WEBVTT - FULL SHOW: What's the RIGHT amount to gift at a wedding? 💰 0:00:12.600 --> 0:00:14.760 Laura, come on there. 0:00:17.920 --> 0:00:18.759 At the end of the week. 0:00:18.880 --> 0:00:23.000 Laura Burn, Hollo, Hello, mister, how are you feeling about 0:00:23.040 --> 0:00:23.680 being here today? 0:00:23.800 --> 0:00:26.720 Good? I love the week. Were both use full names 0:00:26.720 --> 0:00:28.280 like we're journalists on like Sunrise. 0:00:28.560 --> 0:00:30.760 I was being facetious because you use my full name. 0:00:30.840 --> 0:00:33.920 Oh sorry, yeah, that's okay, Laura may Burn. 0:00:34.720 --> 0:00:37.720 No, I've just forgot my middle name or and it's Anne. 0:00:37.920 --> 0:00:38.879 Then what's may. 0:00:39.640 --> 0:00:42.519 Oh it's my it's my grandma's middle name and my 0:00:42.600 --> 0:00:44.120 daughter's middle name. I did not know that, and my 0:00:44.200 --> 0:00:45.920 niece's middle name. It's a family middle name, but it 0:00:46.000 --> 0:00:46.479 skipped me. 0:00:46.560 --> 0:00:47.879 You guys are a bit culty in that way. 0:00:48.120 --> 0:00:50.280 I know. Well, speaking of family, I'm so happy to 0:00:50.320 --> 0:00:51.080 be here today. 0:00:51.280 --> 0:00:52.360 I'm so happy to be here. 0:00:53.120 --> 0:00:55.880 And it's because I have hit a milestone with my 0:00:56.000 --> 0:00:58.040 kids that I didn't expect to hit, Like my my 0:00:58.120 --> 0:01:00.080 daughter's only three, and I was expecting this malester and 0:01:00.120 --> 0:01:00.880 at maybe thirteen. 0:01:01.400 --> 0:01:03.160 But we're there now. Which one is this? This is 0:01:03.160 --> 0:01:03.680 Marlow mate? 0:01:03.720 --> 0:01:05.800 No, this is Lola the three. I'm glad that you're 0:01:05.800 --> 0:01:07.640 plugged in on my family. You know the age of 0:01:07.640 --> 0:01:08.120 my children. 0:01:08.360 --> 0:01:08.759 Both looks. 0:01:09.720 --> 0:01:11.600 Let me let me just share with you the milestone 0:01:11.600 --> 0:01:13.480 that we reached. It's really beautiful. Okay, it's a moment 0:01:13.520 --> 0:01:14.600 that every mother looks forward to. 0:01:14.920 --> 0:01:15.040 This. 0:01:18.520 --> 0:01:23.720 Let's do one more time. 0:01:25.160 --> 0:01:25.399 Yep. 0:01:25.520 --> 0:01:27.559 So I'll stay here all day and I'm not going home. 0:01:27.600 --> 0:01:28.760 I hate you, Mama. 0:01:28.840 --> 0:01:31.119 She oscillates between hating me and wanting to climb back 0:01:31.120 --> 0:01:32.759 inside me because she loves me so much. 0:01:32.880 --> 0:01:35.839 So it's really she I feel like it's a drama bond. 0:01:35.880 --> 0:01:37.720 I'd hate to hear the audio of what that sounds. 0:01:39.000 --> 0:01:43.320 They love you. That's for Monday's show, Monday eight. Crawling 0:01:43.360 --> 0:01:46.959 back into the uterus, Lola refines at placenta. So they 0:01:47.000 --> 0:01:48.640 love you. They couldn't live without you, Laura. I just 0:01:48.640 --> 0:01:49.120 want you to know. 0:01:49.240 --> 0:01:49.640 No, I know. 0:01:49.760 --> 0:01:51.240 I tell them that all the time. They don't care. 0:01:51.280 --> 0:01:53.919 They financially be ruined if you walked out of their lives. 