Speaker 1: Hi, guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life
Speaker 1: on Cut.
Speaker 2: I'm Laura, and I'm Brittany, and I'm also very sorry Laura.
Speaker 1: Guys, I am in so much trouble.
Speaker 2: I have just done the most rookie thing you could
Speaker 2: possibly do.
Speaker 1: Now.
Speaker 2: I have done something that we've probably done once ever,
Speaker 2: which was maybe two years ago at the beginning of
Speaker 2: the podcast.
Speaker 1: It's something that you should never do.
Speaker 2: I mixed my microphones up, so I have been recording
Speaker 2: off the wrong microphone. We just did a killer episode.
Speaker 2: I mean, okay, we only did the start of the episode,
Speaker 2: but it was killer.
Speaker 1: We were on fire.
Speaker 2: We were on like a roller coaster that was had
Speaker 2: no intention of ever ending.
Speaker 1: It was going so well. It was full steam ahead.
Speaker 1: It was full steam ahead.
Speaker 2: And then I just looked over at my I just
Speaker 2: saw I just glanced over and I was like, that
Speaker 2: is not tracking on my podcast machine like it probably
Speaker 2: should be. And then I had a moment, Look, Laura,
Speaker 2: I'm gonna be honest. I probably knew for about three minutes,
Speaker 2: and I was too scared to tell you. I was like,
Speaker 2: how do I how do I tell Laura what's happening
Speaker 2: right now?
Speaker 1: Because I was. I was like, I was gonna get
Speaker 1: in trouble and I'm so sorry. How do I tell
Speaker 1: you that you fired? Excuse me? I am I'm an
Speaker 1: og beginner, so you can't find me. Hey.
Speaker 2: Then the other thing that's so funny about this though,
Speaker 2: it's okay, whatever we here, we are, We're going for gold.
Speaker 2: This is gonna be the best intro. This is like
Speaker 2: that song you know, it's the best song in the
Speaker 2: what's the what?
Speaker 1: How does the song go? This is it's Jack Black.
Speaker 2: This this intro is literally asked telling you about the
Speaker 2: best intro that there ever was.
Speaker 1: It was the best song in the world.
Speaker 2: Producer A Kisha, Can you just put a snippet of
Speaker 2: that song in so people know what we're talking about.
Speaker 3: So happened to.
Speaker 1: Be the best song in the world.
Speaker 4: It was the best song in the world.
Speaker 2: It was the best song in the world. That is
Speaker 2: so not on TNE or tune. But I'm you know what,
Speaker 2: I'm never gonna be on Master sing us.
Speaker 1: That's the truth.
Speaker 2: But let me tell you, let me tell you why
Speaker 2: this happened, because this is this is exciting for you guys.
Speaker 1: Well, I think it's exciting.
Speaker 2: This happened because I usually only have one microphone attached,
Speaker 2: but I had two microphones attached that I mixed up.
Speaker 1: And that is because Jordan.
Speaker 2: And I finally recorded the podcast episode that you guys
Speaker 2: have wanted. You have wanted us to record an episode
Speaker 2: because you wanted to meet Jordan. Now, I'm still trying
Speaker 2: to work out why, to be honest, and I hope
Speaker 2: none of you are thoroughly disappointed. Jordan is not a
Speaker 2: radio host, he is not a podcast so it doesn't
Speaker 2: come naturally to him. But we did do the episode,
Speaker 2: and that's why the mics are mixed up. So just
Speaker 2: that you guys know that episode is coming very very soon,
Speaker 2: and also just don't like, don't hold it against Jordan,
Speaker 2: don't hold it against myself. It's like we did it.
Speaker 2: We did it for you guys. It's not gonna be
Speaker 2: number one. We're not gonna go and win any awards.
Speaker 2: We're not gonna win an Aria Award, but like we've
Speaker 2: done it for you guys. Okay, for a little while there,
Speaker 2: I was worried, like you could just like run away
Speaker 2: and start a podcast with Jordan. But I'm glad that
Speaker 2: you're telling me it's not gonna be a possibility. Laura,
Speaker 2: you wait too, you hear the episode, because Laura doesn't
Speaker 2: hear yet, Wait to hear it. You're gonna be blessed
Speaker 2: Jordan's little soul, like he he gives really cute answers
Speaker 2: and he gives his best rendition of being a great
Speaker 2: supportive boyfriend that's come to do the podcast because you
Speaker 2: guys ask for it.
Speaker 1: But yeah, you don't lose. You're not gonna leave your
Speaker 1: job anytime soon more.
Speaker 5: The other weird thing that we do, which I don't
Speaker 5: know now why we're talking so much about how we
Speaker 5: record these podcasts, but the weird thing that we do
Speaker 5: before we start every episode, and we do it every
Speaker 5: single time Britt and I sit down to record. We're
Speaker 5: currently on like a FaceTime because obviously BRIT's overseas, but
Speaker 5: even on FaceTime we still do this. We have like
Speaker 5: a little ritual, little mantra, and that is that we
Speaker 5: sit down in front of our mics and then we
Speaker 5: slap ourselves in the phase.
Speaker 2: Like like we're like ah, And we do this before
Speaker 2: every single record like a fighter going into a boxing match,
Speaker 2: to psych ourselves up in order to be able to
Speaker 2: bring you the best episode possible.
Speaker 1: So there you go. We do it every single time.
Speaker 1: It's weird, but it actually works.
Speaker 2: And I reckon there'd be athletes and other people out
Speaker 2: there that are about to go on stage or no,
Speaker 2: they would like anyone that's going about to have a
Speaker 2: big moment that they just need to pep themselves up,
Speaker 2: give themselves some energy, give themselves, you know, literally a
Speaker 2: slap in the face. It's like you cannot be asleep
Speaker 2: any longer if you slap yourself in the face, Like
Speaker 2: it's not possible. So that's what we do. There's method
Speaker 2: too our madness. Anyway, Guys, if you actually knew what
Speaker 2: goes on behind the scenes, you would think that we
Speaker 2: were a bat shit crazy and you would question why
Speaker 2: you listen to an hour episode from us every week.
Speaker 2: But in the interim this week, we are talking about
Speaker 2: something something that we've mentioned from time to time on
Speaker 2: the podcast before, but we're really doing a deep dive
Speaker 2: and we're unpacking it and that is Manifestation. Now, before
Speaker 2: we get into that, there's a couple of other things
Speaker 2: that I want to talk to you about, Brittany, and
Speaker 2: the most important part of that is a piece of
Speaker 2: hard hitting journalism that I came across this week.
Speaker 1: It really stood out. I'm so skeptical.
Speaker 2: Every time you have come to me so far and
Speaker 2: said there's a journalistic piece of information that you want
Speaker 2: to pass on to me, it's always very questionable.
Speaker 1: Oh no, not this one. You don't ever impart much
Speaker 1: knowledge on me with these articles, Lauren.
Speaker 5: This is one that I really think just had such
Speaker 5: cut through and is really relative to the current state
Speaker 5: of the world.
Speaker 1: And that is from Pedestrian TV.
Speaker 2: And the title of this article is the best and
Speaker 2: worst alternatives to lube when all you have is a
Speaker 2: fridge and a tight hole? Yes, hang on, what if
Speaker 2: you don't have a tight hole?
Speaker 1: What if it's a loser? Does that mean you're excluded
Speaker 1: from this article?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 1: I think it might just need to mean that you
Speaker 1: need more. I don't know.
Speaker 2: No, you can, it doesn't matter. The whole is not
Speaker 2: the important part of this. It's what are you using
Speaker 2: for lubrication?
Speaker 4: Now?
Speaker 2: The best thing is that this is an article that's
Speaker 2: been written. It's a pros and cons list about the
Speaker 2: different things that you might find in your pantry or
Speaker 2: in your fridge that you can use for lube if
Speaker 2: you don't have any lubricant on hand.
Speaker 1: So there is an entire article.
Speaker 2: There is an entire article made on what you can
Speaker 2: use at home for loom. Am I correct, yes, And
Speaker 2: also I did a call out to all of our listeners.
Speaker 1: Of course you did.
Speaker 2: And I just want to preface this by saying that
Speaker 2: this is clearly not as weird as what I thought
Speaker 2: it was when I very first read this article, because
Speaker 2: I received hundreds of messages from you guys all about
Speaker 2: the different weird stuff that you have used for lube
Speaker 2: and whether it was a good idea or a bad idea.
Speaker 1: But we'll get into that in a second.
Speaker 2: These are some of the alternate normal go tos when
Speaker 2: it comes to lubricant. Number one, the hero that everybody
Speaker 2: knows about coconut oil straight off the bat. Great, okay,
Speaker 2: I can see that. I think that's the normal go to.
Speaker 2: I probably once use coconut oil as a lubricant, but
Speaker 2: only once, and it smells really good. Actually, But I
Speaker 2: will actually, you know what I need to do. Something
Speaker 2: I need to educate the people something that you may
Speaker 2: or may not know, because I reckon a lot of
Speaker 2: people would be using coconut oil as lube and maybe
Speaker 2: we can put another pole out.
Speaker 1: We love a pole at Life uncut.
Speaker 2: If you are using a condom, coconut oil can actually
Speaker 2: like deteriorate the condom and you can get pregnant.
Speaker 1: So that could be a way to trap a man, ladies. No,
Speaker 1: I'm joking too soon, Okay.
Speaker 2: What I like the most about this is that we
Speaker 2: so like, like I already said, we already pre recorded this,
Speaker 2: and then it obviously went to shit. Britt doesn't use lube,
Speaker 2: she told me just before. It doesn't use lube.
Speaker 1: Wait it out me. Laura has a big old jar
Speaker 1: of coconut oil next to the bed. Yes, that's true.
Speaker 1: I do. I do have coconut oil next to my bed.
Speaker 2: But my defense that is mainly I know that there
Speaker 2: are vibrators and daughters there as well, and you would
Speaker 2: probably think that that's what it's for. No, that is
Speaker 2: mainly for massages. Yeah, right with your dildo, Okay, I
Speaker 2: actually yeah, it's for massages of the clitteress with my daughter.
Speaker 2: I use coconut oil as actually as moisturizer. I will
Speaker 2: use it on my whole body. It's so hydrating. And
Speaker 2: that this is not sponsored by coconut I agree.
Speaker 1: Coconut oil has so many uses.
Speaker 2: You can use it when you're sunbaking, you can use
Speaker 2: it as a moisturizer, and it is the number one
Speaker 2: pantry staple that you can use as a go to
Speaker 2: for lubricant. I didn't know that it erodes a condom though,
Speaker 2: so that like, don't don't say that. We don't teach
Speaker 2: you anything here at life on cut. Very educational. Okay,
Speaker 2: what's next on this list of at home uses for lube?
Speaker 5: So another big one was Alivira gel, and I know
Speaker 5: a lot of people actually messaged in saying that they
Speaker 5: had tried Alavira gel before and it was really stingy
Speaker 5: and something that they wouldn't recommend. Now, the reason why
Speaker 5: some Alvira gels are not recommended is because some of
Speaker 5: the have alcohol in them. So unless it's pure, like
Speaker 5: one hundred percent pure Alevira, like you've just gone down.
