1 00:00:05,920 --> 00:00:08,920 Speaker 1: Hello, Welcome to the Happy Families Podcast. It's Friday and 2 00:00:08,960 --> 00:00:10,920 Speaker 1: that means we've got a whole lot of housekeeping, plus 3 00:00:10,960 --> 00:00:13,319 Speaker 1: I'll do better tomorrow. We introspect, look at the week 4 00:00:13,320 --> 00:00:15,520 Speaker 1: that was, what work, what didn't? How are we doing 5 00:00:15,720 --> 00:00:18,279 Speaker 1: where is it all falling apart? What are we doing right? 6 00:00:18,360 --> 00:00:20,680 Speaker 1: How can we do it better tomorrow? As parents? It's 7 00:00:20,720 --> 00:00:23,759 Speaker 1: kind of like our news day really and hopefully you 8 00:00:23,800 --> 00:00:25,599 Speaker 1: get some inspiration for how you can do it better 9 00:00:25,640 --> 00:00:32,000 Speaker 1: tomorrow in your family. Today we've got minted kids, we've 10 00:00:32,000 --> 00:00:37,360 Speaker 1: got four year olds and pronouns, ABC interviews about scooters 11 00:00:37,400 --> 00:00:40,480 Speaker 1: in fact, interviews everywhere about e scooters and the man box, 12 00:00:40,880 --> 00:00:43,360 Speaker 1: and a whole lot more. Oh plus slowing down, having 13 00:00:43,360 --> 00:00:45,599 Speaker 1: operations and getting the kids involved in the kitchen when 14 00:00:45,600 --> 00:00:48,560 Speaker 1: they don't want to do a thing. It's a jam 15 00:00:48,600 --> 00:00:52,640 Speaker 1: packed podcast and all that plus more is coming up next. 16 00:00:55,040 --> 00:00:57,800 Speaker 1: Hello and welcome to the Happy Families Podcast. Real parenting 17 00:00:57,840 --> 00:01:01,520 Speaker 1: solutions every single day. This is Australia's most downloaded parenting podcast. 18 00:01:01,840 --> 00:01:04,320 Speaker 1: My name stops Justin Coulson. I'm here with my wife, 19 00:01:04,400 --> 00:01:08,240 Speaker 1: missus Happy Families, mum to our six kids. Kylie. How 20 00:01:08,600 --> 00:01:11,880 Speaker 1: is the energy? How are you feeling I'm slowly coming back. 21 00:01:12,480 --> 00:01:13,680 Speaker 1: Been a tough week. 22 00:01:13,800 --> 00:01:14,319 Speaker 2: It has been. 23 00:01:14,319 --> 00:01:15,760 Speaker 1: I'm going to talk about that in just a sec. 24 00:01:16,000 --> 00:01:19,640 Speaker 1: But first, as always, it's some housekeeping. We used to 25 00:01:19,640 --> 00:01:25,479 Speaker 1: do this thing called this Week in Parenting. I love 26 00:01:25,480 --> 00:01:28,120 Speaker 1: it when JAYI does that. It makes me sound like 27 00:01:28,160 --> 00:01:32,080 Speaker 1: I'm one of those boys prote your elchies. This Week 28 00:01:32,120 --> 00:01:34,440 Speaker 1: in Parenting. Heaps of stuff to talk about, Kylie, I 29 00:01:34,640 --> 00:01:38,040 Speaker 1: kind of. I'm I'm just going to start the first 30 00:01:38,040 --> 00:01:39,880 Speaker 1: thing that i want to share is that I've appeared 31 00:01:39,920 --> 00:01:42,520 Speaker 1: on a brand new podcast that's called Minted Kids with 32 00:01:42,600 --> 00:01:45,720 Speaker 1: Nicole Peterson McKinnon. It's available wherever you get your podcasts, 33 00:01:45,800 --> 00:01:48,360 Speaker 1: and it's about kids and money management. If you've ever 34 00:01:48,360 --> 00:01:50,800 Speaker 1: wanted to know how to talk to kids about money, 35 00:01:50,920 --> 00:01:52,800 Speaker 1: Nicole's the expert, but she thought that I could offer 36 00:01:52,840 --> 00:01:55,360 Speaker 1: some stuff. Check this out. She's shared a couple of 37 00:01:55,360 --> 00:01:58,880 Speaker 1: clips on Instagram, and this one caught my attention. They 38 00:01:58,880 --> 00:02:01,640 Speaker 1: paid ten percent board, okay, so whatever they earn, it's 39 00:02:01,640 --> 00:02:04,480 Speaker 1: ten percent. I remember one day my third daughter came 40 00:02:04,520 --> 00:02:06,640 Speaker 1: home and she put four dollars fifty in my hand 41 00:02:07,160 --> 00:02:10,120 Speaker 1: and she said, enjoy spending the four dollars fifty dad. 42 00:02:10,280 --> 00:02:12,000 Speaker 2: Was there quite a lot of bitterness? 43 00:02:12,280 --> 00:02:15,160 Speaker 1: She was dead absolutely. Yeah, She's like, what are you 44 00:02:15,160 --> 00:02:16,480 Speaker 1: gonna do with my four dollars fifty? 