WEBVTT - I Fake Being At Parties On Snapchat 🎉 👯🏼‍♀️ 0:00:01.520 --> 0:00:03.440 Flex and Rooms Flex and Frooms. 0:00:03.600 --> 0:00:05.960 This is the Flex and Rooms catch up podcast. 0:00:08.960 --> 0:00:12.440 Welcome back to the party Flex and Rooms on CATA. 0:00:13.880 --> 0:00:15.480 Any updates for us. I went to the gym on 0:00:15.520 --> 0:00:17.439 the weekend. So what I'm doing now is I do 0:00:17.480 --> 0:00:19.360 my upper body alone. I do my lower body with 0:00:19.400 --> 0:00:23.920 my pet. Stuff is crazy everyone, you know, how like 0:00:24.480 --> 0:00:27.000 when you live in your own existence, you assume that 0:00:27.080 --> 0:00:29.680 like you just know everything there is to know about living. 0:00:29.800 --> 0:00:32.280 Like you'll say things like there's no one new to 0:00:32.320 --> 0:00:34.560 hang out with in Sydney, or like there's no good 0:00:34.560 --> 0:00:36.120 food around here, and it's like, yeah, but you've just 0:00:36.159 --> 0:00:37.800 been doing the same thing again and again in the game. 0:00:38.200 --> 0:00:40.159 Before I went to the gym, I just didn't have 0:00:40.280 --> 0:00:43.839 like any comprehension of like the commitment it takes to 0:00:43.840 --> 0:00:46.680 be a strong person in that capacity. Like I look 0:00:46.680 --> 0:00:48.400 at these people and I'm like, do your friends know 0:00:48.440 --> 0:00:49.680 that you can lift that heavy? 0:00:50.280 --> 0:00:52.479 Do they know? Are they aware of your strength? 0:00:53.000 --> 0:00:54.800 Do people know how hard it is for me to 0:00:54.800 --> 0:00:55.600 get up in the morning. 0:00:56.320 --> 0:00:57.760 Literally, I'm just like I don't. 0:00:57.840 --> 0:01:01.160 I don't feel like we're aware, or like when I 0:01:01.200 --> 0:01:03.680 see people who have really intense hobbies and everyone's like, oh, 0:01:03.720 --> 0:01:05.319 my god, why do you spend so much time doing that? 0:01:05.600 --> 0:01:07.600 Do you not know the feeling of being committed to 0:01:07.640 --> 0:01:10.440 something for your own enjoyment. You're not familiar with what 0:01:10.480 --> 0:01:14.880 that feels like. Get into it. Get into it. I 0:01:14.920 --> 0:01:16.360 want to say, get a hobby in a way that 0:01:16.400 --> 0:01:17.520 it doesn't sound derogatory. 0:01:17.520 --> 0:01:21.039 It sounds derogatory, and it's making me nervous because I 0:01:21.160 --> 0:01:24.399 just never liked that concept. You're with flexing frooms. Let's go. 0:01:24.680 --> 0:01:27.760 You're listening to flex and forms on kata. 0:01:27.959 --> 0:01:29.960 If there was ever a reason to reduce the amount 0:01:29.959 --> 0:01:32.280 of stress you have in your life, let this be 0:01:32.400 --> 0:01:33.440 one at the top of your list. 0:01:33.640 --> 0:01:34.920 I was scrolling through TikTok the. 0:01:34.920 --> 0:01:38.120 Other day and like, I'm quite stingy with the videos 0:01:38.160 --> 0:01:38.840 I choose to watch. 