Speaker 1: Laura, come on.
Speaker 2: Friday, feeling my favorite time of the week.
Speaker 3: Yeay, welcome to pick up everyone and heading to Chempus
Speaker 3: swear house today. Great savings every day Britain, Laura, have
Speaker 3: we all at one point in our lives? We're all
Speaker 3: in a relationship at the moment, all three of us.
Speaker 3: Have we been on the apps?
Speaker 1: The dating apps that a sink Jo Brittany is the
Speaker 1: dating app I have iris.
Speaker 2: My thumbs listen.
Speaker 3: The reason I ask all this is because today on
Speaker 3: the show, we have Tinder's most swiped man.
Speaker 1: Yeah, fourteen thousand, six hundred right swipes, the most wipe
Speaker 1: man in the whole world, which I would I want
Speaker 1: to know, Like, what is so good about your bio
Speaker 1: that is making every single woman swipe?
Speaker 2: Yes? I reckon, I reckon. His radius is just open,
Speaker 2: like one hundred million, fourteen thousand swifes sounds. It gives
Speaker 2: me anxiety.
Speaker 3: We'll be the judge. He's joining us and it's on zoom,
Speaker 3: so we'll actually get to see what he looks like,
Speaker 3: which is the best part.
Speaker 2: Okay, Well, I need to get your opinion on something
Speaker 2: because I'm currently in a little bit of an argument,
Speaker 2: not really like a soft argument, gentle argument with Matt
Speaker 2: about parenting. This is the first time that we have
Speaker 2: not seen eye to eye on what's the best approach
Speaker 2: in terms of building resilience in kings or I can't
Speaker 2: even keep my plant alive. You're talking to the wrong
Speaker 2: people for parenting. Well, I need some help, she is.
Speaker 3: You might be on the app sooner than we think. No,
Speaker 3: that's a big debate. We'll have it next on the pickup. Plus,
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Speaker 2: Guys, I'm gonna fight with my darling husband at the
Speaker 2: moment now it's not really a fight, but very recently
Speaker 2: Matt has decided that he wants to teach Mally May.
Speaker 2: She's three and a half, she's always four. She's very
Speaker 2: good at swimming, she's very good at balancing. Matt wants
Speaker 2: to teach her how to surf because he's a surfer.
Speaker 2: It's something he loves doing, and he's always envisaged that
Speaker 2: he would have kids who can serve so they can
Speaker 2: go together.
Speaker 1: You live on the beach, so it makes sense.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, okay, So we went to the beach. Matt
Speaker 2: took Mollie May down to the ocean edge. She was
Speaker 2: so excited about it. He had this one, like you
Speaker 2: know those really massive boards that literally a hippopotamus could
Speaker 2: stand on top of it and it wouldn't go under
Speaker 2: get a male, Yeah, like a big board, so it
Speaker 2: was really safe for her. She had a vest on
Speaker 2: and everything. Anyway, we get down there and she gives
Speaker 2: it one try and obviously couldn't do it, because who
Speaker 2: the hell can stand up on the first try of serving,
Speaker 2: especially when you're four. She went from absolutely loving it,
Speaker 2: being so excited to hate it, like she did not
Speaker 2: want to do it. She was scream him. She was like,
Speaker 2: I'm not I don't want to do this anymore. And
Speaker 2: Matt I got really emotional because I was like, let's
Speaker 2: just stop. If she doesn't want to do it, let's stop.
Speaker 2: There's no need to force her into doing something that
Speaker 2: she doesn't want to do. Now, the argument that Matt
Speaker 2: and I got into was I very much approached our
Speaker 2: parenting style as like gentle parenting. If the kids don't
Speaker 2: want to do something, we're just that's fine, they don't
Speaker 2: have to do it. And Matt turned around and said,
Speaker 2: at what point do we make them do something that
Speaker 2: they don't want to do Because it's resilient building, they'll
Speaker 2: get better at it, they'll learn how to do something,
Speaker 2: and then they'll enjoy it. And now we're at a
Speaker 2: bit of lockerheads about this because I don't I don't know.
Speaker 2: I don't think that we should make them if they
Speaker 2: don't want to do something. And Matt's like, well, what
Speaker 2: what about when they don't want to go to school?
Speaker 2: We're gonna let her cry and then say she doesn't
Speaker 2: want to go to school.