0:01:54.000 --> 0:01:55.880 Hey still to come on the show today for the 0:01:55.920 --> 0:01:59.280 Friday to end your week Wedding Gifts. We're discussing how 0:01:59.360 --> 0:02:02.320 much you get in a wishing well or what you give, 0:02:02.600 --> 0:02:05.240 Like the days of registries really are gone. I went 0:02:05.280 --> 0:02:07.280 to a wedding. It was actually a wedding of producer Grace, 0:02:07.320 --> 0:02:09.480 who produces this show. She's sitting right Extra, She's sitting 0:02:09.520 --> 0:02:11.640 roun Extle's pretend she's in the room. Grace, we're gonna 0:02:12.200 --> 0:02:13.560 you know, I don't want you to reveal how much 0:02:13.680 --> 0:02:16.120 I gave you, but it was its tricky conversation to have. 0:02:16.320 --> 0:02:19.239 It was it made me realize a lot of things. Yeah, 0:02:19.240 --> 0:02:21.000 if you've got thoughts on this thirteen one oh sixty five, 0:02:21.000 --> 0:02:23.320 because we're discussing it coming up today, let's go starting 0:02:23.280 --> 0:02:25.160 to pick up around Australia. Let's do it lot, all right, 0:02:25.240 --> 0:02:28.720 let's go. I say, Britt, Laura, Mitch. For the past 0:02:28.720 --> 0:02:30.600 couple of weeks and for the foreseeable future, it's just 0:02:30.680 --> 0:02:34.040 Mitch and Laura because Britt is in the I'm a Celebrity, 0:02:34.080 --> 0:02:35.240 Get Me out of Here jungle. 0:02:35.360 --> 0:02:37.120 She is, but she's also been part of the show though, 0:02:37.120 --> 0:02:40.720 because we've been getting exclusive behind the scenes contents over 0:02:40.760 --> 0:02:43.440 the last couple of days, has spoken to Stephen Kate Amos. 0:02:43.440 --> 0:02:46.800 He's the he's the comedian who's on I'm a Celebrity. 0:02:46.840 --> 0:02:47.800 He's the British comedian. 0:02:47.880 --> 0:02:48.760 The royals love him. 0:02:49.000 --> 0:02:51.240 Oh it's so funny. But when he first came out, 0:02:51.280 --> 0:02:52.600 I was like, who is that guy? And then I 0:02:52.639 --> 0:02:54.960 went down a YouTube rabbit hole. Same and I have 0:02:55.040 --> 0:02:57.600 seen so much of his content. He's absolutely hilarious. 0:02:57.800 --> 0:02:59.760 Hey, let's row this a new exclusive interview from my 0:02:59.880 --> 0:03:01.320 very Brittany Hockley from Africa. 0:03:01.600 --> 0:03:04.560 You never wanted kids, has to say. I remember you 0:03:04.560 --> 0:03:05.400 saying you wanted kids. 0:03:05.639 --> 0:03:07.680 You never really said what process you were going down. 0:03:07.760 --> 0:03:11.160 I looked into it just before lockdown and that ruined Deava. Well, 0:03:11.200 --> 0:03:16.200 I couldn't ruin it stopped divisions and we had had meetings. 0:03:16.240 --> 0:03:18.760 But I was going to go to America for adoption. 0:03:20.360 --> 0:03:25.720 And it would have been guaranteed the disservice. The American 0:03:25.760 --> 0:03:29.080 way of doing it very didn't to the UK and Europe, 0:03:29.639 --> 0:03:34.040 where you've got there into rights straight away. And there 0:03:34.040 --> 0:03:39.120 are people in America who are quite happy to be 0:03:39.240 --> 0:03:44.080 a surrogate. Yeah, and mainly mothers themselves. And you get 0:03:44.080 --> 0:03:49.520 a choice of age group, age range of the surrogate. 0:03:49.680 --> 0:03:50.960 Yeah, you're picking them. 0:03:52.640 --> 0:03:53.800 You have meetings with them. 0:03:54.440 --> 0:03:59.040 A database. Do you use the egg or do you. 0:03:58.880 --> 0:04:00.480 Choose an egg options? 0:04:00.480 --> 0:04:01.360 You can either use their. 0:04:01.320 --> 0:04:07.440 Ring or m hm. So do you think you'll look 0:04:07.480 --> 0:04:07.920 at it again? 0:04:08.280 --> 0:04:09.480 I think I will look at it again. 0:04:09.960 --> 0:04:10.839 That's exciting. 0:04:11.160 --> 0:04:12.960 How would you go with donor or would you go. 0:04:12.920 --> 0:04:14.360 On do you have a friend or something? 0:04:16.080 --> 0:04:18.599 I did speak to a friend a while ago, and 0:04:18.600 --> 0:04:23.680 then I spoke to a couple of connections with strangers, 0:04:24.040 --> 0:04:26.320 and one of them was very interested in the co carringings. 