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Speaker 1: you about something that has been plaguing my relationship.
Speaker 2: Well, lucky we.
Speaker 3: Are together now on a radio show. Then we talk,
Speaker 3: Oh my.
Speaker 2: God, what are you doing about?
Speaker 1: So we've all heard of like the man look cute.
Speaker 1: We all make jokes about it, men who can't find
Speaker 1: things in the house.
Speaker 2: Like you've had a man's look. Yeah, you've had a
Speaker 2: man's look.
Speaker 1: You know, you tell someone exactly where it is and
Speaker 1: then they can't find it, and it's the quote is
Speaker 1: it's a man's look. This has become a real point
Speaker 1: of contention in my relationship with Matt, and I don't
Speaker 1: know whether it's getting progressively worse, whether he's I don't know,
Speaker 1: maybe the testosterone is increasing in him and therefore he
Speaker 1: just can't find things anymore. But it is something that
Speaker 1: we deal with frequently, to the point where I feel
Speaker 1: as though I could not be more specific about where
Speaker 1: I tell him something is, and he will walk downstairs,
Speaker 1: wander around looking at the ceiling and then say, oh,
Speaker 1: I can't find it, can't find it.
Speaker 3: It must be bad too, because you're bad. So if
Speaker 3: he's if he's worse than you like, because in our
Speaker 3: relationship you're like, have you seen my such and such?
Speaker 3: And if you're guiding him, then like the.
Speaker 2: Both of you, there's problems. Yeah, where are our kids?
Speaker 3: Has anyone seen?
Speaker 2: How many kids do we have?
Speaker 3: I do?
Speaker 1: That's why we're having another one. Just replace them because.
Speaker 3: You've lost the other one.
Speaker 2: She'll show up. She's under lowed.
Speaker 1: No speaking of Okay, so we were putting. I was
Speaker 1: putting a lot of the girls to bed the other night,
Speaker 1: and Lola specifically has a drink bottle you know that
Speaker 1: she has in bed with her when she goes to sleep.
Speaker 1: They both do, but they're usually always in their beds. Anyway,
Speaker 1: I'd brought them downstairs and I had washed them, and
Speaker 1: so i'd put them away instead of taking them back
Speaker 1: upstairs and just putting them next to their bed. I
Speaker 1: called out to Matt and I was like, Babe, can
Speaker 1: you get Lola's drink bottle?
Speaker 2: He's like, I can't find it.
Speaker 1: And I was like, okay, well, it's as he sits
Speaker 1: on allow and literally literally and I was like, it's
Speaker 1: in the cupboard where the drink bottles are we.
Speaker 2: Have this one cupboard in our house?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: I know because we have we have so many drink bottles.
Speaker 1: He's got a million drink bottles for his Boddy protein
Speaker 1: shakes or everything.
Speaker 2: Anyway, it's just full of drink bottles, nothing else. Yep,
Speaker 2: everyone has that cupboard.
Speaker 1: And I was like, it's in the drink bottle cupboard.
Speaker 1: I hear nothing for a second, can't find it. And
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, well, why don't you just grab
Speaker 1: one of the other drink it is in there, grab
Speaker 1: one of the other drink bottles. I know that there's
Speaker 1: five kid appropriate drink bottles in there. There's no drink
Speaker 1: bottles in here. And I was like, I'm sorry, are
Speaker 1: you telling me that there is not a single drink bottle.
Speaker 2: In the drink bottle in the drink bottle.
Speaker 1: Cupboard which I just restocked. And he was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: can't find it.
Speaker 2: Okay. I was like, and this is what you do, right.
Speaker 3: You go?
Speaker 2: If I walk downstairs.
Speaker 3: You know it's bad, child, but you know it's bad
Speaker 3: if you start with mate.
Speaker 2: So I do.
Speaker 1: I walk downstairs, open the drink bottle cupboard full to
Speaker 1: the brim of drink bottles right in front of five
Speaker 1: kids drink bottles. My husband turns around and says to me, oh,
Speaker 1: I didn't know they were in that cupboard.
Speaker 2: Sorry, you've lived in the house for two years. We
Speaker 2: mutually live in this house.
