Speaker 1: Cata, Flex and Frooms, Flex and Frooms.
Speaker 2: This is the Flex and Frooms catch up podcast.
Speaker 1: Happy Tuesday, Darlings.
Speaker 3: Do your friends have to send you calendar invites to
Speaker 3: hang out? It's an affirmative from making Do you think this.
Speaker 4: Is similar to people who talk about scheduling intercourse? You know,
Speaker 4: some people are in the camp but like, if you
Speaker 4: have to schedule it, it's not sexy, but others are Like,
Speaker 4: if I don't have a responsibility, if I'm not accountable
Speaker 4: to it, I'm not going to do it.
Speaker 3: I think that's very important and I stand by that
Speaker 3: as well. Yeah, romance, romance after the six months, like
Speaker 3: you need to work on that, say all.
Speaker 1: Right, let's go. You're listening to Flex and Frooms on KATA.
Speaker 4: If we're best friends and I want to hang out,
Speaker 4: do I need to send you a calendar invite?
Speaker 1: Yes, listen to this. If this is wrong, I don't
Speaker 1: want to be right.
Speaker 5: But even if you're my best friend and we're just
Speaker 5: gonna go grab a cup of coffee on a Saturday morning,
Speaker 5: I want to send you a GCL invite for it.
Speaker 5: I want your email and I want to send you
Speaker 5: a calendar invite because otherwise, Like for me, I don't
Speaker 5: know if it will happen otherwise.
Speaker 4: Yes, that was a TikTok from just hopping along. You
Speaker 4: vibe with that one hundred percent.
Speaker 3: I don't want to give you any margin vera to
Speaker 3: say oops, I forgot.
Speaker 6: Oh.
Speaker 3: My time is precious and I don't like being alone
Speaker 3: when I have chosen to be with someone else because
Speaker 3: I allot my personal time. So and when you're eating
Speaker 3: into my social time and I could have been hanging
Speaker 3: out with someone else, I getting very struppy.
Speaker 1: That's fair.
Speaker 4: I don't think I need to receive a calendar invite
Speaker 4: from someone, but I need everyone to start using calendars
Speaker 4: because the thing that I'm fine, like you want to
Speaker 4: bail on a haying, do what you need to do.
Speaker 4: I don't personally want to begrudgingly do anything, so I
Speaker 4: don't want to begrudgingly encourage anything. But it is annoying
Speaker 4: if for the third week in a row, it's like, oh, oh,
Speaker 4: I didn't put that in my calendar. That being said
Speaker 4: as someone who religiously uses a calendar, I still get
Speaker 4: it wrong.
Speaker 3: I want to know does anybody over the like, does
Speaker 3: anybody not use a calendar?
Speaker 1: I don't have a calendar.
Speaker 4: Miking calendar is so corporate vibes, like the more do
Speaker 4: you know what it is? Because we're freelancers and business
Speaker 4: owners will use calendars. I would not use a calendar
Speaker 4: for my personal life if my professional life wasn't bleeding over. Really, yeah,
Speaker 4: of course things are loose, be loose, have a good time.
Speaker 4: The calendar is to ensure that I actually make time
Speaker 4: for myself. But if I didn't have a job that
Speaker 4: was demanding, then I would just like do whatever I
Speaker 4: want for my time.
Speaker 1: Miki.
Speaker 6: I just keep everything in my head, which is actually
Speaker 6: kind of psychotic, but like that's what I do and
Speaker 6: that's how I've always done it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what people do before you work in a corporate.
Speaker 6: I don't only ever miss an event.
Speaker 1: I think once because you didn't want to go.
Speaker 2: No.
Speaker 6: I think that was like truly the only time I've
Speaker 6: ever like miss an event. I remember, I was flawed.
Speaker 6: I was so confused. I was like, I've never missed anything.
Speaker 1: It's uly my head.
Speaker 6: But also, like events were stored on Facebook back in
Speaker 6: the day. True, that's the other thing we're all running
Speaker 6: around all in the different platforms is now harder I
Speaker 6: think to keep it all in my head.
Speaker 4: And it's not unusual to keep information in your head.
Speaker 4: I know for a fact the reason why we know
Speaker 4: our friends' birthdays, and we used to know their phone
Speaker 4: numbers and their house addresses. Maybe you didn't because you're
Speaker 4: a negligent friend, but for the rest of us we
Speaker 4: knew because that's where you put the information in your head.
Speaker 4: It's like, oh, of course, I know my best friend's
Speaker 4: number ends in these three digits, like it's in the head.
Speaker 4: So I don't think it's a crazy thing to do.