0:04:27.400 --> 0:04:31.120 I just wanted I wouldn't be adverse if it was 0:04:31.160 --> 0:04:31.839 the right person. 0:04:32.560 --> 0:04:34.320 But I guess you don't know them long enough to. 0:04:34.360 --> 0:04:38.200 Know if that's the right that's the life long. It's 0:04:38.240 --> 0:04:41.440 effectively marrying that other couple forever. 0:04:41.839 --> 0:04:45.000 Yeah, I was gonna say, would you use your. 0:04:44.880 --> 0:04:48.080 Sperm or hugh sperm or you don't know yet? 0:04:48.120 --> 0:04:50.400 I don't know yet. I mean I'm very clean to 0:04:50.560 --> 0:04:52.800 use your own whatever left. 0:04:52.520 --> 0:04:57.120 And big Dad you would still yeah, heaps, men's sperm 0:04:57.200 --> 0:04:58.680 doesn't really deteriorate, wouldn't. 0:04:58.680 --> 0:05:00.599 I think could do it in the sense that you 0:05:00.640 --> 0:05:04.920 could both donate and people I. 0:05:04.880 --> 0:05:07.400 Have a friendly to that too, And is they both 0:05:07.520 --> 0:05:12.080 say like, we don't want to choose so fair. Yeah, 0:05:12.120 --> 0:05:14.240 I'll do that, or you could have two kids and 0:05:14.480 --> 0:05:14.960 want to make. 0:05:16.400 --> 0:05:18.680 But I mean, we're this close they had met. It 0:05:18.720 --> 0:05:20.919 was all over zoom at that point. Yeah, you know, 0:05:21.000 --> 0:05:25.360 in America, and then the representative of the agency came 0:05:25.400 --> 0:05:28.120 to London and I met up with them, had a 0:05:28.160 --> 0:05:30.880 really good productive chat and it was a lot of money. 0:05:31.440 --> 0:05:31.680 Yeah. 0:05:31.680 --> 0:05:33.640 The thing that clinched it for me was that it 0:05:33.680 --> 0:05:39.719 was guaranteed multiple trials if it doesn't succeed. Okay, yeah, yeah, 0:05:39.880 --> 0:05:45.680 so to avoid disappointment, and and also at the end 0:05:45.760 --> 0:05:50.920 of the term you go make arrangements and they also 0:05:51.800 --> 0:05:54.280 arrange the birth certificate and. 0:05:54.200 --> 0:05:56.160 Then you just fly over there for the birth and. 0:05:56.120 --> 0:05:59.920 So probably a few weeks before the birth and then 0:06:00.040 --> 0:06:02.919 a few weeks after, we'll take your baby down and 0:06:02.960 --> 0:06:05.119 the baby's got dual nationality straight away. 0:06:05.320 --> 0:06:05.680 Amazing. 0:06:06.600 --> 0:06:10.279 Oh, I hope that works out here, said oh, it's 0:06:10.320 --> 0:06:11.200 so nice to hear her. 0:06:11.279 --> 0:06:15.800 Boys, we wanted to win. Guys. Now voting is only 0:06:15.960 --> 0:06:18.840 vote to save, and which means essentially vote to win. 0:06:18.880 --> 0:06:20.400 There's no more voting for trials, so you've got to 0:06:20.440 --> 0:06:21.880 got a ten play, make an account, you can do 0:06:21.920 --> 0:06:22.640 ten votes today. 0:06:22.800 --> 0:06:24.320 We miss her, but not enough that we wanted to 0:06:24.320 --> 0:06:25.599 come back just yet. We don't want it to come 0:06:25.640 --> 0:06:27.400 back unless she's a queen. It's exactly right, bring that 0:06:27.440 --> 0:06:29.560 crown or don't bother coming. Three in Africa breed. All right, 0:06:29.560 --> 0:06:32.039 we'll coming up next. We're talking wedding gifts. What's an 0:06:32.080 --> 0:06:35.320 appropriate wedding gift? Because Mitch, it was recently our beautiful 0:06:35.320 --> 0:06:37.600 producer Grace's wedding, and I think you might be in 0:06:37.600 --> 0:06:38.120 a bit of trouble. 0:06:38.400 --> 0:06:40.119 I think I'm actually going to be praised. To be honest, 0:06:40.160 --> 0:06:42.520 Grace will get you on the show next, but we 0:06:42.520 --> 0:06:45.120 can't wait to hear because it was a great wedding. 