WEBVTT - Ask Uncut - Resourcefully Fertilising Your Plants 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:03.400 Life on Cut acknowledges the traditional custodians of country whose 0:00:03.480 --> 0:00:06.160 lands were never seated. We pay our respects to their 0:00:06.160 --> 0:00:07.600 elders past and present. 0:00:07.560 --> 0:00:11.320 Always was, always will be Aboriginal Land. This episode was 0:00:11.360 --> 0:00:12.760 recorded on Cameragle Land. 0:00:22.560 --> 0:00:24.599 Hi, guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life 0:00:24.600 --> 0:00:25.000 on Cut. 0:00:25.040 --> 0:00:28.440 I'm Laura, I'm Brittany, and this is ask gun cut 0:00:28.480 --> 0:00:32.200 where we answer you're deep, you're dark, and you're burning questions. 0:00:32.400 --> 0:00:36.120 Why did I just throw peace signs to you? Bilateral? 0:00:36.200 --> 0:00:37.520 When I said, it's Brittany by. 0:00:37.520 --> 0:00:39.519 Lateral like both, yeah, by life double. 0:00:39.600 --> 0:00:42.120 It's a double whammy. A double piece'll do blae. I 0:00:42.120 --> 0:00:43.680 don't think people single piece anymore. 0:00:43.680 --> 0:00:45.760 There's only two kinds of people who do peace signs 0:00:45.800 --> 0:00:47.560 these days, and it's millennials. 0:00:47.040 --> 0:00:49.159 And five year olds. No, you're a millennial, so you 0:00:49.240 --> 0:00:50.320 fit in. You're fine. 0:00:50.960 --> 0:00:54.600 I still to this day have to fight my hand 0:00:54.640 --> 0:00:57.320 coming up in a photo to peace sign like I 0:00:57.360 --> 0:00:57.600 just saw. 0:00:57.680 --> 0:00:58.760 That's not bubbly blue too. 0:00:58.800 --> 0:01:00.520 Laura can get as. 0:01:00.480 --> 0:01:02.680 Close up with that John a slow motion snot That 0:01:02.680 --> 0:01:03.040 should be. 0:01:03.000 --> 0:01:05.720 The piece of social content from today's video of all 0:01:05.800 --> 0:01:07.760 the highlights that are going to happen on today's episode, 0:01:07.760 --> 0:01:09.640 Please let it be this piece of snot that flew 0:01:09.680 --> 0:01:12.400 out of my nose straight into my hand. 0:01:12.800 --> 0:01:15.280 But I'm seen the bubble it was. 0:01:15.600 --> 0:01:17.160 You know, when you're like talking to someone, you snop 0:01:17.160 --> 0:01:19.240 bubble and you know, but you quickly wipe it away 0:01:19.240 --> 0:01:20.480 and you're like, they probably didn't see it, and you 0:01:20.520 --> 0:01:21.600 can see you the conversation. 0:01:21.840 --> 0:01:23.840 That's because most of the time it happens in front 0:01:23.880 --> 0:01:26.080 of people who wouldn't call it out that when it's 0:01:26.080 --> 0:01:27.839 your really good friend, they can be like, I saw 0:01:27.880 --> 0:01:30.240 that that happened, and I'll never let it go. 0:01:30.560 --> 0:01:33.160 Okay, hang on, Speaking of that, I was in a 0:01:33.160 --> 0:01:36.920 sauna last night and the sauna is nice. It was wonderful. 0:01:36.920 --> 0:01:38.520 I sawn it five times a week. It's my thing. 0:01:38.600 --> 0:01:41.920 Because he who doesn't have kids sitting here right now, 0:01:42.120 --> 0:01:43.640 because everyone else I don't have kids. 0:01:43.680 --> 0:01:45.920 I don't have time to sworn five times a week. 0:01:45.920 --> 0:01:49.040 I freaking love to guys the sauna. I can get 0:01:49.040 --> 0:01:53.680 from my bedroom and be in the sauna walking in 0:01:53.720 --> 0:01:56.320 one hundred and twenty seconds. In two minutes, it is 0:01:56.440 --> 0:01:59.280 directly across from my house, Like you can't be closer 0:01:59.320 --> 0:02:01.240 in a sauna, So like sometimes I'm just like, oh, 0:02:01.280 --> 0:02:03.480 duck across and listen to a podcast in there. 