WEBVTT - Can You Have Relationships with People That Have Different Values to You? Travis Kelce Thinks Yes. 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:03.360 Life on Cut acknowledges the traditional custodians of country whose 0:00:03.440 --> 0:00:06.120 lands were never seated. We pay our respects to their 0:00:06.160 --> 0:00:07.560 elders past and present. 0:00:07.560 --> 0:00:11.360 Always was, always will be Aboriginal Land. This episode was 0:00:11.360 --> 0:00:23.640 recorded on gaddigal Land. Hi, guys, and welcome back to 0:00:23.640 --> 0:00:25.000 another episode of Life on Cut. 0:00:25.040 --> 0:00:28.479 I'm Laura, I'm Brittany, and nothing keeps you more humble. 0:00:28.560 --> 0:00:30.720 I tell you what than you lot like. I came 0:00:30.760 --> 0:00:33.880 in here today, vibe and myself, I thought I looked 0:00:33.960 --> 0:00:34.640 winter chic. 0:00:34.840 --> 0:00:37.919 You do look winter she i winter welding Yakshi. 0:00:38.159 --> 0:00:41.760 I have a beautiful little winter knit on that's like 0:00:41.880 --> 0:00:43.760 short with short sleeves. So it's like that in between 0:00:43.800 --> 0:00:46.479 because we're actually two days out of winter. And some 0:00:46.560 --> 0:00:48.120 new knee high boots. Well I've had him for a 0:00:48.120 --> 0:00:50.519 couple of weeks, but they're like fashion faar. 0:00:50.760 --> 0:00:53.199 We need to take a photo of these because things 0:00:53.240 --> 0:00:53.760 on YouTube. 0:00:56.040 --> 0:00:58.200 Okay, put your leg up in the air, anyone on YouTube, 0:00:58.680 --> 0:01:03.840 come and have a squeeze. They are imagine boots that 0:01:03.920 --> 0:01:06.959 went all the way up to your LaBier and then 0:01:07.000 --> 0:01:08.119 you folded them back down. 0:01:08.319 --> 0:01:10.280 Your laber comes to your knee. Mine doesn't. 0:01:11.560 --> 0:01:13.560 Well, then they wouldn't be as folded over as yours 0:01:13.560 --> 0:01:15.800 if they were my LaBier. But I'm saying, imagine if 0:01:15.800 --> 0:01:17.759 your boots came all the way up to your upper 0:01:17.800 --> 0:01:19.840 thigh and then you folded that down over. 0:01:20.680 --> 0:01:25.080 It's just a double layered boot. It's big in Paris. 0:01:29.120 --> 0:01:29.760 I love them. 0:01:29.840 --> 0:01:32.120 It's a vibe. Don't be jelly. But I'm just telling 0:01:32.120 --> 0:01:34.760 you what they remind me of. They remind me of welding, 0:01:35.160 --> 0:01:37.959 welding work boots. So if you're working with like molten 0:01:38.000 --> 0:01:40.080 metal and also the bottom of a yak. 0:01:42.600 --> 0:01:44.119 Literally just said, I look like a yak. She goes, 0:01:44.160 --> 0:01:48.040 what's that animal with heaps of hair down the front? Thanks, guys, 0:01:48.400 --> 0:01:49.920 I tell you I. 0:01:49.840 --> 0:01:52.480 Woke up this morning and I have the start of 0:01:52.520 --> 0:01:59.360 a sty and it's the most annoying thing ever. And 0:01:59.400 --> 0:02:00.960 I was sitting the through and I was like, what 0:02:00.960 --> 0:02:02.520 do I do? Do I pop it? Do I touch it? 0:02:03.440 --> 0:02:04.400 How do you deal with a sty? 0:02:04.600 --> 0:02:06.960 I know what to do your tea bag yourself, not 0:02:07.000 --> 0:02:09.120 Maddie j but you put probably how I got it 0:02:09.120 --> 0:02:13.920 in the first place. That's not how you make babies. 0:02:14.320 --> 0:02:17.520 You actually get like a green I'm pretty sure it's green. 