Speaker 1: Flex and Rooms.
Speaker 2: Flex and Frooms. This is the Flex and Frooms catch.
Speaker 1: Up podcast.
Speaker 2: Thursday. We are here today we're talking about birth order.
Speaker 2: It's a bit of flex.
Speaker 3: Coded, but more interestingly, I would say, sorry, guys, yeah,
Speaker 3: this one is a real important I pot my pussy
Speaker 3: with this break, okay. And that is that people who say, yeah,
Speaker 3: beat it out, okay, sorry to make your job harder.
Speaker 2: It is your birthday.
Speaker 4: I just feel like as someone has a great track
Speaker 4: record with procuring people who have great sexual prowess. I
Speaker 4: don't know how this holds up, but I'm always always always.
Speaker 1: Excited when Fremi comes through with an analysis.
Speaker 4: You're assessed the receipts that you have, and you yeah,
Speaker 4: and the results were conclusive.
Speaker 1: However, I don't know what came first.
Speaker 2: Yeah, chicken, eg, you're with Flex and Frooms.
Speaker 1: Here we go, Mummy, can I listen to Flex and Rooms.
Speaker 2: Flex and Rooms. I'm Kata.
Speaker 3: I was hanging out with my cousin David a couple
Speaker 3: of weeks ago. Turns out that we are both Hubanan pilled.
Speaker 3: Andrew Hubman is a neuroscientist who has a podcast called
Speaker 3: Humman Lab, where he talks about hormones lifestyle moods, all
Speaker 3: of these amazing things, how to optimize yourself. I've learned
Speaker 3: a lot from it. Chin wagging my cousin. He said
Speaker 3: that he watched a little YouTube short, which a big questionable,
Speaker 3: but he loves YouTube shorts.
Speaker 2: He's thirty six. I'll give him a hoop pass.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, okay, shorts is rogue, though it's super rogue.
Speaker 1: Okay, let's not judge him too harshly.
Speaker 2: I think he has an android though.
Speaker 4: So yeah, I'm off that twenty twenty three inns. I'm
Speaker 4: not judging android users.
Speaker 3: I have the tape from the Human Lab. Yes, this
Speaker 3: is a YouTube tape.
Speaker 2: I have the tape. Please, Mike, you play the tape.
Speaker 5: The pattern of breathing is really simple. I do it
Speaker 5: anytime I'm starting to feel a little worn out or
Speaker 5: like i might be catching something, or if I was
Speaker 5: on a plane and someone around me seemed like they
Speaker 5: weren't doing so well. Involves twenty five deep breaths in
Speaker 5: through the nose, in this case, out through the mouth,
Speaker 5: then at the end of that exhaling all your air,
Speaker 5: holding your breath for fifteen to sixty seconds. Don't fight
Speaker 5: the impulse to breathe when you feel the impulse of breathing,
Speaker 5: breathe in, and then hold your breath or as long
Speaker 5: as you can until you feel the impulse to breathe.
Speaker 5: But it basically I want you all twenty five. It
Speaker 5: goes something like this, so big deep breaths, right, and
Speaker 5: I can already feel I'm kind of heating up. That's
Speaker 5: the us of adrenal. Adrenaline is the signal for the
Speaker 5: immune system to deploy these killer cells and these cells
Speaker 5: that go in combat infection.
Speaker 4: We tried that as that was playing. I don't know
Speaker 4: if I like the feeling of adrenaline with no context.
Speaker 4: That feels anxiety. And there's something about breathing in the
Speaker 4: sneezy air.
Speaker 1: After speculation of infection that doesn't sit right with me.
Speaker 3: If you want it to work, if it didn't, you'd
Speaker 3: be like if it didn't work, you'd be mad.
Speaker 2: And if you like you think, I wouldn't get a
Speaker 2: hold anymore.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Literally, it's all in the head. Thanks you, man, man.
Speaker 2: Thank you to my cousin bringing that to my attention.
Speaker 1: I might try it.
Speaker 3: I'll likely figure and as I said, I'm usually the
Speaker 3: prepartary of sickness, so just keep an eye out everyone
Speaker 3: if you're close.
Speaker 1: All right, astrology is over.
Speaker 4: There's a new kid in town, and it's called birth orders.
Speaker 4: If you always felt as though astrologers didn't hit the mark,
Speaker 4: but she wanted a personality assessment that you could loosely
Speaker 4: judge everybody by. This is one for you. I think
Speaker 4: you're going to enjoy this. And after hearing this, you
Speaker 4: might wish you were born at a different time or
Speaker 4: in a different order. So I made a little tweet
Speaker 4: the other day on a thread.
