1 00:00:03,480 --> 00:00:07,080 Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families podcast. It's the podcast for the 2 00:00:07,160 --> 00:00:10,119 Speaker 1: time poor parent who just on answers. 3 00:00:10,200 --> 00:00:12,600 Speaker 2: Now, roller skates are not for writing in the house, 4 00:00:12,600 --> 00:00:13,560 Speaker 2: And I haven't said a word. 5 00:00:13,680 --> 00:00:16,400 Speaker 3: At the beginning of the week, Miss twelve was the 6 00:00:16,440 --> 00:00:20,040 Speaker 3: only healthy body in the house right, and she was 7 00:00:20,160 --> 00:00:22,840 Speaker 3: so upset that we were going to send her to school. 8 00:00:23,239 --> 00:00:24,560 Speaker 3: And when I said to her, I said, will are 9 00:00:24,600 --> 00:00:25,520 Speaker 3: you well enough to go to school? 10 00:00:25,520 --> 00:00:26,640 Speaker 4: And she said, well, I have a sore. 11 00:00:26,600 --> 00:00:29,480 Speaker 2: Bum from falling over. 12 00:00:29,280 --> 00:00:33,080 Speaker 1: All And now here's the stars of our show, my 13 00:00:33,159 --> 00:00:33,880 Speaker 1: mum and dad. 14 00:00:33,960 --> 00:00:36,440 Speaker 2: Hello, this is doctor Justin Coulson, the founder of Happy 15 00:00:36,440 --> 00:00:38,720 Speaker 2: Families dot com dot you. Welcome to the Happy Families Podcast. 16 00:00:38,960 --> 00:00:41,600 Speaker 2: Final day of the week. Feeling good about that. I'm 17 00:00:41,600 --> 00:00:45,280 Speaker 2: here with missus Happy Families Kylie, my wife and mum 18 00:00:45,320 --> 00:00:49,240 Speaker 2: do our six kids, Kylie. Every Friday we talk about 19 00:00:49,320 --> 00:00:52,239 Speaker 2: this I'll do better tomorrow idea, what we've learned from 20 00:00:52,280 --> 00:00:54,720 Speaker 2: the week. How we can reflect on the week, be 21 00:00:54,800 --> 00:00:57,240 Speaker 2: more intentional and mindful as parents so that we can 22 00:00:57,320 --> 00:01:00,200 Speaker 2: be better parents next week or tomorrow. That's why, well, 23 00:01:00,320 --> 00:01:04,800 Speaker 2: I'll do better tomorrow. If I was to say it's 24 00:01:04,840 --> 00:01:07,560 Speaker 2: been a week, how would you respond? 25 00:01:09,160 --> 00:01:11,319 Speaker 3: Let's just say I had the best sleep I've had 26 00:01:11,319 --> 00:01:14,480 Speaker 3: in a very very long time that first night in 27 00:01:14,600 --> 00:01:15,520 Speaker 3: our new home. 28 00:01:15,680 --> 00:01:18,600 Speaker 2: We've been grateful for the airbnb, but being back in 29 00:01:18,720 --> 00:01:20,759 Speaker 2: our bed, our mattress. 30 00:01:20,319 --> 00:01:23,200 Speaker 3: Our bed, my pillow, what's been like my sheet more 31 00:01:23,240 --> 00:01:23,959 Speaker 3: than four months. 32 00:01:24,000 --> 00:01:26,240 Speaker 2: It's been over four months since you actually slept in 33 00:01:26,280 --> 00:01:27,920 Speaker 2: that bed, and now you've had a whole week of 34 00:01:27,959 --> 00:01:29,800 Speaker 2: it and it feels good. 35 00:01:30,160 --> 00:01:33,520 Speaker 4: But it hasn't been without its challenges and. 36 00:01:33,440 --> 00:01:35,959 Speaker 2: Moving moving moving house is. 37 00:01:35,959 --> 00:01:38,560 Speaker 3: Hard, and especially when you've got kids. 38 00:01:38,920 --> 00:01:41,080 Speaker 2: Especially when those kids get sick the day you move. 39 00:01:41,959 --> 00:01:44,800 Speaker 3: And it paus with rain and everything comes into the 40 00:01:44,840 --> 00:01:45,839 Speaker 