1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:03,279 Speaker 1: Instead of comparing myself to this person that I'm comparing 2 00:00:03,279 --> 00:00:07,720 Speaker 1: myself to, I compare myself to who I am today 3 00:00:07,960 --> 00:00:10,960 Speaker 1: to who I was yesterday or in the past. 4 00:00:29,200 --> 00:00:33,960 Speaker 2: Hello and welcome back to the Rising Conker Podcast. It 5 00:00:34,120 --> 00:00:38,960 Speaker 2: is your host, Georgie Stephenson. As some of you may know, 6 00:00:39,440 --> 00:00:44,040 Speaker 2: I am currently on maternity leave, so Tim and I 7 00:00:44,120 --> 00:00:48,880 Speaker 2: are soaking up the newborn bubble and new parent life 8 00:00:49,000 --> 00:00:52,160 Speaker 2: with our little baby girl. But I did not want 9 00:00:52,200 --> 00:00:55,920 Speaker 2: to leave my ron C fan with nothing, so we 10 00:00:56,040 --> 00:01:00,000 Speaker 2: are bringing back the best bits of the Rising Conker Podcast. 11 00:01:00,640 --> 00:01:03,639 Speaker 2: We have nearly over two hundred episodes, so I thought 12 00:01:03,680 --> 00:01:06,679 Speaker 2: it would be a cool idea to bring you snippets 13 00:01:06,720 --> 00:01:11,560 Speaker 2: from the most listened to, the most talked about episodes 14 00:01:11,680 --> 00:01:16,440 Speaker 2: and just give you the best bits in a mini episode. 15 00:01:16,760 --> 00:01:20,240 Speaker 2: So be prepared to get straight into juicy topics, to 16 00:01:20,280 --> 00:01:25,760 Speaker 2: feel inspired, to feel motivated, empowered, and of course informed. 17 00:01:26,360 --> 00:01:29,880 Speaker 2: These episodes are shorter, but they're just full of the 18 00:01:29,920 --> 00:01:33,479 Speaker 2: best bits. If you did like this mini app, make 19 00:01:33,520 --> 00:01:35,959 Speaker 2: sure you go to the show notes where we have 20 00:01:36,120 --> 00:01:39,320 Speaker 2: linked the full episode. And I just want to say 21 00:01:39,400 --> 00:01:42,880 Speaker 2: I really appreciate you guys still supporting the show while 22 00:01:42,920 --> 00:01:46,479 Speaker 2: I'm taking some time off to enjoy Baby Girl, and 23 00:01:46,920 --> 00:01:49,000 Speaker 2: I just can't wait to be back in your ears 24 00:01:49,000 --> 00:01:52,720 Speaker 2: with fresh episodes in the new year. We have been 25 00:01:52,760 --> 00:01:56,120 Speaker 2: planning the next season and there are so many exciting 26 00:01:56,200 --> 00:02:00,480 Speaker 2: guests and surprises coming up. So I really hope you 27 00:02:00,600 --> 00:02:04,600 Speaker 2: enjoy this mini episode. Let's get straight into the show. 28 00:02:05,120 --> 00:02:08,000 Speaker 1: So I just wanted to go through some of the 29 00:02:08,000 --> 00:02:13,560 Speaker 1: tools I use when I'm feeling that self comparison creeping in, 30 00:02:13,639 --> 00:02:16,679 Speaker 1: because I know you guys may feel this feeling too. 31 00:02:16,960 --> 00:02:18,920 Speaker 1: And yeah, so I just wanted to go through some 32 00:02:18,960 --> 00:02:21,520 Speaker 1: stuff that I went through to make myself feel better. 33 00:02:21,639 --> 00:02:24,080 Speaker 1: I know that self comparison it can just sort of 34 00:02:24,240 --> 00:02:27,440 Speaker 1: creep in even if you are a very confident and 35 00:02:27,480 --> 00:02:30,800 Speaker 1: self aware person. I did want to say that don't 36 00:02:30,840 --> 00:02:35,520 Speaker 1: be upset or annoyed if you are comparing yourself to others. 37 00:02:36,080 --> 00:02:38,519 Speaker 1: I think it's great to sort of be self aware 38 00:02:38,600 --> 00:02:40,800 Speaker 1: and apply these tools that I'm about to tell you. 39 00:02:40,880 --> 00:02:44,440 Speaker 1: But something you do need to realize is comparing ourselves 40 00:02:44,480 --> 00:02:48,000 Speaker 1: to others is a natural instinct. If you think about it, 41 00:02:48,080 --> 00:02:53,240 Speaker 1: back in prehistoric times, it would be our natural instinct 42 00:02:53,320 --> 00:02:57,959 Speaker 1: to analyze others and identify possible threats and that sort 43 00:02:58,000 --> 00:03:00,720 Speaker 1: of thing. So we would be constantly compared ourselves to 