Speaker 1: Sorry, I apologized, I made a thread. They need to
Speaker 1: figure out.
Speaker 2: Way what are you doing freaking out?
Speaker 4: We made a thread and the thread said am I
Speaker 4: self interested? Or am I just the youngest sibling? Naturally
Speaker 4: went gangbusters.
Speaker 5: Yes.
Speaker 4: It encouraged me to do a bit of research about
Speaker 4: birth orders because we know a bit of the like
Speaker 4: the light generalizations, but I thought there might be more
Speaker 4: to it. So this guy called Adler. He had theories
Speaker 4: about how your birth order impacts the kind of person
Speaker 4: you become, and he says that it has a lot
Speaker 4: to do with whether you're life is destined for greatness
Speaker 4: or sadness.
Speaker 1: It is that deep.
Speaker 4: Bear in mind, though this whole theory has developed over
Speaker 4: one hundred years ago. It's a different time, a different place.
Speaker 4: A lot of it can be heaps valid, but a
Speaker 4: lot of it's like really contradictory as well. It says
Speaker 4: that the basic firstborn child personality is having higher levels
Speaker 4: of intellect than other children and other birth orders.
Speaker 1: As a standard, they're more likely to be leaders.
Speaker 4: Given that they are the leader of the children and
Speaker 4: have personality traits such as persistence and emotional stability, they
Speaker 4: tend to feel either authoritarian or entitled to some kind
Speaker 4: of power or status because they've had it growing up.
Speaker 4: Other traits include the controlling, conscientious, cautious, reliable achievers, neurotic construction.
Speaker 4: A lot of the first born child friends that I
Speaker 4: have are the mum friends. I don't think they want
Speaker 4: to be.
Speaker 2: But they are so hard road, isn't it.
Speaker 1: It's yeah, it's not great broth and we do sympathize it.
Speaker 4: Perfect dynamic for us literally toddlings and the mum.
Speaker 2: I'm a younger sibling too. Wait are you sorry? I
Speaker 2: thought you were the oldest.
Speaker 1: No, I'm younger.
Speaker 2: Damn, she's just wait, you're a middle lower or your youngest.
Speaker 1: Youngest wore one of us.
Speaker 2: Haven't put you through the age gap? Oh what's age gap?
Speaker 2: Eight years and sixteen?
Speaker 3: Your older sister's sixteen years older than you. Yeah, damn,
Speaker 3: So you really got taken care of.
Speaker 1: You know. Then we've got the middle child.
Speaker 4: We all know about a middle child, and if you
Speaker 4: don't you yeah, literally, the middle child syndrome cliche came
Speaker 4: from Adlerian theory, so shout out to Adler for that one.
Speaker 4: They often feel squeezed between their oldest and younger sibling.
Speaker 4: They feel like they've been robbed of any like significance
Speaker 4: in the family because they weren't the first and they
Speaker 4: weren't the last, and so what are you then? Silver
Speaker 4: They can become either competitive or really rebellious. They can
Speaker 4: be even tempered, being able to compromise, but that can
Speaker 4: lead to like people pleasery.
Speaker 3: I don't know any of them middle children like even tempered.
Speaker 3: That's a middle child.
Speaker 4: Yeah, youngest child personality. Were in the room the baby
Speaker 4: of the family, and they never grow out of it.
Speaker 4: They will always be perceived as the baby. Cue that
Speaker 4: title cannot be taken away. Often spoiled, if not with
Speaker 4: material things spoiled without like the overbearing nature of being
Speaker 4: the first one to pop through even the second one.
Speaker 4: But then are we neglected by the proxy? They say
Speaker 4: it can often lead to the younger sibling wanting to
Speaker 4: become like bigger, wanting to be perceived as mature, and
Speaker 4: they want to grow up really quickly, and they want
Speaker 4: people to take them seriously and like have their backup
Speaker 4: about that. They have the lowest rate of mental health challenges.
Speaker 6: Though, so I said, blick blinker wenomalies. That's that's why
Speaker 6: it goes in the same way, like constantly. There's something
Speaker 6: about the connection.
Speaker 1: I'm mockey, it's just fruit three.
Speaker 2: Works because it left out.
Speaker 1: Left out. It's like that I'm observing like a couple
Speaker 1: that's like so.
Speaker 2: Happy and that I.
Speaker 1: Would laughing about. It's cute that I really like it.