3: house soaking wet. 41 00:01:46,480 --> 00:01:49,440 Speaker 2: So our I'll do better tomorrow is about reflecting on 42 00:01:49,760 --> 00:01:52,240 Speaker 2: what we've learned from our parenting this week and what 43 00:01:52,320 --> 00:01:57,160 Speaker 2: we might do either better tomorrow or instead of saying 44 00:01:57,160 --> 00:01:59,200 Speaker 2: we need to do it better, what we can repeat 45 00:01:59,200 --> 00:02:02,400 Speaker 2: and replicate because we've done things really well. When you 46 00:02:02,440 --> 00:02:05,240 Speaker 2: think about the week that was, dealing with a house move, 47 00:02:05,480 --> 00:02:08,800 Speaker 2: unpacking boxes, setting up a house, having to start all 48 00:02:08,840 --> 00:02:13,480 Speaker 2: over again, with buying the groceries and the stuff that 49 00:02:13,520 --> 00:02:16,320 Speaker 2: we don't have for this house that we needed, and 50 00:02:16,440 --> 00:02:19,680 Speaker 2: having me traveling and being away had you do. 51 00:02:20,800 --> 00:02:23,480 Speaker 4: Oh I sucked. Let's just spe real. I sucked. It 52 00:02:23,520 --> 00:02:24,960 Speaker 4: was a really, really. 53 00:02:24,720 --> 00:02:29,639 Speaker 3: Really hard week, challenging, but I did have one little win, 54 00:02:30,200 --> 00:02:31,800 Speaker 3: which I'm actually really proud of. 55 00:02:32,880 --> 00:02:34,680 Speaker 2: So before you say the wind, I want to challenge 56 00:02:34,760 --> 00:02:37,239 Speaker 2: what you've said about how badly you've gone this week. 57 00:02:37,280 --> 00:02:38,960 Speaker 2: I mean, I know that you've been tired and maybe 58 00:02:38,960 --> 00:02:40,959 Speaker 2: a little bit snappyer than normal because you're trying to 59 00:02:40,960 --> 00:02:42,600 Speaker 2: get the house clean and the kids are untiding it. 60 00:02:42,639 --> 00:02:45,160 Speaker 3: But you know what it really comes down to. Whenever 61 00:02:45,320 --> 00:02:49,080 Speaker 3: I get cranky, it literally just comes down to unmeat expectations. 62 00:02:49,440 --> 00:02:52,440 Speaker 3: I had an expectation that we were going to move 63 00:02:52,680 --> 00:02:54,880 Speaker 3: in and you were. 64 00:02:54,720 --> 00:02:57,280 Speaker 2: Going to and the house was going to be perfect. 65 00:02:57,360 --> 00:02:58,440 Speaker 4: Well, no, but the kit. 66 00:02:58,520 --> 00:03:00,440 Speaker 3: We were going to stay at the airbn be for 67 00:03:00,480 --> 00:03:02,760 Speaker 3: a few nights while I had the opportunity to make 68 00:03:02,800 --> 00:03:04,959 Speaker 3: sure everything was in its place. 69 00:03:04,720 --> 00:03:07,800 Speaker 2: Before we brought chaos six. 70 00:03:07,720 --> 00:03:12,360 Speaker 3: Or seven people into the space. But because everybody got sick, 71 00:03:12,600 --> 00:03:15,200 Speaker 3: the kids obviously didn't want to be away from me 72 00:03:15,280 --> 00:03:17,000 Speaker 3: and I needed to kind of check in on them. 73 00:03:17,360 --> 00:03:20,400 Speaker 3: So they were now sick in my space. 74 00:03:20,800 --> 00:03:22,639 Speaker 2: Should also mention they weren't sick with COVID they've just 75 00:03:22,680 --> 00:03:24,000 Speaker 2: got a seasonal cold flu. 76 00:03:24,360 --> 00:03:29,440 Speaker 3: While I was trying to create order, there was just 77 00:03:29,560 --> 00:03:34,120 Speaker 3: chaos everywhere I looked, And so, yeah, really I didn't 78 00:03:34,160 --> 00:03:35,200 Speaker 3: do a good job this weekend. 