45 00:02:16,720 --> 00:02:17,600 Speaker 2: And what did you do with it? 46 00:02:17,680 --> 00:02:17,800 Speaker 3: Well? 47 00:02:17,800 --> 00:02:19,200 Speaker 1: I said to her, it's not your business what I'm 48 00:02:19,240 --> 00:02:20,799 Speaker 1: going to do with it. You pay tempercent board. We 49 00:02:20,840 --> 00:02:23,200 Speaker 1: want you to learn these important life lessons. And that's 50 00:02:23,240 --> 00:02:23,799 Speaker 1: where it stopped. 51 00:02:23,840 --> 00:02:24,600 Speaker 2: And did you do it like that? 52 00:02:24,639 --> 00:02:27,080 Speaker 1: Because that made that was a bit withering. That was 53 00:02:27,080 --> 00:02:30,480 Speaker 1: a bit I thought that was. Then there's the I'm 54 00:02:30,520 --> 00:02:32,600 Speaker 1: your dad and I know what's good for you and 55 00:02:32,600 --> 00:02:36,360 Speaker 1: one day you'll thank me ten percent. All the linees 56 00:02:36,360 --> 00:02:38,480 Speaker 1: happening now. I mean, I don't know if I've never 57 00:02:38,520 --> 00:02:40,239 Speaker 1: said it like that, but that's kind of the that's 58 00:02:40,240 --> 00:02:43,640 Speaker 1: the insinuation and what we do and the children don't know. 59 00:02:43,639 --> 00:02:46,040 Speaker 1: And I really hope that nobody who knows our family 60 00:02:46,080 --> 00:02:49,600 Speaker 1: tells our children after listen to this podcast. Yeah, so 61 00:02:49,720 --> 00:02:52,720 Speaker 1: that's the Minted Kids podcast, Kylie's it's a lot of fun. 62 00:02:52,760 --> 00:02:53,640 Speaker 1: It sounds good. Huh. 63 00:02:53,840 --> 00:02:56,720 Speaker 2: We caught up with Nicole recently just to it was 64 00:02:56,720 --> 00:02:59,440 Speaker 2: only this week during Tuesday morning, Yeah, and have a 65 00:02:59,560 --> 00:03:04,000 Speaker 2: chat and I commented to it that conversations about money 66 00:03:04,040 --> 00:03:06,400 Speaker 2: with kids are so much more fun than all the 67 00:03:06,440 --> 00:03:10,880 Speaker 2: emotional grams that comes with being a paranormal girls and 68 00:03:10,919 --> 00:03:12,840 Speaker 2: she just cracked up. She thought it was hilarious. 69 00:03:13,160 --> 00:03:15,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, totally something else that I wanted to share with you. 70 00:03:15,760 --> 00:03:17,920 Speaker 1: You're gonna love this. We have not sat down with 71 00:03:17,919 --> 00:03:20,720 Speaker 1: our daughter Emily, who loves K Pop Demon Hunters, but 72 00:03:20,840 --> 00:03:22,640 Speaker 1: I got to share this with you. This is just 73 00:03:22,760 --> 00:03:25,679 Speaker 1: recently hit Sesame Street and it's worth sharing on the 74 00:03:25,680 --> 00:03:27,000 Speaker 1: Happy Family's pod. Hi. 75 00:03:27,120 --> 00:03:31,079 Speaker 3: Yah, me so excited because me finally get to meet 76 00:03:31,400 --> 00:03:35,880 Speaker 3: me heroes. Yes me, even consider me so the fourth 77 00:03:35,960 --> 00:03:39,200 Speaker 3: member of the K Pop Cookie Hunters. 78 00:03:39,840 --> 00:03:43,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, Cookie Monster, We're the K Pop demon Hunters, not 79 00:03:43,520 --> 00:03:44,440 Speaker 1: cookie Hunters. 80 00:03:44,560 --> 00:03:46,800 Speaker 3: Wait a minute, so you not hunt for cookies and 81 00:03:46,840 --> 00:03:48,960 Speaker 3: save the world one snacky. 82 00:03:48,560 --> 00:03:49,280 Speaker 2: At a time. 83 00:03:49,640 --> 00:03:54,080 Speaker 3: No, what about you hit song We're eating of Bob 84 00:03:54,160 --> 00:03:58,000 Speaker 3: Biz our moment. You know together we're snacking It gonna 85 00:03:58,040 --> 00:03:58,760 Speaker 3: be gold. 86 00:03:58,560 --> 00:04:02,440 Speaker 1: And cookie it. Oh, Kylie, I love this. So you 87 00:04:02,520 --> 00:04:04,200 Speaker 1: know you're big when not only do you have the 88 00:04:04,280 --> 00:04:06,560 Speaker 1: number one movie on Netflix, but you're on Sesame Street 89 00:04:06,600 --> 00:04:09,480 Speaker 1: with Cookie Monster and he's singing your song K Pop 90 00:04:09,480 --> 00:04:12,200 Speaker 1: Demon Hunters. I just want to put on their housekeeping 91 00:04:12,240 --> 00:04:14,480 Speaker 1: isn't important. No, does it help you to be a 92 00:04:14,480 --> 00:04:16,479 Speaker 1: bit of parent by knowing it? Yes? If your kids 93 00:04:16,520 --> 00:04:18,640 Speaker 1: love K pop Demon Hunters, it could just be a 94 00:04:18,640 --> 00:04:21,520 Speaker 1: fun bonding moment. I wanted to share that. Okay, next 95 00:04:21,560 --> 00:04:24,200 Speaker 1: thing that we need to tick off here. My brand 96 00:04:24,240 --> 00:04:27,240 Speaker 1: new book cover for The Book Boys has just landed 97 00:04:27,240 --> 00:04:30,239 Speaker 1: in my email this week. My publisher sent it through. 