44 00:03:00,760 --> 00:03:04,760 Speaker 1: others back in prehistoric times. But I guess it's super 45 00:03:04,800 --> 00:03:07,240 Speaker 1: hard in this day and time because we do have 46 00:03:07,320 --> 00:03:11,839 Speaker 1: things like social media and these highlight reels, and it's 47 00:03:11,960 --> 00:03:15,800 Speaker 1: very easy to fall in the self comparison trap. Okay, 48 00:03:15,919 --> 00:03:19,440 Speaker 1: So one of the first tools I use, I think about, 49 00:03:19,800 --> 00:03:22,960 Speaker 1: instead of comparing myself to this person that I'm comparing 50 00:03:23,000 --> 00:03:27,440 Speaker 1: myself to, I compare myself to who I am today 51 00:03:27,639 --> 00:03:31,280 Speaker 1: to who I was yesterday or in the past. And 52 00:03:31,320 --> 00:03:34,240 Speaker 1: I think this is a really great mind shift because 53 00:03:34,280 --> 00:03:37,680 Speaker 1: if you think about it, we are forever growing, forever learning, 54 00:03:38,080 --> 00:03:42,800 Speaker 1: and forever achieving different things. So instead of focusing on 55 00:03:43,360 --> 00:03:47,400 Speaker 1: something that we are not because we're comparing ourself to 56 00:03:47,440 --> 00:03:50,800 Speaker 1: someone else, I try and shift the mindset and I 57 00:03:50,840 --> 00:03:53,720 Speaker 1: think to myself, am I the same person that I 58 00:03:54,040 --> 00:03:57,360 Speaker 1: was a year ago or even a week ago? And 59 00:03:57,400 --> 00:04:01,640 Speaker 1: the answer is no, because I constantly and growing and 60 00:04:01,720 --> 00:04:05,000 Speaker 1: learning and achieving and we all are. And I think 61 00:04:05,080 --> 00:04:07,840 Speaker 1: it's very easy to fall into this track where we 62 00:04:07,920 --> 00:04:11,880 Speaker 1: think we're moving too slow or we're not achieving enough 63 00:04:11,960 --> 00:04:15,320 Speaker 1: because we're surrounded by a social media and these highlight 64 00:04:15,400 --> 00:04:18,680 Speaker 1: reels where everyone seems like they're just killing it life. 65 00:04:19,320 --> 00:04:22,680 Speaker 1: The next thing I love to use, and this is 66 00:04:23,000 --> 00:04:28,560 Speaker 1: realizing that the people that you're comparing yourself are not flawless. 67 00:04:28,800 --> 00:04:31,839 Speaker 1: So I have this rule where on social media I 68 00:04:31,920 --> 00:04:36,719 Speaker 1: actually unfollow anyone who if their life looks like too 69 00:04:36,720 --> 00:04:40,720 Speaker 1: perfect and they don't show anything real, I will literally 70 00:04:40,839 --> 00:04:43,840 Speaker 1: unfollow that person because to me, I'm like, I don't 71 00:04:43,880 --> 00:04:46,960 Speaker 1: need that shit in my life. I don't need that 72 00:04:47,640 --> 00:04:51,560 Speaker 1: fakeness basically because to me, I want to be surrounded 73 00:04:51,600 --> 00:04:56,360 Speaker 1: by real, inspiring people. And don't get me wrong, I 74 00:04:56,440 --> 00:04:59,760 Speaker 1: think it's amazing that, you know, people celebrate their achievements 75 00:05:00,080 --> 00:05:02,599 Speaker 1: and they put it there highlight reel and their best 76 00:05:02,680 --> 00:05:05,120 Speaker 1: movements and all that sort of thing. I think that's 77 00:05:05,160 --> 00:05:09,600 Speaker 1: perfectly okay, But also make sure you're following accounts where 78 00:05:09,640 --> 00:05:13,320 Speaker 1: they are also showing you their challenges, showing you the 79 00:05:13,440 --> 00:05:16,920 Speaker 1: not so glamorous life. And so basically I will literally 80 00:05:17,040 --> 00:05:21,760 Speaker 1: unfollow or just not associate myself with anyone else who 81 00:05:22,040 --> 00:05:25,719 Speaker 1: just doesn't show that sort of thing, because I did 82 00:05:25,760 --> 00:05:29,040 Speaker 1: find at one stage that was really something that would 83 00:05:29,120 --> 00:05:32,200 Speaker 1: get to me personally. Okay, this is the last little 84 00:05:32,200 --> 00:05:34,160 Speaker 1: tool I'm going to give you, guys, and this is 85 00:05:34,200 --> 00:05:37,640 Speaker 1: probably my favorite. So I probably listened to it on 86 00:05:37,680 --> 00:05:40,520 