Speaker 1: Today's episode is another my favorite tip episode where I
Speaker 1: go back to interviews from the past and I dig
Speaker 1: out the thing that was my favorite tip, like the
Speaker 1: thing that I got out of the interview that really
Speaker 1: impacted or resonated with me. Today's extract is from my
Speaker 1: chat with Turia pit Ow. If you haven't come across
Speaker 1: Touria before, and you probably have if you live in Australia,
Speaker 1: Touria is someone that's had a very fascinating life. So
Speaker 1: in two thy and eleven she was caught in a
Speaker 1: grass fire while competing in a one hundred kilometer ultra
Speaker 1: marathon and suffered full thickness burns to sixty five percent
Speaker 1: of her body, but surviving that is actually the least
Speaker 1: of her achievements. As one of Australia's most admired and
Speaker 1: widely recognized people, Turia has gone on to become a
Speaker 1: best selling author, a two time iron Woman, and a humanitarian,
Speaker 1: raising well over a million dollars not for profit Intoplast.
Speaker 1: Through her online presence, books and online programs, Turia has
Speaker 1: inspired millions of people to live with more confidence, conquer
Speaker 1: their fears, and chase down their wildest dreams. At Turia's
Speaker 1: latest project is her book Happy, where she explores the
Speaker 1: question can you actually get happier? And in her book,
Speaker 1: Turia interviews high profile athletes, comedians, scientists, and world experts
Speaker 1: to explore how everything from money to our relationships has
Speaker 1: an impact on how happy we can be. And in
Speaker 1: this extract of my chat with Turia, we talk about
Speaker 1: her really simple but very impactful gratitude practice. And look,
Speaker 1: I mean, there are so many gratitude practices out there,
Speaker 1: but Touria's actually really resonated with me because it is
Speaker 1: so simple and easy to apply, but it has a
Speaker 1: really big impact. So on that note, let's head on
Speaker 1: over to Turia.
Speaker 2: When I suggest to people to start practicing gratitude, they
Speaker 2: kind of do like a bit of an eye roll
Speaker 2: and it's like, yeah, as if that's going to work
Speaker 2: or But for me, I found it to be like,
Speaker 2: out of everything I've learned over the past decade, I
Speaker 2: honestly think that just spending one minute every morning thinking
Speaker 2: about what you are genuinely grateful for is like the
Speaker 2: easiest and quickest way to like magically transform your day.
Speaker 2: And I know for me, whenever I practice gratitude, I
Speaker 2: start my day obviously feeling grateful, but it also helps
Speaker 2: me to be happier and it helps to for me
Speaker 2: to build a more resilient and a more positive mindset.
Speaker 2: So how I practice gratitude, Like I'm not you know,
Speaker 2: sitting around in a yoga pros, bathing in crystal light
Speaker 2: or anything. But I think of three things that I'm
Speaker 2: genuinely grateful for. So this morning, my partner's away at
Speaker 2: the moment, but this morning I came out and I
Speaker 2: saw that he'd done the dishes, so I was like,
Speaker 2: I was like, oh, that's really cool, like he you know,
Speaker 2: he tied it up the house before he left. And
Speaker 2: then I was playing with my two boys this morning,
Speaker 2: and I thought that was a really cool, like grateful moment,
Speaker 2: just marveling and playing together and you know, being really
Speaker 2: grateful that I was able to have kids and how
Speaker 2: special is it that I get to be a mum.
Speaker 2: And then I was also grateful to my brother because he
Speaker 2: organized a new surf forward for me. And yesterday when
Speaker 2: I went for a surf and it was like it
Speaker 2: was like I had it had a rocket stuck underneath it.
Speaker 2: It was that good. So so there's in like three
Speaker 2: little more simple things. It just helps you start your
Speaker 2: day in a really grateful, grateful way, And like I said,
Speaker 2: it helps you and you know, for me, really the
Speaker 2: only reason I do it is because I found it
Speaker 2: to work. For me. It's really help me to be
Speaker 2: more resilient and have more of a positive mindset. But
Speaker 2: that's not to say that, you know, having a positive
Speaker 2: mindset is always the be all and end all, because
Speaker 2: I think you know, some days we are happy and
Speaker 2: excited and motivated, and other days we might be stressed
Speaker 2: and anxious and feel like shit. And I think you know,
Speaker 2: all of those emotions are all are all really valid,
Speaker 2: and they're just emotions.