98 00:04:30,920 --> 00:04:32,880 Speaker 1: I wanted to have the very serious picture of me 99 00:04:32,920 --> 00:04:34,760 Speaker 1: that a photographer took some years ago on the cover. 100 00:04:35,120 --> 00:04:38,800 Speaker 1: They said that I looked too sultry, they said, I 101 00:04:38,839 --> 00:04:43,760 Speaker 1: look centraal, I'm staring with this angry face, my chin 102 00:04:43,839 --> 00:04:46,080 Speaker 1: resting on my hands. It's a black and white photo. 103 00:04:46,320 --> 00:04:50,039 Speaker 2: Oh honey, you're all mine. I can't share you with 104 00:04:50,120 --> 00:04:50,760 Speaker 2: anyone else. 105 00:04:50,800 --> 00:04:54,600 Speaker 1: They didn't want it. They've put together. I mean, I 106 00:04:54,640 --> 00:04:56,120 Speaker 1: told them. I just said, I'm going to be really 107 00:04:56,160 --> 00:05:00,040 Speaker 1: fussy about this cover. This this matters so much a 108 00:05:00,279 --> 00:05:03,839 Speaker 1: book and interacting with a publisher about the blurb on 109 00:05:03,880 --> 00:05:08,120 Speaker 1: the back and the like, the kind words at something. 110 00:05:08,160 --> 00:05:11,800 Speaker 2: Title, the title subject, the whole thing. We've done this 111 00:05:11,880 --> 00:05:14,480 Speaker 2: a lot of times now, and it's been such a 112 00:05:14,680 --> 00:05:15,560 Speaker 2: painful process. 113 00:05:15,640 --> 00:05:17,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, tenth book, eleventh book, something like that I'm just 114 00:05:17,920 --> 00:05:21,120 Speaker 1: so pleased with this cover. It Like I looked at 115 00:05:21,120 --> 00:05:22,719 Speaker 1: it and I was like, you wanted to hate it? 116 00:05:22,920 --> 00:05:24,280 Speaker 1: I wanted to hate it. I looked and I was like, 117 00:05:25,040 --> 00:05:26,599 Speaker 1: I like that a lot more than I thought I would. 118 00:05:27,080 --> 00:05:28,960 Speaker 1: And then I was like, I need to think about this. 119 00:05:29,000 --> 00:05:30,160 Speaker 1: And then I showed it to a couple of people, 120 00:05:30,200 --> 00:05:34,400 Speaker 1: including you, and the feedback was that's pretty good. I 121 00:05:34,440 --> 00:05:37,560 Speaker 1: was like, oh, I know, exactly, really good. So the 122 00:05:37,600 --> 00:05:41,760 Speaker 1: book Boys by Me Doctor Justin Cilson comes out May 123 00:05:41,839 --> 00:05:44,120 Speaker 1: June next year. We're gonna have pre orders available. We'll 124 00:05:44,120 --> 00:05:46,479 Speaker 1: tell you all about it. Just monitor watch the website, 125 00:05:46,480 --> 00:05:49,640 Speaker 1: watch the Facebook page, listen to the podcast. But the 126 00:05:49,760 --> 00:05:52,680 Speaker 1: cover is that like and the can I please read 127 00:05:52,680 --> 00:05:54,160 Speaker 1: you the blurb on the back. I know that we're 128 00:05:54,200 --> 00:05:56,040 Speaker 1: going to get told of it tomorrow soon, but I 129 00:05:56,320 --> 00:05:59,440 Speaker 1: feel like I've really got to this is this is 130 00:06:00,120 --> 00:06:02,599 Speaker 1: exciting for me, like properly exciting. Can I read it? 131 00:06:02,880 --> 00:06:03,400 Speaker 1: Can I read it? 132 00:06:03,400 --> 00:06:05,680 Speaker 2: Can I? Can? I? Can? I you're asking my permission? 133 00:06:05,720 --> 00:06:06,680 Speaker 2: It's your podcast. 134 00:06:06,720 --> 00:06:09,600 Speaker 1: Well it's our podcast. Come on, it's the Happy Family Podcast. 