WEBVTT - ASK UNCUT - Dirty talk, where is the line? 0:00:19.480 --> 0:00:22.479 Hi guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life 0:00:22.520 --> 0:00:22.959 on Cut. 0:00:23.000 --> 0:00:24.000 I'm Laura and I'm. 0:00:23.880 --> 0:00:26.960 Brittany, and this is our Thursday episode. It is our 0:00:27.080 --> 0:00:30.120 down and dirty little episode where we answer all of 0:00:30.160 --> 0:00:33.959 your deep, duck and burning questions. How's your week been, Laura, Well, 0:00:34.240 --> 0:00:35.800 I feel like I've seen you every single day I 0:00:36.000 --> 0:00:37.839 go back from holidays. I was asking you, not for me, 0:00:37.920 --> 0:00:41.400 but for the people. It was a rhetorical question. My 0:00:41.479 --> 0:00:45.000 week has been gastro free. Finally everybody is recovered. Well, 0:00:45.000 --> 0:00:46.199 I think you might have given it to me. 0:00:46.479 --> 0:00:48.839 Oh you know when you get nausey, you get that 0:00:48.880 --> 0:00:51.400 nauseous feeling, and always I feel like in every woman 0:00:51.440 --> 0:00:53.280 they're like, okay, this could be one of two things. 0:00:53.360 --> 0:00:56.480 I've either eaten something really bad slash gastro or I 0:00:56.520 --> 0:00:57.320 am pregnous. 0:00:57.320 --> 0:01:00.680 I'm pregnant, so do you know because I'm soldly fertile, 0:01:00.720 --> 0:01:02.440 I just have like a twenty four pack of them 0:01:02.480 --> 0:01:03.400 sitting in the bathroom. 0:01:03.680 --> 0:01:05.720 I'm just like I've called them on Bolk twenty four 0:01:05.760 --> 0:01:07.800 baron condoms, which is like probably what you should start 0:01:07.800 --> 0:01:10.360 buying instead of the pregnancy test. Laura, maybe you can take. 0:01:10.240 --> 0:01:12.640 Some of my expired on well before we get into 0:01:12.680 --> 0:01:14.720 answering all of your questions, and we have like a 0:01:14.720 --> 0:01:17.640 good variety today. I'm loving today's questions. 0:01:17.760 --> 0:01:20.480 Bridge. Let's just chat for a moment about the old 0:01:20.520 --> 0:01:24.680 bong photo. Oh, Grace Tame twenty twenty one Australian of 0:01:24.720 --> 0:01:26.960 the Year. The poor thing. She cannot be out of 0:01:27.000 --> 0:01:28.840 the media for a hot second. I swear to god, 0:01:28.920 --> 0:01:30.199 she farts and she's in the media. 0:01:30.280 --> 0:01:33.080 But also like not that everyone has a bong photo, 0:01:33.080 --> 0:01:35.280 because most people don't take photos with them, but everybody 0:01:35.360 --> 0:01:38.440 has tried something when they were twenty this photo. 0:01:38.280 --> 0:01:39.960 You need to set up what the bong photo is. 0:01:40.040 --> 0:01:43.600 I'm okay, okay, if you haven't seen the news in 0:01:43.640 --> 0:01:46.240 the last twenty four hours. Basically, there is a photo 0:01:46.280 --> 0:01:49.640 that has come out yesterday of Grace Tame. It's back 0:01:49.640 --> 0:01:52.240 from twenty fourteen, so she was only twenty years old 0:01:52.720 --> 0:01:54.480 at the time when the photo was taken. And she's 0:01:54.520 --> 0:01:57.960 sitting on a couch with a great big bong and 0:01:58.000 --> 0:02:00.000 she's not smoking it at the time. She's just sitting. 0:02:00.160 --> 0:02:01.600 She looks like she may have had a puff. She's 0:02:01.600 --> 0:02:02.360 looking pretty happy. 