WEBVTT - How many is too many?

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<v Speaker 2>Guys, welcome to Life Uncut. We are your hosts Britt

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<v Speaker 2>and Laura. Hey guys, and today we're going to be

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<v Speaker 2>jumping straight back into some batch chat because is it

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<v Speaker 2>just me? Or is this getting frisky?

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<v Speaker 1>No, it is not just you. It's very sexy.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I actually knew it wasn't it was a rhetorical question.

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<v Speaker 2>But thanks.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh sorry, sir, I thought I'm really tired.

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<v Speaker 2>We're also going to be talking about something a little

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<v Speaker 2>bit more serious, and that is dating multi people at once.

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<v Speaker 2>Is it okay? When is it okay?

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<v Speaker 3>For?

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<v Speaker 2>How long is it okay?

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<v Speaker 1>And are there any rules? Because I don't know. I

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<v Speaker 1>also don't know. Was that also a rhetorical question or

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<v Speaker 1>did you want me to give my opinion?

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<v Speaker 2>Then I do want your opinion, but not quite yet.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, high wait, calm your farm. But thank you

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<v Speaker 2>for coming back. This is going to be an interesting

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<v Speaker 2>one today. Before we do get into the Bachelora, I

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<v Speaker 2>need to get something off my chest. What have you

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<v Speaker 2>done or I haven't done anything? Thanks very much for the support.

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<v Speaker 2>But I did read something this week that has left

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<v Speaker 2>me a little on edge, a little unnerved. Maybe. Oh,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if I've been living under a rock.

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<v Speaker 1>Is that that Miley Cyrus and Linn Hemsworth has split up.

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<v Speaker 1>Liam Hemsworth his name is really hard to say when

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<v Speaker 1>you haven't slept for eight weeks.

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<v Speaker 2>Look, that's not what it is. But while we're talking

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<v Speaker 2>about that, I just want to note that if he

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<v Speaker 2>is really single, well so mine. I'm just gonna throw

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<v Speaker 2>that out to.

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<v Speaker 1>The Oh wow, that was thirsty, but I like it.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, you know, you've got to risk it for the biscuit.

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<v Speaker 2>That's my saying. No, but back to what I.

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<v Speaker 1>Pleased, don't risk our podcast for your biscuit.

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<v Speaker 2>If it gets me Liam Hemsworth, then yeah. So look,

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<v Speaker 2>I read this thing about Gwyneth Paltrow, and anytime I

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<v Speaker 2>read something about Gwyneth Paltrow, it is always controversial.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, I agree. Okay, so what has she done? What

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<v Speaker 1>crazy whack shit has she done?

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<v Speaker 2>Do you or anyone you know steam your vagina? Please

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<v Speaker 2>tell me?

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<v Speaker 1>And this, well, it's actually a funny story. Just the

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<v Speaker 1>other day, no, I don't. I did see that Chrissy

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<v Speaker 1>Tagan was talking about that on her Instagram though recently

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<v Speaker 1>as well.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, so I have since doled into this a little bit,

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<v Speaker 2>and I have found out that Chrissy Tagan did it

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<v Speaker 2>because of Gwyneth Paltrow. Right, But I don't get it,

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<v Speaker 2>and I have never heard it before. But do you

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<v Speaker 2>know what it is? Because I'm going to tell you.

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<v Speaker 1>Look, I have too many things to think about it at

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<v Speaker 1>the moment already. I have to think about my pelvic

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<v Speaker 1>floor muscles. Why am I going to start thinking about

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<v Speaker 1>steaming it.

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<v Speaker 2>That's one of the reasons people think, oh this hell.

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<v Speaker 1>It sounds very hot and probably not somewhere where I

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<v Speaker 1>want to get very.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, don't picture yourself like relax with your feet up

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<v Speaker 2>in an infrared sauna sort of thing, because it is

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<v Speaker 2>not like that.

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<v Speaker 1>So what is it? Describe this to me?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, so literally, it's like your potty training, That's what

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<v Speaker 2>The image reminded me of they're squatting over some sort

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<v Speaker 2>of bowl and it's filled with boiling water and they

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<v Speaker 2>infuse it with all these herbs basil, rosemary, wormwood.

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<v Speaker 1>You really did do your research into that.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and there's this one called this is my favorite

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<v Speaker 2>herb for vaginal steaming. It's called the mugwort. Oh, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not fortunate they infuse this water with these ridiculous herbs.

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<v Speaker 2>They squat over it and they steam their vagina. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>but what is meant to be the purpose of steaming? Like,

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<v Speaker 2>what benefits am I going to get from getting it

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<v Speaker 2>all hot and heavy downe there? Okay? So yeah, they

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<v Speaker 2>say that it cleanses, and they say it can help

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<v Speaker 2>titan if you're if you've had children. They say it

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<v Speaker 2>helps me the pro lapse as well. But I did

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<v Speaker 2>look a little bit further into this, and the Guyan

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<v Speaker 2>No Society has said that there is no benefit to this,

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<v Speaker 2>and in fact, it actually comes with a risk.

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<v Speaker 1>No, of course, and that's because it's come from ridiculous

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<v Speaker 1>Goop was trying to tell us at one point to

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<v Speaker 1>spend fifteen thousand dollars on a dildo. Do you not

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<v Speaker 1>remember this. Oh my god, I don't remember. It's like

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<v Speaker 1>an eighteen carrot gold. Oh I love that I remember

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<v Speaker 1>this an eighteen carrot gold. I wish I had fifteen

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<v Speaker 1>thousand dollars to blow on a dildo. That's why you

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<v Speaker 1>postpone the way. I definitely didn't. But yeah, look, don't

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<v Speaker 1>spend fifteen thousand dollars on dildo. Don't steam your vagina.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you for coming to Life Uncut for some very

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<v Speaker 1>important life lessons.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, the reason is made than using the first place

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<v Speaker 2>is not because people are steaming. It is because one

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<v Speaker 2>poor woman, and I'm sure there are more, she got

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<v Speaker 2>second degree burn.

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<v Speaker 1>Imagine going to the hospital and being like, hey, so.

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<v Speaker 2>I was cleansing my vjjh.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, this is too much. We really should get into

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<v Speaker 1>the batch chat. I can't do this anymore. Well, I

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<v Speaker 1>just wanted to.

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<v Speaker 2>I just wanted to just see if anyone else knew this,

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<v Speaker 2>anybody was the only person not doing it. I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>do people.

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<v Speaker 1>Literally write their list? I don't even wash my face

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<v Speaker 1>properly any or let alone anything else. I'm so so lazy.

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<v Speaker 2>You know what, You're right, It's definitely time to move on. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>go batch chat, babe, did you watch it?

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, of course I watched it. I actually, hi, No,

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<v Speaker 1>I went back and saw it again a second time

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<v Speaker 1>on ten play, so I am well caught up.

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<v Speaker 2>So I did too, Actually, and I did it whilst

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<v Speaker 2>I was on a treadmill, and I felt like I

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<v Speaker 2>was just killing life. But straight up, what are your thoughts? Well,

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<v Speaker 2>the Golden ticket, Oh yeah, Ellie cashed.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>Did they go to Flemington or did they go to

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<v Speaker 2>willy Wonka Land.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so sorry, but Flemington Racecourse was not my idea

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<v Speaker 1>of showing Melbourne on a date.

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<v Speaker 2>Wasn't what I was expecting the date to be.

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<v Speaker 1>What we expecting the date to be.

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<v Speaker 2>When I think of Melbourne, I think, I mean I

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<v Speaker 2>always think this, but I always think about food and wine.

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<v Speaker 2>You think food and wine, you think the alleyways, you

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<v Speaker 2>think the trams.

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<v Speaker 1>I was going to say, I think everyone riding the

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<v Speaker 1>tram for free for.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe late afternoon some Kilda, I think AFL.

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<v Speaker 1>I just think it was such an ad channel ten

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<v Speaker 1>put on an for a date. I don't know. It

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<v Speaker 1>was like, why would you do the racing and the

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<v Speaker 1>gaming and a gay waterhouse? It just made no sense

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<v Speaker 1>to me.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, Yeah. So when he said he had somebody special

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<v Speaker 2>to introduce her to, you thought it was gonna be

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<v Speaker 2>like a friend or a family member.

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<v Speaker 1>Surely Channelton has some sponsorships or something through this this year.

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<v Speaker 1>It's the only thing that makes sense, because to me,

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<v Speaker 1>that was such a bizarre date in itself.

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<v Speaker 2>I agree, But what got me through it was that

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<v Speaker 2>I love Ellie. Yeah, she's beautiful. Like I smile when

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<v Speaker 2>I see her smile. I know, I don't know, maybe

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<v Speaker 2>I have a little soft spot for her because I

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<v Speaker 2>work in the hospital and she's a nurse and she

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<v Speaker 2>works in the hospital, and I just think you probably

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<v Speaker 2>work like a boss and you're giving back and I

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<v Speaker 2>know the nitty gritty she would be getting down to

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<v Speaker 2>and she's such a caring person.

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<v Speaker 1>Well that's exactly how she came across in the first

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<v Speaker 1>few episodes when she was saying that she gets so

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<v Speaker 1>much out of helping other people and that's why she

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<v Speaker 1>does the job that she does. She is very, very

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<v Speaker 1>lovable and she is the hero that we don't deserve.

