WEBVTT - You're Single Because Of Your Eyebrows🤦‍♀️

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<v Speaker 1>Flex and Rooms Flex and Frooms. This is the Flex

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<v Speaker 1>and Rooms catch up podcast, Sweety Pies.

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<v Speaker 2>It is so great. Thursday Frooms is favorite day. Taking

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<v Speaker 2>me a year and a half to remember that, but

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<v Speaker 2>we're here now today we're chatting about the formalities around

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<v Speaker 2>weddings and getting engaged at someone else's wedding.

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<v Speaker 3>Would you do it? Would you not do it? Would

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<v Speaker 3>you be mad if.

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<v Speaker 1>Someone did it to you?

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>It's kind of like somebody at your birthday dropping that

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<v Speaker 2>they're like, got a new partner.

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<v Speaker 3>It's not your day.

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<v Speaker 2>Go away, go away anyway, and maybe a single because

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<v Speaker 2>your eyebrows aren't good. This is what's going around on

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<v Speaker 2>the internet. Guys, we're just the messenger. Please, We're just

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<v Speaker 2>the messenger. Missy Deely, enjoy it.

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<v Speaker 3>You're listening to Flex and Frooms on Kaita.

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<v Speaker 1>I was driving to work today and playing in the car.

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<v Speaker 1>I have my car hooked up to Bluetooth so I

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<v Speaker 1>can play my music through the speakers, which is such

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<v Speaker 1>a fantastic experienced after many years of dealing with the

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<v Speaker 1>plug in radio frequencies situation. Wow, you know a little yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it never had to, but it's a hard life. And

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<v Speaker 1>yet I do it with stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>Why would you sooner do that than just bringing a

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<v Speaker 2>whole bluetooth speaker into your car that because you've.

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<v Speaker 1>Gotta fiddle with it. It's not good.

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<v Speaker 3>You just put it on shuffle. Yeah, nah, okay, no,

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<v Speaker 3>it's fine anyway.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm going to work. I'm listening to the Imperfect

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<v Speaker 1>podcast on my favorite podcast, but it's giving very much

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<v Speaker 1>not super pump up vibes like fun fun Chat. Have

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<v Speaker 1>you listened to it?

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<v Speaker 2>No?

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<v Speaker 1>I haven't, no fun Chat, but you know, sometimes I

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<v Speaker 1>need a bit of our pick me up just before work.

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<v Speaker 1>And tell me why I found a song that every

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<v Speaker 1>time I listened to it. I've spoken about this on

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<v Speaker 1>Instagram every time I listen to it.

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<v Speaker 3>Not the recycled content always, babe.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to cackle. A little bit of efferveescent bubble

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<v Speaker 1>rises from my toes, all lay up into my.

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<v Speaker 2>Gart This is one of my favorite things about you.

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<v Speaker 2>Playful from the core, from the core.

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<v Speaker 1>You've been playful your whole life.

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<v Speaker 3>There may something years be serious, twenty four years.

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<v Speaker 1>This is the song. Tell me if if everyone listening,

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<v Speaker 1>do you feel this effervescent bubbles running up your legs?

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<v Speaker 2>Soda water of the heart. I've never seen a more

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<v Speaker 2>genuine smile from Free to reach her eyes in such.

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<v Speaker 1>A severe way. There's like a glaze of joy over them.

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<v Speaker 2>It's reflecting that did nothing for me in the sense

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<v Speaker 2>that if my eyes were closed, nothing would come to

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<v Speaker 2>the surface. But watching you be happy has made me happy.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a macarena, ladies and gentlemen, a little known song

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<v Speaker 1>from now. It's a fantastic song. It's the song with

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<v Speaker 1>the dance and macarena as we all know. It just

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<v Speaker 1>made me thinking, Yes, there are different ways to find

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<v Speaker 1>joy in life, and one of them is listening to

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<v Speaker 1>these weird fun songs.

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<v Speaker 2>Just something about imagine them getting royalties of that song

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<v Speaker 2>to this day.

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<v Speaker 3>But imagine being able to make a hit like that.

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<v Speaker 1>Just one hit, one hit. I used to think when

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<v Speaker 1>I was going, oh, I'd hate to be one hit

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<v Speaker 1>wonder it looks very.