0:01:38.880 --> 0:01:41.320 I'm able to scroll scirl scirrel squirrels girl. 0:01:41.080 --> 0:01:43.839 And the format of this one, it was a friend 0:01:43.920 --> 0:01:45.760 kind of like interviewing his other friend by holding the 0:01:45.760 --> 0:01:47.320 camera right up to his face. Already, I was like, 0:01:47.360 --> 0:01:49.880 this is too in joky for me. But on my 0:01:49.960 --> 0:01:51.560 other phone, I got a text. I kind of let 0:01:51.560 --> 0:01:53.840 it play in the background, and it was this guy 0:01:54.000 --> 0:01:58.120 who was like into so let's say the guy, uh, 0:01:58.360 --> 0:02:02.560 I'm gonna call amnesia, and friend so amnesia. He's saying 0:02:02.560 --> 0:02:05.920 that he doesn't remember anything, so he doesn't know his parents' names, 0:02:06.280 --> 0:02:07.720 and that he was saying that when he woke up 0:02:07.760 --> 0:02:09.640 in the hospital, the only reason why he knew his 0:02:09.680 --> 0:02:12.799 own names that he was reading it off his wristband, 0:02:13.120 --> 0:02:14.639 and that when the nurses were quizzing him and he 0:02:14.639 --> 0:02:17.359 didn't want to admit that he had amnesia, they were asking, like, 0:02:17.400 --> 0:02:18.840 what's your name, what's your day to birth? He was 0:02:18.880 --> 0:02:22.680 reading off his wristband, and so the comment thought he 0:02:22.680 --> 0:02:24.560 was joking there. Everyone's like, you have amnesia. You're like 0:02:24.600 --> 0:02:25.960 twenty one, what are you talking about? 0:02:26.000 --> 0:02:28.040 Like what happened? Did you get in the car crash? 0:02:28.080 --> 0:02:30.760 And the documenter, the TikTok creator, was like, oh, you 0:02:30.800 --> 0:02:32.520 know what, I'm going to make a video talking about it. 0:02:33.080 --> 0:02:40.239 So basically, this guy got stress related amnesia within a day. 0:02:40.560 --> 0:02:43.040 He was with his friend, just hanging out like usual, 0:02:43.120 --> 0:02:45.040 and the next day he couldn't remember anything. And the 0:02:45.080 --> 0:02:47.360 only reason why he remembers his friend said his friend 0:02:47.400 --> 0:02:49.240 was there with him when he woke up and he 0:02:49.320 --> 0:02:52.079 was like, oh, yeah, I know you doesn't remember anything else. 0:02:52.880 --> 0:02:54.320 And I was like what happened to you, like what 0:02:54.360 --> 0:02:55.840 went on? And he's like, I don't know what happened 0:02:55.840 --> 0:02:58.239 to me. So his friend's like, I know what happened 0:02:58.240 --> 0:03:00.760 to you in the last six months months of your life. 0:03:00.800 --> 0:03:04.200 Your best friend died, your other best friend, your girlfriend 0:03:04.200 --> 0:03:06.359 of three and a half years broke up with you. 0:03:06.360 --> 0:03:09.720 You're in a traumatic car crash, you're failing your school, 0:03:09.800 --> 0:03:12.160 and you're union your studies, and that's really stressing you out, 0:03:12.440 --> 0:03:14.639 and all of it's kind of converging it once and 0:03:14.639 --> 0:03:17.239 it's like you've been really stressed out. And so when 0:03:17.240 --> 0:03:20.040 he explained this to his friend, the doctor's like, yeah, 0:03:20.040 --> 0:03:22.040 like that can happen quite a bit, like you can 0:03:22.680 --> 0:03:25.600 your brain, And I don't know the mathematical, scientifical way 0:03:25.639 --> 0:03:28.520 this works out, Like your brain will like almost like 0:03:28.600 --> 0:03:32.040 create this like protective layer around itself or around the 0:03:32.080 --> 0:03:34.239 core bits it needs to function, and it will wipe 0:03:34.280 --> 0:03:36.840 everything else that serves to like keep you in this 0:03:36.880 --> 0:03:40.120 really defective state. And what really scares me about that 0:03:40.240 --> 0:03:43.160 is how how so many of us are really