0:02:17.680 --> 0:02:20.400 It's a specific type of tea bag, green tea bag, 0:02:20.600 --> 0:02:23.640 and you soak it in the water, and then you 0:02:23.680 --> 0:02:25.360 put the whole you lay down and you put the 0:02:25.360 --> 0:02:26.600 whole tea bag on your eye. 0:02:26.639 --> 0:02:28.560 I promise you this is a thing. When I was 0:02:28.600 --> 0:02:30.520 growing up, I used to get them really bad. My 0:02:30.600 --> 0:02:32.440 grandma used to always say that you should rub a 0:02:32.440 --> 0:02:34.359 gold ring on it. That's like an old wives tail 0:02:34.400 --> 0:02:37.320 that if you get a star, you rub a gold ring. 0:02:41.440 --> 0:02:44.839 Which is when you think about that, when you think 0:02:44.840 --> 0:02:47.880 about how not mad when you think about. 0:02:47.720 --> 0:02:48.440 A gold ring. 0:02:48.720 --> 0:02:52.800 So journey, it's so unhygienic. What a stupid old wives 0:02:52.800 --> 0:02:54.639 to hate. So you have an infection in your eye, 0:02:54.840 --> 0:02:57.480 rub something that's clearly not clean on. 0:02:57.400 --> 0:02:58.480 Your eye to get rid of it. 0:02:59.120 --> 0:03:01.520 Yeah, anyway, I don't know what's worse between having a 0:03:01.560 --> 0:03:03.800 stye and having hemorrhoids. I'm fucking done with the day. 0:03:04.160 --> 0:03:06.920 Well that escalated, I'm done. I'm done. 0:03:07.000 --> 0:03:09.200 You know, no one would have known you had hemorrhoids 0:03:09.200 --> 0:03:10.760 if you didn't throw it in there. I like that, 0:03:10.800 --> 0:03:12.400 you like, let me just tell you everything's wrong with 0:03:12.400 --> 0:03:12.799 me right now. 0:03:12.800 --> 0:03:16.040 If you've vaginally birthed two children, I'm going to take 0:03:16.040 --> 0:03:18.840 a punt that you've got hemorrhoids. I don't think it's 0:03:18.840 --> 0:03:20.959 one hundred percent, but no, but it's a high stat 0:03:21.120 --> 0:03:23.600 I reckon you'd be pretty good if you place that bet, though, 0:03:23.680 --> 0:03:24.880 if your life depended on it. 0:03:24.919 --> 0:03:25.480 Do they don't they? 0:03:25.520 --> 0:03:28.320 If there's a game of hemorrhoid roulet, you'd be pretty 0:03:28.320 --> 0:03:29.320 good saying yes. 0:03:29.360 --> 0:03:31.640 If that person's got two kids. That's a lot from morning, 0:03:31.680 --> 0:03:32.440 isn't it. 0:03:32.440 --> 0:03:35.120 It's Monday morning right now here in the studio, and 0:03:35.160 --> 0:03:36.960 that is a lot even for me, and I've done 0:03:36.960 --> 0:03:37.600 it well. 0:03:37.480 --> 0:03:39.400 Thank god, I don't have a stye. But the time 0:03:39.440 --> 0:03:43.600 has come. Today's Monday. Ben is arriving tonight. He's on 0:03:43.640 --> 0:03:45.760 a plane right now, so when you guys are listening 0:03:45.840 --> 0:03:48.400 to this, we could still be having sex. He would 0:03:48.400 --> 0:03:50.839 have been here for about if you download this first 0:03:50.840 --> 0:03:52.600 thing in the morning, produce a kish wants to cut 0:03:52.600 --> 0:03:52.800 that out. 0:03:52.840 --> 0:03:53.840 I can see your eyes wronging. 0:03:54.400 --> 0:03:56.160 If you listen to this first thing in the morning, 0:03:56.240 --> 0:03:58.640 he would have been here at like eleven PM that night. 0:03:58.880 --> 0:04:01.360 Can I tell you when my stepbrother listened to the 0:04:01.400 --> 0:04:03.240 episode that we did last week, when we were talking 0:04:03.240 --> 0:04:05.560 about me or my stepdad, he said, oh, you know 0:04:05.800 --> 0:04:08.280 He was like, I'm really grateful for how you spoke 0:04:08.280 --> 0:04:09.080 about everything. 0:04:09.120 --> 0:04:09.440 He goes. 0:04:09.480 --> 0:04:11.600 However, I just want to make a note I probably 0:04:11.600 --> 0:04:14.000 won't listen to any more episodes after listening to Britt 0:04:14.040 --> 0:04:16.839 talk about her boyfriend coming in her for the ten 0:04:16.880 --> 0:04:19.000 minutes start of that episode, He's like, it really did 0:04:19.000 --> 0:04:19.320 me over. 0:04:19.680 --> 0:04:22.239 He was like, interesting trajectory that your podcast takes. 