Speaker 1: Life on Cut acknowledges the traditional custodians of country whose
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Speaker 1: elders past and present.
Speaker 2: Always was, always will be Aboriginal Land. This episode was
Speaker 2: recorded on gaddigal Land. Hi, guys, and welcome back to
Speaker 2: another episode of Life on Cut.
Speaker 1: I'm Laura, I'm Brittany, and nothing keeps you more humble.
Speaker 1: I tell you what than you lot like. I came
Speaker 1: in here today, vibe and myself, I thought I looked
Speaker 1: winter chic.
Speaker 3: You do look winter she i winter welding Yakshi.
Speaker 1: I have a beautiful little winter knit on that's like
Speaker 1: short with short sleeves. So it's like that in between
Speaker 1: because we're actually two days out of winter. And some
Speaker 1: new knee high boots. Well I've had him for a
Speaker 1: couple of weeks, but they're like fashion faar.
Speaker 3: We need to take a photo of these because things
Speaker 3: on YouTube.
Speaker 2: Okay, put your leg up in the air, anyone on YouTube,
Speaker 2: come and have a squeeze. They are imagine boots that
Speaker 2: went all the way up to your LaBier and then
Speaker 2: you folded them back down.
Speaker 3: Your laber comes to your knee. Mine doesn't.
Speaker 2: Well, then they wouldn't be as folded over as yours
Speaker 2: if they were my LaBier. But I'm saying, imagine if
Speaker 2: your boots came all the way up to your upper
Speaker 2: thigh and then you folded that down over.
Speaker 3: It's just a double layered boot. It's big in Paris.
Speaker 3: I love them.
Speaker 2: It's a vibe. Don't be jelly. But I'm just telling
Speaker 2: you what they remind me of. They remind me of welding,
Speaker 2: welding work boots. So if you're working with like molten
Speaker 2: metal and also the bottom of a yak.
Speaker 1: Literally just said, I look like a yak. She goes,
Speaker 1: what's that animal with heaps of hair down the front? Thanks, guys,
Speaker 1: I tell you I.
Speaker 2: Woke up this morning and I have the start of
Speaker 2: a sty and it's the most annoying thing ever. And
Speaker 2: I was sitting the through and I was like, what
Speaker 2: do I do? Do I pop it? Do I touch it?
Speaker 2: How do you deal with a sty?
Speaker 3: I know what to do your tea bag yourself, not
Speaker 3: Maddie j but you put probably how I got it
Speaker 3: in the first place. That's not how you make babies.
Speaker 1: You actually get like a green I'm pretty sure it's green.
Speaker 1: It's a specific type of tea bag, green tea bag,
Speaker 1: and you soak it in the water, and then you
Speaker 1: put the whole you lay down and you put the
Speaker 1: whole tea bag on your eye.
Speaker 2: I promise you this is a thing. When I was
Speaker 2: growing up, I used to get them really bad. My
Speaker 2: grandma used to always say that you should rub a
Speaker 2: gold ring on it. That's like an old wives tail
Speaker 2: that if you get a star, you rub a gold ring.
Speaker 2: Which is when you think about that, when you think
Speaker 2: about how not mad when you think about.
Speaker 3: A gold ring.
Speaker 2: So journey, it's so unhygienic. What a stupid old wives
Speaker 2: to hate. So you have an infection in your eye,
Speaker 2: rub something that's clearly not clean on.
Speaker 3: Your eye to get rid of it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, anyway, I don't know what's worse between having a
Speaker 2: stye and having hemorrhoids. I'm fucking done with the day.
Speaker 2: Well that escalated, I'm done. I'm done.
Speaker 1: You know, no one would have known you had hemorrhoids
Speaker 1: if you didn't throw it in there. I like that,
Speaker 1: you like, let me just tell you everything's wrong with
Speaker 1: me right now.
Speaker 2: If you've vaginally birthed two children, I'm going to take
Speaker 2: a punt that you've got hemorrhoids. I don't think it's
Speaker 2: one hundred percent, but no, but it's a high stat
Speaker 2: I reckon you'd be pretty good if you place that bet, though,
Speaker 2: if your life depended on it.
Speaker 3: Do they don't they?
Speaker 2: If there's a game of hemorrhoid roulet, you'd be pretty
Speaker 2: good saying yes.
Speaker 3: If that person's got two kids. That's a lot from morning,
Speaker 3: isn't it.
Speaker 2: It's Monday morning right now here in the studio, and
Speaker 2: that is a lot even for me, and I've done
Speaker 2: it well.
Speaker 1: Thank god, I don't have a stye. But the time
Speaker 1: has come. Today's Monday. Ben is arriving tonight. He's on
Speaker 1: a plane right now, so when you guys are listening
Speaker 1: to this, we could still be having sex. He would
Speaker 1: have been here for about if you download this first
Speaker 1: thing in the morning, produce a kish wants to cut
Speaker 1: that out.
Speaker 3: I can see your eyes wronging.
Speaker 1: If you listen to this first thing in the morning,
Speaker 1: he would have been here at like eleven PM that night.
Speaker 2: Can I tell you when my stepbrother listened to the
Speaker 2: episode that we did last week, when we were talking
Speaker 2: about me or my stepdad, he said, oh, you know
Speaker 2: He was like, I'm really grateful for how you spoke
Speaker 2: about everything.
Speaker 3: He goes.
Speaker 2: However, I just want to make a note I probably
Speaker 2: won't listen to any more episodes after listening to Britt
Speaker 2: talk about her boyfriend coming in her for the ten
Speaker 2: minutes start of that episode, He's like, it really did
Speaker 2: me over.
Speaker 3: He was like, interesting trajectory that your podcast takes.
Speaker 2: How you managed to talk about that stuff, then go
Speaker 2: into palliative care, and then talk about whatever else it
Speaker 2: was that we covered on that episode.
Speaker 3: It was a real rollercoaster of an emotion. Yes, it is,
Speaker 3: and sometimes that's what happens.
Speaker 1: I guess that's what life on CUNT is, right, A
Speaker 1: b to be bite hiddelo bit of everything.
Speaker 2: Well, we do have a very I think it's a
Speaker 2: very interesting episode of you guys. Today. We're talking about
Speaker 2: whether you can maintain friendships and relationships with people who
Speaker 2: have very differing views to you, whether it be political,
Speaker 2: whether it be religious. But obviously we have a few
Speaker 2: things to cover first, brit do you have any plans
Speaker 2: for whilst Ben is here? Like, is there any apart
Speaker 2: from just being excited for him to be landing in
Speaker 2: the country This evening Is there anything else that you
Speaker 2: have going on?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 3: Yeah, So we've booked.
Speaker 1: Basically he's here for three weeks and it's pretty NonStop,
Speaker 1: like every weekend is a long weekend because I want
Speaker 1: to try and show him different parts of Australia and
Speaker 1: we also need to try and fit my family in
Speaker 1: as well. Import McCrory, I'm taking him deep sea fishing.
Speaker 1: We're going back to Hamilton Island. We're going to the
Speaker 1: Gold Coast so he can meet my, like two of
Speaker 1: my really close friends up there. Because the thing is,
Speaker 1: we've been together, I don't know of eighteen months now,
Speaker 1: and he doesn't really know anyone in my life, like
Speaker 1: he's met you guys, and then and my family and
Speaker 1: that's it because I guess we only see each other
Speaker 1: every couple of months and we're always going on a
Speaker 1: holiday to spend our time together. So I really wanted
Speaker 1: him to meet my really close friends on the Gold Coast.