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<v Speaker 2>That is damn straight. And I just think it's not

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<v Speaker 2>going to end well.

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<v Speaker 1>I have this feeling I have to agree with you

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<v Speaker 1>and the only reason why I think that is because

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<v Speaker 1>she's getting so much awesome airtime and she's being held

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<v Speaker 1>up to be so perfect. There's been no jeopardy in

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<v Speaker 1>her storyline at all, and that's what makes me think

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<v Speaker 1>maybe this is heading for disaster. But you know, yeah, also,

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<v Speaker 1>who knows, maybe some jeopardy in her storyline is coming.

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<v Speaker 2>Be on its way.

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<v Speaker 1>What did you think of the.

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<v Speaker 2>Group date on that episode the AFL. Yeah, they're all

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<v Speaker 2>running around and dropping the ball. That was such a

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<v Speaker 2>volcano if you don't know what a lolcano is like

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<v Speaker 2>an eruption of laughter. And I was just erupting in

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<v Speaker 2>laughter because of Mary, because of everyone, but Mary. Mary

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<v Speaker 2>is all of us. I said this in the last episode.

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<v Speaker 2>She is my favorite. Everything she says is funny, even

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<v Speaker 2>oh god, I'm getting ahead of myself, but even her

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<v Speaker 2>trying to flirt on the next group date photo shoot, ah,

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<v Speaker 2>she just slays me, rip absolutely slays me.

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<v Speaker 1>But Nicole got there.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, Nicole got the extra time.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, okay, I'm not going crazy. Yeah, And so I

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<v Speaker 1>talked about herself for the entire date, did she She

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<v Speaker 1>was like, I can do skateboarding, I can do rollerblading,

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<v Speaker 1>I can do AFL. I love surfing. She just rattled

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<v Speaker 1>off every sport that there was because she can do

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<v Speaker 1>it and she's amazing.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't I didn't notice that, to be honest, but

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<v Speaker 2>I could have called this before the event happened. They

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<v Speaker 2>didn't kiss. Now, our boy Matt has kissed everyone so far,

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<v Speaker 2>but he didn't kiss Nicole.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's because Nicole didn't stop talking about herself long

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<v Speaker 1>enough to actually give him a chance to get down

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<v Speaker 1>her throat, because he's been getting down everyone else's throat.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, So we get back to the mansion and

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<v Speaker 2>then Izy gives the date card. But who is is

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<v Speaker 2>he there?

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<v Speaker 1>We're still so early in the season that every episode

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<v Speaker 1>someone pops up and I'm like, who the frick is that?

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<v Speaker 1>Where did she come from?

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<v Speaker 2>I legitimately didn't know who she was. I thought she

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<v Speaker 2>might've been the waitress that just came on screen.

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<v Speaker 1>There's still too many girls, and unfortunately I cannot remember

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<v Speaker 1>all of them. So I know who is he is

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<v Speaker 1>now because she went home the next episode, But I

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<v Speaker 1>had no idea who she was, So who went home

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<v Speaker 1>on that episode? So that episode and I only know this,

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<v Speaker 1>I actually didn't know who these girls were either, but

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<v Speaker 1>it's Jesse Renee and Jesse cutt okay good at least

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<v Speaker 1>reculling a few of them get out of here. And

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<v Speaker 1>that was also the episode when Nicole seemed like she

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<v Speaker 1>was super drunk at a cocktail party.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, yeah, I think she's going to be the drinker

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<v Speaker 2>of the show.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, not that anyone really come like it is

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<v Speaker 1>supposed to come across as that, but you can kind

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<v Speaker 1>of tell when you're looking at them at the Rose

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<v Speaker 1>ceremony and they look bleary eyed.

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<v Speaker 2>Did you get drunk on the show? Oh?

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<v Speaker 1>Once or twice?

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<v Speaker 2>Did you only once? At the very end, when I

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<v Speaker 2>was like, whooo, like I'm so over this and I'm

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<v Speaker 2>ready to let it out.

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<v Speaker 1>I had one. It was cut out, thank god.

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<v Speaker 2>But I.

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<v Speaker 1>Had a boxy and I had a glass of wine

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<v Speaker 1>in my hand, and I was crying and I was

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<v Speaker 1>saying to my producer, I was like, I'm.

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<v Speaker 2>An independent woman and I don't need to put out

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<v Speaker 2>with this bullshit.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my god, thank god they cut the whole thing out.

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<v Speaker 3>But yeah, I'm gonna say that that was partly because

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<v Speaker 3>maybe I'd had a couple of lines that night.

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<v Speaker 2>So you guys just know to what a voxy is.

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<v Speaker 2>A voxy is just a little piece to camera that

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<v Speaker 2>you go off. It's like an interview just between you

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<v Speaker 2>and your producer, and then they'll they'll take parts of

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<v Speaker 2>that in you show.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh I'm an independent woman? What an absolute loser? I was?

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<v Speaker 1>But all right, okay, going into the next episode.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. Four the photo shoot. Now, they always do the

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<v Speaker 2>photo shoot. It's a really big thing. They put in

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<v Speaker 2>all the magazines. Did you do it? No?

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<v Speaker 1>Specifically for Women's Day, isn't it? Or mine was? Anyway?

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<v Speaker 3>Think?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh who are Women's Day?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, right, so one of the magazines, just to explain

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<v Speaker 1>this episode to you, and why they do the photo

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<v Speaker 1>shoot every year is because one of the magazines buy

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<v Speaker 1>the rights to that photo shoot. So that's why there's

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<v Speaker 1>always this episode where they do a bizarre themed photo shoot.

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<v Speaker 1>Ours was like eighties pop tarts or something. What was

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<v Speaker 1>your pop tart?

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<v Speaker 2>That's a breakfast food?

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<v Speaker 1>Isn't it? Also a band?

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<v Speaker 2>Pop stars? Oh shit, I love I used to love

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<v Speaker 2>pop parts. Actually the chocolate ones perfect.

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<v Speaker 1>Well. It was like we were all dressed in I

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<v Speaker 1>was dressed as the breakfast cereal. H what was yours?

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<v Speaker 2>Well? I wasn't invited on the photo shoot, so I

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<v Speaker 2>didn't do it. But it was awkward for everybody. The

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<v Speaker 2>girls hated every second of it. They peg these people

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<v Speaker 2>together and then they make everyone else go watch the

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<v Speaker 2>photo shoot and comment on it, and everyone gets nasty.

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<v Speaker 2>And I saw that on this episode.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, they do it for the drama. They create

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<v Speaker 1>this friction and this tension.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so it was actually a really funny episode to watch.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, speaking of friction and tension, what about Abby and

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<v Speaker 1>Matt and Bakoop? Oh my god, how was that for

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<v Speaker 1>a little I feel like.

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<v Speaker 2>This is where we insert the rocky music like a fire,

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<v Speaker 2>that would just look like it was going to be

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<v Speaker 2>on Well.

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<v Speaker 1>I just wasn't expecting that from Abby my whole, and

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<v Speaker 1>I think most people who watch it, my whole perception

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<v Speaker 1>of Abby's character in this season has just shifted.

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<v Speaker 2>Is starting to turn She's a little vixen.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow.

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<v Speaker 2>People can get carried away with this turning into a

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<v Speaker 2>competition that you just want to I mean, the whole

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<v Speaker 2>Bachelor that you just want to win, regardless of what

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<v Speaker 2>the ending is.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, absolutely. I think sometimes it's very easy to

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<v Speaker 1>get caught up in the idea that you want to

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<v Speaker 1>win the show. And what people forget is it's not Survivor.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't win one hundred thousand dollars or.

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<v Speaker 2>One sort of like Survivor. Sometimes yeah, you're like, I

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<v Speaker 2>would have taken a hundred thousand dollars.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not you don't win a prize. You win a boyfriend.

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<v Speaker 1>So if you don't really like the guy that much,

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<v Speaker 1>he's not really much of a prize then is he.

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<v Speaker 1>People just get really caught up in wanting the challenge

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<v Speaker 1>of getting him to fall in love. So I haven't

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<v Speaker 1>made up my mind on Abby yet, but I think

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<v Speaker 1>it got crazy sexual really quickly. Probably not the foundation

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<v Speaker 1>for a healthy relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, yeah, she did make that throwaway comment too, which

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna think she regrets. But she said I can

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<v Speaker 2>give him a happy ending. Oh that's what she said.

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<v Speaker 1>That's nice.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And then I think later on she may have

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, no, look, I think a lot can be

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<v Speaker 2>misconstrued as well. She was just having a good time,

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<v Speaker 2>stop being nice.

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<v Speaker 1>Trits over here fenceitting. It was way way too over

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<v Speaker 1>the top, launchy. I think I also kind of disagree

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<v Speaker 1>with the actions of it because there's this this unwritten

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<v Speaker 1>law that you do not make out with someone at

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<v Speaker 1>a cocktail party, like maybe people don't know about unless

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<v Speaker 1>they've been in the show. It's just super disrespectful to

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<v Speaker 1>the other girls to make out with the bachelor while

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<v Speaker 1>everyone else is there, well.

