Speaker 1: Life Uncut acknowledges the traditional custodians of country whose lands
Speaker 1: were never seated. We pay our respects to their elders
Speaker 1: past and present.
Speaker 2: Always was, always will be Aboriginal Land. This episode was
Speaker 2: recorded on gadigal Land.
Speaker 3: Hi, guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life
Speaker 3: on Cut.
Speaker 2: I'm Brittany and I'm Laura. How does it feel doing
Speaker 2: that again for the first time? You didn't do that
Speaker 2: last week?
Speaker 1: No, I didn't do it feels good, But I mean
Speaker 1: I thought we said we weren't going to say this anymore.
Speaker 1: I'm back. That's not Remember we're going to cut down
Speaker 1: on the first time. I'm back. I'm back from the jungle.
Speaker 1: We've established that, and I love it. I know it.
Speaker 3: We're going to celebrate the winds every time.
Speaker 1: Also, I said that I was got one thing I
Speaker 1: said I was going to take from the jungle is
Speaker 1: like I felt so good in there on the diet
Speaker 1: and the no caffeine, and I was like, I'm only
Speaker 1: going to go back to maybe one coffee day.
Speaker 3: I'm already back to almost three day.
Speaker 2: It's a problem. It's nine am and I'm on my
Speaker 2: second extra large coffee.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Fine, that's bad. I do need to go to the bathroom,
Speaker 2: but like it's okay. I do need to talk you
Speaker 2: through every step. Oh spoke about last week we were
Speaker 2: talking about sleep. It seems to be a recurring theme
Speaker 2: on this podcast, but we were talking about how Matt
Speaker 2: has a garment and how he tracks his sleep.
Speaker 3: He's into the sleep tracking.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And this came because I said that one of
Speaker 1: the amazing things about being in the jungle is you
Speaker 1: have no concept of time. So you don't know what
Speaker 1: time you go to bed, and you don't know what
Speaker 1: time you wake up, and you don't know how many
Speaker 1: hours sleep you get. All you can go off is
Speaker 1: how you physically feel, which I think is amazing. So
Speaker 1: I have.
Speaker 2: A bone to pick with you with Garmon, can go
Speaker 2: and eat my shit because garments, I'm made just angry.
Speaker 1: I'm tired, and I'm angry.
Speaker 2: So I took your advice and I wore Matt's garment
Speaker 2: to sleep the other night.
Speaker 3: So we went out we Saturday afternoon. We went to
Speaker 3: a friend's house.
Speaker 2: We'd had quite a few margaritas in the afternoon and
Speaker 2: I was feeling a little bit spicy and dicey. Anyway,
Speaker 2: we went to bed Matt that night. He was like, Okay,
Speaker 2: where my gum and see how your sleep is. Not
Speaker 2: only do I know that I woke up so much
Speaker 2: during the night, because when I'm a bit hungover, I
Speaker 2: can't sleep, so I'm awake, like laying at the ceiling awake.
Speaker 2: Not only that, did I get it? I got up
Speaker 2: three times for Lola. Lola came into the bed, I
Speaker 2: went up and I got a bottle of water. Anyway,
Speaker 2: I woke up in the morning and I was like,
Speaker 2: I'm so glad. I am so glad I wore the
Speaker 2: garment last night because he's gonna see just how bad
Speaker 2: my sleep was.
Speaker 3: Eight hours and twenty five minutes. Awake for two minutes.
Speaker 1: But how is that.
Speaker 3: Possible if you got up one hundred times?
Speaker 1: You tell me sorry.
Speaker 3: I'm still confused how the bone has been picked with.
Speaker 2: Me because in this situation, we all agreed that I
Speaker 2: needed to wear the garment him to prove to Matt
Speaker 2: that I am not getting enough sleep.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but then I got gas lit.
Speaker 1: Look to be fair in my defense, brilliant idea like brilliant,
Speaker 1: that's a garment issue, Like that's not a.
Speaker 2: Me issue, because then Matt pulled out his phone. He
Speaker 2: opened it up, and he was like, you never can
Speaker 2: argue with me again. He's like, you got eight hours
Speaker 2: and four few minutes sleep.
Speaker 3: Do you think that maybe you are getting more sleep
Speaker 3: than you think?
Speaker 1: No, but the garment says you are. And I love that.
Speaker 3: But I think I'm going to keep this up for
Speaker 3: at least a week. I think you should wear it
Speaker 3: and do an average.
Speaker 1: Yeah, or maybe if the average is high, maybe you
Speaker 1: need to take one for the team. Have a really
Speaker 1: bad week, but maybe you just need to settle arms
Speaker 1: to wake yourself up so you have really disturbed, disrupted.
Speaker 2: Nights and then show him that data. I was also like,
Speaker 2: how does Garman know like if I'm awake? But I'm like,
Speaker 2: how do I know? Like I'm awake, but I'm just
Speaker 2: laying in bed and I'm peacefully laying in bed with
Speaker 2: my eyes open. How does it know? Do I need
Speaker 2: to shake my arm around vigorously? Like do I need
Speaker 2: to do something that would indicate that I'm awake? It
Speaker 2: goes of heart rate and stuff like that as well.
Speaker 1: It's not just you can't just put your arm out
Speaker 1: and wave it around, but it goes off a lot
Speaker 1: of things, like it's got like GPS trackers, it's got
Speaker 1: your the room like because it's doing your poles and
Speaker 1: things like that. So you probably need to get up
Speaker 1: and do like star jobs, a peloton, do a peloton workout.
Speaker 1: But then met'll get data. He's like, Laura, you will
Speaker 1: working out two am.
Speaker 2: Basically, I thought that this was going to help me,
Speaker 2: and it's it's really set me back. Guys put it
Speaker 2: that way. It's really set me back. And also it's
Speaker 2: gas lipped me. It's made me feel like maybe I'm
Speaker 2: getting more sleep than I think I am.
Speaker 1: Maybe you are.
Speaker 2: The problem is I woke up and I was so tired.
Speaker 2: I was so tired. Still, did you know that there's
Speaker 2: this research study that's come out. It's all over TikTok
Speaker 2: at the moment.
Speaker 1: Women need more sleep?
Speaker 2: Yeah, apparently women need minimum nine hours sleep a night.
Speaker 2: And whereas like the eight hours sleep was based on
Speaker 2: research of men and up until twenty twenty four, they
Speaker 2: had never ever done a study of sleep on women,
Speaker 2: which shock Yeah, surprising, isn't it that women need nine
Speaker 2: hours of sleep a night and an extra hour sleep
Speaker 2: if they're on their mental cycle?
Speaker 1: Crazy?
Speaker 3: Use that for the next time you want a debate
Speaker 3: about a sleep in.
Speaker 1: Okay, Well, today is a very important day. Everyone know
Speaker 1: your diaries. Today it's three weeks to the day until
Speaker 1: Ben arrives. Everybody cares.
Speaker 3: Everyone is excited that no one is as excited as
Speaker 3: you are. Well, you know, I didn't actually say this
Speaker 3: on the podcast.
Speaker 1: I realized I spoke about it on my Instagram stories
Speaker 1: at the time. But I was supposed to surprise Ben.
Speaker 1: So I haven't seen Ben since January. You do the math.
Speaker 1: I was supposed to surprise him after the Jungle long
Speaker 1: story shot. A lot of things changed in the week
Speaker 1: I had this week that I was supposed to be
Speaker 1: over there with my mum. My mom got really really unwell.
Speaker 1: She couldn't get out of bed, so we were like,
Speaker 1: let's just send you home. So I was like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, I have a couple of extra days. I'm
Speaker 1: going to sacrifice my flight, book a new flight overnight
Speaker 1: to surprise Ben in Scotland. Now this was It cost
Speaker 1: me an arm and a leg. But I was like, love,
Speaker 1: you know, I haven't seen him in months. It's going
Speaker 1: to be the able to surprise thing. Yeah.
Speaker 3: So book is flight.
Speaker 1: And it's the only time ever I'd be able to
Speaker 1: surprise him because we speak every day and we FaceTime
Speaker 1: every day, so he's going to There's never going to
Speaker 1: be a time in my life where I can get
Speaker 1: secretly on a plane for twenty four hours and him
Speaker 1: not know where I am. So I had said I'm
Speaker 1: going to fly home to Australia tomorrow. That was my thing,
Speaker 1: but really I was diverting to Scotland.
Speaker 2: You could just tell him you're filming something for twenty
Speaker 2: four hours, like I'm not gonna be on my phone.
Speaker 3: My phone's been taken away. I'm doing Would I be
Speaker 3: filming for twenty four hours?
Speaker 2: As a way in which you could get around it
Speaker 2: if you were, If anyone can come up with the
Speaker 2: idea about how I can surprise him ever slide into
Speaker 2: my DMS because he is and he always Even when
Speaker 2: we got on the flight, I was like, I'm going
Speaker 2: home to Australia.
Speaker 1: Now He's like, send me your flight details. He loves
Speaker 1: to track it. So I had to like send him
Speaker 1: fake flight details. I had to screenshot Ellie from the jungle.
Speaker 1: She had sent me a proper flight that she was
Speaker 1: on that he could track anyway.
Speaker 3: So I'd organized everything.
Speaker 1: It was. I had his keys left out because my
Speaker 1: sister had said she was going to be at his
Speaker 1: house staying. It was the whole big thing. And then
Speaker 1: I get onto the plane and then he keeps messaging
Speaker 1: wanting to FaceTime. And the flight was not the same
Speaker 1: flight as I tracked, so I told him that my
Speaker 1: phone died, so then I had to turn my phone
Speaker 1: off so that he couldn't just sitting on It was
Speaker 1: a nightmare, and I was like, this is going to
Speaker 1: be worth a surprise. Also, just besides that, so horny,
Speaker 1: it's been months, so the idea of me knowing it
Speaker 1: was coming as well, like knowing it was coming, that
Speaker 1: I was going to be coming, that he was going
Speaker 1: to be coming coming. Yeah, so like when you know
Speaker 1: what's happening in twenty four hours, I was. And then
Speaker 1: I sat on the plane and it was a bit delayed,
Speaker 1: and we sat, We went and we waited and we waited.
Speaker 1: The plane taxied off, went down the runway and then
Speaker 1: was like not today, turned around, taxi back. Seven hours.