flippant 0:03:43.160 --> 0:03:45.960 about experiencing stress, and how it's just a thing that 0:03:45.960 --> 0:03:48.600 has come up and go and to the point where 0:03:48.600 --> 0:03:52.040 we've normalized how excessively stressed we are. You know, like 0:03:52.240 --> 0:03:55.160 everyone's friend has been burnt out before, everyone's friends like 0:03:55.200 --> 0:03:58.760 stress related anxiety, stress related depression, stress, lad whatever. And 0:03:58.760 --> 0:04:02.680 it's like, okay, cool, that fine, but what is the solution? 0:04:03.000 --> 0:04:05.240 Because if we start losing our memories left, right and 0:04:05.320 --> 0:04:08.400 center because we couldn't deal with stress when it was present, 0:04:08.680 --> 0:04:11.080 what happens next? This guy's listening to his favorite song 0:04:11.080 --> 0:04:12.720 for the first time, being like, oh, yeah, I think 0:04:12.760 --> 0:04:14.720 I do kind of means truly. Yeah, He's like, this 0:04:14.800 --> 0:04:16.719 is like kind of sick. But it's like, okay, cool. 0:04:17.040 --> 0:04:18.840 The fun things are fun, right. You get to listen 0:04:18.839 --> 0:04:20.919 to your first song, your favorite song for the first time. 0:04:21.240 --> 0:04:23.400 You get to experience like the taste of your favorite 0:04:23.480 --> 0:04:24.479 food for the first time. 0:04:24.720 --> 0:04:25.760 A boy those core memories. 0:04:25.760 --> 0:04:28.200 He knows nothing about his family, nothing about his other 0:04:28.200 --> 0:04:30.640 best friends that he wasn't with, nothing about what he's 0:04:30.640 --> 0:04:33.120 been studying at school for the last bajillion years, nothing 0:04:33.160 --> 0:04:37.160 about his ex nothing about himself, and has to rebuild 0:04:37.560 --> 0:04:40.680 his whole persona in his early twenties, like it's not 0:04:40.800 --> 0:04:42.839 a fun thing to do, and I can imagine to 0:04:42.839 --> 0:04:45.800 be really freeing and Thank goodness, he has this friend 0:04:45.960 --> 0:04:49.120 that like has been handholding him through it because he if. 0:04:49.040 --> 0:04:51.680 You felt lonely before, you don't feel lonely now. 0:04:52.440 --> 0:04:55.320 So this is really a piece about stress, folks, and 0:04:55.360 --> 0:04:56.640 how do we aliviate stress. 0:04:56.640 --> 0:04:58.080 We brief. 0:04:59.640 --> 0:05:01.440 Pun muscles. One of the first things you do when 0:05:01.440 --> 0:05:06.080 you're having a panic attack. They say breathing and breathe out, 0:05:06.400 --> 0:05:08.800 and breathing and breathe out until you can breathe in. 0:05:09.080 --> 0:05:11.240 It's so crazy. When I had my first panic attack, 0:05:11.279 --> 0:05:12.880 I don't know if I told you this story. This 0:05:12.920 --> 0:05:16.520 first panic attack I've got, which resulted in me breaking 0:05:16.560 --> 0:05:18.480 up with my partner at the time and going to therapy, 0:05:18.600 --> 0:05:20.440 was like crazy. I was like, my life is like 0:05:20.520 --> 0:05:24.760 falling apart. Was having this panic attack right, couldn't breathe. 0:05:24.880 --> 0:05:27.520 The room was closing in my eyes and losing my vision. 