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<v Speaker 2>Because everybody also thinks that you're a column away in

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<v Speaker 2>this really romantic situation, but you're not. You've been pulled

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<v Speaker 2>behind a tree with the bachelor. Everyone's a few meters away.

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<v Speaker 1>And everyone else is waiting, and everyone else still is

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<v Speaker 1>going to go and speak to him in the next

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<v Speaker 1>sort of ten minutes, twenty minutes, half an hour after that.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's really uncomfortable to think that you're going to

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<v Speaker 1>sit there talk to a guy, knowing full well that

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<v Speaker 1>he's just literally two seconds ago in the same room

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<v Speaker 1>made out with your friend. It really makes you feel insecure.

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<v Speaker 2>It never ever crossed my mind to kiss Nick at

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<v Speaker 2>the party. At the cocktail party, I know what happens

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<v Speaker 2>a lot in the American Anything goes in the American Bachelor.

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<v Speaker 2>Someone in my season actually did kiss Nick at the party.

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<v Speaker 1>Who was that.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not gonna say it because I'm not that person,

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<v Speaker 2>and I do like this person and the difference is.

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<v Speaker 1>Did it make it onto the show.

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<v Speaker 2>No. Oh, I don't.

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<v Speaker 1>Throw things out there, and they keep secrets from the public.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, the difference is she didn't come back in and

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<v Speaker 2>tell anyone or brag about it or throw it in

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<v Speaker 2>anyone's face. It just sort of came out later between friends.

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<v Speaker 2>And to be honest, I was I couldn't even care

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<v Speaker 2>at that point, right, I think Abby just was shooting

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<v Speaker 2>herself in the foot. She said, you know, I would

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<v Speaker 2>never kiss him, would never kiss him.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, now that I'm thinking about it, I actually kiss

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<v Speaker 1>Mad at a cocktail party. I'll shut up.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my, oh my god, I'm a hussy. You just

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<v Speaker 2>broke your own unwritten rule.

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<v Speaker 1>I did. I did. However, I'm gonna put down a

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<v Speaker 1>very important however, at our cocktail parties, we had a

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<v Speaker 1>thing called the Secret Garden, and Matt could take someone

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<v Speaker 1>away there, so it was like a single date, which

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<v Speaker 1>I guess what is what Abby had as well. But

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<v Speaker 1>that's however, she told everyone she wasn't going to make

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<v Speaker 1>out with him. I didn't do that, So I did

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<v Speaker 1>make out with him. Oh god, I love what you're

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<v Speaker 1>doing right now. Digging myself into a massive hole and drowning.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just gonna go throw myself in the ocean after this.

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<v Speaker 1>I won't it's too cold. No, So she's told everyone

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<v Speaker 1>she wasn't going to make out with him, and then

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<v Speaker 1>she came back and bragged about it, and that was

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<v Speaker 1>pretty gross. Form.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I think she was a little bit excited, lipstick

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<v Speaker 2>not on her face anymore, and it just it just

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<v Speaker 2>makes the other girls feel shitty.

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<v Speaker 1>But I don't like it when people come back from

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<v Speaker 1>dates and the first thing they do is really go

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<v Speaker 1>over the top telling the other girls what happened and

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<v Speaker 1>how amazing it was and what the kiss was like,

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<v Speaker 1>because I do feel like it's pissing on your territory

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit if cocking your leg and going, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>this guy's mine, and then you instill fear in the

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<v Speaker 1>other girls, and you instill this insecurity that they're not

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<v Speaker 1>gonna have a chance because your connection is so amazing.

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<v Speaker 2>Also, though, on the other hand, I feel like you

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<v Speaker 2>can't win, So I think I was one of the

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<v Speaker 2>only people that just kept that to myself. I remember

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<v Speaker 2>I was the first kiss of the season and I

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<v Speaker 2>came back in and all the girls were dying to know.

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<v Speaker 2>First thing they asked, and I had decided I didn't.

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<v Speaker 2>I wasn't gonna do that for respect for them as well,

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<v Speaker 2>whether they could see that. But they couldn't. I said, Oh,

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<v Speaker 2>I've just decided I'm gonna keep my date to myself.

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<v Speaker 2>And I didn't say it in like a smug way.

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<v Speaker 2>I was just trying to protect everyone involved. And they

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<v Speaker 2>still hate it on me for that. You know, like

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<v Speaker 2>she thinks she's better, she doesn't have to tell anyone.

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<v Speaker 2>It doesn't matter what you do.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, no matter what you do, you're gonna have a

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<v Speaker 1>target on your back if someone thinks that you are

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<v Speaker 1>a front runner exactly. But there is ways to go

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<v Speaker 1>about it that makes you sort of less just pretentious

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<v Speaker 1>and less of course cocky.

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<v Speaker 2>I guess, yeah, be humble, Yeah, humble. I think that's

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<v Speaker 2>a song.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, I haven't heard it. Do you want to sing

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<v Speaker 1>it for me?

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<v Speaker 3>No?

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<v Speaker 2>I think that's that's all I know. But we did

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<v Speaker 2>skip something that I wanted to talk about, and that

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<v Speaker 2>was the g Foce sexual in Nuino Monique and Matt

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<v Speaker 2>fly through the air doing acrobatics. Date.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, I forgot about their date.

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<v Speaker 2>I like their day was that memorable?

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<v Speaker 1>Well, yeah, not really. It wasn't, but I mean I

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<v Speaker 1>liked the date. I thought the date seemed really fun.

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<v Speaker 1>It wasn't very romantic, but I think it was pretty

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<v Speaker 1>cool what they got to do.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, I was super jelly of what they were doing,

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<v Speaker 2>the actual activity, but not really a bonding experience as such,

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<v Speaker 2>because you're not even in the same air zone.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, Madam and I actually had a date where we

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<v Speaker 1>were paragliding, so we were on separate we were strapped

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<v Speaker 1>to separate people, and so we weren't together but you together. No,

0:17:49.600 --> 0:17:51.520
<v Speaker 1>we were talking through walkie talkies and we were kind

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<v Speaker 1>of in different spaces doing different things. It was still

0:17:54.440 --> 0:17:57.680
<v Speaker 1>a really fun shared experience. So I'm guessing in like

0:17:57.960 --> 0:18:01.280
<v Speaker 1>jet planes would be a really unshared experience as well,

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<v Speaker 1>but it doesn't have that romance to it. However, they

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<v Speaker 1>did mac on at the end, so romance was found.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, the sexual chemistry between him and Monique and him

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<v Speaker 2>and Abbey, it's pretty off the chart, if the chart

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<v Speaker 2>it really is. But I just wonder if it's that's it,

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<v Speaker 2>if that's the level it's at.

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<v Speaker 1>I think so far that's all we've seen, to be honest, Yeah,

0:18:21.600 --> 0:18:23.239
<v Speaker 1>we have. There's been a lot of macking on. I

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<v Speaker 1>need to see more from Abby, just to know that

0:18:27.600 --> 0:18:31.320
<v Speaker 1>she has that next bit of a deeper connection, more depth. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>So I think for me, the highlight at the Rose

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<v Speaker 1>ceremony was a vacuu godlover crying, that real raw emotion.

0:18:38.840 --> 0:18:39.960
<v Speaker 1>But why was she crying?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, probably because she had sore feet, to be honest,

0:18:42.160 --> 0:18:46.400
<v Speaker 2>but also I think it was relief. She just looked

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<v Speaker 2>so stressed out that she was going to go home,

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<v Speaker 2>and I broke my heart.

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<v Speaker 1>But I guess at that point in time, you're not

0:18:51.760 --> 0:18:54.520
<v Speaker 1>really crying because your heart's broken. You're crying because you

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<v Speaker 1>just want to stay longer for the possibility of what

0:18:57.320 --> 0:18:59.480
<v Speaker 1>it could be, because she has not really spending time

0:18:59.520 --> 0:19:01.480
<v Speaker 1>with him yet. So I felt like the tears might

0:19:01.480 --> 0:19:03.960
<v Speaker 1>have been a little bit too much. Am I being

0:19:03.960 --> 0:19:04.960
<v Speaker 1>really harsh?

0:19:05.280 --> 0:19:08.920
<v Speaker 2>Maybe? But no, No, I think the tears were too much.

0:19:08.960 --> 0:19:11.840
<v Speaker 2>But everything is heightened in that environment. Your emotions are

0:19:11.880 --> 0:19:14.720
<v Speaker 2>so heightened, so people are crying and upset over things

0:19:14.760 --> 0:19:16.080
<v Speaker 2>they wouldn't be on the outside.

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<v Speaker 1>I agree, And also getting to that point of being

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<v Speaker 1>the last person standing, no matter whether you have feelings

0:19:22.520 --> 0:19:24.520
<v Speaker 1>or not for the bachelor. At that point, in time,

0:19:24.760 --> 0:19:27.280
<v Speaker 1>there's a real sense of rejection and no one wants

0:19:27.320 --> 0:19:29.280
<v Speaker 1>to be rejected, so it is a hard pill to

0:19:29.320 --> 0:19:35.400
<v Speaker 1>swallow no matter what point in the journey that happens. Today,

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<v Speaker 1>we are going to be talking a little bit about

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<v Speaker 1>multiple dating. Is that okay, Brittany, what do you think?