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<v Speaker 3>Appealing, stunning hut myself out.

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<v Speaker 2>I currently hope for one hit, truly, don't ever shrink

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<v Speaker 2>yourself out. The people who are still trying to make

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<v Speaker 2>imagine being a Drake Drake has like ten albums of

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<v Speaker 2>Rihanna nine ten hours.

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<v Speaker 3>People like where is the new music? There is no

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<v Speaker 3>new music.

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<v Speaker 1>Just go back in the back cuddle, go to the

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<v Speaker 1>back catalog.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sure there's a ton you have not heard yet

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<v Speaker 2>and you have not memorized those looks.

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<v Speaker 1>Go back, unfaithful, Rihanna give it up today. I'm just

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<v Speaker 1>gonna come out and say it. Oh. If I hear

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<v Speaker 1>one more person talk about red flags, oh, included, what

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<v Speaker 1>are you going to do? I'm gonna bare my fists

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<v Speaker 1>up into balls and girl and then get over it

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<v Speaker 1>because it's really not that deep. Yeah, you'd emotionally regulate.

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<v Speaker 1>We need to talk about red flags. So I came

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<v Speaker 1>across this video of a guy that's compiled all of

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<v Speaker 1>the red flags that women supposedly have of men, and

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<v Speaker 1>he's kind of like debunking them, right And I watched

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<v Speaker 1>it and I'll get it up for you right now,

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<v Speaker 1>just as the team.

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<v Speaker 2>Outside of the context of us discussing other people's red

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<v Speaker 2>flags on this show or talking about friendship red flags

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<v Speaker 2>and stuff, do we have any dating red flags that

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<v Speaker 2>actually stick?

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<v Speaker 1>We can't get into that now. I'll play the TikTok morning.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, ladies, you want to know why you're struggling to

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<v Speaker 4>find the guy, all right?

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<v Speaker 1>Because this is something I just got sent. Someone just

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<v Speaker 1>sent me said can I send you the X from

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<v Speaker 1>my girls group chat? So yeah, go for it. This

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<v Speaker 1>is just one page of five. So on this page

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<v Speaker 1>it's like where's skinny riped jeans? Doesn't like dogs? Has

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<v Speaker 1>a bit moji? Uses an iPad? Like they're very arbitrary,

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<v Speaker 1>kind of like I know that the next generation will

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<v Speaker 1>look back at this current generation and the ick culture

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<v Speaker 1>and be like that is this is like millennials first

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<v Speaker 1>but first coffee? Does that make sense? Yes? Yes, this

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<v Speaker 1>is a live laugh love of this current generation. But

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<v Speaker 1>it got me thinking, why do we think things like

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<v Speaker 1>white genes are an ick? Is it because we all like,

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<v Speaker 1>who's the arbitra of the rules that say that white

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<v Speaker 1>genes are not cool? Is it general fashion? Or is

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<v Speaker 1>it like other Is there something deeper going on.

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<v Speaker 3>Just white genes?

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<v Speaker 1>Well, white genes is the one that stuck out to

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<v Speaker 1>me because I'm like, it's kind of like a benign thing.

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<v Speaker 1>But I get the same like skinny gene, white gene

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<v Speaker 1>Chino situation, Like why is it that some people find it?

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<v Speaker 1>Why is it like a universal ick?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm less icky about fashion because I just really like

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<v Speaker 2>when people have a personal sense of style, so I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not really picky about the clothes that fit in that style.

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<v Speaker 2>I just assigned positive characteristics people who think about the

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<v Speaker 2>way that they present to the world. I like when

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<v Speaker 2>I interact with people who I think have a considered

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<v Speaker 2>idea of who they are and they want to express

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<v Speaker 2>that through whatever that looks like to them.

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<v Speaker 1>Cool. Okay, Well that's a really interesting point because I

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<v Speaker 1>wonder people then that are like turned off by guys

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<v Speaker 1>or girls that don't fit into this like very specific

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<v Speaker 1>acceptable fashion code. If it's maybe they don't accept it

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<v Speaker 1>because they don't accept themselves because they're really like playing

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<v Speaker 1>into this like quote unquote fashion desire.

