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Speaker 1: Hello, my name's Santasha Nabananga Bamblet. I'm a proud yr

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Speaker 1: the Order Kerni Whoalbury and a waddery woman. And before

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Speaker 1: we get started on She's on the Money podcast, I

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Speaker 1: would like to acknowledge the traditional custodians of the land

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Speaker 1: of which this podcast is recorded on a wondery country,

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Speaker 1: acknowledging the elders, the ancestors and the next generation coming through.

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Speaker 1: As this podcast is about connecting, empowering, knowledge sharing and

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Speaker 1: the storytelling of you to make a difference for today

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Speaker 1: and lasting impact for tomorrow.

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Speaker 2: Let's get into it.

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Speaker 3: She's on the Money. She's on the Money.

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Speaker 4: Hello, and welcome to She's on the Money, the podcast

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Speaker 4: for people who want financial freedom. Today's Friday, which means

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Speaker 4: it's time to get the team together and celebrate you

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Speaker 4: the incredible She's on the Money community. Today will be

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Speaker 4: sharing our favorite money wins. We'll be helping to answer

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Speaker 4: juicy money dilemma which this week is all about rainbow

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Speaker 4: washing workplaces, and we unpack something you slid into our

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Speaker 4: dams about which this week is the pressure to be

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Speaker 4: personally and financially set up by your thirties.

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Speaker 5: These are good exciting things.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I know they're very relatable. Actually both these are actually

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Speaker 4: relatable to me. But Jess, the energy is different in

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Speaker 4: this room today. I feel like we've got someone else

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Speaker 5: Well, that would be exactly why, because we do, in

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Speaker 5: fact have somebody else with us. We have our wonderful

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Speaker 5: friend Maria at Til joining us for this International Women's

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Speaker 5: Day episode. And it's a very full cycle moment because

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Speaker 5: if you came to our Melbourne International Women's Day event

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Speaker 5: in twenty twenty two, you would have seen the gorgeous

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Speaker 5: Maria then as well. So we're so excited to have

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Speaker 5: you back.

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Speaker 2: Thank you guys for having me.

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Speaker 6: When you were saying that, I'm like, oh my god,

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Speaker 6: am I breathing too heavily.

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Speaker 1: In the.

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Speaker 6: So it's good to be back. I'm so excited to

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Speaker 6: be chatting to you guys. And I can't believe it's

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Speaker 6: been what to you since then?

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Speaker 5: Oh my god, it's flown. It is crazy. But for

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Speaker 5: those who don't know you, Maria is a woman of

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Speaker 5: so many talents. She is an author, a speaker, a host,

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Speaker 5: former Miss Universe Australia as well as a huge advocate

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Speaker 5: for women and the LGBT q I A plus communities. Literally,

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Speaker 5: I feel like there's nothing that you can't or don't do.

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Speaker 6: I feel like that list makes me sound so much

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Speaker 6: more impressive than I actually am. I I can't stop

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Speaker 6: ordering Uber eats, I can't read them out very well.

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Speaker 2: I'm surprised I got here on time.

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Speaker 6: So there's like there's a lot you guys, this is

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Speaker 6: what I mean.

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Speaker 5: It wouldn't be fair if you were all of these

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Speaker 5: things and also very timely.

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Speaker 6: So something there's a lot that gives you, guys.

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Speaker 4: It's extremely comforting to know she's just one of us who.

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Speaker 6: Heavily into microphones and disappears into the ether.

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Speaker 5: Perfect.

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Speaker 4: That's my kind of woman, honestly. A First of all,

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Speaker 4: let's start off with talking about our weeks. Jess, do

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Speaker 5: It's been good. I love International Women's Day Week because

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Speaker 5: the pink cupcakes in the corporate office. We love women

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Speaker 5: But it's just really cool I think this week to

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Speaker 5: I'm loving it. How about you, Maria, how's your week been?

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Speaker 5: You'd be busy? I feel like at the moment.

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Speaker 4: I've just been chilling as well. It's just been a

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Speaker 4: the community money wins, all right, let me.

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Speaker 5: Give you some. So firstly, this week I've got a

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Speaker 5: money win from Rachel, who said I bought my first home.

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Speaker 5: Property Playbook helped me immensely, And that might be a

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Speaker 5: I feel like that is such a wonderful feeling, and

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Speaker 5: I feel like all of us do. So congratulations, proud

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Speaker 5: Next, I've got a money win from Leah, who said

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Speaker 5: so I have been scouring the op shops to stock

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Speaker 5: How good well done, Leah. Next, I've got a money

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Speaker 5: win from Alana, who said I cleaned out my spare

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Speaker 5: Where every week there is a win from somebody saying,

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Speaker 5: like I found twenty bucks in my jeans, I found

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Speaker 6: How is it not turning up in the washing machine?

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Speaker 6: How are you not washing your money using it in

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Speaker 5: I've got money in from ash who said seven to

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Speaker 5: eleven has struck again. This has to be the most

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Speaker 5: I've ever saved so far. My fiance and I share

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Speaker 5: It's very good start, very good start. Indeed. Then I've

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Speaker 5: Very good. Those things are so good, the electric ones, and.

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Speaker 5: And that's for all the people who say the little

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Speaker 5: Yeah, but Maria, we when we have people come on,

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Speaker 6: Well, okay, I'm going to start this on a note.

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Speaker 6: I'm gonna just you know, marder myself a little bit here,

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Speaker 2: Turns out, Raya.

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Speaker 6: You guys had my girlfriend on this podcast a couple

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Speaker 2: I hate that guitar tuna, guys.

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Speaker 5: Do you play guitar?

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Speaker 2: I have not so much plucked a string.

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Speaker 6: lockdown crisis. Mine was totally I'm gonna learn to play

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Speaker 6: So if you're listening, this was me sacrificing my mind,

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Speaker 5: Yeah, like I did the Hunter Markets, which is a

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Speaker 4: Totally, that's really good. What was it like.

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Speaker 5: In the box? Yeah, clothes. I was selling my clothes.

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Speaker 2: But every six months, gather up.

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Speaker 6: Clothes that maybe you've just worn on high rotation and

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Speaker 5: I've seen little wardrobes swap parties and I always think

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Speaker 5: Welcome back, everybody. Let's take a listen to this week's

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Speaker 2: Now, let's take a.

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Speaker 8: Listen to this week's money dilemma.

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Speaker 2: Hey, team, So.

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Speaker 9: Like, I've got a really curly one for you, right.

