WEBVTT - MINI: A scientific deep dive into why men suck at finding things

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<v Speaker 1>Hihart podcasts, Heem More Kiss podcast playlist and listen live

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<v Speaker 1>you about something that has been plaguing my relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, lucky we.

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<v Speaker 3>Are together now on a radio show. Then we talk,

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my.

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<v Speaker 2>God, what are you doing about?

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<v Speaker 1>So we've all heard of like the man look cute.

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<v Speaker 1>We all make jokes about it, men who can't find

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<v Speaker 1>things in the house.

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<v Speaker 2>Like you've had a man's look. Yeah, you've had a

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<v Speaker 2>man's look.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, you tell someone exactly where it is and

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<v Speaker 1>then they can't find it, and it's the quote is

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<v Speaker 1>it's a man's look. This has become a real point

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<v Speaker 1>of contention in my relationship with Matt, and I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know whether it's getting progressively worse, whether he's I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe the testosterone is increasing in him and therefore he

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<v Speaker 1>just can't find things anymore. But it is something that

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<v Speaker 1>we deal with frequently, to the point where I feel

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<v Speaker 1>as though I could not be more specific about where

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<v Speaker 1>I tell him something is, and he will walk downstairs,

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<v Speaker 1>wander around looking at the ceiling and then say, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I can't find it, can't find it.

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<v Speaker 3>It must be bad too, because you're bad. So if

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<v Speaker 3>he's if he's worse than you like, because in our

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<v Speaker 3>relationship you're like, have you seen my such and such?

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<v Speaker 3>And if you're guiding him, then like the.

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<v Speaker 2>Both of you, there's problems. Yeah, where are our kids?

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<v Speaker 3>Has anyone seen?

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<v Speaker 2>How many kids do we have?

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<v Speaker 3>I do?

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<v Speaker 1>That's why we're having another one. Just replace them because.

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<v Speaker 3>You've lost the other one.

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<v Speaker 2>She'll show up. She's under lowed.

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<v Speaker 1>No speaking of Okay, so we were putting. I was

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<v Speaker 1>putting a lot of the girls to bed the other night,

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<v Speaker 1>and Lola specifically has a drink bottle you know that

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<v Speaker 1>she has in bed with her when she goes to sleep.

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<v Speaker 1>They both do, but they're usually always in their beds. Anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>I'd brought them downstairs and I had washed them, and

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<v Speaker 1>so i'd put them away instead of taking them back

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<v Speaker 1>upstairs and just putting them next to their bed. I

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<v Speaker 1>called out to Matt and I was like, Babe, can

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<v Speaker 1>you get Lola's drink bottle?

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<v Speaker 2>He's like, I can't find it.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was like, okay, well, it's as he sits

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<v Speaker 1>on allow and literally literally and I was like, it's

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<v Speaker 1>in the cupboard where the drink bottles are we.

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<v Speaker 2>Have this one cupboard in our house?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>I know because we have we have so many drink bottles.

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<v Speaker 1>He's got a million drink bottles for his Boddy protein

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<v Speaker 1>shakes or everything.

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<v Speaker 2>Anyway, it's just full of drink bottles, nothing else. Yep,

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<v Speaker 2>everyone has that cupboard.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was like, it's in the drink bottle cupboard.

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<v Speaker 1>I hear nothing for a second, can't find it. And

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, okay, well, why don't you just grab

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<v Speaker 1>one of the other drink it is in there, grab

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<v Speaker 1>one of the other drink bottles. I know that there's

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<v Speaker 1>five kid appropriate drink bottles in there. There's no drink

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<v Speaker 1>bottles in here. And I was like, I'm sorry, are

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<v Speaker 1>you telling me that there is not a single drink bottle.

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<v Speaker 2>In the drink bottle in the drink bottle.

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<v Speaker 1>Cupboard which I just restocked. And he was like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>can't find it.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay. I was like, and this is what you do, right.

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<v Speaker 3>You go?

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<v Speaker 2>If I walk downstairs.

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<v Speaker 3>You know it's bad, child, but you know it's bad

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<v Speaker 3>if you start with mate.

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<v Speaker 2>So I do.

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<v Speaker 1>I walk downstairs, open the drink bottle cupboard full to

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<v Speaker 1>the brim of drink bottles right in front of five

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<v Speaker 1>kids drink bottles. My husband turns around and says to me, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't know they were in that cupboard.

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<v Speaker 2>Sorry, you've lived in the house for two years. We

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<v Speaker 2>mutually live in this house.