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<v Speaker 2>And I think there's merit in that because I like

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<v Speaker 2>a kookie, quirky type of person and like with a

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<v Speaker 2>little something peculiar happening.

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<v Speaker 3>So I'm going to take that as like.

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<v Speaker 2>A the the consequence of dating someone peculiar.

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<v Speaker 3>There'sn't a few pieces that you don't really like.

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<v Speaker 1>You do what you can, but it's part of the

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<v Speaker 1>broader tapestry of that person, definitely, But I reckon that

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<v Speaker 1>what is an interesting thing to consider if you're someone

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<v Speaker 1>who gets turned off by IX like that that are

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<v Speaker 1>kind of something that someone can change about themselves is

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<v Speaker 1>to think about, Yeah, what parts of yourself do you

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<v Speaker 1>not ex because I think getting caught up on things

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<v Speaker 1>that aren't really like value based. Like let's say you

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<v Speaker 1>really want a relationship, but you keep up against these

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<v Speaker 1>icks that like keep giving you like full on ick vibes.

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<v Speaker 1>Go back and think, oh, what do I actually want?

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<v Speaker 1>And then decide are the genes an ick because I

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<v Speaker 1>actually think that they're unattractive? Or are they an ick

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<v Speaker 1>because I don't accept myself and I don't want people

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<v Speaker 1>to see me with this person who I think is

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<v Speaker 1>a bad reflection on me. Mmmm. That's my key takeaway

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<v Speaker 1>when I see this exhaustive list.

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<v Speaker 2>Anytime I see IX and red flags that are used

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<v Speaker 2>in a context that isn't completely joking, I just assume

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<v Speaker 2>the person's emostally unavailable and it's trying to put a

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<v Speaker 2>bow on it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, totally as.

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<v Speaker 3>You should make it look good for yourself. Literally, Oh

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<v Speaker 3>my god, it is flex and rooms on cat. Why

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<v Speaker 3>are you single?

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<v Speaker 2>Some unsuspecting stranger asks you, maybe it's a loved one.

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<v Speaker 2>Actually yes, And then you smile and you nod.

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<v Speaker 3>And you giggle.

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<v Speaker 2>Hoping I'll just move the conversation along, and sometimes they

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<v Speaker 2>do and oftentimes they don't. And so every now and

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<v Speaker 2>then you might have to ask yourself, what am I single?

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<v Speaker 2>And you go through the roller deck. Maybe I'm not attractive,

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe I'm nobody's tired.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe it's just there's like no good fish in the

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<v Speaker 3>sea anyware we ate the more.

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<v Speaker 1>A lobster eight.

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<v Speaker 2>But this TikToker, via the name Snooper snub R, talks

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<v Speaker 2>about the power of persuasion and girl bossing and eyebrows

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<v Speaker 2>and have all these things have got.

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<v Speaker 3>Plenty more to do with your singleness than you think.

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<v Speaker 4>In college, there's this lady who had a monopoly on

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<v Speaker 4>the eyebrown industry, and to this day, I think her

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<v Speaker 4>marketing tactic is one of the best I've ever seen.

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<v Speaker 4>She got her start by targeting greek life, so she

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<v Speaker 4>was the exclusive eyebrown lady for every sorority on campus.

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<v Speaker 4>Because she targeted sorority, she was able to up her

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<v Speaker 4>prices and getting her eyebrows done with her was like

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<v Speaker 4>thirty five dollars. And her tagline was essentially, you're not ugly,

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<v Speaker 4>your eyebrows just suck and that's why you don't have

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<v Speaker 4>a boyfriend. So anytime she met anyone, she was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 4>you're single, not for long, not for long. You won't

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<v Speaker 4>be for long because I'm gonna touch your eyebrows.

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<v Speaker 3>And the thing is, I.

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<v Speaker 4>Don't know if it's manifestation or what. Every time someone

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<v Speaker 4>got their eyebrows out with her, like less than a

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<v Speaker 4>week or two after you would have a boyfriend, it

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<v Speaker 4>was inevitable. Obviously, there's many reasons why this may be

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<v Speaker 4>the case. But my best friend, for some reason, was

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<v Speaker 4>really invested, and she's like, she's right, She's the only

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<v Speaker 4>reason I'm single is because my eyebrows are bad. So

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<v Speaker 4>she would fork over like forty dollars to get her

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<v Speaker 4>eyebrows threaded by this person who was essentially.