Speaker 1: I sat there and then they canceled the flight. This
Speaker 1: is now one thirty in the morning. I had nowhere
Speaker 1: to go. And then I was so upset and so
Speaker 1: emotional and so tired. So then I was like, okay,
Speaker 1: what do I do? Now do I try?
Speaker 3: And wait?
Speaker 1: So bad and so and nowhere to go to fix that?
Speaker 1: That was a wady ago. I had no safe place,
Speaker 1: just so the Jungle on TV A month, twenty four
Speaker 1: hours a day, I was in the jungle. So I
Speaker 1: had this moment. I was like, Okay, I'll see if
Speaker 1: I can get another flight. But then already I was like,
Speaker 1: now how do I extend the lie? He knows when
Speaker 1: my flight's going to land. So everything was unraveling and
Speaker 1: I ended up they couldn't fly me for two more
Speaker 1: days and I only had two days to go there.
Speaker 1: So I called him hysterical. I' He's like, I've never
Speaker 1: seen you crying so much. He thought someone who passed away.
Speaker 1: He's like, what's wrong, babe? What's wrong? Because I was
Speaker 1: so upset, And then I told him everything, and I
Speaker 1: was like I was supposed to be surprising and blah
Speaker 1: bah blah. So now it means from January to June
Speaker 1: is how when I haven't seen him? But the countdown
Speaker 1: is on three weeks three weeks today.
Speaker 2: You know in our calendar, and I'm excited for your
Speaker 2: calebar let us know if you do, but we are
Speaker 2: all very excited for you.
Speaker 3: You can't wait to see him? Yeah, I'm very sorry.
Speaker 1: I can't.
Speaker 3: I just want to have sex so bad. But one
Speaker 3: thing I have noticed is we just want to have
Speaker 3: sex so bad.
Speaker 1: When you don't have sex, you don't want it as
Speaker 1: much like you loose. I feel like, for that first
Speaker 1: few weeks, when's that going to kick in for you? Britt, Well,
Speaker 1: it did kick in, but then when I knew it
Speaker 1: was coming in twenty four hours, it got back. You know,
Speaker 1: I got back into my bloodstream, that porn dog vibe
Speaker 1: in the bloodstream exactly. It's that's science. Lubricant. Yeah, that's science.
Speaker 1: But when you don't have sex for a little while,
Speaker 1: you forget and you don't need it as much.
Speaker 3: I think that's the thing about long term relationships.
Speaker 2: You often feel as though you don't want it, and
Speaker 2: it's only when you're in the middle of it that
Speaker 2: you're like, oh, that's right, I quite enjoy this. I
Speaker 2: should do this more often. And then the next week
Speaker 2: it's the same situation. You're like yeah, and then all
Speaker 2: of a sudden you're doing it again.
Speaker 1: You're like, ah, that's right.
Speaker 3: So last night, okay, it's a groundhog day.
Speaker 1: Full disclaimer. Last night I was for somehow I was
Speaker 1: ready for bed at like eight o'clock at night. Never happens.
Speaker 1: I never go to bed before midnight. And I was like, yes,
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna go to bed really early, going to
Speaker 1: watch something on TV.
Speaker 3: And I went through this nesting phase.
Speaker 1: I went through this nesting.
Speaker 3: I'm just adding some shit.
Speaker 1: I went through this nesting phase yesterday where I cleaned
Speaker 1: my entire house.
Speaker 3: Right, I don't know what's happening. I'm not pregnant. I
Speaker 3: was then to come, you're preparing. I was nesting preparing
Speaker 3: my llweens.
Speaker 1: I found like my bag of vibrators and I was like, fuck, yeah.
Speaker 3: How many vibrators do you have in that bag? So many?
Speaker 1: How many? Oh? Ten? We had a sex sponsor last
Speaker 1: year on the podcast. They sent me all of the
Speaker 1: dildos to try.
Speaker 2: Can I asked a question because if we had a
Speaker 2: sex sponsor on the podcast, I didn't get sent a
Speaker 2: single deal she did?
Speaker 3: I left you left it here? Did you get this
Speaker 3: sent them all?
Speaker 1: You lose them? You lose them?
Speaker 2: Sorry, sir I lost my deal and you put it
Speaker 2: on the roof and drove away.
Speaker 3: The dick flew on the back of the car. What
Speaker 3: happened to my dildo?
Speaker 1: Where did it go? Did you take my dildo? You did?
Speaker 1: Didn't you? You genuinely think it flung off the back
Speaker 1: of your car?
Speaker 2: Okay, So we were at the markets the other day
Speaker 2: and for some reason we were talking about dildos.
Speaker 3: A friend of mine came home and the cleaner was
Speaker 3: in the house.
Speaker 2: The cleaner was in their bedroom just holding the dildo,
Speaker 2: and the dildo was on, and then they didn't know
Speaker 2: what to do, what to say. The cleaner was just
Speaker 2: holding the on dildo in the bedroom. So that's how
Speaker 2: we got talking about dildos on the weekend.
Speaker 1: I am shooking.
Speaker 3: What would you do? Would they close?
Speaker 1: What would you do with their pants? Ye?
Speaker 3: They were completely dressed, they were completely clothed.
Speaker 1: They were cleaning.
Speaker 2: The dildos were in a cupboard, though, and they had
Speaker 2: to have opened the cupboard.
Speaker 3: And you know, the cleaners never actually they only clean
Speaker 3: around things.
Speaker 2: They don't organize, so the shit like, they're not in
Speaker 2: their organizing the dildos. But they'd obviously opened the cupboard,
Speaker 2: gotten a dildo, and we're just like quite far away
Speaker 2: from where the cupboard is with the dildos, with the
Speaker 2: dildo on.
Speaker 1: What were they doing with the dildo? That?
Speaker 3: He is the most unanswered question. I'm never going to
Speaker 3: sleep again.
Speaker 1: What was she doing meters away from the dildo cupboard
Speaker 1: with a dildo?
Speaker 2: Okay, so that's how we got speaking about dildos on
Speaker 2: the weekend at the farmer's market.
Speaker 3: But plans to use that I didn't. I don't know,
Speaker 3: but no one does.
Speaker 1: What did they do in that moment, because surely you're like,
Speaker 1: so you don't just have a standoff and look at
Speaker 1: each other and then just walk out the clean.
Speaker 3: I said, oh my god, I'm so sorry.
Speaker 2: It just turned on. I was trying to figure out
Speaker 2: how to turn it off. That was the conversation. Just
Speaker 2: turned on.
Speaker 3: It didn't turn on meters away in your hand with
Speaker 3: a bit of.
Speaker 1: Bray and white. Just turned on. I don't know anyway.
Speaker 2: So we're talking about that and Matt turns around to
Speaker 2: me in a group of people and he goes, you
Speaker 2: don't even.
Speaker 3: Have a dildo. How do I not know that I
Speaker 3: have vibrators?
Speaker 2: How do you not know do you never open the cupboard,
Speaker 2: like four of them and he's just never noticed. Sometimes
Speaker 2: they're sitting on the side bed, like I didn't even
Speaker 2: put it away, and he's never realized it's a dialdo.
Speaker 1: Has he never seen you use it? No?
Speaker 2: I think I need to spice up our sex life
Speaker 2: a little bit. He looked genuinely shocked, Like, what do
Speaker 2: you mean you have a deal though, Yeah, well this
Speaker 2: is why when I felt like I delighted him and
Speaker 2: be like, don't worry, I never use them.
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, because you can't be not having sex and
Speaker 3: using them.
Speaker 1: We've spoken about it.
Speaker 3: You can't. No, I mean, you can do what you want,
Speaker 3: your body, your choice.
Speaker 1: But like if you're if you're like saying to your
Speaker 1: partner that you don't want it, but you're masturbating secretly
Speaker 1: all the time.
Speaker 2: It's like saying to your partner, honey, i'm really tired,
Speaker 2: I'm going to bed, and then laying on your phone
Speaker 2: for forty five minutes, which we all do. We all do.
Speaker 2: It's the same thing. I'm not ready for sex and
Speaker 2: then just going up to the bed.
Speaker 3: But you watch pauls different sometimes No, no, not really
Speaker 3: anymore can be bothered it's too much effort.
Speaker 1: Okay, sidestep. Instagram's doing me dirty. You know when sidestep
Speaker 1: You know what, Sometimes I don't know if this happens
Speaker 1: to anyone else or not just Instagram, but your phones,
Speaker 1: like old photos will pop up off your ex's or
Speaker 1: photos will pop up from a friend group out and
Speaker 1: someone that you used to date or something is in them,
Speaker 1: and you're like, oh, I wasn't ready for that, Like, Okay,
Speaker 1: that is happening to me so much right now with
Speaker 1: two people from my past. Of Jordan obviously, but Jordan's
Speaker 1: been playing amazing tennis lately, which is great for him.
Speaker 1: But he's everywhere on my feed because I don't follow Jordan,
Speaker 1: but I'm seeing him all the time. Yeah, but that
Speaker 1: was one thing I expected, right, I expected to see
Speaker 1: him pop up. But there is someone that I was
Speaker 1: seeing right before my ben right, he's probably the only
Speaker 1: person I really dated in that when I was having
Speaker 1: that time off, and it was very cash.
Speaker 3: I'm going to preface it with this, it was very cash.
Speaker 3: But it's very.
Speaker 2: Secretive about the men that she's seeing when she's unless
Speaker 2: it's a serious thing.
Speaker 3: I didn't even know that this was happening. Until it
Speaker 3: had happened, it.
Speaker 1: Was over because I think, like, unless I think something's here,
Speaker 1: hears me, I respect the people I date.
Speaker 3: Now I'm going to tell you no, I call bullshit
Speaker 3: on that.
Speaker 1: Do you know what it is?
Speaker 3: It's not about respecting the people you date, which obviously very.
Speaker 2: Much I do respect. But what it's about is not
Speaker 2: telling me for fear of me bringing it up on
Speaker 2: the podcast. Probably it's content. You're like, I'm so worried
Speaker 2: about sharing every aspect of my life, not knowing where
Speaker 2: the privacy libit sun.
Speaker 3: I was also enjoying it. I didn't want you to
Speaker 3: ruin it for I was enjoying it.