0:02:03.560 --> 0:02:05.800 You could be forgiven for thinking that the sauna is 0:02:05.800 --> 0:02:06.920 actually in Brits. It's not. 0:02:07.000 --> 0:02:08.959 And she has an infrared, but it's not. It's across 0:02:08.960 --> 0:02:09.320 the road. 0:02:09.480 --> 0:02:09.600 No. 0:02:09.680 --> 0:02:10.760 But I was just talking. 0:02:10.600 --> 0:02:12.920 About people that ignore things on your face or something. 0:02:13.240 --> 0:02:14.920 I was in the sauna last night and it's a 0:02:14.919 --> 0:02:17.320 thoroughfare like it's the place to be. People come and go. 0:02:17.360 --> 0:02:19.120 It's not a single sauna. It's a big one, so 0:02:19.440 --> 0:02:21.280 you know you can fit, Like, so you all. 0:02:21.160 --> 0:02:22.639 Go in there together. You just sit in there. 0:02:22.760 --> 0:02:25.520 Yeah, that's what people do. Yeah this, Laura looks so shocked. 0:02:25.639 --> 0:02:26.200 It's gross. 0:02:26.280 --> 0:02:28.400 So you can what are those things called that where 0:02:28.400 --> 0:02:29.959 you're like you put your meat in and you cook 0:02:30.000 --> 0:02:30.880 them like a gravy boat. 0:02:31.160 --> 0:02:33.240 Yeah. No, I was like, no, I don't take my 0:02:33.400 --> 0:02:33.919 gravy pot. 0:02:34.000 --> 0:02:35.760 I don't take my gravy boaty in Actually a lot 0:02:35.800 --> 0:02:38.440 of people, Yeah, that was exactly what they said incomes 0:02:38.480 --> 0:02:38.960 the Shrimp. 0:02:39.360 --> 0:02:43.320 Sorry, Laura's lost. 0:02:43.360 --> 0:02:45.000 Do you remember when people used to call people that 0:02:45.080 --> 0:02:48.560 had really great bodies but not great head You just 0:02:48.639 --> 0:02:49.760 realized that's. 0:02:49.560 --> 0:02:51.800 Not what I was saying. I was not calling you. 0:02:51.800 --> 0:02:54.840 You're out and clear, you're clearly your face is clearly 0:02:54.840 --> 0:02:55.520 better than your body. 0:02:55.760 --> 0:03:00.600 Also, also losers, it's not a shrimp, it's a prawn. 0:03:00.919 --> 0:03:03.079 That is why I didn't connect the two, because I 0:03:03.080 --> 0:03:06.080 don't think anyone has said shrimp and yeah, your lobster, 0:03:06.280 --> 0:03:08.320 you're obviously extremely attractive. 0:03:08.600 --> 0:03:11.600 Whatever it starts at about the ankles and shows. 0:03:11.320 --> 0:03:13.359 Up, give you this shovel to keep digging your whole. 0:03:13.880 --> 0:03:17.200 You No, guys, we haven't finished one story yet, so 0:03:18.639 --> 0:03:21.160 we've gone to like four stories. I was in the sauna, 0:03:21.520 --> 0:03:23.679 people coming and going, talking NonStop. It turned into a 0:03:23.720 --> 0:03:25.519 therapy session for this one guy who was asking me 0:03:25.520 --> 0:03:28.000 all this dating advice because his sister listens to the pod. 0:03:28.080 --> 0:03:30.200 He's like, oh, you have that podcast. My sister is 0:03:30.200 --> 0:03:31.680 always like, have you seen Brittany. 0:03:31.320 --> 0:03:32.120 In the sauna? 0:03:32.160 --> 0:03:34.720 Anyway, So we're talking to so many people for like 0:03:34.720 --> 0:03:38.080 twenty minutes. Then finally when I got out, this guy 0:03:38.160 --> 0:03:39.560 just walked up to me because he was about to 0:03:39.600 --> 0:03:40.760 go in the sauner. He's like hey, and he's like, oh, 0:03:40.760 --> 0:03:42.880 you got sang on your face. And I had this huge, 0:03:42.880 --> 0:03:45.000 big thing on my cheek that was it a big 0:03:45.040 --> 0:03:49.640 black I don't know, not'sno. But my point was not 0:03:49.800 --> 0:03:52.200 one person in that thoroughy in that sauna, as I 0:03:52.200 --> 0:03:54.440 was talking directly to them for twenty minutes, said anything, 0:03:54.440 --> 0:03:57.000 and this one guy that I barely knew told me. 0:03:57.000 --> 0:03:59.160 And I was like, why do people not want to 0:03:59.240 --> 0:04:00.960 let someone know? And they've got something on their face? 0:04:01.040 --> 0:04:03.040 I was like, now, embarrassed I gave a serious therapy 0:04:03.040 --> 0:04:05.720 session in there with a goalie or something on my face. Well, 0:04:05.840 --> 0:04:07.000 maybe they didn't notice. 