0:06:45.320 --> 0:06:48.800 Thank you. Forty dollars isn't enough? Man, coming up next, 0:06:49.200 --> 0:06:52.159 it's after this. Hey, this is a conversation that we 0:06:52.200 --> 0:06:54.360 had off here that we're now doing live on the show. 0:06:54.880 --> 0:06:59.640 Or our beautiful producer Grace produces this show, Holly Grace. Oh, 0:07:00.080 --> 0:07:03.159 the wedding bells, the wedding dong ding dong. She got 0:07:03.160 --> 0:07:05.960 married about two weeks ago, now almost three weeks ago. 0:07:06.000 --> 0:07:08.440 This two weeks ago, two weeks to your beautiful partner, Diana. 0:07:08.640 --> 0:07:09.000 Yeah, and we. 0:07:09.040 --> 0:07:12.520 Congratulation be very in our little love honeymoon bubble and 0:07:12.640 --> 0:07:14.160 I hasn't burst yet. 0:07:14.480 --> 0:07:16.360 Yes. Well, the thing we were talking about is because 0:07:16.360 --> 0:07:18.280 it's always weird after you get married, right, you get 0:07:18.280 --> 0:07:20.320 the wishing well and you get all the cards and stuff, 0:07:20.360 --> 0:07:22.040 and you never really know what's in there until like 0:07:22.080 --> 0:07:23.640 the day after your wedding, you sit down with your 0:07:23.680 --> 0:07:25.760 partner and you open those envelopes and then you know 0:07:26.160 --> 0:07:28.160 who of your family member is the tit ale married? 0:07:28.160 --> 0:07:28.520 Who is that? 0:07:28.560 --> 0:07:29.040 What happens? 0:07:29.200 --> 0:07:31.080 Yeah, the next day when Matt and I got married, 0:07:31.120 --> 0:07:33.600 my husband we sat down the next day and you 0:07:33.640 --> 0:07:35.360 open up your wedding card and you're like, you read 0:07:35.360 --> 0:07:37.880 the beautiful messages. But then most people these days, most 0:07:37.920 --> 0:07:40.200 people don't give gifts, they give money, and so then 0:07:40.240 --> 0:07:42.559 you're kind of like, Okay, well there's fifty dollars from Nana, 0:07:42.640 --> 0:07:45.160 and there's two hundred dollars from Sarah and John. Like 0:07:45.480 --> 0:07:47.400 you just go through your friends and it's kind of 0:07:47.440 --> 0:07:51.160 a weird thing, but it really shows you who has 0:07:51.200 --> 0:07:53.600 been super generous and who has been very sting. 0:07:53.720 --> 0:07:56.000 Well that's where this conversation started because Grace was like, 0:07:56.200 --> 0:07:58.040 came into work after her leave she went to Fiji, 0:07:58.120 --> 0:08:00.000 and Grace, you said on Mitch like you were so generous. 0:08:00.320 --> 0:08:01.800 I was like, thank you so much. You gave me 0:08:01.880 --> 0:08:03.560 way too much money. I need to know how much 0:08:03.600 --> 0:08:05.559 is way too much money? And that too much sharing. 0:08:06.560 --> 0:08:08.320 I don't think I'll tell you off it. I'll tell 0:08:08.360 --> 0:08:10.360 you off. I'm or do you think how much do 0:08:10.360 --> 0:08:12.240 you think as we work together? 0:08:12.280 --> 0:08:15.600 You two hundred dollars? Two hundred dollars is generous? I think, yeah, 0:08:15.640 --> 0:08:18.160 it was a lot more two hundreds each though. 0:08:18.320 --> 0:08:21.160 No, no, I've only with my partner in a new relationship. 0:08:21.200 --> 0:08:22.520 But he doesn't really know Grace, so I'm not going 0:08:22.560 --> 0:08:24.560 to make him fork out you cash. It was more 0:08:24.600 --> 0:08:28.800 than double anyway, I just grab money bags. I love 0:08:28.840 --> 0:08:29.960 Grace and she works on the show. 0:08:30.280 --> 0:08:32.520 Some people gave way too much money. Some people didn't 0:08:32.520 --> 0:08:35.200 give anything at all. Okay, whatever, that's fine, But it 0:08:35.240 --> 0:08:38.520 made me realize that I personally have been undergifting at 0:08:38.559 --> 0:08:39.680 the weddings that I go to. 0:08:39.800 --> 0:08:40.160 It's hard. 0:08:40.559 --> 0:08:44.040 I've been popping in like one hundred bucks that kind 0:08:44.120 --> 0:08:47.360 of thing, going yeah, that seems about right, and very 0:08:47.400 --> 0:08:49.640 few people gave less than two hundred. 