Speaker 1: So I met this guy very briefly with dating, but
Speaker 1: now I'm seeing him everywhere because he is I mean,
Speaker 1: it's just he's a stunt double in what movie brit
Speaker 1: for Ryan Gosling in The Fall Guy, So he is
Speaker 1: Ryan Gosling's stunt double. There it is there, you go off,
Speaker 1: you go have a Google. I haven't heard from him
Speaker 1: or seen him since he was here filming that. You
Speaker 1: might not even know.
Speaker 3: If you see him, you might just think it's Ryan Gosling.
Speaker 1: You've probably see the top yeah, yeah, I basically okay,
Speaker 1: there's the rumor I was Ryan Gosling. Sorry, But anyway,
Speaker 1: he is very quiet on social media because he's always
Speaker 1: behind the scenes. He likes being a stunt man for
Speaker 1: the fact that he's not the main man. He's not
Speaker 1: an actor as such, but he's just very good at stunts.
Speaker 1: But the whole idea of The fall Guy is it's
Speaker 1: about stunts. It's a stunt man. Ryan Gosling is a
Speaker 1: stunt man. So the whole publicity it's like as big
Speaker 1: as it feels like it's as big as Barbie Man.
Speaker 1: Like they're everywhere and every publicity, everywhere, everything that they do,
Speaker 1: every red carpet, all the social media they're doing, all
Speaker 1: the talk shows. The stunt men are there and it's
Speaker 1: about them because you know, credit where credits d you kind
Speaker 1: of it.
Speaker 2: Which is interesting because usually they're behind the scenes, but
Speaker 2: in this movie, like the setup of it is that they're.
Speaker 3: Very much front facing.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so he's everywhere, so I'm seeing him every I'm
Speaker 1: talking things like like Puberty and lad Bible, like all
Speaker 1: these big accounts. I think he did the carpool with
Speaker 1: like you know, who's that, what's that TV show, you
Speaker 1: know how they do carp whatever. He's doing everything. So
Speaker 1: I'm seeing him pop up everywhere and I for ardered it.
Speaker 1: Takeisha the other day a story of him, and I said, man,
Speaker 1: this guy is all over my feed right now. The
Speaker 1: next day I get a DM and I have not
Speaker 1: spoken to this guy since he was here fil minute,
Speaker 1: which is before Ben, so over eighteen months. Heybrid have
Speaker 1: you seen the Fall guy yet? Like? Nothing else? That's it?
Speaker 1: And I was like, but thanks, how are you? I
Speaker 1: said no, actually I haven't. Sorry, I've been busy. Guys.
Speaker 1: I guess you're busy in the jungle.
Speaker 3: And I was like, yeah, I've been pretty busy.
Speaker 1: But also even if I had seen it, probably would
Speaker 1: have said no anyway, just like I'll probably be like, I.
Speaker 3: Haven't seen it. I said, oh, I have seen you
Speaker 3: popping up everywhere.
Speaker 1: Yes, anyway.
Speaker 3: It was just so funny.
Speaker 1: It was just like out of out of eighteen months,
Speaker 1: having not ever spoken to you, and like we were
Speaker 1: not we were just like we just hung out.
Speaker 3: We're just friends. That were you know, what kind of friends, Brute?
Speaker 2: How are you doing making friendship bracelets and talking about
Speaker 2: Taylor Swift?
Speaker 1: Imagine stunt Double Sex.
Speaker 3: You're surprisingly flexible. I am ye. You're like, it's like
Speaker 3: my leg around my head on the jungle.
Speaker 2: It's like BRIT's like secret things that she's like actually
Speaker 2: weirdly flexible, overly flexible. Yeah, yeah, okay, yeah, well I'm
Speaker 2: sure Stunt Double enjoyed that.
Speaker 1: Anyway. It was just funny. It was just a blast
Speaker 1: from the past.
Speaker 2: It's nothing worse than when they just pop up out
Speaker 2: of't know whether it's usually hey, how you're doing. It's
Speaker 2: not usually like hey, I'm famous, I am famous.
Speaker 3: No, but I guess it's like I guess that was.
Speaker 1: The shared connection, right Like when we were dating. He
Speaker 1: was going to film that every day, so it was like,
Speaker 1: I guess that's the thing where it's come full circle.
Speaker 1: Now it's out, the promos are on, he's like, hey,
Speaker 1: have you seen it? Like have you seen because he
Speaker 1: would show me snippets of what he was filming. He
Speaker 1: would show me He's like, look, I got I exploded
Speaker 1: on the continue to have a bridge in a car
Speaker 1: today and I was like, wow, that's cool. So he
Speaker 1: probably wants to see if it's translated, you know, if
Speaker 1: I've seen what he's done. The hard work is done,
Speaker 1: but I have not.
Speaker 3: I have not seen it. I have not watched it.
Speaker 3: I may not watch it.
Speaker 2: It's kind of you to reduce all that down from hey,
Speaker 2: have you seen the four guy yet?
Speaker 3: It's really nice of you to unpack it to that
Speaker 3: sort of nuance. But it that's what I'm like. I
Speaker 3: feel all of a sudden, I feel bad like I've
Speaker 3: outed him. He was probably you did out him.
Speaker 1: That's great.
Speaker 3: I'm enjoying it anyway. He was lovely not a bad
Speaker 3: word to day.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 2: I wanted to talk to you guys about something that
Speaker 2: has been in the news just recently, and it's because
Speaker 2: I think it is something that we can most of us.
Speaker 3: I won't say all of us.
Speaker 2: I can't relate to it because I don't do it,
Speaker 2: but I think some of you might relate to it now.
Speaker 2: Drew Barrymore has come out and said that she left
Speaker 2: her sex list at Danny DeVito's house, which is just
Speaker 2: a funny sentence in itself. He said, no one ever
Speaker 2: thought that was going to be a headline, but it
Speaker 2: was a headline.
Speaker 3: This was on her show. This is what happened.
Speaker 4: I made a list. It was back in the day.
Speaker 4: I did it with paper and pen. I'm the most
Speaker 4: disorganized person. I lose everything. Don't say yeah, I left
Speaker 4: it at someone's house. Well, I was producing a film
Speaker 4: that Danny DeVito was directing, so I wrote the list
Speaker 4: on the back of a set of notes for the film.
Speaker 1: Hm.
Speaker 4: So I left it at Danny DeVito's.
Speaker 1: House, Okay?
Speaker 3: And did he find it? I don't think he ever did.
Speaker 4: But I did admit to him that he came on
Speaker 4: the show and I was like, I left my sex
Speaker 4: list at your house.
Speaker 1: Now, okay.
Speaker 2: It's pretty anti climac d because he didn't find the list,
Speaker 2: which would have been far juicy. And I was saying
Speaker 2: to produce Kesh today that I kind of felt like
Speaker 2: it was content for content's sake, Like I'm questioning whether
Speaker 2: it even happened.
Speaker 3: Who's just leaving their sex list around? Willy nilly?
Speaker 2: My question is, why would you ever write it down
Speaker 2: in hard copy in with a pen and paper. Don't
Speaker 2: people just keep these things in the notes in their phone.
Speaker 2: But the weirder part is that she wrote it on
Speaker 2: the back of like a script.
Speaker 1: It was like, but why, That's my point. I'm like,
Speaker 1: why in that moment when you're on a set. When
Speaker 1: you're on a film set with Danny DeVito, did you
Speaker 1: be like, what, I've got an idea, but first, let
Speaker 1: me write my sex list out, flip the script over,
Speaker 1: write it out. The whole thing is very, very funny.
Speaker 1: But I can't relate because I don't have a sex list.
Speaker 1: I've never written one. I'm not that person, that girl
Speaker 1: that writes the notes.
Speaker 3: I understand that there are list keepers.
Speaker 2: Some people are just born list keepers, and that's probably
Speaker 2: someone who's more inclined to keep a sex list.
Speaker 3: I have tried.
Speaker 2: I am chaotic and disorganized, which also translates back to
Speaker 2: my sex life.
Speaker 1: But I tried.
Speaker 2: I remember because when we're in the Batch house, I mean,
Speaker 2: I know this is so long ago, so now like
Speaker 2: what seven eight years ago, And it was obviously before
Speaker 2: Matt was committed to me, and he was dating a
Speaker 2: lot of other women, and we had so much downtime,
Speaker 2: Like I'm talking like there's hours where you're sitting around
Speaker 2: that house just waiting. And so I remember I was
Speaker 2: laying in bed this one night and I was like, well,
Speaker 2: I guess I'll just try and write them down. And
Speaker 2: I did put them into a hard copy notebook because
Speaker 2: I didn't have a phone on me all.
Speaker 1: Right, did all the other was this the thing that
Speaker 1: all the girls were doing me? So you just thought me,
Speaker 1: how could I possibly film my time? And that was
Speaker 1: what popped into your mind. Yeah, I'm a good bake
Speaker 1: banana bread. I could write down my sex list.
Speaker 2: It was alarming to me, alarming how I could picture
Speaker 2: someone's face but not their name, couldn't remember their name.
Speaker 2: So I had things in my sex list like police officer, camperdown.
Speaker 1: Like station camp down, station like I could not remember.
Speaker 2: And I still, for the life of me, I cannot
Speaker 2: remember the man's name.
Speaker 1: We didn't just have one night scent. I dated him.
Speaker 3: We went on multiple dates.
Speaker 2: I can picture his face, I can picture the things
Speaker 2: we talked about on the date.
Speaker 3: I know the movie we went to. We went So
Speaker 3: La La Land. Also Ryan Gosling, but.
Speaker 1: That's a real theme today.
Speaker 2: I cannot remember his name, and so I just wrote
Speaker 2: down policemen.
Speaker 3: And then the thing that was also even more surprising is.
Speaker 2: That every couple of days after I started the list,
Speaker 2: I would just be like in the middle of doing
Speaker 2: something and then oh my goeh, that's another one. French
Speaker 2: guy Tinder can't remember his name either.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean if I whilst I haven't written a list,
Speaker 1: I still think about them. I don't think about it.
Speaker 3: I often go to sleep and think about them. That's false, ben, false.
Speaker 1: I don't think about them, but I have with when
Speaker 1: I think about them, like right now, if you are like,
Speaker 1: try and write a listing ahead.