0:04:22.240 --> 0:04:24.839 How you managed to talk about that stuff, then go 0:04:24.960 --> 0:04:27.800 into palliative care, and then talk about whatever else it 0:04:27.880 --> 0:04:29.000 was that we covered on that episode. 0:04:29.000 --> 0:04:31.720 It was a real rollercoaster of an emotion. Yes, it is, 0:04:31.839 --> 0:04:33.640 and sometimes that's what happens. 0:04:33.680 --> 0:04:35.920 I guess that's what life on CUNT is, right, A 0:04:35.920 --> 0:04:37.960 b to be bite hiddelo bit of everything. 0:04:38.000 --> 0:04:39.800 Well, we do have a very I think it's a 0:04:39.839 --> 0:04:41.920 very interesting episode of you guys. Today. We're talking about 0:04:41.960 --> 0:04:45.440 whether you can maintain friendships and relationships with people who 0:04:45.480 --> 0:04:48.239 have very differing views to you, whether it be political, 0:04:48.240 --> 0:04:50.080 whether it be religious. But obviously we have a few 0:04:50.080 --> 0:04:52.760 things to cover first, brit do you have any plans 0:04:52.800 --> 0:04:55.680 for whilst Ben is here? Like, is there any apart 0:04:55.680 --> 0:04:57.880 from just being excited for him to be landing in 0:04:57.880 --> 0:05:00.320 the country This evening Is there anything else that you 0:05:00.360 --> 0:05:00.880 have going on? 0:05:01.080 --> 0:05:01.159 Oh? 0:05:01.279 --> 0:05:02.160 Yeah, So we've booked. 0:05:02.279 --> 0:05:05.640 Basically he's here for three weeks and it's pretty NonStop, 0:05:05.680 --> 0:05:07.920 like every weekend is a long weekend because I want 0:05:07.960 --> 0:05:10.279 to try and show him different parts of Australia and 0:05:10.320 --> 0:05:11.960 we also need to try and fit my family in 0:05:12.000 --> 0:05:15.080 as well. Import McCrory, I'm taking him deep sea fishing. 0:05:15.440 --> 0:05:17.320 We're going back to Hamilton Island. We're going to the 0:05:17.360 --> 0:05:20.039 Gold Coast so he can meet my, like two of 0:05:20.080 --> 0:05:22.599 my really close friends up there. Because the thing is, 0:05:22.640 --> 0:05:25.080 we've been together, I don't know of eighteen months now, 0:05:25.080 --> 0:05:27.200 and he doesn't really know anyone in my life, like 0:05:27.320 --> 0:05:29.599 he's met you guys, and then and my family and 0:05:29.600 --> 0:05:32.320 that's it because I guess we only see each other 0:05:32.320 --> 0:05:33.920 every couple of months and we're always going on a 0:05:33.960 --> 0:05:36.120 holiday to spend our time together. So I really wanted 0:05:36.200 --> 0:05:38.320 him to meet my really close friends on the Gold Coast. 0:05:38.800 --> 0:05:41.160 So we're gonna go out there, have some dinners, meet 0:05:41.160 --> 0:05:43.560 one of his friends in Byron Bay. It's actually a lot, 0:05:43.640 --> 0:05:45.960 but I'm most excited to take him deep sea fishing. 0:05:46.360 --> 0:05:48.719 So it's so random. It's so random, but it's also 0:05:48.800 --> 0:05:50.560 so cute. I feel like you guys are on and 0:05:50.880 --> 0:05:53.039 I guess it is, but you're always on a perpetual 0:05:53.040 --> 0:05:55.440 holiday when you're together. Yeah, so you're like, this is 0:05:55.480 --> 0:05:56.440 my life what you like? 0:05:56.600 --> 0:05:58.039 But do you know what I said to Ben? I said, 0:05:58.040 --> 0:05:59.240 what are you most excited about? 0:05:59.240 --> 0:06:01.640 Because I've made all the plans because you have to 0:06:01.680 --> 0:06:03.480 plan it right otherwise the time goes too quickly and 0:06:03.560 --> 0:06:04.560 you don't get anything done. 0:06:04.760 --> 0:06:06.320 And I was like, what are you most excited about? 