WEBVTT - 3 tips to stop comparing yourself to others & be happier! 🌸

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<v Speaker 1>Instead of comparing myself to this person that I'm comparing

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<v Speaker 1>myself to, I compare myself to who I am today

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<v Speaker 1>to who I was yesterday or in the past.

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<v Speaker 2>Hello and welcome back to the Rising Conker Podcast. It

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<v Speaker 1>So I just wanted to go through some of the

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<v Speaker 1>tools I use when I'm feeling that self comparison creeping in,

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<v Speaker 1>because I know you guys may feel this feeling too.

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<v Speaker 1>And yeah, so I just wanted to go through some

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<v Speaker 1>stuff that I went through to make myself feel better.

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<v Speaker 1>I know that self comparison it can just sort of

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<v Speaker 1>creep in even if you are a very confident and

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<v Speaker 1>self aware person. I did want to say that don't

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<v Speaker 1>be upset or annoyed if you are comparing yourself to others.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's great to sort of be self aware

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<v Speaker 1>and apply these tools that I'm about to tell you.

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<v Speaker 1>But something you do need to realize is comparing ourselves

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<v Speaker 1>to others is a natural instinct. If you think about it,

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<v Speaker 1>back in prehistoric times, it would be our natural instinct

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<v Speaker 1>to analyze others and identify possible threats and that sort

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<v Speaker 1>of thing. So we would be constantly compared ourselves to

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<v Speaker 1>others back in prehistoric times. But I guess it's super

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<v Speaker 1>hard in this day and time because we do have

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<v Speaker 1>things like social media and these highlight reels, and it's

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<v Speaker 1>very easy to fall in the self comparison trap. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>So one of the first tools I use, I think about,

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<v Speaker 1>instead of comparing myself to this person that I'm comparing

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<v Speaker 1>myself to, I compare myself to who I am today

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<v Speaker 1>to who I was yesterday or in the past. And

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<v Speaker 1>I think this is a really great mind shift because

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<v Speaker 1>if you think about it, we are forever growing, forever learning,

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<v Speaker 1>and forever achieving different things. So instead of focusing on

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<v Speaker 1>something that we are not because we're comparing ourself to

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<v Speaker 1>someone else, I try and shift the mindset and I

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<v Speaker 1>think to myself, am I the same person that I

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<v Speaker 1>was a year ago or even a week ago? And

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<v Speaker 1>the answer is no, because I constantly and growing and

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<v Speaker 1>learning and achieving and we all are. And I think

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<v Speaker 1>it's very easy to fall into this track where we

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<v Speaker 1>think we're moving too slow or we're not achieving enough

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<v Speaker 1>because we're surrounded by a social media and these highlight

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<v Speaker 1>reels where everyone seems like they're just killing it life.

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<v Speaker 1>The next thing I love to use, and this is

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<v Speaker 1>realizing that the people that you're comparing yourself are not flawless.

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<v Speaker 1>So I have this rule where on social media I

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<v Speaker 1>actually unfollow anyone who if their life looks like too

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<v Speaker 1>perfect and they don't show anything real, I will literally

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<v Speaker 1>unfollow that person because to me, I'm like, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>need that shit in my life. I don't need that

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<v Speaker 1>fakeness basically because to me, I want to be surrounded

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<v Speaker 1>by real, inspiring people. And don't get me wrong, I

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<v Speaker 1>think it's amazing that, you know, people celebrate their achievements

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<v Speaker 1>and they put it there highlight reel and their best

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<v Speaker 1>movements and all that sort of thing. I think that's

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<v Speaker 1>perfectly okay, But also make sure you're following accounts where

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<v Speaker 1>they are also showing you their challenges, showing you the

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<v Speaker 1>not so glamorous life. And so basically I will literally

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<v Speaker 1>unfollow or just not associate myself with anyone else who

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<v Speaker 1>just doesn't show that sort of thing, because I did

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<v Speaker 1>find at one stage that was really something that would

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<v Speaker 1>get to me personally. Okay, this is the last little

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<v Speaker 1>tool I'm going to give you, guys, and this is

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<v Speaker 1>probably my favorite. So I probably listened to it on

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<v Speaker 1>a podcast or I've read it somewhere, and it said

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<v Speaker 1>when you have a feeling, you only actually feel it

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<v Speaker 1>for ninety seconds and then it passes. And I just

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<v Speaker 1>remember being like mind blown by that. But then since

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<v Speaker 1>I've been aware of it, I could not agree more.

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<v Speaker 1>And I really loved the practice of affirmations. So affirmation

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<v Speaker 1>are basically just like sentences and words you say. I

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<v Speaker 1>personally say them out loud and you just repeat and

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<v Speaker 1>you probably don't believe them at the start, but you

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<v Speaker 1>honestly just repeat them enough until you almost believe them.

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<v Speaker 1>And basically, an affirmation is just like the action or

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<v Speaker 1>the process of affirming something. So you are affirming something

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<v Speaker 1>to yourself. So basically what I do, and we'll call

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<v Speaker 1>this tool, like, basically you are loving and you're accepting

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<v Speaker 1>yourself as you are right now. And if you think

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<v Speaker 1>about it, this little voice in your head that tells

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<v Speaker 1>you that you're not good enough to this person or

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<v Speaker 1>anything like that, it's a natural instinct and it's basically

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<v Speaker 1>yourself identifying areas where you think you may be falling

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<v Speaker 1>behind and it can be really cruel to yourself. So

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<v Speaker 1>basically what I do is I just accept myself for

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<v Speaker 1>who I am, and I do this amazing practice of affirmations.

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<v Speaker 1>Something that I did at the start of the week

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<v Speaker 1>is when I got back to my room. This is

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<v Speaker 1>actually an affirmation that I say all the time, and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just in love with it. I think you need

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<v Speaker 1>to find affirmations and words that really speak to you

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<v Speaker 1>and you feel a motive when you say them or

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<v Speaker 1>hear them, Otherwise it's not really going to work personally.

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<v Speaker 1>This sentence really speaks to me, and so I've always

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<v Speaker 1>used it, and so I use the affirmation no one

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<v Speaker 1>is me and that is my power. So I will

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<v Speaker 1>sit there, I make sure it's silent, I turn my

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<v Speaker 1>phone on airplane mode, and I sit there kind of

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<v Speaker 1>like I'm meditating, and I will say to myself, no

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<v Speaker 1>one is me and that is my power. And I

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<v Speaker 1>will say it for around two minutes. I go off

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<v Speaker 1>that ninety second and it's basically until I feel the

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<v Speaker 1>feeling of comparing myself and jealousy and not feeling good

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<v Speaker 1>enough to pass through me, and then I stop saying it.

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