Speaker 1: So we're gonna go out there, have some dinners, meet
Speaker 1: one of his friends in Byron Bay. It's actually a lot,
Speaker 1: but I'm most excited to take him deep sea fishing.
Speaker 2: So it's so random. It's so random, but it's also
Speaker 2: so cute. I feel like you guys are on and
Speaker 2: I guess it is, but you're always on a perpetual
Speaker 2: holiday when you're together. Yeah, so you're like, this is
Speaker 2: my life what you like?
Speaker 3: But do you know what I said to Ben? I said,
Speaker 3: what are you most excited about?
Speaker 1: Because I've made all the plans because you have to
Speaker 1: plan it right otherwise the time goes too quickly and
Speaker 1: you don't get anything done.
Speaker 3: And I was like, what are you most excited about?
Speaker 1: And He's like, to be honest, I'm just most excited
Speaker 1: about going for a walk with you and Delilah, holding
Speaker 1: your hand and just doing normal stuff. He's like just
Speaker 1: walking down the street to the coffee shop like that
Speaker 1: I go to every day because I call him at
Speaker 1: the same coffee shop every day, going to the dog
Speaker 1: park that I go to. He just wants to live
Speaker 1: those normal things. And to me, that was the best
Speaker 1: because I'm like, I've just made this amazing three holiday
Speaker 1: and all he wants to do is literally go for
Speaker 1: a walk and hold my hand, like stop it.
Speaker 2: Like that is the cutest thick Do you think that
Speaker 2: there is any possibility that he might propose?
Speaker 3: And I know we discussed it's a good episode.
Speaker 2: But I'm curious as to how you feel about it
Speaker 2: and whether you think because you know, I mean we
Speaker 2: I say it like I don't know, like we talk
Speaker 2: about this stuff, but you guys don't know, so I.
Speaker 1: Think I I mean, I would probably be shocked if
Speaker 1: he didn't propose this year.
Speaker 3: Okay, but we have three more, like you like, he's
Speaker 3: got time.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we've got three, like more holidays that we're together
Speaker 1: this year. Sometimes we'll be with Jane Sherry over in Europe,
Speaker 1: then we're spending Christmas together.
Speaker 3: We've got a few more little trips.
Speaker 1: But the way we have talked about our future and
Speaker 1: like our timeline of things like weddings or kids and moving,
Speaker 1: I'd be shocked if it's not twenty twenty four.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you're like it's coming.
Speaker 1: Trying to see myself a buffer in case it doesn't happen.
Speaker 1: I'm like, I will be shocked if it's not by
Speaker 1: twenty twenty seven. So yeah, but I I, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I just can't see him doing it because I plan everything.
Speaker 1: He doesn't even know how can he plan it? He
Speaker 1: doesn't even know where we're going or where we're staying.
Speaker 1: He doesn't know anything because I do it all. So
Speaker 1: I'm like, unless you're just going to carry a ring
Speaker 1: around and hope that we hit somewhere aesthetic but there's
Speaker 1: no one around and it's a you know, which.
Speaker 3: I guess he could do.
Speaker 2: But but then you're also like planned a little bit
Speaker 2: because I want a nice photo of it.
Speaker 3: I want a memory.
Speaker 2: Video and record that i'll never forget, like where Matt
Speaker 2: proposed and we went to Fiji, and it should have
Speaker 2: been a dead giveaway that the guy set up a
Speaker 2: go pro, but he.
Speaker 3: Always sets up no, no, no. As soon as I saw
Speaker 3: the go pro, I was like, oh, did you think? Yeah?
Speaker 3: I did a bit.
Speaker 2: But then he just started crying, and I was like,
Speaker 2: what's going on? Because it wasn't It didn't seem like
Speaker 2: he was happy. Why have I never seen the video
Speaker 2: actually because probably because I was like, I honestly for
Speaker 2: a second thought he was going to tell me something horrible,
Speaker 2: like he had cancer, because he just started crying and
Speaker 2: wanted to capture on film, but didn't do it in
Speaker 2: a way that seemed positive. He was crying and I
Speaker 2: was like, and then when he proposed, I was like,
Speaker 2: are you trapped? Right?
Speaker 3: Now also dying.
Speaker 2: Blink twice if you're okay with this, Blink twice if
Speaker 2: this is actually voluntary part of a contract or is
Speaker 2: it just because I got pregnant?
Speaker 3: What's happening here? Nah?
Speaker 2: He would keep crying because it was so overwhelmed by emotion.
Speaker 2: Couldn't you control have the video?
Speaker 3: Yeah? Can I see it? I'm pretty sure it's on Instagram?
Speaker 3: Is it? Maybe?
Speaker 1: I feel like I've never seen it just without sound.
Speaker 1: Maybe it was too triggering from me, so I watch
Speaker 1: it well. Speaking of weddings, speaking of proposals. On the
Speaker 1: weekend just passed, we went down to Mollymog. We took
Speaker 1: the kids down to Mollymog. It's like three and a
Speaker 1: half hours from Sydney. If you're not familiar with it,
Speaker 1: it's right on the coast. But it's also where Matt
Speaker 1: and I got married, and it's the first time we've
Speaker 1: been down there since our wedding. And we went back
Speaker 1: to our wedding venue and we had such a sweet
Speaker 1: couple of days.
Speaker 3: But there's something really I don't know, there's something.
Speaker 2: Really odd about going back to your wedding venue on
Speaker 2: a day where it's just functioning like a normal restaurant
Speaker 2: because we were standing didn't have quite the.
Speaker 3: Magic where there's like kids running around.
Speaker 2: I was like, standing in the same spot and then
Speaker 2: had to ask, like some sixteen year old waiter.
Speaker 3: I was like, can you take a photo of us?
Speaker 3: And he and then did you explain it?
Speaker 2: We got married here and Matt was like, you don't
Speaker 2: need to tell this man our whole story. And I
Speaker 2: was like, oh, we got married here and we had
Speaker 2: the kids, and Matt was like, shut up, Laura, just
Speaker 2: a dog. And so then he was taking a photo
Speaker 2: and I was like, no, could you take a portrait?
Speaker 2: And anyways, do that it was embarrassing, so I can
Speaker 2: use it for slippit flipp it.
Speaker 3: God knows, I'm not taking these mone memories.
Speaker 2: I'm taking them for Instagram the camera around, so anyway,
Speaker 2: it was really cute, but also it was kind of
Speaker 2: nice to have a little moment where we got to
Speaker 2: go back to we set all of those beautiful things
Speaker 2: to each other and set our vows to each other.
Speaker 3: I don't know, I don't even know how to describe it,
Speaker 3: be like, oh, I remember that day and how much
Speaker 3: love there was and how much we love each other.
Speaker 3: It was a beautiful day.
Speaker 1: But you know the thing, and I'm like, you can
Speaker 1: probably see me about to laugh, the thing that I
Speaker 1: think of when I think of your wedding. I don't
Speaker 1: know why, and I hate that this is the first
Speaker 1: memory that popped into my head.
Speaker 3: But I can't ever forget when you were mad.
Speaker 1: We're trying to have that really cool moment. It's a
Speaker 1: video moment, it's a shop moment, it's a moment for
Speaker 1: the crowd.