0:04:07.320 --> 0:04:09.760 It is mood lighting in there. It's not like it's 0:04:09.760 --> 0:04:10.360 bright lights. 0:04:10.480 --> 0:04:11.680 No, it is bright lights. 0:04:12.120 --> 0:04:14.320 You go to a sauna and talk to people like 0:04:14.360 --> 0:04:16.960 a fury session sweating in bright light? 0:04:17.279 --> 0:04:19.880 I could that's my worst night. Isn't it like it's red? 0:04:19.920 --> 0:04:21.599 Isn't it like it's the infrared ones? 0:04:21.920 --> 0:04:24.880 Everyone's a hot stone. It's not infrared. She has stones 0:04:24.920 --> 0:04:25.400 and stuff. 0:04:25.520 --> 0:04:28.159 Okay, one time someone in a sauna I did try 0:04:28.360 --> 0:04:30.479 the whole group sauna thing and they stood up and 0:04:30.520 --> 0:04:33.000 they kind of like moved their hands and the sweat 0:04:33.040 --> 0:04:34.800 from their finger flung onto me. 0:04:34.920 --> 0:04:37.480 And I've never been filled with so much disgust and rage. 0:04:37.560 --> 0:04:42.039 I was like, You've got to embrace it. Gee, So no, I'm. 0:04:41.880 --> 0:04:44.800 Not having someone else's sweat that I don't know, a 0:04:44.920 --> 0:04:48.120 stranger's sweat flling onto me and not make a comment 0:04:48.120 --> 0:04:48.440 about it. 0:04:48.480 --> 0:04:50.720 Don't you ever have sex and sweat and like your 0:04:50.720 --> 0:04:55.800 partner's sweat is on you, she's not. She's not letting. 0:04:58.920 --> 0:05:01.680 What goes on in your It's. 0:05:01.560 --> 0:05:03.200 Like fight club, dear. 0:05:03.360 --> 0:05:05.960 All right, Well, look, there's lots to talk about today, 0:05:06.000 --> 0:05:08.200 but firstly, before we get into all of it, I mean, 0:05:08.600 --> 0:05:10.720 let's just segue. We're gonna go from the funny stuff 0:05:10.760 --> 0:05:12.440 to the not funny stuff back to the funny stuff. 0:05:12.720 --> 0:05:14.160 I just wanted to say a very big thank you 0:05:14.160 --> 0:05:16.960 because so many of you guys have slid into our 0:05:17.080 --> 0:05:20.800 dms after Tuesday's episode about conversations that you've had with 0:05:20.839 --> 0:05:23.880 your dads, after talking about Neil, but also just like 0:05:24.000 --> 0:05:26.400 really really nice messages, and then I read them and 0:05:26.440 --> 0:05:27.560 then I cry agains, and I'm. 0:05:27.400 --> 0:05:29.440 Like, oh, We've got the best community in the entire world. 0:05:29.480 --> 0:05:31.920 So I we do, we really do. You guys are amazing. 0:05:31.960 --> 0:05:34.680 So I just genuinely wanted to say thank you because 0:05:34.960 --> 0:05:36.800 I feel the love very much, so. 0:05:37.160 --> 0:05:37.880 Well, we love you. 0:05:37.960 --> 0:05:40.480 I actually, while we're on that train, I also want 0:05:40.520 --> 0:05:42.240 to say big thank you to the community, because I 0:05:42.279 --> 0:05:45.400 got a lot of messages too, which I appreciated. That said, 0:05:46.000 --> 0:05:48.240 I would have cried for you, Brittany when I looked 0:05:48.240 --> 0:05:49.080 at your wedding dress. 0:05:52.880 --> 0:05:54.240 And then we're back up again. 