Speaker 1: Well, I'm not a parent neither, as michituary, but I
Speaker 1: did have to just google gentle parenting because it's actually
Speaker 1: a thing. It's a it's a form of positive parenting
Speaker 1: that emphasizes understanding in child's behavior through empathy and respect,
Speaker 1: giving choices versus commands, and responding in a way that
Speaker 1: considers a child's intellectual and development levels. So it's it's
Speaker 1: literally sounds like it's just letting the child do what
Speaker 1: they want. No, it's not completely letting a child do
Speaker 1: what they want, but you don't. You have to when
Speaker 1: they're upset about the validate the therap set.
Speaker 2: You listen to it. But the thing is is that
Speaker 2: every so often there's gonna be things that you kind
Speaker 2: of have to make them do. I ego to school surfing.
Speaker 2: I think, pick your battles. We don't need to make
Speaker 2: her surf. But I guess the thing with kids is
Speaker 2: like they're never gonna like something when they first start
Speaker 2: doing it if they're no good at it. And then
Speaker 2: you try and then you get a little bit better
Speaker 2: at it, and it's as you start to develop your
Speaker 2: skills that then you actually really enjoy something. And Matt's
Speaker 2: mentality was like, well, I didn't enjoy surfing when I
Speaker 2: started because I was terrible at it, and then as
Speaker 2: soon as I got good, I loved it.
Speaker 1: My parents made me do things, but only to a
Speaker 1: They made me do it for X amount of weeks
Speaker 1: or time and then I could decide. And I think
Speaker 1: that's why. So I did like I did martial arts,
Speaker 1: and I did I did surfing. I did loads of stuff,
Speaker 1: a lot of boy sports, surf life saving, but they
Speaker 1: were always like Dad was like, you need to do
Speaker 1: surf life saving for two months, and then if you
Speaker 1: don't want to do it anymore, you don't have to.
Speaker 1: But the idea was I'd learn to swim, I'd learn
Speaker 1: to save my life, and then if I didn't want
Speaker 1: to do it, and I quite I dropped out.
Speaker 2: I hated surf life saving, so I stopped straight away.
Speaker 1: But the idea is you do it for long enough
Speaker 1: to get semi good at it, and then you can
Speaker 1: decide what you want to do. Because like you just said,
Speaker 1: she's never got a love surfing. And I think, honestly,
Speaker 1: kids are wrapped in cotton wool these days, that is
Speaker 1: what I think. I think kids are giving too much
Speaker 1: leeway to do whatever the hell they want. They speak rudely, now,
Speaker 1: they argue, they don't they feel like they're way more entitled.
Speaker 1: I don't think there's anything wrong with giving a child
Speaker 1: who's literally learning about the world some direction and some
Speaker 1: guidance and saying, you know what.
Speaker 3: I'm the parent.
Speaker 1: We do what I want to do, not what you
Speaker 1: want to do because you're kicking in.
Speaker 3: Scrabb I had friends growing up that had a Brittany
Speaker 3: Hockley for a mum, and I was terrified to go
Speaker 3: over because I got missus smith, can I have a snack?
Speaker 3: And she'd go, weat bits with no milk. I don't
Speaker 3: care if you're.
Speaker 2: Child milk, that's not me.
Speaker 4: No.
Speaker 1: I just don't think the child should should be the
Speaker 1: one dictating life to the parents.
Speaker 2: That's all I think.
Speaker 1: And I might change when i'm a parent, I will
Speaker 1: say that, but for now, I think, put the kids outside,
Speaker 1: let them play, you tell them when they go to school,
Speaker 1: you tell them wh it's time to eat dinner or.
Speaker 3: This is classic non parent. I'm just saying I'm staying
Speaker 3: neutral in this film.
Speaker 2: You Switzerland, I think like, where's the line. Where's the
Speaker 2: line between like acknowledging and accepting that kids have their
Speaker 2: own boundaries and they don't want to do things, and
Speaker 2: then also being like I don't care you're doing it.
Speaker 3: Nah.
Speaker 1: I think it's in this particular case. I don't think
Speaker 1: that if she's literally having a band in his dad,
Speaker 1: I don't think you drag her back out there and
Speaker 1: make her do it. But I think you say, let's
Speaker 1: try it again tomorrow. I think if she's actually hyperventilating,
Speaker 1: you don't.