79 00:03:35,320 --> 00:03:37,640 Speaker 2: It's snappy than normal, I was, I was. 80 00:03:38,200 --> 00:03:44,360 Speaker 3: But the win was in one little moment I recognized 81 00:03:44,480 --> 00:03:47,880 Speaker 3: that I was being really snappy with you specifically, and 82 00:03:48,680 --> 00:03:52,360 Speaker 3: you walked out of the room calmly, and I realized 83 00:03:52,400 --> 00:03:55,280 Speaker 3: in that moment that I was just I was being snappy, 84 00:03:55,320 --> 00:03:57,800 Speaker 3: and I really had no reason to be snappy at 85 00:03:57,800 --> 00:04:00,720 Speaker 3: you specifically, and so I turned around and I came 86 00:04:00,880 --> 00:04:04,320 Speaker 3: to find you, and I just apologized, and it. 87 00:04:04,200 --> 00:04:06,080 Speaker 2: Was a beautiful apology to It. 88 00:04:06,040 --> 00:04:08,480 Speaker 3: Was actually your response that really got me thinking, because 89 00:04:08,560 --> 00:04:10,400 Speaker 3: you actually said to me, I think that's one of 90 00:04:10,400 --> 00:04:12,240 Speaker 3: the first times you've apologized. 91 00:04:12,640 --> 00:04:13,960 Speaker 2: I was just teasing you. 92 00:04:16,440 --> 00:04:18,880 Speaker 3: One of us has a really easy time apologizing and 93 00:04:18,920 --> 00:04:22,919 Speaker 3: the other one doesn't, and it doesn't take much to 94 00:04:22,960 --> 00:04:23,560 Speaker 3: work out. 95 00:04:23,360 --> 00:04:24,480 Speaker 4: Who is who. 96 00:04:25,920 --> 00:04:29,760 Speaker 3: But I just realized that so often, when I get 97 00:04:29,800 --> 00:04:32,680 Speaker 3: caught up in all of the stresses of the day, 98 00:04:33,279 --> 00:04:35,479 Speaker 3: I can often feel really justified and feeling the way 99 00:04:35,520 --> 00:04:39,920 Speaker 3: I do, And in that moment, it just made me 100 00:04:40,000 --> 00:04:43,760 Speaker 3: realize and recognize how much better I can be. So 101 00:04:43,800 --> 00:04:45,560 Speaker 3: I guess my take home has been a really big 102 00:04:45,600 --> 00:04:48,880 Speaker 3: wake up call and recognizing that there's probably a lot 103 00:04:48,920 --> 00:04:51,760 Speaker 3: more times that I could be apologetic that i'm not. 104 00:04:52,760 --> 00:04:56,240 Speaker 3: And part of that is probably because I'm not necessarily 105 00:04:56,279 --> 00:04:59,480 Speaker 3: aware or I feel really justified to. 106 00:04:59,480 --> 00:05:01,960 Speaker 4: Pick crank in my unmet expectations. 107 00:05:02,560 --> 00:05:07,640 Speaker 3: But I'm putting it out there publicly that I'm going 108 00:05:07,680 --> 00:05:11,200 Speaker 3: to try to be a lot more aware of how 109 00:05:11,240 --> 00:05:13,960 Speaker 3: I might speak when I'm cranky. 110 00:05:15,000 --> 00:05:18,360 Speaker 2: So, first of all, I think that you've really brave 111 00:05:18,400 --> 00:05:21,640 Speaker 2: for saying what you've said. Secondly, we don't make any 112 00:05:21,680 --> 00:05:25,320 Speaker 2: claims to being perfect parents, and this week you've carried 113 00:05:25,400 --> 00:05:27,839 Speaker 2: a heavy load. I've been traveling, and you've been trying 114 00:05:27,880 --> 00:05:30,760 Speaker 2: to establish a home for our family, establish the new 115 00:05:30,800 --> 00:05:33,960 Speaker 2: family nest, and you've done it under really trying circumstances 116 00:05:34,000 --> 00:05:36,280 Speaker 2: because the weather's been horrible, We've had kids at home sick, 