WEBVTT - FULL SHOW: When did the surprise BACKFIRE? 💥 0:00:12.600 --> 0:00:20.799 Laura, come on, oh one day, we are back again. 0:00:21.239 --> 0:00:23.480 What's so funny, Laura, Oh okay, we were just talking 0:00:23.480 --> 0:00:25.000 about this, but I really want to get to the 0:00:25.040 --> 0:00:28.760 bottom of it. He's Lady Gaga engaged again for the 0:00:28.760 --> 0:00:29.280 fifth time. 0:00:29.360 --> 0:00:31.480 Oh, that's what everyone's saying, because she mouthed it at 0:00:31.520 --> 0:00:34.440 the Games over in Europe. She said she was introducing to. 0:00:35.600 --> 0:00:37.640 But did she even because if you actually listen to 0:00:37.640 --> 0:00:39.840 the audio, there's like a whistle blowing at the same time. 0:00:39.880 --> 0:00:42.239 It could be anything. But people have absolutely taken to. 0:00:42.200 --> 0:00:44.559 This, and apparently she did, because she has gone out 0:00:44.600 --> 0:00:46.840 to say that she's she's engaged a lot because she's 0:00:46.880 --> 0:00:47.760 such a nice person. 0:00:47.840 --> 0:00:48.800 That was soone asked her. 0:00:48.800 --> 0:00:50.760 She can't say no, so she's like, look, people ask 0:00:50.840 --> 0:00:52.320 me and I can't say no, So this is why 0:00:52.320 --> 0:00:52.960 I've been engaged. 0:00:53.240 --> 0:00:55.080 I'm an idiot. I don't think that's a nice person. 0:00:55.200 --> 0:00:57.360 She was engaged five times, nothing wrong with that, But 0:00:57.440 --> 0:01:00.600 imagine only being engaged that many times, not because you're 0:01:00.600 --> 0:01:03.240 in love, but because you have like an avoidant conflict 0:01:03.320 --> 0:01:04.760 personality and you can't say no. 0:01:04.959 --> 0:01:07.319 Just the backhanded compliment to the fiance that's in the 0:01:07.360 --> 0:01:08.039 stands watching on. 0:01:08.280 --> 0:01:10.839 Like, oh, I love you too. Maybe she's prepping him 0:01:11.520 --> 0:01:12.840 for him to not be the fiance. 0:01:13.680 --> 0:01:17.679 I think that's probably not the option. I don't Well, Britt, 0:01:17.720 --> 0:01:19.760 you're engaged. Do you say my fiance when you're referring 0:01:19.760 --> 0:01:21.720 to your boyfriend, bend partner, band fiance be. 0:01:21.880 --> 0:01:23.679 Thank you for bringing that up, which I am in 0:01:23.760 --> 0:01:26.840 fact engaged, and I do. 0:01:26.920 --> 0:01:27.920 Refer to him as fiance. 0:01:28.400 --> 0:01:31.440 I have waited thirty six years to throw that term around. 0:01:31.440 --> 0:01:33.440 There is no way I'm going to continue to use 0:01:33.480 --> 0:01:35.160 partner when it is fiance. 0:01:35.360 --> 0:01:36.240 There's nothing against it. 0:01:36.280 --> 0:01:39.600 I still call my husband my boyfriend just for satirical reasons, 0:01:39.600 --> 0:01:42.040 but yeah, Matt is my boyfriend and will be into 0:01:42.040 --> 0:01:42.520 where Ninny. 0:01:42.640 --> 0:01:44.640 I call my boyfriend my partner just so I feel 0:01:44.680 --> 0:01:45.880 superior to everyone around me. 0:01:46.000 --> 0:01:48.240 Yeah, I use partner when it was boyfriend. I don't 0:01:48.280 --> 0:01:51.320 like boyfriend. I always said partner, But when you escalate, 0:01:51.920 --> 0:01:53.720 for sure, one hundred percent it goes to fiance. 0:01:54.040 --> 0:01:56.200 Also, I've just googled it. She's had three fiancees, not five, 0:01:56.240 --> 0:02:01.200 So sorry to the Gaga fans. Defamation or is like 0:02:01.240 --> 0:02:02.880 she says yes to anyone that asks. 0:02:02.680 --> 0:02:04.360 Yeah, four hundred times. She's been engaged. 