Speaker 1: To the garden snapped off a leak, probably don't use it.
Speaker 5: But it is an alternate, very moisturizing, very hydrating, apparently
Speaker 5: very lubricating.
Speaker 1: I would not be using Alvira.
Speaker 2: I also love that I'm really thinking about everything that
Speaker 2: you're going to say here, and I'm giving you my
Speaker 2: honest answer, Like, this is all about what lub I
Speaker 2: would use. I would not use al I would not
Speaker 2: use Alavira because Olivira is a little bit it can
Speaker 2: be a little bit bernie. I think it's supposed to
Speaker 2: be just for like outside uses like abrasions and cuts
Speaker 2: and juice.
Speaker 1: I would one hundred percent agree.
Speaker 2: I would almost put my life on it, or bet
Speaker 2: money on the fact that on every single tube of
Speaker 2: Alavira gel that you would buy from the shops, it
Speaker 2: would say for external use only.
Speaker 1: Do you not use with your dial noo, please and
Speaker 1: thank you.
Speaker 2: Okay, So there's two more on this. One of them
Speaker 2: is less offensive than the other. But this, okay, this
Speaker 2: pedestrian list that I'm telling you right now, this is
Speaker 2: just the things you can use in your fridgeer on
Speaker 2: your pantry. They also have a full list of things
Speaker 2: that you shouldn't use. But I think we can unpack
Speaker 2: the stuff that you guys have written into us. So
Speaker 2: the next thing on this was olive oil. Not that
Speaker 2: makes me feel sick. I hate olive oil.
Speaker 1: What do you mean you hate olive oil? No one
Speaker 1: hates oliver It's delicious.
Speaker 2: No I No, that's okay. God, I'm such a liar today.
Speaker 2: I love olive oil, and I love it when it's
Speaker 2: mixed with balsamic, but I don't like the smell or
Speaker 2: the feel of the texture. Like it just needs to
Speaker 2: get from the bottle to my mouth, not from the bottle.
Speaker 1: To my vagina.
Speaker 2: It's a no, it's a hard pass on on the
Speaker 2: olive oil.
Speaker 1: Okay, unless it's on a caprizy salad, I don't want
Speaker 1: to know about it.
Speaker 2: Well, if the caprizi salad was on your vagina and
Speaker 2: someone was eating it off there, it also sounds like
Speaker 2: a straight far As track to getting yourself back toial vaginosis.
Speaker 2: This is the other thing, right, Like don't use food products.
Speaker 2: I mean, I know that sometimes it can be central
Speaker 2: and it can be sexy, and there's probably some people
Speaker 2: who would disagree with me, but I really think that
Speaker 2: you might be erring on a thrush infection or some
Speaker 2: sort of imbalance in your microflora by.
Speaker 1: Using things that shouldn't be inside you.
Speaker 2: Do you know, I actually one hundred percent agree with that.
Speaker 2: But also the funny thing is, like we watch these
Speaker 2: movies growing up, and like pornos or whatever you watch,
Speaker 2: and the people that like I mean even The Bachelor
Speaker 2: where they had a chocolate bath.
Speaker 1: But where the idea that like dribbling.
Speaker 2: Chocolate over someone's body and like whipped cream is all sexy.
Speaker 1: It's not fucking sexy.
Speaker 2: It gets everywhere if you put if you have like
Speaker 2: a sexy chocolate session, and that shit is all through
Speaker 2: your linen sheets, that is on the carpet, that's in
Speaker 2: your hair, like, there is nothing sexy about it.
Speaker 5: There was truly nothing sexy about Alex Nation and Richie
Speaker 5: in a chocolate bath.
Speaker 2: I think most people who watch that are just still
Speaker 2: confused and scarred by it.
Speaker 5: It was more trauma inducing. But the most confusing and
Speaker 5: conflicting one for me on this list, like this is
Speaker 5: a journalist who's gone out written article about what you
Speaker 5: care news when you have sex. This is the one
Speaker 5: that confuses me the most. The last one on this
Speaker 5: list is egg whites and.
Speaker 2: Not the yolk, just the egg whites, not the yoak.
Speaker 2: You have to separate the yolks from egg whites. This
Speaker 2: is what it says, egg whites. This one has the
Speaker 2: potential to go very wrong, very fast, which makes me
Speaker 2: think if it can go so poorly, maybe it's not
Speaker 2: one that you should be recommending. But anyway, it says,
Speaker 2: as long as you're using very good, very fresh eggs,
Speaker 2: you can make yourself a little mixture to have handy
Speaker 2: and it'll work just like lube. As long as you
Speaker 2: go down to the farmer's market on a weekend and
Speaker 2: you get those organic eggs fresh, you are good to go.
Speaker 2: But you must use it at room temperature within ten
Speaker 2: minutes of getting it on.
Speaker 5: So well, that's just it, right, like okay, if you
Speaker 5: have to use them when they're very fresh, you obviously
Speaker 5: can't like make a pre made mixture. So at what
Speaker 5: point during quitas are you like, hey, just hold on
Speaker 5: one second while I run out the door, crack a
Speaker 5: couple of eggs, separate the yolks, and then bring the
Speaker 5: egg whites into the bedroom. My other question is we
Speaker 5: all know what happens when you beat egg whites.
Speaker 2: It gets very frothy. My favorite drink is an Ammorono sour.
Speaker 2: It's a frothy it's egg white, and they froth the
Speaker 2: egg whites, so it's this thick layer on top of
Speaker 2: the drink.
Speaker 1: But that shit is so frothy.
Speaker 2: Imagine if that was on your vagina with the friction
Speaker 2: of the sex going in and out.
Speaker 1: It would just keep frothing. It would just froth, roth, froth,
Speaker 1: froth city. And I feel like cross city. If you're
Speaker 1: on you imagine if you were on your first date.
Speaker 2: It was like the first time you're getting sexy and
Speaker 2: a you were like, excuse me, while like to get
Speaker 2: my eggs, beat them and put them on to the
Speaker 2: my vaginal can froth? Guys know I'm passing. I've thought
Speaker 2: about this thoroughly. The egg whiter and no. The thing
Speaker 2: that makes this all weirder is I read this article.
Speaker 2: I felt a lot of feelings and I was like,
Speaker 2: I want to tell you all about it. So then
Speaker 2: I put a call out on our Instagram. I was like,
Speaker 2: I want to know from you our listeners, what are
Speaker 2: some of the weirdest shit that you have used for
Speaker 2: loob and was it a good idea or was it
Speaker 2: a bad idea? So I put the call out on
Speaker 2: Life on Podcast on Instagram. You're all going to be bad.
Speaker 2: I cannot tell you how many responses we got to
Speaker 2: this brit Like. We received hundreds of dms, And the
Speaker 2: thing I love the most is that everybody who DM
Speaker 2: does like no one made burner accounts. All of you
Speaker 2: guys were writing into us just with your name, writing
Speaker 2: all the cooked stuff that you've used out of your pantry,
Speaker 2: out of your cupboard, or like in your makeup drawer
Speaker 2: and medicine cupboard.
Speaker 1: This was so many things.
Speaker 2: Some of you guys got super creative, and I want
Speaker 2: to read some of these out to you.
Speaker 1: Oh they're gonna be disaster. Put on your unders and
Speaker 1: strap yourselves in.
Speaker 2: Okay, I'm gonna read a few of these out to
Speaker 2: you because they're fucking great. He just threw a cup
Speaker 2: of water on it. Wait, I'm gonna I'm gonna read
Speaker 2: you don't even.
Speaker 1: Need to read that again. That was brilliant. Like I
Speaker 1: feel like we all know water doesn't work. You just
Speaker 1: got to think about it.
Speaker 2: If you have sex in the pool or like the shower,
Speaker 2: water alone is not great well water.
Speaker 1: It's like it's a myth. It's not lubricating. But I
Speaker 1: just love that.
Speaker 2: She's like I was, like, I'm sitting on the bed
Speaker 2: and he just threw a cup of water on it.
Speaker 2: We called it a day after that cocoa body oil.
Speaker 2: It worked great and I had a super shiny volver afterwards. Okay,
Speaker 2: so many people wrote in vasoline and it was a
Speaker 2: common denominator vasoline after watching Puberty Blues, Okay, I feel
Speaker 2: like petroleum jelly would be fine, right, be sure?
Speaker 1: I mean I feel like it would stay like I
Speaker 1: think it was.
Speaker 2: Shit's too thick, right, like using poor por ointment, which
Speaker 2: also was another one that was mentioned.
Speaker 1: Isn't that when you.
Speaker 2: Put like old school we used to put on baby's
Speaker 2: gums when they're teething and stuff.
Speaker 1: I think you're thinking of bongella.
Speaker 6: I thought we don't use bongella on your vagina, everybody.
Speaker 1: That's a fucking terrible idea. Fuck, you won't feel anything,
Speaker 1: You'll be completely dumb waiting for it.
Speaker 2: Okay, this one Margarine, and no, it was a bad
Speaker 2: life decision. Could you imagine using not even using butter,
Speaker 2: not even using like Western Star or learn that just
Speaker 2: going for some fucking shitty margarine, Which makes me think
Speaker 2: that you definitely had to be a beauty student because
Speaker 2: who's still buying margarine?
Speaker 1: Now? Guilty?
Speaker 2: I would always buy Marjorine over butter. I would do that,
Speaker 2: but if I was gonna use it for lou Bud,
Speaker 2: buy butter full fat.
Speaker 1: Oily butter.
Speaker 2: I would spend extra for that pleasure. My roomy told
Speaker 2: me that he used olive oil, but not like normal
Speaker 2: olive oil.
Speaker 6: He used his spray can kind and he just sprayed
Speaker 6: it onto her vagina.
Speaker 1: And the spray olive oil that used like pancakes. This
Speaker 1: summers sting. But also imagine him it's like fumigating.
Speaker 2: It's like sending back and fumighinting in the vagina and
Speaker 2: like spraying it for pests. But it would also be
Speaker 2: so cold, like the spray. Any sort of compressed compressed deodorant,
Speaker 2: compressed olive oil, like anything that's been compressed into a can,
Speaker 2: makes it really cold when it comes out. And really
Speaker 2: imagine someone's spraying olive oil.
Speaker 1: On your vagina. And at what point do you say, no,
Speaker 1: I'm not into this.
Speaker 2: Did he keep the recommended distance? You know, he's supposed
Speaker 2: to have like a foot of distance from spray. It
Speaker 2: probably got up two clotes. It's like blasted the clid off.
Speaker 5: Now this next one is extremely questionable for very very
Speaker 5: different reasons. I once used strawberry lube and it tasted really,
Speaker 5: really great. I cannot recommend strawberry lube enough anyway. I
Speaker 5: then decided to eat it as a snack when I
Speaker 5: was on a diet because it's really low in calorie,
Speaker 5: and you would think that she would be on her
Speaker 5: own with that. However, another one of our listeners wrote
Speaker 5: in and said, I used to eat flavored lube on
Speaker 5: its odor as a snack. Trust me, it's super yummy.
Speaker 1: Guys, this is not a food. Lube is not a replacement.
