1 00:00:04,040 --> 00:00:06,479 Speaker 1: It's their Happy Families podcast. 2 00:00:07,000 --> 00:00:10,240 Speaker 2: It's the podcast for the time poor parent who just 3 00:00:10,400 --> 00:00:11,280 Speaker 2: wants answers. 4 00:00:11,360 --> 00:00:16,600 Speaker 1: Now. Hello, it's doctor Justin Colson. Welcome to Happy Families Podcast, 5 00:00:16,640 --> 00:00:19,560 Speaker 1: and welcome to another week. I'm here with missus Happy Families, 6 00:00:19,560 --> 00:00:22,000 Speaker 1: my wife and among our six kids, Kylie. A couple 7 00:00:22,120 --> 00:00:24,560 Speaker 1: months ago, I pretty much swore off social media. I've 8 00:00:24,560 --> 00:00:28,280 Speaker 1: always had a mixed relationship with it, but I struggle 9 00:00:28,360 --> 00:00:32,160 Speaker 1: with how antagonistic social media can be. People share things 10 00:00:32,159 --> 00:00:34,720 Speaker 1: that they think are going to be wholesome and uplifting 11 00:00:34,720 --> 00:00:38,199 Speaker 1: and positive and helpful, and every now and again, well 12 00:00:38,200 --> 00:00:41,360 Speaker 1: not every now and again, on a daily, minutely, hourly basis. Whatever, 13 00:00:42,520 --> 00:00:45,720 Speaker 1: there's controversy, there's provocation. So today we're going to be 14 00:00:45,720 --> 00:00:47,960 Speaker 1: the voice of reason. There's a post that's been doing 15 00:00:48,000 --> 00:00:51,120 Speaker 1: the rounds on all of the platforms from somebody called 16 00:00:51,120 --> 00:00:53,640 Speaker 1: Shannon Taki. She's a mom of five, she has triplets, 17 00:00:54,120 --> 00:00:56,560 Speaker 1: and she shared this video on Instagram of Facebook showing 18 00:00:56,680 --> 00:01:00,080 Speaker 1: how she makes her son's bed and picks up his clothes, 19 00:01:00,640 --> 00:01:03,560 Speaker 1: and people had feelings about it. So the text overlay 20 00:01:03,560 --> 00:01:05,920 Speaker 1: on the video while she's tiding up his bedroom says this, 21 00:01:06,400 --> 00:01:08,800 Speaker 1: I started doing this every morning for my teenager, not 22 00:01:08,840 --> 00:01:10,720 Speaker 1: because he won't do it, not because I do everything 23 00:01:10,760 --> 00:01:13,560 Speaker 1: for him, but because teenagers are now growing up in 24 00:01:13,600 --> 00:01:16,119 Speaker 1: a very strange and complicated world, and I want him 25 00:01:16,120 --> 00:01:19,360 Speaker 1: to feel at peace when he comes home and there's 26 00:01:19,360 --> 00:01:23,520 Speaker 1: this spick and span, spotless room just in, I guess, 27 00:01:23,560 --> 00:01:26,560 Speaker 1: because she anticipated that there might be some backlash. She 28 00:01:26,640 --> 00:01:31,119 Speaker 1: also added this in her caption for the photo. She said, 29 00:01:31,120 --> 00:01:33,800 Speaker 1: he has his own chores and has been taught his 30 00:01:33,959 --> 00:01:36,679 Speaker 1: entire life to clean up after himself. But when he's 31 00:01:36,720 --> 00:01:39,040 Speaker 1: getting himself up early in the mornings and rushing off 32 00:01:39,040 --> 00:01:41,319 Speaker 1: to school, this is something I've come to enjoy doing 33 00:01:41,360 --> 00:01:43,840 Speaker 1: for him. This way, when he gets home, he can 34 00:01:43,840 --> 00:01:46,000 Speaker 1: get his homework done in his room and just relax. 