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Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families Podcast.

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Speaker 2: It's the podcast for the time poor parent who just answers.

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Speaker 1: Now.

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Speaker 3: Well, another week almost over and school holidays starting for

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Speaker 3: most states around the country if they haven't already. I'm

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Speaker 3: talking to the U queens Land. We're halfway through hours.

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Speaker 3: My name's doctor Justin Colson and it's great to have

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Speaker 3: you joining us for the Happy Families Podcast for Friday edition.

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Speaker 3: A while back, I've had a chat with a guy,

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Speaker 3: an author, an entrepreneur, an all round delightful human by

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Speaker 3: the name of Jeremy mcveen. He wrote a book called

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Speaker 3: The Fatherhood. He founded an organization called The Fatherhood, and

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Speaker 3: I was talking to him about fatherhood and whether it

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Speaker 3: turned out to be what he thought it might be.

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Speaker 1: No, no, father would constantly changes. So it's the highest

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Speaker 1: of highs and the lowest of lows, so the greatest challenges.

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Speaker 1: It's like one thing we say that with the Fatherhood,

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Speaker 1: it's like the Champions League of manhood. You know, you've

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Speaker 1: got to find this new level of patience and energy

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Speaker 1: and resilience. And but so no, I think I don't

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Speaker 1: think it could possibly be because it just this constantly

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Speaker 1: evolving challenge and until you've done it. I think you

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Speaker 1: can kind of realize that we are help people. Like,

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Speaker 1: no one told me to be this hard. You know,

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Speaker 1: when everyone's like, oh, you can have kids here would

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Speaker 1: be lovely. Oh yeah, it's lovely. At times, it's pretty hard.

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Speaker 1: I've got some three kids down here. One of them

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Speaker 1: is really sick. We've been in the emergency department a

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Speaker 1: couple of times this week. Like it's tough. Yeah, and

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Speaker 1: that's just this week, and next week it'll be new challenges.

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Speaker 1: So I think it's been. It's wonderful and fulfilling and

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Speaker 1: certainly defining for me, and hence the fatherhood like it's

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Speaker 1: I can't imagine life without my kids. But I don't

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Speaker 1: think it's played out exactly like I thought it would.

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Speaker 1: I think it's hard to know.

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Speaker 2: I'm wondering, Jeremy, if, through all of the study and

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Speaker 2: research that you've done, and the conversations you've had with

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Speaker 2: other men, specifically about their journey in fathering, if it

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Speaker 2: has changed the way you see your dad.

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Speaker 1: That's a really good question. Kindly, it has. It's given

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Speaker 1: me much greater understanding of my dad, much greater. Not

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Speaker 1: that I didn't have empathy, but I think I understand

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Speaker 1: him better and what I'll give you one perspective on

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Speaker 1: that as an example where I think, as parents we

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Speaker 1: do the best that we can and try and do

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Speaker 1: the best we can for our kids based on our

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Speaker 1: own experience. And my dad sadly lost his dad when

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Speaker 1: he was thirteen years old. It's very sad for him

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Speaker 1: and obviously shaped his youth in a huge way. And

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Speaker 1: when I grew up, I never knew I my mum

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Speaker 1: and dad were so determined to give us all these

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Speaker 1: opportunities to play sport, and whenever I played footy, your cricket,

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Speaker 1: they'd be on the sidelines, any time of day, they

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Speaker 1: were there. And through becoming a father and having conversations

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Speaker 1: with my parents more about this sort of stuff, I

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Speaker 1: realized that my dad was so determined to be there

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Speaker 1: at seven am on a Saturday morning when there's jew

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Speaker 1: in the grass because his dad was never there. He

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Speaker 1: never had so he really missed that opportunity, and he

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Speaker 1: was the kid without his dad and on the sidelines

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Speaker 1: and really upsetting growing up. So then he's looked to

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Speaker 1: express that and provide that for them, my brothers. It's

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Speaker 1: a really beautiful thing that he's done so I have

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Speaker 1: a greater understanding and empathy of him and appreciation for

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Speaker 1: what he and my mum did for me and my

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Speaker 1: brothers growing up now that I'm trying to do it

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Speaker 1: for my kids.

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Speaker 3: That's Jeremy mcveen, the founder of The Fatherhood and co

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Speaker 3: author of the book by the same name. The twenty

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Speaker 3: first century is a tricky time to be a teen girl. Alcohol, drugs,

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Speaker 3: mental health concerns, body image issues, technology, sex. Our daughters

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Speaker 3: face all these and more. The Happy Families Miss Connection

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Speaker 3: Summit brings together the best modern day experts on teen

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Speaker 3: girls to show you how to stay connected with your

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Speaker 3: daughter and help her face these challenges head on, available

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Speaker 3: online via video at The Happy Family's webshop. Hey all

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Speaker 3: the beans as well. This is The Happy Family's podcast,

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Speaker 3: by the way, the podcast for the time poor parent

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Speaker 3: who just wants answers.

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Speaker 1: Now.

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Speaker 3: I've been working on a little project over the last

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Speaker 3: month or so, and actually a little bit more than that,

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Speaker 3: and I'm pleased to say that it's here. Today's podcast

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Speaker 3: all about fatherhood. If there's a man in your life

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Speaker 3: who is going to become a father pretty soon. I've

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Speaker 3: just finished writing one of you know, those dummies books,

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Speaker 3: the books for dummies. I've just finished writing one for

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Speaker 3: dad's It's a Dad's Guide to Pregnancy for Dummies, and

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Speaker 3: around about Father's Day, it's going to be hitting the shelves.

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Speaker 3: Keep your eyes peeled for it. There is already one existing,

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Speaker 3: but I've revised it. I've updated it. I'm the new

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Speaker 3: author of the new book for dummies, The Pregnancy Guide

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Speaker 3: for Dads, and I can't wait to tell you more

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Speaker 3: about it. That's coming up in the next couple of

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Speaker 3: months as Father's Day approaches. I hope you enjoyed the

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Speaker 3: podcast today. Jeremy mcveen has given us so much great,

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Speaker 3: great stuff around fatherhood. If you want to hear more

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Speaker 3: episode three hundred and thirty nine Episode three hundred and

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Speaker 3: thirty nine of the Happy Famili's podcast to hear the

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Speaker 3: full interview, we really appreciate it. As always, Justin rule

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Speaker 3: On from Bridge Media and Craig Bruce, our executive producer,

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Speaker 3: for making the podcast sound great. Have a wonderful weekend,

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Speaker 3: info you need at Happy Families dot com, dot au,