0:08:49.679 --> 0:08:51.640 See, I think that there's rules, though, I think that 0:08:51.679 --> 0:08:52.360 this is dependent. 0:08:52.400 --> 0:08:52.800 It depends. 0:08:52.920 --> 0:08:54.720 It depends on how close you are to the person. 0:08:55.080 --> 0:08:57.240 Like if it's someone who's a close family member, a 0:08:57.320 --> 0:08:59.320 best friend, then of course you're going to give more. 0:08:59.600 --> 0:09:00.640 But I do you think you should? 0:09:00.720 --> 0:09:03.400 You should probably give enough to cover what the food 0:09:03.440 --> 0:09:04.720 and drinks would have been that you would have had. 0:09:04.720 --> 0:09:06.280 If you're going to spend one hundred and fifty dollars 0:09:06.320 --> 0:09:08.560 on a night out on a Saturday, which that's a stretch. 0:09:08.600 --> 0:09:10.719 Not everyone is comfortable spending that, But if you are 0:09:10.760 --> 0:09:13.079 okay with spending that on a normal night out, that's 0:09:13.120 --> 0:09:15.040 what you should put in to an envelope. 0:09:15.080 --> 0:09:16.760 On the wedding day, That's where my head was out. 0:09:16.800 --> 0:09:19.280 I thought, well, covey costs. Yeah, Grace, you invited my 0:09:19.320 --> 0:09:20.839 new partner, Steven, So I was like, great, So Steven 0:09:20.880 --> 0:09:23.200 and I it's two hundred dollars and there's no gift 0:09:23.240 --> 0:09:25.440 involved in that, that's just paying back our food. But 0:09:25.480 --> 0:09:26.920 then I don't I also don't know. 0:09:27.120 --> 0:09:29.240 I don't know because I'm like, I want you all 0:09:29.320 --> 0:09:32.040 to be here. I'm happy to spend total money on you. 0:09:32.080 --> 0:09:35.760 So I actually, like genuinely wasn't expecting people to be 0:09:35.840 --> 0:09:36.480 so generous. 0:09:36.480 --> 0:09:37.359 But it's also. 0:09:37.160 --> 0:09:39.680 Cultural as well, right, because it depends on So I mean, 0:09:39.720 --> 0:09:41.800 that's very kind of you and generous of you. But 0:09:41.840 --> 0:09:44.640 then some cultures within weddings, the expectation is that you 0:09:44.720 --> 0:09:47.120 earn money from your wedding, and I think it really 0:09:47.120 --> 0:09:50.000 depends on whose wedding it is. But we for our 0:09:50.000 --> 0:09:53.640 wedding got everything from like a seventeen year old coffee 0:09:53.640 --> 0:09:56.199 table book that had obviously been in someone's cupboard for 0:09:56.240 --> 0:09:59.400 a long time to Missina Vouch, you've got a fifty 0:09:59.400 --> 0:10:00.160 dollars mescena. 0:10:00.360 --> 0:10:02.640 From your wedding. Someone gave you a fifty dollars see 0:10:02.679 --> 0:10:04.520 about you. 0:10:04.520 --> 0:10:07.560 You're kidding, which this is not me being ungrateful. It 0:10:07.640 --> 0:10:10.760 was delicious, but it was a random choice. But like 0:10:11.000 --> 0:10:13.000 also very specific, fifty dollars on. 0:10:13.000 --> 0:10:15.360 Ice cream was unnecessary. I don't need that much sugar. 0:10:15.800 --> 0:10:16.520 I love ice cream. 