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<v Speaker 1>Just calling her ugly.

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<v Speaker 4>And I was like, oh, you're getting the true Indian

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<v Speaker 4>American experience because I exclusively go to Indian women so

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<v Speaker 4>they can do like, you look prettier last time, and

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<v Speaker 4>then I would pay them for it. Anyway, during lockdown,

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<v Speaker 4>she would drive two and a half hours just to

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<v Speaker 4>get her eyebrows done exclusively by this lady. After doing

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<v Speaker 4>her eyebrows with this lady for two weeks, she also

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<v Speaker 4>got a boyfriend after twenty plus years of being single

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<v Speaker 4>in college, there's this lady who I'm an off.

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<v Speaker 1>Now, I'm not gonna say that is not the reason.

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<v Speaker 2>But if you're feeling some kind of desperate or you

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<v Speaker 2>just seeking answers or looking for options. You've tried the apps,

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<v Speaker 2>you tried going to your local Bunnings looking confused, you've

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<v Speaker 2>tried meet and greets, you've tried speed dating, you tried

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<v Speaker 2>blind dating, you tried the friend group and it's not working.

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<v Speaker 3>Just go back to basics and try eyebrows. Just see

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<v Speaker 3>how you go.

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<v Speaker 1>Honestly, sometimes you just do need a second opinion to

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<v Speaker 1>get a little bit of a refresh on the hair

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<v Speaker 1>on the eyebrows. You know, you get stuck in your routines.

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<v Speaker 1>If you're ready for it, definitely, if if you want

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<v Speaker 1>to change, you want to shake.

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<v Speaker 2>It up, because you know, I'm very sensitive, so I

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<v Speaker 2>don't like asking for feedback at all, so beware.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, don't give it unsolicited.

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<v Speaker 3>That's it.

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<v Speaker 2>No, don't ask for it if you're not ready for it.

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<v Speaker 2>You don't go out to your you're nearest andjuriors.

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<v Speaker 3>What could I change?

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<v Speaker 1>Is that ratting off a few things. Don't do your

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<v Speaker 1>spring form form? Clearly, I never used it. We got

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<v Speaker 1>a listener submission. Wanted to know if they are rude?

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<v Speaker 3>Not the right person to ask. My parameter is so off.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes I feel like I'm being rude, no polite, or

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<v Speaker 2>like there have been moments where I've tried to be

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<v Speaker 2>the bigger person and not said something because I knew

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<v Speaker 2>I was gonna say something shady, and it's come across.

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<v Speaker 3>Me listening intently to you.

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<v Speaker 5>I see the videos, babe. In my head, I'm like, Sometimes.

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<v Speaker 1>Fruits will stop talking like is everything currently? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>Why?

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<v Speaker 1>And then I see the playback? Please continue? Ah, Flex

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<v Speaker 1>and Frooms, I love your podcast. Isn't it considered rude?

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<v Speaker 1>And they've just gone straight into it? I love this.

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<v Speaker 1>Isn't it considered rude for your date or friend or

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<v Speaker 1>person you're hanging out with to not introduce you to

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<v Speaker 1>whoever they run into. I was just starting to date

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<v Speaker 1>a guy and whenever we run into people he knew,

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<v Speaker 1>he would literally ignore me. Even the person he would

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<v Speaker 1>run into would look me in the eyes. This was

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<v Speaker 1>a huge turn off for me and in my opinion,

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<v Speaker 1>a sign of disrespect. He can call me a friend,

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<v Speaker 1>or just say something like this is insert name here

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<v Speaker 1>instead nothing, We're no longer dating upset devil face nice.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna say this is a pet peeve of mine

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<v Speaker 1>as well, Queen. It is very easy to say, hey, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm out myself. I never remembert anyone's name. Okay, So

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<v Speaker 1>when I'm with somebody else in public and I'm going

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<v Speaker 1>to run into you, let's say I know you well,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm still the name is going ah ah, I'll say, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>oh my god, have you met Roger. Like I'll be like, oh, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>this is Roger. And then I just will like hope

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<v Speaker 1>that Roger will be like, hey, I'm Roger and they'll

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<v Speaker 1>be like, oh, my name's Lucy. Right. That's what I do.