35 00:01:46,240 --> 00:01:48,640 Speaker 1: There's plenty of other things Austin helps with around the house, 36 00:01:48,720 --> 00:01:50,320 Speaker 1: and I can only imagine what it's like being a 37 00:01:50,320 --> 00:01:53,000 Speaker 1: teenager in today's world. It is my job to make 38 00:01:53,040 --> 00:01:55,960 Speaker 1: my children feel at peace. So if it's picking up 39 00:01:55,960 --> 00:01:58,480 Speaker 1: a few pieces of clothes or making his bed, then 40 00:01:58,520 --> 00:02:01,720 Speaker 1: I'm more than happy to do it for him. And 41 00:02:01,760 --> 00:02:03,600 Speaker 1: I read that and I just thought this is so wholesome. 42 00:02:04,160 --> 00:02:07,040 Speaker 1: Isn't that great? But not everybody felt the same way. 43 00:02:07,360 --> 00:02:09,160 Speaker 1: What's your reaction when you see something like that. 44 00:02:09,919 --> 00:02:11,600 Speaker 2: I really hate social media. 45 00:02:12,040 --> 00:02:13,360 Speaker 1: Well, this is why I've sworn off it. I just 46 00:02:13,560 --> 00:02:15,640 Speaker 1: I won't use it anymore. I haven't checked my Facebook 47 00:02:15,639 --> 00:02:17,120 Speaker 1: account for months. 48 00:02:17,280 --> 00:02:20,600 Speaker 2: There's a whole heap of feelings there. The first thing 49 00:02:20,840 --> 00:02:26,160 Speaker 2: is it interests me what people feel they should share 50 00:02:26,280 --> 00:02:31,600 Speaker 2: on socials. Well, there's that, But secondly, why everybody has 51 00:02:31,639 --> 00:02:34,440 Speaker 2: to have an opinion? And if we know that people 52 00:02:34,440 --> 00:02:36,520 Speaker 2: are going to have an opinion about it, then we 53 00:02:36,560 --> 00:02:39,359 Speaker 2: can't really get upset if we pose something and people 54 00:02:39,600 --> 00:02:41,200 Speaker 2: have a different opinion to ours. 55 00:02:41,360 --> 00:02:43,160 Speaker 1: Well, in fairness to Shannon Taki, I'm not sure that 56 00:02:43,200 --> 00:02:45,919 Speaker 1: she was upset, and I'm sure that she probably expected it, 57 00:02:46,240 --> 00:02:48,840 Speaker 1: but I guess I don't really want to talk about 58 00:02:49,040 --> 00:02:53,360 Speaker 1: her and the I mean, the feedback was huge. It 59 00:02:53,400 --> 00:02:56,000 Speaker 1: was extreme. I'm both ends right, some people saying, you're 60 00:02:56,080 --> 00:02:59,280 Speaker 1: enabling your son, you're teaching him gender roles, what he's 61 00:02:59,320 --> 00:03:01,320 Speaker 1: going to expect his wife to pick up after him 62 00:03:01,320 --> 00:03:03,280 Speaker 1: as well, And then there are people at the other 63 00:03:03,360 --> 00:03:05,000 Speaker 1: end saying good on your mom, like this is a 64 00:03:05,040 --> 00:03:08,040 Speaker 1: really kind and sweet thing to do, and kids are 65 00:03:08,200 --> 00:03:11,240 Speaker 1: carrying a lot, and I mean, there was just so 66 00:03:11,320 --> 00:03:13,040 Speaker 1: much warmth as well, and. 67 00:03:12,960 --> 00:03:15,239 Speaker 2: That's how I feel about it. I just I think 68 00:03:15,240 --> 00:03:17,280 Speaker 2: that's the difference between you and I. When it comes 69 00:03:17,280 --> 00:03:20,200 Speaker 2: to socials, I don't actually read any of the comments. 70 00:03:21,240 --> 00:03:24,840 Speaker 2: I'm not interested in what other people's opinion is about 71 00:03:24,840 --> 00:03:26,280 Speaker 2: somebody's posts. 72 00:03:26,280 --> 00:03:28,120 Speaker 1: If I ever get back on to social media, I'm 73 00:03:28,120 --> 00:03:29,560 Speaker 1: going to stop reading comments completely. 