0:02:04.400 --> 0:02:06.120 All right, let's start the pick up for your Monday 0:02:06.200 --> 0:02:08.000 next pick Up put Down. It's how we start the 0:02:08.000 --> 0:02:10.520 show every week, the big news stories from the weekend 0:02:10.680 --> 0:02:13.560 YouTube Britain Laura are deciding whether or not a conversation 0:02:13.639 --> 0:02:16.080 continues into the week or it's snuffed out, never to 0:02:16.080 --> 0:02:18.640 be spoken of again. Overnight we had an Australian at 0:02:18.680 --> 0:02:22.560 the games over in Europe, sent home, canceled, left, told 0:02:22.600 --> 0:02:24.960 to leave. It's actually very big news. We're gonna unpack 0:02:25.000 --> 0:02:29.360 it after this on the pickup. Welcome, it is Monday afternoon. 0:02:29.800 --> 0:02:34.480 We need to do this pick up. I'm going to 0:02:34.520 --> 0:02:36.880 give you, Britain Laura, a topic that the country have 0:02:36.960 --> 0:02:39.480 been discussing all week. It is your choice whether or 0:02:39.520 --> 0:02:41.840 not we continue talking about it or we we never 0:02:41.880 --> 0:02:43.880 talk about it again. Either we pick it up or 0:02:43.880 --> 0:02:44.519 we put it down. 0:02:45.280 --> 0:02:47.240 We do it every week twice a week now. It's 0:02:47.280 --> 0:02:50.120 been such a fan favorite. Yeah, what have you got 0:02:50.160 --> 0:02:50.800 this week? All right? 0:02:50.800 --> 0:02:54.080 Pick up put down? Celindion performing over the weekend in Europe. 0:02:54.680 --> 0:02:56.079 Pick it up of your have to. 0:02:56.200 --> 0:02:58.760 But also I want to admit I didn't watch the 0:02:58.800 --> 0:03:01.000 opening game, so I don't feel like I have enough 0:03:01.040 --> 0:03:03.120 skin in the game to comment on how amazing it is. 0:03:03.280 --> 0:03:04.840 But I'm glad she's made a comeback. 0:03:05.400 --> 0:03:06.880 I don't think you need to have watched it to 0:03:06.960 --> 0:03:08.600 just know how amazing Celindion is. 0:03:08.680 --> 0:03:09.240 Full stop. 0:03:09.320 --> 0:03:09.480 You know. 0:03:09.600 --> 0:03:12.320 I was watching like this highlight reel that someone. 0:03:12.240 --> 0:03:14.360 Had put together of her over the years from when 0:03:14.400 --> 0:03:16.360 she first started performing, and by the end of it, 0:03:16.400 --> 0:03:18.800 this is like a ninety second reel. I was in tears, 0:03:18.880 --> 0:03:21.600 like her originally saying I just want to perform to 0:03:21.720 --> 0:03:23.760 like a full room of people like this is when 0:03:23.760 --> 0:03:25.760 she started off. And then I was like, if only 0:03:25.800 --> 0:03:27.400 you knew what you were going to be. And then 0:03:27.440 --> 0:03:29.880 when she got sick, she started to cry and she 0:03:29.960 --> 0:03:32.040 was like I will perform again, like this isn't the 0:03:32.120 --> 0:03:33.839 end for me. And I was like, oh, sign feel 0:03:33.880 --> 0:03:34.800 deliver and take my money. 0:03:34.840 --> 0:03:35.240 You got me? 0:03:35.400 --> 0:03:37.000 Yeah, I think it's cute. I will say the accent 0:03:37.000 --> 0:03:39.800 is deeply confusing. I'm like, oh, this is French. Then 0:03:39.800 --> 0:03:41.240 I google it she's a Canadian. 0:03:41.320 --> 0:03:43.960 I'm like, what, she has a very unusual accent. 0:03:44.040 --> 0:03:44.200 Yeah. 0:03:44.240 --> 0:03:45.720 Yeah, I mean for anyone who doesn't know when we 0:03:45.760 --> 0:03:47.280 say she's sick, she's got stiff person. 0:03:47.400 --> 0:03:49.000 Is it stiff? Person syndrome or disease. 0:03:49.040 --> 0:03:51.320 But it's it's taken her out of performing for a 0:03:51.400 --> 0:03:53.840 very long time. Now that she came out and she 0:03:53.880 --> 0:03:55.120 got paid two million dollars to do it. 0:03:55.160 --> 0:03:58.160 So okay, she's from Quebec, she's French Canadian, so there's 0:03:58.200 --> 0:03:59.000 that French input. 