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Speaker 1: Welcome to them, Christian No Common Show podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hey, thank you very much for downloading this very special podcast.

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Speaker 2: So on the show. Then, over the last sort of week,

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Speaker 2: we've been getting these amazing stories and honoring these amazing

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Speaker 2: stories from people who've been going through cancer and have

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Speaker 2: come the other side of it, and there's stories of hope.

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Speaker 2: That's why we wanted to do this, and we did

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Speaker 2: it also with the Cancer Counsel of Victoria. We're very

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Speaker 2: proud to do anything for after the alarming stat that

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Speaker 2: one in two of us will be diagnosed with cancer

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Speaker 2: before eighty five. So let's change our chances. Donate to

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Speaker 2: Cancer Counsel Victoria and find life saving cancer research. So

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Speaker 2: I want to put all these amazing stories together because

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Speaker 2: actually listening to them all day by day, all this

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Speaker 2: the journey that they went on, there's so much actually

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Speaker 2: for us to learn. I got a sense of gratitude

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Speaker 2: listening to them every single day. It started Monday with

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Speaker 2: our Patsy from the show sharing her story.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I was diagnosed seven and a half years ago

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Speaker 3: with kidney cancer, which hit me for six Strangely enough,

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Speaker 3: my eldest brother was diagnosed exactly twelve months earlier. They

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Speaker 3: don't really know. Latest sort of thoughts are that it's

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Speaker 3: not necessarily genetic. It might be just a freak thing,

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Speaker 3: or maybe we've been exposed to something younger in life.

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Speaker 3: That's irrelevant. He was diagnosed before me, though. So how

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Speaker 3: my story came about was, you know, I was forty three,

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Speaker 3: I had a toddler at home, Audrey was three. You know,

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Speaker 3: I was a busy mum. You know Jack spoke before

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Speaker 3: about Bianca. You guys are going through that period where

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Speaker 3: everything's crazy. You've got you know, you've got a new

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Speaker 3: blown Yeah, it's just like it's like a marathon getting

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Speaker 3: to the end of each week. And that's the phase

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Speaker 3: we were in. We're also in this beautiful, happy bubble

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Speaker 3: of our little home. You know, we'd fought five years

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Speaker 3: to get Audrey and she was finally here and this

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Speaker 3: was just and it still is just our nirvana. She

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Speaker 3: was finally here, and you know, we'd strive to be parents,

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Speaker 3: and you know, life was busy. We were both working.

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Speaker 3: I was back doing Brecky radio. Life was busy, but

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Speaker 3: it was how it was meant to be. You know,

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Speaker 3: when you have a child, it's like, finally, this is

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Speaker 3: exactly what I was put on this planet to do,

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Speaker 3: so that was the picture. But I felt like I

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Speaker 3: had a kidney infection. And you know, when you're a

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Speaker 3: busy parent, you often put yourself last. You know, you

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Speaker 3: might put off going to the loo as often as

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Speaker 3: you sure because you're busy. It's just how it is

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Speaker 3: and I really felt rotten. So I rang my GP.

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Speaker 3: Had a brilliant GP, and he said, look, come in.

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Speaker 3: I'm sure you've got an infection. So he said, I'll

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Speaker 3: put you on some antibiotics. Put me on those. Two

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Speaker 3: days later, I felt worse and I just read one

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Speaker 3: of my I think it was like my eight o'clock bulletin.

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Speaker 3: Here went to the bathroom. I don't want to be graphic,

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Speaker 3: but I was peeing blood basically, and I thought, oh,

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Speaker 3: I don't think that's right. My parents had a history

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Speaker 3: to have kidney stones in the families. So I thought,

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Speaker 3: I've got to go back to the GP. So I

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Speaker 3: just mention my brother had kidney cancer a year ago.

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Speaker 3: I know that's probably totally irrelevant to me. And he said,

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Speaker 3: which I doubt there is, it'll show up, but you'll

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Speaker 3: for a few days. It's like I had a sense

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Speaker 3: I've spoken on here before, but I had a sense

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Speaker 3: before that something was wrong. I just had this foreboding

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Speaker 3: prepare you for a cancer diagnosis. You know, cancer wasn't

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Speaker 3: My mother and law had passed away from bow cancer

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Speaker 3: when Chris and I met. You know, everyone's got a story,

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Speaker 3: but for me, I was really you can't. Everyone's story

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Speaker 3: I really wanted to keep it in house, so I

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Speaker 3: didn't tell a lot of people. It was just our

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Speaker 2: You know, one of my friends who went through cancer

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Speaker 2: similar to age to us Patsy, and he didn't tell

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Speaker 2: You know he's got cancer. He said he still wanted

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Speaker 2: and it was taken up every single conversation. He still

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you don't want to be defined by it. That

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Speaker 2: Because we all know how it works out far with.

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Speaker 3: People, and you think cancer, you know, you know what

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Speaker 3: my initial thought was when they told me. I thought,

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Speaker 3: But I thought, oh my god, I'm not going to

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Speaker 3: But for me, it was five year old school. It's like,

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Speaker 3: my god, I've gone through so much to get this child.

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Speaker 3: you know Chris is here's my rock. He just he

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Speaker 3: makes sense of everything. He knows me better than I

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Speaker 3: My other support network was my brother Carl, who'd gone

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