74 00:03:29,560 --> 00:03:30,480 Speaker 2: I just don't. 75 00:03:30,560 --> 00:03:32,160 Speaker 1: I'll share my thing and that can blow up, and 76 00:03:32,240 --> 00:03:34,720 Speaker 1: I'll just walk away. I'll be the rock walking away 77 00:03:34,760 --> 00:03:37,720 Speaker 1: from the warehouse that just exploded after I've destroyed the enemy. 78 00:03:37,880 --> 00:03:40,200 Speaker 1: Just walk away. Don't even look back over my shoulder. 79 00:03:40,280 --> 00:03:42,120 Speaker 1: Oh there's a fireware didn't even notice. 80 00:03:42,280 --> 00:03:46,760 Speaker 2: Mother to mother, heart to heart, I love that she's 81 00:03:46,800 --> 00:03:50,400 Speaker 2: actually thought about why she does what she does and 82 00:03:50,440 --> 00:03:55,880 Speaker 2: that her actions are guided by love. I you know, 83 00:03:55,920 --> 00:03:56,200 Speaker 2: on the. 84 00:03:56,160 --> 00:03:58,040 Speaker 1: Other hand, I don't think her actions, well, maybe they 85 00:03:58,040 --> 00:03:59,560 Speaker 1: are got it by love. She certainly said that I 86 00:03:59,600 --> 00:04:02,080 Speaker 1: reckon her action so guided by I want a clean house. 87 00:04:02,920 --> 00:04:05,600 Speaker 2: Well, I was just about to say, I, on the 88 00:04:05,640 --> 00:04:09,240 Speaker 2: other hand, am guided by the fact that I need 89 00:04:09,240 --> 00:04:11,400 Speaker 2: to have a clean house. So the reality is I 90 00:04:11,400 --> 00:04:14,280 Speaker 2: don't do it every day, but when the children's rooms 91 00:04:14,280 --> 00:04:16,280 Speaker 2: get to a point where I cannot walk in there 92 00:04:16,320 --> 00:04:19,159 Speaker 2: and feel calm and peaceful. I will get in there 93 00:04:19,160 --> 00:04:22,760 Speaker 2: and I will clean it. But just like she said, 94 00:04:23,880 --> 00:04:29,400 Speaker 2: the kids don't have the same level of I want 95 00:04:29,400 --> 00:04:32,840 Speaker 2: to say, perception and understanding. Because when I have conversations 96 00:04:32,880 --> 00:04:36,599 Speaker 2: with our children, specifically about what it feels like to 97 00:04:36,640 --> 00:04:42,240 Speaker 2: walk into a clean home, they can absolutely, absolutely tell 98 00:04:42,279 --> 00:04:45,120 Speaker 2: me how nice it is and how calming it is, 99 00:04:45,160 --> 00:04:48,880 Speaker 2: and how peaceful, and how it just feels so good 100 00:04:48,920 --> 00:04:52,000 Speaker 2: to come home to. But in their own space, they 101 00:04:52,040 --> 00:04:55,160 Speaker 2: haven't yet worked that out. They just think it's all 102 00:04:55,160 --> 00:04:57,960 Speaker 2: of their stuff, and so they find comfort in their stuff. 103 00:04:58,480 --> 00:05:01,159 Speaker 2: But when they come home in their room clean, they 104 00:05:01,200 --> 00:05:03,320 Speaker 2: love it, and they will tell me that they love it. 105 00:05:03,360 --> 00:05:05,039 Speaker 1: We have a daughter who gets up very very early 106 00:05:05,080 --> 00:05:08,120 Speaker 1: every morning. She's off to a class before school, like 107 00:05:08,160 --> 00:05:11,120 Speaker 1: she's out of the house at six am, and often 108 00:05:11,160 --> 00:05:12,800 Speaker 1: you will spend some time in her room making it 109 00:05:12,839 --> 00:05:14,679 Speaker 1: tidy so that when she comes home the room's tidy. 110 00:05:14,720 --> 00:05:17,240 Speaker 1: And that doesn't enable her, that doesn't make her take 111 00:05:17,240 --> 00:05:19,320 Speaker 1: it for granted. It's just the reality that she's not 112 00:05:19,320 --> 