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Speaker 1: The Will and Woody podcast that bite sized. I'm going

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Speaker 1: to do my best to throw to an opener, which

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Speaker 1: I've never done before. Next next on the show, we're

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Speaker 1: doing this, Yeah.

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Speaker 2: The asole.

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Speaker 3: I'll tell you my story and you decide.

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Speaker 1: I love that. I believe there is a blooper that

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Speaker 1: you would like to play because it's a bit funny.

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Speaker 1: I love a blooper. Yes' Anal who works on the

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Speaker 1: show opener with me. My name's Tom. I'm pushing the

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Speaker 1: buttons and this is what Anally tried to do.

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Speaker 2: Hm the asshold.

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Speaker 1: I'll tell you mysteria and you decide. Oh she's so sweet,

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Speaker 1: Oh darling, like you were ten seconds ahead of we

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Speaker 1: need it to be bad. Gosh, I'm glad we did that. Well. Okay,

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Speaker 1: So playing that. The premise of am I the A

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Speaker 1: Hole is people are on Reddit, which is like an

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Speaker 1: Internet forum. Yes, you've done something and people are mad

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Speaker 1: at you, and you think you know what. I don't

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Speaker 1: think I did all this hate. I'll go to the

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Speaker 1: Internet and tell the story and see what they decided.

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Speaker 2: Smart.

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Speaker 1: Now the headline of this one off now lost on

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Speaker 1: my phone, so I'll just rephrase it. Am I the

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Speaker 1: a hole for yelling at my friend after she revealed

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Speaker 1: the paternity of my son to his biological father and

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Speaker 1: the faunily. I'll give you the backstory because it sounds complicated.

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Speaker 1: This girl is with a guy, she gets pregnant. He's

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Speaker 1: not interested in being a father. She wants to be

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Speaker 1: a mother. So they mutually decide I'm gonna have the baby.

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Speaker 1: You don't need to be part of it. You can

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Speaker 1: give me some cash, but you're not required to be

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Speaker 1: in the child's life. It'll be like it never happened.

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Speaker 1: We're both out as we move on. That's that was

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Speaker 1: their arrangement. Only her family direct family knew. She had

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Speaker 1: a friend who knew the ex pretty well and knew her.

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Speaker 1: As baby starts to grow up, and the friends saying

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Speaker 1: to her, let's call him Tom. Is Tom the father

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Speaker 1: because the baby looks like Tom, And she's like, I

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Speaker 1: don't want to talk about it. It's not your business.

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Speaker 1: It's not your business. And it got to the point

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Speaker 1: where she just had to say, yes, Tom is the

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Speaker 1: but it is a secret. No one needs to know.

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Speaker 1: Please keep it to yourself. Fair enough. The friend, thinking

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Speaker 1: she's doing some sort of a service to Tom's family,

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Speaker 1: then goes and tells Tom's family.

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Speaker 3: Tom so not Tom Tom's because Tom knows what Tom.

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Speaker 3: Tom knows he's done the arrangement. But then she goes

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Speaker 3: and tells.

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Speaker 1: His family because she's like, they should know that they've

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Speaker 1: got this child, grandchild.

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Speaker 3: No, that's on Tom, Tom tell his family.

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Speaker 1: That's fine. So then the mother yells at the friend, screams,

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Speaker 1: how could you do this? You ruined my life? And

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Speaker 1: all of her friends are siding with the person that

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Speaker 1: went and told the family because they're like, oh, she

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Speaker 1: really She's like, come on, this girl has betrayed my trust.

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Speaker 1: I'm not the ahole, she's the a whole.

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Speaker 3: How did the can I if you know, how did

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Speaker 3: the family react to knowing that they've got a grandson?

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Speaker 1: Effectively? Fair enough in the story, Sorry bad question, but

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Speaker 1: what do you think is she the a hole for

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Speaker 1: yelling at her friend for revealing the paternity, because think

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Speaker 1: about it, is if your Tom's dad, you find out

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Speaker 1: you've got a grandson that you don't know about and

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Speaker 1: you were never going to find out about, and you

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Speaker 1: what if they had the grandchildren?

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Speaker 3: No, you're right, I'd be angry that I didn't know,

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Speaker 3: but I'm angry at my son. Well, no, yeah, I'm

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Speaker 3: angry at my son for not telling me. Do you

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Speaker 3: know what I mean? It's not the place of this

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Speaker 3: girl's friend to go and tell me that, because I'd

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Speaker 3: situation where it's like, I don't know why my son

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Speaker 3: didn't tell me, but now I know there's this grandson.

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Speaker 3: I'd probably want to meet this grandson. And then that's

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Speaker 3: not fair on the woman because hey, you guys have

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Speaker 1: So Nancy shouldn't have gotten involved.