0:10:16.640 --> 0:10:20.120 No, no, I'm not really partial to sweets, to be honest, 0:10:20.120 --> 0:10:22.040 I would have preferred fifty dollars at a savory bake 0:10:22.360 --> 0:10:23.320 anyway you feel. 0:10:23.679 --> 0:10:24.439 And then it was and. 0:10:24.360 --> 0:10:26.520 Then it was cash and like other things are really beautiful. No, 0:10:26.640 --> 0:10:29.640 you got me a beautiful cheese board and serving set. 0:10:29.720 --> 0:10:32.120 Oh I did? Did you bought a gift? ID? People 0:10:32.160 --> 0:10:35.640 don't buy giets. I'm traditional. Yeah, boy, okay, I think 0:10:35.679 --> 0:10:37.400 we need to open this to the country. Thirteen one 0:10:37.400 --> 0:10:40.199 o six five. What is standard for a wedding gift 0:10:40.280 --> 0:10:41.800 these days? Like gone are the days of a firma 0:10:41.880 --> 0:10:44.400 mix and you know, a bedspread, Like you need cash. 0:10:44.520 --> 0:10:45.839 But you also don't want it. You don't want to 0:10:45.840 --> 0:10:47.760 be stingy and you don't want to be giving too much. 0:10:47.880 --> 0:10:49.360 If you work in the industry too, I love to 0:10:49.360 --> 0:10:51.120 hear from you. Thirteen one O six five will take 0:10:51.160 --> 0:10:58.160 your calls. Next, real heated discussion. How much do you 0:10:58.280 --> 0:11:01.520 gift a friend, a coworker, someone that's getting married that 0:11:02.000 --> 0:11:03.840 in your life you've been invited to their wedding? How 0:11:03.880 --> 0:11:04.600 much money do you get? 0:11:04.640 --> 0:11:06.520 Like what's an appropriate wedding gift? Because it's the thing 0:11:06.520 --> 0:11:08.000 that no one really talks about? Right, you kind of 0:11:08.000 --> 0:11:09.640 sneak it into an envelope and then you shove it 0:11:09.640 --> 0:11:11.720 in the wishing well. And how do you know if 0:11:11.760 --> 0:11:13.160 you're stingy or generous? Yes? 0:11:13.240 --> 0:11:14.920 Where is the ball pip our producer here on the 0:11:14.920 --> 0:11:16.960 pick up? Grace got married two weeks ago. I've known 0:11:17.000 --> 0:11:20.360 Grace for years, so I gave her, like, like, well, 0:11:20.360 --> 0:11:21.360 over a couple hundred bucks. 0:11:21.400 --> 0:11:22.920 Are we just talking about this so that you can 0:11:23.280 --> 0:11:26.760 like continue to like tell how generous you are? 0:11:26.880 --> 0:11:26.960 No? 0:11:27.000 --> 0:11:29.559 Because no, no, because this is this is why we're 0:11:29.559 --> 0:11:32.680 having the conversation, I didn't realize how generous I was. 0:11:32.760 --> 0:11:34.640 She said to me like that was too much money, 0:11:34.760 --> 0:11:36.840 and I thought, I thought, that's what you gave. Do 0:11:36.880 --> 0:11:38.400 you do that because you're expecting it back at your 0:11:38.400 --> 0:11:40.959 wedding one day? No? No, no way, never, no, no no. 0:11:41.000 --> 0:11:43.439 It's because she works for me, she produces this show. 0:11:43.440 --> 0:11:44.720 I don't want to be a bastard and give her 0:11:44.720 --> 0:11:46.680 a fifty bars. She also knows you own enough working 0:11:46.679 --> 0:11:47.040 on radio. 0:11:47.040 --> 0:11:49.040 Anyway, let's get the calls, okay, So thirteen one oh 0:11:49.120 --> 0:11:50.679 six five, what has like? 0:11:50.760 --> 0:11:52.440 What do you think is an appropriate amount to give 0:11:52.440 --> 0:11:54.160 it a wedding? Totally? All right, let's go to the phones. 0:11:54.720 --> 0:11:56.600 Sue on thirteen one six five? Sue, what do you 0:11:56.600 --> 0:11:58.319 think the standard is? How much money should we be 0:11:58.360 --> 0:11:59.520 gifting people at weddings? 0:12:00.160 --> 0:12:03.440 I think for like everage people, the minimum should be 0:12:03.600 --> 0:12:07.440 like two hundred per if you're attending on your own, 0:12:07.520 --> 0:12:09.160 and then four hundred if you're a couple. 