Speaker 2: Oh my god. Let me be clear. The kids not
Speaker 2: Matt to not like get on their surfboard or don't
Speaker 2: come home.
Speaker 3: Structure to it.
Speaker 2: Just like I think I just cave too early. I like,
Speaker 2: as soon as they cry about anything, I'm like, let's
Speaker 2: not make them do it. But to be honest, the
Speaker 2: only thing my kids want to do is sit at
Speaker 2: home and iPad.
Speaker 3: Yeah, of course, right, every kid wants to do that.
Speaker 3: Even I want to do that the same. You can't
Speaker 3: wait for the day Britt has kids. We all turn
Speaker 3: up and they're laying bricks and making Rabioli Lily No,
Speaker 3: you laugh, you laugh, Knitty, and you're all going to say,
Speaker 3: I wish I was more life. Britt, we walk in
Speaker 3: there was all right, everybody. Next on the show, if
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Speaker 4: Now.
Speaker 1: It's no secret that I was single for a very
Speaker 1: long time, a solid decade. I was on the app
Speaker 1: swiping left, right and senate. I came across a lot
Speaker 1: of people in that time. One person did not come
Speaker 1: across is a man by the name.
Speaker 2: Of Stephan Pierre Tomlin. He's thirty two.
Speaker 1: He is the most swiped person in the world on Tinder.
Speaker 1: That was in twenty seventeen, fourteen thousand, six hundred right swipes.
Speaker 1: I want to know how the hell someone does that,
Speaker 1: so I decided to call him.
Speaker 3: He's in London, Hy, Pierre Stefan. How are you?
Speaker 4: Yeah? Really well, thanks thanks for having me guys.
Speaker 2: I need to know how on earth is it even
Speaker 2: remotely possible to have fourteen thousand matches?
Speaker 3: Like?
Speaker 2: How much time do you spend on Tinder in order
Speaker 2: to rack up that many swipes?
Speaker 4: Do you know what? Yeah? Obviously it became in a
Speaker 4: bit of a game for me at the time. I
Speaker 4: spent probably about two hours a day wow on Tinder
Speaker 4: back in twenty seventeen.
Speaker 3: Wow, Stephan Pierre, I need to know people in the
Speaker 3: car would be thinking what the hell does this guy
Speaker 3: look like? Because to get that many right swipes right
Speaker 3: froo to one on the apps, right is yes, left
Speaker 3: is no. So I mean, how tall are you? Do
Speaker 3: you want to? I mean, you're handsome, You've got beautiful,
Speaker 3: beautiful eyes, white teeth.
Speaker 4: I'm currently well, I'm six foot two and a half.
Speaker 4: I've been a fashion model for six and a half, sorry,
Speaker 4: thirteen years. Signed. I've worked with some big brands like
Speaker 4: D Squared, DORMONI, Berbery.
Speaker 1: Let us know what your profile is like because you've
Speaker 1: i mean fourteen thousand, six hundred people swipe right, so
Speaker 1: give us some tips. What are your picks like and
Speaker 1: what you buy?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 4: Yeah, So the first picture was a professional one is
Speaker 4: a portrait photo of myself. The bio is quite snappy.
Speaker 4: I think I had a little joke in there. The
Speaker 4: pictures have to be really used to be careful not
Speaker 4: to have your friends in the pictures because then it
Speaker 4: becomes a game of like where's Wally? And if we've
Speaker 4: got hobbies as well, so mine's flying. So I had
Speaker 4: quite a few pictures of me flying as well, and
Speaker 4: then you sort of attract people into aviation. But I mean,
Speaker 4: if you're like into horse riding, then it's always recommended
Speaker 4: to put a picture of your hobby in as well.
Speaker 4: Always helps.
Speaker 2: So in order to go through the many swipes and matches,
Speaker 2: did you have your like parameters set to everything? Were
Speaker 2: you like you can be up to a hundred and
Speaker 2: live in Spain?
Speaker 3: Like?
Speaker 2: What was your parameters for dating? Were they very wide
Speaker 2: or was it narrow?
Speaker 4: Yeah? They were quite wide. Actually, I think at that
Speaker 4: time I was probably eighteen, not to forty five?
Speaker 2: Forty five?
Speaker 4: And how old were forty five?
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's a widemit.
