WEBVTT - Ask Uncut - From Buzz Buzz to Yee Haw! 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:03.400 Life on Cut acknowledges the traditional custodians of country whose 0:00:03.480 --> 0:00:06.160 lands were never seated. We pay our respects to their 0:00:06.200 --> 0:00:07.600 elders past and present. 0:00:07.600 --> 0:00:11.399 Always was, always will be Aboriginal Land. This episode was 0:00:11.440 --> 0:00:24.760 recorded on drug Wallamuta Land. Hey guys, and welcome back 0:00:24.760 --> 0:00:26.880 to another episode of Life on Cut. I am Brittany 0:00:27.040 --> 0:00:31.280 and I am Laura, and Laura has been singing really 0:00:31.280 --> 0:00:32.920 badly for about ten minutes. 0:00:33.120 --> 0:00:35.400 I know it's the first time you've acknowledged it. 0:00:35.440 --> 0:00:35.839 Do you know why. 0:00:35.880 --> 0:00:37.360 I think you're trying to like set the mood, But 0:00:37.400 --> 0:00:38.920 in my head, I'm like, shut up. 0:00:42.400 --> 0:00:47.360 I try good, and I'm like, bro, no, vibe with 0:00:47.400 --> 0:00:51.320 the stars, yes, masting No, Well I would shake my 0:00:51.560 --> 0:00:53.680 entire nuddars in your face, but I feel like that 0:00:53.760 --> 0:00:55.200 might be stepping acrossing a line. 0:00:55.280 --> 0:00:57.480 So instead, I've just been trying to bring the vibes 0:00:57.720 --> 0:01:01.000 with a bit of a like a fir I left 0:01:01.000 --> 0:01:06.800 that way. You should totally fly away. No, it's not 0:01:06.800 --> 0:01:10.280 that bad. I maybe it was a bit bad. Can 0:01:10.319 --> 0:01:14.600 we discuss something? What is this a dress or a jacket? 0:01:14.720 --> 0:01:18.280 Where you want it to be corduroy. It's corduroy. I'm 0:01:18.280 --> 0:01:21.000 bringing Cordray back in. I don't think Corduroy's not in. 0:01:21.040 --> 0:01:23.440 I think it can be in like kind of like sexy. 0:01:23.120 --> 0:01:27.080 Couch Corduey, cud or Cortery was not in for a 0:01:27.120 --> 0:01:31.479 long time. I think it's back in now, probably because 0:01:31.480 --> 0:01:34.160 of me. Okay, yeah, yes, set in the fashion stands 0:01:34.200 --> 0:01:36.720 over here. Could be a dress, could be a jacket, 0:01:37.000 --> 0:01:38.680 could be naked underneath. It could be wearing a two 0:01:38.720 --> 0:01:39.559 piece suit. Who knows. 0:01:39.680 --> 0:01:41.800 I like to keep people guessing, and you're guessing. 0:01:41.880 --> 0:01:44.560 So it's worked perfect a new dress. 0:01:44.640 --> 0:01:47.520 Yeah, I being right along. It's therapy Thursday. It certainly is. 0:01:47.560 --> 0:01:50.040 And this is where we answer, oh you're deep, you're dark, 0:01:50.080 --> 0:01:51.360 and you're burning questions. 0:01:51.560 --> 0:01:54.600 Before we get into that, I want your opinion on something. 0:01:55.000 --> 0:01:56.320 I don't know how to take this. This is what 0:01:56.480 --> 0:01:58.720 someone said to me yesterday. I don't know if it's 0:01:58.720 --> 0:02:00.840 supposed to be a compliment or offensive. 0:02:00.920 --> 0:02:03.880 It's probably a backhanded compliment that actually is just I'm 0:02:03.880 --> 0:02:04.840 trying to work that out. 0:02:04.920 --> 0:02:08.080 Somebody wrote it's like, you look good for your age, 0:02:08.160 --> 0:02:09.480 or do you know what my favorite one is. This 0:02:09.520 --> 0:02:11.799 is what I'm getting recently. Well, God, you look good 0:02:12.000 --> 0:02:14.320 for someone who's had two kids, and I'm like, that's 0:02:14.360 --> 0:02:17.160 not really good, is it. That's because your bod so fire, 0:02:17.360 --> 0:02:20.440 but only for someone who's had two kids. Yeah, not 0:02:20.480 --> 0:02:23.119 as good as someone who hasn't had kids, Just as 0:02:23.240 --> 0:02:25.079 good as you could look for someone who's had too. 0:02:25.200 --> 0:02:28.080 Looks like when someone says a sentence