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Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families podcast. It's the podcast for the

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Speaker 1: time poor parent who just once answers me now Gooday.

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Speaker 2: This is doctor Justin Coilson, the founder of Happy Families

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Speaker 2: dot com dot Au and the Six Kids. Normally I'm

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Speaker 2: here with Kylie, my wife, missus Happy Families as my

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Speaker 2: parenting podcast co host. But it's school holidays in Queensland.

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Speaker 2: I hope that you're having a great school holiday break

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Speaker 2: with your kids. Kylie and I will be back from

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Speaker 2: our holidays with a whole lot of new episodes of

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Speaker 2: the Happy Families podcast starting again on July the eleventh,

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Speaker 2: but for now, some highlights from recent Happy Families podcasts.

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Speaker 2: Steve Bitoff is a best selling author, and we talked

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Speaker 2: to him in episode three hundred and twenty four about

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Speaker 2: his book Fully Human and his idea of a super sense.

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Speaker 2: Steve explained what that is and how to tap into it.

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Speaker 1: We have our normal, everyday brain, but we have a

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Speaker 1: wider brain that's on the right side, which takes in

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Speaker 1: everything and it talks to us through our guts and

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Speaker 1: so everyone listening would know what I mean by a

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Speaker 1: gut feeling, but it's actually literally true. Just to or

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Speaker 1: Kylie if you go down inside your belly just right now,

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Speaker 1: as I'm talking to you, there'll be a bunch of

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Speaker 1: sensations going on down in the middle of your body,

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Speaker 1: and people listening the same thing, and it'll be something

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Speaker 1: about what I'm saying to you. Is it making sense?

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Speaker 1: Does it sound like a load of rubbish? Or should

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Speaker 1: I have gone to the toilet before I sat down

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Speaker 1: for the interview. It's like the wild part of you,

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Speaker 1: and it's always there, and it's always giving you a

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Speaker 1: kind of a reading on the situation. And I call

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Speaker 1: it super sense because it's very very alert and very

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Speaker 1: wise to what's going on, and it's just you just

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Speaker 1: go there by traveling down inside your body. And so

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Speaker 1: if one of your kids comes home from school and

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Speaker 1: says something and the tone of their voice isn't quite right,

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Speaker 1: or something about their expression is a little bit just

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Speaker 1: not quite right. If you're busy and you're thinking fast

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Speaker 1: and you're doing a lot of things, you won't register that,

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Speaker 1: but somewhere inside you will notice. And if you think

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Speaker 1: back to that conversation, somewhere deep down in your guard,

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Speaker 1: there'll be a kind of just a little twinge of ah,

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Speaker 1: something wasn't right there. And so what I'm encouraging people

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Speaker 1: to do is to listen to your supersense, go down

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Speaker 1: into your body, be aware of what's happening all the time,

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Speaker 1: because in a way, this is the real you. This

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Speaker 1: is where you live. You don't live in your thoughts,

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Speaker 1: you don't live in your emotions. There's a more peaceful place,

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Speaker 1: and your super sense is where you'll get your feeling

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Speaker 1: of steadiness from. And so a family is like a cyclone.

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Speaker 1: You know it's whirling around you. If you go into

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Speaker 1: your own body, you'll be in touch with you and

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Speaker 1: that kind of wild creature like a panther or a

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Speaker 1: big mama bear, that is steady and strong, and that'll

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Speaker 1: know if you're rushing too much. It'll know if you're

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Speaker 1: not breathing deeply enough. It'll know if you need to

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Speaker 1: go into your child's betterm and say what did you

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Speaker 1: mean by that? And the magical thing about it is

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Speaker 1: as you start to get in touch with your own

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Speaker 1: super sense, you will be more present and your children

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Speaker 1: will experience you as being there for them because we

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Speaker 1: all say, don't we you know we have to be

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Speaker 1: there for our children. Now. I used to be a

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Speaker 1: very anxious person. I am on the autism spectrum, and

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Speaker 1: I'm just naturally anxious. And sometimes my daughter would say, Dad,

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Speaker 1: where are you? You know, You're just not here, And

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Speaker 1: I'd look at her with, you know, with penetrating eyes

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Speaker 1: and work to try and be there and listen and think.

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Speaker 1: But it didn't do the trick because so I wasn't

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Speaker 1: inside myself. And now that I've learned to be to

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Speaker 1: use super sense and travel down to be like down

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Speaker 1: in my belly noticing my own sensations, then what happens

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Speaker 1: is I'm also more aware of my children.

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Speaker 2: That's Steve Biddoff from episode three hundred and twenty four

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Speaker 2: of the Happy Families podcast, talking about his book Fully Human.

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Speaker 2: Your daughter just walked by, eyes glued to her phone,

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Speaker 2: expression unreadable. You ask her to put it down, but

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Speaker 2: she balks. You know it's not good for her, but

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Speaker 2: you're not sure why or how to support better choices.

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Speaker 2: In the webinar pixel perfect, I joined with psychologist and

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Speaker 2: teen tech expert Jocelyn Brewer to discuss how to set

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Speaker 2: screen boundaries that work for you and your daughter. Check

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