Speaker 3: It's like whatever. But you were trying to fill all
Speaker 3: the champagne. You know, when you have it's hour of champagne.
Speaker 3: Glasses it and it flows over.
Speaker 1: You had too many and everyone was like whoa at
Speaker 1: the start, and then it was like twenty minutes and
Speaker 1: they weren't even half full, and you were still poor,
Speaker 1: and you're like, fuck it, you didn't even finish it.
Speaker 3: You weren't done.
Speaker 2: We did the champagne fountain. My advice is, if you
Speaker 2: have a champagne fountain at your wedding, yeah, you only
Speaker 2: need like three or four layers, because otherwise four also
Speaker 2: cost us a bowl. We had to empty out like
Speaker 2: ten bottles champagne to try and feel it. No one
Speaker 2: drank it, and we had to pay for that champagne.
Speaker 3: That's your waist. You didn't even feel it.
Speaker 1: It didn't even work, did you You crack the shits,
Speaker 1: It didn't even work.
Speaker 3: That is so funny. Oh that's really nice. It was
Speaker 3: really nice. That's unhappy. Would you read me of ours?
Speaker 3: Like at some point go back there?
Speaker 2: Yeah. So when we were there, Marley and Lawla, when
Speaker 2: we were leaving, they started crying and they're like, but
Speaker 2: we didn't even get married. We didn't even have a wedding.
Speaker 2: And I was like, no, you've done you've miss You've
Speaker 2: misunderstood what the purpose of today was. We will do
Speaker 2: that again. But yeah, I think ten years, don't you
Speaker 2: do like a wedding renewal or of our renew at
Speaker 2: ten years?
Speaker 3: Well you don't have to, but like Hollywood does, Yeah
Speaker 3: we will.
Speaker 1: I think Justin Bieber and Hailey Beaver just did to
Speaker 1: be married for like thirty seconds.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but they've been through a lot, they have lived
Speaker 3: a life. That couple. Well they're pregnant. Good for them anyway.
Speaker 3: So you guys might have seen it two weeks ago.
Speaker 2: There is a speech that has gone absolutely viral and
Speaker 2: now it's Harrison Butker who is an American footballer and
Speaker 2: he gave a graduation speech at the Benedictine College, which
Speaker 2: is a Catholic college. People are incredibly divided around the
Speaker 2: values that were described in his speech, and the reason
Speaker 2: for that is is because when you put it into context. Firstly, yes,
Speaker 2: it is a Catholic college, but this speech was given
Speaker 2: to women, men, to people who have graduated from their degrees,
Speaker 2: so they have dedicated the last three to potentially longer five, six,
Speaker 2: seven years, and then a lot.
Speaker 1: Of money because Americans have to pay a lot of
Speaker 1: money for their colleges.
Speaker 2: To become qualified doctors, lawyers, surgeons, teachers, etc. So off
Speaker 2: the back of this, the thing that was so divisive
Speaker 2: is the part in his speech that he speaks about
Speaker 2: a woman's most important vocation in life, and that was
Speaker 2: as described by Harrison himself, to be a wife or
Speaker 2: a mother.
Speaker 4: Some of you may go on to lead successful careers
Speaker 4: in the world, but I would venture to guess that
Speaker 4: the majority of you are most excited about your marriage
Speaker 4: and the children you will bring into this world. I
Speaker 4: can tell you that my beautiful wife, Isabelle would be
Speaker 4: the first to say that her life truly started when
Speaker 4: she began living her vocation as a wife and as
Speaker 4: a mother.
Speaker 2: Now, we I mean we discussed this quite a bit
Speaker 2: a couple of weeks ago as to whether we would
Speaker 2: even talk about this on the pod, And the reason
Speaker 2: for that is because so many other podcasts and news
Speaker 2: outlets have covered it. We kind of felt like it
Speaker 2: was flogging a dead horse, even though I myself had
Speaker 2: made a video on Instagram about it, and we've had
Speaker 2: lots of conversations internally. But the reason why we're talking
Speaker 2: about this now is because there has been more to
Speaker 2: the story. So Travis Kelsey, who we all know is
Speaker 2: Taylor Swist's boyfriend, has come out on his podcast and
Speaker 2: has given a statement around this speech itself, and he's
Speaker 2: spoken about how, even though he doesn't believe in Harrison's values,
Speaker 2: how he loves and adores him as a teammate and
Speaker 2: as a person.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so on Travis's.
Speaker 1: Own podcast, he came out and said, I cherish him
Speaker 1: as a teammate. He's treated the family that I've introduced
Speaker 1: to him with nothing but respect and kindness, and that
Speaker 1: is how he treats everyone when it comes down to
Speaker 1: his views and what he says at Saint better Diictine's
Speaker 1: commencement speech.
Speaker 3: Those are his.
Speaker 1: I can't say I agree with the majority of it
Speaker 1: or just about any of it outside of just him
Speaker 1: loving his family and his kids. And I don't think
Speaker 1: that I should judge him by his views, especially his
Speaker 1: religious views of how to go about life.
Speaker 3: That's just not who I am.
Speaker 1: I genuinely really liked Travis's statement. His brother said something
Speaker 1: very similar, Like his brother went on to say, there's
Speaker 1: always going to be opinions that everybody shares that you're
Speaker 1: going to disagree with. Another one of his teammates, Patrick Mahome,
Speaker 1: who's like also uber famous in that world, came and
Speaker 1: made a very similar statement. And I quite like the
Speaker 1: fact that his team are supporting him for who he
Speaker 1: is and who they know him to be, even though
Speaker 1: they don't agree with his opinions. And I think the
Speaker 1: reason that his speech in general was so divisive is
Speaker 1: because it is perceived to be quite regressive. The reason
Speaker 1: is he goes on to speak a lot about IVF
Speaker 1: being unnatural and that it shouldn't be happening, about same
Speaker 1: sex relationships are not natural in God's eyes, and in
Speaker 1: his eyes, he doesn't believe in contraception. If you can't
Speaker 1: have children naturally, you should going down the IVF route.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, there are lots of things in there that
Speaker 2: I think a lot of shit. If you listen to
Speaker 2: the full twenty minute speech will rile a lot of
Speaker 2: people up.
Speaker 1: So this brings us to the question that we wanted
Speaker 1: to speak about today. Can you have a relationship with people, friendships, associations, work, colleagues,
Speaker 1: romantic relationships? Can you have these relationships with someone that
Speaker 1: you feel so strongly about different views, political or religious,
Speaker 1: or whatever it seems to be. And I personally quite
Speaker 1: like Jason and Travis's statement on their podcast.
Speaker 3: I like a lot of the other.
Speaker 1: Teammates from the Chiefs came out and showed their support
Speaker 1: but said they didn't necessarily agree with their views.
Speaker 3: And I think personally there is.
Speaker 1: A huge part of me that detests this guy and
Speaker 1: every single thing he said, absolutely, And the reason is
Speaker 1: myself perceives his speech to be quite regressive. And I
Speaker 1: think a lot of the population that probably aren't heavily
Speaker 1: Catholic perceive it to be quite regressive. And now I
Speaker 1: do want to say a lot of Catholic population, because
Speaker 1: there are some people that are Catholic that don't necessarily
Speaker 1: agree with what he said. But the key word here
Speaker 1: is perceived. It's how we view his opinion and his thoughts.
