Speaker 1: Flex and Frooms, Flex and Firms. This is the Flex
Speaker 1: and Frooms catch Up podcast. It's Flexi and Fumiani and
Speaker 1: I don't know about u flex, but when dating someone new,
Speaker 1: obviously you're doing the cursory Google. I'm signing out of
Speaker 1: my LinkedIn so I can look at yours. I'm going
Speaker 1: through really yeah, welly serious. I'm getting a friend that's
Speaker 1: not affiliated with me socially to go on their LinkedIn,
Speaker 1: assess the information, perhaps a little screen record, and then
Speaker 1: we're gonna google their name and then see like sometimes
Speaker 1: there's like school results you can like whoa Yeah, like
Speaker 1: atar results where if you google it, this is hectic.
Speaker 1: I think it's if you get like a certain result
Speaker 1: in a certain subject blah blah blah blah. Where else
Speaker 1: can you google them?
Speaker 2: Not the Atar results when you're ten years from high school.
Speaker 1: Surely they're going to wipe that results to the point
Speaker 1: or their Facebook and their mom and their dad and
Speaker 1: their brothers and et cetera. But this is a question
Speaker 1: that's posed by one of our listeners, Bray. She texts
Speaker 1: us In in the Flex and Rooms show page on Instagram,
Speaker 1: please send through your questions, and she said, people who
Speaker 1: don't use social media are red flag? Eg, I don't
Speaker 1: have Instagram? Can we get off hinge and text? So
Speaker 1: you heard this, Someone's like, let's get off now.
Speaker 2: I get it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I didn't like to read it three times? So yeah,
Speaker 1: what do you think people who are like I think
Speaker 1: a red flag in general is someone saying I don't
Speaker 1: use the app much. Let's move to another platform, like
Speaker 1: you're on there, I'm on there, let's be together on here.
Speaker 1: I'm not going to add you or get your number
Speaker 1: until we've met and had one date. Okay, I'm keeping
Speaker 1: it in app.
Speaker 3: Yes, No, So this is saying they don't have social media.
Speaker 3: So instead of just saying, hey, let's go on to
Speaker 3: a different profile, it's like, no, we don't even have Instagram.
Speaker 3: Let's just straight go to the text.
Speaker 1: Which I think is just as bad, Like just keep
Speaker 1: it in the app until we meet. I don't need
Speaker 1: your number, Okay, don't text me. I don't want to
Speaker 1: text someone full stop until I've met them. Like I
Speaker 1: have once organized a date with someone we've met in person,
Speaker 1: and then he's texting me chitty chatty, chitty chatty before
Speaker 1: we've had the date, Like I'm not gonna waste my time,
Speaker 1: and I'm not gonna waste your time because I don't
Speaker 1: like to text full stop thoughts.
Speaker 2: I love when you get fired up.
Speaker 3: Produce a brook I've actually also had this happen to me,
Speaker 3: and it pisses me off. So I tell them sorry,
Speaker 3: I don't have a phone, and it confuses so much,
Speaker 3: and they're like, what do you mean, And I say,
Speaker 3: I'm using my desktop computer.
Speaker 1: Shut your genius, Brookie.
Speaker 3: It works and.
Speaker 1: Brookie, Yeah, good on you, Brookie. I've got a head
Speaker 1: in the game.
Speaker 2: Brookie gets it. I don't think it's a red flag
Speaker 2: because I think what ends up happening is that when
Speaker 2: you have access to someone's social media, you start to
Speaker 2: you start to draw conclusions that aren't actually helpful and
Speaker 2: probably are going to do worse for your relationship in
Speaker 2: the short term.
Speaker 1: Yeah facts.
Speaker 2: So it creates this level of intimacy that's not really
Speaker 2: there because you see them with their friends and they're
Speaker 2: joking and they're off guard because they're not showing up
Speaker 2: to you with the information that they actually want to
Speaker 2: give to you. So I don't think it's a red
Speaker 2: flag at all. And if someone said point blank, I
Speaker 2: don't use social media. I wouldn't think it was a
Speaker 2: bad thing. Also, most people don't use social media. They
Speaker 2: have it. I'm going to go to their page. They've
Speaker 2: got four photos, their last upload was twenty sixteen. At
Speaker 2: that point, you don't use social media realistically. Not a
Speaker 2: red flag.
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