0:05:27.520 --> 0:05:29.279 I'm like, I'm gonna die. I'm going to die. 0:05:29.320 --> 0:05:31.400 I'm gonna die. My partner at the time was like, 0:05:31.600 --> 0:05:34.560 just breathe, and I was like, just breathe. I can't breathe, 0:05:34.839 --> 0:05:35.159 And it was. 0:05:35.120 --> 0:05:36.679 So crazy because I didn't realize it was like actually 0:05:36.760 --> 0:05:38.600 good advice before, but I'm like in that moment, I 0:05:38.640 --> 0:05:41.760 was like, death becomes me, Like death becomes me because 0:05:41.800 --> 0:05:44.719 you want me to breathe. I can't even see vision 0:05:44.920 --> 0:05:47.000 at the moment, Like in my head it's like scrambled. 0:05:47.040 --> 0:05:48.279 It's like binary code. 0:05:48.360 --> 0:05:51.640 It's like la la la la la la la. It 0:05:51.760 --> 0:05:55.560 was insane like that the red emoji that's a mask. 0:05:56.000 --> 0:05:59.159 Yeah, I've never had a panel. 0:05:59.279 --> 0:05:59.599 Honestly. 0:05:59.640 --> 0:06:02.720 I felt like what I was feeling was like the 0:06:02.960 --> 0:06:06.800 like the sensation of being in a room that's flooding. 0:06:07.200 --> 0:06:09.520 Like I could feel it overcome me. I was like, 0:06:09.600 --> 0:06:11.960 oh my goodness, I need to get out of my brain. 0:06:12.320 --> 0:06:14.359 See what is this when people like I was just 0:06:14.400 --> 0:06:16.720 gonna say, I've never had a panic attack like that, 0:06:16.839 --> 0:06:18.800 Like any kind of like panic that I've had has 0:06:18.839 --> 0:06:21.560 been in response to a situation. It hasn't just like 0:06:21.600 --> 0:06:22.159 come over me. 0:06:22.240 --> 0:06:24.760 But this came. It was in responsible a situation. 0:06:25.040 --> 0:06:28.080 Yeah, But I felt like the room closing in and 0:06:28.120 --> 0:06:30.719 like I felt like my breath gets shallow, my chest 0:06:30.760 --> 0:06:34.360 get tight, my vision was getting blurry. It was like 0:06:34.440 --> 0:06:37.640 the most like entrapped feeling I've ever felt. And I 0:06:37.680 --> 0:06:39.919 was like, you could just get these frequently. 0:06:40.480 --> 0:06:41.720 This is not my normal. 0:06:41.960 --> 0:06:44.919 I've gone so far out of my day to day reality. 0:06:45.080 --> 0:06:48.159 You've taken me to the pits of hell. I cannot 0:06:48.160 --> 0:06:50.400 be here like you brought me here. You need to 0:06:50.480 --> 0:06:52.680 leave my life, thank you, Like this is not how 0:06:52.720 --> 0:06:55.560 I was operating before you and church my life. 0:06:55.600 --> 0:06:56.440 Please get away. 0:06:56.600 --> 0:06:57.279 That's horrible. 0:06:57.560 --> 0:07:00.360 But what I will say is that. 0:07:01.720 --> 0:07:05.279 Like the human brain very resilient. It is the things 0:07:05.320 --> 0:07:06.880 that does on a day to day to keep just 0:07:07.040 --> 0:07:09.279 let's just shit moving. The fact that you can breathe 0:07:09.320 --> 0:07:12.160 without like being mindful of it, blink without being mindful 0:07:12.200 --> 0:07:14.520 of it, talk and eat at the same time, listen 0:07:14.520 --> 0:07:14.920 and look. 0:07:15.520 --> 0:07:18.640 If we're gonna get into etiquette, finish your. 0:07:18.400 --> 0:07:19.760 Finish, yeah, you should do that. 0:07:20.000 --> 0:07:22.160 But it does all this stuff, and it stores your 0:07:22.200 --> 0:07:26.600 subconscious mind, stores everything you've ever seen, smell, tasted, experienced, 0:07:26.720 --> 0:07:30.400 heard all of that also while giving you space and 0:07:30.440 --> 0:07:32.880 time to learn new things and process new things. 