Speaker 1: And this is where it gets really tricky and a
Speaker 1: little bit muddy. Harrison went on to say a lot
Speaker 1: of other shit like that is so cooked. A lot
Speaker 1: of things that I found to be almost like subliminal messaging,
Speaker 1: little tiny little things that I equipped and picked up.
Speaker 1: And I don't know if you picked them up, Laura,
Speaker 1: but even things when referring to in his speech. In
Speaker 1: Harrison's speech, he made a statement about Taylor Swift, but
Speaker 1: he didn't say her name. Instead of using her name,
Speaker 1: who is one of the most I think she is
Speaker 1: the most successful artist of our time, he said, my
Speaker 1: teammate's girlfriend, and then he quoted what she said. He
Speaker 1: didn't even give her a name. And that's because she's
Speaker 1: out there earning the big bucks. She's out there absolutely
Speaker 1: killing it as a woman, empowering people instead of being
Speaker 1: at home being a mother and a childbearer. But do
Speaker 1: I think he deserves the hate and backlash that he's getting.
Speaker 2: Not necessarily well, I mean it was interesting. I put
Speaker 2: up a we made a satirical video. When this speech
Speaker 2: started to go viral in the media, and the way
Speaker 2: that Instagram works is really interesting because originally, when it
Speaker 2: pushes out that type of content, when you create something,
Speaker 2: it goes out to your immediate audience, and usually your
Speaker 2: immediate audience has similar views and values to you. That's
Speaker 2: the reason why they're following you. Well they's hatefully well
Speaker 2: all they hate follow you. So originally the response to
Speaker 2: my video, which was just basically a stab at what
Speaker 2: his speech was, it was all people being like, yes,
Speaker 2: oh my god, this is outrageous, and it was all
Speaker 2: very supportive. That video kind of went semiviral, so it's
Speaker 2: had one point six million views, it's been shared thirteen
Speaker 2: thousand times, it's had two and a half thousand plus
Speaker 2: comments on it. So originally all the comments were like
Speaker 2: in support of me. And then over the last couple
Speaker 2: of weeks, what I've noticed is that the algorithm has
Speaker 2: spat that piece of content out beyond my network, and once.
Speaker 3: It tod the Catholic network.
Speaker 2: Literally, once it moved beyond my network, I realized how
Speaker 2: much hate I was receiving for something that was criticizing
Speaker 2: his views and criticizing his values. I mean, I think
Speaker 2: about what Travis Kelsey's come out and said, and he's
Speaker 2: obviously got to work alongside Harrison. He has to have
Speaker 2: an amicable team environment alongside Harrison, and I think that
Speaker 2: there is value in him saying because he would have
Speaker 2: been forced to make a public statement, the backlash he
Speaker 2: would have been receiving would have also been relentless. But
Speaker 2: I think that there is so much value in being
Speaker 2: able to say I see that this person is a
Speaker 2: good person for XYZ reasons, but their values do not
Speaker 2: align with my own values. And I think it's important
Speaker 2: to acknowledge that because we do sometimes live in a
Speaker 2: society that tells us that you cannot be friends with
Speaker 2: people who don't have the same political views with you,
Speaker 2: or you cannot be friends with people XYZ because they're
Speaker 2: anti feminist, or they're racist or their sexist. And we
Speaker 2: can be very black and white with how we approach
Speaker 2: these sorts of conversations, and even with askun Kat, we
Speaker 2: get so many people who write in and ask, like, oh,
Speaker 2: my boyfriend or my girlfriend believes this is that a
Speaker 2: massive red flag because I have very different views to them,
Speaker 2: and I think it's tricky to give like a very
Speaker 2: black and white answer to this, because I think sometimes
Speaker 2: it can be a massive red flag. But in other situations,
Speaker 2: when it comes to friendships or relationships, people are not
Speaker 2: always entirely their political views or entirely their religious views.
Speaker 2: We're made up of many parts of ourselves, and so
Speaker 2: I guess it comes down to a big question around
Speaker 2: how much it affects your friendship the views in which
Speaker 2: you're you know, the person that you're having a relationship holds,
Speaker 2: but also how much you care about those values as
Speaker 2: to whether you can navigate a friendship or co working
Speaker 2: alongside that person or still have respect for that person
Speaker 2: if they have alternate views to you.
Speaker 1: I can't stress enough how much I think it is
Speaker 1: so important for people to have their own ideas and
Speaker 1: their own opinions. Otherwise we live in a world of
Speaker 1: sickopans and an echo chamber where everyone agrees with everyone.
Speaker 1: There's no conversation, there's no learning, there's no progression, there's
Speaker 1: no change, there's no challenging and no debate one hundred percent.
Speaker 1: The byproduct of debate and challenging people is learning, and
Speaker 1: you do have to be as a person I believe
Speaker 1: open to having your opinion changed once you have all
Speaker 1: the information that you need about something to formulate an opinion.
Speaker 1: I think it's so important to have your view swayed
Speaker 1: if presented in the right way. I've changed my mind
Speaker 1: about things multiple times, and I think that you can
Speaker 1: have relationships with people where you differ in your religious views.
Speaker 1: I've had a relationship with somebody with a completely different religion,
Speaker 1: and it's fine as long as it doesn't become dangerous
Speaker 1: and damaging to those around you. Like this is where
Speaker 1: I think Harrison's speech goes wrong. His messaging, I believe,
Speaker 1: is fine. If you're just talking to your friends and
Speaker 1: you don't believe in contraception, fine, if you're not hurting
Speaker 1: anyone else whatever.
Speaker 3: You want to have your kids.
Speaker 1: Your wife wants to only stay at home and be
Speaker 1: a mother, if that's what she wants to do, that's incredible.
Speaker 1: If that's what everyone is choosing to do in that situation.
Speaker 1: But when you're given the influence and the platform that
Speaker 1: he is given, the Chiefs football team in America is
Speaker 1: like the Holy Grail.
Speaker 3: It is like God.
Speaker 1: People look at them for guidance, they look at them
Speaker 1: with respect, they look at them for inspiration. So when
Speaker 1: you have a platform that big and now your speech
Speaker 1: has gone around the world and it is damaging to people,
Speaker 1: you can help sway laws in states in America with
Speaker 1: these speeches. This is for me where it's fundamentally wrong
Speaker 1: and where my non negotiables and my boundaries about whether
Speaker 1: I can maintain a friendship with someone, this is where
Speaker 1: it starts for me. And I think that's the question
Speaker 1: you need to ask when you're in a relationship with
Speaker 1: someone or you have a friendship group, what are your
Speaker 1: non negotiables that you know you will never ever sway
Speaker 1: on and that you will tolerate in a friendship.
Speaker 3: And I think tolerate is the word here, I think.
Speaker 2: And I don't want to just keep referring back to
Speaker 2: this Harrison speech because I think it's important for us
Speaker 2: to kind of like zoom out and look at it
Speaker 2: in terms of like how we navigate our friendships and
Speaker 2: our relationships in our own lives. But the only thing
Speaker 2: I want to say in defense to him, which is
Speaker 2: weird for me to be sitting here and to be
Speaker 2: kind of like, okay, playing the devil's advocate, because I
Speaker 2: don't agree with you know, I mean it doesn't align
Speaker 2: with my values. But the context of which this speech
Speaker 2: was said in he has said it to people who
Speaker 2: share similar views and values to him, and at a
Speaker 2: Catholic college, and it's been reported that he received a
Speaker 2: standing ovation for that speech. So it's interesting when you
Speaker 2: take something out of context. So that's now made it
Speaker 2: onto social media, where those views and ideologies can be
Speaker 2: challenged by people who don't hold those values. But when
Speaker 2: you put it back into the context to which that
Speaker 2: speech was said, the people who it's being said to
Speaker 2: share similar ideas. And so yeah, that's why he was
Speaker 2: asked to give the speech totally, totally, and that's really important.