0:02:02.480 --> 0:02:05.200 It's just sitting there in the photo like next to 0:02:05.280 --> 0:02:05.640 the bong. 0:02:05.840 --> 0:02:08.160 And this is a photo, mind you, This was in 0:02:08.520 --> 0:02:11.640 plain daylight. This was in plain sight. It wasn't a 0:02:11.639 --> 0:02:14.480 photo that was deep in the archives of the interwebs like. 0:02:14.639 --> 0:02:16.679 This was just on her Instagram. It wasn't on like 0:02:16.680 --> 0:02:18.600 a friend of a friend of a friend's page. No, 0:02:18.800 --> 0:02:20.400 it wasn't like yeah, no one had to go into 0:02:20.440 --> 0:02:21.520 the deep webs to stalk it. 0:02:21.600 --> 0:02:24.000 She just had it on her Instagram because she clearly 0:02:24.120 --> 0:02:26.760 wasn't embarrassed by it. It wasn't something that she probably had 0:02:26.840 --> 0:02:29.239 even thought about, nor did she think that anyone was 0:02:29.280 --> 0:02:31.560 going to go back seven years ago and try and 0:02:31.800 --> 0:02:34.680 drag up these photos. But look, there's been some real 0:02:34.840 --> 0:02:38.840 mixed feelings around this photo. Obviously, people who sit on 0:02:38.880 --> 0:02:42.080 the more conservative side or who are not supporters of 0:02:42.080 --> 0:02:44.720 Grace Tame have been, you know, very this is something 0:02:44.720 --> 0:02:45.960 that we should take really seriously. 0:02:46.000 --> 0:02:47.520 It's a twenty year old smoking a bong. 0:02:48.160 --> 0:02:50.560 But also everybody that's in support of her just sees 0:02:50.600 --> 0:02:52.799 it for what it is and it's such an unfair 0:02:52.960 --> 0:02:55.240 and I think this is such a huge example of 0:02:55.320 --> 0:02:59.080 the media and of conservative media wanting to undermine a 0:02:59.120 --> 0:03:01.440 woman for something that they've done seven years ago. That 0:03:01.600 --> 0:03:04.560 has absolutely no impact on who they are as a 0:03:04.560 --> 0:03:07.080 person now and what they stand for and the amazing 0:03:07.080 --> 0:03:08.279 things that they're doing. 0:03:08.120 --> 0:03:11.720 Which is crazy. It's crazy that someone someone out there 0:03:11.840 --> 0:03:15.040 has taken the time to think, I want to bring 0:03:15.120 --> 0:03:17.200 this girl down. I want to bring last year is 0:03:17.200 --> 0:03:18.959 Australian of the Year down. So I am going to 0:03:19.000 --> 0:03:21.040 troll back as far as I can go on the 0:03:21.080 --> 0:03:25.000 interweb to find a photo of a nineteen year old 0:03:25.120 --> 0:03:27.440 that is sitting in the same room as someone who 0:03:27.520 --> 0:03:30.760 possibly smoked a bong and then say Australian of the 0:03:30.800 --> 0:03:34.680 Year question mark. It's absolutely ridiculous that anybody can say 0:03:34.760 --> 0:03:37.360 that somebody like this shouldn't be in any sort of 0:03:37.440 --> 0:03:40.120 position of influence or power when you look at what 0:03:40.200 --> 0:03:42.400 is happening in the world. This is literally someone that 0:03:42.440 --> 0:03:44.880 wants to take down a young woman for speaking her 0:03:44.880 --> 0:03:48.080 mind and I am actually disgusted by it. 0:03:48.160 --> 0:03:51.080 The reason why it's so disappointing is because it's the 0:03:51.120 --> 0:03:53.680 trying to draw a correlation, right, It's trying to say, like, 0:03:53.800 --> 0:03:56.080 look at this photo that we found, this is the 0:03:56.120 --> 0:03:57.920 person that you're all looking up to. This is the 0:03:57.920 --> 0:03:59.840 person that we've put in a position of Australian of 0:03:59.840 --> 0:04:00.320 the Year. 0:04:00.680 --> 0:04:01.760 They're not worthy of. 0:04:01.720 --> 0:04:04.480 This, And it's like the undermining of what she's achieved 0:04:04.520 --> 0:04:07.560 and trying to draw that correlation between something that she 0:04:07.640 --> 0:04:10.520 did seven years ago versus where she is at now. 0:04:10.560 --> 0:04:12.280 And like, I mean, we've seen it so much in 0:04:12.320 --> 0:04:15.240 the media. Like throughout Grace Tame's tenure as Australian of 0:04:15.280 --> 0:04:17.880 the Year, she has been abrasive in that there are 0:04:17.920 --> 0:04:20.960 people who have hugely supported her, and then there are 0:04:21.000 --> 0:04:23.000 also people who have been quite against her and the 0:04:23.040 --> 0:04:25.520 way that she has gone about advocating for change. 0:04:25.760 --> 0:04:26.839 No one can deny though. 