0:03:59.040 --> 0:03:59.960 She really lent into the friend. 0:04:00.480 --> 0:04:03.400 Hey, pick up, put down, britt Laura, possible signs of 0:04:03.480 --> 0:04:05.080 life being discovered on Mars. 0:04:05.440 --> 0:04:07.480 How do you put that down? Pick it up? Sure? 0:04:08.040 --> 0:04:08.920 Would you believe it? 0:04:09.280 --> 0:04:09.560 Yes? 0:04:09.880 --> 0:04:10.360 I don't. 0:04:10.640 --> 0:04:12.000 Okay, I guess that's the question. 0:04:12.360 --> 0:04:14.040 Well the big question is And now I'm gonna sit 0:04:14.080 --> 0:04:15.240 here in the corner and put my tin full of 0:04:15.280 --> 0:04:17.520 hat ocs. It makes me sound like a crazy conspiracy theorist. 0:04:17.839 --> 0:04:21.040 I just don't believe that we are the only planet 0:04:21.080 --> 0:04:23.240 that has life, Like there has to be another planet 0:04:23.240 --> 0:04:25.760 out there that maybe it's a tiny little microorganism of 0:04:25.839 --> 0:04:28.160 the bacteria or something, but there has to be. 0:04:28.279 --> 0:04:28.479 Yeah. 0:04:28.480 --> 0:04:31.800 The rover which is on Mars found a rock that 0:04:31.880 --> 0:04:33.440 they believe is sign of life on Mars. 0:04:33.480 --> 0:04:37.000 Have listened and NASA's perseverance rover may have made an 0:04:37.040 --> 0:04:41.479 extraordinary discovery signs of ancient life on Mars. The six 0:04:41.520 --> 0:04:45.479 wheeled robotic explorer has found a rock that may harbor 0:04:45.600 --> 0:04:48.960 fossilized microbes that lived on the red planet billions of 0:04:49.080 --> 0:04:51.680 years ago. Samples will be sent back to Earth so 0:04:51.760 --> 0:04:53.760 scientists can have a really good look. 0:04:54.120 --> 0:04:55.760 I mean there's a lot of Maybes in there, wasn't 0:04:55.800 --> 0:04:58.839 it may have found a rock that may have signs 0:04:58.839 --> 0:05:02.159 of maybe mi bio that we might be able to test. 0:05:02.240 --> 0:05:03.880 Wally Darli was loving that the background was. 0:05:05.440 --> 0:05:06.799 The Project Loved Space. 0:05:07.000 --> 0:05:10.040 They afford the sound effects, so it's just Wally Arli, 0:05:11.200 --> 0:05:12.039 Project Love Space. 0:05:12.040 --> 0:05:14.040 They talk about space all the time. Have you not 0:05:14.040 --> 0:05:16.479 noticed this? For every single week there is there is 0:05:16.520 --> 0:05:19.200 something about space. They love space. Interesting. I think it 0:05:19.240 --> 0:05:22.080 might be a road McManus, he really enjoyed the moon. 0:05:22.040 --> 0:05:22.320 All right. 0:05:22.400 --> 0:05:25.440 Finally, pick up put down the commentator that was sacked 0:05:25.520 --> 0:05:27.920 over sexist comments about the Australian relay team. 0:05:28.520 --> 0:05:30.359 Pick it up, picking up of the fact that we 0:05:30.440 --> 0:05:31.320 put him down. 0:05:31.520 --> 0:05:32.200 Bob Ballard. 0:05:32.360 --> 0:05:35.040 Yeah, so, Bob Ballard he off the back of the 0:05:35.360 --> 0:05:37.839 one hundred meter relay, the four by one hundred meter relay. 0:05:38.560 --> 0:05:41.360 He made such a crazy comment the women were taking 0:05:41.480 --> 0:05:43.479 a little bit longer to get from the pool to 0:05:43.680 --> 0:05:46.880 the podiums to accept their award after winning gold medal, 0:05:47.160 --> 0:05:48.680 and he made the comment that maybe they were just 0:05:48.720 --> 0:05:50.720 doing their makeup, you know, women doing their mate. 0:05:50.760 --> 0:05:52.720 No, it wasn't even that, Laura. They weren't making their 0:05:52.720 --> 0:05:54.920 way to the podium. They were on the podium with 0:05:54.960 --> 0:05:56.960 their gold medals. They were having their moment, and he 0:05:57.000 --> 0:05:58.800 was telling them that the moment was too long. He 0:05:58.920 --> 0:06:00.720 was like, get off the podium, basically by saying, oh, 0:06:00.760 --> 0:06:03.039 you know, women just doing their makeup. No, Actually, they're 0:06:03.080 --> 0:06:04.760 basking their glory of the fact that they are the 0:06:04.800 --> 0:06:07.200 untouchables and the best swim team in the world. 