0:19:42.520 --> 0:19:44.639
<v Speaker 2>Oh, this is a tough year because I have so

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<v Speaker 2>many feelings on it and I feel like it's a

0:19:46.920 --> 0:19:49.320
<v Speaker 2>bit of an onion, you know, like peel back the layers.

0:19:49.800 --> 0:19:52.439
<v Speaker 1>Well, okay, you're the one in this little duo who's

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<v Speaker 1>actually dating. So are you multiple dating? I'm barely. I

0:19:56.359 --> 0:19:59.360
<v Speaker 1>hope that no one who's dating Britain is listening to this. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>because if.

0:20:00.480 --> 0:20:04.480
<v Speaker 2>I am multible dating no. Look, Actually, funny story I'm

0:20:04.680 --> 0:20:06.280
<v Speaker 2>when I say how busy I am at the moment,

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<v Speaker 2>I am so busy. I haven't had one night off

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<v Speaker 2>in weeks. And there has actually been this one particular

0:20:12.400 --> 0:20:14.640
<v Speaker 2>guy that has asked me out. If he's listening, Hi,

0:20:16.160 --> 0:20:18.760
<v Speaker 2>there's been this one guy that there's been trying to

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<v Speaker 2>take me out for a few weeks and I didn't

0:20:21.520 --> 0:20:23.520
<v Speaker 2>want him to think it was an excuse. I literally said,

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<v Speaker 2>I have I don't have a free night and not

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<v Speaker 2>a lie, and he's and he's like, oh, well, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>let me know when you can. And a few weeks

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<v Speaker 2>went past, and then he responded to one of my

0:20:32.000 --> 0:20:35.680
<v Speaker 2>Instagram stories saying, you know, I'm still waiting. So I thought, look,

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<v Speaker 2>let's try again for the next few weeks. In a

0:20:37.640 --> 0:20:42.639
<v Speaker 2>few weeks time, So then on Friday night, last minute,

0:20:42.840 --> 0:20:45.840
<v Speaker 2>my plans were canceled. I had a girlfriend coming to

0:20:45.920 --> 0:20:49.119
<v Speaker 2>stay and she couldn't stay anymore. So classic Brittany, I

0:20:49.200 --> 0:20:51.480
<v Speaker 2>messaged this guy and I'm like, hey, so I'm free

0:20:51.520 --> 0:20:52.879
<v Speaker 2>to go on a date, like in ten minutes if

0:20:52.880 --> 0:20:53.800
<v Speaker 2>you want on a Friday night.

0:20:54.000 --> 0:20:56.399
<v Speaker 1>You booty called him. It was not a booty you

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<v Speaker 1>fall on booty called.

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<v Speaker 2>That's just how this is why I am single, Because

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<v Speaker 2>I ask you. It was like six pm, but I

0:21:05.520 --> 0:21:08.000
<v Speaker 2>gave him my point is the poor guy and he said, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm so sorry. I've already got plans. Of course it's

0:21:10.000 --> 0:21:12.920
<v Speaker 2>Friday night with ten minutes to notice. But I'm like, oh, well,

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<v Speaker 2>don't say I didn't try. No, So no, I'm not

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<v Speaker 2>dating one person, let alone multiple.

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<v Speaker 1>In any case. What is your what is your thoughts

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<v Speaker 1>on dating multiple people at one time?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, So I think that if you are single and

0:21:28.160 --> 0:21:31.040
<v Speaker 2>you've just started seeing somebody, I think it's okay to

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<v Speaker 2>be seen a few people at the same time, because

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<v Speaker 2>that is, in my opinion, what dating is. You're trying

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<v Speaker 2>to find the person you want to spend your whole

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<v Speaker 2>life with. In that first few weeks, you could be

0:21:41.760 --> 0:21:44.080
<v Speaker 2>going on a date with John on Monday, and then

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<v Speaker 2>on Thursday you might go for a drink with Billy,

0:21:47.640 --> 0:21:49.960
<v Speaker 2>and then on Saturday you might go for a drink

0:21:49.960 --> 0:21:52.399
<v Speaker 2>with Frank. I think that's fine to have gone and

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<v Speaker 2>met three different people in one week.

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<v Speaker 1>But for how long do you have these three people

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<v Speaker 1>on rotation for before you make some decison?

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<v Speaker 2>That's an interesting question. I don't. I mean, I'm not

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<v Speaker 2>a dating expert, whilst I claim to sometimes be.

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<v Speaker 1>Well you are here giving relationship advice, No, but.

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<v Speaker 2>I I have strong opinions. I think there are some

0:22:14.560 --> 0:22:17.919
<v Speaker 2>rules that you probably need to follow, and things like

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<v Speaker 2>if you start sleeping with one, Once you start sleeping

0:22:22.680 --> 0:22:24.040
<v Speaker 2>with them, I think that that's it. I don't think

0:22:24.040 --> 0:22:27.200
<v Speaker 2>you can be sleeping with three different people a week. Yeah, well,

0:22:27.240 --> 0:22:30.640
<v Speaker 2>I mean you could a lot to take on. I

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<v Speaker 2>feel exhausted thinking about this, thinking about the concept of

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<v Speaker 2>dating multiple people, And for me, I'm such a fence

0:22:38.720 --> 0:22:41.920
<v Speaker 2>sitter with this whole concept because I really think that

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<v Speaker 2>if you've gone on a couple of dates with someone,

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<v Speaker 2>then you should know whether or not there is something

0:22:47.600 --> 0:22:50.240
<v Speaker 2>about that person that you want to pursue, and whether

0:22:50.320 --> 0:22:52.080
<v Speaker 2>or not you want to continue to get to know

0:22:52.119 --> 0:22:54.119
<v Speaker 2>them and explore who they are as a person. But

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<v Speaker 2>if you're spreading yourself so thin over dating so many

0:22:56.760 --> 0:22:59.679
<v Speaker 2>different people, how do you actually really connect with someone

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<v Speaker 2>on a bit of a deeper level to figure out, yes, okay,

0:23:03.080 --> 0:23:05.240
<v Speaker 2>I want to invest in this relationship more. And I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not talking about like running to the altar and saying

0:23:08.680 --> 0:23:11.119
<v Speaker 2>absolutely from day dot you can't date anyone else. But

0:23:11.200 --> 0:23:15.080
<v Speaker 2>I mean, where, at what point are you being transparent

0:23:15.240 --> 0:23:18.359
<v Speaker 2>and being kind to that other person's feelings. What if

0:23:18.400 --> 0:23:20.119
<v Speaker 2>you're doing four people at once and then two of

0:23:20.119 --> 0:23:21.920
<v Speaker 2>them you just culled because you're like, oh, you're fun,

0:23:21.960 --> 0:23:24.479
<v Speaker 2>but there's nothing there cull them. But there's two people

0:23:24.520 --> 0:23:28.600
<v Speaker 2>now that you have this strong, serious connection with, how

0:23:28.640 --> 0:23:30.880
<v Speaker 2>do you go about just picking one? What if you're

0:23:31.000 --> 0:23:33.720
<v Speaker 2>still trying to get deeper? Because I think it takes

0:23:33.720 --> 0:23:35.879
<v Speaker 2>a little while to get to know somebody properly. So

0:23:35.920 --> 0:23:37.480
<v Speaker 2>what if you're still trying to get deeper with both

0:23:37.520 --> 0:23:40.200
<v Speaker 2>of them, would you just cull one and focus on one?

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<v Speaker 1>So have you had an open conversation with them about

0:23:42.480 --> 0:23:44.920
<v Speaker 1>the fact that you're dating someone else and the fact

0:23:44.960 --> 0:23:48.119
<v Speaker 1>that you are right now weighing up to different people.

0:23:48.440 --> 0:23:50.879
<v Speaker 2>One of my little rules in this would be that

0:23:50.920 --> 0:23:52.800
<v Speaker 2>you have to be open. So if you're if the

0:23:52.800 --> 0:23:55.480
<v Speaker 2>guy you're seeing says you're seeing somebody else, you say yes,

0:23:55.720 --> 0:23:59.080
<v Speaker 2>and then you have that conversation and you go from there.

0:23:59.119 --> 0:24:01.439
<v Speaker 2>If they're okay with it, great, If they're not, well,

0:24:01.600 --> 0:24:04.639
<v Speaker 2>you need to figure out what you want. Is that

0:24:04.680 --> 0:24:07.320
<v Speaker 2>person important enough to you to cull the other person.

0:24:07.720 --> 0:24:10.359
<v Speaker 2>It's a pretty tricky situation. But I'm talking early days.

0:24:10.359 --> 0:24:13.119
<v Speaker 2>I'm not talking dating six months in. I'm talking they

0:24:13.200 --> 0:24:14.360
<v Speaker 2>get to know you stage.