Speaker 2: I think that that context is so so important. The
Speaker 2: only thing that I think is also really I mean,
Speaker 2: it's not the only thing, but it is something I
Speaker 2: think is really belittling is part of that speech said
Speaker 2: that a woman's vocation being a wife and a mother,
Speaker 2: that's when a woman's life truly starts. And that's just
Speaker 2: so belittling, not even just to people who don't choose it,
Speaker 2: but to people who can't have children and can't you know,
Speaker 2: make those choices for themselves or never get married. It's like,
Speaker 2: does their life never start because they never ever reproduced. Obviously,
Speaker 2: we have a lot of feelings about that. But I
Speaker 2: think going back to this idea of the people that
Speaker 2: you can and can't be friends with, this is a
Speaker 2: very privileged conversation for us to be able to even
Speaker 2: say can you or can't you be friends with people
Speaker 2: who share political views. And the thing is is that
Speaker 2: it really depends on how much those views affect your
Speaker 2: actual life. And what I mean by that is, and
Speaker 2: I heard this quote on an episode of The Hookup,
Speaker 2: the Triple J podcast. The Hookup, they said, don't fuck
Speaker 2: people who fuck you at the ballot box, And what
Speaker 2: they mean by that is, don't be in a relationship
Speaker 2: and have public sex. No, don't be in a relationship
Speaker 2: with somebody whose values are going to fuck your life.
Speaker 2: I mean, we're talking about this as women who have
Speaker 2: the choice to care about the things that we want
Speaker 2: to care about. But imagine if you are someone who
Speaker 2: is from the LGBTQI community, your very existence is political,
Speaker 2: and you're best friends with someone who votes against the
Speaker 2: gay plebiscite. It's like, I think that you would feel
Speaker 2: very differently around whether or not you could maintain a
Speaker 2: friendship with someone who had different political views, then if
Speaker 2: it was just with someone who has an alternate religious perspective,
Speaker 2: for example, I think that that's where it becomes more
Speaker 2: black and white to a lot of people. The other
Speaker 2: thing I wanted to say about this and I think
Speaker 2: sometimes we talk about like the left verse right, and
Speaker 2: we can only want to surround ourselves with people who
Speaker 2: have similar values to us. But one of the examples
Speaker 2: I think is really interesting is so, for example, say
Speaker 2: that you are only friends with people who are left wing,
Speaker 2: left minded. You see that as progressive, and you have
Speaker 2: a real disdain for anyone who maybe votes for a
Speaker 2: different political party to you. Won't date, won't be friends
Speaker 2: with people, and kind of cut those people out of
Speaker 2: your life. We can kind of sometimes move into a
Speaker 2: situation where we go, okay, well the left is progressive
Speaker 2: and the right are sexist and racist and don't care
Speaker 2: about the environment, and we can really put people into silos.
Speaker 2: But what you don't start to unpack then is the
Speaker 2: nuance as to why people care and vote for the
Speaker 2: things that they care and vote for. So, for example,
Speaker 2: somebody who might be voting for a right winged party,
Speaker 2: they could have grown up with a farming family. They
Speaker 2: could have grown up with a working farming family whose
Speaker 2: very existence revolves around that type of infrastructure. That person's
Speaker 2: going to have a very different lived experience to someone
Speaker 2: who votes strongly for the Greens and as an environmentalist.
Speaker 2: But I think if we have a little bit more
Speaker 2: empathy and understanding for the reasons why people have the
Speaker 2: beliefs and have the ideologies that they have, it allows
Speaker 2: us to kind of meet in the middle with a
Speaker 2: place of empathy rather than creating this it's u verse
Speaker 2: us in the reasons why people choose to believe the
Speaker 2: things that they believe.
Speaker 1: Every person should have I believe their own non negotiables
Speaker 1: that they know that they're not okay to bend in
Speaker 1: a relationship, and that's romantic and friendships and like, just
Speaker 1: as an example for me, mine for both friendships and
Speaker 1: relationships is gay marriage and the right to gay marriage.
Speaker 1: If you believe two people shouldn't be together because they
Speaker 1: are the same sex, for me, I can't get my
Speaker 1: head around that. And I will listen to your understanding,
Speaker 1: Like maybe you've come from a very religious background, but
Speaker 1: I don't have to be okay with it.
Speaker 3: And I think that's an.
Speaker 1: Example of drawing a line in the sand saying I
Speaker 1: have too many people in my life that that affects
Speaker 1: that I wouldn't be able to happily stay in a
Speaker 1: relationship with someone that truly believes two people in love
Speaker 1: can't spend their life together.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and I think everyone has those non negotiables. But
Speaker 2: I think it's too simple for us to sit here
Speaker 2: and say, yes, you absolutely can be friends with people
Speaker 2: who have different views, and know you can't because it
Speaker 2: is so dependent on what those views are, and it
Speaker 2: is so dependent on how those views directly affect your
Speaker 2: life when it comes to religious beliefs. That for me,
Speaker 2: and I know that there are people who navigate it
Speaker 2: and have successful romantic relationships, but I think that that
Speaker 2: is a very challenging one to overcome. And the reason
Speaker 2: why I say that is because somebody has to compromise
Speaker 2: in that situation. There's this saying that you shouldn't be
Speaker 2: with someone who you are unequally yoked to. I think
Speaker 2: this is more pertains to Christianity. But if you are Christian,
Speaker 2: being with someone who doesn't all the same ideas as you,
Speaker 2: the same belief systems as you, at the same level,
Speaker 2: at the same level and that doesn't have the same
Speaker 2: relationship with God. What that means is that it will
Speaker 2: impact your ability to be able to perform your duty
Speaker 2: to God in a way that is required of you.
Speaker 2: So it's like they are not a good relationship and
Speaker 2: a good fit because as much as you can respect
Speaker 2: someone's alternate values, those values will directly impact your ability
Speaker 2: to maintain and uphold your values because you're supposed to
Speaker 2: be in a relationship together. So I do think that
Speaker 2: there are many instances where differing views make it impossible
Speaker 2: to maintain and have the intensity of some relationships. That
Speaker 2: it doesn't mean you can't be friends with these people.
Speaker 2: And I think sometimes the best place of learning comes
Speaker 2: from being friends with people who have different views with you,
Speaker 2: because you get into really good debates and it either
Speaker 2: reinforces the reasons why you believe the things that you believe,
Speaker 2: or it challenges the way that you believe things and
Speaker 2: the reason why you believe things. And so, like myself,
Speaker 2: I have many friends who I would say I like
Speaker 2: them as a person, but I do not share the
Speaker 2: same beliefs as them. But we have some of the
Speaker 2: most interesting conversations because of that very reason. And the
Speaker 2: debates of fierce, but they're done in a way that's respectful.
Speaker 2: And even though we walk away from those debates not
Speaker 2: agreeing with each other, I do feel like I learned
Speaker 2: things which challenge me a little bit around why I
Speaker 2: feel the way I feel.