135 00:06:09,600 --> 00:06:11,440 Speaker 2: I see if you're going to listen to me right now? 136 00:06:11,560 --> 00:06:15,000 Speaker 1: Okay, Well here's what the back cover says for the 137 00:06:15,000 --> 00:06:18,720 Speaker 1: book Boys by Me. He's disappearing behind the closed door, 138 00:06:19,120 --> 00:06:22,279 Speaker 1: lost in screens, making choices that keep you up at night. 139 00:06:22,560 --> 00:06:25,760 Speaker 1: He's navigating a world designed to confuse him, algorithms designed 140 00:06:25,760 --> 00:06:28,640 Speaker 1: to addict him, a world parents don't understand and can't 141 00:06:28,680 --> 00:06:32,599 Speaker 1: break into. The headlines scream crisis. They warn us that 142 00:06:32,640 --> 00:06:36,160 Speaker 1: boys are in deep trouble and it's getting worse. But 143 00:06:36,200 --> 00:06:39,159 Speaker 1: it doesn't have to be like this. Doctor Justin Coulson 144 00:06:39,200 --> 00:06:41,960 Speaker 1: has a different story to tell. In Boys, Coulson reveals 145 00:06:42,000 --> 00:06:45,240 Speaker 1: what decades of research suggests when boys get what they 146 00:06:45,279 --> 00:06:48,320 Speaker 1: actually need, they thrive not through force or fixing, but 147 00:06:48,360 --> 00:06:52,040 Speaker 1: through connection, meaningful challenge, and someone who refuses to give 148 00:06:52,120 --> 00:06:55,880 Speaker 1: up on them. This book hands you the playbook. It 149 00:06:55,920 --> 00:06:59,240 Speaker 1: cuts through the noise with practical, research backed strategies for 150 00:06:59,279 --> 00:07:03,560 Speaker 1: the battles you're find right now, gaming, pornography, self control, friendships, 151 00:07:03,600 --> 00:07:07,240 Speaker 1: school motivation, How to discipline without destroying trust, How to 152 00:07:07,279 --> 00:07:10,440 Speaker 1: stay close when he's pushing away, but beneath the tactics 153 00:07:10,920 --> 00:07:16,360 Speaker 1: like something more powerful. A vision of masculinity worth fighting for. 154 00:07:17,120 --> 00:07:20,280 Speaker 1: Boys who help others feel safer and stronger, who creates 155 00:07:20,280 --> 00:07:23,640 Speaker 1: surplus value who become not just good men, but the 156 00:07:23,680 --> 00:07:28,880 Speaker 1: best version of themselves. I'm getting weak. Means so much 157 00:07:29,000 --> 00:07:31,000 Speaker 1: to me. I cannot tell you how much this means 158 00:07:31,040 --> 00:07:33,880 Speaker 1: to me. Oh my goodness, I'm going to throw it 159 00:07:33,880 --> 00:07:35,840 Speaker 1: to you. I'm not trying, but I am getting weepy. 160 00:07:35,880 --> 00:07:40,160 Speaker 2: Yes, because we had a conversation with a young man recently. 161 00:07:40,240 --> 00:07:42,680 Speaker 2: He was in our home and he kind of looked 162 00:07:42,720 --> 00:07:46,480 Speaker 2: at you and just said, you writing a book about boys, Like, 163 00:07:46,640 --> 00:07:49,160 Speaker 2: what gives you credibility to do this? 164 00:07:49,440 --> 00:07:49,640 Speaker 1: Yeah? 165 00:07:50,080 --> 00:07:50,960 Speaker 2: How do you answer that? 166 00:07:51,720 --> 00:07:54,640 Speaker 1: Well? I was one once upon a time. I've got 167 00:07:54,640 --> 00:07:56,400 Speaker 1: skin in the game. I think I've got more skin 168 00:07:56,440 --> 00:07:58,840 Speaker 1: in the game than almost anyone. I've got six daughters. 169 00:07:58,840 --> 00:08:03,280 Speaker 1: They're going to be marrying these boys and helping parents 170 00:08:03,320 --> 00:08:09,760 Speaker 1: to raise strong, healthy, well balanced, wonderful boys. I just 171 00:08:10,160 --> 00:08:12,400 Speaker 1: it matters. Apart from that, I know. I know for 172 00:08:12,440 --> 00:08:15,200 Speaker 1: a fact that so much of what I've done to 173 00:08:15,240 --> 00:08:17,560 Speaker 1: help parents, I hear parents of boys saying all the 174 00:08:17,560 --> 00:08:20,160 Speaker 1: time what you've shared with me has changed my family, 175 00:08:20,240 --> 00:08:23,720 Speaker 1: Like my son benefited so much from this. I've got 176 00:08:23,760 --> 00:08:26,480 Speaker 1: no doubt. This is a game changer. This is such 177 00:08:26,520 --> 00:08:28,280 Speaker 1: a game changer. I'm so excited about it. 178 00:08:28,960 --> 00:08:30,679 Speaker 2: Well, I can't wait for it to come out. 179 00:08:30,880 --> 00:08:33,760 Speaker 1: Okay, Kylie, there are two. We never have this much housekeeping, 180 00:08:33,760 --> 00:08:35,719 Speaker 1: but last week there was none, and we're paying the 181 00:08:35,760 --> 00:08:37,600 Speaker 1: price for it this week because there's so much. It's 182 00:08:37,600 --> 00:08:40,400 Speaker 1: going to be alis the whole podcast. I've done a 183 00:08:40,400 --> 00:08:43,600 Speaker 1: lot of meetia this week, been speaking about interviews about 184 00:08:43,640 --> 00:08:46,000 Speaker 1: EA scooters and e bikes and whether kids should or 185 00:08:46,040 --> 00:08:49,080 Speaker 1: should not be allowed on them. Rather than talking about 186 00:08:49,120 --> 00:08:50,559 Speaker 1: it now, let's just say that this is a hot 187 00:08:50,600 --> 00:08:51,880 Speaker 1: topic and we're going to talk about it in the 188 00:08:51,920 --> 00:08:54,640 Speaker 1: next couple of weeks on the podcast as a full episode, 189 00:08:54,720 --> 00:08:57,800 Speaker 1: especially with Christmas coming, because you can guarantee there's going 190 00:08:57,840 --> 00:08:59,960 Speaker 1: to be a whole lot of eleven twelve, thirteen, four 191 00:09:00,000 --> 00:09:01,920 Speaker 1: fourteen year old is fifteen year old saying can I 192 00:09:02,000 --> 00:09:04,679 Speaker 1: please have an e bike? Oh? And also I want 193 00:09:04,720 --> 00:09:06,120 Speaker 1: you to take the speed limit or off so that 194 00:09:06,160 --> 00:09:08,400 Speaker 1: I can go fast and do monos down the main 195 00:09:08,400 --> 00:09:11,080 Speaker 1: street like my friends. And yesterday was on The Today 196 00:09:11,120 --> 00:09:15,160 Speaker 1: Show talking about the adolescent manbox research research showing that 197 00:09:15,320 --> 00:09:17,800 Speaker 1: the more that kids buy into the gender sterio. Oh, 198 00:09:17,800 --> 00:09:20,040 Speaker 1: there's some more stuff about My Boy's book. This research 199 00:09:20,080 --> 00:09:22,040 Speaker 1: is in My Boy's Book The more that our boys 200 00:09:22,120 --> 00:09:25,320 Speaker 1: buy into the gender stereotype stuff, the more likely it 201 00:09:25,360 --> 00:09:27,280 Speaker 1: is that they're going to have mental health challenges and 202 00:09:27,280 --> 00:09:30,280 Speaker 1: behave in problematic ways. It seems that some attitudes to 203 00:09:30,320 --> 00:09:34,000 Speaker 1: do with masculinity and manhood are damaging. So it was 204 00:09:34,000 --> 00:09:38,000 Speaker 1: exciting bit of media. Last one last breaking news housekeeping 205 00:09:38,040 --> 00:09:40,800 Speaker 1: item for me to share this week. It has been 206 00:09:40,840 --> 00:09:44,440 Speaker 1: revealed Kylie, that parents are being asked whether they want 207 00:09:44,600 --> 00:09:48,400 Speaker 1: they them pronouns used for their four and five year 208 00:09:48,400 --> 00:09:53,960 Speaker 1: old children attending kindergarten in Queensland. Just putting it out there. 209 00:09:54,640 --> 00:09:58,120 Speaker 1: In this year's cohort, forty six kindergarten children around the 210 00:09:58,160 --> 00:10:01,120 Speaker 1: state were nominated by their parents as they them on 211 00:10:01,400 --> 00:10:05,280 Speaker 1: consent forms sent out by the Queensland Curriculum and Assessment Authority, 212 00:10:05,760 --> 00:10:07,959 Speaker 1: and so kindergarten teachers in Queensland have to prepare a 213 00:10:08,000 --> 00:10:10,120 Speaker 1: transition statement to help you and prepare for primary school, 214 00:10:10,120 --> 00:10:12,600 Speaker 1: providing information to their new teachers about their child's strengths 215 00:10:12,640 --> 00:10:17,040 Speaker 1: and weaknesses. But parents also have to nominate children's pronouns 216 00:10:17,080 --> 00:10:19,480 Speaker 1: as part of the process. Do you want to tell 217 00:10:19,520 --> 00:10:20,520 Speaker 1: me what you think? Or do you just want to 218 00:10:20,520 --> 00:10:23,320 Speaker 1: ask me what I think? What do you think, thanks 219 00:10:23,360 --> 00:10:26,640 Speaker 1: so much for asking for goodness sake. Seriously, everything that 220 00:10:26,679 --> 00:10:28,599 Speaker 1: we know about child