with hey, no offense, 0:02:28.360 --> 0:02:29.920 but you're super ugly, You're. 0:02:29.720 --> 0:02:33.120 Like, well, that's still offensive. No offense, but I'm going 0:02:33.160 --> 0:02:35.880 to say something super offensive right now. But I've given 0:02:35.919 --> 0:02:39.120 myself a caveat, so it's fine. Anyway. Well, somebody told 0:02:39.160 --> 0:02:46.000 me in my DMS that I look like Shrek's wife 0:02:48.360 --> 0:02:53.000 what's her name, Fiona? But the human Fiona. No, that's nice, 0:02:53.160 --> 0:02:55.440 is it though? Because it's the princess Fiona. She's sort 0:02:55.480 --> 0:02:58.800 of cute, but she channels the ogre like she's still 0:02:59.000 --> 0:03:02.600 a human in inverted commas, but is made to look 0:03:02.720 --> 0:03:05.040 like the ogre that's turning to a human. I'm not 0:03:05.040 --> 0:03:06.480 sure if it's a compliment or not. 0:03:06.600 --> 0:03:08.919 Have you watched Shrek. She's hot when she's a human. 0:03:08.960 --> 0:03:11.160 I take that absolutely as a compliment, and she's very 0:03:11.200 --> 0:03:13.239 funny when she's not. So look, you know, isn't she 0:03:13.280 --> 0:03:15.920 still like so isn't she supposed to be like a 0:03:15.919 --> 0:03:17.600 bit of a bit of b No, did you even 0:03:17.600 --> 0:03:19.440 google her? I'll show you, let me google it. I 0:03:19.480 --> 0:03:25.840 just pictured the ogre. True, she's hot ish Yeah see 0:03:25.880 --> 0:03:26.920 now you've pulled her up. 0:03:27.160 --> 0:03:29.760 You're like for an ogre. She's hot for an ogre. 0:03:29.880 --> 0:03:32.239 Yeah, okay, so I would be hot if I was 0:03:32.280 --> 0:03:33.920 an ogre. Is that what you're saying? I don't know. 0:03:34.000 --> 0:03:36.080 That's what someone said, and I was like, okay, I 0:03:36.160 --> 0:03:38.160 don't know what to do with that. I'm pretty sure 0:03:38.160 --> 0:03:40.800 she just looks like Cameron Diaz to be fair, well, 0:03:40.800 --> 0:03:44.160 Cameron Diaz is the voice, right, Okay, anyway, that's not 0:03:44.200 --> 0:03:45.800 a hot take. We're going to move right along. 0:03:45.880 --> 0:03:49.280 Let's just say it's a compliment, yes, semi backhanded. 0:03:49.520 --> 0:03:51.760 Well, there was something that we spoke about on Tuesday's episode, 0:03:51.880 --> 0:03:54.720 and that was what constitutes the lowest effort that somebody 0:03:54.760 --> 0:03:57.960 could put into a date, Like how low could someone go? 0:03:58.160 --> 0:04:00.680 How okay and you go And we don't mean the no, 0:04:00.760 --> 0:04:03.400 we don't mean the limbo. We mean what's the bare minimum? 0:04:03.560 --> 0:04:05.800 And we were talking about a guy who he met 0:04:05.920 --> 0:04:07.840 with a chick on Hindel who knows who knows what 0:04:07.840 --> 0:04:10.560 the dating site was irrelevant, but basically he asked a 0:04:10.600 --> 0:04:13.080 girl out on an ice cream date, and her response 0:04:13.120 --> 0:04:15.000 to that was that she was very unimpressed that it 0:04:15.040 --> 0:04:17.440 was such a bare minimum date. She's like, fuck you 0:04:17.560 --> 0:04:20.520 ice cream, mare fucking hate ice cream and fun. And 0:04:20.560 --> 0:04:23.000 we kind of disagree. We thought that that wasn't necessarily 0:04:23.000 --> 0:04:25.080 a bare minimum date. And then I reflected on the 0:04:25.120 --> 0:04:26.960 fact over the last couple of days about how I 0:04:27.000 --> 0:04:28.880 dated a man whose bed was on the floor. He 0:04:28.920 --> 0:04:30.719 had no bed base, he just had a mattress and 0:04:30.760 --> 0:04:34.120 no sheets. So when we think about bed when we think. 0:04:34.040 --> 0:04:35.720 About bare minimums, I've been there. 