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Speaker 9: I work for a smaller business and I would say

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Speaker 9: But what really annoys me is that when pride comes

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Speaker 9: along suddenly they pretend that they care. And they do

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Speaker 9: that by pushing us, as in like the staff, into

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Speaker 9: I would like to bring this up with them politely.

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Speaker 9: I don't really know how to do that, and I

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Speaker 5: Bring it up at all.

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Speaker 5: I feel like this is very on brand with what

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Speaker 5: we were saying earlier about International Women's Day. Are kind

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Speaker 6: True the cupcakes and could perform. Do you know what

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Speaker 6: it takes me back to? It takes me back to

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Speaker 6: twenty twenty, the Black Lives Matter movement and the Black Square,

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Speaker 6: All of a sudden, Yeah, there's a black square and

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Speaker 2: Now people still do that.

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Speaker 5: It's really unfortunate, I think because the reason that I

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Speaker 5: ethics are incredibly important to us. It's like, I am

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Speaker 5: So they've realized that to get people's dollars, they need

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Speaker 5: seen to be doing good. And logically, the solution there

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Speaker 5: And I think that there's also the element, as our

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Speaker 4: That's trick, very good point. I don't know, like I

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Speaker 5: I'm kidding.

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Speaker 4: that for Pride months, I think it was last year

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Speaker 4: or the year before we weren't doing anything. We do

444
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Speaker 4: have a whole social committee that's dedicated to things like this,

445
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Speaker 4: and so I was like, what the hell's going on?

446
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Speaker 4: It's like, was it June? And I was like, you know,

447
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Speaker 4: can I just kind of had a conversation with the

448
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Speaker 4: head of the social committee. And if your workplace doesn't

449
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Speaker 4: have a social committee, I know that's quite rare. Maybe

450
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Speaker 4: someone in charge, someone who has the power to be

451
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Speaker 4: making bigger decisions, maybe have a chat with them. But

452
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Speaker 4: what I did was I basically said I would like

453
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Speaker 4: to be seeing things happen for this kind of you know,

454
00:20:06,840 --> 00:20:09,520
Speaker 4: like a Pride month or maybe Mardi Gras, things like that.

455
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Speaker 4: Love these things to be celebrated in the workplace to

456
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Speaker 4: make me feel a little bit more I don't know, welcome.

457
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Speaker 4: But also I know it's a little bit awkward, but

458
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Speaker 4: just maybe broach it in a way that's like, hey,

459
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Speaker 4: it would be really cool if we just maybe did

460
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Speaker 4: some things year round. Let's have a flag a flat,

461
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Speaker 4: let's put a flag up or something, you know, nothing ictic,

462
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Speaker 4: but just to make people who may or may not

463
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Speaker 4: be part of that community feel welcome. And I don't

464
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Speaker 4: know it can be something as small as that, but yeah,

465
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Speaker 4: that really is a tough one.

466
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Speaker 6: Yeah, Oh, I just think you know, for businesses, what

467
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Speaker 6: I think what astounds me about that is that this

468
00:20:46,119 --> 00:20:49,760
Speaker 6: person from your community sounds like, you know, they're really

469
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Speaker 6: feeling like their business does not actually get behind supporting

470
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Speaker 6: these certain communities, which to me feels really strange in

471
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Speaker 6: this day and age twenty two. It feels really strange

472
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Speaker 6: because of what you've said. Unfortunately, a lot of businesses

473
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Speaker 6: are getting around it for commercial reasons. But for the

474
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Speaker 6: most part, what I think has happened after the big

475
00:21:09,840 --> 00:21:11,960
Speaker 6: lockdowns in twenty twenty is there was a bit of

476
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Speaker 6: a digital revolution and now the people with a voice.

477
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Speaker 6: It's not just reserved for people in power traditional media.

478
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Speaker 6: It's like anyone with an Internet connection can speak up

479
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Speaker 6: and what they say gains traction. And so now people

480
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Speaker 6: that you haven't heard from, say like people from the

481
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Speaker 6: queer community or women, and it's just we get to

482
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Speaker 6: speak and say what we need. So it's astounding to

483
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Speaker 6: me that this business isn't sincere in their efforts, and

484
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Speaker 6: your listener who's written in, they sound like they're really

485
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Speaker 6: struggling with that dissonance of It's not that they don't

486
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Speaker 6: want to support the cause, but I just can't get

487
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Speaker 6: behind this performatively, and.

488
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Speaker 2: I think that's fair. So when I worked in.

489
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Speaker 6: HR so in a past life, I went to go

490
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Speaker 6: front HR and it reminds me of myself back then,

491
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Speaker 6: because I worked in a male dominated industry and I

492
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Speaker 6: remember back then like of always been very passionate about

493
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Speaker 6: diversity and inclusion, and I wanted to champion you know,

494
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Speaker 6: what are we doing for general equality in the space

495
00:22:05,880 --> 00:22:07,480
Speaker 6: you guys? And I remember bringing it up with the

496
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Speaker 6: manager of mine and she allowed me to create and

497
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Speaker 6: host and lead an event celebrating women in the industry

498
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Speaker 6: and their stories, and it was amazing. But what was

499
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Speaker 6: uncomfortable for me was dissonance between that and like things

500
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Speaker 6: culturally that were actually not right, like you know, senior

501
00:22:25,600 --> 00:22:27,760
Speaker 6: female leaders in the business not wanting to share that

502
00:22:27,800 --> 00:22:31,320
Speaker 6: they had kids and not feeling supported and it sounds like,

503
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Speaker 6: you know, you put your money with your mouth, is

504
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Speaker 6: they're not doing it. I saw it not happening, and

505
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Speaker 6: so I'm with you, Beck, I think, really, you know,

506
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Speaker 6: you have every right to speak up, and whether you're

507
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Speaker 6: talking to your HR rep or you're talking to your boss,

508
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Speaker 6: I'm very like you catch more flies with honey than vinegars.

509
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Speaker 6: I'd say, hey, it's so great that you know you're

510
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Speaker 6: doing this thing around Pride or International Women's Day, but

511
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Speaker 6: that there are three hundred and sixty four other days

512
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Speaker 6: in the calendar years, So what else are we doing? So,

513
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Speaker 6: you know, put it to them, keep everything in writing,

514
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Speaker 6: take it from a hr gal, everything in writing. But

515
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Speaker 6: you know, I would even then try and pitch them ideas,

516
00:23:05,720 --> 00:23:08,159
Speaker 6: like take things to them, because then you know, if

517
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Speaker 6: they're really not you know, they don't want to create

518
00:23:10,880 --> 00:23:13,400
Speaker 6: an employee resource group after you've suggested it, they don't

519
00:23:13,440 --> 00:23:16,399
Speaker 6: want to support local charities, then if you have the

520
00:23:16,440 --> 00:23:18,840
Speaker 6: means I recognize in this economy, it's a privilege to

521
00:23:18,840 --> 00:23:21,320
Speaker 6: be able to do this work out whether you know

522
00:23:21,359 --> 00:23:23,200
Speaker 6: with your moral compass, is this a place.