0:05:54.680 --> 0:05:56.240 Hey, Brett, I just want to let you know I 0:05:56.279 --> 0:05:57.640 would have cried for the wedding dress. 0:05:58.040 --> 0:05:59.760 If you'd brought me, I would have cried too. But 0:05:59.839 --> 0:06:01.599 you didn't bring me, and you haven't shown me, so 0:06:01.640 --> 0:06:02.920 I'm not going to cry for you. 0:06:02.920 --> 0:06:03.880 You were in Melbourne. 0:06:03.880 --> 0:06:05.280 I did say let's catch up. 0:06:05.440 --> 0:06:08.279 You wouldn't show me, so I said, send me a photo. No, 0:06:08.440 --> 0:06:10.640 I was at that trade show anyway. I spent my 0:06:10.800 --> 0:06:14.160 entire weekend life in style hocking jewels on a stand. 0:06:14.839 --> 0:06:16.440 To be fair, you were crying a lot. 0:06:16.320 --> 0:06:16.760 As it was. 0:06:16.800 --> 0:06:18.520 Still it probably vig easier. 0:06:18.600 --> 0:06:21.480 I'm sure I flux is not on someone on that stand, 0:06:21.480 --> 0:06:24.039 because let me tell you, everything's really lubricated inside me 0:06:24.080 --> 0:06:24.520 at the moment. 0:06:24.720 --> 0:06:26.359 Why you just like you don't sell anything? You're like 0:06:26.360 --> 0:06:27.159 wise because she's brave. 0:06:27.200 --> 0:06:29.920 Wrong with your snot pretty much? All right, let's get 0:06:29.920 --> 0:06:31.160 into vibes and unsubscribes. 0:06:31.400 --> 0:06:34.719 Okay, my vibe this week is you If you've been 0:06:34.760 --> 0:06:36.480 following for a while, you know that I use the 0:06:36.520 --> 0:06:39.040 menstrual cup like the period cup. I don't use tampons 0:06:39.080 --> 0:06:42.120 or pads anymore. I haven't for years. But I have 0:06:42.400 --> 0:06:45.599 always until recently used a period cup that came in 0:06:45.800 --> 0:06:48.239 like a sash, like you keep it in a little. 0:06:48.040 --> 0:06:49.920 Bag, little bag. Yeah, like a little bag, like a 0:06:49.920 --> 0:06:51.200 little baggy for your period cup. 0:06:51.400 --> 0:06:51.640 Yeah. 0:06:51.720 --> 0:06:53.360 I wouldn't know what a baggie is, but yeah, it's 0:06:53.360 --> 0:06:54.400 a tiny little baggy. 0:06:54.440 --> 0:06:58.160 Everyone it's a tiny moura in her thirties doesn't know 0:06:58.760 --> 0:07:01.200 we were in twenty is Dwine's gonna told you? 0:07:02.520 --> 0:07:03.880 Yeah, so you just used me a bag that you 0:07:03.960 --> 0:07:06.120 tied at the sides, which was fine because you cleaned 0:07:06.160 --> 0:07:08.480 your period cup and wiped it dry and you put 0:07:08.480 --> 0:07:08.680 it in. 0:07:08.680 --> 0:07:09.279 It's fine. 0:07:09.560 --> 0:07:12.720 But I recently updated it to tom organic period cup 0:07:12.800 --> 0:07:17.120 and it comes in a plastic hard casing with little 0:07:17.160 --> 0:07:19.760 pop top. Not only is it the casing, but it's 0:07:19.760 --> 0:07:21.880 also how you sterilize it. So after you use a 0:07:21.920 --> 0:07:24.440 menstrual cup, you usually put it into a cup of 0:07:24.480 --> 0:07:26.600 boiling water and you let it soak, and that's how 0:07:26.600 --> 0:07:27.120 you clean it. 0:07:27.240 --> 0:07:29.520 Process the same mug that you make your tea in. 0:07:30.040 --> 0:07:31.040 Yes, that's what I do. 0:07:31.160 --> 0:07:33.520 Yeah, yeah, I lick it after Laura dry. 0:07:34.360 --> 0:07:36.080 Some people dry and some. 0:07:35.960 --> 0:07:37.960 People pour John on the other guy in the room. 0:07:37.960 --> 0:07:38.960 It's like, what's a period? 0:07:39.440 --> 0:07:43.240 Some people pour their menstrual blood into their houseplants. 0:07:43.240 --> 0:07:43.840 That's what I do. 0:07:43.920 --> 0:07:44.920 I don't pour it. 0:07:44.920 --> 0:07:48.480 Into their houseplants. And apparently it's really good for your plants. 