0:04:36.000 --> 0:04:37.599 But we did the call out to you guys, and 0:04:37.640 --> 0:04:39.640 we asked, what is a date that you've been on 0:04:39.720 --> 0:04:44.560 that was truly the most unbelievable bare bones of a date, 0:04:44.600 --> 0:04:47.599 the bare minimum, And you guys came through with the goods. Okay. 0:04:47.760 --> 0:04:49.920 He invited me over for coffee, said he was really 0:04:49.920 --> 0:04:52.040 good at making it. He used an s Cafe Blend 0:04:52.160 --> 0:04:55.160 forty three instant delicious. 0:04:56.440 --> 0:04:58.080 This guy that I had been vibing for quite a 0:04:58.080 --> 0:04:59.680 while picked me up and took me out for a 0:04:59.760 --> 0:05:01.960 nice lunch. We went through Maca's drive through. 0:05:03.040 --> 0:05:04.920 I drove one point five hours and he made me 0:05:04.960 --> 0:05:08.880 bathe his sphinx cat. I don't think that's a code 0:05:08.880 --> 0:05:10.040 word for penis either. 0:05:10.760 --> 0:05:12.960 Imagine how it was though. Okay, so he said he 0:05:12.960 --> 0:05:14.599 would make a nice dinner for the two of us 0:05:14.880 --> 0:05:17.440 and chuck two muscle meals in the microwave. 0:05:18.279 --> 0:05:20.279 Oh imagine going over also. 0:05:20.360 --> 0:05:22.320 It might have been crossfitting the next day. If you're 0:05:22.320 --> 0:05:25.120 going over to someone's house and they're making you dinner 0:05:25.520 --> 0:05:27.760 and they don't put any effort into the dinner. They're 0:05:27.800 --> 0:05:29.440 just trying to get straight to the sexy times. Like 0:05:29.520 --> 0:05:31.560 if you're getting a microwave meal, you know where you 0:05:31.600 --> 0:05:33.000 stand in the grand scheme of things. 0:05:33.240 --> 0:05:35.520 We went for a one hour drive around the suburbs. 0:05:35.520 --> 0:05:37.240 No food, no walking, We just drove. 0:05:39.400 --> 0:05:41.960 He paid for his own drinks on his company card, 0:05:42.400 --> 0:05:46.360 but then asked me to pay for mine. I didn't 0:05:46.360 --> 0:05:48.280 even pay for it. To be fair, you can't claim 0:05:48.279 --> 0:05:50.719 that much alcohol on work expenses. Maybe he was just 0:05:50.720 --> 0:05:52.200 trying to do the right thing by the taxman. 0:05:52.520 --> 0:05:55.280 He booked a massage for himself. I had to wait. 0:05:57.080 --> 0:05:58.400 I don't you got a happy ending? 0:05:59.040 --> 0:06:01.520 I imagine just being Can you just sit here for 0:06:01.560 --> 0:06:03.720 an hour while I get a massage. But then does 0:06:03.720 --> 0:06:05.320 he return the favor or does he go out and 0:06:05.640 --> 0:06:08.320 spend his life also completely defeats the purpose of spending 0:06:08.320 --> 0:06:10.919 time together on a date. He took me to a 0:06:10.960 --> 0:06:13.120 Mexican restaurant he worked at so he could use his 0:06:13.160 --> 0:06:17.800 stuff discount. That's actually pretty smart. That's still a restaurant. 0:06:17.839 --> 0:06:20.039 You may as well just get a discount. He took 0:06:20.040 --> 0:06:22.760 me to Burger King after we had walked around London 0:06:22.839 --> 0:06:25.440 for a literal hour trying to find the place he 0:06:25.520 --> 0:06:29.640 knew Burgering. Is this place that I've seen You might 0:06:29.640 --> 0:06:31.320 have heard of it. There's an awesome place. I've been 0:06:31.360 --> 0:06:33.479 there before. I mean, it's on this street somewhere, like, 0:06:33.560 --> 0:06:36.400 let's find it. Here it is and it's burger King. 0:06:36.600 --> 0:06:37.600 This is the ultimate. 0:06:37.839 --> 0:06:40.720 He made me split the bill, which is usually fine, 0:06:41.120 --> 0:06:45.840 but we had a coffee. Fucking hell, who is asking 0:06:45.920 --> 0:06:48.800 for two dollars fifty? Actually these days three milk? 0:06:48.880 --> 0:06:53.239 Three dollars? Who is asking for three dollars for half 0:06:53.279 --> 0:06:54.120 a coffee? 0:06:54.560 --> 0:06:54.680 Well? 0:06:54.839 --> 0:06:57.320 Times are tough inflation with red prices. 