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Speaker 1: It's a woman Woody podcast Mini. So when you're in

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Speaker 1: a rash or just can't people listening to them bleather

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Speaker 1: on for half an hour.

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Speaker 2: Talking polyamorous relationships, relationships where you are in with more

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Speaker 2: than one person. Can it work? Have you been in one,

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Speaker 2: Cassandra or Cassana, I should say Cassana. You were in

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Speaker 2: a polyamorous relationship?

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Speaker 1: Yeah for three years?

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Speaker 2: Wow? How many people were talking? First of all, so

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Speaker 2: there's three.

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Speaker 1: Of us, So my boyfriend and then his girlfriend beautiful,

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Speaker 1: so thropple that is what they call I think, and

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Speaker 1: it was closed. Yeah, okay, can you talk us through

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Speaker 1: the experience, Casana. So me and my boyfriend had been

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Speaker 1: together for a couple of years and we kind of

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Speaker 1: decided that we both had needs that the other wasn't meeting.

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Speaker 1: I was interested in girls as well, and there was

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Speaker 1: things that he wanted as well from another person. So

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Speaker 1: we decided to open our relationship up. But we knew

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Speaker 1: that we wanted to like have a life together, so

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Speaker 1: we wanted to be like in addition to our family,

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Speaker 1: rather than you know, go off and date other people.

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Speaker 2: How did you how did you how did you seek

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Speaker 2: out the third person?

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Speaker 3: Casana?

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Speaker 1: So I kind of left it up to him a

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Speaker 1: little bit beautiful, like.

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Speaker 2: Take the steering wheel.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. They were like Facebook groups where you could interests

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Speaker 1: and yeah, and.

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Speaker 2: I don't mean to like, you know, dumb it down

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Speaker 2: or make it sense simplar. But then would he bring

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Speaker 2: her home? You'd sit down for tea and coffee and

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Speaker 2: be like a job interview, and then you'd decide like, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I'm down for this.

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Speaker 1: Well, it was a little bit more complicated than that.

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Speaker 1: So it was very much about developing an emotional relationship

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Speaker 1: with someone, so like maybe you know them and like

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Speaker 1: dating someone essentially, So it was very much like find

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Speaker 1: one person that you really like and then bring them

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Speaker 1: home and we'll see if we all get along.

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Speaker 2: Wow. Yeah, so designer, how did that end then?

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Speaker 1: So it was just a it's a very very difficult

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Speaker 1: thing to get over the jealousy and like innate feelings

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Speaker 1: that come with that situation.

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Speaker 2: And yeah, just before you get into that, can I

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Speaker 2: just ask like specifically and and and feel free to well,

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Speaker 2: let's keep this as clean as we can. But so

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Speaker 2: would you guys, like was it was it all? It

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Speaker 2: was the triangle equilateral. It might be a nice way

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Speaker 2: of saying it like, were you all hooking up with

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Speaker 2: each other at different times? Was there times where you

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Speaker 2: rinse the squirrel together all three of you? Were you

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Speaker 2: occasionally joined the fame with the Fosbury flop with the girl,

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Speaker 2: and then he was you know, it was all you know, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: it was kind of a communal planting of.

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Speaker 1: The partner went into it with the idea that we

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Speaker 1: would all be equal partners within the relationship, but it

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Speaker 1: didn't quite work out that way. Her and I decided

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Speaker 1: we didn't like each other that way, but right, so

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Speaker 1: it ended up being that like we would kind of

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Speaker 1: take turns with him.

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Speaker 2: Wow, is solve a little bit like the dentist, you know,

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Speaker 2: just like all right, you're right, thanks very much to

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Speaker 2: come back.

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Speaker 1: We're discreet as possible as we could be about it.

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Speaker 2: So that's amazing. Oh you would be discreet. It's becoming discreet.

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Speaker 2: I think that's a problem. Can I just say, like,

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Speaker 2: I really admire you for having the emotional maturity to

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Speaker 2: give that a crack for your happiness and the fact

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Speaker 2: that you've walked out that's really amazing. So thanks for sharing.