Speaker 1: I dated someone for a few years that was Muslim
Speaker 1: and I am not religious at all. The reason that
Speaker 1: was fine was because for him, his level of intensity.
Speaker 1: There were some differing views, but his level of intensity
Speaker 1: was just at the fact that he believed in the
Speaker 1: foundation of love and kindness, like that is a key
Speaker 1: part of the Muslim religion. Then obviously, depending on what
Speaker 1: intensity you are with your religion, it goes into a
Speaker 1: whole lot of other stuff. That is something that we
Speaker 1: had to discover at the start of the relationship. Are
Speaker 1: we going to be able to work around that? Is
Speaker 1: he going to want my children to grow up in
Speaker 1: his religion? Like these are the things that you need
Speaker 1: to ask yourself before you get into a Syrian relationship
Speaker 1: with someone. My brother in law, Jay is seek and
Speaker 1: my sister is not. But that's fine and it works
Speaker 1: because he's not really practicing, like he believes in it.
Speaker 1: But it's you know, they had an Indian seek wedding,
Speaker 1: they also had an Australian wedding. Like they have learned
Speaker 1: to meet halfway the compromises, that's why their relationship works.
Speaker 3: So I think that absolutely.
Speaker 1: Relationships can work when you have different views as long
Speaker 1: as together combined, you understand where each other are coming
Speaker 1: from and it's agreeable.
Speaker 2: I would say though, that there'd be so many people
Speaker 2: listening to this who have had very heated disagreements with
Speaker 2: their partners around conflicting views.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, and often, I.
Speaker 2: Mean it's very easy to say, oh, I would never
Speaker 2: date someone who's got different political views to me. But
Speaker 2: how often are you sitting down on a very first
Speaker 2: date and going, cool, what are your beliefs in this, this, this,
Speaker 2: and this? Often you'll catch feelings before you fully understand
Speaker 2: where people sit in terms of yeah, in terms of
Speaker 2: what they believe in, how they think. And then it's
Speaker 2: not until a big thing happens, whether it's reflected in society,
Speaker 2: whether there's a speech that grows viral, that you actually
Speaker 2: sit down with your partner and have a bit of
Speaker 2: a debate or an argibargie around what they think and
Speaker 2: how they feel. And often that's when you realize, oh
Speaker 2: my god, fuck, I'm dating someone who thinks XYZ. And
Speaker 2: I guess it's then navigating how important those views are
Speaker 2: to them and how they respond to you not sharing
Speaker 2: the same feelings, because some people can get really defensive
Speaker 2: and some people can become very belittling in how they
Speaker 2: communicate the things that they think and how they feel.
Speaker 1: Do you think, Laura, social media has made it easier
Speaker 1: or harder to maintain a relationship with someone of different
Speaker 1: views and balance us.
Speaker 3: Absolutely.
Speaker 2: And I say this because I have people who are
Speaker 2: on my social media who I am. You know, they're
Speaker 2: either acquaintances or I'm friends with or there've been people
Speaker 2: who've been part of my life for like twenty years.
Speaker 2: I'm not going to just cut them out, but they
Speaker 2: share radically different political views to me. And I've had
Speaker 2: people contact me, like strangers contact me and say, how
Speaker 2: the fuck can you be friends with this person?
Speaker 3: I'm like, who, wha wha whah woah.
Speaker 2: Firstly, friends, You've really managed to reduce a lot from
Speaker 2: just knowing that I follow someone. But just because I
Speaker 2: have someone in my orbit doesn't mean I believe their
Speaker 2: political stances, doesn't mean that I agree with the things
Speaker 2: they say. And I think sometimes we can draw a
Speaker 2: lot of conclusions, but I do think that there are
Speaker 2: people out there who have led us to believe that
Speaker 2: if somebody believes in something different to you, that you
Speaker 2: should cut them out of your life.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you want a boring life if we did that.
Speaker 3: Of course you can.
Speaker 1: Of course you can have your own opinions, and you
Speaker 1: can go against the grain or go against their opinion.
Speaker 1: You can have an argument or a debate with them.
Speaker 1: You don't have to cut someone out of your life
Speaker 1: for one different interview. You don't have to cancel someone
Speaker 1: online because you don't agree with one thing they've said.
Speaker 3: I mean, you know, look, and.
Speaker 2: There might be some things in your life that are
Speaker 2: the non negotiables that mean you do have to cut
Speaker 2: someone out. I understand that that that bar is going
Speaker 2: to sit differently for each person, but it does make
Speaker 2: me come back to a conversation we had so long ago,
Speaker 2: and I remember a review that was written. I was
Speaker 2: talking about my grandparents, my papa's he's passed away now,
Speaker 2: my grandma is very elderly and has dementia. And I said,
Speaker 2: you know, they would say things back when I was
Speaker 2: in my twenties that I did not agree with. They
Speaker 2: voted for Pauline Hanson. I deeply did not agree with them.
Speaker 2: And this is not me making an excuse for them,
Speaker 2: but they grew up in a time that was very
Speaker 2: different to me, and they have very different political social views.
Speaker 2: My grandfather was an immigrant as well. He immigrated from
Speaker 2: Italy and was absolutely bullied for being a quote unquote wog.
Speaker 2: Yet he still supported Pauline Hanson, which to me sounds crazy,
Speaker 2: but it's because it's almost like he felt like he
Speaker 2: earned his right to be in this country. And so
Speaker 2: I know, guys, I'm saying, I'm explaining how my now dead,
Speaker 2: ninety something year old grandfather felt about it. I'm not
Speaker 2: saying I agree with him, but I remember having this
Speaker 2: conversation on the podcast and saying that I gave him
Speaker 2: more grace than what I would someone who's my age.
Speaker 2: And that's because one, he's my papa, and I didn't
Speaker 2: want to cut him out of my life because he
Speaker 2: was like my dad. And two because even though he
Speaker 2: believed something, doesn't mean I have to. And I remember
Speaker 2: this review where someone was like Laura's making excuses for racists,
Speaker 2: and I was like, Wow, No, what I'm doing is
Speaker 2: just trying to have empathy for someone who I love,
Speaker 2: who I don't want to cut out of my.
Speaker 1: Life, and who you know and believe ninety percent of
Speaker 1: the rest of what he believes. He's a good human
Speaker 1: who raised you, who did wonderful things and said wonderful things.
Speaker 3: He has one point of view that differs wholeheartedly.
Speaker 2: To you that I radically disagree exactly. But the thing
Speaker 2: I always think of, and I know that it's almost
Speaker 2: a privileged place to be, like, oh, cut all these
Speaker 2: people out. But imagine you get to a point in
Speaker 2: your life as a parent, if you become a parent
Speaker 2: and you decide to have children where we are in
Speaker 2: our fifties or in our sixties, and we have grown
Speaker 2: up children who have agency and choice. How do you
Speaker 2: navigate the situation when your children have different political views
Speaker 2: to you? How do you navigate the situation when your
Speaker 2: children have different religious views to you? Do you cut
Speaker 2: them out of your life? Do you decide that they're
Speaker 2: people that you don't want to be around or speak
Speaker 2: to anymore because they don't believe the things that you believe.
Speaker 2: And it's going to be a very real and possible
Speaker 2: situation that our kids don't agree with us in the
Speaker 2: same way that we often don't agree with our parents.