0:06:06.560 --> 0:06:08.640 And He's like, to be honest, I'm just most excited 0:06:08.640 --> 0:06:11.080 about going for a walk with you and Delilah, holding 0:06:11.120 --> 0:06:13.039 your hand and just doing normal stuff. He's like just 0:06:13.080 --> 0:06:15.839 walking down the street to the coffee shop like that 0:06:15.920 --> 0:06:17.440 I go to every day because I call him at 0:06:17.440 --> 0:06:19.240 the same coffee shop every day, going to the dog 0:06:19.279 --> 0:06:21.080 park that I go to. He just wants to live 0:06:21.360 --> 0:06:23.520 those normal things. And to me, that was the best 0:06:23.520 --> 0:06:25.760 because I'm like, I've just made this amazing three holiday 0:06:25.760 --> 0:06:27.600 and all he wants to do is literally go for 0:06:27.640 --> 0:06:29.599 a walk and hold my hand, like stop it. 0:06:29.880 --> 0:06:34.160 Like that is the cutest thick Do you think that 0:06:34.200 --> 0:06:36.800 there is any possibility that he might propose? 0:06:36.920 --> 0:06:39.080 And I know we discussed it's a good episode. 0:06:39.480 --> 0:06:42.320 But I'm curious as to how you feel about it 0:06:42.360 --> 0:06:44.320 and whether you think because you know, I mean we 0:06:44.920 --> 0:06:46.280 I say it like I don't know, like we talk 0:06:46.320 --> 0:06:48.320 about this stuff, but you guys don't know, so I. 0:06:48.240 --> 0:06:51.839 Think I I mean, I would probably be shocked if 0:06:51.880 --> 0:06:53.080 he didn't propose this year. 0:06:53.440 --> 0:06:56.080 Okay, but we have three more, like you like, he's 0:06:56.080 --> 0:06:56.440 got time. 0:06:56.960 --> 0:07:00.240 Yeah, we've got three, like more holidays that we're together 0:07:00.320 --> 0:07:03.599 this year. Sometimes we'll be with Jane Sherry over in Europe, 0:07:03.640 --> 0:07:04.840 then we're spending Christmas together. 0:07:04.920 --> 0:07:06.239 We've got a few more little trips. 0:07:07.040 --> 0:07:09.440 But the way we have talked about our future and 0:07:09.480 --> 0:07:12.760 like our timeline of things like weddings or kids and moving, 0:07:13.320 --> 0:07:15.600 I'd be shocked if it's not twenty twenty four. 0:07:15.840 --> 0:07:17.480 Yeah, you're like it's coming. 0:07:17.880 --> 0:07:20.960 Trying to see myself a buffer in case it doesn't happen. 0:07:21.000 --> 0:07:22.960 I'm like, I will be shocked if it's not by 0:07:22.960 --> 0:07:27.080 twenty twenty seven. So yeah, but I I, I don't know. 0:07:27.120 --> 0:07:29.360 I just can't see him doing it because I plan everything. 0:07:30.120 --> 0:07:31.920 He doesn't even know how can he plan it? He 0:07:31.920 --> 0:07:34.320 doesn't even know where we're going or where we're staying. 0:07:34.400 --> 0:07:36.480 He doesn't know anything because I do it all. So 0:07:36.520 --> 0:07:38.400 I'm like, unless you're just going to carry a ring 0:07:38.440 --> 0:07:41.640 around and hope that we hit somewhere aesthetic but there's 0:07:41.640 --> 0:07:43.560 no one around and it's a you know, which. 0:07:43.400 --> 0:07:44.200 I guess he could do. 0:07:44.360 --> 0:07:46.640 But but then you're also like planned a little bit 0:07:46.640 --> 0:07:47.880 because I want a nice photo of it. 0:07:47.960 --> 0:07:49.080 I want a memory. 0:07:48.920 --> 0:07:51.600 Video and record that i'll never forget, like where Matt 0:07:51.640 --> 0:07:53.560 proposed and we went to Fiji, and it should have 0:07:53.560 --> 0:07:55.200 been a dead giveaway that the guy set up a 0:07:55.240 --> 0:07:56.640 go pro, but he. 0:07:56.600 --> 0:07:59.640 Always sets up no, no, no. As soon as I saw 0:07:59.640 --> 0:08:03.320 the go pro, I was like, oh, did you think? Yeah? 0:08:03.560 --> 0:08:04.840 I did a bit. 0:08:05.040 --> 0:08:06.840 But then he just started crying, and I was like, 0:08:06.920 --> 0:08:09.720 what's