Speaker 1: Instead of comparing myself to this person that I'm comparing
Speaker 1: myself to, I compare myself to who I am today
Speaker 1: to who I was yesterday or in the past.
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Speaker 1: So I just wanted to go through some of the
Speaker 1: tools I use when I'm feeling that self comparison creeping in,
Speaker 1: because I know you guys may feel this feeling too.
Speaker 1: And yeah, so I just wanted to go through some
Speaker 1: stuff that I went through to make myself feel better.
Speaker 1: I know that self comparison it can just sort of
Speaker 1: creep in even if you are a very confident and
Speaker 1: self aware person. I did want to say that don't
Speaker 1: be upset or annoyed if you are comparing yourself to others.
Speaker 1: I think it's great to sort of be self aware
Speaker 1: and apply these tools that I'm about to tell you.
Speaker 1: But something you do need to realize is comparing ourselves
Speaker 1: to others is a natural instinct. If you think about it,
Speaker 1: back in prehistoric times, it would be our natural instinct
Speaker 1: to analyze others and identify possible threats and that sort
Speaker 1: of thing. So we would be constantly compared ourselves to
Speaker 1: others back in prehistoric times. But I guess it's super
Speaker 1: hard in this day and time because we do have
Speaker 1: things like social media and these highlight reels, and it's
Speaker 1: very easy to fall in the self comparison trap. Okay,
Speaker 1: So one of the first tools I use, I think about,
Speaker 1: instead of comparing myself to this person that I'm comparing
Speaker 1: myself to, I compare myself to who I am today
Speaker 1: to who I was yesterday or in the past. And
Speaker 1: I think this is a really great mind shift because
Speaker 1: if you think about it, we are forever growing, forever learning,
Speaker 1: and forever achieving different things. So instead of focusing on
Speaker 1: something that we are not because we're comparing ourself to
Speaker 1: someone else, I try and shift the mindset and I
Speaker 1: think to myself, am I the same person that I
Speaker 1: was a year ago or even a week ago? And
Speaker 1: the answer is no, because I constantly and growing and
Speaker 1: learning and achieving and we all are. And I think
Speaker 1: it's very easy to fall into this track where we
Speaker 1: think we're moving too slow or we're not achieving enough
Speaker 1: because we're surrounded by a social media and these highlight
Speaker 1: reels where everyone seems like they're just killing it life.
Speaker 1: The next thing I love to use, and this is
Speaker 1: realizing that the people that you're comparing yourself are not flawless.
Speaker 1: So I have this rule where on social media I
Speaker 1: actually unfollow anyone who if their life looks like too
Speaker 1: perfect and they don't show anything real, I will literally
Speaker 1: unfollow that person because to me, I'm like, I don't
Speaker 1: need that shit in my life. I don't need that
Speaker 1: fakeness basically because to me, I want to be surrounded
Speaker 1: by real, inspiring people. And don't get me wrong, I
Speaker 1: think it's amazing that, you know, people celebrate their achievements
Speaker 1: and they put it there highlight reel and their best
Speaker 1: movements and all that sort of thing. I think that's
Speaker 1: perfectly okay, But also make sure you're following accounts where
Speaker 1: they are also showing you their challenges, showing you the
Speaker 1: not so glamorous life. And so basically I will literally
Speaker 1: unfollow or just not associate myself with anyone else who
Speaker 1: just doesn't show that sort of thing, because I did
Speaker 1: find at one stage that was really something that would
Speaker 1: get to me personally. Okay, this is the last little
Speaker 1: tool I'm going to give you, guys, and this is
Speaker 1: probably my favorite. So I probably listened to it on
Speaker 1: a podcast or I've read it somewhere, and it said
Speaker 1: when you have a feeling, you only actually feel it
Speaker 1: for ninety seconds and then it passes. And I just
Speaker 1: remember being like mind blown by that. But then since
Speaker 1: I've been aware of it, I could not agree more.
Speaker 1: And I really loved the practice of affirmations. So affirmation
Speaker 1: are basically just like sentences and words you say. I
Speaker 1: personally say them out loud and you just repeat and
Speaker 1: you probably don't believe them at the start, but you
Speaker 1: honestly just repeat them enough until you almost believe them.
Speaker 1: And basically, an affirmation is just like the action or
Speaker 1: the process of affirming something. So you are affirming something
Speaker 1: to yourself. So basically what I do, and we'll call
Speaker 1: this tool, like, basically you are loving and you're accepting
Speaker 1: yourself as you are right now. And if you think
Speaker 1: about it, this little voice in your head that tells
Speaker 1: you that you're not good enough to this person or
Speaker 1: anything like that, it's a natural instinct and it's basically
Speaker 1: yourself identifying areas where you think you may be falling
Speaker 1: behind and it can be really cruel to yourself. So
Speaker 1: basically what I do is I just accept myself for
Speaker 1: who I am, and I do this amazing practice of affirmations.
Speaker 1: Something that I did at the start of the week
Speaker 1: is when I got back to my room. This is
Speaker 1: actually an affirmation that I say all the time, and
Speaker 1: I'm just in love with it. I think you need
Speaker 1: to find affirmations and words that really speak to you
Speaker 1: and you feel a motive when you say them or
Speaker 1: hear them, Otherwise it's not really going to work personally.
Speaker 1: This sentence really speaks to me, and so I've always
Speaker 1: used it, and so I use the affirmation no one
Speaker 1: is me and that is my power. So I will
Speaker 1: sit there, I make sure it's silent, I turn my
Speaker 1: phone on airplane mode, and I sit there kind of
Speaker 1: like I'm meditating, and I will say to myself, no
Speaker 1: one is me and that is my power. And I
Speaker 1: will say it for around two minutes. I go off
Speaker 1: that ninety second and it's basically until I feel the
Speaker 1: feeling of comparing myself and jealousy and not feeling good
Speaker 1: enough to pass through me, and then I stop saying it.
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