117 00:05:36,360 --> 00:05:40,200 Speaker 2: I mean, really really crook me not being around, and 118 00:05:40,440 --> 00:05:44,440 Speaker 2: just that much pressure and stress on you. But I 119 00:05:44,480 --> 00:05:46,599 Speaker 2: still want to challenge I don't know that you've been 120 00:05:46,880 --> 00:05:50,880 Speaker 2: as challenging, as difficult as bad, if I can use 121 00:05:50,920 --> 00:05:56,000 Speaker 2: that phrase, as you think you've been. Second thing that 122 00:05:56,040 --> 00:05:58,560 Speaker 2: I want to highlight is just the power of that 123 00:05:59,120 --> 00:06:04,560 Speaker 2: expectation experience dilemma. You expect something to happen, when it doesn't, 124 00:06:04,640 --> 00:06:07,800 Speaker 2: your experience is lower than your expectations. Your expectations were 125 00:06:07,839 --> 00:06:10,640 Speaker 2: too high. It's really confronting, isn't it. It's really hard 126 00:06:10,640 --> 00:06:12,000 Speaker 2: to hold it together when that happens. 127 00:06:12,360 --> 00:06:13,080 Speaker 4: Yeah. 128 00:06:13,120 --> 00:06:14,880 Speaker 2: And the third thing that I want to actually want 129 00:06:14,880 --> 00:06:16,920 Speaker 2: to ask you a question. You know, how you were 130 00:06:17,000 --> 00:06:19,479 Speaker 2: upset and so I just walked out and got on 131 00:06:19,560 --> 00:06:23,159 Speaker 2: with things. Does it bother you that I don't get 132 00:06:23,720 --> 00:06:25,520 Speaker 2: all that caught up in that sort of stuff. 133 00:06:25,839 --> 00:06:29,360 Speaker 3: No, I really appreciate it. Okay, I really appreciate it. 134 00:06:29,440 --> 00:06:32,640 Speaker 3: And in that particular moment, it was just instant. You 135 00:06:32,720 --> 00:06:37,280 Speaker 3: walked away, and you acknowledged throughout the afternoon that I 136 00:06:37,320 --> 00:06:40,000 Speaker 3: had been a bit snappy, but in that moment, you 137 00:06:40,120 --> 00:06:42,600 Speaker 3: just kind of you took my answer even though it 138 00:06:42,680 --> 00:06:46,560 Speaker 3: was so unkind in the moment and just said, okay, 139 00:06:46,560 --> 00:06:48,320 Speaker 3: thanks for letting me know, and you know, kind of 140 00:06:48,360 --> 00:06:50,400 Speaker 3: went off and I kind of it was just a 141 00:06:50,400 --> 00:06:51,440 Speaker 3: really big wake up call. 142 00:06:52,120 --> 00:06:54,359 Speaker 2: So I've got this thing that nobody can make me 143 00:06:54,400 --> 00:06:56,760 Speaker 2: feel angry. No one can make me feel upset and 144 00:06:56,760 --> 00:06:58,400 Speaker 2: no one can make me feel sad. I get to choose. 145 00:06:58,440 --> 00:07:00,000 Speaker 2: And I'm always saying that to the kids. The kids 146 00:07:00,600 --> 00:07:04,279 Speaker 2: hate saying you can choose. You get to choose. She 147 00:07:04,400 --> 00:07:07,359 Speaker 2: doesn't make you mad. You get to choose. And I 148 00:07:07,520 --> 00:07:10,720 Speaker 2: just was wondering whether or not me not getting caught 149 00:07:10,800 --> 00:07:12,840 Speaker 2: up in it bothered you or not. But I'm glad 150 00:07:12,840 --> 00:07:15,679 Speaker 2: that you've said that. Thanks for sharing. After the break, 151 00:07:15,960 --> 00:07:23,280 Speaker 2: what dot Justin Coilson can do better tomorrow. If you've 152 00:07:23,280 --> 00:07:26,400 Speaker 2: got a teen, you're likely already worried about alcohol and 153 00:07:26,520 --> 00:07:28,680 Speaker 2: drug use. As a parent, you want to know how 154 00:07:28,720 --> 00:07:31,240 Speaker 2: do we protect them, how do we teach them? How 155 00:07:31,240 --> 00:07:34,320 Speaker 2: do we know if they're up to something? 