going on? Because it wasn't It didn't seem like 0:08:09.760 --> 0:08:13.000 he was happy. Why have I never seen the video 0:08:13.600 --> 0:08:16.800 actually because probably because I was like, I honestly for 0:08:16.840 --> 0:08:18.760 a second thought he was going to tell me something horrible, 0:08:18.760 --> 0:08:21.200 like he had cancer, because he just started crying and 0:08:21.240 --> 0:08:23.240 wanted to capture on film, but didn't do it in 0:08:23.280 --> 0:08:25.440 a way that seemed positive. He was crying and I 0:08:25.480 --> 0:08:27.000 was like, and then when he proposed, I was like, 0:08:27.200 --> 0:08:28.320 are you trapped? Right? 0:08:28.440 --> 0:08:29.480 Now also dying. 0:08:29.720 --> 0:08:32.920 Blink twice if you're okay with this, Blink twice if 0:08:32.920 --> 0:08:35.800 this is actually voluntary part of a contract or is 0:08:35.800 --> 0:08:37.240 it just because I got pregnant? 0:08:37.280 --> 0:08:38.640 What's happening here? Nah? 0:08:38.679 --> 0:08:40.960 He would keep crying because it was so overwhelmed by emotion. 0:08:41.040 --> 0:08:42.640 Couldn't you control have the video? 0:08:43.280 --> 0:08:45.800 Yeah? Can I see it? I'm pretty sure it's on Instagram? 0:08:45.920 --> 0:08:46.880 Is it? Maybe? 0:08:47.000 --> 0:08:49.480 I feel like I've never seen it just without sound. 0:08:49.880 --> 0:08:51.880 Maybe it was too triggering from me, so I watch 0:08:51.920 --> 0:08:56.400 it well. Speaking of weddings, speaking of proposals. On the 0:08:56.400 --> 0:08:58.640 weekend just passed, we went down to Mollymog. We took 0:08:58.640 --> 0:09:00.280 the kids down to Mollymog. It's like three and a 0:09:00.320 --> 0:09:02.080 half hours from Sydney. If you're not familiar with it, 0:09:02.080 --> 0:09:04.720 it's right on the coast. But it's also where Matt 0:09:04.720 --> 0:09:06.920 and I got married, and it's the first time we've 0:09:06.960 --> 0:09:09.439 been down there since our wedding. And we went back 0:09:09.520 --> 0:09:12.400 to our wedding venue and we had such a sweet 0:09:12.520 --> 0:09:13.360 couple of days. 0:09:13.960 --> 0:09:16.560 But there's something really I don't know, there's something. 0:09:16.360 --> 0:09:18.840 Really odd about going back to your wedding venue on 0:09:18.920 --> 0:09:21.440 a day where it's just functioning like a normal restaurant 0:09:21.559 --> 0:09:23.360 because we were standing didn't have quite the. 0:09:23.320 --> 0:09:26.240 Magic where there's like kids running around. 0:09:27.120 --> 0:09:28.800 I was like, standing in the same spot and then 0:09:28.840 --> 0:09:30.600 had to ask, like some sixteen year old waiter. 0:09:30.640 --> 0:09:32.040 I was like, can you take a photo of us? 0:09:32.320 --> 0:09:33.680 And he and then did you explain it? 0:09:33.679 --> 0:09:35.360 We got married here and Matt was like, you don't 0:09:35.360 --> 0:09:36.880 need to tell this man our whole story. And I 0:09:36.920 --> 0:09:39.520 was like, oh, we got married here and we had 0:09:39.559 --> 0:09:41.560 the kids, and Matt was like, shut up, Laura, just 0:09:41.600 --> 0:09:43.400 a dog. And so then he was taking a photo 0:09:43.440 --> 0:09:44.920 and I was like, no, could you take a portrait? 0:09:45.080 --> 0:09:48.000 And anyways, do that it was embarrassing, so I can 0:09:48.080 --> 0:09:49.480 use it for slippit flipp it. 0:09:49.679 --> 0:09:51.520 God knows, I'm not taking these mone memories. 0:09:51.559 --> 0:09:55.360 I'm taking them for Instagram the camera around, so anyway, 0:09:55.400 --> 0:09:57.040 it was really cute, but also it was kind of 0:09:57.080 --> 0:09:59.320 nice to have a little moment where we got to 0:09:59.360 --> 0:10:01.840 go back to we set all of those beautiful things 0:10:01.840 --> 0:10:03.480 to each other and set our vows to each other. 