0:24:14.760 --> 0:24:17.280
<v Speaker 1>But I think that for me, the concept of dating

0:24:17.320 --> 0:24:20.040
<v Speaker 1>multiple people, there's sort of three reasons why you would

0:24:20.080 --> 0:24:22.920
<v Speaker 1>do that if your true intention is that you want

0:24:22.920 --> 0:24:25.320
<v Speaker 1>to be in a long term, committed relationship. I think

0:24:25.840 --> 0:24:27.920
<v Speaker 1>one of the reasons why you would date multiple people

0:24:27.960 --> 0:24:30.320
<v Speaker 1>is because you're trying to keep your options open, so

0:24:30.359 --> 0:24:32.880
<v Speaker 1>you're still trying to figure out whether that person's right

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<v Speaker 1>or not, which is completely fine. Number two would be

0:24:36.280 --> 0:24:38.600
<v Speaker 1>that you're a bit afraid of commitment because you don't

0:24:38.600 --> 0:24:40.760
<v Speaker 1>want to get hurt, and so it's easier to not

0:24:40.800 --> 0:24:42.760
<v Speaker 1>be committed to one person and to spread yourself a

0:24:42.760 --> 0:24:46.800
<v Speaker 1>bit then and then number three would be that you

0:24:47.040 --> 0:24:49.440
<v Speaker 1>like the attention, which I think is a big call.

0:24:49.560 --> 0:24:51.879
<v Speaker 1>But I'm saying this not because I'm trying to make

0:24:51.920 --> 0:24:54.560
<v Speaker 1>anyone feel bad for doing it, but because I myself

0:24:54.600 --> 0:24:57.840
<v Speaker 1>have been in the past someone who dates multiple people

0:24:57.920 --> 0:25:01.240
<v Speaker 1>at the one time, and for me, it was like

0:25:01.359 --> 0:25:05.960
<v Speaker 1>an attention meter thing. I got more satisfaction from having

0:25:06.200 --> 0:25:09.560
<v Speaker 1>this drip fed attention. I wasn't really interested very much

0:25:09.600 --> 0:25:12.040
<v Speaker 1>in any of them, because if somebody rose above who

0:25:12.040 --> 0:25:14.359
<v Speaker 1>I was interested in, I would cull all the people

0:25:14.359 --> 0:25:15.119
<v Speaker 1>that I'd been dating.

0:25:15.160 --> 0:25:17.080
<v Speaker 2>So it's more about just feeling wanton.

0:25:17.840 --> 0:25:21.040
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I guess so, But I think from the minute

0:25:21.040 --> 0:25:23.639
<v Speaker 1>that somebody did rise above the other people that I

0:25:23.680 --> 0:25:27.320
<v Speaker 1>was dating, I would stop dating those people. So in essence,

0:25:27.400 --> 0:25:30.760
<v Speaker 1>I wasn't really dating with this intention of any one

0:25:30.760 --> 0:25:32.280
<v Speaker 1>person that I had in the boil at the time.

0:25:32.480 --> 0:25:34.600
<v Speaker 1>To then have a long term relationship with I was

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<v Speaker 1>just kind of dating an essence so that I wasn't

0:25:37.080 --> 0:25:39.439
<v Speaker 1>alone and didn't have anyone on the burn. If that

0:25:39.480 --> 0:25:40.040
<v Speaker 1>makes sense.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that makes sense. So whilst I say that I

0:25:42.400 --> 0:25:46.480
<v Speaker 2>think you should be feeling things out and dating a

0:25:46.480 --> 0:25:49.199
<v Speaker 2>few different people, I've never actually been that person to

0:25:49.480 --> 0:25:54.120
<v Speaker 2>do that because I have for myself. I've always looked

0:25:54.119 --> 0:25:57.640
<v Speaker 2>at it in a way of well A, I'm pretty

0:25:57.720 --> 0:26:01.080
<v Speaker 2>short on time and energy. Like you said, who could

0:26:01.080 --> 0:26:03.679
<v Speaker 2>I actually be bothered? But I just think when I

0:26:03.760 --> 0:26:06.040
<v Speaker 2>date somebody is because I have a really strong interest

0:26:06.040 --> 0:26:07.600
<v Speaker 2>in them, and if I have a really strong interest

0:26:07.640 --> 0:26:09.600
<v Speaker 2>in them, I obviously don't have one in somebody yet.

0:26:09.640 --> 0:26:12.280
<v Speaker 1>Well that's my exact point about this whole multiple dating thing.

0:26:12.800 --> 0:26:15.159
<v Speaker 2>But not everybody's like that. There are plenty of people

0:26:15.160 --> 0:26:16.840
<v Speaker 2>that just want to go out and have dinner and

0:26:16.920 --> 0:26:19.720
<v Speaker 2>drinks and go to smooth City and just just chill

0:26:19.760 --> 0:26:20.320
<v Speaker 2>and have fun.

0:26:20.440 --> 0:26:23.000
<v Speaker 1>So I think that there just comes a point where

0:26:23.359 --> 0:26:25.399
<v Speaker 1>if you're going to be dating multiple people, then you

0:26:25.480 --> 0:26:27.359
<v Speaker 1>have to put that conversation on the table, and you

0:26:27.440 --> 0:26:29.240
<v Speaker 1>have to be open, and you have to be honest.

0:26:29.440 --> 0:26:33.720
<v Speaker 2>The bottom line is honesty. Absolutely the only issue that

0:26:33.760 --> 0:26:35.800
<v Speaker 2>I have with that, But there's always a butt.

0:26:35.880 --> 0:26:38.880
<v Speaker 1>There's always a butt is that innately, we don't want

0:26:38.880 --> 0:26:42.280
<v Speaker 1>to hurt people's feelings, so it's very easy to sugarcoat

0:26:42.680 --> 0:26:46.280
<v Speaker 1>the truth because it's not nice to tell someone else, Hey,

0:26:47.040 --> 0:26:50.040
<v Speaker 1>I'm seeing X, Y and Z whilst i'm seeing you,

0:26:50.640 --> 0:26:52.400
<v Speaker 1>and I think I like him better and I don't

0:26:52.400 --> 0:26:54.320
<v Speaker 1>know who I like yet, so you just have to

0:26:54.400 --> 0:26:55.280
<v Speaker 1>kind of wait and see.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm pretty sure are we talking about the Bachelor?

0:26:59.240 --> 0:27:02.439
<v Speaker 1>I know, right? Why does it have different rules? But

0:27:02.560 --> 0:27:04.280
<v Speaker 1>I guess like the rules that are in the Bachelor

0:27:04.320 --> 0:27:07.080
<v Speaker 1>don't really apply to normal day dating because you never

0:27:07.119 --> 0:27:10.679
<v Speaker 1>have a situation where you have one person who's it's

0:27:10.760 --> 0:27:13.080
<v Speaker 1>okay for them to date so many other people and

0:27:13.119 --> 0:27:15.480
<v Speaker 1>then the other person's just sitting there waiting and pining.

0:27:15.640 --> 0:27:19.119
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, we definitely cannot compare them, but look, go nuts,

0:27:19.240 --> 0:27:22.840
<v Speaker 2>do whatever you want with respect for everybody involved.

0:27:23.240 --> 0:27:26.200
<v Speaker 1>So if you can date multiple people and be completely

0:27:26.240 --> 0:27:30.240
<v Speaker 1>transparent and honest from pretty much day dot, then there's

0:27:30.240 --> 0:27:32.000
<v Speaker 1>not really anything too wrong with it. Is that what

0:27:32.000 --> 0:27:32.480
<v Speaker 1>we're saying?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and just use contraception for.

0:27:35.520 --> 0:27:38.880
<v Speaker 1>Welcome to the health tips from Brita and Laura, honestly

0:27:39.640 --> 0:27:40.240
<v Speaker 1>too much.

0:27:41.600 --> 0:27:42.960
<v Speaker 2>You know what time it is. Now we're going to

0:27:43.000 --> 0:27:45.840
<v Speaker 2>shuffle right along to my new favorite segment.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh what is that?

0:27:47.560 --> 0:27:49.960
<v Speaker 2>Ah?

0:27:50.119 --> 0:27:52.240
<v Speaker 1>I left that for you to do again by yourself.

0:27:52.280 --> 0:27:53.960
<v Speaker 2>You really just left me hanging there. I was just

0:27:54.000 --> 0:27:55.880
<v Speaker 2>looking straight at you then like come with me, girl,

0:27:55.880 --> 0:27:56.879
<v Speaker 2>and you didn't come with me.

0:27:57.000 --> 0:27:57.840
<v Speaker 1>Do you want to try it again?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, welcome to ask Uncut.

0:28:02.160 --> 0:28:05.480
<v Speaker 1>That was beautiful mail there. So what is our question

0:28:05.560 --> 0:28:06.320
<v Speaker 1>for today? Britt?

0:28:06.400 --> 0:28:09.040
<v Speaker 2>Okay, So we had a lovely lady write in and

0:28:09.160 --> 0:28:11.520
<v Speaker 2>she was actually having a discussion with her friends at

0:28:11.560 --> 0:28:12.720
<v Speaker 2>work and they all wroteing.

0:28:12.480 --> 0:28:13.399
<v Speaker 1>Together, which is cute.

0:28:13.920 --> 0:28:19.879
<v Speaker 2>So they were talking about their partners looking at women

0:28:20.200 --> 0:28:22.520
<v Speaker 2>on Instagram, and she didn't say women, She actually used

0:28:22.560 --> 0:28:25.199
<v Speaker 2>the term hot chicks. She said, is it okay for

0:28:25.280 --> 0:28:28.200
<v Speaker 2>your partner to look at hot chicks on Instagram? General

0:28:28.240 --> 0:28:32.720
<v Speaker 2>hot chicks or ex girlfriends? And if so, are they're

0:28:32.720 --> 0:28:35.840
<v Speaker 2>sort of rules to doing that and guidelines. So he

0:28:35.920 --> 0:28:38.480
<v Speaker 2>has apparently been doing it in the morning sometimes and

0:28:38.520 --> 0:28:40.760
<v Speaker 2>before bed, and she feels like maybe he should be

0:28:40.800 --> 0:28:45.240
<v Speaker 2>giving her that attention. Oh and I could not agree more.