00:05:21,080 Speaker 1: going to get up early enough that she can pull 113 00:05:21,120 --> 00:05:24,000 Speaker 1: her whole bedroom together and have it reset before she 114 00:05:24,040 --> 00:05:26,200 Speaker 1: starts a day. For you, it's important you like the 115 00:05:26,200 --> 00:05:28,000 Speaker 1: house being clean and tidy, and so that's what you do. 116 00:05:34,600 --> 00:05:37,200 Speaker 1: So there's a social media aspect, Kylie, where people have 117 00:05:37,279 --> 00:05:40,040 Speaker 1: outrage and people share their opinions. What I'm interested in 118 00:05:40,160 --> 00:05:42,880 Speaker 1: is having a productive conversation about kids and chores and 119 00:05:42,920 --> 00:05:46,479 Speaker 1: their contribution around the house. What actually matters, And to me, 120 00:05:46,520 --> 00:05:48,200 Speaker 1: there are two things that are really key here. The 121 00:05:48,200 --> 00:05:53,360 Speaker 1: first is do our children express and experience gratitude for 122 00:05:53,520 --> 00:05:55,960 Speaker 1: the things that parents do. Do they have a winner 123 00:05:56,040 --> 00:05:58,719 Speaker 1: so they able to recognize that Mum or Dad or 124 00:05:58,720 --> 00:06:01,360 Speaker 1: their care are going out of the way to cook 125 00:06:01,400 --> 00:06:04,800 Speaker 1: a meal or drive them somewhere or do all those 126 00:06:04,800 --> 00:06:08,600 Speaker 1: things that need to be done for me. That's vital 127 00:06:08,640 --> 00:06:10,880 Speaker 1: and as parents, it's our job to help them to 128 00:06:11,680 --> 00:06:16,160 Speaker 1: do that in a way that isn't overbearing, and also 129 00:06:16,200 --> 00:06:18,880 Speaker 1: in a way that recognizes that developmentally kids will just 130 00:06:18,920 --> 00:06:21,960 Speaker 1: take it for granted and are not supposed to recognize 131 00:06:21,960 --> 00:06:25,279 Speaker 1: and see everything that we're doing. The second thing is 132 00:06:25,320 --> 00:06:29,640 Speaker 1: getting their contribution, making sure that they're having a go 133 00:06:30,480 --> 00:06:34,600 Speaker 1: and while they don't necessarily do the things that we 134 00:06:34,640 --> 00:06:36,400 Speaker 1: want them to do all the time, like they're not 135 00:06:36,440 --> 00:06:39,560 Speaker 1: cleaning the room, for example, what are they doing in 136 00:06:39,600 --> 00:06:42,320 Speaker 1: the living room, or in the yard, or in the kitchen, 137 00:06:42,600 --> 00:06:43,600 Speaker 1: or where. 138 00:06:43,400 --> 00:06:46,200 Speaker 2: They have regular chores, where they are actually contributing to 139 00:06:46,240 --> 00:06:50,080 Speaker 2: the house. Is this part of their daily schedule. 140 00:06:50,680 --> 00:06:53,200 Speaker 1: That's exactly what I'm getting at. Yeah, and it sounds 141 00:06:53,240 --> 00:06:56,680 Speaker 1: like in this case, certainly that's what's going on. There's 142 00:06:56,720 --> 00:06:59,360 Speaker 1: this gendered element that comes into it as well, and 143 00:06:59,800 --> 00:07:03,160 Speaker 1: I get that. But I also think that as you 144 00:07:03,200 --> 00:07:06,120 Speaker 1: get older and you find yourself in a relationship. Let's 145 00:07:06,120 --> 00:07:09,000 Speaker 1: assume that this boy grows up and he finds himself 146 00:07:09,000 --> 00:07:11,120 Speaker 1: a girl. Because all the conversations were about him and 147 00:07:11,160 --> 00:07:15,960 Speaker 1: his future wife, There's going to be a division of 148 00:07:16,040 --> 00:07:18,960 Speaker 1: labor in the home. Not everybody is going to do everything. 