0:10:03.920 --> 0:10:05.920 I don't know, I don't even know how to describe it, 0:10:05.720 --> 0:10:07.640 be like, oh, I remember that day and how much 0:10:07.679 --> 0:10:09.480 love there was and how much we love each other. 0:10:09.640 --> 0:10:10.760 It was a beautiful day. 0:10:10.800 --> 0:10:12.640 But you know the thing, and I'm like, you can 0:10:12.679 --> 0:10:14.640 probably see me about to laugh, the thing that I 0:10:14.679 --> 0:10:16.560 think of when I think of your wedding. I don't 0:10:16.600 --> 0:10:18.480 know why, and I hate that this is the first 0:10:18.520 --> 0:10:19.680 memory that popped into my head. 0:10:19.720 --> 0:10:22.920 But I can't ever forget when you were mad. 0:10:25.880 --> 0:10:28.199 We're trying to have that really cool moment. It's a 0:10:28.280 --> 0:10:30.480 video moment, it's a shop moment, it's a moment for 0:10:30.480 --> 0:10:30.880 the crowd. 0:10:30.920 --> 0:10:33.240 It's like whatever. But you were trying to fill all 0:10:33.240 --> 0:10:38.360 the champagne. You know, when you have it's hour of champagne. 0:10:38.360 --> 0:10:41.079 Glasses it and it flows over. 0:10:41.200 --> 0:10:43.440 You had too many and everyone was like whoa at 0:10:43.440 --> 0:10:44.880 the start, and then it was like twenty minutes and 0:10:44.880 --> 0:10:46.319 they weren't even half full, and you were still poor, 0:10:46.360 --> 0:10:47.880 and you're like, fuck it, you didn't even finish it. 0:10:47.880 --> 0:10:48.679 You weren't done. 0:10:48.840 --> 0:10:51.400 We did the champagne fountain. My advice is, if you 0:10:51.400 --> 0:10:54.280 have a champagne fountain at your wedding, yeah, you only 0:10:54.320 --> 0:10:57.600 need like three or four layers, because otherwise four also 0:10:57.679 --> 0:10:59.360 cost us a bowl. We had to empty out like 0:10:59.400 --> 0:11:01.480 ten bottles champagne to try and feel it. No one 0:11:01.559 --> 0:11:03.320 drank it, and we had to pay for that champagne. 0:11:03.400 --> 0:11:04.960 That's your waist. You didn't even feel it. 0:11:04.960 --> 0:11:07.319 It didn't even work, did you You crack the shits, 0:11:07.440 --> 0:11:08.440 It didn't even work. 0:11:08.480 --> 0:11:10.800 That is so funny. Oh that's really nice. It was 0:11:10.840 --> 0:11:13.640 really nice. That's unhappy. Would you read me of ours? 0:11:13.679 --> 0:11:15.080 Like at some point go back there? 0:11:15.200 --> 0:11:17.439 Yeah. So when we were there, Marley and Lawla, when 0:11:17.440 --> 0:11:19.080 we were leaving, they started crying and they're like, but 0:11:19.080 --> 0:11:21.280 we didn't even get married. We didn't even have a wedding. 0:11:21.320 --> 0:11:24.040 And I was like, no, you've done you've miss You've 0:11:24.040 --> 0:11:26.720 misunderstood what the purpose of today was. We will do 0:11:26.760 --> 0:11:28.600 that again. But yeah, I think ten years, don't you 0:11:28.600 --> 0:11:30.480 do like a wedding renewal or of our renew at 0:11:30.520 --> 0:11:31.000 ten years? 0:11:31.080 --> 0:11:33.520 Well you don't have to, but like Hollywood does, Yeah 0:11:33.559 --> 0:11:33.960 we will. 0:11:34.160 --> 0:11:36.240 I think Justin Bieber and Hailey Beaver just did to 0:11:36.320 --> 0:11:38.000 be married for like thirty seconds. 0:11:38.040 --> 0:11:40.040 Yeah, but they've been through a lot, they have lived 0:11:40.040 --> 0:11:43.319 a life. That couple. Well they're pregnant. Good for them anyway. 