Speaker 2: It's not a meal replacement, and it's not a weight
Speaker 2: loss tool unless you're using it to have sex and
Speaker 2: burn calories.
Speaker 5: That is the only way you should be using it. Like, guys,
Speaker 5: it's not fucking aeroplane jelly. Just go to the shops
Speaker 5: and make.
Speaker 1: Some treat yourself. Treat yourself.
Speaker 2: I have two more than I'm gonna share with you now.
Speaker 2: This one part of me, I was just like, dear God,
Speaker 2: I just want to know who this is A made
Speaker 2: of mine. Hooked up with a very famous football player
Speaker 2: who used a mashed banana for lubricant. It was a
Speaker 2: fucking mess. Afterwards. When I asked her, don't you mean
Speaker 2: he just used a firm hole.
Speaker 6: Banana, she said, no, he actually mashed up the banana
Speaker 6: and used it on my banana.
Speaker 2: Okay, this girl needs to tell us who this football
Speaker 2: player is. We'll keep it anonymous, but like, just for
Speaker 2: Laura's and my sake, we need to know who that is.
Speaker 1: I don't know if we would keep it anonymous.
Speaker 5: I think if somebody came forward and told me something
Speaker 5: like that, I think I just have to share it
Speaker 5: with you, guys.
Speaker 1: It's too good. I have a question for Laura.
Speaker 2: Go hit me if you could use this is this
Speaker 2: is all you had in the fridge, butter egg white
Speaker 2: or tomato sauce.
Speaker 1: What do you use for lip? You have to because
Speaker 1: you're you're like, you're so dry.
Speaker 2: Okay, you're so dry because the guy's trying to use banana,
Speaker 2: But you have to choose something else to you personally
Speaker 2: out of those things.
Speaker 5: I'm just going to tell you how much I love
Speaker 5: tomato sauce. I will have tomato sauce on everything.
Speaker 2: I will literally put it on my breakfast, on my toast,
Speaker 2: on my like.
Speaker 1: I will give you.
Speaker 2: If he was just to put tomato sauce on his
Speaker 2: penis and it was like a sausage with tomato sauce, great,
Speaker 2: he would get a blow job every day when mass
Speaker 2: can be walking around the house now with a boner
Speaker 2: and tomato sauce on him at all times.
Speaker 1: I'm going to go with butter.
Speaker 5: I'm going to go with like slightly melted down butter
Speaker 5: and then a bit of salt and some season like that.
Speaker 1: You've thought that through, I am going.
Speaker 2: To finish with one more, which I loved. This was
Speaker 2: her once boyfriend now husband. My once upon a time
Speaker 2: boyfriend now husband once poured red wine on my vagina
Speaker 2: and entire glass, thinking he was being sensual and sexy. No,
Speaker 2: red wine is a terrible lubricant because all it does
Speaker 2: is burnt.
Speaker 1: There.
Speaker 2: We have it, guys, some dows, some domes. If you
Speaker 2: don't have any lube in the fridge, I would just
Speaker 2: suggest using saliva probably a good opt in. If you're
Speaker 2: feeling particularly dry in the mouth, maybe try some coconut oil.
Speaker 1: But apart from that, I just think.
Speaker 2: You're opening yourself up to some very serious thrush, bacterial vaginosis,
Speaker 2: or some urine track infections, which was also something that
Speaker 2: I think fifty percent of people who wrote in were like, hey,
Speaker 2: I also contributed it to this thing that happened to me,
Speaker 2: So yeah, be safe, guys.
Speaker 1: One hundred percent you've got your new track, Infection. Thank
Speaker 1: you for bringing me this segment that I just didn't
Speaker 1: even know I needed. But anyway, Laura, you don't get.
Speaker 2: The microphone back for the rest of the episode because
Speaker 2: the damage is done.
Speaker 1: Let's talk about what the episode actually is.
Speaker 2: We are speaking to a lovely, lovely woman named Jordana Levine. Now,
Speaker 2: she's a journalist and an author and a podcaster, and
Speaker 2: she's someone that is all about manifestation, manifesting the good
Speaker 2: things in life, good relationships and jobs and good energy.
Speaker 2: She's written two books, Make It Happen and a very
Speaker 2: newly released Higher Love, and both of these talk about
Speaker 2: self empowerment and making things happen for ourselves. Now, I
Speaker 2: am someone that has been very into manif station in
Speaker 2: my life over the years. I wasn't always, but I
Speaker 2: got into it probably, oh, I don't know, maybe when
Speaker 2: I started traveling in my mid twenties.
Speaker 1: So I was really excited to talk to.
Speaker 2: Jordana because I never really researched it thoroughly or went
Speaker 2: to extreme lengths. I just started to really slowly introduce
Speaker 2: it into my life after I heard a few friends
Speaker 2: talk about it. I read the Secret like three. I
Speaker 2: think thirty million other people read the book The Secret.
Speaker 2: I think you read the book The Secret, Laura.
Speaker 5: I actually watched the docu series on The Secret, which
Speaker 5: is on Netflix. I'm pretty sure it's on Netflix. I
Speaker 5: watched it when I was in the Batch mansion and
Speaker 5: I was.
Speaker 2: Doing everything I possibly could in order to I wanted
Speaker 2: to win Matt's love for me.
Speaker 1: I was like, what can What's going to set me apart?
Speaker 2: Night?
Speaker 5: And I watched this series and I was like, Okay,
Speaker 5: I'm gonna I mean, I had nothing else to do
Speaker 5: in the house anyway, and I was like, I'm going
Speaker 5: to put all my mental energy towards focusing on the
Speaker 5: things that I want in my life.
Speaker 2: And So what did that look like for you? Was
Speaker 2: that like writing things down? Or was that just like
Speaker 2: repeating a mantra? Or was that just having like a
Speaker 2: pillow cushion that you put pins kind of thing in,
Speaker 2: you know, those little light Yeah, I created a I
Speaker 2: created a Matt voodoo doll.
Speaker 1: No, I think it was more so for me.
Speaker 5: It was around and look, I am like the most
Speaker 5: non spiritual person, even though I do things in my
Speaker 5: day to day life that are quite spiritual and I
Speaker 5: do really believe in like positive thinking. I do believe
Speaker 5: in taking control of your life and of your actions.
Speaker 5: But I guess sometimes for me, I find it quite
Speaker 5: difficult to tap into the spiritual language around things like manifestation.
Speaker 5: Now do I think that I manifested Matt into my life. No,
Speaker 5: But I do think that I got to a point
Speaker 5: in my life where I recognized that I was making
Speaker 5: the wrong decisions for myself and I wanted to change something,
Speaker 5: and I really was in this period of self development.
Speaker 5: The thing for me about manifestation that I think was
Speaker 5: a real positive is that it really allowed me to
Speaker 5: align my thoughts, and the way I see it was
Speaker 5: a very practical sense.
Speaker 1: I see it more as like.
Speaker 5: You have a goal and when you know, we've all
Speaker 5: heard that sort of adage of someone who started business
Speaker 5: and then put that they wanted to make a million
Speaker 5: dollars on their board like a vision board, and then
Speaker 5: they went out and they achieved that goal. I very
Speaker 5: much believe that if you set yourself a goal in life,
Speaker 5: and you keep that front of mind and you're thinking
Speaker 5: about it and you're focusing on it, then your actions
Speaker 5: will follow. But you actually have to take actionable steps
Speaker 5: in order to achieve that. I think it was Jim
Speaker 5: Carrey actually that tells this story. He was a struggling actor.
Speaker 5: He wasn't in any movies yet he said, that's it.
Speaker 5: I've had enough.
Speaker 2: I'm going to manifest my life because he read the
Speaker 2: manifestation thing. He was sleeping in his car. He wrote
Speaker 2: himself a check in his car on a piece of paper.
Speaker 2: It was just like a made up check. He did
Speaker 2: every single detail on the check. He said, address his
Speaker 2: full name, he did the date, he wrote bankers check numbers,
Speaker 2: like completely made up, signed it, wrote the date which
Speaker 2: is one year, it was one year away, and he
Speaker 2: wrote the sum and he wrote ten million dollars one.
Speaker 1: Year almost to the day.
Speaker 2: He signed onto his first huge movie, which was Dumb
Speaker 2: and Dumber, for ten million dollars. And he swears, he's like,
Speaker 2: I fucking manifested this shit out of that. And like
Speaker 2: when you hear him talk about that story, you get
Speaker 2: goose bumps. But there are so many celebrities, some that
Speaker 2: you'll know, some that you don't, that are really big
Speaker 2: on manifestation and they really do preach it. And one
Speaker 2: that you would know is Oprah. Another that you might
Speaker 2: know is Deepak Chopra. And now I actually did a
Speaker 2: manifestation abundance course from Deepak Chopra last year.
Speaker 1: I did that. I signed up.
Speaker 2: There were a few friends that I knew like that
Speaker 2: were doing it at the same time. And it's a
Speaker 2: twenty one day abundance course and I can really recommend
Speaker 2: it to you guys if you're looking for something like that.
Speaker 2: I just did it on my own accord, and it
Speaker 2: was about exactly that. It's it's about being grateful for
Speaker 2: your life, taking a step back and looking at your
Speaker 2: life as a whole as a helistic view. Are you
Speaker 2: happy with it? What aren't you happy with? What are
Speaker 2: you grateful for? What do you want to improve, What
Speaker 2: do you want to work on? What do you want
Speaker 2: what's your ultimate goal? And I got so much out
Speaker 2: of that over the twenty one day, so I one
Speaker 2: hundred percent can recommend that.
Speaker 5: One of the things I loved about this chat with
Speaker 5: yourd is that she makes the idea of manifestation. She
Speaker 5: makes the concept of the law of attraction very palatable
Speaker 5: for anybody who maybe struggles with the more spiritual side
Speaker 5: of manifestation. She talks about it in a way that
Speaker 5: really allows you to be able to implement it into
Speaker 5: your life. And I love that about this because I
Speaker 5: guess I personally there's a few things for me that
Speaker 5: I have always felt a little bit conflicted about whenever
Speaker 5: somebody really preaches this idea of manifestation. And that's why
Speaker 5: I have been hesitant for us to do a whole
Speaker 5: episode on it before. And that's because I think if
Speaker 5: you look at it with one view, as in like,
Speaker 5: if you look at it from a very single minded view,
Speaker 5: it can almost feel sometimes a little bit victim blaming
Speaker 5: in that it's very wonderful and very tantalizing to think
Speaker 5: that you can create the beautiful life that you live,
Speaker 5: that you're responsible for everything that is wonderful that comes
Speaker 5: into your life. But on the flip side of that,
Speaker 5: I think great things happen to shitty people, and shitty
Speaker 5: things also can happen to awesome people, and it's not
Speaker 5: just because those people had a negative mindset. It's not
Speaker 5: because they didn't manifest hard enough. And I really just
Speaker 5: want to make sure that anybody who's listening to this
Speaker 5: who has been through trauma in their life, who has
Speaker 5: experienced something really negative or maybe you're still going through
Speaker 5: some shit and you're in the middle of it that
Speaker 5: you don't listen to this or feel like you have
Speaker 5: created that, because there's so much that happens in life
Speaker 5: that we are not in control over. This conversation though,
Speaker 5: around manifestation is to take charge of the stuff that
Speaker 5: you are in control of. So maybe, like me, you
Speaker 5: went through a period where you've been dating the same
Speaker 5: type of shitty guys. And we get into it with Jordana,
Speaker 5: like we really do unpack it. But maybe you've been
Speaker 5: dating the same types of shitty guys. Maybe there's a
Speaker 5: pattern there, and there's a part of it that you
Speaker 5: can take responsibility for. Is it your fault what those
Speaker 5: shitty guys or girls have done? No, it's not your fault.