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Speaker 3: Friend? Is the a whole.

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Speaker 1: Friend who revealed the paternity.

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Speaker 3: One hundred for mine? One hundred percent, one.

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Speaker 1: Hundred Yeah, I think, yeah, I do you agree with you?

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Speaker 3: I'd love to hear anyone else at thirty one or

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Speaker 3: is the one who yelled at the friend.

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Speaker 1: Okay, we've made this so cool.

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Speaker 3: There's so many parts. Yeah, but there's basic question that's

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Speaker 3: an asshole for telling the guy's family? Yeah, that's as

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Speaker 1: Would you have told a baby, told the family you've

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Speaker 1: got a grandson that you don't know about.

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Speaker 3: Maybe you've done this, by the way, maybe you exerience

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Speaker 3: this in your life. That'd be tasty.

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Speaker 1: And I just want to make it clear to my family.

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Speaker 3: I'm not pregnant, but me and my boyfriend had been

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Speaker 3: trying for years.

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Speaker 1: Are you doing this, the asshole. I'll tell you my

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Speaker 1: story and you decide and exactly what we're doing. I

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Speaker 1: have plunged into the depths of Reddit to find a

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Speaker 1: Jessy a whole. I'll give you a quick recap. A

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Speaker 1: woman had a partner with her ex.

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Speaker 3: The baby a baby. A woman had a baby with

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Speaker 3: it start again.

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Speaker 2: I will edit it.

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Speaker 1: A woman had a baby with her ex. He wasn't

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Speaker 1: interested in being a dad, she wanted to be a mom,

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Speaker 1: so they disagreed, Well, you have the baby, I won't

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Speaker 1: be involved. Happy families.

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Speaker 2: Yes.

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Speaker 1: A friend then found out that he was the father,

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Speaker 1: confronted the mother and said, is Tom the father of

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Speaker 1: your child? And she said yes, but don't tell anyone.

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Speaker 1: It's a secret. That friend went and told the whole

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Speaker 1: family of the biological father. Told Tom's whole family.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and right, So we both agree, Right, she's an

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Speaker 3: ale for telling that absolutely not her place. That's that's

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Speaker 3: on Tom.

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Speaker 1: If he wants to tell his family, he can tell

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Speaker 1: his family that. That is his decision.

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Speaker 3: That's what we do. You think, though, jess On thirteen

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Speaker 3: one oh sixty five, is the friend in ahole for

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Speaker 3: telling the family, Yes, she is. Yeah, yeah, okay, so

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Speaker 3: I'm hearing here. You're in a similar situation you have been.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, my partner of fifteen years he when he was younger,

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Speaker 2: keep the child and he didn't want it, obviously being

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Speaker 2: a child himself. Yeah, and he told me about it,

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Speaker 2: and he's so he's got a son out there somewhere.

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Speaker 2: But I would never tell his family, and nobody else knows.

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Speaker 2: It's none of their business.

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Speaker 3: So his family, yeah, his family still doesn't know.

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Speaker 2: Still doesn't know to this day.

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Speaker 3: How many people know. So you know, he.

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Speaker 2: Knows, the mum, he knows, and the woman and I

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Speaker 2: guess her family knows.

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Speaker 1: Oh that's pretty huge Woods that she just keeps the

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Speaker 3: Yeah, right now, whether he should tell his family at

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Speaker 3: some point I think is an interesting conversations because if

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Speaker 3: it was like my brother, I had this nephew or

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Speaker 3: niece out there, like I want to be there, Auntie.

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Speaker 1: That's a sposed can.

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Speaker 3: Worms Carol, Carol, what do you reckon?

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Speaker 2: Hey, guys, she's the biggest a hole walking around. They

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Speaker 2: have an agreement. She should have just abided by their agreement.

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Speaker 2: It's got nothing to do with her. Yeah, you just.

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Speaker 1: Feel the need to like they want their version of

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Speaker 1: justice or they think, you know, later.

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Speaker 2: On down the line, if she wanted to come open

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Speaker 2: with it, or her and Tom, they could have told

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Speaker 2: her his family later on down the line, when you know,

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Speaker 2: when they thought maybe the time was right or whatever.

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Speaker 2: But you know, she should have she should have just

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Speaker 2: listened to their wishes.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I agree, I agree, Carol.

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Speaker 1: We're going to find anyone who doesn't think she's an

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Speaker 1: a whole.

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Speaker 3: Well, what about Rachel? Rachel, what do you think? Do

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Speaker 3: you think they're friends in a whole? Were telling the

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Speaker 3: family or you the other way?

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Speaker 2: I think that girl is an a whole inside, outside,

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Speaker 2: upside down, and any other square word that you would

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Speaker 2: care to know.

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Speaker 1: Where are you done with that? Why not? Check out

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