0:06:57.360 --> 0:06:59.480 Would you pay it if your date said a three 0:06:59.560 --> 0:07:01.320 dollars e would you just laugh? 0:07:01.800 --> 0:07:04.480 Of course? I would pay it absolutely, and then I 0:07:04.520 --> 0:07:06.440 would unmatch him on every platform. 0:07:06.640 --> 0:07:09.760 I would pay and block pay, block lift to be fair. 0:07:10.680 --> 0:07:14.200 And when I reflect back on my past relationships, I 0:07:14.240 --> 0:07:16.320 probably would have given him a second date. The bar 0:07:16.520 --> 0:07:19.920 was fucking low. She would have fucked him bucks. I'd 0:07:19.920 --> 0:07:22.040 pay him three bucks for coffee that had sex with him. 0:07:22.360 --> 0:07:24.480 This is probably my favorite one. My friend went on 0:07:24.520 --> 0:07:26.360 a date where the guy asked if they could go 0:07:26.400 --> 0:07:30.320 to Woolworths because he needed to buy a belt, which 0:07:30.360 --> 0:07:32.760 is so funny because not only did he take you 0:07:32.840 --> 0:07:34.880 on a shopping date to go and get his groceries, 0:07:35.120 --> 0:07:36.800 he went to a shop that doesn't even sell belts, 0:07:36.800 --> 0:07:38.600 which makes me think that he's never actually bought his 0:07:38.640 --> 0:07:41.720 own groceries before, or belts or belts. Okay, this is 0:07:41.760 --> 0:07:42.640 not one that was written in. 0:07:42.720 --> 0:07:44.800 This was a friend and this happened on the weekend, 0:07:45.080 --> 0:07:47.080 and we'll talk about it a later date. I'm sure 0:07:47.400 --> 0:07:52.400 my friend went on a date to KMA. First date. 0:07:52.640 --> 0:07:53.320 That's not a date. 0:07:53.720 --> 0:07:55.480 They met it KMA. That's what you do on Sunday 0:07:55.520 --> 0:07:56.680 when you need to occupy your children. 0:07:56.680 --> 0:07:59.320 And they walked around and they bought something each and 0:07:59.360 --> 0:08:02.080 that was the date. Did they see each other again, like, 0:08:02.120 --> 0:08:04.040 did they have enough chemistry that they were like, Okay, 0:08:04.200 --> 0:08:05.559 let's maybe go out for dinner. 0:08:06.000 --> 0:08:09.040 Not yet, no, right, But then they went home and 0:08:09.080 --> 0:08:10.480 texted each other and were like, great date. 0:08:11.160 --> 0:08:12.960 I don't know. I don't get to the next generation. 0:08:15.640 --> 0:08:18.200 I get one of my staff so like, I mean, 0:08:18.280 --> 0:08:19.880 I feel so far out of the dating game now. 0:08:19.920 --> 0:08:22.160 But one of my staff, she's in early early twenties, 0:08:22.520 --> 0:08:23.840 and she went on a date with a guy who 0:08:23.880 --> 0:08:28.800 works in marketing recently and he he said to her, Ah, 0:08:28.920 --> 0:08:31.600 I went through your social media doesn't really have good flow. 0:08:31.760 --> 0:08:34.160 I could help you get better flow with your Instagram. 0:08:34.360 --> 0:08:36.920 I was like, on the on the date. 0:08:37.440 --> 0:08:39.600 On the date, it's grim out there. 0:08:39.640 --> 0:08:42.200 Guys. If you're in the trenches of dating, we hear 0:08:42.240 --> 0:08:45.760 you send us your horrible dating stories because we feel it. 0:08:45.920 --> 0:08:49.320 We understand the pool is small and there are not 0:08:49.360 --> 0:08:51.360 a lot of fish in that seat. I just remember 0:08:51.400 --> 0:08:52.079 I went to a date. 0:08:52.120 --> 0:08:56.440 I went on a date in London and like some 0:08:56.480 --> 0:09:00.960 people might froth this, like Ross from Friends would I 0:09:00.960 --> 0:09:02.120 went into like a dinosaur. 0:09:02.559 --> 0:09:05.160 Friends also has about one fucking brain cell between his years. 0:09:05.200 --> 0:09:08.679 He's the dumb one, right, No, he's a paleontologist one, 0:09:09.200 --> 0:09:14.000 but he loves dinosaurs. You don't know Friends? Is that Joey? 0:09:14.040 --> 0:09:17.040 I was about to say, Zoey, Oh, oh. 0:09:16.880 --> 0:09:19.480 My god, you've just you have just crushed my soul 0:09:19.520 --> 0:09:20.960 that you don't even know their names. 