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<v Speaker 1>I could never have someone I don't like the idea

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<v Speaker 1>of like being with someone there. They're just like sitting

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<v Speaker 1>there like the may I please please yonder.

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<v Speaker 2>There have been instances where I have not introduced the

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<v Speaker 2>person i'm speaking to the person i'm with because I

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<v Speaker 2>don't like the person I'm speaking to, because I don't

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<v Speaker 2>want to invite them further into my life and spread

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<v Speaker 2>the network wide open and provide context.

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<v Speaker 1>It's similar to the way that.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, you know, sometimes you receive an email from someone

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<v Speaker 2>and you're like, just because you've sent it and it's landed,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not going to respond because I don't want to

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<v Speaker 2>respond to what's in this email. I don't want to

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<v Speaker 2>deal with it. Same with interactions. I really value the

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<v Speaker 2>friends that I have, but I also have a ton

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<v Speaker 2>of people that I interact with on a daily basis

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<v Speaker 2>who I don't think it's necessary to rope them in

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<v Speaker 2>or like bridge the gap between stranger and close person.

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<v Speaker 3>To me, it's just not necessary.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes if that's not the case, if we're at just

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<v Speaker 2>like a communal house party or whatever, I won't introduce

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<v Speaker 2>the person I'm with to the person who's saying hello.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want to have a bigger conversation than a

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<v Speaker 2>fleeting high by, because if I can't do a high hi,

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<v Speaker 2>this is Licinda gotta go.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a bit of that.

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<v Speaker 3>But it's obvious.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh really, I want to be I obvious in the

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<v Speaker 2>way that it's sending mixed signals. I want it to

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<v Speaker 2>be clear what I'm doing without having to say the words.

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<v Speaker 1>I like that.

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<v Speaker 3>So if I've heard a few feelings on the way

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<v Speaker 3>I do understand, and.

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<v Speaker 1>We unreservedly don't apologize, but there's definitely some empathy there.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, in this instance, I see why you'd feel some

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<v Speaker 2>kind of way.

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<v Speaker 1>My wife and I, she's a female twenty six and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a male thirty two, got married two weeks ago.

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<v Speaker 1>Cute at our reception, her cousin Rachel caught the bouquet.

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<v Speaker 1>Apparently her boyfriend Ross had been carrying a ring around

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<v Speaker 1>waiting for the right time to propose this is real

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<v Speaker 1>and decided that when she was catching the bouquet that

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<v Speaker 1>was a sign. So immediately after Rachel caught the bouquet,

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<v Speaker 1>Ross ran out the dance floor and got down on

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<v Speaker 1>money propose to her. She said yes, and obviously shifted

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<v Speaker 1>the vibe onto them. Then the DJ played their song

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<v Speaker 1>for a chance and derailed the next few things that

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<v Speaker 1>we had planned. No, I was already not happy about

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<v Speaker 1>this because we only had the photographer available for a

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<v Speaker 1>short amount of time. My wife doesn't often do things

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<v Speaker 1>for herself. We put a lot of money into the wedding.

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<v Speaker 1>I decided to ask Ross and Rachel to leave, and

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<v Speaker 1>at the time my wife agreed with me. So when

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<v Speaker 1>I had the.

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<v Speaker 3>Time, she said go get him king.

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<v Speaker 1>So when I next had the chance, I pulled Ross

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<v Speaker 1>aside to tell him I didn't appreciate him upstaging us

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<v Speaker 1>and that I thought it'd be best if he and

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<v Speaker 1>Rachel left early. Ross started arguing with me and said

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<v Speaker 1>that I was acting nuts, which caused more of a

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<v Speaker 1>scene than I expected. A few of the wedding guests

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<v Speaker 1>overheard the conversation and jumped in with their opinions. It's

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<v Speaker 1>a whole group activity. Ross and Rachel did ultimately decide

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<v Speaker 1>to leave, but people were talking about them getting engaged

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<v Speaker 1>and also making them out. Everyone was on our side,

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<v Speaker 1>but even my wife and I weren't happy that people

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<v Speaker 1>continue to talk about Rachel.