Speaker 1: a podcast or I've read it somewhere, and it said 87 00:05:40,800 --> 00:05:44,040 Speaker 1: when you have a feeling, you only actually feel it 88 00:05:44,080 --> 00:05:47,640 Speaker 1: for ninety seconds and then it passes. And I just 89 00:05:47,720 --> 00:05:51,000 Speaker 1: remember being like mind blown by that. But then since 90 00:05:51,040 --> 00:05:54,119 Speaker 1: I've been aware of it, I could not agree more. 91 00:05:54,480 --> 00:05:59,920 Speaker 1: And I really loved the practice of affirmations. So affirmation 92 00:06:00,279 --> 00:06:03,680 Speaker 1: are basically just like sentences and words you say. I 93 00:06:03,720 --> 00:06:07,920 Speaker 1: personally say them out loud and you just repeat and 94 00:06:08,240 --> 00:06:10,760 Speaker 1: you probably don't believe them at the start, but you 95 00:06:10,839 --> 00:06:14,400 Speaker 1: honestly just repeat them enough until you almost believe them. 96 00:06:14,720 --> 00:06:18,160 Speaker 1: And basically, an affirmation is just like the action or 97 00:06:18,200 --> 00:06:23,679 Speaker 1: the process of affirming something. So you are affirming something 98 00:06:23,920 --> 00:06:27,600 Speaker 1: to yourself. So basically what I do, and we'll call 99 00:06:27,640 --> 00:06:30,600 Speaker 1: this tool, like, basically you are loving and you're accepting 100 00:06:30,640 --> 00:06:34,560 Speaker 1: yourself as you are right now. And if you think 101 00:06:34,560 --> 00:06:37,320 Speaker 1: about it, this little voice in your head that tells 102 00:06:37,360 --> 00:06:40,640 Speaker 1: you that you're not good enough to this person or 103 00:06:40,800 --> 00:06:44,159 Speaker 1: anything like that, it's a natural instinct and it's basically 104 00:06:44,240 --> 00:06:48,719 Speaker 1: yourself identifying areas where you think you may be falling 105 00:06:48,760 --> 00:06:53,680 Speaker 1: behind and it can be really cruel to yourself. So 106 00:06:53,839 --> 00:06:58,279 Speaker 1: basically what I do is I just accept myself for 107 00:06:58,400 --> 00:07:03,119 Speaker 1: who I am, and I do this amazing practice of affirmations. 108 00:07:03,839 --> 00:07:05,760 Speaker 1: Something that I did at the start of the week 109 00:07:05,960 --> 00:07:08,000 Speaker 1: is when I got back to my room. This is 110 00:07:08,040 --> 00:07:10,680 Speaker 1: actually an affirmation that I say all the time, and 111 00:07:10,720 --> 00:07:12,560 Speaker 1: I'm just in love with it. I think you need 112 00:07:12,600 --> 00:07:15,760 Speaker 1: to find affirmations and words that really speak to you 113 00:07:16,000 --> 00:07:19,400 Speaker 1: and you feel a motive when you say them or 114 00:07:19,480 --> 00:07:23,000 Speaker 1: hear them, Otherwise it's not really going to work personally. 115 00:07:23,120 --> 00:07:26,480 Speaker 1: This sentence really speaks to me, and so I've always 116 00:07:26,600 --> 00:07:29,840 Speaker 1: used it, and so I use the affirmation no one 117 00:07:29,920 --> 00:07:32,960 Speaker 1: is me and that is my power. So I will 118 00:07:33,000 --> 00:07:35,720 Speaker 1: sit there, I make sure it's silent, I turn my 119 00:07:35,800 --> 00:07:38,640 Speaker 1: phone on airplane mode, and I sit there kind of 120 00:07:38,680 --> 00:07:41,840 Speaker 1: like I'm meditating, and I will say to myself, no 121 00:07:41,880 --> 00:07:44,880 Speaker 1: one is me and that is my power. And I 122 00:07:44,920 --> 00:07:47,720 Speaker 1: will say it for around two minutes. I go off 123 00:07:47,720 --> 00:07:51,880 Speaker 1: that ninety second and it's basically until I feel the 124 00:07:52,000 --> 00:07:55,920 Speaker 1: feeling of comparing myself and jealousy and not feeling good 125 00:07:56,000 --> 00:07:58,800 Speaker 1: enough to pass through me, and then I stop saying it. 126 00:07:59,360 --> 00:08:02,480 Speaker 2: Thank you for listening for another rn C episode. I 127 00:08:02,560 --> 00:08:05,720 Speaker 2: really appreciate taking the time to be here with me, 128 00:08:05,960 --> 00:08:09,080 Speaker 2: and also for taking the time for yourself. 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