1 00:00:04,240 --> 00:00:09,440 Speaker 1: Today's episode is another my favorite tip episode where I 2 00:00:09,480 --> 00:00:13,920 Speaker 1: go back to interviews from the past and I dig 3 00:00:13,960 --> 00:00:17,520 Speaker 1: out the thing that was my favorite tip, like the 4 00:00:17,640 --> 00:00:21,280 Speaker 1: thing that I got out of the interview that really 5 00:00:22,120 --> 00:00:27,040 Speaker 1: impacted or resonated with me. Today's extract is from my 6 00:00:27,200 --> 00:00:30,720 Speaker 1: chat with Turia pit Ow. If you haven't come across 7 00:00:30,800 --> 00:00:35,159 Speaker 1: Touria before, and you probably have if you live in Australia, 8 00:00:35,400 --> 00:00:40,839 Speaker 1: Touria is someone that's had a very fascinating life. So 9 00:00:41,600 --> 00:00:44,680 Speaker 1: in two thy and eleven she was caught in a 10 00:00:44,760 --> 00:00:48,440 Speaker 1: grass fire while competing in a one hundred kilometer ultra 11 00:00:48,560 --> 00:00:52,280 Speaker 1: marathon and suffered full thickness burns to sixty five percent 12 00:00:52,400 --> 00:00:56,080 Speaker 1: of her body, but surviving that is actually the least 13 00:00:56,160 --> 00:00:59,760 Speaker 1: of her achievements. As one of Australia's most admired and 14 00:00:59,840 --> 00:01:02,960 Speaker 1: widely recognized people, Turia has gone on to become a 15 00:01:02,960 --> 00:01:07,320 Speaker 1: best selling author, a two time iron Woman, and a humanitarian, 16 00:01:07,400 --> 00:01:11,839 Speaker 1: raising well over a million dollars not for profit Intoplast. 17 00:01:12,640 --> 00:01:17,160 Speaker 1: Through her online presence, books and online programs, Turia has 18 00:01:17,200 --> 00:01:20,240 Speaker 1: inspired millions of people to live with more confidence, conquer 19 00:01:20,280 --> 00:01:23,680 Speaker 1: their fears, and chase down their wildest dreams. At Turia's 20 00:01:23,720 --> 00:01:26,200 Speaker 1: latest project is her book Happy, where she explores the 21 00:01:26,280 --> 00:01:29,960 Speaker 1: question can you actually get happier? And in her book, 22 00:01:30,000 --> 00:01:34,399 Speaker 1: Turia interviews high profile athletes, comedians, scientists, and world experts 23 00:01:34,440 --> 00:01:38,000 Speaker 1: to explore how everything from money to our relationships has 24 00:01:38,040 --> 00:01:41,360 Speaker 1: an impact on how happy we can be. And in 25 00:01:41,440 --> 00:01:45,959 Speaker 1: this extract of my chat with Turia, we talk about 26 00:01:46,319 --> 00:01:51,320 Speaker 1: her really simple but very impactful gratitude practice. And look, 27 00:01:51,360 --> 00:01:53,640 Speaker 1: I mean, there are so many gratitude practices out there, 28 00:01:53,880 --> 00:01:57,680 Speaker 1: but Touria's actually really resonated with me because it is 29 00:01:57,800 --> 00:02:00,800 Speaker 1: so simple and easy to apply, but it has a 30 00:02:00,880 --> 00:02:04,560 Speaker 1: really big impact. So on that note, let's head on 31 00:02:04,640 --> 00:02:05,360 Speaker 1: over to Turia. 32 00:02:06,360 --> 00:02:11,000 Speaker 2: When I suggest to people to start practicing gratitude, they 33 00:02:11,080 --> 00:02:12,880 Speaker 2: kind of do like a bit of an eye roll 34 00:02:13,000 --> 00:02:14,920 Speaker 2: and it's like, yeah, as if that's going to work 35 00:02:15,080 --> 00:02:19,000 Speaker 2: or But for me, I found it to be like, 36 00:02:20,320 --> 00:02:23,680 Speaker 2: out of everything I've learned over the past decade, I 37 00:02:23,720 --> 00:02:27,799 Speaker 2: honestly think that just spending one minute every morning thinking 38 00:02:27,840 --> 00:02:31,760 Speaker 2: about what you are genuinely grateful for is like the 39 00:02:31,840 --> 00:02:37,000 Speaker 2: easiest and quickest way to like magically transform your day. 40 00:02:37,360 --> 00:02:39,640 Speaker 2: And I know for me, whenever I practice gratitude, I 41 00:02:39,720 --> 00:02:43,880 Speaker 2: start my day obviously feeling grateful, but it also helps 42 00:02:43,880 --> 00:02:45,760 Speaker 2: me to be happier and it helps to for me 43 00:02:45,880 --> 00:02:49,760 Speaker 2: to build a more resilient and a more positive mindset. 