Speaker 1: This is the cupboard that has always held all of
Speaker 1: the And now I realized the reason why he keeps
Speaker 1: buying more friggin drink.
Speaker 2: Bottles is because he didn't know that.
Speaker 1: He thought he was losing them, and he didn't realize
Speaker 1: they were just going into a cupboard.
Speaker 2: Sorry, you don't live in the royal Palace. The kitchen
Speaker 2: is not that big. He could have figured it out.
Speaker 2: I know I'm calling it. I'm going to use the
Speaker 2: term weaponized in competence.
Speaker 1: Okay, well, I mean let's not let's not sorry big
Speaker 1: terms around that some people might not know the meaning to.
Speaker 3: You can tell what I've learned something new, I will
Speaker 3: drop it.
Speaker 1: Matt said. You know, I might have had a man's look.
Speaker 1: He's like, but I really try this time. I thought
Speaker 1: I was looking in the right covert rubbish. And I
Speaker 1: think that there has to be more to this, because
Speaker 1: it can't just be weaponized in competence. Men out there,
Speaker 1: surely they're just as capable at.
Speaker 2: Looking for things as their female counterparts.
Speaker 3: Oh, they're lazy and they're not as smart.
Speaker 2: That's odd.
Speaker 1: All the men in the car like turning over to
Speaker 1: listen to I don't.
Speaker 2: Know who else is on the afternoons.
Speaker 1: No, okay, look, there's minimal research on this topic, which
Speaker 1: might come as a surprise, But there is a theory.
Speaker 2: It's called the hunter gatherer hypothesis. So this is what
Speaker 2: it says.
Speaker 1: Some researchers suggest that men inherently struggle to find things
Speaker 1: more than women. However, some researchers suggest that men's brains
Speaker 1: might be more adept at identifying distant, rapidly moving objects
Speaker 1: like prey, while women's brains are better at recognizing nearby
Speaker 1: static objects like berries and household eyes.
Speaker 3: Whatever. Because we have lost me at pray, do.
Speaker 1: You learn are out they're catching balls and women are
Speaker 1: catching drink bottles.
Speaker 3: I mean that's literally what my husband does is gold
Speaker 3: key by catches balls.
Speaker 2: Okay, here's my first thought.
Speaker 3: Why the hell are we doing research studies on why
Speaker 3: men can't find stuff?
Speaker 1: Where?
Speaker 3: We haven't done them on endometriosis, we haven't done them
Speaker 3: on menopause, we haven't done.
Speaker 2: Them all I'm all for this that he need to
Speaker 2: be done. No, come back to me, come back to me.
Speaker 3: We've done research on menopause, then we could talk about
Speaker 3: why men can't find stuff. I literally just got off
Speaker 3: the I mean you were in the break, Laura, you
Speaker 3: were listening to my conversation with my husband. He's at
Speaker 3: my house and left him out some keys, and I'm
Speaker 3: trying to talk him through where they are and I'm like, no, Ben,
Speaker 3: they're right in front of you. He's like, I can't
Speaker 3: see them, They're not here. It was infuriating. I could
Speaker 3: see them.
Speaker 2: In the FaceTime. I'm like, they're they're there. He couldn't
Speaker 2: see them.
Speaker 3: And I'm like, what is wrong with men? But I'm
Speaker 3: glad now we've got the research that he can't find
Speaker 3: a berry, but he could catch a.
Speaker 2: Ball and find the prey.
Speaker 1: I mean, we've made this very heterosexual. But what about
Speaker 1: if you're in a same sex what if it's two
Speaker 1: men they never find anything, but Grace, you're in a
Speaker 1: same sex relationship, Surely there's someone in your household who
Speaker 1: just can't find anything.
Speaker 3: Yeah. I suck at looking for things, and my partner's like,
Speaker 3: if I find it in three seconds, I'll be so mad.
Speaker 3: That's an empty threat, because you know you are mad. Nah,
Speaker 3: but you win them over, and I know you would.
Speaker 3: To you that your eyelids, I'm very lovable.
Speaker 2: Proclaimed Just look, we're getting out of here. I've got
Speaker 2: shit to look for anyway,