0:06:07.320 --> 0:06:08.760 Yeah. It's outrageous, isn't it. 0:06:08.760 --> 0:06:10.920 But you know what I think is really quite amazing 0:06:11.400 --> 0:06:13.559 is that we live in a day and age now 0:06:13.720 --> 0:06:16.320 where that like that would have just kind of slipped 0:06:16.360 --> 0:06:18.080 under the radar back in the day, but now because 0:06:18.120 --> 0:06:20.440 of social media and the holding to account, it means 0:06:20.440 --> 0:06:22.200 that he's been let go from being a commentator at 0:06:22.240 --> 0:06:22.760 the Games. 0:06:22.920 --> 0:06:25.480 It's very Parisian, isn't it to be? Like get away goodbye? 0:06:25.560 --> 0:06:27.960 Well, because also it's supposed to be the most equal 0:06:28.000 --> 0:06:30.599 games that have ever happened, so there's as many female 0:06:30.640 --> 0:06:33.160 athletes as there are male athletes, so I think there 0:06:33.200 --> 0:06:34.880 has to be a no tolerance for this sort of 0:06:34.920 --> 0:06:36.240 misogynistic commentary. 0:06:36.480 --> 0:06:37.479 Yeah, no, I agree, I love it. 0:06:37.520 --> 0:06:40.960 Goodbye Bob Well in other years, guys, it is International 0:06:41.040 --> 0:06:43.880 Lipstick Day, so we have the Look Good, Feel Better 0:06:43.920 --> 0:06:47.400 and Yeah, Ruchy Paige, she's coming in after the break 0:06:47.400 --> 0:06:49.240 to chat all things lipstick. 0:06:50.120 --> 0:06:52.760 As we broadcast, Ladies. It's a very special Monday, isn't it. 0:06:52.960 --> 0:06:54.800 Is that why you've won your lipstick today, Mitch, she 0:06:54.880 --> 0:06:57.640 is doing celebration of my back pocket. 0:06:57.680 --> 0:06:59.880 No, today is a very special day. 0:07:00.040 --> 0:07:03.880 It's International Lipstick Day, and to celebrate, Revlon is teaming 0:07:03.960 --> 0:07:07.000 up with Chemist Warehouse and a Delta Goodroom Foundation to 0:07:07.120 --> 0:07:10.680 raise funds for Look Good, Feel Better, a charity that 0:07:10.760 --> 0:07:13.800 helps women face cancer with confidence. We are going to 0:07:13.800 --> 0:07:16.720 be speaking to a very special woman named Ruschie Paige. 0:07:16.880 --> 0:07:19.720 She is a Look Good, Feel Better ambassador and a 0:07:19.800 --> 0:07:21.280 Revlon Bold Beauty partner. 0:07:21.320 --> 0:07:23.360 I mean, this is such an important campaign and it 0:07:23.440 --> 0:07:26.160 is running from today until the seventh of August, so 0:07:26.240 --> 0:07:30.000 two dollars from every super lustrous lipstick purchase goes towards 0:07:30.000 --> 0:07:30.920 Look Good, Feel Better. 0:07:31.040 --> 0:07:33.520 It is Rushie Paige, Hey, Rushie. 0:07:33.120 --> 0:07:35.880 Hello, thank you so much for having me Hi, Rushie. 0:07:35.880 --> 0:07:37.560 Now, all the funds that are coming through for this, 0:07:37.800 --> 0:07:39.960 it's for the Look Good, Feel Better Program. Can you 0:07:39.960 --> 0:07:42.400 tell us a little bit around why this is so important? 0:07:42.920 --> 0:07:43.160 Yeah? 0:07:43.240 --> 0:07:45.360 So, the Look Good, Feel Better Program is a free 0:07:45.400 --> 0:07:48.960 service for people undergoing cancer treatment, and it is such 0:07:49.000 --> 0:07:53.240 a transformational organization because he's really changing people's lives. 