0:07:33.200 --> 0:07:34.600 And it needs to keep doing that. 0:07:34.680 --> 0:07:37.000 It can't really just be stopping every time you have 0:07:37.040 --> 0:07:39.600 a bit of a crisis. And for that reason, we're 0:07:39.640 --> 0:07:41.600 not allowing ourselves to acknowledge when things just aren't like 0:07:42.000 --> 0:07:44.480 quite correct. And it's like I don't think that we 0:07:44.560 --> 0:07:48.320 realize things like stress have like a cumulative negative effect. 0:07:48.400 --> 0:07:50.920 It compounds, right, like the way that you could deal 0:07:50.920 --> 0:07:54.120 with stress when you eight it's not the way that 0:07:54.200 --> 0:07:56.240 you can deal with it. Now, one might assume you 0:07:56.280 --> 0:07:58.640 can deal with it better or far worse because you 0:07:58.800 --> 0:08:02.200 just like riddle yourself with all these unnecessary things. And 0:08:02.240 --> 0:08:05.240 then also, like when we talk about churama broadly, a 0:08:05.240 --> 0:08:09.000 lot of us aren't processing it right. And it's you know, 0:08:09.040 --> 0:08:11.120 there's one thing to have, that trauma that you know 0:08:11.160 --> 0:08:14.120 you're experiencing, like I went through a hard thing, but 0:08:14.120 --> 0:08:17.680 then there's all this like you know, traumatic music, traumatic 0:08:17.840 --> 0:08:23.080 media like true crime, like putting yourself an uncomfortable situation, 0:08:23.320 --> 0:08:25.320 Like all of these things just compound me like it's fine, 0:08:25.320 --> 0:08:26.720 it's fine, it's fine, it's fine, it's fine. 0:08:26.960 --> 0:08:27.480 Is it fine? 0:08:27.680 --> 0:08:29.600 So I don't watch True crime? Don't make me say 0:08:29.600 --> 0:08:32.439 it the third time. I keep having this scary vision 0:08:32.440 --> 0:08:36.000 of actually I want to do Yeah, I'll tell you 0:08:36.000 --> 0:08:41.280 all fair, okay, but repressed memories exist. Fam for going 0:08:41.320 --> 0:08:43.000 through it, I apologize. 0:08:42.400 --> 0:08:43.920 And if you want some tips on how to deal 0:08:43.960 --> 0:08:48.880 with your hidden stress, you should listen to doctor Gabor 0:08:49.200 --> 0:08:52.960 Marte g A b O R Space m ate. His 0:08:53.200 --> 0:08:57.679 whole vocation is about the dangers of hidden stress and 0:08:57.720 --> 0:09:00.560 how it is a gendered conversation as well. Women I'm 0:09:01.200 --> 0:09:04.160 to experience the negative impacts of hidden stress than men, aren't. 0:09:04.160 --> 0:09:05.439 That's why women are concipated. 0:09:05.920 --> 0:09:09.520 Yeah, all these things, autommunities, whatever, But basically he talks 0:09:09.520 --> 0:09:12.120 about the fact that the number one antidote to hidden 0:09:12.120 --> 0:09:14.840 stress is knowing yourself. And that's the fundamental reason why 0:09:14.880 --> 0:09:17.080 people struggle so much with it, because a lot of 0:09:17.120 --> 0:09:19.560 how we exist in the world is through suppression and repression, 0:09:19.760 --> 0:09:21.880 Like you don't want to acknowledge how you feel, acknowledge 0:09:21.880 --> 0:09:24.760 what you think, acknowledge that you're hurting you knowledge, acknowledging 0:09:24.800 --> 0:09:27.400 when something is off. And then when all that stuff compound, 0:09:27.640 --> 0:09:30.720 you create this ecosystem where there's no there's no normal. 