Speaker 4: But in this instance, I was writing the top comments
Speaker 4: of that TikTok, and yeah, it's fifty to fifty people,
Speaker 4: Like best I can do is a ten minute. Hey,
Speaker 4: we're still on message, which is totally fine if you
Speaker 4: live within a five k radius of each other. I
Speaker 4: like the security of putting things in the calendar when
Speaker 4: I know I want to do them.
Speaker 1: I feel trapped.
Speaker 3: Otherwise, Okay, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, I know you
Speaker 3: don't getting a blowback from the two besties.
Speaker 4: Yeah, because there are some people I know I want
Speaker 4: to hang out with desperately, but I also know that
Speaker 4: some people live week to week paycheck and socially, I'm
Speaker 4: living month to month each year. I know what's happening
Speaker 4: in two months time. So if you don't put it
Speaker 4: in the calendar, I don't ever make it out the
Speaker 4: grip chat. And that's annoying for people who are kind
Speaker 4: of like, I want to hang out today, I don't
Speaker 4: really care what's happening in December, and that's unfortunate.
Speaker 1: And that's on busy lives.
Speaker 4: We are still in the year of click bait headlines.
Speaker 4: Saw one from Vice talking about how potentially dying could
Speaker 4: help you reach new levels of living. I said, what
Speaker 4: is this something that I was interested in skim reading?
Speaker 4: And so I eventually did. What I came to find
Speaker 4: out is that near death experiences, they're definitely trending again
Speaker 4: the timing exchange, but basically, scientists have witnessed brain patterns
Speaker 4: in dying patients that may correlate to what other people
Speaker 4: have said before about having lucid visions or out of
Speaker 4: body experiences as you near the end of your life,
Speaker 4: memories flashing before your eyes, seeing a bright light coming
Speaker 4: towards you. So they're all kind of validating the same
Speaker 4: exact story.
Speaker 1: Before.
Speaker 4: It felt as though one person had experienced it, and
Speaker 4: the rest were just talking about it like gossip. But
Speaker 4: studies have shown it actually does happen. What also happens
Speaker 4: with these people who've experienced near death experiences is that
Speaker 4: they come back with a renewed sense of understanding, almost
Speaker 4: like a wisdom that has somehow been injected into their
Speaker 4: brain and their synapses.
Speaker 1: And we've lost through me, or we even lost her.
Speaker 4: Listen, wait, wait, wait, it's NYU has been doing this
Speaker 4: university sounds fake. NYU Landgun Health Research has observed five
Speaker 4: hundred and sixty seven patients in twenty five hospitals. Most
Speaker 4: of them underwent CPR after suffering cardiac arrestes. Like some
Speaker 4: similarities and some links there with their experience, and so
Speaker 4: what they found out was that the transition from life
Speaker 4: to death can trigger a state of disinhibition in the
Speaker 4: brain that appears to facilitate a lucid understanding of new
Speaker 4: dimensions of reality, including people's deeper consciousnesses or memories, thoughts, intentions,
Speaker 4: and actions towards others. From a moral and ethical perspective,
Speaker 4: if you got someone crabby in your life, someone ungrateful,
Speaker 4: somebod who just doesn't understand the gift that life is.
Speaker 4: I don't know, not insinuating that you do anything with
Speaker 4: that information. But people are saying, if you almost die,
Speaker 4: you come back grateful.
Speaker 3: I guess because unlocking what's underneath your consciousness could actually
Speaker 3: be diabolical make you want to blow up your life anyway,
Speaker 3: so it's probably good to just know. Oh, at the end,
Speaker 3: I'll figure it out like a little slide show. I'm
Speaker 3: really into the slide show area like I would love actually,
Speaker 3: as the excerpt from life, you get to go to
Speaker 3: like a movie cinema, right, this is all imaginary exercise
Speaker 3: and get your favorite food like death row meal macas.
Speaker 3: You got the whole cinema to yourself. You got your besties,
Speaker 3: but you're all in gold class, so like not touching
Speaker 3: it stunning Unless you have a partner. Then you guys
Speaker 3: can be on.
Speaker 1: The same gold gold yes couch a couple.
Speaker 3: See you get like the hot dog that comes into
Speaker 3: the goal like love when they bring in the hot
Speaker 3: dogs to the goal.
Speaker 4: You hot dog juice in the afterlife Lil sold you
Speaker 4: with it.
Speaker 3: Then I get a slide show sensationalized best moments naturally.
Speaker 1: How long do you want the movie to be? Two hours?
Speaker 1: That's it. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, because we're getting of
Speaker 1: your life.
Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, I'm gonna want at least a five season
Speaker 4: you know, award winning production.
Speaker 1: No way, I've already lived it. Yeah, but you haven't.