149 00:07:19,240 --> 00:07:21,240 Speaker 1: Maybe they'll do a perfect fifty to fifty. You clean 150 00:07:21,280 --> 00:07:23,360 Speaker 1: the bedroom Monday to Thursday, and I clean the bedroom 151 00:07:23,360 --> 00:07:26,360 Speaker 1: from Friday to Saturday. I just I don't think Friday, Satday, Sunday. 152 00:07:26,360 --> 00:07:29,080 Speaker 1: I don't think that's going to happen what usually happened. 153 00:07:29,160 --> 00:07:31,680 Speaker 2: But I don't think anyone wants that neither neither do I. 154 00:07:31,960 --> 00:07:36,600 Speaker 2: The greatest contribution that I have experienced in my life 155 00:07:37,080 --> 00:07:39,800 Speaker 2: is when somebody is willing to just work side by 156 00:07:39,840 --> 00:07:42,760 Speaker 2: side with me, right right, whether that's you in an 157 00:07:42,760 --> 00:07:45,960 Speaker 2: employment situation, there's a big thing that needs to happen, 158 00:07:46,200 --> 00:07:48,400 Speaker 2: and just knowing that you've got teammates that are there 159 00:07:48,440 --> 00:07:51,360 Speaker 2: beside you and you're working towards a common goal. 160 00:07:51,280 --> 00:07:53,680 Speaker 1: Let's get up to our elbows in this and make 161 00:07:53,720 --> 00:07:56,080 Speaker 1: it up. I love cleaning our bedroom with you. I 162 00:07:56,120 --> 00:07:57,880 Speaker 1: really like making our bed with you. I just can't 163 00:07:57,880 --> 00:08:00,119 Speaker 1: make it as well as you. But the other thing 164 00:08:00,240 --> 00:08:03,320 Speaker 1: is there's going to be different people doing different things 165 00:08:03,320 --> 00:08:05,760 Speaker 1: for work at different times. So maybe it just makes 166 00:08:05,800 --> 00:08:08,320 Speaker 1: sense that one person does kn't of look after the 167 00:08:08,320 --> 00:08:10,040 Speaker 1: cleaning up of the bedroom, in the living room, in 168 00:08:10,040 --> 00:08:12,440 Speaker 1: the kitchen, and the other person does look after the X, 169 00:08:12,600 --> 00:08:16,880 Speaker 1: Y and Z. I think in these social media situations 170 00:08:16,880 --> 00:08:20,760 Speaker 1: people get really really worried about the future, and unnecessarily so. 171 00:08:21,840 --> 00:08:24,600 Speaker 1: And the best claim that I have on that is 172 00:08:24,640 --> 00:08:27,840 Speaker 1: that when I look at our daughter Chanelle, who is 173 00:08:27,880 --> 00:08:30,480 Speaker 1: now in her mid twenties and is married with her 174 00:08:30,480 --> 00:08:31,840 Speaker 1: own child. 175 00:08:31,720 --> 00:08:33,640 Speaker 2: And could not keep a clean room, she. 176 00:08:34,880 --> 00:08:37,160 Speaker 1: Had the messiest room of all of our children. I 177 00:08:37,160 --> 00:08:39,719 Speaker 1: think her room was messier than the other kids combined, 178 00:08:39,880 --> 00:08:42,760 Speaker 1: and they're not tidy by any stretch. And now she's 179 00:08:42,960 --> 00:08:46,720 Speaker 1: a wonderful a wonderful mum and homemaker and she really 180 00:08:46,760 --> 00:08:50,400 Speaker 1: relishes having things in order. She's organized. It's like she 181 00:08:50,440 --> 00:08:53,640 Speaker 1: figured it out, she worked it out, and with her 182 00:08:53,720 --> 00:08:57,760 Speaker 1: husband Jared, they just make it work. I'm sure I 183 00:08:57,800 --> 00:08:59,200 Speaker 1: have a little bit