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Speaker 1: This is a woman Woody podcast Mini.

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Speaker 2: But when you're in a rash sexologist Tracy Cox has

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Speaker 2: revealed that three in four women, only one quarter of

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Speaker 2: women say that they initiate sex. Is that on a

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Speaker 2: regular basis? One quarter of women?

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Speaker 3: What's a regular?

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Speaker 2: Initiate beards pudding regular?

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Speaker 3: But that feels like a vague term. What's a regular? Bad?

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Speaker 2: I'm not going to go into it once. You just

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Speaker 2: have to take me on that. So, look, I think

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Speaker 2: that's astonishing to me because I don't know about you.

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Speaker 2: I don't know about you, but in my relationship, I'm

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Speaker 2: embarrassed to say this, but my partner Sam would initiate

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Speaker 2: bobbing squirtles ninety percent of the time.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think you've been a bit generous there. Yeah, No,

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Speaker 3: I never have. Yeah, I don't know why.

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Speaker 2: I think I need to be warmed. Yeah, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I do.

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Speaker 3: You said often on this show that, to be honest,

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Speaker 3: and you feel you're very frank about a lot of

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Speaker 3: the time, you'd rather have a nice stiff glass of

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Speaker 3: port and a good book.

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Speaker 2: And we'll not a.

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Speaker 4: Stiff glass of port.

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Speaker 2: I mean, it'd be a good one to be a

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Speaker 2: tawny one of those delicious mother glens they make down

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Speaker 2: in Victoria.

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Speaker 1: But either way, it.

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Speaker 3: Feels like sometimes it will to me, And it's a

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Speaker 3: surprise that your partner's printed, because sometimes.

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Speaker 1: It to me.

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Speaker 2: Years I was trying to figure it out myself. Did

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Speaker 2: she get me in my sleep? Baby? Who knows?

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Speaker 3: It feels like you treat sex like an inconvenience. You're like, oh,

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Speaker 3: if we have to, you put your book down and

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Speaker 3: take your reading glasses.

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Speaker 2: I think worse than being in the middle of something

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Speaker 2: and then thinking about getting your twinkies stinky. I mean,

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Speaker 2: it's tough, serious, You've got the things that you want

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Speaker 2: to do.

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Speaker 3: But look, I'll tell you boch off you in my relationship,

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Speaker 3: you don't start it.

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Speaker 1: Either is the.

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Speaker 3: Initiator she is, and that's pretty much all the time

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Speaker 3: I try.

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Speaker 2: Can I ask you a personal question, please? If you

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Speaker 2: were to initiate, how would you go about it?

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Speaker 3: I honestly go about it in a similar way to

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Speaker 3: our button push of Joel tread carefully.

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Speaker 4: I'm a man.

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Speaker 2: And I don't do it to him.

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Speaker 3: I'm all for what you go over, and I'm similar

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Speaker 3: if I'm trying to initiate. You told of Mike after

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Speaker 3: after a shower. I just take I just don't put

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Speaker 3: clothes back on, so I'll have a shower around.

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Speaker 2: That's what you're doing. Normally you put your clothes on.

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Speaker 4: But you but do you like.

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Speaker 2: So you're going for the tally worker there? Or are

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Speaker 2: you going for the helicopter at all? Like? Are you

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Speaker 2: doing anything?

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Speaker 3: No, I've learned in my younger years that the helicopter

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Speaker 3: is incredibly unattractive.

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Speaker 2: No, does that lead to any gland to gland combat

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Speaker 2: or is this it does?

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Speaker 3: I wouldn't say it has a high strike rate, but

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Speaker 3: sometimes yeah, it does, Mim says. My voice changes. I

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Speaker 3: don't notice this, but mem says, I start talking in

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Speaker 3: a different way, and then I get a look in

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Speaker 3: my eyes.

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Speaker 2: You look in your I.

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Speaker 3: Don't know what it's like because I've never tried to

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Speaker 3: have sex with.

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Speaker 4: My self, and.

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Speaker 3: Honest barely my eyes change and my voice. But then

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Speaker 3: I'll just be in the nude, right, So convenience is

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Speaker 3: key sort of thing. That's the idea. Okay, and sorry,

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Speaker 3: just Joel does the same you're doing.