0:09:21.120 --> 0:09:22.840 I don't know. I don't watch Friends continue. 0:09:22.880 --> 0:09:24.480 Sorry, No, that was it. We just went to a 0:09:24.480 --> 0:09:25.360 dinosaur museum. 0:09:25.480 --> 0:09:28.080 That was my day. I went to look at a 0:09:28.080 --> 0:09:30.559 dinosaur and a picture. No, it was a pop up. 0:09:31.040 --> 0:09:33.840 It wasn't even the Natural History Museum producer Asia. It 0:09:33.880 --> 0:09:36.000 was a pop up and I had to go across 0:09:36.040 --> 0:09:39.199 the city of London because he loved dinosaurs. 0:09:38.960 --> 0:09:40.000 And I was like, you know, what do you look? 0:09:40.040 --> 0:09:42.680 Actually seems really cool and it could be cool and look, 0:09:42.720 --> 0:09:44.760 I learned something. I saw some pictures, but it wasn't 0:09:44.800 --> 0:09:46.720 the whole Natural History Museum. It was just a dinosaur 0:09:46.720 --> 0:09:48.560 pop up. I think I'd be okay with that, I 0:09:48.600 --> 0:09:51.000 reckon I would. I think I paid for entry. I 0:09:51.000 --> 0:09:53.160 think i'd pay for entry. I'd go and see a 0:09:53.160 --> 0:09:54.800 bit of a t rex and then I probably would 0:09:54.800 --> 0:09:56.040 have had sex with him. Yeah, but didn't see his 0:09:56.080 --> 0:09:58.720 t rex. I just saw a boned t rex. We alright, 0:09:58.920 --> 0:10:01.439 that was the only fossil you got that clos ah right. Well, 0:10:01.440 --> 0:10:03.120 look before we get into answering your questions, there was 0:10:03.120 --> 0:10:04.840 something very very funny that we came across and we 0:10:04.880 --> 0:10:06.559 wanted to bring it to light because we thought. 0:10:06.360 --> 0:10:08.720 That this could be live as opposed to bring it 0:10:08.720 --> 0:10:09.280 to light, we. 0:10:09.240 --> 0:10:12.920 Thought it to your life. No, we're bringing it to 0:10:13.040 --> 0:10:15.880 light because we thought this could be a really great 0:10:15.960 --> 0:10:18.520 tool for you to exercise the next time you are 0:10:18.600 --> 0:10:21.719 in a situation that you're unhappy with, that that is unfavorable, 0:10:21.880 --> 0:10:23.880 and that when you really want to tell someone that 0:10:24.040 --> 0:10:25.440 you're extremely conflict avoidant. 0:10:25.679 --> 0:10:28.280 So I've got a new taip for you now. 0:10:28.520 --> 0:10:32.440 The territory's Health Minister, Professor Lo Chung Mao, he has 0:10:32.480 --> 0:10:34.560 come out and said that they would like Hong Kong 0:10:34.679 --> 0:10:37.559 to be a tobacco and smoke free place. They would 0:10:37.679 --> 0:10:41.160 like for the lovely citizens of Hong Kong to stop smoking. 0:10:41.520 --> 0:10:43.400 And the way to go about that it's not to 0:10:43.400 --> 0:10:43.840 ban it. 0:10:44.000 --> 0:10:44.840 Oh no, don't ban it. 0:10:44.920 --> 0:10:47.600 No, No, don't put fines in place, no laws, don't 0:10:47.600 --> 0:10:50.320 please it. No. Just if you see someone light up 0:10:50.320 --> 0:10:53.040 a cigarette and you don't like it, you should all 0:10:53.080 --> 0:10:56.800 stand around them and stare at them disapprovingly. And I 0:10:56.840 --> 0:10:59.400 think one yes, is fucking hilarious to think about a 0:10:59.400 --> 0:11:01.880 group of grown people just staring at one single individual 0:11:01.920 --> 0:11:04.360 in public disapprovingly. But I think we could all exercise 0:11:04.440 --> 0:11:06.880 this in our normal day to day lives. He literally says, 0:11:07.080 --> 0:11:09.240 this is the healthiness. I suggests just to stare at 0:11:09.240 --> 0:11:12.400 them disapprovingly and don't stop staring. You continue to stare 0:11:12.600 --> 0:11:15.320 until they drop that cigarette out of their mouth. He 0:11:15.400 --> 0:11:18.640 