Speaker 2: I think that there are some relationships in life that
Speaker 2: you almost sometimes have to put down your disagreements in
Speaker 2: order to cohabitate in a way that leads with love
Speaker 2: and empathy. So yeah, I have a lot of feelings
Speaker 2: around this, but I think we're always going to have
Speaker 2: relationships in life with people who don't agree with us,
Speaker 2: and it's how we navigate through them, whether we can
Speaker 2: coexist alongside them.
Speaker 1: I think it takes a really strong person to not
Speaker 1: want to go and attack someone immediately when they don't
Speaker 1: believe in it, to really sit back and listen to
Speaker 1: somebody's train of thought, listen to someone's reason, and say,
Speaker 1: I'm going to agree to disagree with you, still love you,
Speaker 1: See you next week for coffee.
Speaker 2: It is time for accidentally unfiltered. And now we've received
Speaker 2: a couple of great ones. But I saw something on
Speaker 2: Instagram the other day and it was a real that
Speaker 2: has gone absolutely viral, and this poor woman's literal accidentally
Speaker 2: unfiltered story was I think for me, you know how
Speaker 2: we used to be back in the day, It used
Speaker 2: to be worried about accidentally liking someone's photo or accidentally
Speaker 2: commenting something on Facebook, like the time when.
Speaker 3: I did it like a hundred times.
Speaker 2: Well yeah, at the time that I updated my status
Speaker 2: with my boyfriend at the times ex girlfriend's name because
Speaker 2: the search bar and the status bar were so close
Speaker 2: to each other, and I wrote Sophie and wanted my
Speaker 2: life to end because how do you explain that to
Speaker 2: your boyfriend?
Speaker 3: How do you explain that that that's my status?
Speaker 1: I had the guy that I was seeing, and then
Speaker 1: I was trying to stalk his new girlfriend, and I
Speaker 1: just friend requested her.
Speaker 3: Didn't know what she lived in a different country.
Speaker 2: What's wrong with us? Okay, so strive yourself in. This
Speaker 2: woman was bitching to a colleague about a person that
Speaker 2: she works with. Right, So, she was talking about this
Speaker 2: woman who they're both in the same department, they both
Speaker 2: work together, who she has a couple of problems with.
Speaker 2: Unbeknownst to the woman who she has the problems with,
Speaker 2: let's just call her Sarah Jane. So she's bitching about
Speaker 2: Sarah Jane, describing all the things that she hates about
Speaker 2: working alongside her, and then all of a sudden her
Speaker 2: Apple Watch tells her the message has been sent to
Speaker 2: The message dictated her entire bitchy conversation and sent it
Speaker 2: to the person that she was talking about. And I
Speaker 2: think that this is how robots are coming back to
Speaker 2: fuck us. It's not what Will Smith said. They're not
Speaker 2: here to end the world. They're just here to.
Speaker 3: Ruin our lives. Do you remember that time? Imagine, this
Speaker 3: has just hit me.
Speaker 1: There was that time that you and I were sitting
Speaker 1: on my lounge at my house and there was the
Speaker 1: guy that I had started seeing.
Speaker 3: And remember we were we'd said his name, and.
Speaker 1: We started talking, talking, talking a lot of personal stuff,
Speaker 1: and my phone, my phone had dictated the whole thing
Speaker 1: to him. And I looked down and the message was
Speaker 1: about to send. Do you want to pressent? And I
Speaker 1: nearly had an aneurysm. I was like it was in
Speaker 1: Instagram and it was a voice recording. We'd voice recorded.
Speaker 3: Oh I'm dying thinking about that. I love these sorts
Speaker 3: of stories.
Speaker 2: I mean, we rely on technology for so much, but
Speaker 2: I also love hearing the times when it's totally fucked
Speaker 2: your life.
Speaker 3: I hope you're okay, rap I know someone recently you've
Speaker 3: just made me think of this.
Speaker 1: That did this worse at work was typing all these
Speaker 1: things I didn't like about a work colleague to another.
Speaker 3: They were having a bitching session, and they sent it
Speaker 3: to them. They sent it to the person that they didn't.
Speaker 3: You gotta be care.
Speaker 2: That's like a Freudian slit where you're doing something but
Speaker 2: because you're writing about the person, you think you're sending
Speaker 2: it to someone else, but you send it to them.
Speaker 3: Suggests this is the thing, right, Let's just not bitch
Speaker 3: at the end of the day. That'd be nice.
Speaker 1: I've got one, and this is something we have all done.
Speaker 1: I have a friend who has been single for a
Speaker 1: while who I am always looking out for eligible bachelors for.
Speaker 1: I really want to hook them up. There is a
Speaker 1: guy I work with and we both have agreed is
Speaker 1: an absolute babe.
Speaker 3: She would be good with him.
Speaker 1: He's a bit of a shy, introverted type, and she
Speaker 1: was telling me she doesn't know what to talk to
Speaker 1: him about. We were out drinking one night and I
Speaker 1: was trying to give her the pep talk of a lifetime,
Speaker 1: telling her to be bold and ask him out for
Speaker 1: a drink. I picked up my phone and went through
Speaker 1: to find some work related phone texts that I had
Speaker 1: had with him from months ago. I was trying to
Speaker 1: go back and look at some talking points that she
Speaker 1: could use with him, because she just had no idea
Speaker 1: what to talk about at this stage.
Speaker 3: It's about twelve thirty am and as I was scrolling, I.
Speaker 5: Had love heart reacted to a random message back from October.
Speaker 5: I quickly deleted it and then called my friend over
Speaker 5: to work out if you get notifications from iPhone messages
Speaker 5: when you react to something. We learned that not only
Speaker 5: do you get a notification, but you also get a
Speaker 5: notification when you unlike it. So at twelve thirty from
Speaker 5: six months before to a work colleague, she's love hearted
Speaker 5: his photos and then unliked them, and he got both
Speaker 5: of those messages.
Speaker 3: Would you not die? I wouldn't die. I wouldn't I
Speaker 3: would be okay. I would like, why my life? Why
Speaker 3: is that person stalking my messages from like six months ago?
Speaker 3: I don't know? Does it tell you from when though
Speaker 3: that they've liked it?
Speaker 2: They just says, yes, it comes up with a love heart,
Speaker 2: but if you've unliked it, you'll just have a notification
Speaker 2: saying that person liked a message and then you'll get
Speaker 2: another notification saying that they've unliked it. So it could
Speaker 2: have just been the message, the message from yesterday. He
Speaker 2: doesn't know that it was from a message from October.
Speaker 3: But what if he saw the like and he was like, wow,
Speaker 3: that's weird, and then he saw it unlike this, I've
Speaker 3: taken it back. Is it worse to take the heart back?
Speaker 1: Like?
Speaker 3: Do you just commit to the heart from six months ago?
Speaker 3: About the coffee that you had in your lunch bread?
Speaker 2: This is why it's great to have children, because I
Speaker 2: just blame everything on my kids. I just say, oh, sorry,
Speaker 2: my kids had my phone. Sorry, my kids are bitching
Speaker 2: about you.
Speaker 1: What do I do?
Speaker 3: What do I do when I do that? Delilah had
Speaker 3: my phone? Yeah, but it's the voice automated text like
Speaker 3: it was your text, Laura. We can hear your voice.
Speaker 3: Delilah was talking back. Dylila was talking back again. All right,
Speaker 3: it's time for suck and sweet for the week, Britt.