0:09:31.120 --> 0:09:33.360 Here's this book called the Myth of Normal or the 0:09:33.400 --> 0:09:36.959 Dangers of Normal. Anyway, babes, get in sweat, save your life, 0:09:37.240 --> 0:09:38.600 stop yourself from getting amnesia. 0:09:38.880 --> 0:09:43.440 Kabor Marte, Gabor Marte, doctor Gabor Marte. When the body 0:09:43.480 --> 0:09:46.600 says no, the cost of hidden stress. I'm gonna listen 0:09:46.640 --> 0:09:47.559 to that on the way home. 0:09:47.679 --> 0:09:52.320 Get into it, kit flex and frooms, flex and frooms flex. 0:09:52.360 --> 0:09:54.760 Please put your hand on your heart, which one right 0:09:54.840 --> 0:09:55.880 hand across the body? 0:09:56.000 --> 0:09:56.360 Yeah? 0:09:56.400 --> 0:09:59.400 Have you ever hand on heart? Pretended to be at 0:09:59.440 --> 0:10:01.199 a party make someone jealous? 0:10:01.400 --> 0:10:04.319 No, I don't even know how I would do that. 0:10:04.640 --> 0:10:06.960 I pretended to have more fun at a party than I 0:10:07.080 --> 0:10:09.160 was and documented that fun to make someone jealous. 0:10:09.200 --> 0:10:10.600 Of course, who wouldn't. 0:10:11.800 --> 0:10:14.040 I'm not going any and then you leave ten minutes 0:10:14.080 --> 0:10:16.120 after we get the content, of course, but not faked 0:10:16.120 --> 0:10:17.280 being at a whole entire party. 0:10:17.280 --> 0:10:17.960 How do you even do that? 0:10:18.320 --> 0:10:21.280 You go on Google Images and you find a picture 0:10:21.320 --> 0:10:24.680 of people partying, and you shake your phone a little bit. No, 0:10:25.360 --> 0:10:28.160 but there's actually go on TikTok who is very good 0:10:28.200 --> 0:10:29.959 at it. He's gonna tell us a story. 0:10:30.080 --> 0:10:32.080 As many of you guys know, when I was younger, 0:10:32.120 --> 0:10:34.679 I faked being at parties on my Snapchat story. One 0:10:34.720 --> 0:10:36.760 of the nights I pretended to be at a party, 0:10:37.000 --> 0:10:39.800 people started swiping up asking if they could come. At 0:10:39.800 --> 0:10:41.760 the time, I thought the best idea would be to 0:10:41.840 --> 0:10:44.720 pretend the cops came to bust the parties so nobody 0:10:44.760 --> 0:10:46.720 would want to come. So the party started off well. 0:10:46.800 --> 0:10:52.680 I was drinking out of my solocup Okay, drinking makes 0:10:52.720 --> 0:10:54.440 you silly, so it makes sense why I was acting 0:10:54.520 --> 0:10:58.160 like this. The next video I'm about to show you 0:10:58.200 --> 0:10:59.959 is when the party took a turn for the work. 0:11:00.679 --> 0:11:03.480 Did I get caught? Let's find out. Hops came and 0:11:03.520 --> 0:11:06.240 I can't find my shoes. I was pretending to run 0:11:06.280 --> 0:11:08.480 away in this. If you can't tell, that's not all 0:11:08.520 --> 0:11:10.960 because I thought faking these parties made me look cooler, 0:11:11.000 --> 0:11:13.199 so I kept on doing it weekend after weekend. So 0:11:13.240 --> 0:11:14.160 just let me know if you want to. 0:11:14.160 --> 0:11:18.120 See those, let me know with high in the commons. 0:11:19.360 --> 0:11:21.960 Is this person very young? I don't understand. 0:11:22.240 --> 0:11:23.480 He sounds a bit young, doesn't he? 0:11:23.559 --> 0:11:25.480 Have you seen the visual? No, tell us what you 0:11:25.520 --> 0:11:26.120 know about him. 0:11:26.240 --> 0:11:28.520 I'm not actually anything. I didn't watch the video. I 0:11:28.600 --> 0:11:29.680 had a busy weekend. 