Speaker 1: Flex and Rooms Flex and Frooms.
Speaker 2: This is the Flex and Rooms catch up podcast.
Speaker 3: Welcome back to the party Flex and Rooms on CATA.
Speaker 3: Any updates for us. I went to the gym on
Speaker 3: the weekend. So what I'm doing now is I do
Speaker 3: my upper body alone. I do my lower body with
Speaker 3: my pet. Stuff is crazy everyone, you know, how like
Speaker 3: when you live in your own existence, you assume that
Speaker 3: like you just know everything there is to know about living.
Speaker 3: Like you'll say things like there's no one new to
Speaker 3: hang out with in Sydney, or like there's no good
Speaker 3: food around here, and it's like, yeah, but you've just
Speaker 3: been doing the same thing again and again in the game.
Speaker 3: Before I went to the gym, I just didn't have
Speaker 3: like any comprehension of like the commitment it takes to
Speaker 3: be a strong person in that capacity. Like I look
Speaker 3: at these people and I'm like, do your friends know
Speaker 3: that you can lift that heavy?
Speaker 2: Do they know? Are they aware of your strength?
Speaker 1: Do people know how hard it is for me to
Speaker 1: get up in the morning.
Speaker 2: Literally, I'm just like I don't.
Speaker 3: I don't feel like we're aware, or like when I
Speaker 3: see people who have really intense hobbies and everyone's like, oh,
Speaker 3: my god, why do you spend so much time doing that?
Speaker 3: Do you not know the feeling of being committed to
Speaker 3: something for your own enjoyment. You're not familiar with what
Speaker 3: that feels like. Get into it. Get into it. I
Speaker 3: want to say, get a hobby in a way that
Speaker 3: it doesn't sound derogatory.
Speaker 1: It sounds derogatory, and it's making me nervous because I
Speaker 1: just never liked that concept. You're with flexing frooms. Let's go.
Speaker 2: You're listening to flex and forms on kata.
Speaker 3: If there was ever a reason to reduce the amount
Speaker 3: of stress you have in your life, let this be
Speaker 3: one at the top of your list.
Speaker 2: I was scrolling through TikTok the.
Speaker 3: Other day and like, I'm quite stingy with the videos
Speaker 3: I choose to watch.
Speaker 2: I'm able to scroll scirl scirrel squirrels girl.
Speaker 3: And the format of this one, it was a friend
Speaker 3: kind of like interviewing his other friend by holding the
Speaker 3: camera right up to his face. Already, I was like,
Speaker 3: this is too in joky for me. But on my
Speaker 3: other phone, I got a text. I kind of let
Speaker 3: it play in the background, and it was this guy
Speaker 3: who was like into so let's say the guy, uh,
Speaker 3: I'm gonna call amnesia, and friend so amnesia. He's saying
Speaker 3: that he doesn't remember anything, so he doesn't know his parents' names,
Speaker 3: and that he was saying that when he woke up
Speaker 3: in the hospital, the only reason why he knew his
Speaker 3: own names that he was reading it off his wristband,
Speaker 3: and that when the nurses were quizzing him and he
Speaker 3: didn't want to admit that he had amnesia, they were asking, like,
Speaker 3: what's your name, what's your day to birth? He was
Speaker 3: reading off his wristband, and so the comment thought he
Speaker 3: was joking there. Everyone's like, you have amnesia. You're like
Speaker 3: twenty one, what are you talking about?
Speaker 2: Like what happened? Did you get in the car crash?
Speaker 3: And the documenter, the TikTok creator, was like, oh, you
Speaker 3: know what, I'm going to make a video talking about it.
Speaker 3: So basically, this guy got stress related amnesia within a day.
Speaker 3: He was with his friend, just hanging out like usual,
Speaker 3: and the next day he couldn't remember anything. And the
Speaker 3: only reason why he remembers his friend said his friend
Speaker 3: was there with him when he woke up and he
Speaker 3: was like, oh, yeah, I know you doesn't remember anything else.