0:07:53.600 --> 0:07:53.800 You know. 0:07:54.040 --> 0:08:00.000 The program does facilitate workshops that basically help you reach 0:08:00.080 --> 0:08:02.200 connect with your confidence, and for people who are going 0:08:02.240 --> 0:08:06.200 through such a dark and really quite a challenging, vulnerable time, 0:08:06.320 --> 0:08:08.880 this is really quite significant for them to just be 0:08:08.920 --> 0:08:11.880 in a space where you're understood, where you don't have 0:08:11.920 --> 0:08:15.120 to explain yourself. Then just really sit there and just 0:08:15.360 --> 0:08:18.160 play with make up and learn about beauty and rebuild 0:08:18.160 --> 0:08:18.840 your confidence. 0:08:19.200 --> 0:08:21.520 Chie Well, what is Revlon doing? Because I hear they're 0:08:21.520 --> 0:08:24.880 donating two dollars and if you purchase a special lipstick, certain. 0:08:24.680 --> 0:08:27.760 Lipstick, that's right, So two dollars from the super Lustrous 0:08:27.800 --> 0:08:31.680 lipstick from Kennis Warehouse. Are we going to contribute to 0:08:31.720 --> 0:08:35.080 the Look Good, Feel Better Program so that it remains 0:08:35.080 --> 0:08:38.920 free and also to basically give those confidence kits to 0:08:38.960 --> 0:08:40.560 the people undergoing cancer treatments. 0:08:40.840 --> 0:08:43.280 So cool and Ritchie, why is this so important to you? 0:08:43.600 --> 0:08:46.400 Has cancer like affected you directly or your family? 0:08:46.840 --> 0:08:47.080 Yeah? 0:08:47.160 --> 0:08:49.840 So unfortunately, And I feel like a lot of people 0:08:49.880 --> 0:08:54.160 unfortunately have experienced this as well. But cancers affected my 0:08:54.320 --> 0:08:58.120 family and it's also affected my fiancee family directly. And 0:08:58.120 --> 0:09:02.640 it's you know, I learned about my fiancee's mother who 0:09:03.160 --> 0:09:06.960 her journey alone with confidence. It's it's something that really 0:09:07.480 --> 0:09:10.400 transformed my mindset and how you approach beauty and how 0:09:10.440 --> 0:09:13.400 you understand confidence in itself. That's why this is so 0:09:13.440 --> 0:09:16.959 important to me. It's about reconnecting with it and feeling 0:09:17.240 --> 0:09:18.120 like yourself again. 0:09:18.240 --> 0:09:21.320 Okay, Richie, you're very into makeup and beauty and fashion. 0:09:21.440 --> 0:09:23.520 Can you tell us what is going to be the 0:09:23.559 --> 0:09:24.880 color of the season. Are we going to be going 0:09:24.920 --> 0:09:26.640 bold red? So we're going to be going nudes? 0:09:26.960 --> 0:09:28.760 Well, you know what I feel like? 0:09:28.840 --> 0:09:33.120 Fashion, beauty, everything like that. It's all about how you 0:09:33.320 --> 0:09:37.280 best represent yourself and how you choose to present yourself 0:09:37.320 --> 0:09:41.120 in your most authentic way. Me personally, I love a 0:09:41.120 --> 0:09:43.960 bold bred lip. You can never never get me away 0:09:43.960 --> 0:09:44.200 from that. 0:09:44.280 --> 0:09:46.680 And I write that one down so bold readily tomorrow's 0:09:46.720 --> 0:09:49.480 bold I was a subtle readily. 0:09:49.360 --> 0:09:51.800 Yours was a subtle Nordemich, wasn't it today? 0:09:51.880 --> 0:09:52.960 But I text you early today? 0:09:53.120 --> 0:09:56.439 But also I think they sent so sous one thing 0:09:56.480 --> 0:09:58.320 that I think so many people take for granted because 0:09:58.320 --> 0:10:01.440 when people are going through cancer treatment, obviously it is 0:10:01.520 --> 0:10:03.880 so harrowing as it is just going through that treatment. 