0:11:29.720 --> 0:11:31.000 I'm seeing for the fast time with all of you. 0:11:31.760 --> 0:11:34.160 I really am so. I just saw the headliner, thought 0:11:34.160 --> 0:11:36.560 that's a bit of me. I fully endorsed pretending that 0:11:36.600 --> 0:11:39.720 you're at parties and keeping your social clout on point. 0:11:39.960 --> 0:11:42.760 I think it's important to have an active social life. 0:11:42.760 --> 0:11:45.440 And if that's just like in a fantasy land, then 0:11:45.600 --> 0:11:45.959 go off. 0:11:46.000 --> 0:11:49.720 Remindine this travel blogger Amelia something who came under fire 0:11:49.720 --> 0:11:52.320 a couple of years ago for photoshopping her travel destination. 0:11:52.440 --> 0:11:53.920 So I think she went to the taj Mahal when 0:11:53.920 --> 0:11:56.720 it was under construction, like refurbishing or whatever, and she 0:11:56.840 --> 0:11:59.720 like photos shopped it so it was pristine and like 0:12:00.000 --> 0:12:01.800 people were like, wait, this is not accurate, and she 0:12:01.840 --> 0:12:03.720 just never said anything about it. But now she's in 0:12:03.760 --> 0:12:06.280 a different niche so but there's something about that. It 0:12:06.360 --> 0:12:08.679 ties into the strike sound effect for me, where in 0:12:08.720 --> 0:12:10.280 that instance, the best thing she could have done was 0:12:10.280 --> 0:12:12.360 say nothing at all, because then those who didn't know 0:12:12.400 --> 0:12:15.040 she was photoshopping didn't know she was photoshopping, and had 0:12:15.080 --> 0:12:17.560 she'd apologized for it, take, it would have put all 0:12:17.600 --> 0:12:20.800 her content into question. I don't know, scam freely, Okay, 0:12:21.280 --> 0:12:24.600 you need to go ahead. Flex And a couple months ago, 0:12:24.640 --> 0:12:27.240 I want to say about six, the term quite quitting 0:12:27.440 --> 0:12:30.360 really really just shook up the Internet and everyone who 0:12:30.400 --> 0:12:33.240 has a job in like semi corporate environments. What we 0:12:33.320 --> 0:12:36.360 found is that people were getting to a breaking point, 0:12:36.400 --> 0:12:39.800 experiencing mass burnout and figuring out that a solution was required, 0:12:40.080 --> 0:12:43.559 one that didn't involve quitting their job completely, but definitely 0:12:43.559 --> 0:12:46.959 involved putting in less effort or not overachieving anymore. So 0:12:46.960 --> 0:12:50.560 there's people who would again early, stay late, use their 0:12:50.600 --> 0:12:53.199 personal networks all for this job. They had to stop. 0:12:53.240 --> 0:12:55.320 And so that's what quiet quitting is. This idea that 0:12:55.320 --> 0:12:57.600 you'll no longer go above and beyond for your job. 0:12:57.800 --> 0:13:01.120 You'll act your wage as they say, and you won't 0:13:01.120 --> 0:13:04.040 give more than what's required from you. Then we discovered 0:13:04.120 --> 0:13:07.360 bare minimum Mondays, which is an antidote to the Sunday scary. 