Speaker 4: The traits of a younger sibling, they're often seen, is
Speaker 4: fun loving and sociable and self centered and self interested
Speaker 4: in all of these things which I can see and
Speaker 4: I do see that in a lot of younger siblings.
Speaker 1: But I was thinking.
Speaker 4: Before about in a lot of ways, my self interestedness
Speaker 4: was a defense mechanism or directly in response to being
Speaker 4: left alone a lot or left out so like, imagine
Speaker 4: you have these two older brothers. They're really close, they
Speaker 4: hang out, they have their shared interest and even if
Speaker 4: they're not exactly the same, they've got like a knowing right,
Speaker 4: like we're both boys, we like boy things. Then you
Speaker 4: have me born five years later, and like, I can't
Speaker 4: watch the shows I want to watch on TV, and
Speaker 4: I don't want to watch wrestling, like I don't when
Speaker 4: people ask me, like, why didn't you watch the Simpsons?
Speaker 4: I didn't want to hang out when my brother's watching TV.
Speaker 2: Did they watch Simpsons?
Speaker 4: Yeah, but like right off that they be watching wrestling
Speaker 4: and then soccer, and then that's not very fun. And
Speaker 4: so I had to learn very quickly what my own
Speaker 4: interests were, and I didn't want to share them for
Speaker 4: risk of it being another thing that was taken. So
Speaker 4: it's like an overcorrection of feeling left out ignored and
Speaker 4: then being like, but I like being like at any norse,
Speaker 4: I've got all these interests and all these hobbies and
Speaker 4: I'm gonna, you know, entertain myself. And then you kind
Speaker 4: of grow up and then you realize, oh, you can
Speaker 4: actually get attention, like you don't have to just exist
Speaker 4: in a bubble you can do things that will make
Speaker 4: people notice you, and then I think it's another overcorrection.
Speaker 1: We're like, wait.
Speaker 4: One of my fondest memories of being young was my
Speaker 4: sibling saying things like we'll tell you when you're seven,
Speaker 4: we'll tell you when you're eleven, we'll tell you when
Speaker 4: you're twelve. And then suddenly you're like, oh my goodness.
Speaker 4: It's like if I wait on you guys to invite
Speaker 4: me into things, I'm going to miss out. So I
Speaker 4: need to find other ways to like wheezle my weight in.
Speaker 4: And then's like, Okay, the funnier I am or the
Speaker 4: more accommodating I am, the more I get to hang out,
Speaker 4: So like what else can I do?
Speaker 1: But that's also my family structure. It's not just like
Speaker 1: the younger sibling things. What was your experience for me?
Speaker 3: So I have these old home videos that I've found
Speaker 3: a little while ago that would like put onto a CD.
Speaker 3: Then I put on my hard drive and there's one
Speaker 3: of me hanging out with my sister's friends, Like her
Speaker 3: friend will.
Speaker 1: Come over and they would like, how annoying with you?
Speaker 3: Literally, and I'm so annoying The videos like I've dressed
Speaker 3: up as like eminem and I'm like coming like I
Speaker 3: do us like a little song and dance something.
Speaker 2: Yo, you're you're eminent. And it's like it's not even
Speaker 2: cute because it's so annoying. It's like shut but she
Speaker 2: thought you eight.
Speaker 1: But I and the friend was laughing.
Speaker 2: I'm like, now, I think she was laughing because I
Speaker 2: was being annoying.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so I was what else can she do? She
Speaker 1: can't discipline you?
Speaker 3: Nah nah, and my sister would be absolutely up in arms.
Speaker 3: I think I definitely learned to be like I've always
Speaker 3: been an attention seeker. I would say often it's worked
Speaker 3: quite well, Dramma Captain. My birth order definitely is appropriate
Speaker 3: for my personality type, which is absolutely trickster jokes to clown.
Speaker 3: You know, don't have much responsibility, bit of a mummies girl.
Speaker 2: It's nice to be a baby. What do you think,
Speaker 2: micky babies?
Speaker 1: You know, I like I've enjoyed because it enjoyed my tenure.
Speaker 3: You can watch your older siblings do things and go
Speaker 3: yes no, yes no, and you're like, okay, I'm not
Speaker 3: going to be like them, or I am going to
Speaker 3: be like them, and therefore I feel like I'm progressing quicker.
Speaker 1: It's good.
Speaker 4: Perpetual observers forever, baby, because everybody is a child to someone, right,
Speaker 4: Like my forty year old brother. My mum would still
Speaker 4: perceive him as a child, and he has children, but
Speaker 4: being the literal baby of the family, I think I
Speaker 4: will always be perceived as a lot younger to my family,
Speaker 4: like little baby forever. This is so crazy, Like where's Lily?