also says the more people that stare, the better, because 0:11:18.640 --> 0:11:21.200 if it's just one starer, like if there's just one 0:11:21.200 --> 0:11:24.319 tobacco sterer, it doesn't have the same impact as twenty 0:11:24.320 --> 0:11:26.760 tobacco stairs. Now, there is something in this. 0:11:26.920 --> 0:11:28.800 Have you ever been in a position where you've done 0:11:28.840 --> 0:11:31.839 something or you're in a situation where you're feeling people 0:11:32.000 --> 0:11:33.760 look at you. It makes you just want to stop 0:11:33.760 --> 0:11:36.240 doing what you're doing at that exact moment, Like, but. 0:11:36.240 --> 0:11:38.000 I don't think I've ever been doing something that's been 0:11:38.040 --> 0:11:40.480 like socially incorrect and then had an entire group of 0:11:40.559 --> 0:11:41.920 complete strangers stare at me. 0:11:42.120 --> 0:11:44.320 Oh, when I was climbing that telegraph hoole naked and 0:11:44.320 --> 0:11:46.280 everyone was looking, I wanted to stop immediately. 0:11:46.679 --> 0:11:47.920 No, but you know what you know. 0:11:47.880 --> 0:11:49.880 What I mean, like the feeling of if one person 0:11:49.920 --> 0:11:53.320 looks at you disapprovingly on something, it's okay because you're 0:11:53.360 --> 0:11:56.720 like okay, bro, like you one person, But if there's 0:11:56.760 --> 0:11:59.600 thirty people around you, like the Hunger Game, staring down 0:11:59.600 --> 0:12:01.080 at you, I want to stop what you're doing. 0:12:01.280 --> 0:12:03.160 I just think this is the most I mean, considering 0:12:03.160 --> 0:12:05.040 that this comes from the Health Minister of Hong Kong, 0:12:05.360 --> 0:12:09.360 it feels like the most juvenile piece of advice that 0:12:09.400 --> 0:12:11.600 you could give in order to police something that you 0:12:11.640 --> 0:12:13.880 want to enact cultural change on the whole thing is 0:12:13.920 --> 0:12:16.120 that they want to culturally change the ethos around smoking 0:12:16.160 --> 0:12:18.880 within Hong Kong. It's also so passive aggressive, but he 0:12:18.960 --> 0:12:20.640 makes a very good point. He goes on to say 0:12:20.640 --> 0:12:23.480 that there are so many things that we do culturally 0:12:23.559 --> 0:12:25.480 without even thinking about it, like the rules that are 0:12:25.520 --> 0:12:27.719 not necessarily prohibited. You know you're not going to get 0:12:27.760 --> 0:12:30.760 fined for it, but we do it because it's socially acceptable. 0:12:30.800 --> 0:12:32.680 For example, like standing in line to get on the 0:12:32.679 --> 0:12:36.720 bus or doing coffee, doing things in an orderly way 0:12:36.960 --> 0:12:39.840 so that there's not just social anarchy and chaos, but 0:12:39.960 --> 0:12:41.800 nobody's made us or told us that we have to 0:12:41.800 --> 0:12:43.400 do things in this specific way. And he was like, 0:12:43.480 --> 0:12:46.280 this is how we create social regulation, and it's by 0:12:46.440 --> 0:12:49.360 being disapproving of the person who's behaving outside of that. 0:12:49.640 --> 0:12:52.200 So he's like, just stand and stare and make them 0:12:52.240 --> 0:12:53.599 feel uncomfortable. 0:12:53.160 --> 0:12:55.520 Almost like a citizen's arrest kind of thing, because he's like, 0:12:55.640 --> 0:12:57.560 if you're in the no smoking area because they have 0:12:57.640 --> 0:12:59.960 no smoking areas. If you're in a no smoking area 0:13:00.160 --> 0:13:02.959 and you can see someone lighting up, if the police 0:13:02.960 --> 0:13:05.960 can't get there in time, take matters into your own 0:13:06.000 --> 0:13:07.240 hands and stare them down. 0:13:07.320 --> 0:13:09.960 That's literally what he's saying. I would love to see 0:13:10.000 --> 0:13:12.360 if this works when the members of the public see 0:13:12.400 --> 0:13:14.840 people smoking and non smoking areas, even if no law 0:13:14.880 --> 0:13:18.199 enforcement officers show up immediately, we can stare at the smokers. 