Speaker 2: But it's just looking at the bits that you can
Speaker 2: take control over it in order to set yourself up
Speaker 2: to live a life that you can be super proud of.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I think one thing I've said it on
Speaker 1: podcasts in the past.
Speaker 2: If you guys are an OG listener, you will have
Speaker 2: heard me say this in the past. I learned this
Speaker 2: in a really, really great way from a month that
Speaker 2: I spent a month with five years ago. Now, I
Speaker 2: spent this random month with a monk learning from him.
Speaker 2: He taught me a lot about manifestation and about exactly
Speaker 2: this putting the energy out, the law of attraction. But
Speaker 2: a really big message that he drove home was that
Speaker 2: every single person in life is going to have something
Speaker 2: shit happened to them. Everyone like that is we cannot
Speaker 2: avoid it. We're all going to lose someone we love
Speaker 2: at some point. We're all going to go through trials
Speaker 2: and tribulations. We're all going to have our heart broken.
Speaker 2: Some people are going to have it broken over and
Speaker 2: over and over again. We can't change that. But what
Speaker 2: we can change is the way we deal with that
Speaker 2: and the way we look at the future, the way
Speaker 2: we look at the situation. So that is something that
Speaker 2: you can control, and that's what this is about. It's
Speaker 2: about saying, you know what, this fucking sucks, but what
Speaker 2: can I do with it? What can I do to
Speaker 2: move forward? What energy can I put back into the universe.
Speaker 2: So hopefully you guys get something from this. We really did,
Speaker 2: but well, we don't want to tell you.
Speaker 1: Too much more about what.
Speaker 2: The episode's going to be, even though we have given
Speaker 2: you a pretty good insight. But Giordana, who were speaking to,
Speaker 2: is she's just so knowledgeable and she has written and
Speaker 2: researched so much about this, so I know you're going
Speaker 2: to get something from it. But before we do that,
Speaker 2: we're going to smash out our favorite segment, which is
Speaker 2: accidentally unfiltered.
Speaker 1: But we are just.
Speaker 2: Doing one today because we both picked the same accidently unfiltered,
Speaker 2: so we thought that was a sign from the universe.
Speaker 2: We're like, fuck, did we manifest that we did the
Speaker 2: same one less? So that's what we're going to bring you. No,
Speaker 2: I think it's just that we spend way too much
Speaker 2: time together and we find the same shit funny.
Speaker 1: Now literally, that's what it is. Okay.
Speaker 2: So the earthquake in Melbourne today was a sign that
Speaker 2: I had to message you guys about my earthquake poop
Speaker 2: story before this Melbourne earthquake story. I want you to
Speaker 2: know that earthquakes are very common in Mexico and I'd
Speaker 2: never experienced one before. Now picture this. It's Christmas Day,
Speaker 2: twenty seventeen and I'm staying with my partner's family in
Speaker 2: a high rise apartment in Akapo. A post Christmas lunch
Speaker 2: dump was definitely in order, so I left the festivities
Speaker 2: for peace and quiet of the bathroom. I'm literally midshit
Speaker 2: when I suddenly hear a loud bang. My mind is
Speaker 2: already raising. Did I just break the toilet seat with
Speaker 2: this shit?
Speaker 1: What has just happened? Has a bomb gone off? God?
Speaker 2: That was a big dump if you broke the toilet
Speaker 2: bowl with your poop. I started to feel vibrations swiftly
Speaker 2: moving up through the floors beneath me until they hit
Speaker 2: the floor I'm on. All of a sudden, everything is
Speaker 2: shaking and whole building begins to lurch violently. I feel
Speaker 2: like I'm being bounced around, so I just grip onto
Speaker 2: the toilet seat for dear life like a lifeline, thinking
Speaker 2: pun intended. Man, this is gonna be a shit way
Speaker 2: to die. After about twenty seconds, everything seems to calm down.
Speaker 1: I've only just started to collect my thoughts, realize I'm alive,
Speaker 1: and realize it was an earthquake.
Speaker 2: And then I see that I am covered in toilet
Speaker 2: water and poop. When my partner and his mum burst
Speaker 2: through the door to check if I'm okay, I'm like
Speaker 2: a deer in headline picture me pants down, wet of
Speaker 2: wei wet of poop. Having continued shock on my face.
Speaker 2: We all mutter things embarrassingly until they back out and
Speaker 2: leave me alone. Luckily, for me, there was no after shock.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, no, it's pretty funny.
Speaker 2: Imagine how scary that would be. Pants down, you can't
Speaker 2: even run because your pants are around dr ankles and
Speaker 2: there's an earthquake.
Speaker 5: I mean, everyone knows the worst thing about going to
Speaker 5: the toilet, especial if they're in a public toilet is
Speaker 5: the splash back. Anyway, could you imagine how bad the
Speaker 5: splashback is after?
Speaker 2: I mean, you've got to be pretty vicious, like, oh,
Speaker 2: I don't get splashed back.
Speaker 1: You gotta be pretty violent you don't get splashed back.
Speaker 1: I like put toilet paper down there so I don't
Speaker 1: get splashed back. You never get splash back. I must
Speaker 1: be really gentle and just like cute. Like wow. On
Speaker 1: that note, let's get into the chat with your dom.
Speaker 2: Giordana Levine is a journalist, author, and podcast host who
Speaker 2: is all about manifesting the good things, including good relationships
Speaker 2: and bringing that love into your life.
Speaker 1: And we're all about bringing that love into our life.
Speaker 2: She's the author of the books Make It Happen and
Speaker 2: the newly released Higher Love. Both of these books talk
Speaker 2: about a sense of self empowerment and making things happen
Speaker 2: for ourselves. They have a real focus on love and dating.
Speaker 2: Come to life Uncut, Jodanna.
Speaker 4: Thank you so much.
Speaker 1: Thanks for having me, Jordana.
Speaker 2: Now, we do a segment on every episode which is
Speaker 2: called accidentally Unfiltered. Now, I don't know if you've been
Speaker 2: prepped on this, but I'm hoping you have been. Accidentally
Speaker 2: Unfiltered is where we get our guests to share their
Speaker 2: most embarrassing stories and we all laugh together like.
Speaker 1: The beautiful community that we are. I've listened to a.
Speaker 4: Few episodes in people's stories, and I really wanted to
Speaker 4: come up with a good one. I was thinking back.
Speaker 4: I asked a couple of friends because I couldn't think
Speaker 4: of stuff, and I was like, I'm sure we've had
Speaker 4: conversations where I've said to you, oh my god. I
Speaker 4: was so mortified. So I tried to like flash back
Speaker 4: to those, to those scenarios. And then I walked out
Speaker 4: of the house the other day and something happened to
Speaker 4: me and I remember the first time it happened, the
Speaker 4: og time, which was really embarrassings. I was back in
Speaker 4: my corporate days. I was working in publishing, and so
Speaker 4: I was working like office hours, and I used to
Speaker 4: get up really early in the morning, like I know
Speaker 4: a lot of people do to go to the gym.
Speaker 4: Was really dark, and what I'd usually do is set
Speaker 4: all my clothes out the night before, make sure they
Speaker 4: were packed properly, make sure my gym clothes were ready
Speaker 4: to go. Anyway, I hadn't done that this morning, and
Speaker 4: I'd woken up in a flurry. The bus only came
Speaker 4: every half hour to get me into the city, and
Speaker 4: I had like five minutes to get there. So I
Speaker 4: kind of like threw on some leggings that I had
Speaker 4: on the floor, and you know, threw all my clothes on,
Speaker 4: raced out the door with my gym bag. Got to
Speaker 4: the bus stop. There was one of my neighbors who
Speaker 4: I'd been flirting with for a very long time. We
Speaker 4: had this really long chat, and I distinctly remember hopping
Speaker 4: on the bus first and walking up the aisle of
Speaker 4: the bus, so he was behind me, and thinking to myself,
Speaker 4: I better check him out, you know, as I walk
Speaker 4: up the bus sat down on the bus. He kind
Speaker 4: of sat behind me. We got off at the same stop.
Speaker 4: He went in the way I walked into the gym,
Speaker 4: got into the gym, had a chat to the ladies
Speaker 4: in the lobby. There was this one kind of woman
Speaker 4: who was looking at me funny, but didn't really think
Speaker 4: anything of it. Went into the change room, had some
Speaker 4: chats in there, went into the weights room. There was
Speaker 4: this guy who I'd been flirting with in the weights room.
Speaker 4: This was me in my early twenties, floating with everyone.
Speaker 4: He was also looking at me a bit funny. Didn't
Speaker 4: really think anything of it. And then I left. And
Speaker 4: usually I'd get changed down in the gym into my
Speaker 4: office clothes, but I didn't. I thought I'll go and
Speaker 4: get changed at work. And so I was walking on
Speaker 4: my way to the office out in the street in
Speaker 4: the middle of Sydney, and one of the guys I
Speaker 4: worked with came up to me and he kind of
Speaker 4: tapped me on my butt and he's like, jord, what
Speaker 4: is that? And I was like, what is what? And
Speaker 4: I looked around and felt it and I thought, my god,
Speaker 4: what is that? And he put his hands down my
Speaker 4: pants to pull it out. This was a good friend
Speaker 4: of mine, and it was an old g string from.
Speaker 1: The day before.
Speaker 4: Obviously that had been in the leggings, that had been
Speaker 4: there the whole Why. Oh it was mortifying and I thought,
Speaker 4: oh God, all those people all that morning had seen
Speaker 4: it and no one had said anything. It's like when
Speaker 4: you have spinach in your teeth, but like way worse.
Speaker 1: This is gonna make you feel a little bit better.
Speaker 2: We actually received an accidentally unfiltered story similar to yours
Speaker 2: from someone who listens to the podcast just recently. However,
Speaker 2: she was on a date and she went to put
Speaker 2: her denim jacket on and was like, oh, what's that
Speaker 2: in the arm and put her arm through and there
Speaker 2: was a dirty g street in the arm of her jacket,
Speaker 2: sitting at a dinner table. So don't worry, You're in
Speaker 2: savor company.
Speaker 1: That is worse now, Jodanna.
Speaker 2: The reason why we got you on the podcast was
Speaker 2: to firstly to talk about manifesting and this idea of
Speaker 2: what is manifestation and how can we bring it into
Speaker 2: our lives. But also I'm just gonna come totally clean,
Speaker 2: and because I think that some people who are listening
Speaker 2: to this might be like, why is Laura talking about this?
Speaker 2: I am like quite practical and quite pragmatic. And what
Speaker 2: I really liked about your book is how you make
Speaker 2: this concept of manifest very palatable for people who don't
Speaker 2: know how to how to actually or what it is,
Speaker 2: how to actualize it, and how to bring it into
Speaker 2: their life. So firstly, let's just kick off with what
Speaker 2: is manifesting.
