42.920 about this a lot, but like romanticizing your life. So 0:16:42.960 --> 0:16:44.880 if you do have a free Sunday and you know, 0:16:44.960 --> 0:16:47.120 maybe you did ask your friends and they said no, whatever, 0:16:47.160 --> 0:16:49.200 and you're in this situation where you've got a lot 0:16:49.200 --> 0:16:52.760 of free time to yourself, romanticize it, so you know, 0:16:53.120 --> 0:16:56.240 go out and have you know, like in a sigh 0:16:56.280 --> 0:16:58.280 ble and see it like if you're me or if 0:16:58.320 --> 0:17:01.560 you're a tear, like be very intentional with what am 0:17:01.600 --> 0:17:04.800 I actually going to do where I'm going to fill 0:17:04.880 --> 0:17:07.200 up my cup, I'm going to give back to myself 0:17:07.240 --> 0:17:11.680 and I'm gonna almost like treating yourself how you would want. 0:17:12.200 --> 0:17:13.920 Someone else to the perfect date? 0:17:14.200 --> 0:17:15.960 Yeah, you know when you're younger and you think of 0:17:16.000 --> 0:17:18.320 like the perfect date. I just don't even know if 0:17:18.480 --> 0:17:18.720 for that. 0:17:19.520 --> 0:17:20.760 I was like I don't think I have that. 0:17:21.440 --> 0:17:23.280 No, that was a bad thing to say. It was 0:17:23.320 --> 0:17:26.399 a really bandom thing to say. But like movies or whatever, 0:17:26.560 --> 0:17:28.959 like yeah, we all know what that you know somewhat 0:17:28.960 --> 0:17:31.480 looks like of like do that to yourself? 0:17:31.720 --> 0:17:35.520 Yeah, and I think you know it is nerve racking. 0:17:36.440 --> 0:17:38.960 I would say that I don't know about going to 0:17:38.960 --> 0:17:40.919 the cinema like that for me is nerve wracking. 0:17:41.160 --> 0:17:44.800 Yeah, like I wouldn't know what to do, where do 0:17:44.840 --> 0:17:49.600 I buy the tickets that I do all that, let's 0:17:49.640 --> 0:17:50.040 be honest. 0:17:52.200 --> 0:17:54.600 So it's nerve wracking. But I think if you can 0:17:54.640 --> 0:17:57.200 get like more comfortable with it, for sure that time 0:17:57.320 --> 0:18:01.040 comes like really sacred to you and it's like, it's 0:18:01.080 --> 0:18:02.320 really beautiful and it's nice. 0:18:02.480 --> 0:18:03.879 It is, it's very nice. 0:18:03.920 --> 0:18:06.520 So guys, if you get anything from this episode, go 0:18:06.640 --> 0:18:09.640 on a solo date, date yourself, get to know yourself. 0:18:09.680 --> 0:18:12.760 And also what I love with time by yourself is 0:18:12.800 --> 0:18:16.520 like it's so much great evidence for like who you truly. 0:18:16.240 --> 0:18:20.399 Are when no one's looking so true and what you like. 0:18:20.840 --> 0:18:23.879 Yeah, there's so many times I realized because me and 0:18:23.960 --> 0:18:26.560 Tim have been a relationship for so long, that I 0:18:26.640 --> 0:18:30.960 had kind of warped things that I like to suit him. Whoa, 0:18:31.640 --> 0:18:33.600 when he's not there, I'm like, do I even want 0:18:33.640 --> 0:18:35.480 to watch that show or do that thing? 0:18:35.640 --> 0:18:35.920 Yeah? 0:18:35.920 --> 0:18:38.080 And I love to question myself because of course you 0:18:38.200 --> 0:18:41.440 are going to warp yourself somewhat, Like that's how relationships 0:18:41.480 --> 0:18:43.720 generally work. Yeah, but it is good when you're not 0:18:43.760 --> 0:18:46.200 with that person to be like what do I actually 0:18:46.240 --> 0:18:48.240 want to do? What do I actually like? 0:18:48.720 --> 0:18:49.120 Wow? 0:18:49.200 --> 0:18:52.200 I love that and even stuff like something I've been 0:18:52.200 --> 0:18:57.080 doing is for example, on the Sunday, you know, Tim 0:18:57.200 --> 0:19:00.080 had we do a lot of like he gulfs to 0:19:00.119 --> 0:19:02.080 fill up his cart and he had cups sorry, and 0:19:02.119 --> 0:19:03.200 he had golf twice that week. 0:19:03.240 --> 0:19:05.240 And then I won this beautiful solo date. 0:19:05.359 --> 0:19:08.800 And there is like a part of me that was like, oh, 0:19:08.880 --> 0:19:11.560 but I, you know, I should spend it with Tim 0:19:11.560 --> 0:19:14.240 and Ivy, I should do this. But I had to 0:19:14.320 --> 0:19:16.399 be like and advocate for myself and be like, no, 0:19:17.320 --> 0:19:19.720 I'm going to spend time with myself because I deserve it, 0:19:19.760 --> 0:19:23.160 and I, you know, deserve to fill up my own 0:19:23.200 --> 0:19:26.480