0:11:45.760 --> 0:11:48.000 So you guys might have seen it two weeks ago. 0:11:48.240 --> 0:11:50.440 There is a speech that has gone absolutely viral and 0:11:50.480 --> 0:11:54.040 now it's Harrison Butker who is an American footballer and 0:11:54.120 --> 0:11:57.560 he gave a graduation speech at the Benedictine College, which 0:11:57.600 --> 0:12:02.400 is a Catholic college. People are incredibly divided around the 0:12:02.520 --> 0:12:05.720 values that were described in his speech, and the reason 0:12:05.720 --> 0:12:08.520 for that is is because when you put it into context. Firstly, yes, 0:12:08.559 --> 0:12:11.360 it is a Catholic college, but this speech was given 0:12:11.480 --> 0:12:15.840 to women, men, to people who have graduated from their degrees, 0:12:15.920 --> 0:12:19.640 so they have dedicated the last three to potentially longer five, six, 0:12:19.679 --> 0:12:21.120 seven years, and then a lot. 0:12:20.960 --> 0:12:23.360 Of money because Americans have to pay a lot of 0:12:23.360 --> 0:12:24.679 money for their colleges. 0:12:24.320 --> 0:12:29.440 To become qualified doctors, lawyers, surgeons, teachers, etc. So off 0:12:29.480 --> 0:12:31.959 the back of this, the thing that was so divisive 0:12:32.240 --> 0:12:34.920 is the part in his speech that he speaks about 0:12:34.960 --> 0:12:38.319 a woman's most important vocation in life, and that was 0:12:38.480 --> 0:12:41.760 as described by Harrison himself, to be a wife or 0:12:42.080 --> 0:12:42.480 a mother. 0:12:43.320 --> 0:12:45.400 Some of you may go on to lead successful careers 0:12:45.440 --> 0:12:47.520 in the world, but I would venture to guess that 0:12:47.600 --> 0:12:50.760 the majority of you are most excited about your marriage 0:12:50.840 --> 0:12:53.680 and the children you will bring into this world. I 0:12:53.720 --> 0:12:56.200 can tell you that my beautiful wife, Isabelle would be 0:12:56.200 --> 0:12:59.120 the first to say that her life truly started when 0:12:59.120 --> 0:13:01.960 she began living her vocation as a wife and as 0:13:02.000 --> 0:13:02.360 a mother. 0:13:03.559 --> 0:13:05.760 Now, we I mean we discussed this quite a bit 0:13:05.800 --> 0:13:07.400 a couple of weeks ago as to whether we would 0:13:07.440 --> 0:13:09.880 even talk about this on the pod, And the reason 0:13:09.920 --> 0:13:12.360 for that is because so many other podcasts and news 0:13:12.400 --> 0:13:14.560 outlets have covered it. We kind of felt like it 0:13:14.600 --> 0:13:17.959 was flogging a dead horse, even though I myself had 0:13:18.000 --> 0:13:20.360 made a video on Instagram about it, and we've had 0:13:20.440 --> 0:13:23.480 lots of conversations internally. But the reason why we're talking 0:13:23.520 --> 0:13:25.640 about this now is because there has been more to 0:13:25.679 --> 0:13:28.960 the story. So Travis Kelsey, who we all know is 0:13:28.960 --> 0:13:31.920 Taylor Swist's boyfriend, has come out on his podcast and 0:13:32.040 --> 0:13:34.720 has given a statement around this speech itself, and he's 0:13:34.760 --> 0:13:38.720 spoken about how, even though he doesn't believe in Harrison's values, 0:13:39.000 --> 0:13:41.680 how he loves and adores him as a teammate and 0:13:41.760 --> 0:13:42.440 as a person. 0:13:42.920 --> 0:13:44.320 Yeah, so on Travis's. 0:13:43.920 --> 0:13:46.200 Own podcast, he came out and said, I cherish him 0:13:46.240 --> 0:13:49.080 as a teammate. He's treated the family that I've introduced 0:13:49.120 --> 0:13:51.880 to him with nothing but respect and kindness, and that 0:13:52.040 --> 0:13:54.680 is how he treats everyone when it comes down to 0:13:54.760 --> 0:13:57.599 his views and what he says at Saint better Diictine's 0:13:57.640 --> 0:13:58.560 commencement speech. 