Speaker 4: Well, look, I'm the same as you. I'm super practical
Speaker 4: and pragmatic. I happened to be raised quite spiritual. My
Speaker 4: mum was a bit of a hippie. But I'm also
Speaker 4: coming from the same angle as you, and I think
Speaker 4: if you really simplify it down, manifestation is about taking
Speaker 4: ownership of a future that you desire, and that's it.
Speaker 2: So what was your background before you started writing books?
Speaker 2: I know you said before you were in publishing.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I was a journalist, So I was in magazines.
Speaker 4: Always wanted to be a writer, and I was told
Speaker 4: in high school and I'm sure a lot of writers
Speaker 4: can relate to this, that if you wanted to be
Speaker 4: a writer, you had to be a journalist. So I
Speaker 4: was like, oh, okay, So I went and studied journalism
Speaker 4: and I didn't know what I wanted to do with it.
Speaker 4: I thought maybe like women's magazines like Cosmo and Cleo
Speaker 4: and all those sparkly glosses that we had growing up.
Speaker 4: But I ended up in food publishing, of all things,
Speaker 4: like really strange place to end up. It was lots
Speaker 4: of eating. There was lots of eating involved. But I
Speaker 4: kind of got to the top of the corporate ladder
Speaker 4: in food publishing and I was like, Oh, this is
Speaker 4: actually isn't all that fun. I'm not enjoying it at all.
Speaker 4: So I left and I just started writing about the
Speaker 4: things that I cared about, and then these books kind
Speaker 4: of started to pour out of me.
Speaker 2: Why did you have this really big pool to write
Speaker 2: about manifestation? And I guess what happened in your life?
Speaker 2: Was there a series of events that made you realize
Speaker 2: that it's a thing and that you were actually bringing
Speaker 2: these things into your life?
Speaker 4: Yeah, and it was for me. It was a series
Speaker 4: of really shit things. Like I said, top of my
Speaker 4: field in my job, I was bloody miserable. I was
Speaker 4: in a toxic relationship, I was injuring myself all the time,
Speaker 4: my friendships were falling apart. And I kind of sat
Speaker 4: back one day and I was like, you know what, George,
Speaker 4: you made all of this happen, all of this shit,
Speaker 4: it's because of you, and it's time to take responsibility
Speaker 4: for it. And once I realized that I had created
Speaker 4: all this negative shit in my life, I kind of
Speaker 4: applied the same principles to create some good stuff.
Speaker 2: So why do you think that you when you were saying,
Speaker 2: because that just took me back a little bit, because
Speaker 2: I'm sort of preaching, not preaching, but sometimes when really
Speaker 2: bad things happen, or negative things happen, or people are
Speaker 2: in toxic relationships, you know, there'll be a big part
Speaker 2: of me that will say, this isn't your fault, Like,
Speaker 2: don't blame yourself for being in this relationship if this
Speaker 2: person brought that to you. Obviously there's a part that
Speaker 2: sometimes we stick around for too long, and I guess
Speaker 2: we are to blame in that sense. But why do
Speaker 2: you think you are so hard on yourself saying this
Speaker 2: is all your fault?
Speaker 4: Well, because it was for me, And I agree with you.
Speaker 4: I think sometimes people are in situations that aren't their fault.
Speaker 4: But in this circumstance, it was mine. It was me
Speaker 4: going against what I knew I wanted out of life.
Speaker 4: So having clarity of where I wanted to go and
Speaker 4: not aligning any of my thoughts, my feelings, my actions
Speaker 4: with that doing actually the complete opposite, staying in situations
Speaker 4: that weren't serving me at all. I was getting severely
Speaker 4: bullied by my boss at the time, and like I said,
Speaker 4: I was in a toxic relationship that I had the
Speaker 4: ability to walk out of, and I didn't. I stayed
Speaker 4: in it a lot longer than I should have. And
Speaker 4: I think when people start to do some self reflection
Speaker 4: on certain areas of their life, they can tell when
Speaker 4: it's something that they actually can be taking responsibility for.
Speaker 5: One of the things that I really liked and appreciated
Speaker 5: from your book, and it's this idea that whether we
Speaker 5: are actively doing it or we're subconsciously doing it, there
Speaker 5: is still it's still happening. And I look back on
Speaker 5: my relationship and I've spoken about it loads on the podcast,
Speaker 5: but when I was going through this cycle of dating
Speaker 5: the same kind of guy over and over and over
Speaker 5: and then having the same type of relationship over.
Speaker 1: And over and over.
Speaker 5: It's only now that I'm out of it and I'm
Speaker 5: in a really happy place in my life, and I
Speaker 5: have done some work on myself that I go okay,
Speaker 5: as much as I was harping on about the fact
Speaker 5: that I wanted to it a nice guy, and you know,
Speaker 5: there was no nice guys in Sydney and I wanted
Speaker 5: someone who treated me properly. I wasn't doing anything to
Speaker 5: be able to attrack that into my life, like I
Speaker 5: was still pursuing, and if anything, I was attracted to
Speaker 5: the guys that were never going to provide that for me.
Speaker 5: And so I think, whether or not you're consciously doing
Speaker 5: it or you're subconsciously doing it, this idea that if
Speaker 5: your actions and your thoughts don't align, then it can
Speaker 5: either set you on a positive path or a very
Speaker 5: very negative path.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and you've really hit the nail on the head
Speaker 4: with that, Laura, because you know, I hear so many women,
Speaker 4: and I've said it myself, say why do I keep
Speaker 4: attracting the same type of guys or you know, women,
Speaker 4: whatever it might be. And the truth is, when you
Speaker 4: really step back and you look at your type that
Speaker 4: hasn't been working for you, it's who you're attracted to,
Speaker 4: you know. And for me it was narcissists. I loved
Speaker 4: them because they're so charming, guilty. Put our hands up.
Speaker 1: It's guilty.
Speaker 4: And you know you can say, why are narciss is
Speaker 4: attracted to me? But it's like you all the common nominator.
Speaker 4: So really, yes, taking a step back and seeing what
Speaker 4: you're doing consciously, but also what's playing out on a
Speaker 4: subconscious level.
Speaker 5: So talk me through manifestation and what does it comprise
Speaker 5: of and how can we implement it in our lives?
Speaker 5: Like kind of give me the rundown.
Speaker 4: I'll give you guys an equation if you like. It's
Speaker 4: called the manifestation equation, and it goes like this, thoughts
Speaker 4: plus feelings plus actions plus faith equal successful manifestation. And
Speaker 4: it's only when you apply all four parts of the
Speaker 4: equation together that you really get to that successful manifestation.
Speaker 4: So it's about saying, what is it that I want
Speaker 4: to create in my life? Are my thoughts aligned with
Speaker 4: that intention or are they actually you know, the opposite?
Speaker 4: Are they putting me in the other direction? How would
Speaker 4: having that thing manifest make me feel? And can I
Speaker 4: start to feel those things now before I achieve it?
Speaker 4: Because if we're just waiting to get to a feeling
Speaker 4: and we can't actually sit in it right now, then
Speaker 4: what's the point of it. We don't even know what
Speaker 4: it is we want to create. We need to create
Speaker 4: those vibrations now in the present. The third thing, which
Speaker 4: a lot of manifestation texts leave out, and I think
Speaker 4: this is why it's been put in the Woo woo
Speaker 4: spiritual basket, is the action piece, like what action steps
Speaker 4: are you taking, what responsibility are you taking to get
Speaker 4: closer to that intention? And then the last piece is
Speaker 4: the faith piece, and that's trust in yourself that you're
Speaker 4: worthy and deserving of the thing that you want to
Speaker 4: create in your life, but also having faith that there's
Speaker 4: something bigger than you, something greater than you, that's out
Speaker 4: there working with you. So I call it the universe,
Speaker 4: but you might call it God or you know, whatever
Speaker 4: you want to call it. And that's the idea that
Speaker 4: if the thing that you're trying to create doesn't happen,
Speaker 4: maybe it's because there's something better waiting for you, and
Speaker 4: kind of holding onto that feeling rather than this idea
Speaker 4: of oh, the world's against me and I'm being punished
Speaker 4: and I'm just, you know, never going to get what
Speaker 4: I want.
Speaker 2: What's your opinion, And this might be a controversial ask
Speaker 2: but what's your opinion on things like the Secret.
Speaker 4: I mean, the Secret's great, it's how I got into manifestation,
Speaker 4: but at a certain level, it's flawed. It's based on
Speaker 4: the law of attraction, which states, you know, positive things
Speaker 4: created a positive outcome, negative things created negative outcome. And
Speaker 4: the idea is that it's based on our thoughts, So
Speaker 4: think good things you know, and everything that you want
Speaker 4: will will come to you. There's a problem with that,
Speaker 4: and the problem is that there was a study conducted
Speaker 4: at Michigan State University that basically said that something like
Speaker 4: eighty five percent of our thoughts that we have every
Speaker 4: day are untrue, and about eighty percent of our thoughts
Speaker 4: are just repeats of the thoughts that we had the
Speaker 4: day before. So, I mean, that's a lot of stuff
Speaker 4: that you can't actually factor as truth, right, that's running
Speaker 4: around in our head day to day. And of those
Speaker 4: thoughts that are untrue, like one hundred percent of them
Speaker 4: are about ourselves. So if we were purely basing manifestation
Speaker 4: on our thoughts, we actually wouldn't get very and it's
Speaker 4: impossible to think positive thoughts all the time. Instead, what
Speaker 4: you want to do with your thoughts is like I
Speaker 4: said before, is just make sure day to day that
Speaker 4: your thoughts are religned with what you want to create.
Speaker 4: If you want to find the perfect partner, telling yourself
Speaker 4: constantly that you're never going to is not going to help.
Speaker 4: We are all manifesting every second of the day without
Speaker 4: even realizing that we're doing it. So what I'm trying
Speaker 4: to get everyone to do is do it with conscious
Speaker 4: intentions so that we can start to manifest the things
Speaker 4: that we really want to. If you start to look
Speaker 4: at everything in your life you've created, and Laura, I'm
Speaker 4: interested to hear what you think in the whole Bachelor
Speaker 4: experience and where you've gotten to now having watched the
Speaker 4: Secret in the House, I mean, do you think that
Speaker 4: on a subconscious or a conscious level that that was
Speaker 4: something that you created?
Speaker 5: You spoke about something in High Love which is like
Speaker 5: Kismet connections, and I kind of wanted to get into
Speaker 5: that and have you explain that. But this, I mean,
Speaker 5: I'm sure there's going to be some people listening to
Speaker 5: this who know this story, but for anyone who doesn't,
Speaker 5: I saw Matt before ever going on The Bachelor, So
Speaker 5: I was at Iceberg's at the gym and I went
Speaker 5: into the sauna and there was a guy there who
Speaker 5: was super hot, and I didn't recognize who he was
Speaker 5: because I had.
Speaker 1: Never watched The Bachelor before.