Speaker 2: I think that your sweet's going to be the fact
Speaker 2: that Ben gets here tonight, even though it hasn't happened.
Speaker 3: I feel like that you're preempting your sweets. But what
Speaker 3: is your suck and what is You're sweet? My suck
Speaker 3: is that? And I think it's going to turn into
Speaker 3: a sweet. My suck is a very simple one this week.
Speaker 1: But my my plant in my garden, if you follow
Speaker 1: me on Instagram, you'll see it's a beautiful I don't
Speaker 1: know what it's called. My monsterra has overgrown to a
Speaker 1: ridiculous it is crawling along.
Speaker 3: The ground and I was like, Okay, what do I
Speaker 3: do with this? Can I cut it? Do I have
Speaker 3: to put a stake in it? Do I have to
Speaker 3: put in another pop plan before you unpack this? I
Speaker 3: have a bone. That's it. It doesn't go first. Why
Speaker 3: wouldn't you ask me? I did I know everything? I
Speaker 3: did ask you? You don't watch my instagrams? I asked
Speaker 3: you on Instagram. No I watched, I replied, you asked everyone.
Speaker 3: And I was like, Brittany, you could send me a
Speaker 3: message that.
Speaker 1: Is calling you out. That means you didn't listen to it,
Speaker 1: because I specifically in my Instagram said, Laura Burn your
Speaker 1: full name, first and second name.
Speaker 3: I mean I can show you it.
Speaker 1: Yes, I did.
Speaker 3: I called you out.
Speaker 1: So all my plant people here, I could probably ask
Speaker 1: Laura Burn she'll probably know can.
Speaker 3: I like, this plan is going crazy and it's growing out.
Speaker 1: I just saw plant people and I was like, I said,
Speaker 1: Laura Burn your exact name. I was like, you have
Speaker 1: a free plant person in your life, and I'm sure.
Speaker 3: Then I don't advice. I want someone to come to
Speaker 3: my house and fix it.
Speaker 2: Your monsterra needs a steak because it isn't It's a
Speaker 2: plant that needs emotional and physical support in its life.
Speaker 2: Why no one's steaking me? It needs someone to climb up.
Speaker 2: Ben will stake you tonight and you will be climbing
Speaker 2: emotionally supportive.
Speaker 3: I will do the climbing.
Speaker 2: I was like, baby, so yes, suh, you're do you
Speaker 2: know what you say that the monsterio is you're suck?
Speaker 2: But to be fair, I'm pretty sure the Syria would
Speaker 2: say that you're their suck. They need it's reaching out.
Speaker 2: It's trying to get some support in its life and
Speaker 2: you're not giving it any.
Speaker 1: Yeah. He's still thriving though, and my SWEETE hundred percent
Speaker 1: hasn't happen yet, but it's happening in six hours.
Speaker 3: Ben's coming and I'm very excited. That's my sweet. You're
Speaker 3: gonna hear all about it.
Speaker 1: I apologize in advance for the next month that he's
Speaker 1: here and that I'm here. We're gallivanting, we're having fun,
Speaker 1: we're having adventures, we're making memories. We have our polaroid
Speaker 1: in our polaroid book. That's the cute little thing that
Speaker 1: we do. Ben has bought so many polaroids. I think
Speaker 1: we have a hundred polaroids to make in our book.
Speaker 1: And you guys are going to hear all about it.
Speaker 1: So sorry. We wait to hear what the shrine looks
Speaker 1: like after the next three weeks. The shrine spathetic, The
Speaker 1: shrine is evolving. Everyone, stay tuned my suck for the week.
Speaker 1: Do you know what?
Speaker 2: I know, We're not supposed to do this, but I've
Speaker 2: had a really really great week. Like I genuinely, we
Speaker 2: went downe to Mollymok for the weekends. I'm meant to
Speaker 2: start with my sweet We had such a good time.
Speaker 2: We went back to like I said, we went back
Speaker 2: to where we got married. It was so beautiful. Matt
Speaker 2: and I had some proper like we had some proper
Speaker 2: couple of times, which means we've had sex twice in
Speaker 2: the last week.
Speaker 3: And he's happy and everything is good. It's so funny.
Speaker 2: We was sitting at lunch the other day and he said,
Speaker 2: I've put it together and I was like, oh yeah,
Speaker 2: He's like, I know what it is.
Speaker 3: And I was like, what are you talking about. I'm
Speaker 3: happier with sex.
Speaker 2: He's like, I feel happier when we have sex. And
Speaker 2: I was like, that's great that. I'm really glad that
Speaker 2: you came to that realization. He's like, no, but like,
Speaker 2: when we haven't had sex for a long time, I
Speaker 2: think that there's something wrong. He's like, but then when
Speaker 2: we do have sex a lot, he's like, I'm just content.
Speaker 3: Life is good. So, I mean that's a lesson for
Speaker 3: a man.
Speaker 2: He's a simple man, I know, kind of goes against
Speaker 2: everything that we teach on this podcast, but no, because
Speaker 2: sex is important. Yeah, he's reinforcing stereotypes and thank thank
Speaker 2: god for that. Yeah. So, anyway, we had a great
Speaker 2: weekend really time family wise, a couple wise, parenting wise.
Speaker 3: It was just a lot of goals in that respect.
Speaker 2: And I would say that the only suck, but it's
Speaker 2: going to be my suck ongoing is On the way home,
Speaker 2: we went and saw Neil and spent some more time
Speaker 2: Danny Wollongong, and he's just it's just awful. It's just
Speaker 2: awful because it is exactly as we described it the
Speaker 2: other week. It's that long goodbye. And I think because
Speaker 2: Neil is so sick, it is really hard to sit
Speaker 2: in the trivial things, like there's been lots of stuff
Speaker 2: that's happened lately that normally I would go, oh, that's
Speaker 2: my suck, or that's my suck, like breaking down, paying
Speaker 2: to get my car fixed, like there's been so many
Speaker 2: small things that are life inconveniences. But then every time
Speaker 2: I go down to Wollongong and I spend time with
Speaker 2: my mom and I see Neil, I'm like, why are
Speaker 2: we complaying? They don't they don't compare. So that, yeah,
Speaker 2: in itself perspective is a wonderful thing. Yeah, yeah, it
Speaker 2: really is. But anyway, guys, that is it from us, Britt.
Speaker 2: I'm so happy for you, and I can't wait for
Speaker 2: the updates. Spare me the gory details, but I'm very,
Speaker 2: very happy. And it's just like you don't want to
Speaker 2: know tell me about.
Speaker 3: Before we me to buy and Bay weekend, so you
Speaker 3: can't wait to hear about that two minutes. Yeah, but
Speaker 3: that's only the first time. He'll back it up.
Speaker 2: And anyway, guys, if you've missed the visuals, we also
Speaker 2: have a YouTube channel, so if you want to hear
Speaker 2: and see all about Britney's escapades you can video in
Speaker 2: My Escapades is not a only band. You can join
Speaker 2: us on YouTube and go and watch all the episodes.
Speaker 1: You cannot fake solicit my sex life to people on
Speaker 1: our YouTube to get subscribed.
Speaker 3: It's just subscribe because you like us, not because you
Speaker 3: want to see some sex. Britney's doing doggie on YouTube anyway.
Speaker 2: And that's it with the Dilah, not Doggie my doggy
Speaker 2: on there you siccos you.
Speaker 3: Are fucking cut that. That is it from us.
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