0:28:45.800 --> 0:28:48.160
<v Speaker 1>Okay, So there's two different things here that I think

0:28:49.160 --> 0:28:53.040
<v Speaker 1>they're both debatable. One is I don't have an issue

0:28:53.280 --> 0:28:56.480
<v Speaker 1>with Matt, for example, looking at hot chicks on Instagram.

0:28:56.920 --> 0:28:58.640
<v Speaker 1>Would I have an issue with him checking out his

0:28:58.720 --> 0:29:00.000
<v Speaker 1>ex girlfriends on Instagram?

0:29:00.560 --> 0:29:01.720
<v Speaker 2>Yes, damn straight.

0:29:02.000 --> 0:29:03.640
<v Speaker 1>Why are you doing that? Why do you need to

0:29:03.640 --> 0:29:06.680
<v Speaker 1>look at your ex girlfriends? Yeah, that's weird. The emphasis

0:29:06.760 --> 0:29:09.880
<v Speaker 1>is on X. I do also think it comes down

0:29:09.920 --> 0:29:13.680
<v Speaker 1>to everything in moderation. How often are they doing this.

0:29:13.760 --> 0:29:17.240
<v Speaker 1>If they're doing it so frequently that it's causing insecurities

0:29:17.240 --> 0:29:20.720
<v Speaker 1>and concern, then then it's clearly a problem.

0:29:21.040 --> 0:29:23.960
<v Speaker 2>Yeah. Look, I'm not a jealous person, and I think

0:29:24.000 --> 0:29:28.440
<v Speaker 2>it's human nature to appreciate hotties.

0:29:28.720 --> 0:29:29.560
<v Speaker 1>I was going to say.

0:29:29.440 --> 0:29:33.200
<v Speaker 2>Beauty, but hotties. I think it's normal to appreciate when

0:29:33.200 --> 0:29:35.200
<v Speaker 2>you walk down the street. Like my mom and dad

0:29:35.200 --> 0:29:37.600
<v Speaker 2>have been married for forty years, and both of them

0:29:37.640 --> 0:29:40.440
<v Speaker 2>will individually happily comment on someone that they think is

0:29:40.440 --> 0:29:41.960
<v Speaker 2>a drunk. Oh my god, did you see that person?

0:29:42.040 --> 0:29:45.560
<v Speaker 2>I'm beautiful? But doesn't mean anything, It's just they're appreciating

0:29:45.760 --> 0:29:47.200
<v Speaker 2>a beautiful human form.

0:29:47.520 --> 0:29:49.920
<v Speaker 1>And that's also a testament to how comfortable they are

0:29:49.920 --> 0:29:52.360
<v Speaker 1>in their relationship that they feel so secure with the

0:29:52.360 --> 0:29:54.680
<v Speaker 1>other person that they can point that out and both

0:29:54.720 --> 0:29:57.200
<v Speaker 1>appreciate it and it's not in any way threatening to

0:29:57.240 --> 0:29:58.040
<v Speaker 1>their relationship.

0:29:58.200 --> 0:30:00.240
<v Speaker 2>Well, and that is the thing. Is he la in

0:30:00.280 --> 0:30:02.440
<v Speaker 2>bed secretly looking at it while he thinks you're asleep,

0:30:02.520 --> 0:30:04.560
<v Speaker 2>or are you laying next to each other having a chat,

0:30:04.680 --> 0:30:07.240
<v Speaker 2>laughing and looking at the pitches together, Because obviously then

0:30:07.520 --> 0:30:08.280
<v Speaker 2>there's no threat.

0:30:08.440 --> 0:30:10.720
<v Speaker 1>Even if he's doing it just in bed next to

0:30:10.760 --> 0:30:14.280
<v Speaker 1>his partner and being really open about it, he obviously

0:30:14.360 --> 0:30:18.360
<v Speaker 1>isn't doing it with intent, Like maybe he doesn't realize

0:30:18.440 --> 0:30:22.120
<v Speaker 1>how like unthoughtful and insensitive it is to be doing that,

0:30:22.160 --> 0:30:24.360
<v Speaker 1>and maybe that just needs to be a conversation that

0:30:24.400 --> 0:30:26.560
<v Speaker 1>comes to the table. It's kind of like back in

0:30:26.600 --> 0:30:30.360
<v Speaker 1>the day when guys would have Penthouse or Playboy or

0:30:30.400 --> 0:30:33.640
<v Speaker 1>whatever else. The issue is, though, with Instagram, is that

0:30:34.000 --> 0:30:36.520
<v Speaker 1>your partner can look at Playboy, he has no way

0:30:36.560 --> 0:30:38.120
<v Speaker 1>that he's going to be able to then contact the

0:30:38.160 --> 0:30:40.720
<v Speaker 1>girls that are on Playboy. The issue with Instagram is

0:30:40.760 --> 0:30:44.760
<v Speaker 1>that it's almost as though Playboy has just put the

0:30:44.760 --> 0:30:47.760
<v Speaker 1>phone number of the girl that's there, you know, like

0:30:47.800 --> 0:30:50.200
<v Speaker 1>tattooed it on your hair. You can contact them. So

0:30:50.360 --> 0:30:54.280
<v Speaker 1>Instagram has totally bridged that gap. Also, Instagram isn't just

0:30:54.440 --> 0:30:58.160
<v Speaker 1>girls who are professional models, It's not just professional photo shoots.

0:30:58.440 --> 0:31:01.920
<v Speaker 1>It's Sarah down the Roadde who lives in Bondai, who

0:31:02.000 --> 0:31:04.320
<v Speaker 1>you might see at the beach one day. So there

0:31:04.440 --> 0:31:07.280
<v Speaker 1>is this level of accessibility I think with Instagram as well,

0:31:07.320 --> 0:31:10.240
<v Speaker 1>which can be even more threatening. Yeah, one dred.

0:31:10.120 --> 0:31:13.920
<v Speaker 2>Percent and it's I actually was having coffee the other

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<v Speaker 2>day with my friends and somebody will pass in Bondai

0:31:17.120 --> 0:31:20.680
<v Speaker 2>and they literally said, oh, I see him everywhere. Let

0:31:20.720 --> 0:31:23.120
<v Speaker 2>me just find out his name. How are you going

0:31:23.160 --> 0:31:25.560
<v Speaker 2>to find out his name? Like the internet, babe? And

0:31:25.600 --> 0:31:27.400
<v Speaker 2>they just jumped on and looked for a friend of

0:31:27.400 --> 0:31:29.520
<v Speaker 2>a friend and through and in ten minutes they had

0:31:29.520 --> 0:31:29.920
<v Speaker 2>his name.

0:31:30.320 --> 0:31:32.640
<v Speaker 1>Isn't that crazy? How connected people are now?

0:31:33.000 --> 0:31:33.920
<v Speaker 2>So crazy?

0:31:34.320 --> 0:31:37.600
<v Speaker 1>And so I think that that's where that insecurity comes.

0:31:37.600 --> 0:31:39.960
<v Speaker 1>If your partner is looking at chicks on Instagram, it's

0:31:40.000 --> 0:31:41.920
<v Speaker 1>the fact that they're so accessible.

0:31:42.600 --> 0:31:45.480
<v Speaker 2>No it to answer this, there's definitely a line you

0:31:45.520 --> 0:31:47.600
<v Speaker 2>need to tell him that you're not cool with it

0:31:47.640 --> 0:31:50.360
<v Speaker 2>and how it makes you feel, which is obviously uncomfortable,

0:31:50.680 --> 0:31:53.320
<v Speaker 2>and that he should not be waking up, rolling over

0:31:53.480 --> 0:31:56.200
<v Speaker 2>and scrolling his phone looking at other women. He should

0:31:56.240 --> 0:31:58.120
<v Speaker 2>be giving you that attention first thing in the morning.

0:31:58.240 --> 0:32:01.440
<v Speaker 1>Absolutely, there comes a point morning and nighttime where phones

0:32:01.480 --> 0:32:01.840
<v Speaker 1>are off.

0:32:02.000 --> 0:32:05.320
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so she asked, is she overreacting? Bottom line for

0:32:05.400 --> 0:32:07.960
<v Speaker 2>me is no, you are not agree.

0:32:07.720 --> 0:32:10.200
<v Speaker 1>No, Oh great. I love it when we agree on things.

0:32:10.480 --> 0:32:11.440
<v Speaker 2>Sometimes it happens.

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<v Speaker 1>Do we have another question?