523
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Speaker 4: You want to be totally?

524
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Speaker 2: You know, like it just.

525
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Speaker 6: Sounds like from the start when you said they don't

526
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Speaker 6: support the communities, Like I just you know, if that's

527
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Speaker 6: something you believe in, like do you want to be

528
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Speaker 6: there and if you can afford to, Maybe it doesn't

529
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Speaker 6: align culturally.

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Speaker 4: Totally, And I guess that goes for like every you know,

531
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Speaker 4: company's kind of like core values. If they don't align

532
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Speaker 4: with yours, Are you comfortable working there? And if you

533
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Speaker 4: are cool? If not, maybe explore your options again, as

534
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Speaker 4: you say, Maria, if you have the capacity to, if

535
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Speaker 4: you have the resources, you know, all that kind of stuff.

536
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Speaker 4: I think that's very, very good advice.

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Speaker 5: I was just gonna say before we move on the

538
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Speaker 5: last aspect. I guess of the listener question was, you know,

539
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Speaker 5: what do I do about the financial side, Like they

540
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Speaker 5: want me to donate, I don't really want you it

541
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Speaker 5: doesn't align with my morals. I feel like if you

542
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Speaker 5: want to get out a jail free card, it's really

543
00:24:12,400 --> 00:24:15,840
Speaker 5: easy to say, hey, I love and support this cause myself.

544
00:24:15,880 --> 00:24:19,000
Speaker 5: I actually, you know, work actively to support outside of

545
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Speaker 5: the workplace, so I'm going to continue to do what

546
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Speaker 5: I'm doing. Love that you guys are raising funds, you know,

547
00:24:24,800 --> 00:24:26,919
Speaker 5: would be awesome if the company could maybe match or

548
00:24:26,960 --> 00:24:29,960
Speaker 5: something like that. I think don't feel bad for not

549
00:24:30,080 --> 00:24:33,280
Speaker 5: participating through your workplace, because everybody can support a cause

550
00:24:33,320 --> 00:24:35,040
Speaker 5: and advocate for a cause. And even if you're not

551
00:24:35,080 --> 00:24:37,359
Speaker 5: putting funds behind that, you can spread awareness on your

552
00:24:37,359 --> 00:24:39,600
Speaker 5: social media. You can talk to your friends and family,

553
00:24:39,600 --> 00:24:42,160
Speaker 5: about it. There's lots you can do to support something

554
00:24:42,160 --> 00:24:44,520
Speaker 5: that's important to you that doesn't require you to cough up,

555
00:24:44,920 --> 00:24:47,600
Speaker 5: particularly through your workplace if it is, as you say,

556
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Speaker 5: making you super uncomfortable because it's not your job to

557
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Speaker 5: be the post a child for them.

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Speaker 6: Yes, I love that advice, and it doesn't mean that

559
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Speaker 6: you are not behind that cause. That does not have

560
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Speaker 6: to be a medium you choose. And I think people

561
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Speaker 6: feel pressure, you know, when it comes to advocacy or

562
00:25:01,840 --> 00:25:04,040
Speaker 6: supporting causes, people feel pressure to do it in the

563
00:25:04,040 --> 00:25:07,320
Speaker 6: most visible way, in the most you know. Sometimes advocacy

564
00:25:07,359 --> 00:25:10,000
Speaker 6: is something as simple as being in your own circles

565
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Speaker 6: of influence, being at the dinner table with your parents

566
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Speaker 6: and saying, hang on, that's not an appropriate thing to say.

567
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Speaker 2: We don't say that anymore. Sometimes that's enough.

568
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Speaker 6: It's not about saying, hey, this is a check that

569
00:25:20,080 --> 00:25:22,160
Speaker 6: I just put down with this cause in front of everybody,

570
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Speaker 6: especially when it doesn't align.

571
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Speaker 2: I think that's great.

572
00:25:24,359 --> 00:25:27,080
Speaker 4: Yes, that's so true. Support and advocacy doesn't come in

573
00:25:27,119 --> 00:25:29,199
Speaker 4: one form. It can come in many different forms, and

574
00:25:29,240 --> 00:25:32,040
Speaker 4: it can start from within. So yeah, I absolutely love that.

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Speaker 4: But on that, are we ready for a juicy juicy

576
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Speaker 4: DM Yeah, absolutely we are okay. So this week's dm

577
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Speaker 4: our listener writes in and says, hey, team. So I've

578
00:25:41,640 --> 00:25:44,440
Speaker 4: just turned thirty five and feeling deflated. My friends from

579
00:25:44,480 --> 00:25:47,840
Speaker 4: school have followed the typical path of quote unquote, get

580
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Speaker 4: a stable and good job, meet their life partner, get engaged,

581
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Speaker 4: get married, buy a house, have kids, end quote, and

582
00:25:54,280 --> 00:25:56,720
Speaker 4: so it goes on. My path is totally different. I

583
00:25:56,760 --> 00:25:59,760
Speaker 4: have changed the industry I work in multiple times, gone

584
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Speaker 4: back to UNI at twenty nine, recently broke up with

585
00:26:02,160 --> 00:26:04,480
Speaker 4: my partner I thought I would marry. I have only

586
00:26:04,480 --> 00:26:07,439
Speaker 4: two kne savings as I have prioritized travel. I can

587
00:26:07,480 --> 00:26:10,680
Speaker 4: barely afford my rent, let alone dream of owning a property.

588
00:26:10,920 --> 00:26:12,960
Speaker 4: I feel like I've done everything wrong. I go out

589
00:26:13,000 --> 00:26:15,119
Speaker 4: with my friends and they arrive in their nice cars

590
00:26:15,119 --> 00:26:18,960
Speaker 4: and beautiful clothes slash accessories whilst I'm catching public transport

591
00:26:19,160 --> 00:26:21,080
Speaker 4: and in an outfit I have worn twenty times before.