of conflict now and then around 184 00:08:59,240 --> 00:09:01,400 Speaker 1: stuff who's not doing this or who should be doing that, 185 00:09:01,960 --> 00:09:05,360 Speaker 1: But as you get older, you work it out. 186 00:09:05,880 --> 00:09:08,360 Speaker 2: As I've talked to mums over the years, the number 187 00:09:08,400 --> 00:09:12,600 Speaker 2: one complaint that they have had is the acknowledgment that 188 00:09:12,800 --> 00:09:16,360 Speaker 2: their partners are not contributors in the home, whether it 189 00:09:16,400 --> 00:09:20,960 Speaker 2: be in the kitchen, cooking, or just doing the household 190 00:09:21,000 --> 00:09:25,040 Speaker 2: chores to keep the house maintained and functioning. It's a 191 00:09:25,080 --> 00:09:30,720 Speaker 2: really big challenge that so many couple's experience because there's 192 00:09:30,760 --> 00:09:33,960 Speaker 2: this kind of i don't know, gendered expectation. Girls do 193 00:09:34,000 --> 00:09:35,800 Speaker 2: the cleaning and boys do the earning. 194 00:09:36,040 --> 00:09:39,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, And maybe that's why I'm relaxed about it because 195 00:09:39,480 --> 00:09:41,640 Speaker 1: in our situation that hasn't been the case, and we 196 00:09:41,720 --> 00:09:44,440 Speaker 1: know many good families where people just pitch in and 197 00:09:44,480 --> 00:09:46,120 Speaker 1: do what they need to do. One of his stories 198 00:09:46,160 --> 00:09:47,720 Speaker 1: like that it does worry me, and it also helps 199 00:09:47,760 --> 00:09:50,720 Speaker 1: me to understand why some of those comments are saying 200 00:09:51,440 --> 00:09:54,400 Speaker 1: what they're saying. But there's a way around this as well. 201 00:09:54,960 --> 00:09:58,000 Speaker 1: The simple way around this is for us as a 202 00:09:58,040 --> 00:10:02,040 Speaker 1: family to sit down and have a family meeting and explore. 203 00:10:02,160 --> 00:10:03,439 Speaker 1: And we do this with our kids all the time. 204 00:10:03,440 --> 00:10:05,079 Speaker 1: They get sick of the chores, they stop doing the chores, 205 00:10:05,120 --> 00:10:06,880 Speaker 1: they start complaining, I hope feeding the dogs. What do 206 00:10:06,920 --> 00:10:08,679 Speaker 1: I have to feed the dogs? And so we sit 207 00:10:08,720 --> 00:10:10,280 Speaker 1: down on a Sunday, we pull out a treat or 208 00:10:10,320 --> 00:10:11,600 Speaker 1: two and we say, all right, we need to talk 209 00:10:11,600 --> 00:10:13,400 Speaker 1: about chores because we're having a little bit of conflict 210 00:10:13,400 --> 00:10:16,920 Speaker 1: and it's not working. And then it's really simple, where 211 00:10:16,920 --> 00:10:18,440 Speaker 1: are you up to with the chores? What chores are 212 00:10:18,480 --> 00:10:20,840 Speaker 1: you willing to do? How do you feel about this one, 213 00:10:20,920 --> 00:10:23,000 Speaker 1: this one, and this one. Here's the thing. We've all 214 00:10:23,040 --> 00:10:25,040 Speaker 1: got to contribute. So what are we going to do? 215 00:10:25,440 --> 00:10:28,000 Speaker 1: And it's an explore, explain in power conversation. It takes 216 00:10:28,040 --> 00:10:30,840 Speaker 1: about ten or fifteen minutes. The kids reading the chores, 217 00:10:30,880 --> 00:10:33,240 Speaker 1: they decide that they're going to rotate who's feeding the 218 00:10:33,280 --> 00:10:36,640 Speaker 1: dog and who's I don't know, vacuuming the floor or whatever, 219 00:10:37,120 --> 00:10:39,520 Speaker 1: and within fifteen minutes they've got their new list of chores. 