Speaker 1: Lilian's gone? Obviously she didn't tell anyone. It's like I'm
Speaker 1: nearing thirty. Still baby to them.
Speaker 2: Yeah, they love.
Speaker 1: Seeing crisis receipts.
Speaker 2: Are they seeing the invoices?
Speaker 1: Okay, we're going to pass through the group chat covers.
Speaker 1: That's enough. This is flex and roomster.
Speaker 2: I have a new crackpot theory. It is about the
Speaker 2: term yeah.
Speaker 3: I have in my research in the field of light
Speaker 3: realized that people who say yeah, y e h, yeah redacted.
Speaker 1: No, They people who say it's not where I thought
Speaker 1: this was going. Yeah, I know you. Is this what
Speaker 1: you heard? Michaela when she was pitching this, I felt it.
Speaker 3: I swear people who say y e h are hotter
Speaker 3: than your Why searching my phone?
Speaker 1: I'm searching. I don't know what it is.
Speaker 3: It's some sort of personality type if you have this
Speaker 3: innate confidence and I d g F.
Speaker 1: Yeah speaking now speak now a flex. The results are conclusive.
Speaker 4: The results are conclusive, And I'm so sorry to almost
Speaker 4: shut you down before you could make your point.
Speaker 2: I have some other variations of yeah that I would
Speaker 2: like to So.
Speaker 4: You're saying y e H exclusive, anything about y e
Speaker 4: ah coming through that will be up next.
Speaker 3: Okay, great, So y e H is at the top
Speaker 3: of the pyramid of hot people who are confident.
Speaker 1: Because you use it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm late to the game.
Speaker 4: Also, you've adopted it, adopted it, you're doing cosplay, appropriated it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, what's new?
Speaker 3: Okay, here are some other year variations. Yeah, y e
Speaker 3: A is nervous and trying to flirt. It's very drake coded.
Speaker 1: That's disrespectful.
Speaker 3: Yeah, ye is like yeah, which is y e A
Speaker 3: which is like a ten year old slash non middleman.
Speaker 1: Okay, Yeah, it was like year.
Speaker 2: It's like year come over.
Speaker 1: I think it's not commddle. Generally, I don't think we
Speaker 1: need to geen to this. Okay, Yeah with.
Speaker 3: The exclamation mark. The typical y e A H is
Speaker 3: a little too keen and also why you saying it correctly.
Speaker 3: It's like the okay of the okay world. Is yeah
Speaker 3: even a real word?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 4: Is it an Oxford okay? Please pay I'm checking if
Speaker 4: it's in Oxford? Define yeah okay?
Speaker 3: What is it?
Speaker 1: Says informal spelling of yes, representing a pronunciation of the
Speaker 1: word yes, so yeah.
Speaker 3: And finally, yah ya is girlipop. It's my personal favorite.
Speaker 3: When I'm comfortable with someone, If I'm hitting you.
Speaker 4: With a yeah, just know I'm about it in before
Speaker 4: someone in the comment says it's not that deep and
Speaker 4: you've thought about it too much.
Speaker 1: I think you're onto something.
Speaker 2: Finally, yeah, ye r I go your yeah yo, yeah
Speaker 2: I do why you are?
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're like per para.
Speaker 3: These are really important, from least hot to hottest. Least
Speaker 3: hot is yeah traditional spelling with the exclamation mark, the
Speaker 3: one above that yeah with no exclamation mark.
Speaker 2: You're in a mood. Yah girlipop?
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah is a ten year old like very yeat
Speaker 3: coded Yeah yeah yea is soft boy not very comfid And.
Speaker 1: How does y e A rank higher than y e A?
Speaker 4: H H.
Speaker 3: I don't know what the ring say it anyway, If
Speaker 3: you say yeah, if you want to come across as
Speaker 3: more hot and attractive.
Speaker 2: Y e H added to the vocab.
Speaker 1: I hate to be the one to bring tired rhetoric
Speaker 1: to the show, but I'm going to do it. It's
Speaker 1: flex and rooms. By the way, on Caita, listen, aesthetics
Speaker 1: are a trap.
Speaker 5: We know it.
Speaker 4: It all started in the year two thousand when I
Speaker 4: got my first lip bumb I want to be a
Speaker 4: big girl. Put something in my bag with tissues, probably.
Speaker 1: Lipsmacker, like you.
Speaker 2: Stole it.