Speaker 2: But when Matt was sitting next to that guy, we
Speaker 2: just locked eyes and had a real moment. Nothing was said,
Speaker 2: there was no conversation, and then I went on with
Speaker 2: my day. I mean, you know when you kind of
Speaker 2: see someone or someone crosses your path and you have
Speaker 2: that real, like thump to the chest, and then that
Speaker 2: was it.
Speaker 1: Months and months later.
Speaker 5: I rocked up on the show and then there was
Speaker 5: the guy from the sauna standing at the end of
Speaker 5: the footpath and it was on our first date. It
Speaker 5: it got edited out, but on our first date I
Speaker 5: said to him, I was like, oh, I have this really.
Speaker 5: I mean, you're gonna think I'm a weirdo, but I
Speaker 5: have this. We've crossed paths before.
Speaker 1: And he was like, yeah, I know, you're the girl
Speaker 1: from the sauna.
Speaker 2: So they never showed that because I think it would
Speaker 2: have ended up giving away the ending the totally. But
Speaker 2: when you described this thing called Kismet connections in your book,
Speaker 2: and I would love for you to explain what that is,
Speaker 2: I really felt quite aligned to my personal experience with
Speaker 2: Matt in that and in the explanation of what that is.
Speaker 4: Yeah, well, Kismet basically means fate or destiny. It's actually
Speaker 4: an Islamic term. It's about fate and destiny. So you
Speaker 4: know that movie Serendipity, Guys, I've watched that with John
Speaker 4: Cusack and Kave can Sell. A great movie that was
Speaker 4: a Kismet encounter, you know, like it was meant to be.
Speaker 4: And I think there are situations in our life, in
Speaker 4: relationships where that is true. And I think that you
Speaker 4: and Matt are a perfect example of that Kismet connection.
Speaker 4: I think what happens sometimes with the fantasies that we
Speaker 4: run is that women, especially start to think that the
Speaker 4: only time a relationship is valid is when there is
Speaker 4: a Kismet encounter attached to it, and I think that
Speaker 4: that can stump us.
Speaker 5: It can also mean that if you're in a toxic relationship,
Speaker 5: but you have had this sort of Kismet encounter, like
Speaker 5: you have had a really incredible attract to this person's
Speaker 5: start or a really unique way that you've met, you
Speaker 5: can also hold onto that and it can be this
Speaker 5: something that keeps pulling you back to them because you're like, well, no,
Speaker 5: we're supposed to be and you buy into that fairy
Speaker 5: tale and you buy into that narrative, and maybe you
Speaker 5: hold onto a relationship far past the expiry date just
Speaker 5: because the beginning of it was something that was so
Speaker 5: special and hard to let go of.
Speaker 4: Absolutely, I've had that happened to me twice, and I
Speaker 4: didn't learn it the first time. I had to learn
Speaker 4: it the second time. But yeah, it can. It can
Speaker 4: keep you stuck. First time, it kept me stuck in
Speaker 4: an on and off relationship for twelve years. It's a
Speaker 4: long time.
Speaker 1: It's too long to be on and off. You're like,
Speaker 1: I learned my lessons and that's why I wrote a
Speaker 1: book about it.
Speaker 4: But I was about to say that's why Higher Love
Speaker 4: was written. So thank you twelve year on enough relationship.
Speaker 2: Ah. So you speak about this thing called personal vibrations,
Speaker 2: and you mentioned it at the very beginning as well.
Speaker 2: Can you explain to us what is personal vibrations and
Speaker 2: why is it so important in the dating world.
Speaker 4: Personal vibration Basically, it's just a term I use to
Speaker 4: get people to tune into that version of themselves where
Speaker 4: they feel most like them, So it's different for everybody,
Speaker 4: but like if you can imagine a moment in your
Speaker 4: life or a circumstance where you feel completely like you,
Speaker 4: like your most authentic self. So for me, it's around
Speaker 4: certain friends and you know, like you can feel your
Speaker 4: posture change, your words flow easily. I find if I'm
Speaker 4: around the right kind of people, I can be quite witty.
Speaker 4: I feel very intelligent and smart. I say fun things.
Speaker 4: And then you know those moments when you're not in
Speaker 4: those situations and you just feel uncomfortable and like you
Speaker 4: can't tap into you at your most authentic self. Yeah,
Speaker 4: So when you know the situations when you're not feeling
Speaker 4: like yourself and you're stumbling on your words and you
Speaker 4: can't be funny, I mean, being funny to me is
Speaker 4: like my greatest attribute. So when I'm in a situation
Speaker 4: where I can't say anything witty, I know something's off,
Speaker 4: you know, like the energy in the room's just not
Speaker 4: my vibe. And that's what I want people to tune
Speaker 4: into with their personal vibration. What are the things that
Speaker 4: strengthen your personal vibration that make you feel like this
Speaker 4: radiant version of you, And what are the things that
Speaker 4: weaken it, and can you do less of the things
Speaker 4: that we can it and lean towards those things that
Speaker 4: strengthen it.
Speaker 2: So, what are some things that can negatively affect your
Speaker 2: personal vibrations? Is that just like putting yourself on dates
Speaker 2: or in situations or nights out when you don't want
Speaker 2: to be in that place?
Speaker 1: What are the things or is it more like the
Speaker 1: food dre eating and the alcohol you're drinking.
Speaker 2: Is it more like physical things that you're put into
Speaker 2: your body.
Speaker 4: I think it's all those things. It's like, I mean,
Speaker 4: alcohol's a really good example of it. There are are
Speaker 4: moments in my life if I'm in a really good
Speaker 4: headspace where I can go out and have a few
Speaker 4: drinks and feel great and feel good the next day,
Speaker 4: you know, maybe a bit hungover, but feel okay. But
Speaker 4: there are times where I'm going through a bit of
Speaker 4: shit and maybe my personal vibration is a little bit weaker,
Speaker 4: and if I go out and have few I'm just oppressed.
Speaker 4: It's not a fun time at all, you know. So
Speaker 4: being aware of that alcohol is a funny one because
Speaker 4: of course it's going to change our state of mind,
Speaker 4: change our mood. But things like work environments where you
Speaker 4: go and you just can't tap into a good version
Speaker 4: of yourself. You're just constantly feeling dragged down. Or certain
Speaker 4: people in your life you know, and they might even
Speaker 4: be your friends unfortunately, but like you know that every
Speaker 4: time you go and meet them for a coffee, you
Speaker 4: actually walk away feeling worse than when you sat down.
Speaker 4: And it's just being aware of what those things are
Speaker 4: and knowing that if you want to start attracting things
Speaker 4: into your life, you need to have that strong vibration.
Speaker 4: And the reason I say that is there is a
Speaker 4: universal law called the law of vibration, and the law
Speaker 4: of vibration states that everything in the universe vibrates on
Speaker 4: its own frequency, and things with a similar frequency are
Speaker 4: drawn together. So really, what we want to start doing
Speaker 4: is we want to start vibrating on a frequent and
Speaker 4: see that's us at our best. And I'm not saying
Speaker 4: that we can be that all times, at all times
Speaker 4: of day, but if we can try and be in
Speaker 4: a strong vibration as much as possible, we're going to
Speaker 4: start to attract someone or something or some job that's
Speaker 4: on a similar vibration to that.
Speaker 5: I mean, I think like from us as much as
Speaker 5: we haven't done so many episodes that are kind of
Speaker 5: in this spirituality field.
Speaker 1: A lot of the.
Speaker 5: Stuff that we talk about is exactly this but packaged
Speaker 5: up differently. This idea of like saying, no knowing your boundaries,
Speaker 5: putting parameters in place in your life that allow you
Speaker 5: to kind of live your authentic self.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I agree with you. And like I said to
Speaker 4: you before, like I'm not a super spiritual person. I
Speaker 4: happen to write books and have podcasts that have spiritual content.
Speaker 4: But I think the reason that they do so well
Speaker 4: is because of the practicality and relatability that I offer
Speaker 4: in them. And I think, you know, the messages that
Speaker 4: we get, like you said, through these spiritual teachings already
Speaker 4: being taught in everyday life. It's just looking at it
Speaker 4: from a different angle.
Speaker 2: I also just want to say as well, like there
Speaker 2: is and I think that sometimes it can come with judgment.
Speaker 2: And when I say that I am not someone who's
Speaker 2: been able to tap into it, this is not me
Speaker 2: in any way judging somebody else who finds ease in
Speaker 2: tapping into their idea and the conversation around spirituality. It's
Speaker 2: just something that has been relatively new for me, and
Speaker 2: there is no judgment attached to it. There's no like
Speaker 2: this is the right way and this is the wrong way.
Speaker 2: Wherever you are on your own personal journey and however
Speaker 2: this resonates with you is what's most important. Yeah, well,
Speaker 2: I think it's really important too that we drive home
Speaker 2: the fact and this is the whole concept of your book,
Speaker 2: Like the whole foundation is that it is one thing
Speaker 2: to one hundred percent manifest something. You need to be
Speaker 2: a positive energy, and you need to put out what
Speaker 2: you want to get back. And everybody needs to think
Speaker 2: for a second about when you are around somebody that's
Speaker 2: a bit toxic for you or a bit negative, all
Speaker 2: that's pulling you down, and every time you leave and
Speaker 2: you're feeling exhausted, you don't ever want to be that
Speaker 2: person to someone else either. So I do think that
Speaker 2: what you put out is what you get back. But
Speaker 2: having said that, you can't just sit in your room
Speaker 2: and write down and wish you were in a loving
Speaker 2: relationship and you had a boyfriend and then not doing
Speaker 2: anything about it. You can't not go and meet people
Speaker 2: and you can't knock on their dating apps. You can't
Speaker 2: sit in your room and say I want to be
Speaker 2: an actress, but never go for an audition, And I
Speaker 2: think there's something that I've come across a lot in life.
Speaker 2: I've had a lot of people say to me, you're
Speaker 2: so lucky, and I am very lucky. I feel very
Speaker 2: lucky and very blessed in my life, but things don't
Speaker 2: happen to me out of luck. People don't see how
Speaker 2: many times I've gone for an audition or a job
Speaker 2: and I have had the no answer, or they don't
Speaker 2: see how many times I went even for a medical job,
Speaker 2: like a radiology job, and it hasn't worked out, or
Speaker 2: I haven't got the promotion I want.
Speaker 1: But then they see that you get it.
Speaker 2: One day, you finally get what you want, and all
Speaker 2: of a sudden, I was like, you're so lucky, and
Speaker 2: I'm like, well, i'm not.
Speaker 1: I'm sure I wanted it, but.
Speaker 2: I actioned it over and over and over again until
Speaker 2: I got what I wanted.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm with you one hundred percent. I've had that
Speaker 4: my whole career. You're so lucky, you always get every
Speaker 4: job you go for. Oh my god, you've published two books.
Speaker 4: I'm like, yeah, it only took me twenty years. You know,
Speaker 4: like there's no overnight success to it.