Speaker 3: I also probably know this makes it sounds terrible.
Speaker 1: Ten percent of names, but I choose to forget them,
Speaker 1: like I haven't made that conscious choice. But mine's the same,
Speaker 1: especially because so much of my twenties was a single
Speaker 1: but b traveling around the world. So like a lot
Speaker 1: of hookups where you're when you see him for a
Speaker 1: week or a couple of days or two days, and
Speaker 1: then they're gone. So mine's like location based, like hostel Germany,
Speaker 1: and that's just a tally. Yeah, Bolivia, it's Roman numerals,
Speaker 1: Bolivia salt flats.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 1: But when you just said you forgot, I forget not
Speaker 1: just the people that I have like hooked up with.
Speaker 1: I actually forgot someone I completely dated, Like I had
Speaker 1: said I loved this person, and I forgot them. My
Speaker 1: sister Sherry was like one day, I think it was
Speaker 1: like last year ago. She goes, did you ever speak
Speaker 1: to Nick again? And I was like Nick, Nick. She's like, yeah, Nick,
Speaker 1: And I was like, who's Nick.
Speaker 3: She's like Nick.
Speaker 1: I was like, I don't know who you talking about.
Speaker 1: She's like, who you dated? Nick? And I was like
Speaker 1: who I dated?
Speaker 3: In my head, I was like, I said someone I
Speaker 3: hooked up with somewhere for a little while. And I
Speaker 3: was like, I have no idea who's talking about.
Speaker 1: She's like, Nick, you were with him for like seven months,
Speaker 1: you went on overseas holiday together. You broke up overseas
Speaker 1: and I was like, oh my god, oh that Nick.
Speaker 1: I completely forgot that I had like this a year. Basically,
Speaker 1: I wiped it from because I was standable. I'm not
Speaker 1: even mad about it.
Speaker 2: I feel like your brain only retains the important information.
Speaker 1: We're too old.
Speaker 3: But I loved him.
Speaker 1: You're not really No.
Speaker 3: I didn't.
Speaker 1: You didn't no thing. I know now I didn't, but
Speaker 1: at the time I said I did, And so we
Speaker 1: had to share a single Benny Farnet that was him,
Speaker 1: a single bed guy.
Speaker 3: You've actually spoken about him in the podcast for No.
Speaker 1: I think I'm twenty.
Speaker 3: Sorry, I'm not twenty.
Speaker 2: I'm twenty years on from when I first started having sex, right,
Speaker 2: like more twenty two whatever.
Speaker 3: Oh please, I'm just older than that.
Speaker 1: No, twenty two.
Speaker 2: No, I was a late bloomer. I was like late,
Speaker 2: I was like almost eighteen. So it's been so many years.
Speaker 3: I feel like it's I mean, we did a poll.
Speaker 2: We pold you guys, seventy nine percent of you don't
Speaker 2: keep list, twenty one percent of you do keep a list,
Speaker 2: And I think it could be age related. I think
Speaker 2: when you're younger, you're more inclined to keep a list.
Speaker 2: You're keeping a mental tally, and then as time goes on,
Speaker 2: you're like, oh, why would I subject myself to that information.
Speaker 3: I'm going to let the list go.
Speaker 1: I asked Ben last night if he had a list
Speaker 1: out of curiosity, because I thought men, I don't know,
Speaker 1: do you think men or women are more.
Speaker 2: Likely to have lists? Women way more likely keep a list.
Speaker 2: If I was to gender it.
Speaker 1: I feel like women are more likely to keep a
Speaker 1: list physically, but I think men are more likely to
Speaker 1: keep a tally because like it's like a flex, don't
Speaker 1: you reckon? Yeah, but I think that's fucking gross. Yeah,
Speaker 1: he didn't have a list. Or a tally because he's
Speaker 1: a beautiful gentleman.
Speaker 2: I I've never asked, okay, this is and I know
Speaker 2: this kind of like just leads into a whole different conversation.
Speaker 2: But I think when I was younger and I was
Speaker 2: in more early relationships I'm talking like in my twenties
Speaker 2: and stuff, I found it more common for people to
Speaker 2: ask if you knew how many people you'd slept with? Right, Like,
Speaker 2: I feel like that was a more common thing that
Speaker 2: was asked. And as you're older and like it was
Speaker 2: weird then. But if you're in your thirties and people
Speaker 2: are asking, like, how many people have you slept with?
Speaker 2: I think that's a weird question to ask when you're
Speaker 2: an adult because the well, I mean, firstly, the answer
Speaker 2: should not make a difference.
Speaker 1: No, and it doesn't. But I think as.
Speaker 2: You get older, most people stop keeping a track record.
Speaker 1: They just do. I don't know, we just moved. There
Speaker 1: are heaps of women that still keep a track record,
Speaker 1: and it's not I think it's more just out of curiosity.
Speaker 3: It's like you like, I'm just gonna write it down
Speaker 3: one day. It's just a thought. I reckon it's more
Speaker 3: common than not what did our pole.
Speaker 2: Say twenty one percent seventy nine percent didn't. But then
Speaker 2: we also asked the question do you use real names
Speaker 2: in your list? Do you use nicknames? And I say nicknames,
Speaker 2: but really that's just the name that you give someone
Speaker 2: because you can't remember their real name, or do you
Speaker 2: use a mix of both, And it was thirty three
Speaker 2: percent said they used real names, good for them, fourteen
Speaker 2: percent used nicknames, and fifty three percent use a mix
Speaker 2: of the two because they.
Speaker 3: Probably can't remember all of the real names.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and we got some funny ones. We asked, tell
Speaker 1: us what's in your phone right now? Like who have
Speaker 1: you written down in your sex list that you can't remember?
Speaker 1: And like call me daddy? That's podcast, call me daddy.
Speaker 1: Guy missing half his big toe lowel a cano. How
Speaker 1: do you notice that someone's missing half the big toe
Speaker 1: when you're having sex?
Speaker 3: Where's the foot? Where is the toe?
Speaker 1: Had sixty nine? But you glance up, imagine a sixty
Speaker 1: nine or and you glance up in this half a toe.
Speaker 2: A tow pumper number four that's probably pre standard humper
Speaker 2: number four.
Speaker 3: I don't get it.
Speaker 1: Well, he's a two pump up.
Speaker 3: But I wonder where the number four comes in.
Speaker 2: Oh, okay, he's just explaining this one. She thinks it's
Speaker 2: the second. No, it's the fourth guy who's only needed
Speaker 2: two pumps.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's probably that's probably the fourth guy, the fourth one.
Speaker 1: Thick dick he send him that he deserves to know. Yeah,
Speaker 1: a thick double ze faxy because he had a fax machine.
Speaker 3: It was two thousand and three.
Speaker 1: Palette cleanser or pirana. I would love to know the
Speaker 1: background of these piranha. Obviously he's been eating her. Oh no,
Speaker 1: is that right? Or is that a sex thing? I
Speaker 1: don't know.
Speaker 2: No, I think he's been eating her alive. I think
Speaker 2: he ate her alive with his teeth a bit. I
Speaker 2: think his teethy in on the flaps. Yeah, or the glitterists.
Speaker 2: We could be really descriptive teeth.
Speaker 1: You're biting off a glitteress. You can't see that through.
Speaker 1: Might be why he's called parana.
Speaker 3: People like a bit of biting.
Speaker 1: If it's like on the neck and or the nipple.
Speaker 1: Karana is like a positive term.
Speaker 2: I don't think people are like, ooh, that guy, I
Speaker 2: can't remember his name, but pana.
Speaker 1: What about pistel on my floor? Guy? I've had one
Speaker 1: of those.
Speaker 2: This one I think is great because it's really descriptive
Speaker 2: without being descriptive at all. Drew Neil or Phil I
Speaker 2: know his name was beige as fuck about one that's
Speaker 2: four letters, but also going back to two pump and
Speaker 2: number four. Now we've got too pump chump. Unfortunately, there's
Speaker 2: quite a few menu out there with a two pump.
Speaker 1: Okay, this one concerns me. Gooder cheese. That's concerning because
Speaker 1: I'm getting cheese cheese. What about cheese, you know, like
Speaker 1: hanging I'm back on the cheese, dick. Let's not blusterer, No,
Speaker 1: you know, it takes.
Speaker 2: Me back to being eighteen and it's really long cheeses
Speaker 2: that you peel down.
Speaker 1: I just wanted to put the vision on your head. Sorry, no,
Speaker 1: I see.
Speaker 2: It when I I can't. Let's not unpack that blue cheese. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I'm thinking, I'm thinking smelly cheese. I'm thinking like Camember
Speaker 2: that's got a bit of mold on the outside, it's
Speaker 2: creamy on the inside.
Speaker 1: Blue cheese is the mold.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but no Camember has it's got white moles. What
Speaker 3: keeps the hole?
Speaker 1: White's lash?
Speaker 2: Okay, what about parsnip? Do we think parsnip is a
Speaker 2: description of the shape. It could be thick on the
Speaker 2: basin at the top, like a parrot.
Speaker 1: I think passnip.
Speaker 3: That might be going back to maybe he made her
Speaker 3: a passnip soup.
Speaker 2: I don't think so. I think it's to do with
Speaker 2: the shape of his very very elongated willy. What does a.
Speaker 1: Parsnip look like? I'm googling it.
Speaker 2: I like kaspar because obviously he just disappeared. And mattress
Speaker 2: car guy is also a top face. Oh my god,
Speaker 2: don't have sorry.
Speaker 3: Boys who have mattresses in the back of their car.
Speaker 1: I just google passnip.
Speaker 3: There's no way his penis looks like that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's why I think it's passnip like that, No way,
Speaker 2: Sorry to anyone who has a passnip penis.
Speaker 1: If you guys have a list but nicknames only, no
Speaker 1: name first names, Yeah, but as long as it's not
Speaker 1: first names, and then their job and then their home address,
Speaker 1: like we don't want to be able to identify that.
Speaker 1: We don't want to dox people.
Speaker 3: But go and share your.
Speaker 1: Lists like they're always so funny, So share him in
Speaker 1: the Facebook.
Speaker 3: But maybe some of you have both had gooda cheeks.
Speaker 1: Who knows if.