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I just 163 00:07:54,640 --> 00:07:57,560 Speaker 2: remembered you also just before the kids got ill, just 164 00:07:57,600 --> 00:08:00,840 Speaker 2: before last week just before the movie into the new house. 165 00:08:01,280 --> 00:08:02,720 Speaker 2: You took the kids to see a movie, and I 166 00:08:02,720 --> 00:08:04,880 Speaker 2: feel like we need to just spend twenty seconds and 167 00:08:05,160 --> 00:08:10,480 Speaker 2: mention the Happy Family's movie review you. I was not available, 168 00:08:10,480 --> 00:08:13,280 Speaker 2: but you took how many kids? Three? Three kids? Yeah, 169 00:08:13,360 --> 00:08:15,160 Speaker 2: three of them, the three little ones, to go and 170 00:08:15,200 --> 00:08:19,240 Speaker 2: see an animated movie called The Bad Guys. The Bad Guys. 171 00:08:19,280 --> 00:08:29,880 Speaker 5: Maybe we need a distraction, please be subtle, or perhaps. 172 00:08:29,440 --> 00:08:32,600 Speaker 2: Se county guards that could leave that plus and help 173 00:08:32,679 --> 00:08:34,199 Speaker 2: me we were now Now. 174 00:08:34,240 --> 00:08:39,240 Speaker 3: I assumed by the promo that it's actually a take 175 00:08:39,280 --> 00:08:42,080 Speaker 3: off of the books. There's there's some kids books called 176 00:08:42,120 --> 00:08:45,480 Speaker 3: The Bad Guys. Okay, but I didn't I don't know 177 00:08:45,520 --> 00:08:49,000 Speaker 3: anything about it really, So I watched the trailer and 178 00:08:49,440 --> 00:08:51,640 Speaker 3: I liked what I saw on the trailer. But when 179 00:08:51,679 --> 00:08:53,920 Speaker 3: I told the twelve year old and the fourteen year 180 00:08:53,960 --> 00:08:56,199 Speaker 3: old that we were going to go watch it, because 181 00:08:56,200 --> 00:08:58,080 Speaker 3: it was just pouring with rain, there was nothing else 182 00:08:58,120 --> 00:08:59,400 Speaker 3: to do, and so I wanted to get them out 183 00:08:59,400 --> 00:09:02,560 Speaker 3: of the house, they kind of rolled their eyes and 184 00:09:02,600 --> 00:09:04,160 Speaker 3: were like, you know, I really don't want to go. 185 00:09:04,280 --> 00:09:06,040 Speaker 3: So I tried to find a couple of friends to 186 00:09:06,080 --> 00:09:09,560 Speaker 3: take with us, but everyone was busy, and we got 187 00:09:09,559 --> 00:09:11,280 Speaker 3: to the end of it and I just looked at 188 00:09:11,280 --> 00:09:14,439 Speaker 3: the kids and they were like, that was way better 189 00:09:14,480 --> 00:09:17,240 Speaker 3: than we expected. It was just such a good movie. 190 00:09:17,320 --> 00:09:20,719 Speaker 3: I'm not a movie buff. I actually really just am 191 00:09:20,760 --> 00:09:23,680 Speaker 3: happy to go and enjoy. I don't have high expectations 192 00:09:23,720 --> 00:09:25,760 Speaker 3: if anything drives you crazy. 