0:07:48.640 --> 0:07:48.840 Yeah. 0:07:48.840 --> 0:07:50.840 I don't actually use a period cup for the week 0:07:50.880 --> 0:07:52.520 I have my period. I just cock a leg over 0:07:52.600 --> 0:07:53.000 my plant. 0:07:53.080 --> 0:07:55.400 You just hang out. You got me, Laura, you got 0:07:55.440 --> 0:07:57.160 me hang out over your mon's. 0:07:57.680 --> 0:07:59.320 Everyone's like what you doing? And I'm like, just just 0:07:59.400 --> 0:08:00.920 chill it. I can't come out this week. 0:08:00.960 --> 0:08:02.000 I'm fertilizing. 0:08:05.680 --> 0:08:07.480 They're like, you mean you're trying for a baby. No, no, 0:08:07.800 --> 0:08:09.480 I'm blaming not to my plant. 0:08:10.360 --> 0:08:13.080 Straight through the soil, straight to the root. 0:08:13.160 --> 0:08:13.440 Get it. 0:08:13.920 --> 0:08:16.720 So anyway, it comes in this hard plastic casing with 0:08:16.720 --> 0:08:19.080 a pop top, and the casing is not only the casing, 0:08:19.120 --> 0:08:20.160 but it's the sterilization. 0:08:20.360 --> 0:08:21.560 So what you do is. 0:08:21.800 --> 0:08:24.000 Put the tiniest bit of water a couple of meals 0:08:24.000 --> 0:08:26.040 in the bottom, close the pop top, throw it in 0:08:26.040 --> 0:08:30.160 the microwave for twenty seconds or thirty seconds, and it sterilizes. 0:08:30.560 --> 0:08:33.880 The process is so quick and easy, so for someone 0:08:33.920 --> 0:08:37.400 if anyone uses menstrul cups, I might be slow to 0:08:37.480 --> 0:08:39.240 the game here with this casing thing. 0:08:39.280 --> 0:08:41.079 But until now I didn't even know it was a thing. 0:08:41.960 --> 0:08:44.240 Like I need to bring it down a second because 0:08:44.240 --> 0:08:46.400 I can't stop laughing. All I'm thinking is, you can 0:08:46.480 --> 0:08:49.200 like sterilize your menstrual cup and make your popcorn at 0:08:49.240 --> 0:08:49.920 the same time. 0:08:50.160 --> 0:08:54.080 You can plant do blay once again, I will stop. 0:08:54.120 --> 0:08:57.240 I have seen these, and I love tom Organics as 0:08:57.280 --> 0:08:59.720 a brand. So you know, when you've had a baby, 0:09:00.160 --> 0:09:01.720 you just believe that no one tells you this. You 0:09:01.760 --> 0:09:04.400 bleed for so long afterwards, right like it's just like 0:09:04.440 --> 0:09:07.280 the world's longest, never ending period. But you have to 0:09:07.360 --> 0:09:09.800 use maternity pads because you can't use templeons, you can't 0:09:09.840 --> 0:09:12.640 use anything like that. The tom Organics maternity pads are 0:09:12.800 --> 0:09:15.600 fucking amazing. They're the only ones that I've ever used 0:09:15.640 --> 0:09:17.480 that don't feel like you're wearing a diaper. Like they're 0:09:17.559 --> 0:09:20.280 so so good. That's not my vibe, but there you go. 0:09:20.480 --> 0:09:21.760 I'm corroborating your vibe. 0:09:21.760 --> 0:09:23.520 If you've been thinking about trying it, you don't have 0:09:23.559 --> 0:09:25.320 to worry about if you've run out having to go 0:09:25.360 --> 0:09:27.120 buy it because you've always got it in your bag. 0:09:27.480 --> 0:09:32.040 It's real and that is not sponsored. Tom Organics could 0:09:32.040 --> 0:09:32.520 sponsor us. 0:09:32.559 --> 0:09:32.719 Tom. 0:09:32.720 --> 0:09:35.640 If you want to sponsor us, come on down my 0:09:35.760 --> 0:09:36.720 vibe for this week. 0:09:36.840 --> 0:09:40.960 I actually stumbled across this because I was watching our 0:09:41.040 --> 0:09:44.720 YouTube channel, little Pluggy plug Plug. Subscribe to us on YouTube. 0:09:44.800 --> 0:09:48.199 It's freaking great. It is one of my favorite content creators. 