0:04:26.720 --> 0:04:30.360 That she is a fierce advocate for victims of sexual assault. 0:04:30.720 --> 0:04:34.080 And I really really liked what Lisa Wilkinson said around 0:04:34.120 --> 0:04:37.720 this because this whole question, this whole you know, resurfacing 0:04:37.720 --> 0:04:40.200 of this image of her with bong from her twenties 0:04:40.600 --> 0:04:43.240 really calls in to question media and the way that 0:04:43.320 --> 0:04:46.960 media portrays women. Lisa Wilkinson said, this is designed to 0:04:47.000 --> 0:04:49.559 say to any woman striving for change, if you step 0:04:49.560 --> 0:04:51.520 out of line or if you question the status quo, 0:04:51.960 --> 0:04:54.880 we are coming for you. I think the most interesting 0:04:54.880 --> 0:04:57.680 thing about this is we are seeing a really big shift. 0:04:57.920 --> 0:04:59.839 Well I think We're seeing a really big shift in 0:05:00.760 --> 0:05:02.800 what is happening. When the media are trying to bring 0:05:02.839 --> 0:05:04.800 women down, there is a real pushback. Now there is 0:05:04.800 --> 0:05:06.960 a kickback and men are jumping on board. 0:05:07.000 --> 0:05:09.120 So I don't think this article from what I've seen, 0:05:09.160 --> 0:05:11.120 what I've read, I don't think this article had as 0:05:11.200 --> 0:05:13.440 much impact as they hoped it would. There's been a 0:05:13.480 --> 0:05:15.920 lot of people in public office that have actually come 0:05:15.960 --> 0:05:18.479 out in support of Grace Tame. One of them is 0:05:18.520 --> 0:05:22.080 federal MP Dave Sharma. Dave Sharma tweeted and he said, 0:05:22.200 --> 0:05:24.200 I'm sure there is a photo of me like that. 0:05:24.600 --> 0:05:27.680 I don't think this stuff is remotely in the public interest. 0:05:27.760 --> 0:05:31.000 That has had thousands of likes. People are coming out saying, 0:05:31.000 --> 0:05:33.479 what the actual fuck, Like, what are you guys trying 0:05:33.520 --> 0:05:35.000 to do here? What are you trying to do by 0:05:35.040 --> 0:05:37.400 proving that when Grace Han was nineteen years old, she 0:05:37.440 --> 0:05:39.760 sat in the room with a bomb. And also, let's 0:05:39.760 --> 0:05:42.360 all remember in this conversation that like when Grace Han 0:05:42.640 --> 0:05:45.680 was groomed for sexualists, when she was sexually assaulted by 0:05:46.320 --> 0:05:48.280 the person who was supposed to be her teacher, somebody 0:05:48.320 --> 0:05:50.479 who's supposed to be in a position of power, and 0:05:50.520 --> 0:05:53.920 protection over her she was fifteen, like four years later, 0:05:54.120 --> 0:05:56.080 there's a photo of her smoking a bong. Like, who 0:05:56.120 --> 0:05:59.760 she's not even smoking, She's sitting totally, She's sitting there 0:05:59.760 --> 0:06:02.200 whole it, which would like imply and that's what it 0:06:02.279 --> 0:06:05.160 was trying to imply originally when the photo came out, 0:06:05.640 --> 0:06:08.560 Grace Hame's instant reaction where she went back through her 0:06:08.560 --> 0:06:10.960 Instagram and she deleted the picture, you know, and I 0:06:10.960 --> 0:06:11.720 think you would do that. 0:06:11.760 --> 0:06:14.040 You would be like, oh, like, how are people going 0:06:14.080 --> 0:06:17.760 to perceive me? Delete the evidence? And then the public 0:06:17.839 --> 0:06:20.720 surrounding it has come forward and said, like, this is 0:06:20.800 --> 0:06:23.239 not okay. If the majority, like you said, the majority 0:06:23.320 --> 0:06:26.159 kickback has been actually, who cares that there's a photo 0:06:26.200 --> 0:06:29.359 of her holding a bong? It is irrelevant, completely irrelevant 0:06:29.400 --> 0:06:32.200 to what she has achieved and what she's advocating for now. 0:06:32.360 --> 0:06:34.680 And I think with that support, she's turned around and 0:06:34.720 --> 0:06:37.200 she's actually reposted the photo. So the photo that she 0:06:37.240 --> 0:06:40.400 originally deleted, she's reposted it. She put it up on 0:06:40.440 --> 0:06:44.560 Twitter with the caption all right, I confess we were 0:06:44.600 --> 0:06:47.000 doing a cover of April Son and Cuba on the 0:06:47.040 --> 0:06:50.520 Obo as a fucking dig at Scott Morrison and his 0:06:50.640 --> 0:06:51.679 sixty minute interview. 