44 00:02:50,000 --> 00:02:53,240 Speaker 2: So how I practice gratitude, Like I'm not you know, 45 00:02:54,160 --> 00:02:58,000 Speaker 2: sitting around in a yoga pros, bathing in crystal light 46 00:02:58,120 --> 00:03:01,280 Speaker 2: or anything. But I think of three things that I'm 47 00:03:01,320 --> 00:03:06,079 Speaker 2: genuinely grateful for. So this morning, my partner's away at 48 00:03:06,120 --> 00:03:08,480 Speaker 2: the moment, but this morning I came out and I 49 00:03:08,480 --> 00:03:10,720 Speaker 2: saw that he'd done the dishes, so I was like, 50 00:03:10,760 --> 00:03:12,960 Speaker 2: I was like, oh, that's really cool, like he you know, 51 00:03:13,280 --> 00:03:15,680 Speaker 2: he tied it up the house before he left. And 52 00:03:15,720 --> 00:03:19,240 Speaker 2: then I was playing with my two boys this morning, 53 00:03:19,680 --> 00:03:22,240 Speaker 2: and I thought that was a really cool, like grateful moment, 54 00:03:23,600 --> 00:03:27,920 Speaker 2: just marveling and playing together and you know, being really 55 00:03:27,919 --> 00:03:30,799 Speaker 2: grateful that I was able to have kids and how 56 00:03:30,840 --> 00:03:32,400 Speaker 2: special is it that I get to be a mum. 57 00:03:32,720 --> 00:03:34,880 Speaker 2: And then I was also grateful to my brother because he 58 00:03:35,000 --> 00:03:37,680 Speaker 2: organized a new surf forward for me. And yesterday when 59 00:03:37,680 --> 00:03:40,040 Speaker 2: I went for a surf and it was like it 60 00:03:40,120 --> 00:03:42,120 Speaker 2: was like I had it had a rocket stuck underneath it. 61 00:03:42,200 --> 00:03:46,000 Speaker 2: It was that good. So so there's in like three 62 00:03:46,040 --> 00:03:49,320 Speaker 2: little more simple things. It just helps you start your 63 00:03:49,400 --> 00:03:53,320 Speaker 2: day in a really grateful, grateful way, And like I said, 64 00:03:53,480 --> 00:03:56,280 Speaker 2: it helps you and you know, for me, really the 65 00:03:56,320 --> 00:03:58,480 Speaker 2: only reason I do it is because I found it 66 00:03:58,600 --> 00:04:00,840 Speaker 2: to work. For me. It's really help me to be 67 00:04:00,920 --> 00:04:04,960 Speaker 2: more resilient and have more of a positive mindset. But 68 00:04:05,000 --> 00:04:07,440 Speaker 2: that's not to say that, you know, having a positive 69 00:04:07,480 --> 00:04:11,560 Speaker 2: mindset is always the be all and end all, because 70 00:04:11,560 --> 00:04:14,120 Speaker 2: I think you know, some days we are happy and 71 00:04:14,160 --> 00:04:17,080 Speaker 2: excited and motivated, and other days we might be stressed 72 00:04:17,080 --> 00:04:19,800 Speaker 2: and anxious and feel like shit. And I think you know, 73 00:04:19,920 --> 00:04:22,680 Speaker 2: all of those emotions are all are all really valid, 74 00:04:23,040 --> 00:04:24,200 Speaker 2: and they're just emotions. 75 00:04:24,960 --> 00:04:28,000 Speaker 1: And so what do you do, like when you wake 76 00:04:28,120 --> 00:04:32,560 Speaker 1: up and you're just feeling a bit rubbish, Like what's 77 00:04:32,640 --> 00:04:35,160 Speaker 1: your strategy? Like do you just kind of go with 78 00:04:35,200 --> 00:04:38,480 Speaker 1: that and go, yep, today it's just not going to 79 00:04:38,520 --> 00:04:40,400 Speaker 1: be the best day of my life. Or are there 80 00:04:40,440 --> 00:04:44,480 Speaker 1: things that you deliberately do to kind of reverse your 81 00:04:44,520 --> 00:04:46,720 Speaker 1: mood or change your mindset or something like that. 82 00:04:46,880 --> 00:04:49,599 Speaker 2: Yeah, Like I think practicing gratitude