Speaker 1: And so what do you do, like when you wake
Speaker 1: up and you're just feeling a bit rubbish, Like what's
Speaker 1: your strategy? Like do you just kind of go with
Speaker 1: that and go, yep, today it's just not going to
Speaker 1: be the best day of my life. Or are there
Speaker 1: things that you deliberately do to kind of reverse your
Speaker 1: mood or change your mindset or something like that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like I think practicing gratitude is like such a
Speaker 2: quick way to reverse your mood or to you know,
Speaker 2: snap out of your mindset. And I know you know,
Speaker 2: when I wake up in the morning, I'm not really
Speaker 2: that perc I'm kind of annoyed. You know. My kids
Speaker 2: might have kept me up a little bit in the night,
Speaker 2: and I might be a bit tired in the morning,
Speaker 2: and so I'll, you know, I'll grumpily make my way
Speaker 2: over to the coffee machine. I'll make myself a coffee,
Speaker 2: I'll have a sip, and then I'll start thinking about
Speaker 2: what I'm grateful for. So that for me, that helps
Speaker 2: me to I guess short circuit feeling negative or feeling
Speaker 2: feeling crap. I also asked myself, like, what's one thing
Speaker 2: I could do today that's going to make today a
Speaker 2: good day? And whatever that one thing is, whether it's like,
Speaker 2: you know, going for a walk in the beach or
Speaker 2: calling a girlfriend or you know, making my kids their
Speaker 2: favorite muffins or whatever it is, I try and do
Speaker 2: it and that makes me, you know, throughout my day,
Speaker 2: I'm looking forward to that positive event. I'm anticipating it.
Speaker 2: So I think that helps as well. But you know,
Speaker 2: sometimes you can try all these things and you can
Speaker 2: try and get yourself out of it. You can put
Speaker 2: on pump up music, you can try and you know,
Speaker 2: do exercise and practice gratitude and reframe your mindset, and
Speaker 2: none of that will work. And I think in those moments,
Speaker 2: it's okay to just say, you know what, today's crap.
Speaker 2: That's fine, Hopefully tomorrow will be better. So yeah, I guess,
Speaker 2: I guess I hope that. I hope that answers your
Speaker 2: question for you. I think I think a lot of
Speaker 2: the time, like no one really likes feeling crap or
Speaker 2: sad or stressed or down because they're not super comfortable
Speaker 2: emotions to sit with. And so I guess it's it's
Speaker 2: really easy for us to say, oh my don't we
Speaker 2: don't want to feel like this. We want to get
Speaker 2: to the good stuff, where we feel happy and excited
Speaker 2: about our lives and full of zest and energy. But
Speaker 2: I think the more we can lean into how we're feeling,
Speaker 2: and the more we can just hate this word I'm
Speaker 2: going to use it, be authentic with how we're feeling,
Speaker 2: and lean into it and accept it and acknowledge it.
Speaker 2: Like the faster or the quicker, those feelings will dissipate.
Speaker 1: I think that's interesting, and it's also in some ways
Speaker 1: encouraging to hear from you who like you seem like
Speaker 1: this kind of eternally upbeat and positive and resilient person
Speaker 1: that you two have kind of crappy days. That probably
Speaker 1: sounds awful, but I find some comfort in the fact that.
Speaker 2: You are real.
Speaker 1: And I must say I love the question that you're
Speaker 1: asking around what's one thing that would make today great?
Speaker 1: Like it's such an instant way to go, okay, I'm
Speaker 1: actually in control of my day as opposed to just
Speaker 1: at the mercy of my mood and external events and
Speaker 1: things like that.
Speaker 2: Oh my god. It's like, again really simple thing. When
Speaker 2: you do it, you'll find that your day is a
Speaker 2: lot better and your day runs a lot through that.
Speaker 2: And I think, I really think, and I guess this
Speaker 2: is part of what I wrote in the book. It's like,
Speaker 2: if you can to make sure you are grateful for
Speaker 2: each day as you know, as trite as I may say,
Speaker 2: but grateful for each day looking forward to some positive
Speaker 2: event in your day. Doesn't have to be a massive
Speaker 2: event like you know, going to the South of France,
Speaker 2: Jay and Beyonce. It doesn't have to be a giant,
Speaker 2: cataclystic event, just something simple And for me, that seems
Speaker 2: like going for a run, having lunch, with my partner,
Speaker 2: playing with my kids. This afternoon, I'm going to run
Speaker 2: with my prem and pick up my son from preschool.
Speaker 2: I'm looking forward to that, And for me, that changed
Speaker 2: my approach, That changes my attitude to my entire day.
Speaker 2: But it's one more thing I do. I'm pretty purdenting
Speaker 2: about my morning routine, so just just bear with me.
Speaker 2: Meant that. But one thing I do in the morning
Speaker 2: is I don't look at my phone, because I think
Speaker 2: as soon as we pick up our phone, we're just
Speaker 2: sucked into this world of emails and messages and calendar
Speaker 2: in fights. And I find when I do that, all
Speaker 2: of a sudden, my focus is on what everyone else
Speaker 2: wants from me, wants from me from for the day,
Speaker 2: rather than me thinking about, well, it's my day, what
Speaker 2: do I want of it? And what am I going
Speaker 2: to prioritize out of it.
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