0:09:48.200 --> 0:09:49.600 You guys have had me bang on about this for 0:09:49.600 --> 0:09:52.320 a long time. Mark Manson has a YouTube clip. It 0:09:52.400 --> 0:09:55.280 is less than ten minutes and it's called the Shocking 0:09:55.280 --> 0:09:59.320 Effects of five hundred Days Without Alcohol. Obviously, Like I mean, 0:09:59.320 --> 0:10:01.920 we've spoken of one podcast quite a lot this year, I've. 0:10:01.920 --> 0:10:03.199 Almost gone sober. 0:10:03.440 --> 0:10:06.160 Like I kind of consider myself mostly a non drinker 0:10:06.200 --> 0:10:09.319 now my too. Yeah, my desire to drink alcohol, yeah 0:10:09.400 --> 0:10:10.200 me as well. 0:10:11.480 --> 0:10:13.600 She drops the bottle. Now she's just putting it beside 0:10:13.600 --> 0:10:14.040 the lounge. 0:10:15.360 --> 0:10:19.559 My desire to drink alcohol has evaporated, and I'm really really. 0:10:19.360 --> 0:10:21.559 Enjoying the effects of sober life. 0:10:21.600 --> 0:10:24.000 And something I have found quite interesting this year is 0:10:24.000 --> 0:10:26.679 that while I've been speaking to people about being sober, 0:10:27.160 --> 0:10:29.520 I almost think that they assume you fall into one 0:10:29.520 --> 0:10:31.520 of two camps. One is that you were either a 0:10:31.559 --> 0:10:34.920 problematic drinker and your behavior was not good when you 0:10:35.000 --> 0:10:38.080 drank alcohol. Emily Weir did a wonderful episode with You 0:10:38.080 --> 0:10:40.160 Guys last year on that. I actually will link that 0:10:40.160 --> 0:10:41.800 in the show notes for anyone who might want to listen. 0:10:41.840 --> 0:10:44.440 It was really really great episode. The other camp I 0:10:44.480 --> 0:10:47.400 think is that you are a health nut and that 0:10:47.520 --> 0:10:50.240 you you know, are an endurance athlete or something like that, 0:10:50.280 --> 0:10:51.080 and that's obviously me. 0:10:51.760 --> 0:10:54.360 I've never felt as though that fit for me. 0:10:54.760 --> 0:10:59.600 And this particular YouTube, Mark went through how he redefined 0:10:59.640 --> 0:11:02.560 what meant like he was the type of person who 0:11:02.600 --> 0:11:06.880 experienced hypo dopaminergic and seeking out stimulus and that's why 0:11:06.920 --> 0:11:10.440 he used to drink. He used to get that impulsive nature. 0:11:10.320 --> 0:11:11.440 Because he used to get these. 0:11:11.320 --> 0:11:14.240 Novel and exciting experiences. And so here too are the 0:11:14.280 --> 0:11:17.280 quotes from the YouTube. He said, quitting alcohol has completely 0:11:17.280 --> 0:11:20.920 reshaped my idea of pleasure, enjoyment, and fun. Novelty and 0:11:20.960 --> 0:11:24.040 excitement is a cheap substitute for intimacy and happiness. So 0:11:24.080 --> 0:11:26.600 if you don't have much intimacy and happiness, you can 0:11:26.640 --> 0:11:29.800 always fill the void with novelty pretty easily, and for 0:11:29.920 --> 0:11:33.440 him that was coupled with drinking. I really enjoyed his 0:11:33.559 --> 0:11:37.280 perspective on how his life has shifted since not having 0:11:37.280 --> 0:11:38.200 alcohol in it. 0:11:38.360 --> 0:11:40.360 I think it's become way more common as well, because 0:11:40.400 --> 0:11:42.880 even when we started this podcast five years ago, it 0:11:43.000 --> 0:11:46.040 was so uncommon to talk about being sober, and I 0:11:46.040 --> 0:11:47.800 think if you said that you weren't drinking, it was 0:11:47.840 --> 0:11:50.040 associated with exactly what you said, that you must have 0:11:50.040 --> 0:11:53.400 had a problem with alcohol. Whereas now I don't think 0:11:53.400 --> 0:11:55.640 that there's as much