0:12:09.600 --> 0:12:12.800 No, no, there's two hundred. Wow, Now I've been undergifting. 0:12:13.160 --> 0:12:15.600 Why do you think that's suit? Why? Two hundred? That's hard. 0:12:16.320 --> 0:12:18.200 I used to gift a lot, so I used to 0:12:18.240 --> 0:12:21.560 give like like three four hundred of if I was 0:12:21.600 --> 0:12:23.680 by myself. The last thing I went Toll, I gifted 0:12:23.760 --> 0:12:26.280 seven hundred because they were quite close to me and 0:12:26.320 --> 0:12:28.280 I was on my own and a lot of people 0:12:28.440 --> 0:12:30.600 were telling me off, like you give too much, and 0:12:30.640 --> 0:12:32.079 I was like, well, that's why I have money. 0:12:32.120 --> 0:12:34.559 Rye, all right, everyone invites SUITI your weddings. That's what 0:12:34.559 --> 0:12:35.360 I'm getting from there. 0:12:35.640 --> 0:12:36.800 Sue, what do you do for work? 0:12:37.520 --> 0:12:37.600 Me? 0:12:37.840 --> 0:12:39.240 I work for what wars online? 0:12:39.720 --> 0:12:42.080 Oh, Sue, you you are so generous. That is such 0:12:42.080 --> 0:12:43.439 a generous amount of gifting. 0:12:44.360 --> 0:12:44.880 Yeah, and I. 0:12:44.840 --> 0:12:45.920 Can't like, I can't help it. 0:12:45.960 --> 0:12:46.840 I'm just really generous. 0:12:46.880 --> 0:12:49.160 But these days, like people for a wedding, they are 0:12:49.160 --> 0:12:50.959 paying nearly two hundred for you per hit. 0:12:51.160 --> 0:12:53.199 Totally. I agree. All right, thank you sir. Good call 0:12:53.480 --> 0:12:55.640 Lauren hello. How much do you think is appropriate to 0:12:55.640 --> 0:12:56.640 give as a gifted. 0:12:56.400 --> 0:13:00.440 A wedding depending on the relationship with the person, Between 0:13:00.440 --> 0:13:02.280 one hundred and one hundred and fifty per person. 0:13:03.040 --> 0:13:04.760 See, I think one hundred and fifty bang on. I 0:13:04.760 --> 0:13:07.040 think that's pretty standard. But here's the thing, it's if 0:13:07.040 --> 0:13:08.839 they're a really close friend. Like the reason I gave 0:13:08.840 --> 0:13:10.360 Grace so much money is because she's a close friend. 0:13:10.400 --> 0:13:12.360 I've known her for years and she works on my show. 0:13:12.679 --> 0:13:15.400 You can't give someone like who works with you and 0:13:15.440 --> 0:13:17.600 knows what you do for a living. We're radio presented 0:13:17.600 --> 0:13:19.439 and not barristas like we have to kind of we've 0:13:19.440 --> 0:13:20.360 got to look after us. 0:13:20.360 --> 0:13:22.280 There's nothing wrong with being a barrista. Lauren, what do 0:13:22.320 --> 0:13:23.120 you think is that? 0:13:25.360 --> 0:13:26.959 Lauren? What do you think is a stingy gift? Though? 0:13:27.000 --> 0:13:28.920 If you were like at your wedding, if you received it, 0:13:28.960 --> 0:13:31.000 you'd be like, oh, okay, scrap them from the Christmas 0:13:31.040 --> 0:13:31.480 card list. 0:13:32.800 --> 0:13:34.079 An empty card? 0:13:34.360 --> 0:13:36.240 Yeah, there's nothing worse than do you know what? 0:13:36.880 --> 0:13:37.280 Almost? 0:13:37.320 --> 0:13:39.400 An empty card is worse than no card because a 0:13:39.440 --> 0:13:40.760 no card can go undetected. 0:13:40.760 --> 0:13:43.000 But an empty card, you know. I agree. If I 0:13:43.040 --> 0:13:44.800 got a twenty dollar note, i'd be I think i'd 0:13:44.800 --> 0:13:48.439 be offended. Orange twenty dollar note, I'd bit fifty, I'd 0:13:48.480 --> 0:13:50.120 be like, okay, but twenty I'd be offended. 