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<v Speaker 3>This is a Barber Streie sound effect.

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<v Speaker 1>My wife has since said that it was wrong to

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<v Speaker 1>kick them out and we should have pretended to be

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<v Speaker 1>happy for them in the moment, so it's not to

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<v Speaker 1>ruin the night because people would have talked less about

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<v Speaker 1>it that way. Rachel's mother has also complained to my

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<v Speaker 1>wife's mother their sisters about me kicking them out. What oh,

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<v Speaker 1>Rachel's the cousin, Because now this is the only thing

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<v Speaker 1>anyone's going to remember about the wedding. I still do

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<v Speaker 1>think that Ross and Rachel, mostly Ross, were arseholes in

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<v Speaker 1>this situation. But was I also and saying, let's take

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<v Speaker 1>a little break. You're on flexing frooms on catera ninety

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<v Speaker 1>six point one or dab, not dad, but it's a dab.

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<v Speaker 1>We'll be back right after the break. See then it's

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<v Speaker 1>flex and frooms on catera. You have a wedding flex

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<v Speaker 1>and in the wedding you toss the bouquet. Who catches it?

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<v Speaker 1>Your cousin. Your cousin's partner decides this is an opportune

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<v Speaker 1>time to get done on one knee and present her

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<v Speaker 1>a ring. She says, yes, they are engaged at your wedding,

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<v Speaker 1>thus derailing the evening. Are you the arsehole for then

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<v Speaker 1>kicking them out? Yeah? Really, it's all just a bit much,

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<v Speaker 1>isn't it.

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<v Speaker 3>It's all just a bit much, isn't it.

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<v Speaker 2>What I will say is the whole thing to me

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<v Speaker 2>sounds exactly like the barber stride sound effect, which is

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<v Speaker 2>when you draw attention to something by trying to conceal it.

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<v Speaker 2>So in this instance the attention has already been drawn.

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<v Speaker 2>By removing the people who are causing the attention, you

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<v Speaker 2>draw more attention with their absence. So in that instance

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<v Speaker 2>I would have given them a talking to and let

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<v Speaker 2>them stew in the discomfort.

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<v Speaker 3>I think I would even double down.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll do a talking to or better yet, mum, can

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<v Speaker 2>you go talk to so and so? Let someone else

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<v Speaker 2>do it talking to give them a few dirtiest became

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<v Speaker 2>a classy, Give a classy and let them stew in

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<v Speaker 2>the discomfort of that, because that's insane behavior.

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<v Speaker 1>Get the logic though, skep moment.

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<v Speaker 2>We also have a love like perfect timing. But also

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<v Speaker 2>the point about the photographer. We've only got a photographer

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<v Speaker 2>for a few for a limited time.

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<v Speaker 3>Don't waste the energy. I don't know. Yeah, you are

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<v Speaker 3>the asshole.

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<v Speaker 1>I think you're not the asshole on your day you

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<v Speaker 1>can behave I think we need to bring in groom zillas,

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<v Speaker 1>and this is a very groomzilla type thing to do.

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<v Speaker 1>I think maybe it would have caused you less grief

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<v Speaker 1>if you just let them shoe in their own discomfort

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<v Speaker 1>as you say, yeah, share. However, sometimes you do just

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<v Speaker 1>got to kick someone out.

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<v Speaker 2>There's something about in that instance, the transference of asshole

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<v Speaker 2>behavior is something you've got to be really careful about

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<v Speaker 2>because We have a lot of these dilemmas come through

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<v Speaker 2>when in trying to point out someone's asshole behavior, you

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<v Speaker 2>then become the asshole.

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<v Speaker 3>We want to avoid that it's not worth it. On

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<v Speaker 3>your own wedding day, you are now the bad guy.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not about that lot.

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<v Speaker 2>How many attendees one hundred, one fifty, let's say, two

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<v Speaker 2>hundred flat two hundred people have now got it in

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<v Speaker 2>their mouth that you are a groomzilla on your big day.

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<v Speaker 2>Your own wife, who who was egging you on to

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<v Speaker 2>go kick your cousin out, is also thinking you were

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<v Speaker 2>doing too much.

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<v Speaker 3>It's not worth it.

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