Speaker 2: You okay, if if you have a hilarious list that
Speaker 2: you've kept and it's majority of the nicknames, screenshot it
Speaker 2: from your notes and put it in the Facebook group
Speaker 2: because we need a.
Speaker 1: Laugh and we enjoyed that. I also wonder how in
Speaker 1: depth some people go. Are they like categorized by years?
Speaker 1: Are they you know? Like?
Speaker 2: I think it depends on the personality type. If you're
Speaker 2: an a personality type and you are a list keeper,
Speaker 2: that list is thorough. If you were me and you
Speaker 2: forget things like dildos on top of your car, you're
Speaker 2: probably gonna forget the names of most.
Speaker 3: People and you're gonna fill in the blank.
Speaker 1: I probably got your dealdo off top of the cars
Speaker 1: where I have ten. Yes, it probably told you. It
Speaker 1: probably flew off your car into my car. And I
Speaker 1: was like, fine, kid, you stole my dildo.
Speaker 3: Steal your dildo, take better care of your sex toys.
Speaker 3: You stole my dildo, take better care.
Speaker 2: Just because I leave a dildo at the office doesn't
Speaker 2: mean it's free game for anyone to take home.
Speaker 1: Bro, it wasn't.
Speaker 3: You didn't leave it at the office. It flew off
Speaker 3: your car.
Speaker 2: This is an exaggeration. Why are you picking my dildo
Speaker 2: up out of the car. It was because it was
Speaker 2: still in the box.
Speaker 1: Do you think you were walking around work with a
Speaker 1: dildo like flapping around that you'd used, like hey, just
Speaker 1: ducking into the wellness room and then you off. It
Speaker 1: was not on the roof of my car.
Speaker 2: All right, Look, I mean this is a very sex
Speaker 2: field episode today.
Speaker 1: I wasn't supposed to be.
Speaker 3: Actually it really wasn't.
Speaker 2: But we tossed up a few things and we realize
Speaker 2: everyone's going to be talking about Peter Stefanovic.
Speaker 3: So we were like, let's talk about Craig David.
Speaker 1: Let's talk dad. Yeah, let's talk about Craig David. Craig David.
Speaker 3: He's come out, and I think this is interesting. We
Speaker 3: hasn't come.
Speaker 2: No, he might have come, though he's sell a bit.
Speaker 2: He's not not coming. No, I think he's not coming. Oh,
Speaker 2: I don't know about that.
Speaker 3: He's forty two.
Speaker 2: Since he was forty years old, so for the past
Speaker 2: two years he has been completely celibate. He has decided
Speaker 2: that he doesn't want any intimacy, like romantic intimacy in
Speaker 2: his life because he wants to work on healing. His
Speaker 2: own issues with himself, but also prioritizing other things that
Speaker 2: are more important.
Speaker 1: Craig David wrote a song about meeting the girl on
Speaker 1: Monday and having her in the bed on Wednesday, and
Speaker 1: then like meeting someone else on Friday or some other
Speaker 1: there were a lot of days and sex in and
Speaker 1: on Thursday and Friday and Saturday, on Sunday, then we
Speaker 1: fuck on Monday.
Speaker 3: Not the words, No, that would have been a great song.
Speaker 1: So he has sung a song about how he gets late,
Speaker 1: and now he's come out saying that he's celibate, which
Speaker 1: I think is great. But I think the funny thing
Speaker 1: about it is the way he talks about it. He's like, literally,
Speaker 1: no drama, vibes only I'm so creative, like I'm banging
Speaker 1: out songs, I'm not banging chicks, and life is great
Speaker 1: from it. But there actually is so much scientific research
Speaker 1: to say that we are better people, we are more productive,
Speaker 1: we're more creative when we are not ejaculated.
Speaker 3: Well this is his this is his quote.
Speaker 2: It has been really good for me because man, the studio, music,
Speaker 2: the creativity, it's like no drama, just vibes. I know,
Speaker 2: to the date, it's been two years now for me
Speaker 2: without sex. But in a funny way, much as I
Speaker 2: was like wow to myself for the moment, my creativity
Speaker 2: has been one hundred percent on max for those two years,
Speaker 2: which I agree with, because when you're in the throes
Speaker 2: of like toxic dating, toxic relationships, like the effort that
Speaker 2: goes into trying to find new people to date, to
Speaker 2: manage their emotions, blah blah blah ah, that shit. It
Speaker 2: really it's like having another It takes up so much
Speaker 2: time and so much mental energy that he's like, holy shit,
Speaker 2: how much work I can get done when I'm not
Speaker 2: out trying to like bone chicks every single day.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And as somebody who is unintentionally celibate that is myself,
Speaker 1: I can agree to this.
Speaker 3: I think you're so much more productive.
Speaker 1: And I have always said this when I have gone
Speaker 1: through these dry spells of like not dating, not even
Speaker 1: just the sex, but not dating. And it goes back
Speaker 1: to what you said, Laura, it's like the no drama.
Speaker 1: You don't have to use your brain to think of
Speaker 1: anyone else, like you can prioritize yourself. You can be
Speaker 1: selfish and every decision you make can be about you.
Speaker 1: It means you are going to be better at everything
Speaker 1: that you do because you've got more energy to put
Speaker 1: on yourself. That's exactly the excuse I use for Matt.
Speaker 1: What do you mean, I just like, we.
Speaker 2: Can't have sex because I want to focus on creativity,
Speaker 2: focus on my creative outlets.
Speaker 1: I mean. Craig David has come out and said that
Speaker 1: he believes that the repeated one night stands that he
Speaker 1: had at the height of his fame in his twenties
Speaker 1: and thirties led to many different traumas and that is
Speaker 1: why so he's Craig David is blaming his one night stands,
Speaker 1: which probably came off the back of his song.
Speaker 2: I mean, you can't really blame you one night So
Speaker 2: I think you've got to blame yourself in that moment.
Speaker 3: You can't blame blame bad decision making is what it is.
Speaker 2: The Only part of this I think is like, I
Speaker 2: don't know how I feel about it.
Speaker 3: I mean, I do know how I feel, but I
Speaker 3: hate the way I feel.
Speaker 2: So he has said that when he was sixteen years old,
Speaker 2: he went through a really bad breakup and that he
Speaker 2: was completely in love with her. She broke his heart
Speaker 2: and then that was what set him off for like
Speaker 2: being terrible in relationships, basically his inability to commit, his
Speaker 2: inability to have healthy relationships. Now I know, and I'm
Speaker 2: fully aware after doing this podcast for how long we've
Speaker 2: done it, how toxic this is.
Speaker 3: But part of me hears him say that and go, oh,
Speaker 3: the poor thing. He's like a broken man.
Speaker 1: That needs love.
Speaker 2: And then the other part of me is like, oh
Speaker 2: my god, you are deflecting. You know, you're not taking
Speaker 2: any responsibility for the way you've treated people for the
Speaker 2: past like two decades. You're placing that blame on something
Speaker 2: that happened to you when you're sixteen, which is crazy.
Speaker 1: Well, he's yeah, he said that, the one night stands
Speaker 1: and then not wanting to and like just have sex
Speaker 1: like that. He blames that on the trauma of when
Speaker 1: he was sixteen, the trauma of when he was sixteen.
Speaker 1: I just want to really get you guys to understand.
Speaker 1: It was a two week whirlwind romance. It was two
Speaker 1: weeks when he was six No, you can't make that up. Okay,
Speaker 1: it was two week world wind romance. He said he
Speaker 1: never felt anything like that before, and my heart closed down.
Speaker 1: Of course, you haven't felt anything like that before you're sixteen.
Speaker 1: I love to be you know, a bit on both sides,
Speaker 1: you know, like the what's the angel on one side
Speaker 1: and the devil on the other of your shoulder? Like
Speaker 1: I like to look at Devil's Okay, fucking couldn't think
Speaker 1: of that. Thank you, You're welcome, But there is. There's
Speaker 1: most of me, eighty percent of meters laughing at this
Speaker 1: because I'm like, there's more at play here.
Speaker 3: It's your whole life.
Speaker 1: Hasn't come down to a two week wall with romance
Speaker 1: when you were sixteen. But when I think back to
Speaker 1: when I was sixteen, I was dating this guy called Mitch.
Speaker 1: Use the term dating loosely because you're sixteen, Like you're
Speaker 1: at school. You write letters to each other and you
Speaker 1: pass them over at lunchtime. Anyway, we were together for
Speaker 1: an entire year.
Speaker 3: Fifteen. I was fourteen to fifteen. I remember this shit.
Speaker 2: You can't remember a guy you dated in your twenties,
Speaker 2: but you remember some dude you dated when you're fourteen.
Speaker 1: This is my point, This is why I understand Craig David.
Speaker 1: Everyone remembers that first love and the first heartbreak.
Speaker 3: So I get what he's saying.
Speaker 1: In that because when Mitch he broke up with me, Oh,
Speaker 1: Betty regrets that now, I'm joking.
Speaker 3: He broke up with me and I thought I was
Speaker 3: going to marry him.
Speaker 1: I remember being fifteen thinking like there were no love
Speaker 1: like this, like this is my person because you know,
Speaker 1: you used to talk to each other like that, like
Speaker 1: he'd say the same thing to me, and you'd write
Speaker 1: these gushy letters because you're just feeling these feelings for
Speaker 1: the first time in your life. That's the age where
Speaker 1: you've never felt a love, like a romantic love, and
Speaker 1: you know you have your family love and all this
Speaker 1: different stuff.
Speaker 3: And when he broke up with me, I remember I.
Speaker 1: Thought my life was over. And I remember saying to
Speaker 1: my mom, I was balling my room and she came
Speaker 1: in and she must have been trying not to laugh
Speaker 1: as a mother.
Speaker 3: Like I know, I remember having exact same situations with
Speaker 3: my mom, like not laugh at me because I'm upset.
Speaker 1: She was obviously there for me, but part of her
Speaker 1: must have been like, wow, one day you'll laugh at yourself.
Speaker 1: Because I was like, I will never date again.
Speaker 2: No.
Speaker 3: Wait, so Craig David actually did that.
Speaker 2: He's not breaking at sixteen and then turned into a
Speaker 2: forty year old man who has never dated again.