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Speaker 2: I forgot about I was strowing John to the bus

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Speaker 2: here and I'll just finish that off if I can.

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Speaker 2: You do you do the same. You just do the

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Speaker 2: naked man, both of you. That's pathetic.

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Speaker 4: I never initiate, never initiate them.

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Speaker 2: Just strut around nude like a gorilla in an enclosure.

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Speaker 2: That's what he's gone, says animalistic.

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Speaker 3: Will that's it's cool. It is almost animalistic.

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Speaker 2: Tell me what it is, and it's cool for Cris's sake.

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Speaker 2: All right, here's what I want to do, because because

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Speaker 2: I think Tracy Cox reckons three three and four, women

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Speaker 2: don't initiate hitting the skins with their partner. They don't

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Speaker 2: introduce Charlie on a on a frequent basis, and I

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Speaker 2: don't think that's true. So what I want to do.

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Speaker 2: I want to open up. I want to open up

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Speaker 2: to all genders and all sexes and all relationships here

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Speaker 2: thirteen one oh six five. Has your partner got a

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Speaker 2: very funny way, a very embarrassing, very awkward, almost slightly

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Speaker 2: irritating way to initiate sex? Okay, Yeah, I'd love to

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Speaker 2: hear from you. I don't want to hear the good

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Speaker 2: ones I want And it's probably a go to move

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Speaker 2: Like you two, you just go for the walk out

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Speaker 2: of the shower strut thirteen one oh six five very

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Speaker 2: safe here? How do they go about it? My partner

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Speaker 2: just says to me. She just turns to me and said,

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Speaker 2: she's Dutch, very literal. She just turns to me and

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Speaker 2: says to me, maybe not sex in a while. Have

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Speaker 2: we Oh?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, straight, we haven't that work though?

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Speaker 2: Well, of course it does. I think we overthink it,

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Speaker 2: you know, I think I think there's much think you're

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Speaker 2: going on with yours and allt thirty one six five

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Speaker 2: Give a sickle? How does your partner initiate locking legs

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Speaker 2: and swapping gravy? Love to hear from you? Up next?

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Speaker 2: Does your partner try and initiate sex in a very

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Speaker 2: unsexy way? We're taking those girls? Thirteen one oh six

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Speaker 2: five Tracy Cox. Sexologist Tracy Cox seems to suggest that

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Speaker 2: three and four women don't actually hit the skins initiate

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Speaker 2: hitting the skins with their partner at all. Yeah, three

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Speaker 2: and four women at all? And she said, I get

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Speaker 2: that if you're a woman, quote, nothing will make more

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Speaker 2: difference to your sex life than initiating it more often,

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Speaker 2: That's what she said. But it's very hard. We all agree,

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Speaker 2: it's very hard, even if you've been in a relationship

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Speaker 2: for years. It's very we were saying just all the song,

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Speaker 2: I feel like we need to laugh. Then there has

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Speaker 2: to be a gag. Sebreaker has to.

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Speaker 3: Be a gag because you know, if you're trying too hard,

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Speaker 3: it feels a bit off, doesn't it.

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Speaker 2: Well, But you can't try too hard because then you

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Speaker 2: make yourself vulnerable. You put yourself out there. God, I'm

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Speaker 2: trying to be sexy, and then all of a sudden

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Speaker 2: you're not. That's a shocking feeling. You're both in this

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Speaker 2: Mexican standoff where neither of you want to initiate, but

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Speaker 2: you both want it. And how do you get there?

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Speaker 2: You go for a cheeky gag woods you just strut

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Speaker 2: around nude after a shower, especially show like a prize ball.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, like a bit of a prize bull a steed

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Speaker 3: if you will. But one the other day she because

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Speaker 3: you can go too funny, I think, and then you

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Speaker 3: laugh too much and she's gonna hate me. She was

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Speaker 3: nude after a shower and she walks into the bedroom

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Speaker 3: and she goes, oh, she whizz, still gonna be a

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Speaker 3: wet patch. And then she picked up the cat and

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Speaker 3: tried us with the cat.