0:06:51.920 --> 0:06:55.440 She's so good, like such a good play from Grace Ham. 0:06:55.480 --> 0:06:57.960 It's just like a complete fuck you to everyone. But 0:06:58.000 --> 0:07:00.240 while we're talking about some of the other responses there, 0:07:00.400 --> 0:07:03.520 people in the Public Office came out with Deputy Mayor 0:07:03.560 --> 0:07:07.360 of Port Phillip Tim Baxter. He tweeted, oh no, Grace 0:07:07.440 --> 0:07:10.240 Tame once smoked a bong. I'm the Deputy Mayor and 0:07:10.240 --> 0:07:12.360 I smoked bongs as a teenager and I have still 0:07:12.480 --> 0:07:15.240 never been as cool as Grace Tame. I just think 0:07:15.320 --> 0:07:18.880 I just love these people. Malcolm Turnbull's son came out, 0:07:18.960 --> 0:07:21.640 Alex Turnbull. He came out in forced as well, saying 0:07:21.680 --> 0:07:24.880 going after Grace Tame for drug use is extremely risky 0:07:24.920 --> 0:07:28.120 for any L ANDP member under forty, especially some people 0:07:28.120 --> 0:07:30.200 in the House and Senate. I'm just gonna leave it 0:07:30.240 --> 0:07:33.120 at that. Don't start stuff you can't finish. So this 0:07:33.160 --> 0:07:36.600 has completely backfired on them and I'm just here to 0:07:36.720 --> 0:07:39.200 watch it go down anyway. I love watching this go down. 0:07:39.400 --> 0:07:42.360 I love I love watching Grace Tame's response. I'm so 0:07:42.480 --> 0:07:44.680 here for it. And there's a reason that Australia is falling. 0:07:44.480 --> 0:07:46.480 Along with her, and that is it totally because she 0:07:46.640 --> 0:07:48.360 also just doesn't play by the rules. 0:07:48.520 --> 0:07:49.440 She smokes bongs. 0:07:51.000 --> 0:07:53.920 All right, let's get in to the questions for today. 0:07:54.320 --> 0:07:56.600 I recently discovered that one of my best friends and 0:07:56.640 --> 0:07:59.040 I had the same name picked out for our baby girl. 0:07:59.560 --> 0:08:01.560 We're in our thirties and neither of us. 0:08:01.520 --> 0:08:02.240 Are pregnant yet. 0:08:02.360 --> 0:08:05.880 But what happens when the time comes. Is it a 0:08:05.920 --> 0:08:08.800 first in best dress scenario? Or would it be weird 0:08:08.840 --> 0:08:11.440 if we both name our daughter the same name. I 0:08:11.480 --> 0:08:13.560 don't want to hurt her feelings down the track, just 0:08:13.640 --> 0:08:15.679 in case, and I also don't know if I should 0:08:15.680 --> 0:08:18.440 bring the conversation back up. She's a really nice person 0:08:18.520 --> 0:08:20.560 and she's also a people pleaser, so I feel like 0:08:20.640 --> 0:08:23.320 she would probably just give me the name. Also, I 0:08:23.360 --> 0:08:25.600 do understand that there is a chance that maybe neither 0:08:25.600 --> 0:08:27.000 of us will end up having a girl. 0:08:27.200 --> 0:08:30.680 How do you suggest I play this one out? Loll personally, 0:08:30.760 --> 0:08:33.240 this is funny on so many levels because neither of 0:08:33.240 --> 0:08:35.920 you're pregnant. I don't even know if you're in a relationship. 