is like such a 83 00:04:49,640 --> 00:04:53,560 Speaker 2: quick way to reverse your mood or to you know, 84 00:04:53,600 --> 00:04:57,560 Speaker 2: snap out of your mindset. And I know you know, 85 00:04:57,640 --> 00:04:59,400 Speaker 2: when I wake up in the morning, I'm not really 86 00:04:59,440 --> 00:05:04,479 Speaker 2: that perc I'm kind of annoyed. You know. My kids 87 00:05:04,560 --> 00:05:06,360 Speaker 2: might have kept me up a little bit in the night, 88 00:05:07,000 --> 00:05:09,080 Speaker 2: and I might be a bit tired in the morning, 89 00:05:10,200 --> 00:05:13,240 Speaker 2: and so I'll, you know, I'll grumpily make my way 90 00:05:13,279 --> 00:05:15,360 Speaker 2: over to the coffee machine. I'll make myself a coffee, 91 00:05:15,440 --> 00:05:17,320 Speaker 2: I'll have a sip, and then I'll start thinking about 92 00:05:17,360 --> 00:05:19,960 Speaker 2: what I'm grateful for. So that for me, that helps 93 00:05:20,040 --> 00:05:24,400 Speaker 2: me to I guess short circuit feeling negative or feeling 94 00:05:25,279 --> 00:05:28,400 Speaker 2: feeling crap. I also asked myself, like, what's one thing 95 00:05:28,480 --> 00:05:31,240 Speaker 2: I could do today that's going to make today a 96 00:05:31,279 --> 00:05:34,880 Speaker 2: good day? And whatever that one thing is, whether it's like, 97 00:05:35,080 --> 00:05:36,800 Speaker 2: you know, going for a walk in the beach or 98 00:05:37,320 --> 00:05:40,000 Speaker 2: calling a girlfriend or you know, making my kids their 99 00:05:40,320 --> 00:05:43,120 Speaker 2: favorite muffins or whatever it is, I try and do 100 00:05:43,240 --> 00:05:45,680 Speaker 2: it and that makes me, you know, throughout my day, 101 00:05:45,680 --> 00:05:50,400 Speaker 2: I'm looking forward to that positive event. I'm anticipating it. 102 00:05:50,440 --> 00:05:53,000 Speaker 2: So I think that helps as well. But you know, 103 00:05:53,320 --> 00:05:55,839 Speaker 2: sometimes you can try all these things and you can 104 00:05:56,240 --> 00:05:57,800 Speaker 2: try and get yourself out of it. You can put 105 00:05:57,800 --> 00:06:00,320 Speaker 2: on pump up music, you can try and you know, 106 00:06:00,440 --> 00:06:04,680 Speaker 2: do exercise and practice gratitude and reframe your mindset, and 107 00:06:04,960 --> 00:06:08,480 Speaker 2: none of that will work. And I think in those moments, 108 00:06:08,560 --> 00:06:11,600 Speaker 2: it's okay to just say, you know what, today's crap. 109 00:06:11,920 --> 00:06:16,160 Speaker 2: That's fine, Hopefully tomorrow will be better. So yeah, I guess, 110 00:06:16,360 --> 00:06:18,280 Speaker 2: I guess I hope that. I hope that answers your 111 00:06:18,320 --> 00:06:20,359 Speaker 2: question for you. I think I think a lot of 112 00:06:20,360 --> 00:06:23,760 Speaker 2: the time, like no one really likes feeling crap or 113 00:06:23,800 --> 00:06:27,000 Speaker 2: sad or stressed or down because they're not super comfortable 114 00:06:27,040 --> 00:06:30,240 Speaker 2: emotions to sit with. And so I guess it's it's 115 00:06:30,240 --> 00:06:32,240 Speaker 2: really easy for us to say, oh my don't we 116 00:06:32,279 --> 00:06:33,520 Speaker 2: don't want to feel like this. We want to get 117 00:06:33,520 --> 00:06:36,440 Speaker 2: to the good stuff, where we feel happy and excited 118 00:06:36,440 --> 00:06:40,240 Speaker 2: about our lives and full of zest and energy. But 119 00:06:40,320 --> 00:06:43,440 Speaker 2: I think the more we can lean into how we're feeling, 120 00:06:43,440 --> 00:06:46,760 Speaker 2: and the more we can just hate this word I'm 121 00:06:46,760 --> 00:06:49,640 Speaker 2: going to use it, be authentic with how we're feeling, 122 00:06:49,800 --> 00:06:52,400 Speaker 2: and lean into it and accept it and acknowledge it. 123 00:06:53,160 --> 00:06:55,839 Speaker 2: Like the faster or the quicker, those feelings will dissipate. 