0:10:03.920 --> 0:10:05.960 But I think it's very rare that people talk about 0:10:06.120 --> 0:10:08.920 the physical effects that it has on people's confidence, and 0:10:09.040 --> 0:10:11.920 especially for women, like so many women tie their identity 0:10:11.960 --> 0:10:12.760 to losing their head. 0:10:12.920 --> 0:10:14.959 Probably affects more women than what it would do men. 0:10:15.000 --> 0:10:17.800 And I'm just saying that subjectively, but I think this 0:10:17.920 --> 0:10:20.480 is such a beautiful initiative because so many people would 0:10:20.520 --> 0:10:21.920 have their confidence rocked by cancer. 0:10:21.960 --> 0:10:23.600 There are also those little things, and Rishie, you can 0:10:23.640 --> 0:10:25.400 probably speak to this that you wouldn't even think of. 0:10:25.440 --> 0:10:28.000 You think of a cancer diagnosis, You think of a 0:10:28.240 --> 0:10:31.960 the big C getting the diagnosis, calling your family getting 0:10:31.960 --> 0:10:33.840 the treatment. Then maybe the hair loss you think of. 0:10:33.920 --> 0:10:36.800 But the little things like learning how to reapply makeup 0:10:36.800 --> 0:10:38.719 when you might look physically different than you did six 0:10:38.760 --> 0:10:39.400 months ago. 0:10:39.440 --> 0:10:40.720 And how it changes your skin. 0:10:40.800 --> 0:10:43.839 It changes so much yeah, it really doing amazing stuff. 0:10:43.880 --> 0:10:46.320 Rushie Page joining us here. It is International Lipstick Day. 0:10:46.360 --> 0:10:48.560 Head into chemist warehouse by one of those Revlon what 0:10:48.679 --> 0:10:49.959 is it super lustrous lipsticks? 0:10:50.640 --> 0:10:52.199 Yeah, that's right here. 0:10:52.240 --> 0:10:53.959 There we go go by one two dollars we paid 0:10:53.960 --> 0:10:56.600 for by Revlin's. Such good stuff. Thank you so much, Rushie, Paige, 0:10:56.600 --> 0:10:57.040 so good to have you. 0:10:57.920 --> 0:10:59.680 Thanks Rushie, thank you so much. 0:10:59.720 --> 0:11:02.040 Thanks guys. 0:11:02.240 --> 0:11:05.280 I had one of the best weekends I have had 0:11:05.320 --> 0:11:07.520 in a long time. And I hope my fiance Ben 0:11:07.520 --> 0:11:09.480 doesn't hear that, because I was like, you just get engaged. 0:11:09.559 --> 0:11:10.600 Y got engaged. 0:11:11.240 --> 0:11:13.520 But outside of that, like that's a life highlight. 0:11:13.720 --> 0:11:17.079 But I used to live over in London and I 0:11:17.200 --> 0:11:18.719 used to live with a good friend of mine there 0:11:18.720 --> 0:11:21.160 for a couple of years and we've been friends for 0:11:21.240 --> 0:11:25.240 probably twenty years. And on Thursday, I get a call 0:11:25.320 --> 0:11:27.320 Thursday afternoon, so she still lives in London, she's been 0:11:27.360 --> 0:11:29.280 there for like fifteen years now. But I get a 0:11:29.600 --> 0:11:34.040 call from her at probably three o'clock on Thursday afternoon 0:11:34.200 --> 0:11:35.200 and just a message. 0:11:35.240 --> 0:11:37.320 She's like, hey, what are you doing tonight? I said 0:11:37.840 --> 0:11:39.520 not much. She goes your home and I said, yeah, 0:11:39.520 --> 0:11:40.559 I am. I was like, what are you doing? You 0:11:40.600 --> 0:11:41.040 want to call? 0:11:41.480 --> 0:11:43.720 And she said, oh, I'm on my way and I 0:11:43.800 --> 0:11:46.440 was like, what what do you mean you're on your way? 0:11:46.520 --> 0:11:49.480 And she's like, I got a last minute flight from London. 0:11:49.520 --> 0:11:51.600 I'll be there in a few hours. And I was like, 0:11:51.720 --> 0:11:52.440 what the hell? 0:11:53.000 --> 0:11:53.440 Anyway? 0:11:53.600 --> 0:11:55.800 I was like, oh, you want you coming to my house? 