Speaker 5: And I know that this idea We've actually spoken about
Speaker 5: this just recently, this idea of like an overnight success,
Speaker 5: what seems like an overnight success is never the case,
Speaker 5: and that we all have our own pitfalls and our
Speaker 5: own challenges and it's only through talking about our own
Speaker 5: personal experiences that it kind of normalizes that journey for everyone. Yeah,
Speaker 5: I do think it's kind of important to say that
Speaker 5: as much as we have worked hard to achieve the
Speaker 5: things that we've achieved in life, there is a certain
Speaker 5: level of privilege that comes as well. So there would
Speaker 5: be someone listening to this who would go, yes, maybe
Speaker 5: you've had failures, but you started at a more privileged
Speaker 5: starting point to be able to achieve the things, and
Speaker 5: somebody else. And I know that we're all on a difference,
Speaker 5: like we're all on different spectrum with this, So I
Speaker 5: think that's important to technologe.
Speaker 4: It's a really good thing to talk about, especially in
Speaker 4: the world of manifestation, because I think, especially in the
Speaker 4: girl's spiritual world, manifestation gets put up on a pedestal
Speaker 4: of privilege, and it's true, it is privilege. Manifestation is privilege.
Speaker 4: But if we really want to break it down to
Speaker 4: the simpler things in life, like I said at the
Speaker 4: very beginning of this podcast, it's about creating a future
Speaker 4: that you desire, and that future is the world that
Speaker 4: you live in and what you can create through that.
Speaker 4: I think what's really important with manifestation is this idea
Speaker 4: that a lot of people don't see and they don't
Speaker 4: talk a lot about in the text, is your level
Speaker 4: of self worth is directly correlated to what it is
Speaker 4: you're able to manifest in your life. So in the
Speaker 4: areas of your life where you're lacking self worth or
Speaker 4: you don't feel deserving of the things that you want
Speaker 4: to create, you're going to find manifestation quite tricky. And
Speaker 4: in the areas of your life where you have lots
Speaker 4: of confidence and really high levels of self worth, you'll
Speaker 4: probably find that manifestations quite easy in those areas of
Speaker 4: your life. So if there are areas where you're finding
Speaker 4: a little bit sticky, having a look at how your
Speaker 4: self worth is varing in that area, it's a really
Speaker 4: good place to start. Well.
Speaker 5: I think that also leads me into my next question,
Speaker 5: which is in regards to dating and just coming back
Speaker 5: to this idea of like cyclical dating where we kind
Speaker 5: of go after the same person on repeat, not the
Speaker 5: good ones, not the good one. I mean, if you
Speaker 5: do come back to the same good ones, and that's
Speaker 5: great for you. Why do you think a lot of
Speaker 5: people have very cyclical dating experiences where they do date
Speaker 5: that same type of person over and over and over
Speaker 5: without necessarily learning the lessons that are there.
Speaker 4: Yeah, well, I think you hit the nail on the head.
Speaker 4: It's they're not learning the lessons. So to ask yourself,
Speaker 4: why am I dating the same type of guy? What's
Speaker 4: attracting me to them? Has it got something to do
Speaker 4: with self worth issues? Is it a deservedness thing? Do
Speaker 4: I think I don't deserve better than that? And why
Speaker 4: aren't I questioning it? All of this stuff like love, dating, manifestation,
Speaker 4: it's all about self awareness and self reflection, and we
Speaker 4: really have to just keep coming back to ourselves. That's
Speaker 4: the only thing we have control over.
Speaker 2: You know. There was a quote in one of your
Speaker 2: books that said, instead of falling in love, we can
Speaker 2: rise in love.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 4: I think when it comes to love, we have some
Speaker 4: very dramatic terms that we like to use, like falling
Speaker 4: in love, madly in love, crazy in love, you know,
Speaker 4: desperately in love. And instead I'm saying, how about we
Speaker 4: rise in love? How about love is something that lifts
Speaker 4: us up instead of like plummets us into these like
Speaker 4: pitfalls of you know, despair. So it's really just kind
Speaker 4: of changing the language that we use around love.
Speaker 5: So many of the people listening to this will have
Speaker 5: had a relationship that made them feel batshit fucking crazy,
Speaker 5: which love can sometimes do, and you almost hold on
Speaker 5: to that as being like, but I feel like this
Speaker 5: because I love them so much, and we confuse this
Speaker 5: craziness with love. But whereas really that crazy feeling is
Speaker 5: toxicity and that's not always easy to differentiate when you're
Speaker 5: stuck in the cloud of being in love with someone.
Speaker 5: And this idea of rising in love is more so
Speaker 5: attributing it to as well, this feeling of like you
Speaker 5: can be your best or better self when you're with someone.
Speaker 5: You don't have to compromise who you are, and you
Speaker 5: don't have to you know, if you're in a relationship
Speaker 5: that you don't necessarily like the person that you are
Speaker 5: when you're in that.
Speaker 1: Relationship, that's not the relationship for you.
Speaker 4: Absolutely reckon.
Speaker 1: Hollywood fucked us up.
Speaker 2: Yeah, in terms of like I didn't look like romantic,
Speaker 2: like these beautiful movies where you're like, oh, they locked
Speaker 2: eyes across the road and then they have this beautiful
Speaker 2: ending and they feel in love. Everyone gets a happy ending,
Speaker 2: and this love is all consuming and like.
Speaker 1: Wrong, it's not.
Speaker 2: It doesn't sometimes it is, but for us little romantic
Speaker 2: fairy tailors like myself, I was waiting a long time
Speaker 2: for that to happen.
Speaker 1: I think it messed us up.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm with you. I think so too. I love
Speaker 4: rom coms. I love them. If you want a long
Speaker 4: list of my favorite I can give them to you.
Speaker 1: I mean I do also love them.
Speaker 4: I do think that they've they've messed us up a lot.
Speaker 4: And it's not just Hollywood, you know, it's it's those
Speaker 4: beautiful romantic Nicholas Sparks books and you know Bollywood movies
Speaker 4: like The Whole Shebang.
Speaker 1: Fifty Shades of Gray. I mean what.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean it is a version of love, but
Speaker 4: it's a version of love that doesn't have the mundane moments.
Speaker 4: Is it's a version of love that's wrapped up in
Speaker 4: one hundred and eight minutes. It's a version of love
Speaker 4: where we don't actually see how it ends, and it's
Speaker 4: those meat cute moments that we hold ourselves to. You know,
Speaker 4: I had a girlfriend who met a great guy on
Speaker 4: an app, and it took her months and months to
Speaker 4: get her head around the fact that they didn't have
Speaker 4: a meat cute moment that they'd met on Tinder, and she,
Speaker 4: you know, she almost didn't want the relationship to work
Speaker 4: out because she's like, I just want to have a
Speaker 4: story to tell my grandkids. And I was like, we
Speaker 4: can't hold ourselves to those meat cute moments because they
Speaker 4: might not happen, and.
Speaker 1: We're in a pandemic we meet online.
Speaker 2: Now, Yeah, I don't think it's just like Hollywood wrong
Speaker 2: comms that you need to blame for this shit though,
Speaker 2: Like we see this every day on Instagram. It's not
Speaker 2: just a meet cute. It's also comparison culture.
Speaker 5: And we talk about that loads on this podcast, This
Speaker 5: idea that like you see the best and we have
Speaker 5: so much access to people's lives now, you know, there's
Speaker 5: people put everything on display. So it's not just what
Speaker 5: we know is fiction on Hollywood. It's people who we
Speaker 5: think are real and they're not showing us that the
Speaker 5: hard bits, of the negative bits, they're showing us this
Speaker 5: perfectly stylized life. And the person that comes to mind
Speaker 5: straight away is I don't know if you follow them
Speaker 5: on Instagram, but Gypsy Lust and Gypsy Travel they are
Speaker 5: this huge. They're huge Instagram, a couple of million, millions
Speaker 5: of followers between them, and they had created this incredibly
Speaker 5: aspirational lifestyle where they traveled to all different countries and
Speaker 5: took beautiful photos.
Speaker 2: Themselves, and they were both beautiful. They're beautiful looking. They'd
Speaker 2: built a beautiful villa in Bali, and then they came
Speaker 2: out and did this really public statement a couple of
Speaker 2: months back saying that they had broken up. And there
Speaker 2: is nothing in their social media that would make you
Speaker 2: think that they weren't happy or weren't a great couple.
Speaker 2: But all of a sudden, this couple has just has
Speaker 2: just fallen apart. And I think, you know, we can
Speaker 2: look in on people's lives and think, maybe our relationship
Speaker 2: doesn't match up because we live the mundane bits. We
Speaker 2: lived the boring bits, and you.
Speaker 5: Look at Instagram, you look at all these other things,
Speaker 5: and you think, oh, everybody else has a bit more
Speaker 5: of a spectacular spark than what I have.
Speaker 4: So we do have to start coming back to what
Speaker 4: is reality and what is happening irl and hopping off
Speaker 4: what we read in the books and what we see
Speaker 4: on the screens, and really starting to think about how
Speaker 4: it is that you want to feel in love, because
Speaker 4: what love looks like to other people is not nearly
Speaker 4: as important as how it feels to you.
Speaker 2: What's your perceptional what are your beliefs around soulmates?
Speaker 4: I believe in them, but I don't think that there's
Speaker 4: one for everybody. I mean, wait, I think that everyone
Speaker 4: gets one, but I think there's more than one.
Speaker 1: I know, I bet you clarified that people don't get one. Sorry, guys,
Speaker 1: start and then Lucky did today.
Speaker 4: Sorry, you're not getting a soulmate in this life?
Speaker 1: You go on? You not you? Sorry?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 4: Oprah Obrah, No, I think that there's lots to be
Speaker 4: honest with you. I think I've already been with two
Speaker 4: of my soulmates, and I'm not with any of them now.
Speaker 4: I do think that sometimes our girlfriends are our soulmates,
Speaker 4: but I do believe in them, and I think what
Speaker 4: soulmate is is this vibrational match it's this feeling of
Speaker 4: resonance with somebody else.
Speaker 2: I feel like I have probably I one hundred percent
Speaker 2: agree with you. I think that you have different soulmates
Speaker 2: at different times of your life, for when maybe subconsciously
Speaker 2: or consciously you need that person and you might not
Speaker 2: realize at the time. But I feel like I'm madly
Speaker 2: in love now, but I feel like I have definitely
Speaker 2: been with a soulmate in the past, like one hundred percent.
Speaker 2: I cannot and I love this word vibrations now that
Speaker 2: you've introduced me to It's.
Speaker 1: The exact word for it.
Speaker 2: The vibrations were like off the chart, and I just
Speaker 2: feel like we both needed each other for that time
Speaker 2: and it didn't work out, and obviously didn't work out
Speaker 2: for a reason because both of us are very happy now,
Speaker 2: But I can't ever get away from the fact that
Speaker 2: that was something I remember at the time being like,
Speaker 2: I have just not ex experienced a vibration or a
Speaker 2: connection like that, So I do think and now it
Speaker 2: would not be like that, absolutely not. It was definitely
Speaker 2: for that period of both of our lives.
Speaker 4: I think what's really important though, when we're talking about
Speaker 4: soulmates and that vibrational resonance is not confusing it with chemistry.