592
00:26:21,160 --> 00:26:23,640
Speaker 4: With them, they make comments about me living like I'm

593
00:26:23,680 --> 00:26:26,040
Speaker 4: in my twenties, and it hurts. I just can't relate

594
00:26:26,080 --> 00:26:27,720
Speaker 4: to them at all. There is so much pressure to

595
00:26:27,760 --> 00:26:30,360
Speaker 4: be personally and financially set up at this age. Any

596
00:26:30,400 --> 00:26:31,600
Speaker 4: advice on how to deal.

597
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Speaker 2: With these feelings.

598
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Speaker 4: Oh, and it's a love heart and one of those

599
00:26:34,040 --> 00:26:36,280
Speaker 4: you know those emojis with the the eyes that are

600
00:26:36,280 --> 00:26:37,720
Speaker 4: looking up. There's like a bit of a glisten.

601
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Speaker 5: Yeah, so that makes it.

602
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Speaker 4: I guess I could just shows. Yeah, I totally get that. Actually,

603
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Speaker 4: as I'm reading that, I'm like, that sounds like a

604
00:26:48,520 --> 00:26:52,159
Speaker 4: good life, you know, like coming from I think my

605
00:26:52,200 --> 00:26:54,680
Speaker 4: friends and I, it's probably a different lifestyle. My friends

606
00:26:54,720 --> 00:26:56,080
Speaker 4: and I are all kind of on the same page.

607
00:26:56,119 --> 00:26:58,239
Speaker 4: No one's really partnered up like some of us are,

608
00:26:58,280 --> 00:27:01,400
Speaker 4: but no one's married. No one's having kids. Literally, one

609
00:27:01,440 --> 00:27:04,600
Speaker 4: of my not to brag, one of many friends have

610
00:27:04,960 --> 00:27:07,560
Speaker 4: one child, one other on the way, and she's still

611
00:27:07,600 --> 00:27:09,760
Speaker 4: kind of coming to pubs and going to gigs and

612
00:27:09,760 --> 00:27:12,040
Speaker 4: all this kind of stuff. So it really just sounds

613
00:27:12,040 --> 00:27:14,959
Speaker 4: like the people you're surrounding yourself with the main not

614
00:27:15,000 --> 00:27:16,960
Speaker 4: an issue. No one's way of living is an issue.

615
00:27:17,000 --> 00:27:20,600
Speaker 4: But the fact that you're feeling like this, it's probably

616
00:27:20,600 --> 00:27:23,239
Speaker 4: in the environment you're in. Because from reading that, and

617
00:27:23,280 --> 00:27:26,800
Speaker 4: I'm sure reading that to you guys as well, I'm like, fun, fun, fun,

618
00:27:27,680 --> 00:27:29,320
Speaker 4: you for getting out of relationship you don't want to

619
00:27:29,359 --> 00:27:32,280
Speaker 4: be in Good for you for going traveling, goo, good

620
00:27:32,280 --> 00:27:33,880
Speaker 4: for you, good for you. I'm loving it. I'm loving

621
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Speaker 4: It's a good point.

622
00:27:34,920 --> 00:27:36,159
Speaker 2: That's such a good point.

623
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Speaker 6: And you know what, I'm thirty one and a lot

624
00:27:38,520 --> 00:27:41,040
Speaker 6: of my friends are also in a similar place in life,

625
00:27:41,119 --> 00:27:42,880
Speaker 6: but we're all on very different parts. And I remember

626
00:27:43,000 --> 00:27:44,800
Speaker 6: my best friend and I were just chatting about this.

627
00:27:45,160 --> 00:27:47,080
Speaker 6: We were actually talking about this in the context of

628
00:27:47,200 --> 00:27:50,439
Speaker 6: romantic relationships, but I think this applies to life choices

629
00:27:50,480 --> 00:27:52,919
Speaker 6: with finances and work as well. We were saying, how

630
00:27:53,320 --> 00:27:56,560
Speaker 6: you know there's no one like you know, people talk

631
00:27:56,560 --> 00:27:58,280
Speaker 6: about partners like when't you meet the Look, this is

632
00:27:58,280 --> 00:28:01,160
Speaker 6: just my personal views, so but you know, you meet

633
00:28:01,200 --> 00:28:03,320
Speaker 6: the one, or you end up in your dream job

634
00:28:03,440 --> 00:28:06,240
Speaker 6: or this or that. It's like, there's actually just paths

635
00:28:06,640 --> 00:28:09,199
Speaker 6: that you can take certain relationships. Your life will look

636
00:28:09,200 --> 00:28:11,520
Speaker 6: different depending on the choices that you make, things that

637
00:28:11,520 --> 00:28:13,160
Speaker 6: you do with your finances, if you choose to buy

638
00:28:13,160 --> 00:28:14,760
Speaker 6: a house, if you choose to go off and travel.

639
00:28:15,080 --> 00:28:18,159
Speaker 6: But ultimately, these are just paths based on choices and

640
00:28:18,200 --> 00:28:22,160
Speaker 6: decisions that you've made, and it's not inherently good or bad.

641
00:28:22,200 --> 00:28:25,080
Speaker 6: There just are And you're right it's for no one

642
00:28:25,119 --> 00:28:27,560
Speaker 6: to judge. You did what felt right for you. This

643
00:28:27,720 --> 00:28:30,040
Speaker 6: is what your life is look like. Maybe it doesn't

644
00:28:30,040 --> 00:28:32,960
Speaker 6: align anymore with what your maids are doing, but there's

645
00:28:32,960 --> 00:28:36,000
Speaker 6: nothing wrong with it totally, and it's never too late

646
00:28:36,040 --> 00:28:38,719
Speaker 6: to choose a different path. So it sounds like this

647
00:28:38,760 --> 00:28:41,800
Speaker 6: person's kind of going well. Maybe you're thinking more about

648
00:28:41,840 --> 00:28:45,080
Speaker 6: wanting to have more savings and to change your financial situation,

649
00:28:45,360 --> 00:28:48,520
Speaker 6: and kudos to you. That's amazing. But also I don't think.