0:13:18.520 --> 0:13:20.680 Could you imagine how that would go down in Australia 0:13:20.840 --> 0:13:22.880 if you were staring at someone smoking, that'd literally be 0:13:22.880 --> 0:13:24.719 like what the fuck you look at? Yeah, like it 0:13:24.800 --> 0:13:26.520 would not Land. I think people are a little bit 0:13:26.559 --> 0:13:28.320 more orderly in Hong Kong, are a little bit more 0:13:28.360 --> 0:13:33.280 pleasant than what they are here rogue arseholes. Okay. The 0:13:33.360 --> 0:13:35.000 thing though, is I think we could exercise this in 0:13:35.000 --> 0:13:37.760 all other areas. People eating with their mouth open. Stare 0:13:37.800 --> 0:13:38.160 at them. 0:13:38.480 --> 0:13:40.800 If you're at the dog park or something and the 0:13:40.840 --> 0:13:43.520 big dog does a big shit and they don't pick 0:13:43.559 --> 0:13:46.240 it up, stare at them. Stare at them, circle around 0:13:46.280 --> 0:13:47.680 them and stare at them. 0:13:47.720 --> 0:13:48.680 That's when it would work. 0:13:48.720 --> 0:13:51.120 But also like people that walk around on loud speaker 0:13:51.160 --> 0:13:52.640 on their phone but with no headphones, you know how 0:13:52.640 --> 0:13:54.480 they hold their phone. And I'm saying this looking at 0:13:54.520 --> 0:13:56.319 Laura Becauselaura has been doing it for about two years. 0:13:56.440 --> 0:13:59.080 Also people who play loud music at the beach and 0:13:59.120 --> 0:14:00.840 they bring their own UI boom to the beach and 0:14:00.840 --> 0:14:02.800 they play music in the park. Stare at them. 0:14:02.880 --> 0:14:05.800 That's a real big, like city beach thing. I think 0:14:05.880 --> 0:14:07.560 it's not really. I don't think rural beaches are having 0:14:07.600 --> 0:14:09.560 that problems. I think it's those like Bond Night there's 0:14:09.559 --> 0:14:12.000 a boombox every two meters. There's a boombox more per 0:14:12.040 --> 0:14:13.400 capita anywhere else in the world. 0:14:13.480 --> 0:14:15.240 Maybe rural places are having it if they go to 0:14:15.280 --> 0:14:17.800 the local park, though you never know when people are 0:14:17.840 --> 0:14:19.880 out and what should be in a public area. Don't 0:14:19.880 --> 0:14:22.120 bring your own boombox. It's rude, but then don't play 0:14:22.120 --> 0:14:23.840 it around the grunde. No one wants to hear it. 0:14:25.120 --> 0:14:27.120 I love her in a grunde. Don't go and attack her. 0:14:27.200 --> 0:14:30.280 She's done nothing in this situation. No, she's fine anyway. 0:14:30.520 --> 0:14:32.480 We just think that you guys could implement this in 0:14:32.560 --> 0:14:34.480 so many other ways in your life. If there's something 0:14:34.480 --> 0:14:36.400 that you're not happy about that's happening in your life, 0:14:36.520 --> 0:14:39.480 don't address it, don't use communication, do it Hong Kong does. 0:14:39.640 --> 0:14:43.400 Just stare them down. Yeah, disapprovingly, so stupid. Alright, let's 0:14:43.400 --> 0:14:44.960 get into your vibe and unsubscribe. 0:14:45.040 --> 0:14:46.880 Kisha has been putting her hand up in the corner. 0:14:47.040 --> 0:14:49.120 She really wants to give a vibe. 0:14:49.400 --> 0:14:52.440 So, I don't know if you guys know Julia Louis Dreyfuss. 0:14:52.480 --> 0:14:55.040 She was loving in Seinfeld. She's like one of the 0:14:55.040 --> 0:14:58.280 OG's of female comedy. So she brought out a podcast 0:14:58.360 --> 0:15:00.440 a couple months ago. I think it was in like April. 0:15:00.720 --> 0:15:03.280 It's called Wiser than Me and so the concept of 0:15:03.280 --> 0:15:08.120 the podcast is that she interviews people who are usually 0:15:08.160 --> 0:15:10.200 older than her. I think everyone on there is older 0:15:10.200 --> 0:15:13.320 than her. The very first episode was with Jane Fonder. 