Speaker 4: Where the chemistry is there sometimes I believe as a
Speaker 4: form of glue to keep us there to learn a lesson,
Speaker 4: because if there was no chemistry, we wouldn't stick around
Speaker 4: for someone treating us like shit. But we do get
Speaker 4: a lesson out of it, right, So that's why I
Speaker 4: think chemistry is there Sometimes. I think a soulmate connection
Speaker 4: really is when there's a vibrational resonance that takes you
Speaker 4: both to a place of deep learning that's rewarding and
Speaker 4: not like a wound. Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 4: Can you see the difference?
Speaker 1: Absolutely?
Speaker 5: And I'm really glad you said that because I think
Speaker 5: that you know, we can, like exactly what you said,
Speaker 5: we can miss interpret what chemistry is. And I think
Speaker 5: it can be incredibly damage to think that your soulmate
Speaker 5: is someone who brings toxicity into your life. I don't
Speaker 5: think from my personal perspective on what it is is
Speaker 5: that that could possibly be a soulmate, because soulmate should
Speaker 5: be elevating you to being a just being a more
Speaker 5: authentic version of yourself where you feel understood and you
Speaker 5: feel loved and believed and secure in all those things
Speaker 5: that you should get from a loving relationship. That's what
Speaker 5: a soulmate should provide. And so if there is anyone
Speaker 5: listening to this who's found themselves in a really toxic
Speaker 5: relationship but thought that's my soulmate, that guy.
Speaker 1: Ain't it like that is not your soulmate?
Speaker 5: How can we use sort of going back to this
Speaker 5: idea of manifestation, how can we use manifestation to kind
Speaker 5: of avoid these traps of dating toxic people or being
Speaker 5: in a workplace that's unfulfilling. How can we better utilize
Speaker 5: it on a day to day in a very practical
Speaker 5: sense to be able to achieve whatever it is in
Speaker 5: our lives that we want to change.
Speaker 4: I think it's working out what your personal vibration is,
Speaker 4: so working out exactly what that feels like so that
Speaker 4: you know when it's being compromised. And then it's just
Speaker 4: getting really clear on the things that you want to
Speaker 4: create in your life and moving through that manifestation equation
Speaker 4: my thoughts aligned with that intention. Am I feeling the
Speaker 4: things I want to feel? Am I taking action steps
Speaker 4: to get towards it? And do I have faith and
Speaker 4: trust in myself and something greater than me?
Speaker 2: Well, Jordanna, thank you so much for coming on today.
Speaker 2: It's definitely something that we've wanted to talk about for
Speaker 2: a long time. Definitely something that I'm more open to
Speaker 2: than Laura.
Speaker 5: No, I'm not not open to it. I would hate
Speaker 5: anyone to walk away thinking that that's the case. I
Speaker 5: think I've just like I said, I think I've just
Speaker 5: packaged it up differently in my mind before I had
Speaker 5: a different name for it. But it's something that I
Speaker 5: do exercise in my life all the time. I'm very
Speaker 5: big on that your thoughts and your actions need to
Speaker 5: be fully aligned.
Speaker 2: Tell everybody where they can find you your books, and
Speaker 2: your podcasts and your instagram.
Speaker 1: You got all the things I do.
Speaker 4: Have all the things. My instagram is just my name,
Speaker 4: so Georgdana Levine. My website Geordana Levine dot com. Both
Speaker 4: books can be found in bookstores across Australia, New Zealand,
Speaker 4: UK and the US. And yeah, and podcasts. I've got
Speaker 4: a podcast called Luna Lover and I've also got a
Speaker 4: podcast that goes with the book Higher Love, where I
Speaker 4: kind of took three women through all the exercises.
Speaker 6: People.
Speaker 2: All right, guys, you know that we never finished an
Speaker 2: episode without our suck and our sweet, our highlight and
Speaker 2: our low light of each and every week, and Brittany, you.
Speaker 1: Can go first, hit me, what is your suck? Okay,
Speaker 1: let's keep this quick.
Speaker 2: My suck is just that my time has come to
Speaker 2: an end. I'm leaving Jordan very very soon, and I
Speaker 2: feel like I feel like every day I'm really morbid
Speaker 2: with him. I'm just like, it's like our life is over.
Speaker 2: I'm like counting down the hours, the days, and the
Speaker 2: minutes and the seconds until we leave each other. And
Speaker 2: He's like, you've got to start doing that. You've been
Speaker 2: doing that for like twelve weeks. I'm like, it's only
Speaker 2: twelve weeks left. It's like just enjoying the moment. But
Speaker 2: that's definitely my suck. I'm going to see him for
Speaker 2: a few months again. My sweet was that, I know
Speaker 2: I'm late to the party, but I've only just recently
Speaker 2: got around to watching Peaky Blinders.
Speaker 4: Now.
Speaker 1: I don't know if you've seen that, Laura, I've never
Speaker 1: even heard of it. I'm obsessed with it. So we
Speaker 1: just decided to watch it the other day. It is
Speaker 1: on Netflix.
Speaker 2: I had heard my friends recommend it before. Both of
Speaker 2: us are obsessed. But this is also going into my suck.
Speaker 2: We've been watching it together, and you know when you're
Speaker 2: watching a show together, you're not supposed to like go
Speaker 2: ahead of the other person. The little fucker started to
Speaker 2: watch it one night without me, so now he's ahead
Speaker 2: of me and we can't watch it at the same time.
Speaker 2: So that's like my sweet and suck roll into one
Speaker 2: that is so controversial. I feel like any couple that
Speaker 2: has been together for a peo of time knows you
Speaker 2: never steam ahead.
Speaker 1: You never steam ahead. Jordan. Jordan's just walked into the room.
Speaker 1: You can't. He hasn't been He hasn't been here the
Speaker 1: whole time. He hasn't been here the whole record.
Speaker 2: He just walked in as he literally walked in, as
Speaker 2: I said, the little fucker.
Speaker 1: But yeah, you can't steam ahead. It's like the number
Speaker 1: one note, you can't, Jordan.
Speaker 4: In my defense, it is really good and I just
Speaker 4: couldn't wait.
Speaker 1: That's a good defense. I thought you were gonna actually
Speaker 1: have something good to say.
Speaker 2: No, not really, I mean that is my only defense.
Speaker 2: So I screwed up.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you screwed up. That defense actually sucked, Jordan. Okay,
Speaker 1: Laura What's yours. Matt has learned the hard way not
Speaker 1: to do that.
Speaker 2: I have a recommendation for you guys, if you haven't
Speaker 2: seen yet. On Amazon Prime, there is a docu series
Speaker 2: called Lula Rich.
Speaker 1: It is so random.
Speaker 2: It is all about this clothing company in the States,
Speaker 2: which is called Lula Rose, and the pyramid scheme and
Speaker 2: how they managed to make billions of dollars selling leggings
Speaker 2: in America. It's wild. I have never heard of the
Speaker 2: brand before. Matt and I were so hooked on this series.
Speaker 2: It's on Amazon Prime.
Speaker 5: I feel like I've consumed everything there is to consume
Speaker 5: on TV now, so I really recommend it. It's only
Speaker 5: a couple of episodes, but you guys will enjoy it anyway.
Speaker 5: That's not my suck and Sweet. My suck for the
Speaker 5: week is wait, is it suck first or sweet first?
Speaker 1: I forgot? Are you serious? You can't be serious. You've
Speaker 1: done this for two years and you asked me this
Speaker 1: every freehoing week. It's the suck first because you have
Speaker 1: to finish on a high. Okay.
Speaker 5: My suck is that the routine is getting really boring.
Speaker 5: And Matt and I had a chat yesterday because we're
Speaker 5: both really flat, and you know, going to the park
Speaker 5: in the morning for a walk for an hour and
Speaker 5: then working from home from a dining room table, and
Speaker 5: then you know, running around the backyard with the kids
Speaker 5: of an afternoon and not having anything else to break
Speaker 5: up the monotony is really boring. So it's been ten
Speaker 5: weeks of it. Now, as you guys all know everybody
Speaker 5: else who's let been in lockdown, it's very hard to
Speaker 5: kind of think of another suck. So yeah, we just
Speaker 5: have kind of forgotten what it is to have other
Speaker 5: great things to look forward to.
Speaker 1: To have a life to see.
Speaker 2: I just want to see my friends. I want to
Speaker 2: see my friends, So that's like the big suck. The
Speaker 2: suite for the week, though, is the one thing that
Speaker 2: I did get to do which broke the monotony.
Speaker 1: And it was awesome last week.
Speaker 5: So in the next coming weeks, I have a new
Speaker 5: collection coming out with Tony May. We're dropping in new
Speaker 5: capture range. And on Thursday last week, we got to
Speaker 5: do we got approval from council to do a photo
Speaker 5: shoot outside a camp cove with a model, a photographer
Speaker 5: and a makeup artist, and it just felt a little
Speaker 5: bit like what the old work used to be. Like,
Speaker 5: we got to be outside, we got to do something
Speaker 5: that was really creative, and guys, like, we had to
Speaker 5: go through all of the COVID safe restrictions, we had
Speaker 5: to have a COVID safe plan, like, it was.
Speaker 1: All completely above board.
Speaker 5: But at the same time, it was just so wonderful
Speaker 5: to be able to do something even though it was work,
Speaker 5: and feel productive and accomplished in that. Again, I just
Speaker 5: I'm so grateful to be able to have one day
Speaker 5: of work.
Speaker 2: It was great just to feel like what life was.
Speaker 2: I guess it's just like a reminder of, Oh, this
Speaker 2: is what life used to be, and hopefully one day,
Speaker 2: very soon this is like what life is again.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and it will be.
Speaker 5: You know, I was having a conversation with a friend recently,
Speaker 5: because we've been in this situation, all of us for
Speaker 5: so long now, there is this feeling of, oh, it's
Speaker 5: going to.
Speaker 1: Be like this forever.
Speaker 5: But then you think about our grandparents, Like our grandparents
Speaker 5: lived through the Great Depression, they lived through they would
Speaker 5: live through fucking wars, like they lived through so much
Speaker 5: shit and life went back to normal afterwards. So you know,
Speaker 5: I think sometimes it's hard to see the light at
Speaker 5: the end of the tunnel. But I was just really
Speaker 5: really grateful to be able to go and work, and
Speaker 5: obviously it was in a very limited capacity, but it
Speaker 5: was so nice to be able to be around people
Speaker 5: and do that. So yeah, I'm really really grateful for that.
Speaker 5: And also I'm just super stroked for our new collection
Speaker 5: to come out. There's a little plug hashtag go follow
Speaker 5: Tony May.
Speaker 1: And that is my second speaking for the week. Guys,
Speaker 1: that's it from.
Speaker 5: Us, another episode, done and dusted. We hope that you
Speaker 5: got something out of the conversations around manifesting.
Speaker 1: We hope that you know.
Speaker 5: It gives you the opportunity to look at life in
Speaker 5: a different way and to be able to start to
Speaker 5: kind of break some negative thought patterns and bring some
Speaker 5: positivity into your life. Because the number one thing we
Speaker 5: want to do for you right now is to be
Speaker 5: able to create a little bit of escapism for you
Speaker 5: to come here and have a safe space and just
Speaker 5: enjoy yourself for the hour or hour and fifteen minutes
Speaker 5: that you get to listen to.
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Speaker 2: share the love because we have love.
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Speaker 3: Then their day.
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