124 00:06:56,680 --> 00:06:59,360 Speaker 1: I think that's interesting, and it's also in some ways 125 00:07:00,080 --> 00:07:03,440 Speaker 1: encouraging to hear from you who like you seem like 126 00:07:03,560 --> 00:07:07,200 Speaker 1: this kind of eternally upbeat and positive and resilient person 127 00:07:07,360 --> 00:07:10,720 Speaker 1: that you two have kind of crappy days. That probably 128 00:07:10,760 --> 00:07:13,800 Speaker 1: sounds awful, but I find some comfort in the fact that. 129 00:07:13,760 --> 00:07:14,520 Speaker 2: You are real. 130 00:07:15,040 --> 00:07:17,400 Speaker 1: And I must say I love the question that you're 131 00:07:17,440 --> 00:07:20,880 Speaker 1: asking around what's one thing that would make today great? 132 00:07:21,040 --> 00:07:23,760 Speaker 1: Like it's such an instant way to go, okay, I'm 133 00:07:23,760 --> 00:07:26,520 Speaker 1: actually in control of my day as opposed to just 134 00:07:26,600 --> 00:07:28,960 Speaker 1: at the mercy of my mood and external events and 135 00:07:29,000 --> 00:07:29,600 Speaker 1: things like that. 136 00:07:29,960 --> 00:07:33,680 Speaker 2: Oh my god. It's like, again really simple thing. When 137 00:07:33,720 --> 00:07:36,240 Speaker 2: you do it, you'll find that your day is a 138 00:07:36,320 --> 00:07:38,680 Speaker 2: lot better and your day runs a lot through that. 139 00:07:38,760 --> 00:07:41,080 Speaker 2: And I think, I really think, and I guess this 140 00:07:41,200 --> 00:07:43,320 Speaker 2: is part of what I wrote in the book. It's like, 141 00:07:44,240 --> 00:07:47,160 Speaker 2: if you can to make sure you are grateful for 142 00:07:47,280 --> 00:07:51,320 Speaker 2: each day as you know, as trite as I may say, 143 00:07:51,400 --> 00:07:54,840 Speaker 2: but grateful for each day looking forward to some positive 144 00:07:54,840 --> 00:07:56,960 Speaker 2: event in your day. Doesn't have to be a massive 145 00:07:57,640 --> 00:07:59,840 Speaker 2: event like you know, going to the South of France, 146 00:08:00,080 --> 00:08:02,760 Speaker 2: Jay and Beyonce. It doesn't have to be a giant, 147 00:08:02,800 --> 00:08:06,280 Speaker 2: cataclystic event, just something simple And for me, that seems 148 00:08:06,360 --> 00:08:10,480 Speaker 2: like going for a run, having lunch, with my partner, 149 00:08:10,920 --> 00:08:14,880 Speaker 2: playing with my kids. This afternoon, I'm going to run 150 00:08:14,920 --> 00:08:16,960 Speaker 2: with my prem and pick up my son from preschool. 151 00:08:17,360 --> 00:08:21,160 Speaker 2: I'm looking forward to that, And for me, that changed 152 00:08:21,200 --> 00:08:24,560 Speaker 2: my approach, That changes my attitude to my entire day. 153 00:08:24,880 --> 00:08:28,360 Speaker 2: But it's one more thing I do. I'm pretty purdenting 154 00:08:28,400 --> 00:08:31,480 Speaker 2: about my morning routine, so just just bear with me. 155 00:08:31,480 --> 00:08:34,000 Speaker 2: Meant that. But one thing I do in the morning 156 00:08:34,120 --> 00:08:36,360 Speaker 2: is I don't look at my phone, because I think 157 00:08:36,360 --> 00:08:37,920 Speaker 2: as soon as we pick up our phone, we're just 158 00:08:37,920 --> 00:08:42,320 Speaker 2: sucked into this world of emails and messages and calendar 159 00:08:42,360 --> 00:08:45,040 Speaker 2: in fights. And I find when I do that, all 160 00:08:45,040 --> 00:08:48,160 Speaker 2: of a sudden, my focus is on what everyone else 161 00:08:48,240 --> 00:08:51,480 Speaker 2: wants from me, wants from me from for the day, 162 00:08:52,160 --> 00:08:55,520 Speaker 2: rather than me thinking about, well, it's my day, what 163 00:08:55,559 --> 00:08:57,200 Speaker 2: do I want of it? And what am I going 164 00:08:57,240 --> 00:08:58,400 Speaker 2: to prioritize out of it. 165 00:08:59,000 --> 00:09:02,680 Speaker 1: That is it for today's show. 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