650
00:28:49,160 --> 00:28:51,360
Speaker 6: I don't without knowing what this person's friends are like

651
00:28:51,440 --> 00:28:54,400
Speaker 6: and not wanting to make any assumptions. It could be

652
00:28:54,480 --> 00:28:57,760
Speaker 6: that maybe they're concerned about your financial situation and that's

653
00:28:57,840 --> 00:29:00,400
Speaker 6: just coming from them imposing their ideas of you should

654
00:29:00,440 --> 00:29:03,920
Speaker 6: be doing. But also it's they shouldn't be making you

655
00:29:03,920 --> 00:29:06,080
Speaker 6: feel bad, like I think with my mates, we're all

656
00:29:06,080 --> 00:29:08,960
Speaker 6: in different financial places and I cannot imagine a world

657
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Speaker 6: where we'd ever make one of us feel bad for

658
00:29:10,680 --> 00:29:13,680
Speaker 6: not being able to afford doing something. Or you should

659
00:29:13,680 --> 00:29:15,440
Speaker 6: be able to talk to your friends about it. I

660
00:29:15,480 --> 00:29:17,480
Speaker 6: hope you'd be able to say, hey, it makes me

661
00:29:17,480 --> 00:29:19,960
Speaker 6: feel this way when you say this, and yeah, that's

662
00:29:19,960 --> 00:29:20,600
Speaker 6: not where I'm at.

663
00:29:20,640 --> 00:29:22,480
Speaker 2: So if you could just be sensitive.

664
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Speaker 5: Yeah, like maybe they don't realize and the yeah, I

665
00:29:25,000 --> 00:29:28,160
Speaker 5: think there could also be an element of like wistfulness.

666
00:29:28,160 --> 00:29:31,360
Speaker 5: We spoke to Michelle Battersby a little while ago and

667
00:29:31,400 --> 00:29:35,160
Speaker 5: we were chatting about, you know, similarly, people in different

668
00:29:35,200 --> 00:29:38,080
Speaker 5: life stages, and it was really interesting. She raised such

669
00:29:38,080 --> 00:29:40,640
Speaker 5: a good point in that you know, the people who

670
00:29:40,640 --> 00:29:43,280
Speaker 5: have kids, they might actually be envious of your lifestyle

671
00:29:43,320 --> 00:29:45,800
Speaker 5: because I think with any of the different paths that

672
00:29:45,840 --> 00:29:48,920
Speaker 5: you can or might choose, there's pros and cons, like

673
00:29:48,960 --> 00:29:51,560
Speaker 5: nobody is living the perfect life, no matter how good

674
00:29:51,640 --> 00:29:53,680
Speaker 5: it looks from the outside. There is always an up

675
00:29:53,680 --> 00:29:56,440
Speaker 5: and a down. And I think you know, people with kids,

676
00:29:56,560 --> 00:29:59,440
Speaker 5: or people who are in a better financial situation, maybe

677
00:29:59,480 --> 00:30:02,479
Speaker 5: they're working really long days. If they've got children, it

678
00:30:02,480 --> 00:30:04,480
Speaker 5: can be really hard to get out and about because

679
00:30:04,480 --> 00:30:07,360
Speaker 5: you've got someone that you can't live by themselves. Depending

680
00:30:07,360 --> 00:30:10,320
Speaker 5: on how old they are, there's elements that it might

681
00:30:10,360 --> 00:30:12,360
Speaker 5: be maybe they want to be living life like they

682
00:30:12,360 --> 00:30:15,320
Speaker 5: did in their twenties, so they could almost be like

683
00:30:15,400 --> 00:30:18,120
Speaker 5: a little bit of envy there, which is something to consider.

684
00:30:18,160 --> 00:30:20,920
Speaker 5: But I think more than anything, like what you were saying, Maria,

685
00:30:21,000 --> 00:30:24,479
Speaker 5: like if you are unhappy, you can change, like you

686
00:30:24,520 --> 00:30:28,480
Speaker 5: can start saving more money, you can start pursuing different things.

687
00:30:28,480 --> 00:30:30,480
Speaker 5: You could change careers, like there are all of these

688
00:30:30,520 --> 00:30:32,760
Speaker 5: options available to you. The world is truly your oyster.

689
00:30:33,280 --> 00:30:35,680
Speaker 5: But if you're happy the way you are, that is

690
00:30:35,720 --> 00:30:38,000
Speaker 5: also so valid and so fine. And we talk a

691
00:30:38,000 --> 00:30:40,720
Speaker 5: lot about on the pod, like we draw the comparison

692
00:30:40,800 --> 00:30:42,800
Speaker 5: between you and IBEC. Like I really want to buy

693
00:30:42,840 --> 00:30:45,480
Speaker 5: a house. It is such a high priority to me,

694
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Speaker 5: and I've worked incredibly hard and sacrificed a lot to

695
00:30:48,360 --> 00:30:51,000
Speaker 5: get there. You could not care less, like I want

696
00:30:51,040 --> 00:30:52,520
Speaker 5: to sit in the grass. I want to live my

697
00:30:52,560 --> 00:30:55,400
Speaker 5: best life. I want to just enjoy and spend my

698
00:30:55,440 --> 00:30:58,160
Speaker 5: money and do what I want, which is also completely

699
00:30:58,200 --> 00:31:00,640
Speaker 5: fine and valid and a great choice to make. And

700
00:31:00,680 --> 00:31:03,440
Speaker 5: it's those two things can exist in the same space

701
00:31:03,480 --> 00:31:07,000
Speaker 5: and both be perfectly okay, good choices for each of us.

702
00:31:07,520 --> 00:31:09,400
Speaker 5: And so I think, like there's also the element of

703
00:31:10,080 --> 00:31:12,120
Speaker 5: it can be hard. I know that in this day

704
00:31:12,160 --> 00:31:14,240
Speaker 5: and age, comparison culture is such a big thing, and

705
00:31:14,280 --> 00:31:16,880
Speaker 5: there's a lot of pressure put on us to have

706
00:31:16,920 --> 00:31:19,840
Speaker 5: the nice cars, have the nice clothes. You can feel

707
00:31:20,160 --> 00:31:22,920
Speaker 5: left out or not as good because you don't have

708
00:31:23,000 --> 00:31:26,800
Speaker 5: those quote unquote valuable things. But I think that if

709
00:31:26,840 --> 00:31:30,840
Speaker 5: you can step outside of that and reflect on are

710
00:31:30,880 --> 00:31:32,680
Speaker 5: you happy with where you are? And if you are,

711
00:31:33,280 --> 00:31:36,400
Speaker 5: you're doing everything right, and if you're not, you can

712
00:31:36,400 --> 00:31:38,160
Speaker 5: make changes to get to where you want to be.

713
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Speaker 5: I feel like that's the crux of what I would say.

714
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think I agree.

715
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Speaker 6: Can I share something like what not to do in

716
00:31:45,440 --> 00:31:46,040
Speaker 6: this situation?

717
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Speaker 1: Ye?