0:08:35.920 --> 0:08:37.720 None of you are pregnant. I think it's normal to 0:08:37.800 --> 0:08:40.160 talk about baby names and things like that, but this 0:08:40.320 --> 0:08:42.920 is definitely a case of first in best dress that 0:08:43.000 --> 0:08:45.720 you can't because one of you you can't say bags, shotgun, 0:08:45.800 --> 0:08:48.200 shotgun Mary, and then never have a baby girl. And 0:08:48.240 --> 0:08:49.960 then what if your friend goes and has babies and 0:08:50.000 --> 0:08:51.480 she's like, oh, I don't I won't call my kid 0:08:51.559 --> 0:08:53.200 my dream name in case one day you do and 0:08:53.240 --> 0:08:55.320 then you never do. I also think it's funny that 0:08:55.320 --> 0:08:57.280 you're like, we probably won't even have a girl. You 0:08:57.320 --> 0:08:58.800 don't know that you might have a girl. One of 0:08:58.800 --> 0:09:00.680 you's going to have a girl. You might have twenty girls. 0:09:00.720 --> 0:09:02.240 I hope that would be a lot of girls. So 0:09:02.240 --> 0:09:03.640 I'd be like, I want a hope for you don't 0:09:03.640 --> 0:09:05.520 have twenty girls. But no, this is just a case 0:09:05.600 --> 0:09:08.160 of like, if you love a name and you're pregnant 0:09:08.280 --> 0:09:09.880 before your friend and you have a baby girl and 0:09:09.920 --> 0:09:11.320 you want to call it that name, you call it 0:09:11.360 --> 0:09:13.800 that name. If she then has a baby later and 0:09:13.840 --> 0:09:15.760 she really wants to call that name, she can also 0:09:15.800 --> 0:09:17.440 call it that name. And I don't think you can 0:09:17.480 --> 0:09:19.320 get mad at her. And I know that is a 0:09:19.400 --> 0:09:21.319 bit of like a fine line. I know there's a 0:09:21.400 --> 0:09:25.280 like you can't call your kid what okay this kid? 0:09:25.440 --> 0:09:26.319 Would it be weird? 0:09:26.360 --> 0:09:28.760 Now if you were like, Hey, I'm going to call 0:09:28.800 --> 0:09:30.120 my first kid Mali. 0:09:30.360 --> 0:09:33.600 Yes, it is weird. That is very weird. But also 0:09:33.640 --> 0:09:35.280 at the end of the day, if I'm like, it's 0:09:35.280 --> 0:09:37.200 my grandma's name and it's a dream name and I 0:09:37.200 --> 0:09:38.440 really want to call it that, You're going to have 0:09:38.480 --> 0:09:41.280 to suck it up. Not ideal at all, but also 0:09:41.320 --> 0:09:43.800 one of those things is like, you know, sometimes life's 0:09:43.880 --> 0:09:45.360 not ideal and you have to deal with it. I 0:09:45.559 --> 0:09:49.360 would try to avoid calling my child a name that 0:09:49.520 --> 0:09:51.280 any of my good friends would use, like that is 0:09:51.320 --> 0:09:52.760 not something I want to do. Unless it was a 0:09:52.840 --> 0:09:55.240 very very meaningful name in my family and a family 0:09:55.280 --> 0:09:57.640 name I wanted to pass on, I would avoid it. 0:09:57.720 --> 0:10:00.160 But for this case, girl first in best dressed, go 0:10:00.160 --> 0:10:01.880 get pregnant one hundred percent. 0:10:01.960 --> 0:10:04.360 I am like, I've had these conversations with my friends, 0:10:04.360 --> 0:10:06.800 and I've always sort of had the stance of like, 0:10:07.120 --> 0:10:10.000 it is one hundred percent first in best dress, but 0:10:10.160 --> 0:10:12.320 also on that I think if you've had the conversation 0:10:12.400 --> 0:10:14.880 with your friend early, especially when you guys are not pregnant, 0:10:15.080 --> 0:10:17.840 if you've talked about names that you like and you're 0:10:17.920 --> 0:10:20.920 both aware that you like the same name, if you 0:10:21.080 --> 0:10:23.000 choose to both call the kid the same name. No 0:10:23.040 --> 0:10:24.360 one can be angry, do you know what I mean? Like, 0:10:24.360 --> 0:10:26.720 you've already had the conversation. Even if she does it 0:10:26.760 --> 0:10:28.520 first or you do it first, if the other person 0:10:28.600 --> 0:10:32.040 still chooses to call their kid that name, you can't 0:10:32.080 --> 0:10:35.040 be annoyed by it. I actually had this situation happened 0:10:35.040 --> 0:10:37.640 to a friend of mine, except that at the time 0:10:37.679 --> 0:10:40.679 when they were discussing names that they liked, her friend 0:10:40.720 --> 0:10:42.880 was pregnant, so she was like, Oh, what girl's names 0:10:42.880 --> 0:10:45.120 do you like? And my friend was like, I really 0:10:45.200 --> 0:10:47.560 like the name Sophie, Like Sophie is a name that 0:10:47.600 --> 0:10:50.200 I love. And at the time her friend was pregnant, 0:10:50.400 --> 0:10:52.800 her friend hadn't really considered the name Sophie. 