0:13:58.920 --> 0:13:59.679 Those are his. 0:14:01.080 --> 0:14:03.120 I can't say I agree with the majority of it 0:14:03.240 --> 0:14:05.760 or just about any of it outside of just him 0:14:05.800 --> 0:14:07.760 loving his family and his kids. And I don't think 0:14:07.760 --> 0:14:09.880 that I should judge him by his views, especially his 0:14:09.960 --> 0:14:12.360 religious views of how to go about life. 0:14:12.480 --> 0:14:13.640 That's just not who I am. 0:14:14.640 --> 0:14:18.439 I genuinely really liked Travis's statement. His brother said something 0:14:18.559 --> 0:14:21.120 very similar, Like his brother went on to say, there's 0:14:21.120 --> 0:14:23.400 always going to be opinions that everybody shares that you're 0:14:23.400 --> 0:14:26.560 going to disagree with. Another one of his teammates, Patrick Mahome, 0:14:26.600 --> 0:14:29.600 who's like also uber famous in that world, came and 0:14:29.600 --> 0:14:32.280 made a very similar statement. And I quite like the 0:14:32.280 --> 0:14:35.720 fact that his team are supporting him for who he 0:14:35.840 --> 0:14:38.280 is and who they know him to be, even though 0:14:38.280 --> 0:14:40.040 they don't agree with his opinions. And I think the 0:14:40.080 --> 0:14:43.120 reason that his speech in general was so divisive is 0:14:43.160 --> 0:14:47.080 because it is perceived to be quite regressive. The reason 0:14:47.280 --> 0:14:49.440 is he goes on to speak a lot about IVF 0:14:49.720 --> 0:14:52.200 being unnatural and that it shouldn't be happening, about same 0:14:52.240 --> 0:14:55.400 sex relationships are not natural in God's eyes, and in 0:14:55.440 --> 0:14:58.360 his eyes, he doesn't believe in contraception. If you can't 0:14:58.360 --> 0:15:01.280 have children naturally, you should going down the IVF route. 0:15:01.320 --> 0:15:03.120 Oh yeah, there are lots of things in there that 0:15:03.200 --> 0:15:05.400 I think a lot of shit. If you listen to 0:15:05.400 --> 0:15:07.640 the full twenty minute speech will rile a lot of 0:15:07.680 --> 0:15:08.200 people up. 0:15:08.280 --> 0:15:10.120 So this brings us to the question that we wanted 0:15:10.120 --> 0:15:15.560 to speak about today. Can you have a relationship with people, friendships, associations, work, colleagues, 0:15:15.960 --> 0:15:18.760 romantic relationships? Can you have these relationships with someone that 0:15:18.840 --> 0:15:22.440 you feel so strongly about different views, political or religious, 0:15:22.520 --> 0:15:25.640 or whatever it seems to be. And I personally quite 0:15:25.920 --> 0:15:29.040 like Jason and Travis's statement on their podcast. 0:15:29.240 --> 0:15:30.440 I like a lot of the other. 0:15:30.320 --> 0:15:33.560 Teammates from the Chiefs came out and showed their support 0:15:34.000 --> 0:15:36.000 but said they didn't necessarily agree with their views. 0:15:36.040 --> 0:15:38.520 And I think personally there is. 0:15:38.480 --> 0:15:41.960 A huge part of me that detests this guy and 0:15:42.040 --> 0:15:45.880 every single thing he said, absolutely, And the reason is 0:15:46.760 --> 0:15:49.440 myself perceives his speech to be quite regressive. And I 0:15:49.440 --> 0:15:52.360 think a lot of the population that probably aren't heavily 0:15:52.400 --> 0:15:55.120 Catholic perceive it to be quite regressive. And now I 0:15:55.120 --> 0:15:58.000 do want to say a lot of Catholic population, because 0:15:58.040 --> 0:16:00.520 there are some people that are Catholic that don't necessarily 0:16:00.520 --> 0:16:02.600 agree with what he said. But the key word here 0:16:02.680 --> 0:16:06.720 is perceived. It's how we view his opinion and his thoughts. 0:16:06.800 --> 0:16:09.160 And this is where it gets really tricky and a 0:16:09.160 --> 0:16:11.200 little bit muddy. Harrison went on to say a lot 0:16:11.240 --> 0:16:13.760 of other shit like that is so cooked. A lot 0:16:13.760 --> 0:16:18.320