Speaker 1: Yeah, for fear of those feelings, which is wild. But
Speaker 1: I remember saying I'll never find it. I said to mom,
Speaker 1: I'll never find a love like Maddiganbatt and Mum was
Speaker 1: like you, I promise you.
Speaker 3: I know you feel like that, but you will.
Speaker 2: Well imagine if you were Craig David and your mum
Speaker 2: had had that conversation with him, because he could turn
Speaker 2: around as a forty two year old man and say, well, no, Mum,
Speaker 2: I did it.
Speaker 1: I told you I'm right and you're wrong. Yeah. But
Speaker 1: he also made millions of dollars from a song about
Speaker 1: sex about hockey up.
Speaker 2: I mean not that we need to get into the
Speaker 2: psychic of Craig David. No one really cares, but I
Speaker 2: think we do care. I don't think that it has
Speaker 2: anything to do with being a sixteen year old and
Speaker 2: having his heart broken. I think it has to do
Speaker 2: with becoming monumentally famous and being in a position of
Speaker 2: power and having so much choice when it comes to
Speaker 2: women and never having to settle because there's always going
Speaker 2: to be this routesque they of women. And then he's
Speaker 2: gotten to the ripe old age of forty and not
Speaker 2: that that's you know, not as all. But he's realized,
Speaker 2: oh my god, my life is so vacuous. There's nothing
Speaker 2: here that has meaning, there's nothing here that has purpose,
Speaker 2: and so much of my feelings of inadequacy or validation
Speaker 2: all comes from this like rotating door of like very
Speaker 2: temporary validation. All of my relationships are so superficial. I
Speaker 2: think like he's just had a literal midlife crisis around
Speaker 2: the way he's behaved in the past twenty years.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree, but I mean, like he said, I'm
Speaker 1: just reading some more things, he said, But he said, like,
Speaker 1: and it does that up. He said, Look, I've always
Speaker 1: kept women's at arm's length, and I do feel like
Speaker 1: it's the rejection from years ago has become a defense
Speaker 1: mechanism get over, which no, but there is something in that.
Speaker 1: But I think the fact that he's sad on that
Speaker 1: for twenty five years is where the problem is. Like
Speaker 1: we all have those feelings of when you're rejected, Sometimes
Speaker 1: you decide you don't or a trauma happens to you
Speaker 1: in a relationship you're like, Okay, you know what I'm
Speaker 1: gonna because I did that for a long time, and
Speaker 1: I think it was after my dating my ex with
Speaker 1: a double life. I was like, without knowing it, I
Speaker 1: was like, I'm never gonna let anyone get close to
Speaker 1: me again because I don't want to go through that.
Speaker 1: But I didn't know that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but also I get over that. I worked through that.
Speaker 2: This is what I say by I hate myself because
Speaker 2: one part of me is like, oh my god, the
Speaker 2: brooken bird, fix them, And then the other part of me,
Speaker 2: the more rational part, is like, you are a grown
Speaker 2: man and you are blaming the way that you have
Speaker 2: treated women for the past twenty years on one female
Speaker 2: from when.
Speaker 3: You were sixteen.
Speaker 2: Yeah, like you have categorized an entire gender and your
Speaker 2: behavior towards that gender because of the way you got
Speaker 2: treated once.
Speaker 3: Like it's so I mean, it's so deeply wrong.
Speaker 2: But the real question here is do you think Craig
Speaker 2: David keeps a list?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'd love to see the notes of his face.
Speaker 1: I would love to hear the song on two Years
Speaker 1: of No Sex, when he made his millions on a
Speaker 1: song about sex every day.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm not sure it'll be as much of a
Speaker 3: blockbuster though.
Speaker 1: On Monday, we held hands hung Tuesday. But a fleck
Speaker 1: is there is time for our acts.
Speaker 2: Cidentally unfiltered your most embarrassing stories.
Speaker 3: This is goody.
Speaker 2: I recently decided to treat myself and booked in for
Speaker 2: a facial at a pretty well known place. Upon entering
Speaker 2: the treatment room, I was instructed to remove any clothing
Speaker 2: above my waist and put this cape on a piece
Speaker 2: of fabric that was folded neatly on the chair. Before
Speaker 2: I had a chance to ask, the aesthetician had left
Speaker 2: the room, so I stripped off my top and my
Speaker 2: bra and I put the cape around my neck, did
Speaker 2: up the ties.
Speaker 3: I wore it just like a Superman cape over my back.
Speaker 1: Ah ah why.
Speaker 2: I held the two edges together at the front to
Speaker 2: try and cover my chest a little bit. When the
Speaker 2: asthetician returned, she muffled giggle and gently told me that
Speaker 2: the cape needed to go around my arms and around
Speaker 2: my chest so they could massage my neck and shoulders.
Speaker 1: Standing there topless.
Speaker 2: I had to remove my cape and put it on
Speaker 2: while she was still standing there watching. I have never
Speaker 2: gone back, just imagining her there with her boobies out
Speaker 2: in a capeon.
Speaker 3: Do you know what I find weird.
Speaker 1: This has made me think. I spoke to you guys
Speaker 1: a couple weeks ag about how I started getting laser
Speaker 1: hair removal, so you need to get like six six times.
Speaker 1: But I had my first one however, long ago.
Speaker 3: And I got full of the whole kickkerboodle, full legs.
Speaker 1: Ass crack, Brazilian under arms. Yeah. I just find it's
Speaker 1: so weird because you know, when you go and get
Speaker 1: a perhaps mere or you know, everything that I did
Speaker 1: for fertility there, so it's very internal, like you're getting
Speaker 1: so many internal ultrasounds, so many like poking and prodding.
Speaker 3: But every time you go in and you strip.
Speaker 1: Off, you lay there, you always get something just to
Speaker 1: lay over you for a bit of modesty, modesty, just
Speaker 1: for that feeling.
Speaker 3: They don't give you that at laser. She's like, take
Speaker 3: it off and lay down.
Speaker 2: It's fake modesty though, like they're still looking at your
Speaker 2: bum hole and you're just there with a towel over
Speaker 2: your over the when.
Speaker 3: You're laying there right, and then you're getting your legs lasered.
Speaker 1: Imagine if you could just have a little towel over
Speaker 1: your fanny, but you can't. I just laid there and
Speaker 1: my whole vagina is out, and then she's like, legs
Speaker 1: to the side. I'm just opening my legs up with
Speaker 1: my vagina there. She's a realist. Then she like a
Speaker 1: towels just getting in the way. Got a job to do,
Speaker 1: get it done. So then she's doing the back of
Speaker 1: my legs and she's like, oh, so are you getting
Speaker 1: the Hollywood? And I was like, well, the Hollywood. She goes,
Speaker 1: do you get the Hollywood?
Speaker 3: And I was like, I don't understand what the Hollywood is.
Speaker 1: She goes the Hollywood and I was like, do.
Speaker 3: You mean my butthole?
Speaker 1: And she goes yeah, and I was like, yeah, do
Speaker 1: my butthole. I was like, why I just call a butthole.
Speaker 1: I was like, what, it's a Hollywood. I don't know
Speaker 1: what Hollywood is anyway, the whole Hollywood. It's the whole
Speaker 1: e Wood.
Speaker 3: But I'm like, just give me a little modesty towel
Speaker 3: because I felt very exposed. I think that it's depended
Speaker 3: on the place that you go to.
Speaker 2: I think that some places would give you a little
Speaker 2: modesty handtowl unnecessary because they're literally going to look from
Speaker 2: the front to the back and all through the crack.
Speaker 1: But it's nice to have. I feel like there's a
Speaker 1: song in that.
Speaker 3: It's the back and all the way through your crack.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we lost it.
Speaker 2: Okay, I haven't been and I need to go back
Speaker 2: because I would like to get all of that sorted.
Speaker 3: Yeah, maybe you can get it at the same time
Speaker 3: as your laby plasty. Great.
Speaker 2: I'll be out for that, so then I won't know.
Speaker 2: Like a shaven snip and you wake up and you're
Speaker 2: totally bored. You literally wake up, you look sixteen again.
Speaker 2: That's my plan, so.
Speaker 1: Tight and come back and hairless. I like the hairless cat.
Speaker 1: What is this my prey vest vagina?
Speaker 3: Actually back the sphinx, my little sphinx can't know because
Speaker 3: they're ring someone's sexlessest the sphinx.
Speaker 1: Someone somewhere when you was that.
Speaker 2: No, they certainly haven't any time soon, that's for sure.
Speaker 2: What would Matt write me as it's the celiban lop sided?
Speaker 1: Probably at the moment, side one side heavy, elongated too much?
Speaker 1: Can you actually, boppy? Can we do this? Can we?
Speaker 1: I would like the three of us to go home,
Speaker 1: Keisha produced you're included. Ask our respective partners what offensive
Speaker 1: thing they would put us in there? Not offensive. But
Speaker 1: how would you if you had ever hooked up with
Speaker 1: us on the first night or whatever? What would we
Speaker 1: be in the sexless as?
Speaker 2: So Ben actually asked me last night that would be
Speaker 2: six pack that put him in He's just got the
Speaker 2: It's like it is obs how good his six pack is.
Speaker 1: It's like it's drawn on. It's obscene.
Speaker 3: I feel like there's no comment I can make here
Speaker 3: that won't get me in trouble. I have not seen
Speaker 3: his six pack is what I will go. It's absolutely
Speaker 3: it's stupid. It's beyond stupid.
Speaker 1: I would put Ben as off the top of my head.
Speaker 1: I would say movie movie, well, the guy from the
Speaker 1: Full Guy or You're my band. Because the sex on
Speaker 1: the first night was like something out of a movie.
Speaker 1: I felt like I was leaving out my movie dreams.
Speaker 1: You know, sex in movies isn't real sex. You know
Speaker 1: that they pick you up around there you're against the
Speaker 1: wall and it's passionate, and then they flip you around
Speaker 1: and it's like what happened after that? He hollywooded men.
Speaker 1: It was just amazing. It was just amazing sex. But
Speaker 1: I always think of that first night and I remember
Speaker 1: telling you guys, saying like I think I told you, Laura.
Speaker 1: I think I said I was like the sex was
Speaker 1: like a movie because I thought I was never gonna
Speaker 1: see this guy again.
Speaker 3: All right, we need to stop complimenting our partners.