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Speaker 2: She thought, we have a look at the other one.

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Speaker 2: All right, that's so we're taking your cures. I'm sorry

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Speaker 4: I'm sorry about that that.

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Speaker 2: I think it was sudd sud alright, So thirty one

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Speaker 2: much fun. So thirty one six five. What I'm gonna

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Speaker 2: do here, this is for the benefit of all. We're

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Speaker 2: taking your calls very unsexy ways that your partner initiates sex.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna weave in some of the ones that Tracy

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Speaker 2: Cox has suggested, which are very sexy, so it'll be

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Speaker 2: quite informative. So I'll kick it off. I'll kick it

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Speaker 2: off with one of these coxy says, wait until he's

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Speaker 2: on his way out somewhere of the house. Yep, he

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Speaker 2: can't be late, and then casually unzip him and take Wow, Jesus.

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Speaker 3: Lee, how does your partner initiate mate?

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Speaker 4: So we have the horny devil and Moji pillow, so whenever,

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Speaker 4: so whenever one of us was in the mood, we

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Speaker 4: just chuck it on the bed and we just have

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Speaker 4: to go for it.

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Speaker 2: Actually brilliantly that he's so good. So it's like, you know,

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Speaker 2: back in your Lord of the Rings fans out there.

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Speaker 2: It's like, you know when they light the beacons for

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Speaker 2: minace tiis what's like?

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Speaker 4: That? Ready? Much works really well?

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Speaker 3: That is brilliantly.

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Speaker 2: That is great. So how often are you throwing? The bill.

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Speaker 4: Gets thrown around a lot.

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Speaker 2: I love that, but again it takes away the conversation.

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Speaker 2: You're initiating it. All right, I'll hit everyone with a

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Speaker 2: bit of a coxy special here. Don't wear nickers, simple one.

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Speaker 2: You go and take his hand and put it between

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Speaker 2: g he's vulgar tracy.

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Speaker 3: She's a sex oldiert, you know, and she gets comfortable,

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Speaker 3: she normalizes sex. Will it's going to be You've got

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Speaker 3: a strange method for initiating hanky panky.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: So when my partner and I started going out, we

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Speaker 1: were obviously getting it on a lot. To add a joke,

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Speaker 1: a friend got me, as a house woman, give a

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Speaker 1: bell that says ring for sex. And that's literally how

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Speaker 4: So that ring a bell could literally be like we.

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Speaker 1: Could be watching a movie and one of us goes

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Speaker 1: and then we just we just start there. That's what

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Speaker 2: Every time he ever like three o'clock in the morning

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Speaker 2: and you're just hearing a tingle from the other room.

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Speaker 2: Repectcor sorry said again, have you ever just like the

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Speaker 1: No, like, there was a time where I was waiting

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Speaker 1: taking a bit too long. But yeah, but otherwise nothing.

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Speaker 3: Then call him and then just ring a bell rather

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Speaker 3: than say hello.

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Speaker 2: Ah, I should do that.

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Speaker 1: Actually, that was good.

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Speaker 2: Tomorrow we should have tomorrow on the show call the

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Speaker 2: guy ring a bell him? We call him?

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Speaker 1: Can we call him?

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Speaker 2: Can we call him and ring the bell?

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Speaker 1: Oh? You could, but I don't know how he answer

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Speaker 1: to a private number.

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Speaker 2: We'll figure it out. We'll do the scenes. I'll fair

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Speaker 2: chat Died some great advice there. I'll finish off with

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Speaker 2: what seriously oming that pillow and that bell? That's bloody good. Stuff.

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Speaker 3: Just simplifies it, doesn't it. We both want to do it.

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Speaker 3: We love each other.

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Speaker 2: I'll finish off with one from Coxy.

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Speaker 3: We don't have to know.

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Speaker 2: We will because they're good stuff. Take advantage of him

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Speaker 2: in the morning. Tell them it would be a shame

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Speaker 2: to waste mate.

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Speaker 3: Jesus, we know where that's going.

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Speaker 2: Him. More of the.

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