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Speaker 1: Empowering feeling to overcome that jealousy you're enough in your

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Speaker 1: relationship with someone to feel okay in that situation.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's exactly what Woods and I were just saying

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Speaker 2: that we couldn't do it this stage, going from feeling

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Speaker 2: attached to the person that you love to loving them

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Speaker 2: enough to be selfless enough to let them explore something else,

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Speaker 2: and letting go of your own insecurities. It's it's amazing.

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Speaker 1: Really really hard, but it's very freeing at the same time.

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Speaker 2: Great stuff, mate, really phenomenal chat. Thanks for joining, Cassandra.

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Speaker 2: I think we've got one hundred dollars jockey voucher that

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Speaker 2: you can have, mate. Apparently it's better than the other stuff.

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Speaker 2: A lot of women say so, Uh, that's all yours,

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Speaker 2: hundred dollars in Cabri voucher for you. Mate. We're going

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Speaker 2: to go to Ginny who's called on thirty one or

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Speaker 2: six f Ginny. You're in a polyamorous relationship with your

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Speaker 2: partner and it opened up after you got engaged.

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Speaker 3: Yes exactly, yeah, you wiz. Yeah, we're engaged for like

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Speaker 3: over a year and a half and then they opened

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Speaker 3: our relationship.

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Speaker 2: So what happened is it was like, Hi, can you

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Speaker 2: marry me? By the way, this is Georgia.

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Speaker 3: It was actually me that brought it up, right. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: I was just feeling a bit guilty about all the

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Speaker 3: feelings I was having for other people. So yeah, I

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Speaker 3: was just talking to him about it, and it was

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Speaker 3: like a week long conversation basically back and forward, and

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Speaker 3: then he kind of was like, you know what, I

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Speaker 3: love you and I want you do experience everything. Let's

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Speaker 3: do it. Let's see other people, you know, sexually outside

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Speaker 3: our relationship.

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Speaker 2: Wow, and did it work? Did it work?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we're so happy, like it really brought us closer together.

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Speaker 2: So, Ginny, can I just make a distinction. Maybe that's

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Speaker 2: key for the audience here. There is a difference between

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Speaker 2: what you're talking about, which is effectively an open relationship

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Speaker 2: where you're comfortable sexually seeing other people, and what Casana

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Speaker 2: was talking about, where they're trying to be in a

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Speaker 2: relationship or a thruple where it's the three of them

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Speaker 2: who have, as I said, an equilateral triangle, a trilateral agreement,

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Speaker 2: whereas Ginny, you're saying, you're not necessarily exploring connections with

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Speaker 2: other people, but you're sexually open to seeing other people.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Look, it's kind of an ongoing conversation though, because you

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Speaker 3: know it has been seeing one part like one outside

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Speaker 3: partner regularly.

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Speaker 2: Wow.

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Speaker 3: So yeah, it's coming up a bit those kinds of

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Speaker 3: topics of like, you know, if there is feelings of

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Speaker 3: jealousy or whatever. Wow, And he always checks in with

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Speaker 3: me and makes sure that I'm all okay with it.

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Speaker 3: But yeah, it's just the communication and honesty required.

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Speaker 2: Yes, everything makes it a.

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Speaker 3: Really great like it's connection now that we have, it's

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Speaker 3: so much deeper, like yeah.

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Speaker 2: Gee wiz, sounds like an unbelievable thing to do. And again,

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Speaker 2: well down on the vulnerability and the honesty there, Ginny,

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Speaker 2: I know what I'm doing when I'm getting home. What's

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Speaker 2: that having a stiff cup of tea? Woulds We're going

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Speaker 2: to go get out of that. I'm having a cup

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Speaker 2: of tea. You're sick? Am I invited to the stiff

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Speaker 2: cup of tea? Absolutely not matter me a cup of tea.

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Speaker 2: I was talking about tea as well. I was talking

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Speaker 2: about about having a bit of a nightcap with a big

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Speaker 2: Glores more of the.

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