193 00:09:25,679 --> 00:09:28,880 Speaker 2: Because you a little bit of a critic, very. 194 00:09:29,000 --> 00:09:32,840 Speaker 3: Critical when it comes to movies. But what I loved 195 00:09:32,840 --> 00:09:35,120 Speaker 3: about this movie was he were these bad guys who 196 00:09:35,120 --> 00:09:36,760 Speaker 3: wanted to be bad, but then they got caught. So 197 00:09:36,800 --> 00:09:39,480 Speaker 3: they made this plan that they would pretend to be 198 00:09:39,559 --> 00:09:42,200 Speaker 3: good so they could still be bad. But through the 199 00:09:42,240 --> 00:09:45,200 Speaker 3: process of pretending to be good, they actually realized that 200 00:09:45,240 --> 00:09:48,120 Speaker 3: it felt good to make good choices, and in the 201 00:09:48,240 --> 00:09:49,319 Speaker 3: end they become. 202 00:09:49,440 --> 00:09:54,360 Speaker 2: Goodwillys good bad good Good. Don't spoil it. There might 203 00:09:54,400 --> 00:09:57,080 Speaker 2: be something in parenting, something parenting related there though as well. 204 00:09:57,120 --> 00:10:00,240 Speaker 2: I mean, we often feel like we're lousy parents. It's 205 00:10:00,280 --> 00:10:02,320 Speaker 2: in the effort that we make when we decide to 206 00:10:02,320 --> 00:10:05,120 Speaker 2: be good. It's the effort and the ongoing challenge difficulties. 207 00:10:05,440 --> 00:10:07,440 Speaker 2: But we get better and better over time, and we 208 00:10:07,480 --> 00:10:09,480 Speaker 2: discover that it feels much better to be good parents 209 00:10:09,520 --> 00:10:11,920 Speaker 2: than to be parents. That aren't as good as we 210 00:10:12,080 --> 00:10:13,920 Speaker 2: now are, which is why we're doing Old Do Better Tomorrow. 211 00:10:13,960 --> 00:10:15,319 Speaker 2: I don't know if I just fluffed that, but we're 212 00:10:15,320 --> 00:10:18,040 Speaker 2: going to go ahead anyway, so Bad Guys might be 213 00:10:18,040 --> 00:10:20,080 Speaker 2: worth taking the kids to see this weekend. 214 00:10:19,800 --> 00:10:21,440 Speaker 4: If there's something for everyone in it. 215 00:10:22,280 --> 00:10:24,440 Speaker 2: My Older Better Tomorrow is a really simple one. I 216 00:10:24,640 --> 00:10:27,920 Speaker 2: have not cracked it yet. At the kids riding in 217 00:10:28,000 --> 00:10:31,000 Speaker 2: the house on their roller skates, that's my old Do 218 00:10:31,040 --> 00:10:34,559 Speaker 2: Better tomorrow, full stop, end of story. Because recently we 219 00:10:34,600 --> 00:10:36,959 Speaker 2: bought the kids and roller skates because now we used 220 00:10:37,000 --> 00:10:41,000 Speaker 2: to live in a house with stairs and on on 221 00:10:41,040 --> 00:10:43,559 Speaker 2: a slopey hill, and there was nowhere that the kids 222 00:10:43,600 --> 00:10:45,840 Speaker 2: would ever ride bikes of roller skates. That just wasn't 223 00:10:45,840 --> 00:10:50,480 Speaker 2: going to happen. But now we live in a flat 224 00:10:50,720 --> 00:10:54,760 Speaker 2: could a sack with a single story house, and we 225 00:10:54,800 --> 00:10:57,560 Speaker 2: bought the kids and roller skates, and they've been wearing 226 00:10:57,600 --> 00:11:00,600 Speaker 2: the roller skates up and down the I don't know 227 00:11:00,640 --> 00:11:02,160 Speaker 2: what our floor is made of. I want to say 228 00:11:02,200 --> 00:11:04,040 Speaker 2: the lino floor is that kind of thing, as some 229 00:11:04,080 --> 00:11:06,880 Speaker 2: sort of lino floor boardy thing, And the kids are 230 00:11:06,920 --> 00:11:10,120 Speaker 2: just skating, holding onto the walls, putting their grubby fingers 231 00:11:10,240 --> 00:11:12,600 Speaker 2: all over the walls and skating up and down the 232 00:11:12,600 --> 00:11:15,160 Speaker 2: hallway and into the kitchen and around the dining table 233 00:11:15,280 --> 00:11:17,720 Speaker 2: and then