220 00:10:39,559 --> 00:10:41,480 Speaker 1: And you and I both know that in three weeks 221 00:10:41,559 --> 00:10:43,400 Speaker 1: time they're going to be complaining about the chores they've 222 00:10:43,400 --> 00:10:44,520 Speaker 1: got and they hate them, and we're going to have 223 00:10:44,520 --> 00:10:48,960 Speaker 1: to do it again. But that is the detail. The 224 00:10:48,960 --> 00:10:53,120 Speaker 1: most important principle here is contribution, and everyone's contributing. That's 225 00:10:53,160 --> 00:10:54,480 Speaker 1: the conversation that you need to have. 226 00:10:55,800 --> 00:10:59,240 Speaker 2: I saw a post the other day and a mum 227 00:10:59,240 --> 00:11:02,880 Speaker 2: of six put up six things that she does to 228 00:11:02,960 --> 00:11:08,120 Speaker 2: simplify her daily running of family life with six kids, 229 00:11:08,679 --> 00:11:12,720 Speaker 2: and one of her points was the acknowledgment that she 230 00:11:12,760 --> 00:11:16,000 Speaker 2: doesn't do a weekly chor chart. It's a yearly chor chart. 231 00:11:16,600 --> 00:11:20,720 Speaker 2: I love that I don't have to remember who's doing 232 00:11:20,720 --> 00:11:22,880 Speaker 2: what job because they're doing it for a whole year. 233 00:11:22,920 --> 00:11:25,520 Speaker 1: Can you imagine the complaints about I mean, the main 234 00:11:25,559 --> 00:11:28,000 Speaker 1: one is feeding the dog. Rock we'd have to deal 235 00:11:28,000 --> 00:11:28,440 Speaker 1: with like. 236 00:11:28,440 --> 00:11:30,319 Speaker 2: A leg that everyone begged to her. 237 00:11:30,400 --> 00:11:32,760 Speaker 1: Eleven and a half months of complaining, I don't want 238 00:11:32,800 --> 00:11:34,120 Speaker 1: to feed that dog again. 239 00:11:35,280 --> 00:11:39,440 Speaker 2: But you also acknowledge that they perfect that job. By 240 00:11:39,520 --> 00:11:41,800 Speaker 2: the time they've done it for twelve months, they have 241 00:11:42,960 --> 00:11:45,040 Speaker 2: they've really really got it under wraps. 242 00:11:44,880 --> 00:11:48,160 Speaker 1: All right, explore what the kids feel about the chores 243 00:11:48,200 --> 00:11:50,800 Speaker 1: and their contribution. Explained that the contribution needs to be 244 00:11:50,840 --> 00:11:53,160 Speaker 1: made and empower the kids to come up with some 245 00:11:53,600 --> 00:11:58,600 Speaker 1: chores responsibilities. Roles tasks jobs that they're willing to do 246 00:11:58,840 --> 00:12:01,440 Speaker 1: as their contribution to the family. And by the way, 247 00:12:01,520 --> 00:12:03,120 Speaker 1: if you want the kids to have a clean bedroom 248 00:12:03,120 --> 00:12:05,000 Speaker 1: and they just can't get it done for any number 249 00:12:05,040 --> 00:12:09,000 Speaker 1: of reasons, do it yourself. It's okay, just don't post 250 00:12:09,040 --> 00:12:13,840 Speaker 1: it on social media. That Happy Families podcast is produced 251 00:12:13,880 --> 00:12:16,880 Speaker 1: by Justin Roulin from Bridge Media. Love your work, Justin, 252 00:12:16,920 --> 00:12:18,440 Speaker 1: Thanks so much for all your help and for more 253 00:12:18,480 --> 00:12:21,240 Speaker 1: information about how to make your family happier. We'd love 254 00:12:21,240 --> 00:12:24,120 Speaker 1: for you to visit us at happyfamilies dot com dot 255 00:12:24,120 --> 00:12:24,160 Speaker 1: a