0:10:52.880 --> 0:10:54.880 Then she took it, and then she took it. That's 0:10:54.880 --> 0:10:55.240 a no go. 0:10:56.040 --> 0:10:58.920 But my friend wasn't pregnant, she hasn't had a baby 0:10:58.920 --> 0:11:01.040 girl yet, and her friend now has a two year 0:11:01.040 --> 0:11:02.400 old name Sophie totally. 0:11:02.480 --> 0:11:04.560 And this is the thing, like, maybe you're not gonna 0:11:04.559 --> 0:11:06.040 say friends with that person for the rest of your life, 0:11:06.080 --> 0:11:08.240 so maybe in five years time you don't even know them, 0:11:08.280 --> 0:11:10.840 so it's okay to have Sophie totally, but it would 0:11:10.920 --> 0:11:14.160 land a little bit different with me if you and I, Laura, 0:11:14.280 --> 0:11:16.400 let's use us. If you and I had a conversation, 0:11:16.520 --> 0:11:18.920 right and I was like, I love the name Isabelle, 0:11:18.920 --> 0:11:20.800 You're like, oh my god, that's on my list as well. 0:11:20.960 --> 0:11:23.920 That's different first invest dress. But if I said to you, 0:11:24.360 --> 0:11:27.280 I love the name Isabelle, you weren't pregnant, then you 0:11:27.360 --> 0:11:28.679 went and got pre and you're like, oh, I've never 0:11:28.720 --> 0:11:30.880 thought of that, and then you were like, hey, just 0:11:30.960 --> 0:11:34.200 so you know, I'm going to use Isabelle, I'd be like, okay, 0:11:34.440 --> 0:11:37.320 Like okay, cool, Like it's still okay, But it would 0:11:37.360 --> 0:11:40.000 hit differently for me knowing that you literally just stole 0:11:40.080 --> 0:11:42.000 my name. Yeah, but I still think it's a first 0:11:42.000 --> 0:11:43.439 in best dress situation. 0:11:43.160 --> 0:11:45.440 Because you may never have a kid, right, And I 0:11:45.520 --> 0:11:47.960 also think in that like, it still lands different. 0:11:48.000 --> 0:11:50.720 It's still like, yeah, received my name, bitch, I love it. 0:11:51.120 --> 0:11:55.600 But I do think that we become weirdly territorial about names. 0:11:55.640 --> 0:11:57.199 And I don't know where that's come from. I don't 0:11:57.240 --> 0:11:59.640 know what the societal implication of that is. Why we're 0:11:59.679 --> 0:12:02.920 so adverse to anybody else having the same name. I 0:12:02.920 --> 0:12:05.680 don't know if he saw this. But this is something 0:12:05.679 --> 0:12:07.160 that's making me think of it. It's just happened in 0:12:07.200 --> 0:12:10.720 the last few days. So Kylie Jenner just had a baby, 0:12:10.960 --> 0:12:15.120 a baby boy, and she called him Wolf. Tammy Hembro, 0:12:15.280 --> 0:12:18.360 who is an Australian influencer, she's like the fitness influencer. 0:12:18.800 --> 0:12:21.160 I think maybe once or twice she has met the 0:12:21.240 --> 0:12:23.640 Kardashians because she did a job for Good American with 0:12:23.840 --> 0:12:24.880 Chloe kardash. 0:12:24.640 --> 0:12:27.719 I'm pretty sure Tammy Hembrow actually passed out face down 0:12:27.720 --> 0:12:28.720 at a Kardashian party. 0:12:28.800 --> 0:12:31.400 Daddy taken out on a stretcher, that is said Tammy Hembro. Yeah, 0:12:31.520 --> 0:12:34.160 there we go. So she's Tammy has a son that 0:12:34.320 --> 0:12:37.120 is maybe he's five or six, Like he's not young young, 0:12:37.280 --> 0:12:40.600 he's a bit older. But regardless, his name is Wolf, 0:12:40.760 --> 0:12:43.600 but she calls him wolfre And so apparently, and this 0:12:43.679 --> 0:12:46.080 is all this is all allegedly, but apparently Tammy's had 0:12:46.080 --> 0:12:49.000 a bit of a dig about Kylie thieving her name. 0:12:49.040 --> 0:12:51.160 And I just thought, you're in a different country and 0:12:51.200 --> 0:12:55.040 you've met the girl twice, and there's years and years apart. 