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Speaker 1: My herd podcasts, hear more kiss podcasts, playlists, and listen

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Speaker 1: live on the Free Hard.

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Speaker 2: Right now though, Justin Bieber, Yeah, he really has been

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Speaker 2: in the headline for all the wrong reasons recently.

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Speaker 3: Even I'm across this.

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Speaker 2: I'm not across the bee, but he's made it on

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Speaker 2: a couple of Reddit threads that I follow recently.

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Speaker 4: What's reddit saying about the bar?

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Speaker 5: Just some pretty cook stuff of him at Coachella and whatnot.

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Speaker 4: He had a big spat with paparazzi's as well.

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Speaker 3: Yeah about that, Yeah about that? Yeah, not doing himself

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Speaker 3: many favors.

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Speaker 2: He has posted here a text message exchange with him

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Speaker 2: and a friend.

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Speaker 4: Hasn't identified the friend though.

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Speaker 2: No, no, no, no, So he's written here so the guy.

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Speaker 5: I'll try and read.

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Speaker 2: Out the bits of the very important because it does

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Speaker 2: tend to go on. The guy basically complains that Justin

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Speaker 2: Bieber lashed out at him, right yep. Bieber then says

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Speaker 2: the friendship's over. I'll never accept a man calling my

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Speaker 2: anger lashing out. I enjoyed our short lived friendship, but

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Speaker 2: I wasn't kidding when I told you I didn't need

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Speaker 2: you as a friend. Yeah, goes on he says, I

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Speaker 2: will never suppress my emotions for someone. Conflict is a

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Speaker 2: part of a relationship.

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Speaker 4: That's a good point.

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Speaker 3: Well, yeah, I mean, I hate to say it, but

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Speaker 3: I do agree with.

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Speaker 2: The bear there's some wisdom within all this other I'm

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Speaker 2: not sure if you just got chut gpt to blurt

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Speaker 2: that out for him, but I think he's right. I actually,

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Speaker 2: I actually do think he's right. There he goes under

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Speaker 2: call him a pussy and you know, ends up ruining it.

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Speaker 5: But I do.

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Speaker 2: I do want to talk quickly about SIDEA about suppressing

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Speaker 2: your emotions. I will never suppress my emotions for someone.

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Speaker 2: And because you know this, Sem and I have done

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Speaker 2: some couples counseling recently in a in a very healthy sense. Actually,

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Speaker 2: and if you don't you haven't seen a couple's counsel

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Speaker 2: in relationship. I would highly recommend it. But I feel

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Speaker 2: like our couple's counseling prolonged recently because I suck at this.

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Speaker 2: I am a very good emotion suppressor within the relationship.

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Speaker 4: As in, so you suppressed your emotions how you are feeling.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, because I don't want to hurt the other person.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, sure, And I'll.

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Speaker 4: Drag them down with you? Is that is that The

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Speaker 4: vine blogger is.

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Speaker 2: Like, look, if you really want to break it down,

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Speaker 2: I think it's a safety thing. I think you don't

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Speaker 2: want to ruin the safety of your relationship. You know, particular,

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Speaker 2: you've been with someone for a while, you're just like,

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Speaker 2: oh Jesus, if I really let rit with here with

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Speaker 2: how I'm feeling, then you like, miss, the walls could

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Speaker 2: come down.

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Speaker 5: That's right.

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Speaker 2: It's all about safety, right, So as soon as you

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Speaker 2: crossed that line with the person that you love, and

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Speaker 2: it's a person that you've bet everything on at this

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Speaker 2: stage in your life, but.

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Speaker 5: You can get not used to doing it previously.

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Speaker 2: It's a really hard thing to do, and I think

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Speaker 2: a lot of us do it because we're scared about

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Speaker 2: how we're going to be perceived by the person that

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Speaker 2: we're with, or even in this beber sense, with our friends,

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Speaker 2: we do it because we don't want to lose the

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Speaker 2: friendship of course. And ultimately, what I've found through this

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Speaker 2: this this counseling that we've done recently is that.

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Speaker 3: It's really bad for you. It's really really bad.

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Speaker 4: It's going to come out at some stage.

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Speaker 2: Exactly exactly and more importantly, if you don't do it

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Speaker 2: so pray, if you don't let your emotions out, I

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Speaker 2: end up doing the thing which no one likes, which

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Speaker 2: is I sulk.

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Speaker 5: Oh yeah.

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Speaker 2: And even if I just do it subtly, sulking is

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Speaker 2: the worst thing you can do on the planet because and.

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Speaker 1: Then someone goes that you are right, yep, fine, fine, fine,

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Speaker 1: like you're good in there?

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Speaker 2: Yeah good, And and then it's hard.