development tells us that this is 221 00:10:28,640 --> 00:10:33,160 Speaker 1: a really, really bad idea. This idea, I would go 222 00:10:33,200 --> 00:10:35,480 Speaker 1: so far as to call it radical gender ideology, especially 223 00:10:35,480 --> 00:10:37,160 Speaker 1: when we're talking about four and five year old children 224 00:10:37,200 --> 00:10:40,480 Speaker 1: non binary, neither male nor female. For preschool kids, they 225 00:10:40,480 --> 00:10:43,440 Speaker 1: barely have a concept of gender anyway, then you start 226 00:10:43,480 --> 00:10:46,080 Speaker 1: talking about they them. It confuses the hell out of 227 00:10:46,080 --> 00:10:48,800 Speaker 1: the kids themselves, but it creates confusion for all of 228 00:10:48,800 --> 00:10:51,120 Speaker 1: the other kids as well. I think it's a terrible idea. 229 00:10:51,120 --> 00:10:53,679 Speaker 1: I think that there is absolutely no evidence for it 230 00:10:53,760 --> 00:10:57,160 Speaker 1: being of any benefit whatsoever. There is only evidence for 231 00:10:57,240 --> 00:10:59,840 Speaker 1: it causing problems. Now I'm not in a conservative soapbox. 232 00:11:00,040 --> 00:11:02,400 Speaker 1: I'm looking at what the psychological evidence shows us, and 233 00:11:02,440 --> 00:11:06,959 Speaker 1: there is simply none. That is, there's nothing positive about this. 234 00:11:07,440 --> 00:11:09,959 Speaker 2: I think what's most disturbing to me is that this 235 00:11:10,000 --> 00:11:11,319 Speaker 2: is not pushed by children. 236 00:11:11,559 --> 00:11:13,960 Speaker 1: No, no, no, this is no four year old correct. 237 00:11:13,960 --> 00:11:15,160 Speaker 2: This is this is saying this. 238 00:11:15,160 --> 00:11:17,960 Speaker 1: This is the QC douba, this is the QC DO 239 00:11:18,120 --> 00:11:23,080 Speaker 1: way and invested interest groups. Kids that age don't actually 240 00:11:23,120 --> 00:11:25,600 Speaker 1: understand the underlying concepts, even if you think you've explained 241 00:11:25,640 --> 00:11:27,640 Speaker 1: it to them. Damaging for the children. I think it's 242 00:11:27,720 --> 00:11:32,040 Speaker 1: damaging for the family structure. It's damaging for children's well 243 00:11:32,040 --> 00:11:35,600 Speaker 1: being and health and functionality. I would call it indoctrination 244 00:11:35,720 --> 00:11:40,240 Speaker 1: into political ideology from the age of four, and I 245 00:11:40,280 --> 00:11:42,560 Speaker 1: think it's harmful. So there you go. There's my rant. 246 00:11:42,600 --> 00:11:45,520 Speaker 1: I'm excited to have shared everything from the housekeeping good news, 247 00:11:45,600 --> 00:11:48,679 Speaker 1: bad news, and everything in between. After the break our 248 00:11:48,720 --> 00:11:51,680 Speaker 1: older bet. It's tomorrow in record time. But we've had 249 00:11:51,720 --> 00:11:53,640 Speaker 1: some really great learning this week and I can't wait 250 00:11:53,679 --> 00:11:55,720 Speaker 1: to share it with you. It will inspire you to 251 00:11:55,720 --> 00:12:05,719 Speaker 1: make you family happier. That's next. You're back. This is 252 00:12:05,720 --> 00:12:08,600 Speaker 1: the Happy Family's podcast with Doctor Justin Coulson and missus 253 00:12:08,640 --> 00:12:12,560 Speaker 1: Happy Families. Kylie, Kylie, I'll do better tomorrow. I'm going 254 00:12:12,559 --> 00:12:14,720 Speaker 1: to step into it real quick. Slowing down is my 255 00:12:14,840 --> 00:12:18,520 Speaker 1: one last Saturday. So last it was last last Friday, 256 00:12:18,960 --> 00:12:24,080 Speaker 1: after we dropped the pod. You had a procedure which 257 00:12:24,120 --> 00:12:27,400 Speaker 1: pretty much has laid you flat for most of the week. 258 00:12:27,880 --> 00:12:29,920 Speaker 1: We had to prepare podcasts ahead of time so that 259 00:12:30,000 --> 00:12:31,640 Speaker 1: we could make sure that everything would work out. Okay, 260 00:12:32,080 --> 00:12:34,960 Speaker 1: you're finally back on your feet now. But on Saturday, 261 00:12:35,040 --> 00:12:39,959 Speaker 1: because you were just in what's the word, you weren't functioning. 