Speaker 3: And I was like what happened to you, like what
Speaker 3: went on? And he's like, I don't know what happened
Speaker 3: to me. So his friend's like, I know what happened
Speaker 3: to you in the last six months months of your life.
Speaker 3: Your best friend died, your other best friend, your girlfriend
Speaker 3: of three and a half years broke up with you.
Speaker 3: You're in a traumatic car crash, you're failing your school,
Speaker 3: and you're union your studies, and that's really stressing you out,
Speaker 3: and all of it's kind of converging it once and
Speaker 3: it's like you've been really stressed out. And so when
Speaker 3: he explained this to his friend, the doctor's like, yeah,
Speaker 3: like that can happen quite a bit, like you can
Speaker 3: your brain, And I don't know the mathematical, scientifical way
Speaker 3: this works out, Like your brain will like almost like
Speaker 3: create this like protective layer around itself or around the
Speaker 3: core bits it needs to function, and it will wipe
Speaker 3: everything else that serves to like keep you in this
Speaker 3: really defective state. And what really scares me about that
Speaker 3: is how how so many of us are really flippant
Speaker 3: about experiencing stress, and how it's just a thing that
Speaker 3: has come up and go and to the point where
Speaker 3: we've normalized how excessively stressed we are. You know, like
Speaker 3: everyone's friend has been burnt out before, everyone's friends like
Speaker 3: stress related anxiety, stress related depression, stress, lad whatever. And
Speaker 3: it's like, okay, cool, that fine, but what is the solution?
Speaker 3: Because if we start losing our memories left, right and
Speaker 3: center because we couldn't deal with stress when it was present,
Speaker 3: what happens next? This guy's listening to his favorite song
Speaker 3: for the first time, being like, oh, yeah, I think
Speaker 3: I do kind of means truly. Yeah, He's like, this
Speaker 3: is like kind of sick. But it's like, okay, cool.
Speaker 3: The fun things are fun, right. You get to listen
Speaker 3: to your first song, your favorite song for the first time.
Speaker 3: You get to experience like the taste of your favorite
Speaker 3: food for the first time.
Speaker 2: A boy those core memories.
Speaker 3: He knows nothing about his family, nothing about his other
Speaker 3: best friends that he wasn't with, nothing about what he's
Speaker 3: been studying at school for the last bajillion years, nothing
Speaker 3: about his ex nothing about himself, and has to rebuild
Speaker 3: his whole persona in his early twenties, like it's not
Speaker 3: a fun thing to do, and I can imagine to
Speaker 3: be really freeing and Thank goodness, he has this friend
Speaker 3: that like has been handholding him through it because he if.
Speaker 2: You felt lonely before, you don't feel lonely now.
Speaker 1: So this is really a piece about stress, folks, and
Speaker 1: how do we aliviate stress.
Speaker 2: We brief.
Speaker 1: Pun muscles. One of the first things you do when
Speaker 1: you're having a panic attack. They say breathing and breathe out,
Speaker 1: and breathing and breathe out until you can breathe in.
Speaker 3: It's so crazy. When I had my first panic attack,
Speaker 3: I don't know if I told you this story. This
Speaker 3: first panic attack I've got, which resulted in me breaking
Speaker 3: up with my partner at the time and going to therapy,
Speaker 3: was like crazy. I was like, my life is like
Speaker 3: falling apart. Was having this panic attack right, couldn't breathe.
Speaker 3: The room was closing in my eyes and losing my vision.
Speaker 3: I'm like, I'm gonna die. I'm going to die.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna die. My partner at the time was like,
Speaker 2: just breathe, and I was like, just breathe. I can't breathe,
Speaker 2: And it was.
Speaker 3: So crazy because I didn't realize it was like actually
Speaker 3: good advice before, but I'm like in that moment, I
Speaker 3: was like, death becomes me, Like death becomes me because
Speaker 3: you want me to breathe. I can't even see vision
Speaker 3: at the moment, Like in my head it's like scrambled.
Speaker 2: It's like binary code.
Speaker 3: It's like la la la la la la la. It
Speaker 3: was insane like that the red emoji that's a mask.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I've never had a panel.