718
00:31:46,720 --> 00:31:50,200
Speaker 6: Because so I've actually been in the situation before. When

719
00:31:50,240 --> 00:31:52,960
Speaker 6: I was twenty six, I was I think at that

720
00:31:52,960 --> 00:31:55,640
Speaker 6: point i'd been in a relationship with the most beautiful

721
00:31:55,640 --> 00:31:58,640
Speaker 6: man for like four to five years, and he was

722
00:31:58,680 --> 00:32:00,719
Speaker 6: a little bit older than me. And at that point

723
00:32:00,840 --> 00:32:03,480
Speaker 6: I was actually broke and in five figures of dead

724
00:32:03,520 --> 00:32:06,720
Speaker 6: because when I was twenty one, I had just finished UNI.

725
00:32:06,840 --> 00:32:08,440
Speaker 6: I didn't know what I wanted to do, so I

726
00:32:08,480 --> 00:32:10,880
Speaker 6: just worked in retail for two years and honestly, I

727
00:32:10,920 --> 00:32:13,920
Speaker 6: was just living paycheck to paycheck, like working minimum wage,

728
00:32:14,200 --> 00:32:16,640
Speaker 6: just to fund my lifestyle like going out on the

729
00:32:16,640 --> 00:32:18,760
Speaker 6: weekends or whatever. And then I decided to go back

730
00:32:18,800 --> 00:32:21,160
Speaker 6: to UNIE, so broke Unie student life. And my ex

731
00:32:21,280 --> 00:32:23,640
Speaker 6: was a little bit older than me and was working

732
00:32:23,640 --> 00:32:25,840
Speaker 6: full time at a great job, and all of our

733
00:32:26,000 --> 00:32:28,920
Speaker 6: shared friends were in a similar position. So I was

734
00:32:28,960 --> 00:32:31,720
Speaker 6: around people who were able to travel and do things

735
00:32:31,800 --> 00:32:33,800
Speaker 6: and have things, and we're starting to move out, and

736
00:32:33,840 --> 00:32:36,440
Speaker 6: we're starting to buy their own cars and do all

737
00:32:36,440 --> 00:32:39,080
Speaker 6: this stuff, and I couldn't afford to do anything. And

738
00:32:39,160 --> 00:32:41,719
Speaker 6: I remembered this, like, when I heard this DM, I

739
00:32:41,800 --> 00:32:44,480
Speaker 6: was like, I have been there. I felt like I

740
00:32:44,520 --> 00:32:47,080
Speaker 6: didn't belong in those circles. I felt like I wasn't

741
00:32:47,120 --> 00:32:49,400
Speaker 6: good enough to be around them. And that's my own stuff.

742
00:32:49,440 --> 00:32:52,239
Speaker 6: I was projecting, you know, onto myself. And but what

743
00:32:52,320 --> 00:32:56,680
Speaker 6: I will say is my ex and those people never

744
00:32:56,800 --> 00:32:59,479
Speaker 6: once made me feel bad about it. There was never

745
00:32:59,520 --> 00:33:02,600
Speaker 6: snider from about my financial situation or things like that,

746
00:33:02,600 --> 00:33:05,760
Speaker 6: which I really appreciated. But because I was so stuck

747
00:33:05,760 --> 00:33:08,560
Speaker 6: in that run, I ended up trying to keep up

748
00:33:08,560 --> 00:33:10,720
Speaker 6: with a lifestyle that wasn't aligned to me on a

749
00:33:10,760 --> 00:33:14,000
Speaker 6: credit card, and I ended up in really, really shitty debt,

750
00:33:14,360 --> 00:33:15,920
Speaker 6: and it took me a while to pay that off,

751
00:33:15,960 --> 00:33:17,520
Speaker 6: and then, you know, get to the position that I'm

752
00:33:17,520 --> 00:33:20,360
Speaker 6: in now. And what I really wouldn't wish for people

753
00:33:20,520 --> 00:33:23,920
Speaker 6: is to internalize somebody else's ideas of what their life

754
00:33:24,000 --> 00:33:26,120
Speaker 6: is meant to be, and then you put yourself in

755
00:33:26,120 --> 00:33:29,040
Speaker 6: a position that's even worse off. Like if this is

756
00:33:29,080 --> 00:33:31,520
Speaker 6: where you're at, you know, own that, like you, Like

757
00:33:31,600 --> 00:33:34,080
Speaker 6: you said, there are pros and cons to every path

758
00:33:34,120 --> 00:33:34,680
Speaker 6: we choose.

759
00:33:34,960 --> 00:33:35,320
Speaker 2: Own it.

760
00:33:35,520 --> 00:33:39,120
Speaker 6: Be happy, but don't put yourself in a position where

761
00:33:39,160 --> 00:33:42,080
Speaker 6: you're set back because you're trying to buy someone else's

762
00:33:42,160 --> 00:33:45,400
Speaker 6: perception of you being more well off and successful than yeah,

763
00:33:45,440 --> 00:33:45,720
Speaker 6: you are.

764
00:33:45,960 --> 00:33:47,880
Speaker 5: And success is so subjective.

765
00:33:47,400 --> 00:33:50,040
Speaker 6: It's perception, Like we're trying to buy and keep up

766
00:33:50,040 --> 00:33:50,600
Speaker 6: with perception.

767
00:33:50,880 --> 00:33:53,680
Speaker 2: Ye just got to work on your own.

768
00:33:54,040 --> 00:33:57,440
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I completely agree, I completely agree. My last

769
00:33:57,720 --> 00:33:59,719
Speaker 4: thing I do want to say is that this listener

770
00:33:59,760 --> 00:34:02,920
Speaker 4: mentioned that they've changed industries a few times, and in

771
00:34:02,960 --> 00:34:04,640
Speaker 4: the famous words of I think it might be Brene

772
00:34:04,640 --> 00:34:08,319
Speaker 4: Brown or someone that Brene Brown interviewed recently, but some

773
00:34:08,360 --> 00:34:10,040
Speaker 4: recent it was a little while ago, but she said

774
00:34:10,320 --> 00:34:13,680
Speaker 4: something to the effect of, sometimes we don't have passions,

775
00:34:13,760 --> 00:34:16,120
Speaker 4: Sometimes we just have curiosities. And that could mean that

776
00:34:16,200 --> 00:34:20,280
Speaker 4: you change your curiosity a million times. That could Like myself,

777
00:34:20,280 --> 00:34:23,120
Speaker 4: I've I've had like thirty different jobs, and I'm I

778
00:34:23,120 --> 00:34:27,080
Speaker 4: don't think I'm particularly passionate about one single thing. I

779
00:34:27,120 --> 00:34:30,600
Speaker 4: am instead curious about many things, and I will forever

780
00:34:30,680 --> 00:34:32,960
Speaker 4: be do you know what I mean? I am so

781
00:34:32,960 --> 00:34:36,200
Speaker 4: sorry if I've misquoted Brene Brown. I don't know exactly

782
00:34:36,200 --> 00:34:37,479
Speaker 4: where I got this information from.