Speaker 4: No, put some in my handbag, sorry, Like I wanted
Speaker 4: to be like my mum and she carried a handbag, said,
Speaker 4: I carry a handbag, but with nothing in it. So
Speaker 4: I put little tissues in there and then a little
Speaker 4: lip bom, you know, because I wanted to feel like
Speaker 4: a baddie. And then, as you know, you might not
Speaker 4: know that once you and I don't know the science
Speaker 4: behind this, but just you know, listen, don't ask him
Speaker 4: any questions. But this idea of putting on lip balm
Speaker 4: and giving your lipsy illusion of hydration messes with the
Speaker 4: original or the like the default fault oil productions. Your
Speaker 4: lips always feel dry, la la la. So now I'm
Speaker 4: you know, two decades into this lip balm addiction. Yes,
Speaker 4: my mum is a chronic moisturizer, which is a great
Speaker 4: habit to have. I have fond memories of putting moisturizer
Speaker 4: on her back literally every morning. Come port creep on
Speaker 4: my back, Come put clean on my back. Now I'm
Speaker 4: a chronic moisturizer. Fine, getting my nails done. Those who
Speaker 4: get your nails done with the crylics or gelx, no
Speaker 4: that you can't have them off because your real nails
Speaker 4: get so brittle that you need to keep them on.
Speaker 4: Now you're trapped into the routine. Bleaching my eyebrows Now,
Speaker 4: gotta go two weeks of fresh rebleach. Now I'm feeling
Speaker 4: funny doing my hair. You do a slick back pony.
Speaker 4: You can't ever have it unslick. Precisely, it just doesn't stop. Luckily,
Speaker 4: these things are enjoyable. But I think I'm starting to
Speaker 4: acknowledge when things aren't enjoyable and opting out. For example, makeup.
Speaker 4: I don't actually like applying makeup and don't like the
Speaker 4: feeling of makeup. I don't know why I pretend I
Speaker 4: have to wear it.
Speaker 3: Little els moment, literally she tried it with that who
Speaker 3: knows what she meant, but it looked good.
Speaker 4: Oh she has amazing skin. She's stunning, and I'm also stunning.
Speaker 4: You know, I can find wearing makeup enjoyable, but not
Speaker 4: when I'm doing it every day. Is like a blanket habit,
Speaker 4: because by the time the time comes I need to
Speaker 4: be excited about I'm not excited about it.
Speaker 2: You were a makeup bloger for a bit.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, yeah, early days, only days twenty sixteen, twenty seventeen.
Speaker 4: Kids started a lot of things for me.
Speaker 1: I love it.
Speaker 4: I'd go back, but you know the curse of taste maker.
Speaker 4: It's hard to double back when you set a trend.
Speaker 3: Or you you did start the liquid colored eyelner, yeah,
Speaker 3: you know many years before.
Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, yeah, or but I will say one thing
Speaker 4: that I've been really excited about a new little routine
Speaker 4: of mine. Last year, we were talking about the implications
Speaker 4: wearing crocs every day. And if you don't know, and
Speaker 4: this happens with any kind of open toe shoes, your
Speaker 4: heels are exposed to the air. They're drying out, which
Speaker 4: means you get cracked heels. That is not sexy.
Speaker 1: And to be fair, that's not something you just put
Speaker 1: like a little topical, a little topical moisturizer over. You
Speaker 1: have to ex fold it.
Speaker 4: I like getting regular pedicures. You shouldn't get them that often,
Speaker 4: you know, not like I want to get a fortnightly
Speaker 4: pedicure if I could. You don't need to do I
Speaker 4: just recently did the foot pill. Yeah amazing, Yeah, we
Speaker 4: love it. We love a milky foot foot pill. But
Speaker 4: one thing that works really well. Want to get your pedicure,
Speaker 4: Get heel bomb. I don't care what brand it is.
Speaker 1: I've used some that are five dollars and that are
Speaker 1: fifty dollars. Heel bomb with Yurea in it. You are ea.
Speaker 4: I think it eats a weight, like dead skin or something.
Speaker 4: I don't know how it works, but that keeps my
Speaker 4: heel soft. I haven't had a cracked heel in a
Speaker 4: long time.
Speaker 2: I'll write that down.
Speaker 1: It's really good. It's an effective esthetic habit.
Speaker 4: Can I get it from the market anywhere anywhere? Get
Speaker 4: a little shoals, get a little dermal. Everybody does it.
Speaker 4: It's amazing. I stand by get heel bumb Thanks great,
Speaker 4: all right, welcome.
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