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Speaker 1: It's like, can we talk about this, talk about what like, Okay,

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Speaker 1: I'm not going to go there. We'll think we've all

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Speaker 1: been guilty of sulking. By the way, we're not having

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Speaker 1: goos of people who sock. I think we all sulk well,

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Speaker 1: and we all know it sucks. But when you're in

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Speaker 1: the middle of a sulk, you're controlled by it.

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Speaker 4: It's a shocking feeling when you when you're mid sulk.

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Speaker 3: Children sok.

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Speaker 4: Yes.

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Speaker 2: I did a bit of research on sulking and Elanda

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Speaker 2: Boton talks about sulking because I was interested in why

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Speaker 2: I sulk. I'm like, why am I? Why am I sulker?

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Speaker 2: I hate the fact that I'm sulking? And he said,

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Speaker 2: because basically, at some stage in your life, you've been

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Speaker 2: told that your emotions aren't valid. At some stage, you've

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Speaker 2: had a moment.

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Speaker 4: It's probably a parent when you're young, a parent being like,

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Speaker 4: be quiet, please be quiet, which is totally naturally if.

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Speaker 2: They just don't understand you, they don't try and understand

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Speaker 2: your emotions. So you learn this thing like, hey, if

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Speaker 2: I'm letting my emotions rip here, the people that I'm

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Speaker 2: doing it for won't understand me. And so the reason

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Speaker 2: that children stay silent when they're sulking is because it's

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Speaker 2: basically them saying, you don't.

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Speaker 3: Understand me, right, and if you don't understand me, then

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Speaker 3: you don't love me.

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Speaker 5: That's the correlation. You don't understand me, you don't.

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Speaker 2: Love me, which is so unfair because you're not telling

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Speaker 2: the person that you're sulking in front of how to

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Speaker 2: understand you. So you put this awful burden on your

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Speaker 2: lover to go normally.

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Speaker 5: Am I not going to talk to you?

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Speaker 2: You will have to mind read me to figure out

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Speaker 2: what my emotions actually are.

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Speaker 3: And then once you've done that, once you've proved to

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Speaker 3: me that you will.

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Speaker 5: Love me, then I will come back to you.

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Speaker 4: You've got a professor x me.

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Speaker 2: You've got to get in there for it and figure

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Speaker 2: out my emotions for me, I'm not going to tell

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Speaker 2: them to you. So I think there's a very valuablesson

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Speaker 2: that I learned recent that I wanted to share is

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Speaker 2: that like, if by not by not sharing your emotions,

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Speaker 2: by not by suppressing your emotions, you might feel like

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Speaker 2: you're doing the right thing, because I think that's often

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Speaker 2: where it comes from me, like, oh, I'm going to

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Speaker 2: protect you and.

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Speaker 5: I'm going to be the bigger guy here and hold

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Speaker 5: onto my emotions.

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Speaker 2: You will eventually get to a point where you ruin

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Speaker 2: your relationship.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, sounds like you're a bit team Bieber.

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Speaker 3: I am by me some bebes kean on the big

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Speaker 3: guy will it's perfect a guy, You're.

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Speaker 4: Finally a believer a big times And.

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Speaker 1: It is so much bigger for Beiber as well, because

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Speaker 1: I feel like he has done that with the public

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Speaker 1: for his entire life, where he felt like he had

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Speaker 1: to be a certain.

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Speaker 3: He had to be a sweetheart for everyone.

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Speaker 2: And the world loved him, and has this moment where

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Speaker 2: he's going, you know what.

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Speaker 1: I'm not going to be this person for people anymore

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Speaker 1: because I've done it for so long and I'm sick

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Speaker 1: of it.

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Speaker 2: It's an interesting topic in general, isn't It is like

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Speaker 2: would we how much would we tolerate child star's behavior

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Speaker 2: if they weren't child stars previously?

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Speaker 5: M It's a very interesting discussion.

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Speaker 4: I think stinksive tomorrow, does it? Yeah? We don't have

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Speaker 4: time now?

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Speaker 5: Oh right, yeah, well I wasn't jesting. We do it now?

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Speaker 4: Oh sorry, I thought you were, And I was like, bloddy,

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Speaker 4: hell mate.

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Speaker 5: It feels like like a it feels like a through job.

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Speaker 5: That one. That's a big that's a big.

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Speaker 4: Big sit down.

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Speaker 5: I think.

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Speaker 3: So I would speak to Louis Docco or something.

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Speaker 4: So he's just handball to someone else. There you go.

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Speaker 1: If you're a documentary maker, go and do something with

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Speaker 1: that subject matter.

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Speaker 2: Beth McGarvey Channel ten, if she's.

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Speaker 5: The head of ten, she might pick it up. W