Speaker 1: You only loved it from your perspective.
Speaker 3: I don't want to see the other uncut? But what's
Speaker 3: really lovely because there'll be little testimonials cut with you
Speaker 3: like carve Ashan sul and then she said this and
Speaker 3: that made me feel this way, like and that one. Guys,
Speaker 3: I think because this might not happen. You know, we
Speaker 3: all believe there's different things when we die. I reckon
Speaker 3: you should go home and look through a photo box
Speaker 3: and think about your life a photo box. Yeah, you
Speaker 3: got a box of photos at your parents house. Oh,
Speaker 3: unique experience.
Speaker 1: Potentially. I go back and watch it, and I say,
Speaker 1: have you.
Speaker 4: Updated the photo box since nineteen eighty nine?
Speaker 1: Memories in there.
Speaker 2: Ladies and gentlemen, It's time for Flexi's Big Question of
Speaker 2: the Week.
Speaker 4: This is one of my favorite activities because it means
Speaker 4: I get to ask you a question and you get
Speaker 4: to answer it.
Speaker 1: And why do I do that?
Speaker 4: Because it is my sole purpose, my life's purpose, to
Speaker 4: have a little chitty chat to have a little conversation.
Speaker 4: You know what, I'm sick of having conversations with people
Speaker 4: who are doing performance art. If you ask them a question,
Speaker 4: they derail it, or they find any way to not
Speaker 4: answer it, or they bring in a hypothetical scenario that
Speaker 4: does not even compute in order to confuse you so
Speaker 4: you get over the topic. I don't like that, So
Speaker 4: now I'm making you all responsible for answering this question.
Speaker 4: All right? What is an incorrect assumption that people make
Speaker 4: about you that you're using to your advantage? She writes
Speaker 4: questions for a living everyone.
Speaker 1: It's Reflex.
Speaker 4: You can get it from shop flexmimi dot com more
Speaker 4: of the good stuff. Because when I wrote that question,
Speaker 4: I said, you were saying because it's one thing for
Speaker 4: you to get stuck on the stereotype or the incorrect
Speaker 4: assumption and be mad.
Speaker 1: At the world.
Speaker 4: But there are a few in there where you're kind
Speaker 4: of like in the second you might just work in
Speaker 4: my favor and I'm happy if you're happy.
Speaker 1: Should I listen someone? No, I think, I mean, would
Speaker 1: you like to or do you want to save it?
Speaker 1: We'll save it? Yeah.
Speaker 4: We can give some examples for people because I think
Speaker 4: part of what I realize when I write questions is
Speaker 4: I know exactly what I mean, but I can reinterpret
Speaker 4: it differently for someone else. So for an example, let's
Speaker 4: say you have a colleague at work, right, and because
Speaker 4: she's very mild mannered, everybody thinks that she's really nice
Speaker 4: and she's really sweet, and she's like really gentle and
Speaker 4: kind to be around. She's just not really great at
Speaker 4: articulating herself. So when you're in a private she's the
Speaker 4: snarkiest person secret service that you would ever meet. But
Speaker 4: it doesn't benefit her to let anyone know that, so
Speaker 4: she maintains being quiet. Like I, I have friends of
Speaker 4: mine who pretend that they are daft, so people don't
Speaker 4: hold them to any account. Like they don't mind being
Speaker 4: the butt of the joke because they don't like the
Speaker 4: pressure of being like the person who like does better.
Speaker 4: I know some people who know how to like arc
Speaker 4: up and come across as really like mean and aggressive,
Speaker 4: so nobody.
Speaker 1: Like comes for them. Yep, important, these are all great
Speaker 1: skills to have.
Speaker 4: But yes, so what we're gonna do is on our Instagram,
Speaker 4: Flex and Rooms will put up a question box. You
Speaker 4: can put your question in this box and then coming
Speaker 4: up later in the week, bull unpack them all and
Speaker 4: maybe you share our own.
Speaker 1: I feel like I had one real quick. Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: this one. Don't make me bring it up again.
Speaker 3: Guys, we put it on the socials when a straight
Speaker 3: individual comes through with the partner chat.
Speaker 4: Mick and I are looking at which is so dead
Speaker 4: pair right now? And like I'm trying to understand, I'm
Speaker 4: looking at.
Speaker 1: You trying to say, is when you're like queer baiting?
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 4: Yes, yes, yes, So when a straight person uses the
Speaker 4: word partner, we make the incorrect assumption that they are
Speaker 4: in fact queer and they use it to their advantage.
Speaker 1: Yes, oh yeah, you ate I ate you ate you
Speaker 1: so much? Yes, she did, so we're gonna aswer it
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