783
00:34:37,800 --> 00:34:38,400
Speaker 5: Stuck with me.

784
00:34:38,680 --> 00:34:39,600
Speaker 6: I made it up.

785
00:34:39,680 --> 00:34:40,480
Speaker 4: I kind of made it.

786
00:34:41,280 --> 00:34:41,880
Speaker 2: Maybe it was me.

787
00:34:42,040 --> 00:34:45,360
Speaker 4: Actually quite well, I'm so wise. Let's see what the

788
00:34:45,400 --> 00:34:49,440
Speaker 4: community said. So we asked the community, can you relate

789
00:34:49,480 --> 00:34:52,240
Speaker 4: to this person? Fifty one percent of you said yes,

790
00:34:52,520 --> 00:34:55,360
Speaker 4: big time. That's really good to know that, like literally

791
00:34:55,440 --> 00:34:58,120
Speaker 4: half of us, one in two of us like yeah,

792
00:34:58,120 --> 00:35:01,280
Speaker 4: I'm literally there. Forty times of you said not really,

793
00:35:02,080 --> 00:35:04,120
Speaker 4: that's fair. And then we asked you for pressure to

794
00:35:04,120 --> 00:35:08,640
Speaker 4: achieve certain things by particular ages slash timelines. Eighty one

795
00:35:08,680 --> 00:35:11,399
Speaker 4: percent of you said yes, it's the worst, and then

796
00:35:11,480 --> 00:35:14,080
Speaker 4: nineteen percent said no, I don't let that stuff get

797
00:35:14,080 --> 00:35:14,279
Speaker 4: to me.

798
00:35:14,360 --> 00:35:16,600
Speaker 5: Do you, guys, ever reflect on the timeline you gave

799
00:35:16,640 --> 00:35:20,000
Speaker 5: yourself when you were young? Because I wrote so vividly,

800
00:35:20,000 --> 00:35:22,120
Speaker 5: remember I was like, great, I'm going to graduate high

801
00:35:22,120 --> 00:35:23,960
Speaker 5: school at eighteen. I'm going to meet the love of

802
00:35:24,000 --> 00:35:26,640
Speaker 5: my life, be married probably by twenty one. Yeah, a

803
00:35:26,719 --> 00:35:29,160
Speaker 5: couple of kids, I would say, maybe be done by

804
00:35:29,239 --> 00:35:31,440
Speaker 5: like twenty eight, twenty nine, and by the time I

805
00:35:31,480 --> 00:35:33,239
Speaker 5: turned thirty, like, we're all set up. We've got the house,

806
00:35:33,239 --> 00:35:35,200
Speaker 5: we've got the kids, we probably have a couple of cats.

807
00:35:35,880 --> 00:35:37,960
Speaker 5: I'm turning thirty this year and I have none of

808
00:35:38,000 --> 00:35:39,719
Speaker 5: those things. I have the love of my life, but

809
00:35:40,040 --> 00:35:40,719
Speaker 5: I don't have a house.

810
00:35:41,040 --> 00:35:41,279
Speaker 6: Loss.

811
00:35:42,440 --> 00:35:43,920
Speaker 2: And what's it been. It's been an adventure.

812
00:35:44,120 --> 00:35:46,480
Speaker 5: It's exactly right, because.

813
00:35:46,280 --> 00:35:46,880
Speaker 2: I've raised.

814
00:35:48,360 --> 00:35:51,040
Speaker 6: This is so great. When I was eighteen, mine was.

815
00:35:51,160 --> 00:35:53,240
Speaker 6: I actually wrote it in a journal entry, and I'll

816
00:35:53,760 --> 00:35:56,040
Speaker 6: it's worse. It's not just a writing. I drew a.

817
00:35:56,000 --> 00:35:56,920
Speaker 2: Picture to a company.

818
00:35:57,440 --> 00:35:59,880
Speaker 6: Can't so I wrote that I was going to be

819
00:36:00,239 --> 00:36:01,919
Speaker 6: and it was written like poetry. It was like twenty

820
00:36:01,920 --> 00:36:06,000
Speaker 6: five year old psychologist, she sits by the window, drinking tea, watching.

821
00:36:05,640 --> 00:36:07,000
Speaker 2: The rain on her day off.

822
00:36:08,520 --> 00:36:10,520
Speaker 5: Its manifesting. I kind of love it.

823
00:36:10,560 --> 00:36:12,680
Speaker 6: None of it happened, but I said that I was

824
00:36:12,680 --> 00:36:15,040
Speaker 6: gonna have private practice. Did you pictured myself with like

825
00:36:15,040 --> 00:36:17,319
Speaker 6: a dog on the sitting on the couch and we

826
00:36:17,320 --> 00:36:20,759
Speaker 6: were going to be married, first child on the dome, don't.

827
00:36:20,480 --> 00:36:22,160
Speaker 2: Have the door marriage to the dog.

828
00:36:22,920 --> 00:36:23,319
Speaker 1: Sorry, I.

829
00:36:25,560 --> 00:36:27,399
Speaker 6: Did not try and manifest being married to a dog.

830
00:36:28,239 --> 00:36:32,560
Speaker 6: It was married to a man, surprise him quick. It's

831
00:36:32,640 --> 00:36:34,680
Speaker 6: just so much of it. Like you know, we have

832
00:36:34,800 --> 00:36:38,200
Speaker 6: these stories and timelines, and the best thing is that

833
00:36:38,280 --> 00:36:40,359
Speaker 6: if you wed yourself to that and you chase it,

834
00:36:40,480 --> 00:36:43,239
Speaker 6: you know you might be you know, very likely disappointed.

835
00:36:43,280 --> 00:36:45,879
Speaker 6: But if you open yourself up and you're kind of like, hey,

836
00:36:45,880 --> 00:36:48,120
Speaker 6: this would be nice if it doesn't happen, I'm open

837
00:36:48,160 --> 00:36:49,760
Speaker 6: for the adventure and staying curious.

838
00:36:49,800 --> 00:36:51,600
Speaker 2: Which that word is amazing that you said.