0:12:55.320 --> 0:12:56.600 I don't think you're allowed to do that. 0:12:56.640 --> 0:12:58.560 I don't reckon she's gonna be like, I don't think 0:12:58.600 --> 0:13:01.960 she was inspired, like like, oh, I'm gonna name my 0:13:02.200 --> 0:13:04.480 kid after the girl who passed out at my party 0:13:04.520 --> 0:13:05.240 and got taken. 0:13:05.040 --> 0:13:07.120 A husband or only her kid's name. 0:13:07.400 --> 0:13:09.640 But anyway, guys like I generinely think to wrap this 0:13:09.679 --> 0:13:11.960 one up, I think that maybe we can have a 0:13:11.960 --> 0:13:14.720 little bit too much protection over names that we choose, 0:13:14.840 --> 0:13:17.880 especially when we haven't like, especially if you haven't got 0:13:17.960 --> 0:13:19.679 kids yet or whatever, Like, you can feel a bit 0:13:19.679 --> 0:13:21.280 of sense of ownership. 0:13:20.800 --> 0:13:24.480 That is not really entire, that you're not really entitled to. 0:13:25.040 --> 0:13:27.360 Secondly to that, though, the only time when it's an 0:13:27.360 --> 0:13:30.800 exception is if it's a name that actually has like family, 0:13:31.000 --> 0:13:33.160 real sentimental meaning to you. If it's a name that, 0:13:33.240 --> 0:13:35.839 like for you, means something to your family, it's part 0:13:35.880 --> 0:13:38.200 of your heritage, it's you have a really strong tie 0:13:38.240 --> 0:13:40.760 to it, then I understand why you would be more upset. 0:13:40.800 --> 0:13:42.720 But if it's just a name that you like, suck 0:13:42.760 --> 0:13:44.920 it up. Suck it up. It's first in best dressed. 0:13:45.120 --> 0:13:49.080 Okay, question number two, al rightie, question number two. I 0:13:49.120 --> 0:13:50.920 really like this one. I met a guy at a 0:13:50.920 --> 0:13:53.080 party and I went back to his when we were 0:13:53.120 --> 0:13:55.840 in his bed. We were pretty hot and heavy kissing, 0:13:56.320 --> 0:13:58.600 and we were about to progress things. I was teasing 0:13:58.640 --> 0:14:00.640 a little bit and I was delaying things, you know, 0:14:01.000 --> 0:14:03.160 just normal shit. I was trying to like build the 0:14:03.200 --> 0:14:07.760 suspense before I serviced him. When he said, just put 0:14:07.760 --> 0:14:11.359 it in your mouth, you fucking bitch, I was immediately 0:14:11.600 --> 0:14:13.880 taken back. I didn't know this bloke from a bar 0:14:13.920 --> 0:14:16.640 of soap. I was extremely offended because I felt like 0:14:16.679 --> 0:14:19.320 he had crossed a line and it was an extremely 0:14:19.480 --> 0:14:23.480 misogynistic and demeaning thing to say. I literally got up, 0:14:23.680 --> 0:14:26.160 put my clothes on, and left the bloke with his 0:14:26.240 --> 0:14:29.400 dick in the wind. He switched straight away into apology mode, 0:14:29.520 --> 0:14:31.560 but I had already gotten the ick, as I felt 0:14:31.560 --> 0:14:34.240 like his tone had deeply misogynistic values. 0:14:34.280 --> 0:14:37.200 There. My question is what are your thoughts on dirty talk? 0:14:37.440 --> 0:14:40.720 When is an appropriate time to begin down that path? 0:14:40.920 --> 0:14:43.800 And if someone crosses your boundary in a one night stand, 0:14:44.160 --> 0:14:45.000 what do you do? 0:14:46.440 --> 0:14:49.600 Oh, there are a lot of questions in that. Let's 0:14:49.640 --> 0:14:51.000 just start with when it's appropriate. 