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<v Speaker 1>This is the cupboard that has always held all of

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<v Speaker 1>the And now I realized the reason why he keeps

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<v Speaker 1>buying more friggin drink.

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<v Speaker 2>Bottles is because he didn't know that.

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<v Speaker 1>He thought he was losing them, and he didn't realize

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<v Speaker 1>they were just going into a cupboard.

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<v Speaker 2>Sorry, you don't live in the royal Palace. The kitchen

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<v Speaker 2>is not that big. He could have figured it out.

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<v Speaker 2>I know I'm calling it. I'm going to use the

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<v Speaker 2>term weaponized in competence.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, well, I mean let's not let's not sorry big

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<v Speaker 1>terms around that some people might not know the meaning to.

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<v Speaker 3>You can tell what I've learned something new, I will

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<v Speaker 3>drop it.

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<v Speaker 1>Matt said. You know, I might have had a man's look.

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<v Speaker 1>He's like, but I really try this time. I thought

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<v Speaker 1>I was looking in the right covert rubbish. And I

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<v Speaker 1>think that there has to be more to this, because

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<v Speaker 1>it can't just be weaponized in competence. Men out there,

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<v Speaker 1>surely they're just as capable at.

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<v Speaker 2>Looking for things as their female counterparts.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, they're lazy and they're not as smart.

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<v Speaker 2>That's odd.

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<v Speaker 1>All the men in the car like turning over to

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<v Speaker 1>listen to I don't.

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<v Speaker 2>Know who else is on the afternoons.

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<v Speaker 1>No, okay, look, there's minimal research on this topic, which

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<v Speaker 1>might come as a surprise, But there is a theory.

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<v Speaker 2>It's called the hunter gatherer hypothesis. So this is what

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<v Speaker 2>it says.

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<v Speaker 1>Some researchers suggest that men inherently struggle to find things

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<v Speaker 1>more than women. However, some researchers suggest that men's brains

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<v Speaker 1>might be more adept at identifying distant, rapidly moving objects

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<v Speaker 1>like prey, while women's brains are better at recognizing nearby

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<v Speaker 1>static objects like berries and household eyes.

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<v Speaker 3>Whatever. Because we have lost me at pray, do.

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<v Speaker 1>You learn are out they're catching balls and women are

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<v Speaker 1>catching drink bottles.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean that's literally what my husband does is gold

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<v Speaker 3>key by catches balls.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, here's my first thought.

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<v Speaker 3>Why the hell are we doing research studies on why

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<v Speaker 3>men can't find stuff?

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<v Speaker 1>Where?

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<v Speaker 3>We haven't done them on endometriosis, we haven't done them

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<v Speaker 3>on menopause, we haven't done.

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<v Speaker 2>Them all I'm all for this that he need to

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<v Speaker 2>be done. No, come back to me, come back to me.

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<v Speaker 3>We've done research on menopause, then we could talk about

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<v Speaker 3>why men can't find stuff. I literally just got off

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<v Speaker 3>the I mean you were in the break, Laura, you

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<v Speaker 3>were listening to my conversation with my husband. He's at

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<v Speaker 3>my house and left him out some keys, and I'm

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<v Speaker 3>trying to talk him through where they are and I'm like, no, Ben,

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<v Speaker 3>they're right in front of you. He's like, I can't

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<v Speaker 3>see them, They're not here. It was infuriating. I could

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<v Speaker 3>see them.

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<v Speaker 2>In the FaceTime. I'm like, they're they're there. He couldn't

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<v Speaker 2>see them.

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<v Speaker 3>And I'm like, what is wrong with men? But I'm

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<v Speaker 3>glad now we've got the research that he can't find

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<v Speaker 3>a berry, but he could catch a.

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<v Speaker 2>Ball and find the prey.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, we've made this very heterosexual. But what about

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<v Speaker 1>if you're in a same sex what if it's two

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<v Speaker 1>men they never find anything, but Grace, you're in a

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<v Speaker 1>same sex relationship, Surely there's someone in your household who

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<v Speaker 1>just can't find anything.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah. I suck at looking for things, and my partner's like,

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<v Speaker 3>if I find it in three seconds, I'll be so mad.

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<v Speaker 3>That's an empty threat, because you know you are mad. Nah,

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<v Speaker 3>but you win them over, and I know you would.

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<v Speaker 3>To you that your eyelids, I'm very lovable.

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<v Speaker 2>Proclaimed Just look, we're getting out of here. I've got

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<v Speaker 2>shit to look for anyway,