Speaker 2: Honestly.
Speaker 3: I felt like what I was feeling was like the
Speaker 3: like the sensation of being in a room that's flooding.
Speaker 3: Like I could feel it overcome me. I was like,
Speaker 3: oh my goodness, I need to get out of my brain.
Speaker 1: See what is this when people like I was just
Speaker 1: gonna say, I've never had a panic attack like that,
Speaker 1: Like any kind of like panic that I've had has
Speaker 1: been in response to a situation. It hasn't just like
Speaker 1: come over me.
Speaker 2: But this came. It was in responsible a situation.
Speaker 3: Yeah, But I felt like the room closing in and
Speaker 3: like I felt like my breath gets shallow, my chest
Speaker 3: get tight, my vision was getting blurry. It was like
Speaker 3: the most like entrapped feeling I've ever felt. And I
Speaker 3: was like, you could just get these frequently.
Speaker 2: This is not my normal.
Speaker 3: I've gone so far out of my day to day reality.
Speaker 3: You've taken me to the pits of hell. I cannot
Speaker 3: be here like you brought me here. You need to
Speaker 3: leave my life, thank you, Like this is not how
Speaker 3: I was operating before you and church my life.
Speaker 2: Please get away.
Speaker 1: That's horrible.
Speaker 2: But what I will say is that.
Speaker 3: Like the human brain very resilient. It is the things
Speaker 3: that does on a day to day to keep just
Speaker 3: let's just shit moving. The fact that you can breathe
Speaker 3: without like being mindful of it, blink without being mindful
Speaker 3: of it, talk and eat at the same time, listen
Speaker 3: and look.
Speaker 1: If we're gonna get into etiquette, finish your.
Speaker 2: Finish, yeah, you should do that.
Speaker 3: But it does all this stuff, and it stores your
Speaker 3: subconscious mind, stores everything you've ever seen, smell, tasted, experienced,
Speaker 3: heard all of that also while giving you space and
Speaker 3: time to learn new things and process new things.
Speaker 2: And it needs to keep doing that.
Speaker 3: It can't really just be stopping every time you have
Speaker 3: a bit of a crisis. And for that reason, we're
Speaker 3: not allowing ourselves to acknowledge when things just aren't like
Speaker 3: quite correct. And it's like I don't think that we
Speaker 3: realize things like stress have like a cumulative negative effect.
Speaker 3: It compounds, right, like the way that you could deal
Speaker 3: with stress when you eight it's not the way that
Speaker 3: you can deal with it. Now, one might assume you
Speaker 3: can deal with it better or far worse because you
Speaker 3: just like riddle yourself with all these unnecessary things. And
Speaker 3: then also, like when we talk about churama broadly, a
Speaker 3: lot of us aren't processing it right. And it's you know,
Speaker 3: there's one thing to have, that trauma that you know
Speaker 3: you're experiencing, like I went through a hard thing, but
Speaker 3: then there's all this like you know, traumatic music, traumatic
Speaker 3: media like true crime, like putting yourself an uncomfortable situation,
Speaker 3: Like all of these things just compound me like it's fine,
Speaker 3: it's fine, it's fine, it's fine, it's fine.
Speaker 2: Is it fine?
Speaker 1: So I don't watch True crime? Don't make me say
Speaker 1: it the third time. I keep having this scary vision
Speaker 1: of actually I want to do Yeah, I'll tell you
Speaker 1: all fair, okay, but repressed memories exist. Fam for going
Speaker 1: through it, I apologize.
Speaker 3: And if you want some tips on how to deal
Speaker 3: with your hidden stress, you should listen to doctor Gabor
Speaker 3: Marte g A b O R Space m ate. His
Speaker 3: whole vocation is about the dangers of hidden stress and
Speaker 3: how it is a gendered conversation as well. Women I'm
Speaker 3: to experience the negative impacts of hidden stress than men, aren't.
Speaker 1: That's why women are concipated.
