WEBVTT - Are People Who Don’t Use Social Media A Red Flag? 🚩

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<v Speaker 1>Flex and Frooms, Flex and Firms. This is the Flex

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<v Speaker 1>and Frooms catch Up podcast. It's Flexi and Fumiani and

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know about u flex, but when dating someone new,

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<v Speaker 1>obviously you're doing the cursory Google. I'm signing out of

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<v Speaker 1>my LinkedIn so I can look at yours. I'm going

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<v Speaker 1>through really yeah, welly serious. I'm getting a friend that's

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<v Speaker 1>not affiliated with me socially to go on their LinkedIn,

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<v Speaker 1>assess the information, perhaps a little screen record, and then

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<v Speaker 1>we're gonna google their name and then see like sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>there's like school results you can like whoa Yeah, like

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<v Speaker 1>atar results where if you google it, this is hectic.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's if you get like a certain result

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<v Speaker 1>in a certain subject blah blah blah blah. Where else

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<v Speaker 1>can you google them?

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<v Speaker 2>Not the Atar results when you're ten years from high school.

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<v Speaker 1>Surely they're going to wipe that results to the point

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<v Speaker 1>or their Facebook and their mom and their dad and

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<v Speaker 1>their brothers and et cetera. But this is a question

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<v Speaker 1>that's posed by one of our listeners, Bray. She texts

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<v Speaker 1>us In in the Flex and Rooms show page on Instagram,

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<v Speaker 1>please send through your questions, and she said, people who

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<v Speaker 1>don't use social media are red flag? Eg, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>have Instagram? Can we get off hinge and text? So

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<v Speaker 1>you heard this, Someone's like, let's get off now.

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<v Speaker 2>I get it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I didn't like to read it three times? So yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>what do you think people who are like I think

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<v Speaker 1>a red flag in general is someone saying I don't

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<v Speaker 1>use the app much. Let's move to another platform, like

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<v Speaker 1>you're on there, I'm on there, let's be together on here.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not going to add you or get your number

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<v Speaker 1>until we've met and had one date. Okay, I'm keeping

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<v Speaker 1>it in app.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, No, So this is saying they don't have social media.

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<v Speaker 3>So instead of just saying, hey, let's go on to

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<v Speaker 3>a different profile, it's like, no, we don't even have Instagram.

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<v Speaker 3>Let's just straight go to the text.

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<v Speaker 1>Which I think is just as bad, Like just keep

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<v Speaker 1>it in the app until we meet. I don't need

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<v Speaker 1>your number, Okay, don't text me. I don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>text someone full stop until I've met them. Like I

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<v Speaker 1>have once organized a date with someone we've met in person,

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<v Speaker 1>and then he's texting me chitty chatty, chitty chatty before

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<v Speaker 1>we've had the date, Like I'm not gonna waste my time,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm not gonna waste your time because I don't

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<v Speaker 1>like to text full stop thoughts.

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<v Speaker 2>I love when you get fired up.

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<v Speaker 3>Produce a brook I've actually also had this happen to me,

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<v Speaker 3>and it pisses me off. So I tell them sorry,

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<v Speaker 3>I don't have a phone, and it confuses so much,

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<v Speaker 3>and they're like, what do you mean, And I say,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm using my desktop computer.

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<v Speaker 1>Shut your genius, Brookie.

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<v Speaker 3>It works and.

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<v Speaker 1>Brookie, Yeah, good on you, Brookie. I've got a head

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<v Speaker 1>in the game.

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<v Speaker 2>Brookie gets it. I don't think it's a red flag

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<v Speaker 2>because I think what ends up happening is that when

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<v Speaker 2>you have access to someone's social media, you start to

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<v Speaker 2>you start to draw conclusions that aren't actually helpful and

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<v Speaker 2>probably are going to do worse for your relationship in

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<v Speaker 2>the short term.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah facts.

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<v Speaker 2>So it creates this level of intimacy that's not really

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<v Speaker 2>there because you see them with their friends and they're

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<v Speaker 2>joking and they're off guard because they're not showing up

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<v Speaker 2>to you with the information that they actually want to

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<v Speaker 2>give to you. So I don't think it's a red

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<v Speaker 2>flag at all. And if someone said point blank, I

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<v Speaker 2>don't use social media. I wouldn't think it was a

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<v Speaker 2>bad thing. Also, most people don't use social media. They

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<v Speaker 2>have it. I'm going to go to their page. They've

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<v Speaker 2>got four photos, their last upload was twenty sixteen. At

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<v Speaker 2>that point, you don't use social media realistically. Not a

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<v Speaker 2>red flag.

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