0:13:50.280 --> 0:13:53.319 So anything less than than an orange, well, what's a 0:13:53.360 --> 0:13:56.280 fifty that's brown? Anything less than brown? I think we 0:13:56.280 --> 0:13:58.679 need to get the opinion of a professional here. I'm 0:13:58.679 --> 0:14:01.400 going to come on, give a little call call up 0:14:01.559 --> 0:14:05.439 my girlfriend, do a little call so Kaya, she owns 0:14:05.440 --> 0:14:07.920 modern rituals by Kaya. She's my celebrant. She's also my 0:14:07.960 --> 0:14:09.840 best friend. But I don't know anyone who goes to 0:14:09.880 --> 0:14:10.800 more weddings than this woman. 0:14:10.840 --> 0:14:14.040 Oh okay, Kaya, thank you. She did your wedding, she 0:14:14.080 --> 0:14:16.240 did my wedding. She's an exceptional celebrate everyone. She only 0:14:16.240 --> 0:14:18.920 does celeb weddings and she'll do any wedding. Okay, Oh 0:14:18.920 --> 0:14:20.520 she's got it now, Kaya, are you there? 0:14:21.280 --> 0:14:25.880 Yo, I'm here, Hello, Hi, Okay, we're having a debate. Well, 0:14:25.920 --> 0:14:30.160 it's more discussion around what constitutes the appropriate amount to 0:14:30.200 --> 0:14:31.400 give for a present for a wedding. 0:14:31.480 --> 0:14:34.080 Correct, And we've kind of landed on one hundred to 0:14:34.080 --> 0:14:36.400 one fifty is ballpark two hundred is a lot? 0:14:36.560 --> 0:14:39.280 Yeah, but also we didn't really consider the whole concept 0:14:39.280 --> 0:14:42.560 of like, you know, destination weddings, Like there's there's other 0:14:42.720 --> 0:14:45.320 things to consider here, and there are other fashions to consider. 0:14:45.400 --> 0:14:47.320 Yeah, so look, as someone who works at weddings, what 0:14:47.560 --> 0:14:48.200 do you see? 0:14:48.880 --> 0:14:51.520 Yeah, well, I completely agree with that one hundred to 0:14:51.600 --> 0:14:54.720 one hundred and fifty per head I think is like 0:14:55.280 --> 0:14:58.680 pretty standard gift. I think if you have to travel 0:14:59.400 --> 0:15:02.760 for a wedding, you'd probably give a little bit less. 0:15:02.760 --> 0:15:04.680 But it also depends where that is. Like, if you're 0:15:04.720 --> 0:15:07.920 going overseas for a wedding, you're probably not going to 0:15:07.920 --> 0:15:08.480 give a gift. 0:15:09.080 --> 0:15:11.360 A gift for an overseas wedding, I agree, yeah, gift 0:15:11.360 --> 0:15:13.600 at all? Actually paying to go over there. 0:15:13.960 --> 0:15:16.200 It's expensive. Like if you're going to Europe. Well, we 0:15:16.240 --> 0:15:18.280 went to Philippines, remember that. Did we give them again? 0:15:18.360 --> 0:15:20.440 No, we didn't, And then I felt really guilty about it. 0:15:20.480 --> 0:15:21.880 Kara and I went to a wedding together. It was 0:15:21.960 --> 0:15:23.720 my friend and I never gave her a gift, and 0:15:23.840 --> 0:15:26.560 I was like, no, but they have to expect that 0:15:26.600 --> 0:15:27.760 because people paid. 0:15:27.840 --> 0:15:29.320 Do you got to travel over You've got to get 0:15:29.320 --> 0:15:31.440 travel insurance, You've got to pay for fly it's a combination. 0:15:31.600 --> 0:15:32.040 What is that? 0:15:32.320 --> 0:15:32.720 Yeah? 0:15:32.760 --> 0:15:33.520 What is too much? 0:15:33.640 --> 0:15:33.720 Like? 0:15:33.720 --> 0:15:35.480 What's what do you think is the maximum someone should 0:15:35.480 --> 0:15:37.200 be giving? And I'm talking like as a friend, not 0:15:37.240 --> 0:15:38.800 a relative or someone who's really close. 0:15:39.840 --> 0:15:44.200 Yeah, I think on the higher end is probably about 0:15:44.200 --> 0:15:49.480 three hundred bucks ahead. But I've just realized I actually 0:15:49.520 --> 0:15:51.240 don't think I got your wedding present. 0:15:51.560 --> 0:15:52.840 Did you give me anything? 0:15:53.920 --> 0:15:54.400