262 00:12:40,480 --> 00:12:41,920 Speaker 1: I grabbed a couple of kids. I said, let's go 263 00:12:42,000 --> 00:12:43,360 Speaker 1: for a surf. Let's go down to the beach. They 264 00:12:43,440 --> 00:12:47,080 Speaker 1: jumped in the car, happily, swam hung out at the ocean. 265 00:12:47,280 --> 00:12:48,760 Speaker 1: Then we went to the markets and bought the fruit 266 00:12:48,800 --> 00:12:50,440 Speaker 1: and veggies and got all the groceries that we need 267 00:12:50,440 --> 00:12:52,760 Speaker 1: for the week. Came back. It was lunchtime. You were 268 00:12:52,800 --> 00:12:54,840 Speaker 1: slowly sort of opening your eyes and going, I don't 269 00:12:54,840 --> 00:12:57,120 Speaker 1: feel very good, but we just had a really slow 270 00:12:57,240 --> 00:13:00,000 Speaker 1: day and still got a lot of the important stuff done. 271 00:13:00,160 --> 00:13:02,920 Speaker 1: The kids chipped in and I don't know if it's 272 00:13:02,920 --> 00:13:05,160 Speaker 1: actually sustainable or not, but it felt really good, and 273 00:13:05,200 --> 00:13:07,600 Speaker 1: so my older bit it's moro was really simple. Sometimes 274 00:13:07,640 --> 00:13:09,080 Speaker 1: it's okay to lay flat on your back and have 275 00:13:09,080 --> 00:13:11,360 Speaker 1: a day off and let somebody else carry the load 276 00:13:11,520 --> 00:13:14,400 Speaker 1: and they can usually do it and hopefully not even 277 00:13:14,400 --> 00:13:16,640 Speaker 1: have a frantic, crazy, chaotic day. 278 00:13:17,360 --> 00:13:19,840 Speaker 2: I was aware of everything that was happening, but I 279 00:13:19,880 --> 00:13:25,120 Speaker 2: didn't have much capacity to be responsive and be involved. 280 00:13:25,920 --> 00:13:27,199 Speaker 1: But I would say you were out of it. 281 00:13:27,640 --> 00:13:29,600 Speaker 2: I heard you guys leave to go for a surf 282 00:13:29,720 --> 00:13:32,760 Speaker 2: and then I heard the commotion when you came home 283 00:13:32,800 --> 00:13:36,959 Speaker 2: and you've jumped in the pool, and I just had 284 00:13:37,040 --> 00:13:43,200 Speaker 2: this moment where I thought, this is what our family needs, 285 00:13:44,120 --> 00:13:48,920 Speaker 2: this moment, this moment in time where Dad's actually home 286 00:13:49,120 --> 00:13:52,280 Speaker 2: and he's able to be connected and be present with them, 287 00:13:52,840 --> 00:13:56,760 Speaker 2: and I actually get to take a step back. And 288 00:13:56,800 --> 00:13:59,920 Speaker 2: that step back was forced upon me, but it was 289 00:14:00,080 --> 00:14:05,679 Speaker 2: actually such a beautiful gift to everybody else as a result, 290 00:14:05,760 --> 00:14:08,880 Speaker 2: because it enabled you guys to have a moment that 291 00:14:08,920 --> 00:14:11,080 Speaker 2: probably wouldn't have happened if I was available. 292 00:14:11,600 --> 00:14:13,679 Speaker 1: It's just occur to me as well. We sat down 293 00:14:13,720 --> 00:14:16,800 Speaker 1: with the kids and said, Mum is convalescing, Mum is 294 00:14:16,880 --> 00:14:20,000 Speaker 1: not going to be in good shape. We've got three 295 00:14:20,040 --> 00:14:21,840 Speaker 1: people over the age of eighteen in this house plus 296 00:14:21,840 --> 00:14:24,040 Speaker 1: a fifteen year old. I reckon everyone can quok a 297 00:14:24,040 --> 00:14:26,440 Speaker 1: meal a night, and they've stepped up. We've actually been 298 00:14:26,480 --> 00:14:28,200 Speaker 1: eating pretty well. The kids are like, I can do 299 00:14:28,320 --> 00:14:30,280 Speaker 1: one meal this week. Yeah, that's fine, I can manage. 300 00:14:30,320 --> 00:14:32,680 Speaker 1: We've worked out what nights it'll be and they've just 301 00:14:32,840 --> 00:14:35,080 Speaker 1: stepped into the void and said, okay, we can do it. 302 00:14:35,120 --> 00:14:37,640 Speaker 1: So we're going to continue this. Whether you're unwell or 303 00:14:37,680 --> 00:14:38,760 Speaker 1: well is irrelevant. 