Speaker 3: Yeah, all these things, autommunities, whatever, But basically he talks
Speaker 3: about the fact that the number one antidote to hidden
Speaker 3: stress is knowing yourself. And that's the fundamental reason why
Speaker 3: people struggle so much with it, because a lot of
Speaker 3: how we exist in the world is through suppression and repression,
Speaker 3: Like you don't want to acknowledge how you feel, acknowledge
Speaker 3: what you think, acknowledge that you're hurting you knowledge, acknowledging
Speaker 3: when something is off. And then when all that stuff compound,
Speaker 3: you create this ecosystem where there's no there's no normal.
Speaker 3: Here's this book called the Myth of Normal or the
Speaker 3: Dangers of Normal. Anyway, babes, get in sweat, save your life,
Speaker 3: stop yourself from getting amnesia.
Speaker 1: Kabor Marte, Gabor Marte, doctor Gabor Marte. When the body
Speaker 1: says no, the cost of hidden stress. I'm gonna listen
Speaker 1: to that on the way home.
Speaker 3: Get into it, kit flex and frooms, flex and frooms flex.
Speaker 1: Please put your hand on your heart, which one right
Speaker 1: hand across the body?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Have you ever hand on heart? Pretended to be at
Speaker 1: a party make someone jealous?
Speaker 2: No, I don't even know how I would do that.
Speaker 3: I pretended to have more fun at a party than I
Speaker 3: was and documented that fun to make someone jealous.
Speaker 2: Of course, who wouldn't.
Speaker 3: I'm not going any and then you leave ten minutes
Speaker 3: after we get the content, of course, but not faked
Speaker 3: being at a whole entire party.
Speaker 2: How do you even do that?
Speaker 1: You go on Google Images and you find a picture
Speaker 1: of people partying, and you shake your phone a little bit. No,
Speaker 1: but there's actually go on TikTok who is very good
Speaker 1: at it. He's gonna tell us a story.
Speaker 4: As many of you guys know, when I was younger,
Speaker 4: I faked being at parties on my Snapchat story. One
Speaker 4: of the nights I pretended to be at a party,
Speaker 4: people started swiping up asking if they could come. At
Speaker 4: the time, I thought the best idea would be to
Speaker 4: pretend the cops came to bust the parties so nobody
Speaker 4: would want to come. So the party started off well.
Speaker 4: I was drinking out of my solocup Okay, drinking makes
Speaker 4: you silly, so it makes sense why I was acting
Speaker 4: like this. The next video I'm about to show you
Speaker 4: is when the party took a turn for the work.
Speaker 4: Did I get caught? Let's find out. Hops came and
Speaker 4: I can't find my shoes. I was pretending to run
Speaker 4: away in this. If you can't tell, that's not all
Speaker 4: because I thought faking these parties made me look cooler,
Speaker 4: so I kept on doing it weekend after weekend. So
Speaker 4: just let me know if you want to.
Speaker 1: See those, let me know with high in the commons.
Speaker 2: Is this person very young? I don't understand.
Speaker 1: He sounds a bit young, doesn't he?
Speaker 2: Have you seen the visual? No, tell us what you
Speaker 2: know about him.
Speaker 1: I'm not actually anything. I didn't watch the video. I
Speaker 1: had a busy weekend.
Speaker 2: I'm seeing for the fast time with all of you.
Speaker 1: I really am so. I just saw the headliner, thought
Speaker 1: that's a bit of me. I fully endorsed pretending that
Speaker 1: you're at parties and keeping your social clout on point.
Speaker 1: I think it's important to have an active social life.
Speaker 1: And if that's just like in a fantasy land, then
Speaker 1: go off.
Speaker 3: Remindine this travel blogger Amelia something who came under fire
Speaker 3: a couple of years ago for photoshopping her travel destination.