839
00:36:52,200 --> 00:36:54,600
Speaker 6: I think life just opens up in a bigger and

840
00:36:54,640 --> 00:36:56,879
Speaker 6: better way than you can imagine. My life is so

841
00:36:56,960 --> 00:36:59,960
Speaker 6: different and it's better than anything I could have conceived

842
00:37:00,160 --> 00:37:00,720
Speaker 6: for myself.

843
00:37:01,040 --> 00:37:02,160
Speaker 2: And only because they just took.

844
00:37:02,080 --> 00:37:03,920
Speaker 6: Risks and it was like, well this doesn't work, I'll

845
00:37:03,920 --> 00:37:06,600
Speaker 6: try something else. This doesn't work, I'll try something else. Yeah,

846
00:37:06,640 --> 00:37:09,239
Speaker 6: which is it sounds like what that last listener was doing.

847
00:37:09,320 --> 00:37:10,279
Speaker 2: So you're on the right track.

848
00:37:10,480 --> 00:37:13,919
Speaker 4: Yeah, totally personally loving your lifestyle, baby girl.

849
00:37:14,360 --> 00:37:14,680
Speaker 5: Okay.

850
00:37:14,719 --> 00:37:16,520
Speaker 4: Then we asked you, guys, do you find it hard

851
00:37:16,560 --> 00:37:19,200
Speaker 4: to spend time with people who are in a completely

852
00:37:19,280 --> 00:37:22,879
Speaker 4: different life stage to you? Sixty six percent of you said, yeah,

853
00:37:22,920 --> 00:37:25,400
Speaker 4: we just can't relate to each other. Thirty four percent

854
00:37:25,400 --> 00:37:27,360
Speaker 4: of you said, no, I haven't found this affects my

855
00:37:27,440 --> 00:37:30,799
Speaker 4: relationships fair enough, and then we asked you to give

856
00:37:30,880 --> 00:37:33,960
Speaker 4: us your two cents. One listener said, finding people in

857
00:37:34,000 --> 00:37:37,600
Speaker 4: a similar boat to you that value similar things helps.

858
00:37:37,640 --> 00:37:41,000
Speaker 4: That's so true. That really does help, but it's not essential.

859
00:37:41,080 --> 00:37:43,760
Speaker 4: I suppose if, like you know, with us, we're saying

860
00:37:43,760 --> 00:37:46,640
Speaker 4: here that we've had those relationships where you are at

861
00:37:46,640 --> 00:37:48,799
Speaker 4: different life stages, but no one makes anyone feel bad

862
00:37:48,800 --> 00:37:51,440
Speaker 4: for that. One listener said, got to find friends who

863
00:37:51,560 --> 00:37:53,840
Speaker 4: value the same stuff. Some friends will never get the

864
00:37:53,880 --> 00:37:57,560
Speaker 4: life pass, but it's not wrong. Another listener said, get

865
00:37:57,600 --> 00:38:00,160
Speaker 4: new friends. Your experience is so normal. Don't let then

866
00:38:00,200 --> 00:38:03,399
Speaker 4: make you feel less. And I can kind of, I mean,

867
00:38:03,400 --> 00:38:05,520
Speaker 4: I don't know, like your friendship dynamics. Maybe you can

868
00:38:05,600 --> 00:38:06,799
Speaker 4: just have a chat with them and be like, hey,

869
00:38:06,800 --> 00:38:09,880
Speaker 4: you make me feel really sad. But maybe you need

870
00:38:09,960 --> 00:38:12,040
Speaker 4: to look for people who will be kinder to you.

871
00:38:13,080 --> 00:38:15,600
Speaker 4: That's up to you. Another listener said, they may wish

872
00:38:15,640 --> 00:38:18,920
Speaker 4: for your life and what you have experienced, embrace it, which.

873
00:38:18,719 --> 00:38:20,640
Speaker 2: Is what you were saying. Yes, so true.

874
00:38:21,000 --> 00:38:24,480
Speaker 4: Another listener said, what's your why? Remember what your goals

875
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Speaker 4: are and how you're achieving them. Which I think is

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Speaker 4: really nice because I think that we don't. Sometimes we

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Speaker 4: end up in a on a path or in a

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Speaker 4: feel really bad about this, but like, why did you

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Speaker 4: get there? What were the things that you know? Some

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Speaker 4: people actually don't have a choice, and that's you know,

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Speaker 4: it's very privileged to me to say, but some people

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Speaker 4: are like, oh, because I made decisions along the way

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Speaker 4: that made me very very happy, and they made me

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Speaker 4: these friends, and they made me this job, and they

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Speaker 4: made me this whatever. So find out what your why is.

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Speaker 4: And honestly, it really doesn't sound like you're living a

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Speaker 4: life that is anything to be ashamed of.

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Speaker 5: Not at all.

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Speaker 6: No, no, not at all.

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Speaker 4: And lastly, one listener said, everyone has their own path.

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Speaker 4: Be with friends who don't judge you for it. Great.

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Speaker 6: I think that's just fundamentally Yeah, that's totally, totally.

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Speaker 4: Absolutely, just know you're doing a great job. Don't feel

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Speaker 4: bad about it. I want to live your life persol.

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Speaker 6: Good for you and good for you for identifying you

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Speaker 6: want something different for yourself. Now's the time. Go get it.

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Speaker 4: Absolutely, go get a girl naps for that.

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Speaker 5: What a perfect place to leave it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think so.

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Speaker 4: Thank you so much, Maria. We have loved having you on.

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Speaker 4: This has been such a great emphysode.

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Speaker 6: I've loved being on. I feel like we've just laughed

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Speaker 6: and talked about stage wisdom and embarrassing things in our past.

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Speaker 6: So I will try and find a picture of my

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Speaker 6: diary entry in the picture and I'll send it to

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Speaker 6: you guys.

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Speaker 5: Please do put that on the stories. And if people

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Speaker 5: want to find you, where can I find you?

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Speaker 6: Oh God, it's not keep that in yeah, because I

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Speaker 6: love If you want to find me, you can find

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Speaker 6: me on MARIEA. Taylor on Instagram, on I have TikTok.

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Speaker 6: It's my more unhinged platform, perfect podcast, a book. Go

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Speaker 6: have a look, have a Google, and don't read the

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Speaker 6: mail articles because they're silly.

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Speaker 8: Amen.

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Speaker 5: Love that.

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Speaker 4: Thank you so much again, Maria. You guys have a

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Speaker 4: great weekend and we will see you next week.

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Speaker 5: Bye bye, guys.

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