304 00:14:38,840 --> 00:14:40,800 Speaker 2: I'm happy to convalesce as long as you. 305 00:14:40,840 --> 00:14:43,800 Speaker 1: Need me to, all right. So the take home message 306 00:14:43,840 --> 00:14:48,120 Speaker 1: really is share the load. For anyone who's listening who 307 00:14:48,120 --> 00:14:49,840 Speaker 1: doesn't have someone to share the load with, I mean 308 00:14:49,840 --> 00:14:52,440 Speaker 1: that is really really tough. But bringing the kids in, 309 00:14:52,560 --> 00:14:55,680 Speaker 1: sharing the load, having your husband, wife's, spouse, partner, whoever 310 00:14:55,720 --> 00:14:59,720 Speaker 1: it is, just lift a little. It takes so much 311 00:14:59,800 --> 00:15:02,440 Speaker 1: load off the one person who's always making the decisions 312 00:15:02,520 --> 00:15:05,560 Speaker 1: and carrying the load like such a valuable thing. And 313 00:15:06,080 --> 00:15:08,280 Speaker 1: to the degree that you can, there's some value in 314 00:15:08,360 --> 00:15:10,720 Speaker 1: slowing down, especially as we I mean, what are we 315 00:15:10,800 --> 00:15:13,400 Speaker 1: up to now, It's like the seventh of November this 316 00:15:13,520 --> 00:15:17,640 Speaker 1: time in four weeks. Everyone takes their foot off the accelerator. 317 00:15:17,960 --> 00:15:19,840 Speaker 1: Once we get to about the seventh, eight, ninth, tenth 318 00:15:19,880 --> 00:15:24,000 Speaker 1: of December, other than the Christmas chaos with trying to 319 00:15:24,000 --> 00:15:26,760 Speaker 1: do parties and gift shopping and things, we actually do 320 00:15:26,840 --> 00:15:28,640 Speaker 1: get to slow down. So let's do it. Let's sort 321 00:15:28,640 --> 00:15:30,400 Speaker 1: of get into that mindset, start a bit early. 322 00:15:30,760 --> 00:15:33,160 Speaker 2: I've been reflecting over the past week as I've had 323 00:15:33,200 --> 00:15:36,600 Speaker 2: to slow down about life as an early mum, and 324 00:15:37,160 --> 00:15:42,480 Speaker 2: you know, in a young bride and this idea that 325 00:15:42,680 --> 00:15:46,280 Speaker 2: it's my job to kind of keep the household functioning 326 00:15:46,440 --> 00:15:51,240 Speaker 2: and going and come rain, hail, shine, sickness or health. 327 00:15:51,720 --> 00:15:54,960 Speaker 2: It was up to me to keep everything moving and 328 00:15:55,440 --> 00:15:58,520 Speaker 2: I did that for a really, really long time. And 329 00:15:59,560 --> 00:16:05,200 Speaker 2: what was so beautiful this week is just number one 330 00:16:05,520 --> 00:16:08,960 Speaker 2: that I've learned that everything's not going to fall apart 331 00:16:09,120 --> 00:16:13,360 Speaker 2: if I don't step up, firstly, but secondly that as 332 00:16:13,360 --> 00:16:16,200 Speaker 2: a family, we've grown to the point where we can 333 00:16:16,440 --> 00:16:20,760 Speaker 2: recognize when somebody's down that there's opportunities for us to 334 00:16:20,840 --> 00:16:25,800 Speaker 2: step in and step up. And that has been a process. 335 00:16:26,440 --> 00:16:30,400 Speaker 2: So for people who haven't experienced to that yet, just 336 00:16:30,640 --> 00:16:34,440 Speaker 2: know it doesn't happen overnight, and it doesn't happen without intention, 337 00:16:35,200 --> 00:16:38,400 Speaker 2: like this has been a process in our family for 338 00:16:38,600 --> 00:16:41,480 Speaker 2: me to be able to take a step back and 339 00:16:41,520 --> 00:16:45,200 Speaker 2: for others to be willing to step up. And that 340 00:16:45,320 --> 00:16:47,400 Speaker 2: was the beauty of this week for me. 341 00:16:48,080 --> 00:16:50,200 Speaker 1: Love it. We hope there's some inSpot for you for 342 00:16:50,320 --> 00:16:54,440 Speaker 1: the weekend, and hopefully our housekeeping was fun and interesting 343 00:16:54,520 --> 00:16:56,440 Speaker 1: and has given you some food for thought as well. 344 00:16:56,600 --> 00:16:59,000 Speaker 1: The Happy Family's podcast is produced by Justin Roland from 345 00:16:59,040 --> 00:17:02,400 Speaker 1: Bridge Medium and having provides research, admin and other support. 346 00:17:02,760 --> 00:17:05,320 Speaker 1: For more information about making your family happier, visit us 347 00:17:05,359 --> 00:17:09,960 Speaker 1: at happy families dot com dot au. We're back on Monday. 348 00:17:10,160 --> 00:17:13,879 Speaker 1: Teaching kids to think is our topic on Monday. Have 349 00:17:13,920 --> 00:17:17,360 Speaker 1: a great weekend and good luck doing better tomorrow