peer pressure around it, and it's 0:11:55.679 --> 0:11:58.000 in no way the odd one out of your group 0:11:58.040 --> 0:12:00.400 if you don't drink, because there's so many friends groups 0:12:00.400 --> 0:12:02.320 now where people are like just not as into it. 0:12:02.400 --> 0:12:05.280 The one exception I think still exists kind of the 0:12:05.320 --> 0:12:07.440 stigma is I've got quite a few friends who are 0:12:07.640 --> 0:12:10.080 in similar stages where they're choosing not to drink, but 0:12:10.120 --> 0:12:14.560 they're dating and they're finding it a little bit not awkward. 0:12:14.120 --> 0:12:16.160 Perhats, because it makes it easy on a first date, Yeah, 0:12:16.240 --> 0:12:17.680 let's go and get a wine, Let's get. 0:12:17.520 --> 0:12:19.720 A drink, And also when they're with this person that 0:12:19.760 --> 0:12:22.240 they don't know well and they're like, oh, I don't 0:12:22.320 --> 0:12:26.160 drink or I'm not drinking because of the assumptions that 0:12:26.200 --> 0:12:29.880 we've made about why you might not be drinking alcohol. 0:12:30.400 --> 0:12:32.480 I think they find it hard to be like, it's 0:12:32.520 --> 0:12:33.960 not been a problem in my life. 0:12:34.000 --> 0:12:37.040 I'm still fun, Like I'm still fun. Don't worry. 0:12:37.200 --> 0:12:39.600 I just I think for them it's been hard to 0:12:39.720 --> 0:12:43.280 kind of navigate dating alongside sober life. But the thing 0:12:43.320 --> 0:12:46.400 for me is that I never thought I experienced anxiety 0:12:46.600 --> 0:12:50.280 because when I'm drunk, I actually I quite enjoy my personality. 0:12:50.320 --> 0:12:52.560 I've never been the one to cause arguments or you know, 0:12:52.679 --> 0:12:55.439 get to emotional or anything like that. But it's been 0:12:55.679 --> 0:12:58.320 very interesting for me because I didn't realize how much 0:12:58.679 --> 0:13:01.040 three or four days later my mental health would be 0:13:01.080 --> 0:13:03.360 affected by it. And that's been the real change for me, 0:13:03.480 --> 0:13:06.520 is being like, oh, I'm so much more stable. 0:13:06.880 --> 0:13:08.480 I don't have these ups and downs. 0:13:08.520 --> 0:13:11.000 Because I thought anxiety must have been that you had 0:13:11.000 --> 0:13:13.440 anxiety about the behavior that you've done the night before, 0:13:13.760 --> 0:13:16.600 But for me, it's actually been the more prolonged effects. 0:13:16.679 --> 0:13:17.040 I think. 0:13:17.280 --> 0:13:18.920 So, yeah, look, if you're curious about it. 0:13:18.920 --> 0:13:20.920 If you're a little bit so curious maybe or you 0:13:21.000 --> 0:13:22.200 just want to see a different perspective. 0:13:22.240 --> 0:13:23.040 It's ten minutes. 0:13:23.240 --> 0:13:26.160 YouTube's produced beautifully. What is your vibe for the way 0:13:26.160 --> 0:13:26.480 it was? 0:13:26.640 --> 0:13:29.400 So my vibe is I mean, you guys might have 0:13:29.520 --> 0:13:31.680 noticed if you've been watching our socials from the last 0:13:31.679 --> 0:13:34.280 episode or if you're watching this on YouTube. We've got 0:13:34.520 --> 0:13:38.280 brand new spanking chairs in the studio. Yes, so we 0:13:38.320 --> 0:13:40.280 also have new side tables, which you probably can't see 0:13:40.280 --> 0:13:40.560 that well. 0:13:40.679 --> 0:13:41.520 And then you pink rug. 0:13:41.720 --> 0:13:43.000 We also have a new rug. 0:13:43.240 --> 0:13:46.280 Really we really like upped our game here. But I've 0:13:46.480 --> 0:13:49.880 recommended this before. You guys all know Koala mattresses. Koala 0:13:49.880 --> 0:13:53.240 mattresses are amazing. I have a Koala couch at home. 