1 00:00:10,204 --> 00:00:13,444 Speaker 1: My Heart podcasts here, more Gold one on one point 2 00:00:13,524 --> 00:00:17,724 Speaker 1: seven podcasts, playlists and listen live on the Free iHeart app. 3 00:00:18,564 --> 00:00:23,004 Speaker 1: Jersey and Amanda jam Nation twenty seventh of May. Twenty 4 00:00:23,044 --> 00:00:25,324 Speaker 1: seventh of May. Oh, I don't want to get emotional 5 00:00:25,884 --> 00:00:28,924 Speaker 1: reads my wedding Anniversarry today And in the old day 6 00:00:29,124 --> 00:00:31,164 Speaker 1: Harley and I would have been going out to dinner tonight, 7 00:00:31,844 --> 00:00:34,043 Speaker 1: but he's not well enough to do that. But I've 8 00:00:34,084 --> 00:00:36,484 Speaker 1: been thinking about this. How long have you been married, Brendon? 9 00:00:36,763 --> 00:00:40,723 Speaker 1: Thirty three years? And when you when you stand there 10 00:00:40,724 --> 00:00:42,844 Speaker 1: on your wedding day and you say forever, what does 11 00:00:42,884 --> 00:00:45,244 Speaker 1: that even mean? You don't even know. I think all 12 00:00:45,284 --> 00:00:47,483 Speaker 1: you can say is I kind of feel the weight 13 00:00:47,524 --> 00:00:50,523 Speaker 1: of potential that we can go somewhere here. And when 14 00:00:50,564 --> 00:00:53,164 Speaker 1: you say the words for better or worse, you know 15 00:00:53,204 --> 00:00:55,764 Speaker 1: what do they mean? When you're in your twenties in 16 00:00:55,804 --> 00:00:59,004 Speaker 1: sickness and in health, in sickness and in health, and 17 00:00:59,084 --> 00:01:02,684 Speaker 1: yet that's where we are, and no concept of what 18 00:01:02,724 --> 00:01:06,284 Speaker 1: that means until you're living it. And I can't fluctuate 19 00:01:06,324 --> 00:01:10,484 Speaker 1: between taking great pride in the fight that we are 20 00:01:10,484 --> 00:01:13,244 Speaker 1: alongside each other and there's strength that takes together up 21 00:01:13,244 --> 00:01:17,804 Speaker 1: every day and still fight it and still live it. 22 00:01:19,004 --> 00:01:20,964 Speaker 1: But I don't think you can get thirty five years 23 00:01:21,004 --> 00:01:24,444 Speaker 1: without the sands shifting between you beneath your feet. If 24 00:01:24,484 --> 00:01:28,644 Speaker 1: you're living life, you don't get did Cherry pick life. Sure, 25 00:01:29,404 --> 00:01:32,484 Speaker 1: you engage with it as you find it, and Harley's 26 00:01:32,564 --> 00:01:39,684 Speaker 1: very stoic, but it's hard, and you know it's I'm 27 00:01:39,724 --> 00:01:43,244 Speaker 1: grateful today that here we are thirty five years and 28 00:01:43,284 --> 00:01:49,164 Speaker 1: we're still in it together, but it's hard. I never 29 00:01:49,164 --> 00:01:50,884 Speaker 1: think of the what ifs, because I think that's just 30 00:01:51,204 --> 00:01:57,803 Speaker 1: that's where madness lies. But you do fluctuate between dealing 31 00:01:57,804 --> 00:01:59,964 Speaker 1: with what's in front of you and having the absolute 32 00:01:59,964 --> 00:02:01,644 Speaker 1: shits that you're dealing with what's in front of you. 33 00:02:02,804 --> 00:02:05,164 Speaker 1: But as we've spoken about, before you scratch the surface. 34 00:02:05,364 --> 00:02:08,804 Speaker 1: Everyone is going through a story, and to think of 35 00:02:09,004 --> 00:02:11,323 Speaker 1: the journey you embark on thirty five years ago, it's 36 00:02:11,364 --> 00:02:14,124 Speaker 1: a very long time. And we've lily lived a rich 37 00:02:14,163 --> 00:02:17,524 Speaker 1: and wonderful life together and we still do. But it's 38 00:02:17,524 --> 00:02:19,004 Speaker 1: not the same as the old days where we'd be 39 00:02:19,043 --> 00:02:20,924 Speaker 1: going out to dinner tonight, but the boys are coming 40 00:02:20,923 --> 00:02:25,284 Speaker 1: over for dinner and I'm grateful we still have each other. 41 00:02:26,483 --> 00:02:29,524 Speaker 1: But oh, I wasn't going to get emotional. But anyway, 42 00:02:29,524 --> 00:02:36,484 Speaker 1: happy anniversary, Harley, can we got it? Sure? Take some teacher. 43 00:02:36,564 --> 00:02:41,084 Speaker 1: Thank you. You are such a trouper, you know. But 44 00:02:41,163 --> 00:02:42,764 Speaker 1: it is that thing, isn't it on your wedding day 45 00:02:42,803 --> 00:02:46,044 Speaker 1: where you think no one knows what Rides's friend for? 46 00:02:46,284 --> 00:02:49,324 Speaker 1: Exactly none of us do. As Harley himself says, we 47 00:02:49,404 --> 00:02:51,684 Speaker 1: all have an asteroid coming at us. We don't know 48 00:02:51,724 --> 00:02:54,644 Speaker 1: what it is, and and do you want to know? 49 00:02:54,964 --> 00:02:56,604 Speaker 1: That's another thing, isn't it. We all think that we'll 50 00:02:56,603 --> 00:03:01,883 Speaker 1: get to ninety and die in our sleep. And I 51 00:03:01,884 --> 00:03:04,164 Speaker 1: think the human condition is you can't afford to think otherwise, 52 00:03:04,204 --> 00:03:06,284 Speaker 1: or as you wouldn't get up in the morning. But 53 00:03:06,524 --> 00:03:09,444 Speaker 1: people face stuff every day and it's the that's the 54 00:03:09,483 --> 00:03:12,483 Speaker 1: meat of life, that's the meat of a long term relationship. 55 00:03:12,684 --> 00:03:15,724 Speaker 1: So I'm grateful to have that. Let's let's take a break, 56 00:03:15,803 --> 00:03:16,204 Speaker 1: Let's do it.