0:32:13.160 --> 0:32:15.040
<v Speaker 2>We do have one more question that I thought we

0:32:15.080 --> 0:32:18.520
<v Speaker 2>could jump on in I cheated on my partner, but

0:32:18.640 --> 0:32:22.120
<v Speaker 2>we have only been together for three weeks. It was

0:32:22.200 --> 0:32:28.480
<v Speaker 2>definitely a mistake. Do I tell him or not? I

0:32:28.480 --> 0:32:31.920
<v Speaker 2>don't know how I feel about this. I'm super against cheating,

0:32:32.720 --> 0:32:37.200
<v Speaker 2>but three weeks is like, oh so early, and I

0:32:37.200 --> 0:32:40.080
<v Speaker 2>don't know how serious they were. But she says we've

0:32:40.120 --> 0:32:43.800
<v Speaker 2>been together, so I guess in her mind that's boyfriend

0:32:43.880 --> 0:32:44.240
<v Speaker 2>girl friend.

0:32:44.280 --> 0:32:46.480
<v Speaker 1>Oh god, okay. And when you say it's a mistake,

0:32:46.640 --> 0:32:48.840
<v Speaker 1>is it like she went out and she cheated on

0:32:48.920 --> 0:32:50.800
<v Speaker 1>him because she was drunk. I don't know, not that

0:32:50.880 --> 0:32:53.240
<v Speaker 1>there's any excuse for this stuff, but there are definitely

0:32:53.320 --> 0:32:57.400
<v Speaker 1>layers to what's worse, you know, Like there's there's cheating

0:32:57.440 --> 0:32:59.880
<v Speaker 1>that's real, real bad, and then there's cheating that's just bad.

0:33:00.800 --> 0:33:03.240
<v Speaker 2>I'm going to say because I did. We did talk

0:33:03.240 --> 0:33:05.520
<v Speaker 2>about this in the last podcast where we said you

0:33:05.560 --> 0:33:08.960
<v Speaker 2>can come back from cheating if you talk to each

0:33:08.960 --> 0:33:11.400
<v Speaker 2>other and you get the right help and support. At

0:33:11.400 --> 0:33:13.240
<v Speaker 2>this point, I am going to say to this person

0:33:13.360 --> 0:33:15.080
<v Speaker 2>that I think you should just be honest with him

0:33:15.080 --> 0:33:17.320
<v Speaker 2>and tell him if it is well, if it is

0:33:17.360 --> 0:33:20.240
<v Speaker 2>only three weeks in, he'll probably be cool with it too.

0:33:20.520 --> 0:33:21.920
<v Speaker 1>You reckon, well, not cool with it.

0:33:22.000 --> 0:33:23.680
<v Speaker 2>But I feel like you're still at It's better than

0:33:23.720 --> 0:33:25.480
<v Speaker 2>six months or a year. You're still at that early

0:33:25.520 --> 0:33:28.640
<v Speaker 2>stage where she could just sort of say I just

0:33:28.640 --> 0:33:30.440
<v Speaker 2>didn't really realize how serious we were yet and I

0:33:30.520 --> 0:33:32.960
<v Speaker 2>made a mistake and all I could think about is

0:33:33.000 --> 0:33:35.280
<v Speaker 2>you And she can definitely come back for that. But

0:33:36.040 --> 0:33:38.200
<v Speaker 2>that's going to weigh on her for a long time,

0:33:38.400 --> 0:33:39.719
<v Speaker 2>which she has a conscience anyway.

0:33:39.800 --> 0:33:41.960
<v Speaker 1>See, I think the opposite. I think if I was

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<v Speaker 1>dating someone for three weeks and they told me that

0:33:43.840 --> 0:33:46.040
<v Speaker 1>they cheated on me, I'd be like, I don't need

0:33:46.080 --> 0:33:49.360
<v Speaker 1>this drama in my life. Get the road, Jack, assuming

0:33:49.400 --> 0:33:51.920
<v Speaker 1>his name was Jack, but I don't need that.

0:33:52.400 --> 0:33:54.239
<v Speaker 2>What would you do? Then? Are you saying for her

0:33:54.240 --> 0:33:54.880
<v Speaker 2>to tell him or not?

0:33:55.280 --> 0:33:57.360
<v Speaker 1>I'm going to sound like an absolute dickhead. But I'm

0:33:57.400 --> 0:34:04.320
<v Speaker 1>saying I think you should tell him. However, practically your

0:34:04.320 --> 0:34:08.320
<v Speaker 1>relationship will probably be over. Would I tell him? I

0:34:08.320 --> 0:34:11.680
<v Speaker 1>don't know. I know Okay, I probably wouldn't tell him,

0:34:11.920 --> 0:34:14.160
<v Speaker 1>but I know that I should and I would never

0:34:14.239 --> 0:34:16.359
<v Speaker 1>do it again. Don't follow my advice because I'm being

0:34:16.360 --> 0:34:17.359
<v Speaker 1>a bad person right now.

0:34:17.480 --> 0:34:19.600
<v Speaker 2>I totally get that too. I have one hundred pc

0:34:19.760 --> 0:34:22.080
<v Speaker 2>understand that you say. It's been three weeks. I really

0:34:22.080 --> 0:34:23.719
<v Speaker 2>want to keep this guy. I'm too scared to lose him.

0:34:23.760 --> 0:34:25.080
<v Speaker 2>I know I'll never do it again, so I'm going

0:34:25.160 --> 0:34:27.319
<v Speaker 2>to stick with it. Yeah, I just feel like it'd

0:34:27.400 --> 0:34:29.320
<v Speaker 2>end up weighing me down and one day after two years.

0:34:29.160 --> 0:34:32.280
<v Speaker 1>Are like, I can't take it anymore. You're a good person, Brittany,

0:34:32.719 --> 0:34:36.000
<v Speaker 1>You're a good, good person. You need to stop trying

0:34:36.040 --> 0:34:39.800
<v Speaker 1>to booty call people. Ten minutes before, I'm.

0:34:39.719 --> 0:34:43.120
<v Speaker 2>Rolling my eyes at a disclaimer calling someone at six

0:34:43.200 --> 0:34:46.400
<v Speaker 2>pm for tie takeaway. I don't feel like his booty.

0:34:46.120 --> 0:34:48.560
<v Speaker 1>Okay, OKAYK, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, so no bringing it up.

0:34:48.640 --> 0:34:52.120
<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry. Guys. If you have any questions that you

0:34:52.160 --> 0:34:54.360
<v Speaker 1>want to send to us so that we can answer

0:34:54.400 --> 0:34:56.480
<v Speaker 1>them and fence it and not give you a proper

0:34:56.520 --> 0:35:01.080
<v Speaker 1>straightforward answer. Please message us slide it into our DMS

0:35:01.440 --> 0:35:04.600
<v Speaker 1>at Life Uncut podcast. We will discuss them on the

0:35:04.640 --> 0:35:06.160
<v Speaker 1>next episode.

0:35:06.760 --> 0:35:09.520
<v Speaker 2>So my second favorite part of the episode is suck

0:35:09.600 --> 0:35:13.880
<v Speaker 2>and sweet, and this is how we finish every episode. So, Laura, baby,

0:35:14.040 --> 0:35:14.400
<v Speaker 2>hit me.

0:35:15.239 --> 0:35:16.319
<v Speaker 1>Really you want me to hit you?

0:35:16.320 --> 0:35:20.560
<v Speaker 2>Well, not literally, you take everything, so seriously literally throw

0:35:20.600 --> 0:35:21.239
<v Speaker 2>those words down.

0:35:21.320 --> 0:35:24.600
<v Speaker 1>You want my suck and my sweet? Okay, So my

0:35:24.719 --> 0:35:27.560
<v Speaker 1>sweet for this week was that go first, you know, oh,

0:35:27.960 --> 0:35:30.600
<v Speaker 1>oh my god, I'm so sorry. My suck, my suck.

0:35:32.080 --> 0:35:35.560
<v Speaker 1>My suck for this week was that I had to

0:35:35.600 --> 0:35:38.719
<v Speaker 1>take Marley into Medicare so that I could finally get

0:35:38.719 --> 0:35:41.000
<v Speaker 1>off my mum's Medicare card and get a new Medicare

0:35:41.000 --> 0:35:44.960
<v Speaker 1>card that had Marley on it. However, halfway through waiting

0:35:45.080 --> 0:35:48.400
<v Speaker 1>at Centerlink, Marley crapped herself and then I went to

0:35:48.440 --> 0:35:50.560
<v Speaker 1>go and change her and realized I forgot to bring

0:35:50.600 --> 0:35:52.799
<v Speaker 1>any baby wipes, so I had to use her own

0:35:52.880 --> 0:35:54.399
<v Speaker 1>singlet to wipe her.

0:35:54.360 --> 0:36:01.120
<v Speaker 3>Butt because I am the most un organized mother in

0:36:01.160 --> 0:36:01.560
<v Speaker 3>the world.

0:36:01.760 --> 0:36:04.400
<v Speaker 1>This is I am a child. So that was my

0:36:04.480 --> 0:36:08.719
<v Speaker 1>suck the end. My sweet is much better than that.

0:36:09.320 --> 0:36:12.080
<v Speaker 1>Matt's mum came and stayed with us this weekend and

0:36:12.239 --> 0:36:14.839
<v Speaker 1>on Saturday night, Matt book tickets to go and see

0:36:14.960 --> 0:36:18.920
<v Speaker 1>Harley Breen, who is a comedian, and he was brilliant.