0:13:07.440 --> 0:13:09.560 Is this idea that on Sundays we tend to want 0:13:09.600 --> 0:13:11.880 to get prepared for the work week by doing work, 0:13:11.960 --> 0:13:14.240 thus not getting a full weekend and then getting to 0:13:14.280 --> 0:13:17.800 Monday anyway and being stressed because like Monday suck. Now 0:13:18.720 --> 0:13:21.120 the conversation has evolved into will every day can be 0:13:21.120 --> 0:13:23.160 an opportunity to do less at work? Considering that we're 0:13:23.200 --> 0:13:25.080 all overworked? I mean, I want to say we're all, 0:13:25.160 --> 0:13:27.440 but some of you need to do better, you need 0:13:27.480 --> 0:13:29.400 to work harder, But for the most part, there is 0:13:29.400 --> 0:13:31.880 an opportunity for us to do less every single day 0:13:31.920 --> 0:13:34.280 of the week. So according to Business Insider, we have 0:13:34.320 --> 0:13:37.080 some options for you. We've got to try less Tuesday. Okay, 0:13:37.679 --> 0:13:40.080 This is the idea that you don't want to weigh 0:13:40.080 --> 0:13:41.920 yourself out. You're just at the start of the week, right, 0:13:42.360 --> 0:13:44.319 So that PowerPoint your boss asks for you'll get to 0:13:44.400 --> 0:13:47.160 it eventually. The email from your client, it'll be waiting 0:13:47.160 --> 0:13:50.160 for tomorrow. Instead, focus on what needs happened tonight, which 0:13:50.120 --> 0:13:52.160 is just having fuel to get through the week, right, 0:13:52.400 --> 0:13:54.760 which I think is fine if you are in a 0:13:54.800 --> 0:13:58.480 position where like you're needed. I feel like it's a 0:13:58.480 --> 0:14:01.600 weird thing to phrase, but most people are expendable at 0:14:01.640 --> 0:14:03.920 their job, which sucks because you, I mean, you want 0:14:03.960 --> 0:14:05.360 to be at a position where you're like, everybody needs 0:14:05.400 --> 0:14:07.880 me here, but it's like, no, if you quick tomorrow, 0:14:07.880 --> 0:14:11.040 if you died, you'd be replaced. And that's some scary news. 0:14:11.360 --> 0:14:14.120 We also have work not Wednesday, you know, work anywhere 0:14:14.200 --> 0:14:16.319 by the office, seckless Fridays. 0:14:16.320 --> 0:14:18.360 What does that mean? I don't know, But then they 0:14:18.360 --> 0:14:20.320 say there's full around Friday. Here's the thing. 0:14:20.680 --> 0:14:23.800 I feel like those of us who have like poisoned 0:14:23.800 --> 0:14:26.760 ourselves into having a work ethic that impacts us negatively, 0:14:26.880 --> 0:14:28.760 we've got to take accountability for that because I know 0:14:28.840 --> 0:14:30.560 all of us have put ourselves in positions where we've 0:14:30.560 --> 0:14:33.160 given too much and created a standard that we can't keep, 0:14:33.320 --> 0:14:35.200 and now we have to like backtrack a little bit, 0:14:35.280 --> 0:14:38.320 backtrack a little bit. My issue with these broad statements 0:14:38.400 --> 0:14:41.760 is that you're encouraging your favorite bludger to also do 0:14:41.800 --> 0:14:43.600 the same thing, and they weren't even doing that much 0:14:43.640 --> 0:14:44.080 to begin with. 0:14:44.720 --> 0:14:46.120 You know what I mean, we need to we need 0:14:46.160 --> 0:14:48.760 to order it literally. You know what I'm confused about. 0:14:48.760 --> 0:14:51.200 Why have they left out Thursday? Because I think Thursday 0:14:51.280 --> 0:14:53.520 is the ideal day to do nothing. What do you 0:14:53.520 --> 0:14:57.680 want your boss is fatigued, I'm run through Thursday? Yeah, 0:14:57.760 --> 0:15:01.560 because that brain is ran through. You've been listening to 0:15:01.600 --> 0:15:05.040 the flexen Froom's daily podcast. For more, Tune Indicator on 0:15:05.160 --> 0:15:07.240 DAB or stream it on iHeartRadio.