0:11:56.200 --> 0:11:58.600 And she's like, well I can, and she's like I 0:11:58.640 --> 0:11:59.040 want to. 0:11:59.440 --> 0:12:03.040 I was like, you're right. So four hours later she's 0:12:03.120 --> 0:12:04.840 at my house and she's been here for five days. 0:12:04.840 --> 0:12:08.240 So I just had this like really last minute, no notice, 0:12:08.360 --> 0:12:10.559 didn't know what was coming visit, and she's been It's 0:12:10.600 --> 0:12:12.480 been like the best five days that I've had in 0:12:12.720 --> 0:12:12.880 you go. 0:12:13.080 --> 0:12:13.880 You are happy. 0:12:14.080 --> 0:12:17.000 I'm loving it. But also it feels very punchy. 0:12:17.040 --> 0:12:18.920 You could have had anything on in those five days, 0:12:18.960 --> 0:12:20.880 Like I don't think that there's been five days recently 0:12:20.880 --> 0:12:22.560 where someone could say, Hey, I'm just gonna come and 0:12:22.559 --> 0:12:24.640 stay at your house and hang out with you every second, 0:12:25.240 --> 0:12:25.960 clear your calendar. 0:12:26.480 --> 0:12:27.040 It doesn't exist. 0:12:27.120 --> 0:12:29.840 I also think this is menic behavior, This is insane. 0:12:29.960 --> 0:12:31.960 I was so mad if a friend said to me, 0:12:32.040 --> 0:12:34.439 I'm coming over tonight. I haven't seen you in years 0:12:34.520 --> 0:12:36.000 and I'm staying there. I'm staying. 0:12:36.200 --> 0:12:38.040 I hate that this is so normal to me. 0:12:38.120 --> 0:12:40.240 And in her defense, she didn't message and say I'm 0:12:40.240 --> 0:12:43.079 coming in twenty minutes and I'm staying. She was like, 0:12:43.160 --> 0:12:45.520 I decided to come last minute, so I'll just go 0:12:45.600 --> 0:12:47.320 to a hotel, but it'd be great to catch up with you. 0:12:47.440 --> 0:12:49.839 And of course I was like, there is no way 0:12:49.880 --> 0:12:52.320 you're getting a hotel like you were staying at my house. 0:12:52.360 --> 0:12:55.760 But also even if I opened the front door and she. 0:12:55.840 --> 0:12:59.080 Was standing there without any notice, I would steal froth 0:12:59.160 --> 0:13:00.320 it and let her stay my house. 0:13:00.360 --> 0:13:02.040 Like there's no part of me that thinks that that 0:13:02.160 --> 0:13:03.040 is that is weird. 0:13:03.600 --> 0:13:06.080 Okay, I think I'm past the point in my life 0:13:06.160 --> 0:13:08.839 where I enjoy having visitors just drop around like I've 0:13:08.840 --> 0:13:11.800 got two little kids, Like it has never clean, it 0:13:11.880 --> 0:13:15.200 is never organized, and so then if someone just pops around, 0:13:15.360 --> 0:13:17.040 I feel the immense pressure that I have to run 0:13:17.080 --> 0:13:18.959 around the house and make it look like no one 0:13:19.000 --> 0:13:19.440 lives there. 0:13:19.520 --> 0:13:20.959 I don't know, I don't want it. Don't come over 0:13:21.000 --> 0:13:23.200 unless you ask, if you tell me that you're coming over. 0:13:23.080 --> 0:13:25.040 The same and my doorbell goes off unless I know 0:13:25.080 --> 0:13:28.040 it's ubera it's the anxiety that fills my body. Who 0:13:28.200 --> 0:13:29.800 is that I didn't know? I did invite anyone over. 0:13:29.920 --> 0:13:31.640 I need to plan. I need at least seven business 0:13:31.720 --> 0:13:32.480 days to plan. 0:13:32.880 --> 0:13:34.600 No, I don't need that much time, but I just 0:13:34.640 --> 0:13:36.920 want like an hour's note. Unless it is your absolute 0:13:37.000 --> 0:13:38.760 best friend. I think everyone has some people that are 0:13:38.800 --> 0:13:41.280 within their inner circle that they can rock up at 0:13:41.280 --> 0:13:43.080 their house and it doesn't matter if it's a mess. 0:13:43.120 --> 0:13:45.920 But apart from that person, like, I need the notice. 