0:36:18.960 --> 0:36:21.200
<v Speaker 1>He has the TV show called Taboo, which is on

0:36:21.719 --> 0:36:22.520
<v Speaker 1>in Channel ten.

0:36:22.880 --> 0:36:24.000
<v Speaker 2>And I haven't seen that.

0:36:24.360 --> 0:36:27.040
<v Speaker 1>It's really really funny. He like takes the piss out

0:36:27.080 --> 0:36:29.120
<v Speaker 1>of things you should not take the piss out of.

0:36:29.640 --> 0:36:33.080
<v Speaker 1>The show is about people with disabilities or people who

0:36:33.120 --> 0:36:35.439
<v Speaker 1>have terminal illness, and I don't know if I could

0:36:35.440 --> 0:36:38.040
<v Speaker 1>do that. It's done in a really clever way, so

0:36:38.360 --> 0:36:40.719
<v Speaker 1>he gets to know them. Yeah, it actually is, and

0:36:40.760 --> 0:36:43.480
<v Speaker 1>it's very thoughtful, and what it's sort of aimed at

0:36:43.560 --> 0:36:46.560
<v Speaker 1>is trying to normalize the fact that people do have

0:36:46.600 --> 0:36:50.200
<v Speaker 1>disabilities and people do stuffer from terminal illness. And it's

0:36:50.280 --> 0:36:52.600
<v Speaker 1>just got a really black humor comedy about it.

0:36:52.680 --> 0:36:55.279
<v Speaker 2>So the people that he's paying out, he gets to

0:36:55.280 --> 0:36:56.120
<v Speaker 2>stay on board with it.

0:36:56.320 --> 0:36:59.160
<v Speaker 1>Absolutely, he gets to know them, He spends time with them,

0:36:59.360 --> 0:37:03.400
<v Speaker 1>and they absolutely loving sick this comedy. But one of

0:37:03.480 --> 0:37:05.560
<v Speaker 1>my favorite bits was that he was talking about how

0:37:05.640 --> 0:37:09.680
<v Speaker 1>babies when it's windy far more because they don't have

0:37:09.760 --> 0:37:12.760
<v Speaker 1>the ability to stop the air from going into their mouth,

0:37:13.200 --> 0:37:15.479
<v Speaker 1>and so they fill up with air and they fart

0:37:15.520 --> 0:37:18.439
<v Speaker 1>more when it's windy, which is true. So I learned

0:37:18.520 --> 0:37:21.399
<v Speaker 1>some really really important facts. If it's windy, your baby

0:37:21.400 --> 0:37:22.239
<v Speaker 1>will far more hang on.

0:37:22.360 --> 0:37:23.200
<v Speaker 2>Is that actually true?

0:37:23.320 --> 0:37:23.600
<v Speaker 3>True?

0:37:23.719 --> 0:37:24.200
<v Speaker 1>It's true?

0:37:24.280 --> 0:37:25.600
<v Speaker 2>Did you look it up? Because I don't feel like

0:37:25.640 --> 0:37:25.880
<v Speaker 2>it is.

0:37:25.960 --> 0:37:26.040
<v Speaker 3>No.

0:37:26.120 --> 0:37:28.000
<v Speaker 1>I just put Molley out the window and let us.

0:37:31.280 --> 0:37:33.280
<v Speaker 2>Guys, everyone docs, she's joking.

0:37:35.080 --> 0:37:37.360
<v Speaker 1>All right, Well, what's your sucker?

0:37:37.400 --> 0:37:38.919
<v Speaker 2>Baby? Why suck?

0:37:39.640 --> 0:37:39.920
<v Speaker 1>God?

0:37:39.960 --> 0:37:41.919
<v Speaker 2>I just you know, I kicked my toe last night

0:37:42.040 --> 0:37:44.880
<v Speaker 2>so badly. And I know this is ridiculous, but you

0:37:44.880 --> 0:37:46.279
<v Speaker 2>know when you kick your little toe on the corner

0:37:46.320 --> 0:37:48.520
<v Speaker 2>of the bed and you feel like your leg has

0:37:48.520 --> 0:37:50.480
<v Speaker 2>been chopped off. There was blood.

0:37:50.680 --> 0:37:51.320
<v Speaker 1>There was blood.

0:37:51.440 --> 0:37:54.719
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, the nail ripped. Oh dude, it was intense. It

0:37:54.800 --> 0:37:56.400
<v Speaker 2>was super nialy there, it was touch and go.

0:37:56.680 --> 0:37:58.719
<v Speaker 1>It had to be pretty severe for it to be

0:37:58.760 --> 0:37:59.480
<v Speaker 1>the suck of the week.

0:38:00.160 --> 0:38:01.560
<v Speaker 2>Bad All My week's just been pretty good.

0:38:01.880 --> 0:38:03.600
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, a toaster. Do you know what?

0:38:03.680 --> 0:38:07.560
<v Speaker 2>I broke my toe running through the Amazon jungle chasing

0:38:07.600 --> 0:38:09.800
<v Speaker 2>wild pigs, and it was that foot. So I feel

0:38:09.800 --> 0:38:11.560
<v Speaker 2>like I feel.

0:38:11.280 --> 0:38:13.680
<v Speaker 1>Like there was so much about that sentence that was weird.

0:38:14.160 --> 0:38:16.520
<v Speaker 2>Well, I think that's why it hurts so bad, because

0:38:17.160 --> 0:38:21.840
<v Speaker 2>the tone never properly healed, so it's sensitive subject for

0:38:21.920 --> 0:38:22.560
<v Speaker 2>multiple reasons.

0:38:22.719 --> 0:38:24.560
<v Speaker 1>Maybe I'm sorry. I'm so sorry that we had to

0:38:24.600 --> 0:38:28.600
<v Speaker 1>chalk about your toe on multiple levels. Okay, what is

0:38:28.640 --> 0:38:29.200
<v Speaker 1>your sweet?

0:38:29.400 --> 0:38:31.400
<v Speaker 2>And if that is not the sweet of everyone else's

0:38:31.440 --> 0:38:34.719
<v Speaker 2>week listening, I don't know what is my sweet? Well,

0:38:34.719 --> 0:38:36.239
<v Speaker 2>I don't know if I can actually use this because

0:38:36.239 --> 0:38:38.719
<v Speaker 2>it hasn't happened, but it has half happened. So I

0:38:38.760 --> 0:38:41.520
<v Speaker 2>just booked flights yesterday spontaneously to go up to the

0:38:41.520 --> 0:38:44.440
<v Speaker 2>Gold Coast on the weekend. Oh yeah, my mom and

0:38:44.520 --> 0:38:46.359
<v Speaker 2>dad are up there. I've got them a little beach house.

0:38:46.400 --> 0:38:47.279
<v Speaker 2>I'm going to visit them.

0:38:47.440 --> 0:38:48.600
<v Speaker 1>Oh my gosh, that's so nice.

0:38:48.640 --> 0:38:50.520
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, my brothers, my nephew. So we're gonna have a

0:38:50.560 --> 0:38:53.960
<v Speaker 2>little family time on this really nice little beach house

0:38:54.040 --> 0:38:57.480
<v Speaker 2>and just chill. I've booked a winery. I love me,

0:38:57.640 --> 0:38:59.919
<v Speaker 2>no one else, just me. Can I come as you can?

0:39:00.160 --> 0:39:02.520
<v Speaker 2>Perfect booked you a flight to this. This is my

0:39:02.560 --> 0:39:05.239
<v Speaker 2>sweet as well. I'm going to change it. Screw Harley Breen.

0:39:05.360 --> 0:39:08.080
<v Speaker 2>You just don't get any of the rules. Laura. You

0:39:08.160 --> 0:39:12.120
<v Speaker 2>can't change but guys, that is it for us for

0:39:12.200 --> 0:39:13.520
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0:39:34.440 --> 0:39:38.040
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0:39:38.400 --> 0:39:41.480
<v Speaker 1>love and sharing their stories from last week's episode on

0:39:41.560 --> 0:39:45.600
<v Speaker 1>dating a sociopath. We just are overwhelmed with how many

0:39:45.640 --> 0:39:48.040
<v Speaker 1>of you have actually taken the times right to us

0:39:48.080 --> 0:39:50.840
<v Speaker 1>but have actually also gone through something like this as well.

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<v Speaker 1>So it was really amazing actually the amount of responses

0:39:54.040 --> 0:39:55.920
<v Speaker 1>that we received. So Britt, thank you so much for

0:39:55.960 --> 0:39:58.200
<v Speaker 1>sharing your story as well, because I know that that

0:39:58.320 --> 0:39:59.200
<v Speaker 1>was huge for you.

0:39:59.360 --> 0:40:01.520
<v Speaker 2>It was huge, but you're very welcome and it looks

0:40:01.520 --> 0:40:03.640
<v Speaker 2>like it has helped a lot of people, so if

0:40:03.680 --> 0:40:05.120
<v Speaker 2>they're happy, I'm happy.

0:40:05.160 --> 0:40:08.200
<v Speaker 1>Well. Guys, thank you for listening and we can't wait

0:40:08.440 --> 0:40:12.640
<v Speaker 1>to see you all again and answer not answer your questions. Yeah,

0:40:13.560 --> 0:40:14.880
<v Speaker 1>shower guys. See you guys,