Speaker 3: So I think she went to the taj Mahal when
Speaker 3: it was under construction, like refurbishing or whatever, and she
Speaker 3: like photos shopped it so it was pristine and like
Speaker 3: people were like, wait, this is not accurate, and she
Speaker 3: just never said anything about it. But now she's in
Speaker 3: a different niche so but there's something about that. It
Speaker 3: ties into the strike sound effect for me, where in
Speaker 3: that instance, the best thing she could have done was
Speaker 3: say nothing at all, because then those who didn't know
Speaker 3: she was photoshopping didn't know she was photoshopping, and had
Speaker 3: she'd apologized for it, take, it would have put all
Speaker 3: her content into question. I don't know, scam freely, Okay,
Speaker 3: you need to go ahead. Flex And a couple months ago,
Speaker 3: I want to say about six, the term quite quitting
Speaker 3: really really just shook up the Internet and everyone who
Speaker 3: has a job in like semi corporate environments. What we
Speaker 3: found is that people were getting to a breaking point,
Speaker 3: experiencing mass burnout and figuring out that a solution was required,
Speaker 3: one that didn't involve quitting their job completely, but definitely
Speaker 3: involved putting in less effort or not overachieving anymore. So
Speaker 3: there's people who would again early, stay late, use their
Speaker 3: personal networks all for this job. They had to stop.
Speaker 3: And so that's what quiet quitting is. This idea that
Speaker 3: you'll no longer go above and beyond for your job.
Speaker 3: You'll act your wage as they say, and you won't
Speaker 3: give more than what's required from you. Then we discovered
Speaker 3: bare minimum Mondays, which is an antidote to the Sunday scary.
Speaker 3: Is this idea that on Sundays we tend to want
Speaker 3: to get prepared for the work week by doing work,
Speaker 3: thus not getting a full weekend and then getting to
Speaker 3: Monday anyway and being stressed because like Monday suck. Now
Speaker 3: the conversation has evolved into will every day can be
Speaker 3: an opportunity to do less at work? Considering that we're
Speaker 3: all overworked? I mean, I want to say we're all,
Speaker 3: but some of you need to do better, you need
Speaker 3: to work harder, But for the most part, there is
Speaker 3: an opportunity for us to do less every single day
Speaker 3: of the week. So according to Business Insider, we have
Speaker 3: some options for you. We've got to try less Tuesday. Okay,
Speaker 3: This is the idea that you don't want to weigh
Speaker 3: yourself out. You're just at the start of the week, right,
Speaker 3: So that PowerPoint your boss asks for you'll get to
Speaker 3: it eventually. The email from your client, it'll be waiting
Speaker 3: for tomorrow. Instead, focus on what needs happened tonight, which
Speaker 3: is just having fuel to get through the week, right,
Speaker 3: which I think is fine if you are in a
Speaker 3: position where like you're needed. I feel like it's a
Speaker 3: weird thing to phrase, but most people are expendable at
Speaker 3: their job, which sucks because you, I mean, you want
Speaker 3: to be at a position where you're like, everybody needs
Speaker 3: me here, but it's like, no, if you quick tomorrow,
Speaker 3: if you died, you'd be replaced. And that's some scary news.
Speaker 3: We also have work not Wednesday, you know, work anywhere
Speaker 3: by the office, seckless Fridays.
Speaker 2: What does that mean? I don't know, But then they
Speaker 2: say there's full around Friday. Here's the thing.
Speaker 3: I feel like those of us who have like poisoned
Speaker 3: ourselves into having a work ethic that impacts us negatively,
Speaker 3: we've got to take accountability for that because I know
Speaker 3: all of us have put ourselves in positions where we've
Speaker 3: given too much and created a standard that we can't keep,
Speaker 3: and now we have to like backtrack a little bit,
Speaker 3: backtrack a little bit. My issue with these broad statements
Speaker 3: is that you're encouraging your favorite bludger to also do
Speaker 3: the same thing, and they weren't even doing that much
Speaker 3: to begin with.
Speaker 1: You know what I mean, we need to we need
Speaker 1: to order it literally. You know what I'm confused about.
Speaker 1: Why have they left out Thursday? Because I think Thursday
Speaker 1: is the ideal day to do nothing. What do you
Speaker 1: want your boss is fatigued, I'm run through Thursday? Yeah,
Speaker 1: because that brain is ran through. You've been listening to
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