0:13:53.320 --> 0:13:55.760 It's modular. The piece has come apart. You can rip 0:13:55.800 --> 0:13:58.320 the covers off it, which was a really exciting discovery 0:13:58.320 --> 0:14:01.040 after having it for a year. So I already am 0:14:01.080 --> 0:14:04.679 like sold into the world of Koala furniture. But these 0:14:04.760 --> 0:14:08.480 are Koala chairs. Their fabric is beautiful. The name is 0:14:08.559 --> 0:14:10.840 the Suffolk Chair, and they're big. 0:14:10.920 --> 0:14:13.400 That's the thing I like because none of us sit properly. 0:14:13.520 --> 0:14:16.800 I'm literally laying down doing a podcast right, I'm doing yoga, 0:14:17.000 --> 0:14:19.920 I have my feet on the chair. I'm laying sideways 0:14:19.960 --> 0:14:22.400 and I've never been more comfortable. But if you've been 0:14:22.440 --> 0:14:25.080 thinking about upgrading your lounde room or getting new furniture, 0:14:25.400 --> 0:14:28.320 I don't think many people would instantly think of Koala 0:14:28.400 --> 0:14:30.320 because I think people think of them as a mattress 0:14:30.360 --> 0:14:32.800 company rather than them being like a great furniture or 0:14:32.840 --> 0:14:33.720 lounge room company. 0:14:33.920 --> 0:14:37.000 I have always used their lounge that is the sofa bed, 0:14:37.040 --> 0:14:38.240 so it's in my spare the folder. 0:14:38.240 --> 0:14:39.360 I've got that as well upstairs. 0:14:39.400 --> 0:14:40.760 Yeah, because I don't have a lot of room in 0:14:40.800 --> 0:14:43.000 my house, but I wanted a spare room. So Keisha 0:14:43.040 --> 0:14:46.480 actually slept on it last week. Yes, that's you don't 0:14:46.480 --> 0:14:48.760 need to know she was. No, Keisha slept on it 0:14:48.800 --> 0:14:50.920 last week. And it's so good because it's a beautiful 0:14:50.920 --> 0:14:53.160 couch and then you just literally grab a little flat. 0:14:55.560 --> 0:14:58.240 I was so interture. That's not why I was at first. 0:14:58.760 --> 0:15:01.040 My flats were not being she described a little flat. 0:15:01.160 --> 0:15:03.080 But you just flap it out like you just pour 0:15:03.280 --> 0:15:05.960 it out in one swoop, and then you've got a 0:15:06.080 --> 0:15:06.840 ready made bed. 0:15:06.960 --> 0:15:07.840 Can I tell you, guys what. 0:15:07.800 --> 0:15:10.000 I like about Kohala the most, And this exists for 0:15:10.040 --> 0:15:13.560 these chairs as well. No fucking screws, not an Allen 0:15:13.640 --> 0:15:16.280 Key in sight. I put a bed together with my 0:15:16.320 --> 0:15:19.920 boyfriend a couple of weeks ago. I reckon Kowala is 0:15:19.960 --> 0:15:22.520 responsible for saving relationships. 0:15:21.880 --> 0:15:24.480 Because I've put pieces of furniture together in the past. 0:15:24.760 --> 0:15:27.880 Always arguments you can never put a flat pack together 0:15:27.960 --> 0:15:29.960 without causing an argument within your relationship. 0:15:30.000 --> 0:15:30.360 I agree. 0:15:30.680 --> 0:15:33.560 Yeah, the bed took about fifteen minutes to put together, 0:15:33.600 --> 0:15:35.480 and these chairs didn't take long either, so. 0:15:35.680 --> 0:15:38.600 Which Keisha would know because she assembled all of them. Yeah, 0:15:40.040 --> 0:15:41.680 all right, let's get into the questions. 0:15:43.080 --> 0:15:44.280 Okay, Question number one. 0:15:44.640 --> 0:15:47.040 I had this girlfriend that I had only known for 0:15:47.080 --> 0:15:49.880 a short time through work early in our friendship. Just 0:15:49.880 --> 0:15:52.200 a couple of months in, she asked me for advice 0:15:52.280 --> 0:15:55.200 on proposing to her boyfriend. I encouraged her to go 0:15:55.280 --> 0:15:57.360