Speaker 1: No, I want you to ask your partners what they'd
Speaker 1: put you as.
Speaker 2: I don't want to be insulted. Doon't be insulted. Do
Speaker 2: you also be smoke show hot case? Do you think
Speaker 2: yours would be insulted? I think I know what mine
Speaker 2: would be.
Speaker 5: I think it would be so on our first day,
Speaker 5: we were at this really nice restaurant and my boyfriend
Speaker 5: really likes wine. He's like a full wine person and
Speaker 5: you know, enjoys that I don't. I don't even drink wine.
Speaker 5: So he was ordering this really fancy wine, and I
Speaker 5: the girl from Newcastle who you can take out of
Speaker 5: NEWI but you cannot take the desires.
Speaker 1: I was ordering absence spritzers.
Speaker 3: What the fuck is an absence?
Speaker 2: Okay though an as absinthe the like, why were you
Speaker 2: drinking absinth on a first day?
Speaker 1: And what restaurant still serves as sheu bet in Sydney.
Speaker 3: Really nice restaurant, quite fancy because cabsinth.
Speaker 1: I love it. I love the taste of absinthe. I
Speaker 1: think it's so good.
Speaker 5: Anyway, they make these spritzers, they still do, had one
Speaker 5: like last week there.
Speaker 1: It's like having a meth spritzer.
Speaker 5: I don't know if it's as strong in Australia. I
Speaker 5: think it must not be. I don't think you could
Speaker 5: get an alcoholage seventy percent. But anyway, that's what he
Speaker 5: would have put me in his phone as if we
Speaker 5: had have only had a one night step I think
Speaker 5: absent girl, do you reckon?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 5: Okay, we brought it up heap since and I'm like,
Speaker 5: I'm actually surprised you took me on a second date
Speaker 5: because it's so bogan about you.
Speaker 1: I wasn't bad, I didn't have too many. I had
Speaker 1: a couple, but like you know, chirpy, I thought you
Speaker 1: were going to say he was going to call you spritzer,
Speaker 1: and I was like, that could be pretty good.
Speaker 3: That could go either way.
Speaker 2: The spritzer either that is such an aggressive drink for
Speaker 2: a first date. I am impressed and scared of you.
Speaker 2: If I went on a date with a guy and
Speaker 2: he started drinking absent, I'd be like I'm calling a taxi.
Speaker 2: I's like this guy needs therapy, she's had some trauma.
Speaker 2: Probably no, but this is good. I think it was
Speaker 2: good for you, Laura, broken bird. You would have assumed
Speaker 2: that I had problems.
Speaker 3: I was like, Oh, I'll date, I'll marry her. I
Speaker 3: can fix her.
Speaker 1: I think that this is good and I genuinely want
Speaker 1: you to do this. I want you to think about
Speaker 1: now what you think they we know your skisha. You
Speaker 1: think he'd say, yeah, absentthe girl. But now go and
Speaker 1: ask what he would and tell us on Thursday, because
Speaker 1: I genuinely want to know if what you think they
Speaker 1: think of you is what.
Speaker 2: They would have a right I'll ask Matt Yeah, what
Speaker 2: I would be in his sex list when he.
Speaker 3: First after it?
Speaker 1: No, after just meeting, not now, because you don't even
Speaker 1: make the sex list. Now you're not on the list
Speaker 1: and he doesn't have a list. He doesn't have a list.
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, it was virgin when we met.
Speaker 1: You want to share it? Okay, my accent unfiltered.
Speaker 3: Now this has come off the back of producer.
Speaker 1: Keisha was telling her an accientally unfiltered about her friend
Speaker 1: who mistook lube a couple of weeks ago. So this
Speaker 1: has come off the back of that, my husband and
Speaker 1: I were in Vegas. We decided to go to a
Speaker 1: sex club. We walked around, went into all the different rooms,
Speaker 1: spoke to some different people, and started getting hot and
Speaker 1: heavy in the main room.
Speaker 3: I love this. There were people all around us also
Speaker 3: having sex.
Speaker 1: It was a vibe. I asked my husband to go
Speaker 1: and get some lube, which was conveniently in the same
Speaker 1: room I guess it was the main room. He brought
Speaker 1: it over to me, squirted two pumps into my hand,
Speaker 1: which I directly placed onto my vagina, only to realize
Speaker 1: that this was in fact not lube, but it was
Speaker 1: hand sanitizer. The pain and the burning in the middle
Speaker 1: of his sex room. We both ran to the bathroom,
Speaker 1: where I attempted to wipe it off with paper and water.
Speaker 3: Sex was over.
Speaker 2: It really does scream You've not done this before, doesn't it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, tell me you've never been to a sex club
Speaker 3: without telling me you've never been to a sex club anyways.
Speaker 2: Look, guys, if you've got an accident, un filtered slide
Speaker 2: in suckond sweets for the week, Brittany, what is your suck?
Speaker 1: My suck this week is if you guys follow me
Speaker 1: on Instagram you would have seen. But Delilah, love of
Speaker 1: my life, the best dog in the whole universe. She
Speaker 1: was unwell this weekend, like really unwell, to the point
Speaker 1: that I took her to the vet, which I never do,
Speaker 1: like usually if a dog is sick, Like if a
Speaker 1: dog does one vomit, it's not the end of the world.
Speaker 3: You're like, oh, I must have an upset tummy.
Speaker 1: Whatever. Anyway, she vomited so much over a fifteen hour period,
Speaker 1: like probably five big vomits and yeah, and she was
Speaker 1: like really moping around. I was like, something's not right.
Speaker 3: So I took it to the bet just to check
Speaker 3: her out and make sure.
Speaker 1: Anyway, cost me a bomb, which is fine because that's
Speaker 1: what to do it, but that's what they do, right.
Speaker 1: They checked her, They did it, but she did not
Speaker 1: like that. Put the temperare in a button man. She
Speaker 1: did not like. I was.
Speaker 3: I felt horrible. I was trying to pin it down
Speaker 3: and she was trying to get away.
Speaker 1: Anyway. They gave anti nouseer injections and all this stuff,
Speaker 1: but it was about four four fifty, which is nothing
Speaker 1: for her health. Anyway. The second we walked out the door,
Speaker 1: the second we walked out the door of the event.
Speaker 3: It was like it was New Year's Eve. She was like, whoa.
Speaker 2: She was absolutely fine, not one other bit of sickness.
Speaker 2: She probably needed the anti nausea injections though, but it wouldn't have.
Speaker 1: Kicked in yet.
Speaker 3: They literally gave it to her. She walked out the door,
Speaker 3: and I was.
Speaker 1: Like, what what's happening? I was like, why are you?
Speaker 3: Why are you fine?
Speaker 1: Now? After Mum's just paid?
Speaker 3: Just needed something stuck around, she just needed something. Well,
Speaker 3: she's only human.
Speaker 1: She's not human.
Speaker 3: She's a dog, all right, And what is your sweet?
Speaker 3: My sweet for the weekend is?
Speaker 1: I had one of the best meals of my life
Speaker 1: at this new restaurant that I went to with some friends.
Speaker 1: The meal in question was a mushroom dish. Literally, it
Speaker 1: was a vegetable mushroom is not my I wouldn't have
Speaker 1: ordered it, but it was a share plate. It was
Speaker 1: the best thing I have ever eaten. Again. I don't
Speaker 1: know if this goes back to post jungle where I'm
Speaker 1: like appreciating food.
Speaker 3: Like the taste buds are all highened now. I don't
Speaker 3: know what it is, but it was the most I
Speaker 3: was like, how is a mushroom dish the most that's
Speaker 3: hats off to the chef.
Speaker 1: Right. It's a new Mary Veil if anyone wants to know.
Speaker 1: It's a Merry Vale restaurant in Sydney that's just opened
Speaker 1: up called good Luck in credible of it. I had
Speaker 1: not heard of it either until it was booked. But anyway,
Speaker 1: that was my recommendation. So my suck for the week
Speaker 1: is actually also very animal and dog related. So Buster
Speaker 1: had this little cyst on his back. It's been so
Speaker 1: it's been there for like a month. Anyway, took him
Speaker 1: to a month ago. They were like, m fine, it'll
Speaker 1: probably just go away.
Speaker 2: And then it was getting progressively worse but quite fast,
Speaker 2: and we took him back and he needed to have
Speaker 2: it operated on. And I'm talking like a little cys
Speaker 2: like I'm talking like think like a fingernail, like a
Speaker 2: little pinky fingernail.
Speaker 1: Like those little lumps you can sometimes feel under dog skin. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it was.
Speaker 2: It was obvious though, like you could see it. It
Speaker 2: was coming up to the surface of the skin, so
Speaker 2: it looked like a big pimple. But it was like
Speaker 2: like the size of like a little fingernail. Anyway, we
Speaker 2: took him in and we left him there in the
Speaker 2: morning and they were like, yeah, he'll probably come out
Speaker 2: with like a four centimeter cut because we have to
Speaker 2: cut extract it. And I missed because we were at
Speaker 2: work and I missed the phone call from the vet.
Speaker 2: They obviously went in to extract it and realized it
Speaker 2: was bigger than what they thought it was going to be,
Speaker 2: and when I went to go and pick him up,
Speaker 2: they were like, look, we're just warning you. The cut
Speaker 2: is a lot bigger than what we expected that it
Speaker 2: was going to be. He came out and I burst
Speaker 2: out crying. He had like a twenty five centimeter cut,
Speaker 2: which I mean, he.
Speaker 1: Already looks like he's beating the walls. Poor guy's got
Speaker 1: three legs.
Speaker 2: And then he came out with this massive cut on
Speaker 2: the other side of his shoulder, and basically it was like,
Speaker 2: this is not cancer, as they went and tested and
Speaker 2: everything else, but it was this big like growth that
Speaker 2: had happened, and all the growth was underneath the skin,
Speaker 2: so there was a little tiny bit on top of
Speaker 2: a Yeah, so they've taken it all out.
Speaker 3: So like he's doing heaps well. He's doing heaps well.
Speaker 1: He's doing really.