back down the hallway to their bedrooms. It's 234 00:11:17,920 --> 00:11:21,000 Speaker 2: driving me insane. Roller skates are not for riding in 235 00:11:21,000 --> 00:11:22,720 Speaker 2: the house. And I haven't said a word. I'm just 236 00:11:22,800 --> 00:11:25,840 Speaker 2: watching them learn how to skate, and I love that 237 00:11:25,960 --> 00:11:27,440 Speaker 2: they're doing it in spite of the fact that I 238 00:11:27,440 --> 00:11:28,240 Speaker 2: hate that they're doing it. 239 00:11:28,679 --> 00:11:31,360 Speaker 3: At the beginning of the week, Miss twelve was the 240 00:11:31,400 --> 00:11:35,000 Speaker 3: only healthy body in the house right and she was 241 00:11:35,120 --> 00:11:37,840 Speaker 3: so upset that we were going to send her to school. 242 00:11:38,240 --> 00:11:39,560 Speaker 3: And when I said to her, I said, well, are 243 00:11:39,600 --> 00:11:41,000 Speaker 3: you well enough to go to school? And she said, well, 244 00:11:41,000 --> 00:11:41,679 Speaker 3: I have a sore. 245 00:11:41,559 --> 00:11:46,320 Speaker 2: Bum from falling. Over all, I'm just waiting for a 246 00:11:46,360 --> 00:11:48,520 Speaker 2: hole in the wall. I'm waiting for a piece of 247 00:11:48,520 --> 00:11:50,400 Speaker 2: furniture to be destroyed, because well. 248 00:11:50,280 --> 00:11:53,320 Speaker 4: Then, well then that'll be the real test you hold 249 00:11:53,360 --> 00:11:53,680 Speaker 4: your cool. 250 00:11:53,720 --> 00:11:56,120 Speaker 2: Then I haven't spaped the dummy yet, I smiled at them. 251 00:11:56,120 --> 00:11:58,200 Speaker 2: I've said watch out for my toes, and that's it. 252 00:11:58,240 --> 00:12:00,440 Speaker 2: So that's why I'll do better tomorrow. It's about staying 253 00:12:00,559 --> 00:12:04,480 Speaker 2: calm and only sweating the stuff that really matters and 254 00:12:04,600 --> 00:12:09,000 Speaker 2: so far, so good, Kylie, so far, so good. The 255 00:12:09,080 --> 00:12:13,600 Speaker 2: take home message ultimately is don't let other people's emotions 256 00:12:13,720 --> 00:12:15,880 Speaker 2: affect you. You're the one who gets to choose how 257 00:12:15,880 --> 00:12:19,640 Speaker 2: you're feeling. You decide, nobody else. But I think that 258 00:12:19,679 --> 00:12:25,360 Speaker 2: it's also if I can extract take a message from yours, Kylie, 259 00:12:26,000 --> 00:12:27,960 Speaker 2: you're probably doing a better job than you think. Don't 260 00:12:27,960 --> 00:12:32,040 Speaker 2: beat yourself up because the work that you do, the 261 00:12:32,080 --> 00:12:34,880 Speaker 2: load that you carry, is amazing. And that's for any 262 00:12:34,960 --> 00:12:37,000 Speaker 2: parent who's listening to this podcast. I'm sure you're doing 263 00:12:37,040 --> 00:12:39,520 Speaker 2: so much better than sometimes you think you're doing. And 264 00:12:39,920 --> 00:12:42,760 Speaker 2: even if you're not, that's okay. You've always got tomorrow. 265 00:12:42,880 --> 00:12:46,320 Speaker 2: Hence I'll do better tomorrow. The Happy Families podcast is 266 00:12:46,360 --> 00:12:48,800 Speaker 2: produced by Justin Rulan from Bridge Media. Craig Bruce is 267 00:12:48,800 --> 00:12:51,080 Speaker 2: our executive producer, and if you'd like more involve about 268 00:12:51,080 --> 00:12:53,760 Speaker 2: making your family happier, please visit us at happy families 269 00:12:53,800 --> 00:13:00,920 Speaker 2: dot com. Donay you have a great weekend.