0:14:51.120 --> 0:14:54.480 Well, I think for this situation, I completely get where 0:14:54.520 --> 0:14:56.080 you were coming from. I get why you're offended, and 0:14:56.080 --> 0:14:57.400 I get why you were like you know what, I'm 0:14:57.400 --> 0:14:59.560 out of here. This isn't appropriate because it doesn't sound 0:14:59.600 --> 0:15:01.400 like it was a appropriate. It sounds like it came 0:15:01.440 --> 0:15:04.760 one hundred miles an hour when there was nothing else 0:15:04.840 --> 0:15:07.800 was going on to let him know that you were 0:15:07.840 --> 0:15:10.880 okay with that. So I feel like that is definitely 0:15:10.920 --> 0:15:14.320 a time and a place that it wasn't acceptable. There 0:15:14.400 --> 0:15:17.240 are a lot of people out there that love dirty talk. 0:15:17.280 --> 0:15:18.800 There are a lot of people in that situation that 0:15:18.840 --> 0:15:20.560 would have rolled with it and would have been okay 0:15:20.560 --> 0:15:22.600 with it. And that's completely okay because it's up to 0:15:22.640 --> 0:15:24.920 personal preference. But I think there needs to be a 0:15:25.000 --> 0:15:26.680 level of ease into it. There has to be a 0:15:26.720 --> 0:15:28.600 really slow build up, and you know, there is also 0:15:28.640 --> 0:15:31.680 a level of consent. There is a level of well, 0:15:31.760 --> 0:15:32.880 I don't know. I don't know if you have to 0:15:32.880 --> 0:15:34.880 sit there and actually say can I dirty talk to you? 0:15:35.040 --> 0:15:37.720 I think it's something that starts with like do you 0:15:37.960 --> 0:15:40.120 like this or toe there's got to be like a 0:15:40.280 --> 0:15:42.880 real ease into that. So absolutely, there is nothing you 0:15:42.920 --> 0:15:45.560 have done wrong from feeling uncomfortable and get up and leaving. Firstly, 0:15:45.720 --> 0:15:48.240 do not feel like that. It's just this is a 0:15:48.400 --> 0:15:50.640 very very personal thing that with some girls that would 0:15:50.640 --> 0:15:52.200 be like, I'd fucking jump on that. I would love that, 0:15:52.240 --> 0:15:53.840 And there are other girls that are like, that's not cool, 0:15:54.080 --> 0:15:56.120 it's completely personal. I think you've done the right thing 0:15:56.240 --> 0:15:58.600 for the situation. And I also, I mean, I agree 0:15:58.640 --> 0:15:58.880 with you. 0:15:58.920 --> 0:16:00.800 I would find it so dim meaning if it's someone 0:16:00.800 --> 0:16:02.600 that you don't have an emotional connection with it, it's 0:16:02.600 --> 0:16:04.680 someone who doesn't know where your boundaries lie. It is 0:16:04.760 --> 0:16:08.200 incredibly assuming of them to think that you would be 0:16:08.280 --> 0:16:10.280 okay with that level of dirty talk. And I think 0:16:10.360 --> 0:16:12.880 also like, yeah, sure, there are definitely some people out 0:16:12.880 --> 0:16:15.240 there who are okay with it, but someone calling you 0:16:15.280 --> 0:16:17.120 a bitch and saying just put it in your mouth, 0:16:17.480 --> 0:16:21.160 like fuck, that is so steeped in misogyny and steeved 0:16:21.200 --> 0:16:23.720 in the thought that like every girl would be okay 0:16:23.720 --> 0:16:25.880 with that. I think that there are very few girls 0:16:25.920 --> 0:16:28.360 who straight off the bat wouldn't feel a little bit 0:16:28.360 --> 0:16:31.040 of like, oh, that sits uncomfortably with me, Like I 0:16:31.040 --> 0:16:32.320 don't feel respected in this. 0:16:32.360 --> 0:16:34.560 Moment for me, that chat, I don't. I don't mind 0:16:34.560 --> 0:16:36.320 that chat. If it came down the track with someone 0:16:36.360 --> 0:16:37.920 I've been dating for a long time and that I 0:16:37.960 --> 0:16:39.920 was comfortable with that knew my boundaries that I loved. 0:16:39.920 --> 0:16:41.640 But I would not be down for that with someone 0:16:41.680 --> 0:16:42.480 I just meant totally. 0:16:42.480 --> 0:16:44.240 And I think that's the difference, Like, yeah, sure, you 0:16:44.320 --> 0:16:46.400 might be okay with that from someone who you know 0:16:46.680 --> 0:16:49.080 cares about you and has your best interests at heart 0:16:49.120 --> 0:16:52.440 and doesn't actually think the things that they're saying exactly exactly, 0:16:52.480 --> 0:16:54.640