Speaker 2: Well, but he's been super MOPy this week as well,
Speaker 2: because obviously it's painful. It's really tricky because because Buster
Speaker 2: only has three legs, they won't put a cone on
Speaker 2: him because it really impedes their mobility, makes them fall
Speaker 2: over and stuff and their balance. And so now it's
Speaker 2: this struggling act because he keeps trying to scratch it
Speaker 2: and so he's like really doing damage to his skin.
Speaker 2: It's just it sucks. It's so it's so sad having
Speaker 2: an animal that you can tell is like uncomfortable and
Speaker 2: in pain. But it was good news. They got it
Speaker 2: out and we're are like five days out from the
Speaker 2: operation now, so he's getting better. A little baby sweet
Speaker 2: and my sweet for the week is one of those
Speaker 2: saraendipitous unplanned afternoons that just turn into like such a
Speaker 2: fun and beautiful evenings, spicy margarina evening. Yeah, so on Saturday,
Speaker 2: we have we have some good friends. You guys might
Speaker 2: remember from million years ago how I talked about like
Speaker 2: the friends that we made from the park and how
Speaker 2: I was like, when you're an adult, it's so hard
Speaker 2: to make new friends are park friends, and then Matt
Speaker 2: stalk them on LinkedIn and we became friends with his family.
Speaker 1: So weird.
Speaker 3: Okay, it's so weird.
Speaker 1: We know, we know it's weird because normally if you
Speaker 1: meet someone at the park and then you go and
Speaker 1: stalk them on LinkedIn, it's an issue. It doesn't turn
Speaker 1: out well.
Speaker 2: But anyway, we found them on LinkedIn, we then became
Speaker 2: friends with them. They have kids the same age as
Speaker 2: our kids. We now had like a little posse of
Speaker 2: random friends. So like two of their friends who like
Speaker 2: mutually knew Matt from Brisbane. It turned out that we
Speaker 2: had some mutual friends. The six of us now hang
Speaker 2: out with our kids because we've all got kids the
Speaker 2: same age. And we went over to the house on
Speaker 2: Saturday and it was meant to just be like a
Speaker 2: little afternoon have a wine drive home. We are nitty
Speaker 2: fucking lidty and blitzed on Margarita's ordered pizzas.
Speaker 1: It was like eight o'clock. The kids are like mom moa.
Speaker 3: We got blitzed. It was huge eight pm. We were
Speaker 3: selling pizza.
Speaker 2: You know, it's a bit that eight pm home time
Speaker 2: when you've got a three year old, that is like insanity.
Speaker 2: So anyway, we had a really nice night just It
Speaker 2: was one of those evenings where it was completely unplanned.
Speaker 2: We thought it was going to be a Helen Earth days.
Speaker 2: I'd been raining kids inside, but it actually was just great.
Speaker 2: And it's so nice when you're an adult and you're like, oh,
Speaker 2: I found a little We've got a little group of
Speaker 2: friends now whose kids are the same age, and like
Speaker 2: we all like the same things, and.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was it was really nice. Oh I love
Speaker 1: that I haven't really made adult friends. I mean, I
Speaker 1: made adult friends in the jungle, but you guys are
Speaker 1: the only adult friends I've made.
Speaker 3: I know, well, apart from them.
Speaker 1: Tisha, why are you rolling your eyes? No one makes
Speaker 1: adult friends like Keisha makes adult friends.
Speaker 3: I've never experienced it. Keisha is a friend queen.
Speaker 1: She'll go for a walk to come back, she goes, oh,
Speaker 1: I met some people to name's going to go on
Speaker 1: a holiday with them.
Speaker 2: This is a testament of like, not it's just how
Speaker 2: friendly you are, Kisha, but also how do you have
Speaker 2: time for all the friends.
Speaker 5: I'm realizing that the key to my success is to
Speaker 5: do group hangouts, because then it's like it ticks off
Speaker 5: the box of catching up with everyone.
Speaker 1: But you don't have to do like individual things.
Speaker 5: I think as I'm getting older, I'm becoming more introverted,
Speaker 5: maybe since it's because I'm medicated.
Speaker 1: But how does that happen? Though?
Speaker 3: When all your friends are from like different groups.
Speaker 1: I think it's more.
Speaker 5: So that if I find someone that like I have
Speaker 5: a common interest with, I know that my existing group
Speaker 5: of friends are going to have things in common with
Speaker 5: them too. And also, I've moved to so many different
Speaker 5: cities that I've been the friend who hasn't got any
Speaker 5: friends in that.
Speaker 1: Place a lot. So I really like I like to
Speaker 1: be now.
Speaker 5: That kind of connection point for other people, because you know,
Speaker 5: when you move around and you've got to re establish
Speaker 5: yourself and you don't know anyone, and it's really fucking
Speaker 5: hard as an ad to make friends and you don't
Speaker 5: have those people. And often because I was single when
Speaker 5: I moved to those places, I was not in relationships
Speaker 5: for almost all of them.
Speaker 1: I think I had to kind of start from zeros.
Speaker 2: And it's also so hard because most people who have
Speaker 2: been in a place for a really long time, like
Speaker 2: you and I, brew like we've got our group of friends,
Speaker 2: you know, and that's what people are so close to
Speaker 2: making new friends, which is what makes it so hard
Speaker 2: for other people to kind of be like, hey, can
Speaker 2: we be mates.
Speaker 1: I'll find you on LinkedIn. I do think I do
Speaker 1: think it is a personality type though, because I have
Speaker 1: been the person has moved to many cities around the
Speaker 1: world and knows no one. And I'm okay with it
Speaker 1: because my personality type doesn't need it. I only need
Speaker 1: one or two. Genuinely, I only need a few people
Speaker 1: to fill my cup. I'm that person that would have
Speaker 1: five really good friends and I don't need acquaintances. And
Speaker 1: I don't want people to take that the wrong way
Speaker 1: because it's not because I have a lot of acquaintances
Speaker 1: that I love, but I don't. Some people need to
Speaker 1: seek those friendships because it's what they need in their life,
Speaker 1: but I don't. I just don't find I need that.
Speaker 1: Call me crazy dog lady. I can go hang out
Speaker 1: with Delilah on a weekend, me and my dog walking around,
Speaker 1: going to a cafe, going to copies, and I'm fine
Speaker 1: with that. Like I'm genuinely I don't get to the
Speaker 1: end of the weekend. Sometimes I'm like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: I didn't speak to another human. That's probably bad. I should,
Speaker 1: but I don't think I need the same thing as
Speaker 1: other super social people need. I remember when you guys
Speaker 1: interviewed doctor Ali Walker.
Speaker 5: She wrote the book on what's it called click or Clash,
Speaker 5: and she wrote about frequency and intensity of connection.
Speaker 1: And I think I learned so much from that book.
Speaker 1: I absolutely love it. And I think I've got a
Speaker 1: higher frequency than what you do, yeah, one hundred percent.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Whereas laws, I think you have quite a high frequency.
Speaker 5: But you're constantly surrounded by people because you've got kids
Speaker 5: and you've got a husband, do you know what I mean. Like,
Speaker 5: if you're in Tony May, you're around people the whole day.
Speaker 5: If you're here, you're around us. Then you got to radio.
Speaker 5: Like you know, you're around people a lot, so you
Speaker 5: probably don't feel the need to have it in your
Speaker 5: actual like time off as much. Yeah, so I think
Speaker 5: that maybe you kind of fill that cup in other ways.
Speaker 5: But I do think if you're the type of person
Speaker 5: who has the ability and like I don't have kids,
Speaker 5: I work from.
Speaker 1: Home, I think five you know, I'm only in the
Speaker 1: office two days a week.
Speaker 5: So if you're a type of person who is like
Speaker 5: that and has friends and you know, people who have
Speaker 5: moved to where you are.
Speaker 3: Bring them into the fold.
Speaker 1: They probably need it.
Speaker 3: Laura's like, wow, guys, my sweet ones that I hung
Speaker 3: out with some people.
Speaker 2: Now we're unpacking the psychology my friendships.
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Speaker 2: You can jump in there and post your sex list. Also,
Speaker 2: we have a great interview coming out tomorrow with Lauren Wassa.
Speaker 2: Now Lauren, we interviewed her just before Britt went away
Speaker 2: into the Jungle, and it's an interview we've been sitting
Speaker 2: on for a little while, but it is fucking amazing.
Speaker 2: She suffered from toxic shock syndrome, which I know most
Speaker 2: women have heard of but probably have never spoken to
Speaker 2: or heard from somebody who's actually lived through it, and
Speaker 2: that's because the rate of survival is so low. It
Speaker 2: is this illness that we've all been told about that
Speaker 2: pertains to periods and the use of tampons, but most
Speaker 2: of us as women know so little about.
Speaker 1: And I realized I knew it a little about it.
Speaker 1: When Lauren was explaining some of the misconceptions around toxic
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm guilty of that misconception.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and I think it's truly an episode that every
Speaker 2: single woman should be listening to. If you get a period,
Speaker 2: you should absolutely be listening to this episode tomorrow.
Speaker 5: I don't even think it's just misconceptions. I actually think
Speaker 5: that we've been educated with misinformation. I think we've all
Speaker 5: had this idea of eight hours. You can only have
Speaker 5: a tampon in for eight hours and after that you're
Speaker 5: at risk of toxic shock. That's not the case, and
Speaker 5: that was the thing that I was like, Oh shit,
Speaker 5: I didn't know that. You know, Lauren told her story
Speaker 5: and she went by the rules of what's on the.
Speaker 3: Back of the packet.
Speaker 5: So this episode really has changed my reach for feminine
Speaker 5: hygiene products, and I think I've been making some really
Speaker 5: big changes because of it.
Speaker 3: So I think everyone would be.
Speaker 5: Really really interested if you, like Laura said, if you mentionuate,
Speaker 5: or even if you have a daughter who is about
Speaker 5: to be in that phase of her life.
Speaker 1: I think it's really important And just a reminder, we
Speaker 1: have a YouTube channel now so you can actually watch
Speaker 1: these interviews, which is amazing. It was a long time coming,
Speaker 1: but it's again. Just go on to YouTube Life Punk
Speaker 1: Cup Podcast. We put the links in the show notes.
Speaker 1: But it's really cool and just gives it different Oh.
Speaker 1: I think it brings a different energy when you get
Speaker 1: to sit down and watch it as well, and like
Speaker 1: maybe you guys just want to see how crazy you are.
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