0:13:46.040 --> 0:13:46.360 What did you do? 0:13:46.480 --> 0:13:50.760 I love surprises. I just love surprises. No, we didn't know. 0:13:50.960 --> 0:13:53.200 That is not we walk down memory lane. But you know, 0:13:53.280 --> 0:13:55.160 I was thinking of a time that I went. 0:13:55.559 --> 0:13:58.520 To surprise a guy that I was like, very loosely seen, 0:13:58.600 --> 0:14:00.600 and I thought it was going in a different place 0:14:00.600 --> 0:14:02.240 than it was going. He was living in New York. 0:14:02.280 --> 0:14:04.960 This was when I was in London, and he was 0:14:04.960 --> 0:14:06.640 giving me all the signals that it was a go ahead. 0:14:06.679 --> 0:14:09.320 So I remember being like, because I'm such a romantic, 0:14:09.320 --> 0:14:11.200 I remember being like, I'm going to surprise him. So 0:14:11.320 --> 0:14:14.120 I flew to New York to surprise him, organized with 0:14:14.160 --> 0:14:17.920 his best friend, and he literally literally we hung out 0:14:17.920 --> 0:14:19.200 for a few days, probably because he felt like he 0:14:19.240 --> 0:14:20.720 had to. Then he goes, this is not for me. 0:14:21.240 --> 0:14:25.040 Yeah, you're inside. That is not normal behavior. 0:14:25.440 --> 0:14:27.640 And he made me think that he said that he 0:14:27.720 --> 0:14:30.120 loved me. I would not have gone if I didn't 0:14:30.160 --> 0:14:30.680 think that. 0:14:30.760 --> 0:14:33.920 I was very very welcome. We hate him, he'd sent 0:14:34.000 --> 0:14:35.960 me like news. Okay, I knew my hat. 0:14:35.800 --> 0:14:39.800 An hour right. I think I think this would backfire 0:14:40.320 --> 0:14:42.400 more often than it would succeed in BRIT's case. Give 0:14:42.440 --> 0:14:44.480 us a call here at the pickup. When did this backfire? 0:14:44.520 --> 0:14:46.840 And did it backfire because I or was it a success? 0:14:46.880 --> 0:14:48.280 Because I just don't believe that happens. 0:14:48.520 --> 0:14:50.440 No, just if you're going to come around to my house, 0:14:50.440 --> 0:14:52.200 at least give me twenty four hours notice so I 0:14:52.200 --> 0:14:53.840 can put the kids in a cupboard and clean up. 0:14:53.880 --> 0:14:55.600 And bring dinner, Yes, bring a dish. 0:14:56.080 --> 0:14:57.640 Then I'll open the door. All right, we'll take your 0:14:57.640 --> 0:15:01.920 Call's next on the pickup? Where did the surprise backfire? 0:15:02.000 --> 0:15:04.280 We're taking your calls here on the show because Britt 0:15:04.280 --> 0:15:06.240 had a friend show up out of nowhere and Laura 0:15:06.240 --> 0:15:07.440 and I think it's so weakd she got. 0:15:07.400 --> 0:15:10.000 Out of nowhere, she turned up from London on. 0:15:10.480 --> 0:15:12.840 It's not I think sun Dye it's nice. How like 0:15:12.960 --> 0:15:16.560 accommodating and welcoming you are. I just know that my 0:15:16.920 --> 0:15:19.760 house and my life is in such a constant state 0:15:19.800 --> 0:15:23.360 of disarray that I can't handle unannounced visitors totally also 0:15:23.440 --> 0:15:23.800 too much. 0:15:23.840 --> 0:15:26.200 I had a friend message me this weekend who messaged 0:15:26.240 --> 0:15:28.160 me on Friday saying, hey, you want to get coffee Sunday? 0:15:28.200 --> 0:15:30.440 I needed at least Wednesday. 0:15:30.440 --> 0:15:32.920 That's a bit mark. Guys, I live alone. I'll take 0:15:32.960 --> 0:15:33.520 what I can get. 0:15:33.560 --> 0:15:35.680 Hey, Sarah's giving us a call. Hey Sarah, when did 0:15:36.040 --> 0:15:37.480 when did seeing your friend backfire? 0:15:39.200 --> 0:15:39.360 So? 0:15:39.680 --> 0:15:44.000 I was surprising my friend with a baby shower, but 0:15:44.560 --> 0:15:48.760