0:15:13.760 --> 0:15:16.200 I'm such a huge fan of Jane Fonder. I kind 0:15:16.240 --> 0:15:18.800 of love everything that she acts in and that she 0:15:19.080 --> 0:15:21.920 does in her personal life. She's this massive climate activist 0:15:22.000 --> 0:15:25.160 and she's really fearless with it. But on this particular episode, 0:15:25.200 --> 0:15:28.000 I really liked how transparent she was with things that 0:15:28.040 --> 0:15:30.200 she regretted in her life. Like she gets on there 0:15:30.200 --> 0:15:32.600 and she says that she was a bad mum, but 0:15:32.720 --> 0:15:35.720 she's a good grandma, and she kind of acknowledges where 0:15:35.720 --> 0:15:38.000 she went wrong with her children and how she's changed 0:15:38.040 --> 0:15:41.000 that to be a better grandma to her grandchildren, And. 0:15:40.960 --> 0:15:44.120 Like she learned the lessons through parenting with the hindsight 0:15:44.160 --> 0:15:46.000 of parenting and how she wished she wanted to do 0:15:46.040 --> 0:15:48.120 it differently, and then being a grandma was like second 0:15:48.120 --> 0:15:50.400 time over. I feel like it's probably really common. Yeah, 0:15:50.480 --> 0:15:53.760 I mean I wonder I think, from anecdotally and subjectively 0:15:53.800 --> 0:15:57.760 from friends that I've spoken to who maybe had a 0:15:57.920 --> 0:16:00.920 challenging relationship with their mum growing up, their moms or 0:16:00.960 --> 0:16:03.200 dads have stepped up to the plate in terms of grandparenting, 0:16:03.280 --> 0:16:04.920 I think that that's something that might be more common 0:16:04.920 --> 0:16:06.120 than what we realize. 0:16:06.520 --> 0:16:09.200 She also speaks about how she regretted getting quite a 0:16:09.240 --> 0:16:10.960 lot of the work done to her face, like the 0:16:11.040 --> 0:16:14.120 whole episode, actually, the whole podcast. I've listened to a 0:16:14.120 --> 0:16:16.040 couple of episodes on there, but this was my particular 0:16:16.080 --> 0:16:17.920 favorite one, and it was the first one, so if 0:16:17.960 --> 0:16:19.640 you're going to listen to it, I would recommend going 0:16:19.640 --> 0:16:22.400 from the start. But I just loved how transparent she 0:16:22.520 --> 0:16:24.000 was about all of these things. You know, I think 0:16:24.040 --> 0:16:26.880 a lot of the time we talk about authenticity in 0:16:26.880 --> 0:16:29.800 interviews and conversations, and I think that most of the time, 0:16:30.280 --> 0:16:32.680 even when we think we're getting a very vulnerable conversation, 0:16:32.720 --> 0:16:35.680 we're probably getting ninety percent because people like to keep 0:16:35.720 --> 0:16:38.480 things to themselves for the multitude of reasons, which is 0:16:38.520 --> 0:16:39.240 completely fair. 0:16:39.760 --> 0:16:41.360 This to me felt so open. 0:16:41.440 --> 0:16:44.280 She was just like, mate, I'm old, I've got nothing 0:16:44.360 --> 0:16:45.080 left to lose. 0:16:46.040 --> 0:16:48.360 Totally true, because you don't care as much. 0:16:48.520 --> 0:16:50.600 Yeah, and I didn't actually know that her dad was 0:16:50.640 --> 0:16:53.000 an actor, and like I kind of didn't know about 0:16:53.000 --> 0:16:56.720 that preciated baby one of the ojos. But it was 0:16:56.800 --> 0:16:59.000 just such an interesting conversation. So yeah, that's my vibe 0:16:59.000 --> 0:17:01.640 of the week. Wiser than Me by Juliet Louis Dreyfuss, 0:17:01.680 --> 0:17:05.240 who you would know as a lane from Seinfeld on wherever. 0:17:04.920 --> 0:17:07.120 You listen to your podcasts, I put out a vibe 0:17:07.119 --> 0:17:10.400 and unsubscribe in the podcast group, like in our Facebook group. 0:17:10.240 --> 0:17:12.479 Lifeun Cut Discussion Group if you're not a part of it, 0:17:12.800 --> 0:17:13.160