Speaker 4: I'm actually helping unfortunate men. So I'm using AI chatpt
Speaker 4: and some special AI prompts. We basically ask them for
Speaker 4: photos and we put them through. We put them through
Speaker 4: the software and it makes about forty to forty five
Speaker 4: AI generated pictures and so it helps with Some people
Speaker 4: say catfishing, but I don't think it is. It's just yeah,
Speaker 4: it's just being ahead of the game.
Speaker 1: Really, but it's changing their picture.
Speaker 2: How much does it change?
Speaker 4: But if you compare it in comparison to like in
Speaker 4: the past, then I was swiping. There was a lot
Speaker 4: of girls that use filters, right.
Speaker 3: Oh I get his No, I get his porn. Yeah. Girls, yeah,
Speaker 3: and guys yeah, I mean.
Speaker 4: Those filters attracting a certain type of guy, right that
Speaker 4: that that's exactly the same thing.
Speaker 1: Don't you feel like you Yeah, you turned up and
Speaker 1: you were like, hey, you tricked me with your filters.
Speaker 1: Don't you think you're tricking people now with my band filters?
Speaker 4: Well? Yeah, yeah, I kind of felt like that at
Speaker 4: some stage. By at the end of the day, you
Speaker 4: still bag the date.
Speaker 2: In the door.
Speaker 3: There he is, mister Tinder, Tinder's most white man's to find.
Speaker 3: Pierre Tomlin. All right, coming up next on the show,
Speaker 3: have you reconnected with a long lost sibling? That's what
Speaker 3: we're after. Have you not grown up lived your life
Speaker 3: not knowing you have family out there in the world,
Speaker 3: only to discover they've been there the whole time. That
Speaker 3: is what we're after, and we'll unpacket next to the pickup.
Speaker 3: It's the pick up Friday afternoon, Britt, Laura and Mitch.
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Speaker 3: to put the call out thirteen one oh six five.
Speaker 3: This might seem weird, girls, but go with me. Have
Speaker 3: you been reconnected with a long lost family member?
Speaker 2: Is this the show you've been talking about?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm one of those annoying people that like, find
Speaker 3: a new show and I get hooked and I tell
Speaker 3: everyone in my life about it. It's on Stan I mean,
Speaker 3: everyone has stand but it's called Sisters with the Capitalist.
Speaker 3: I got a little bit of the trailer to play
Speaker 3: for you because it is. It's so good, and it's
Speaker 3: essentially that.
Speaker 1: Imagine that your dad died, and then that your mom died.
Speaker 2: Something I need to tell you about your father, And.
Speaker 3: Then if you found out that if you had a
Speaker 3: dad and he lived across the world, wouldn't you at
Speaker 3: least want to meet him?
Speaker 2: Well, that's my father's when that there is what? I
Speaker 2: have a sister, my sister.
Speaker 1: Right, and you're a Jewish singer something Jewish business or
Speaker 1: go on?
Speaker 2: Could you imagine growing up thinking, like thinking your whole
Speaker 2: identity is wrapped up in this one thing, and then
Speaker 2: finding out as an adult that actually, you know, you
Speaker 2: have a sister, or your dad is still alive or something.
Speaker 2: Do you know what someone in my life. I don't
Speaker 2: want to out who it is exactly. That they found
Speaker 2: out when they were an adult that their mother was
Speaker 2: actually their sister and their grandmother was actually their mother.
Speaker 2: WHOA isn't that messed up?
Speaker 1: My friend found out as well, but their dad wasn't
Speaker 1: their dad and they had another dad out there. Then
Speaker 1: they had to go find the real dad.
Speaker 3: This happens more of.
Speaker 2: Who keeping these skeleton?
Speaker 4: Why are you.
Speaker 2: Lying you well?
Speaker 3: Producer Tony said, she's got someone Natalie's joining us? Is
Speaker 3: this right? Natalie's on thirteen one O six five. Hi Natalie?
Speaker 3: Did you reconnect with a family member that went walkabouts?
Speaker 5: So? I was doing family history for my partner at
Speaker 5: the time, and I found an army record for his
Speaker 5: grandfather and found a marriage on there that we didn't
Speaker 5: know about, and a child that we weren't that we
Speaker 5: hadn't heard of. And so it was his mother's my
Speaker 5: partner's mother's half sister that we found. So I pretty
Speaker 5: much used ancestry to find their marriage records and the
Speaker 5: births of her children and tracked them down on Facebook.
Speaker 2: Did you meet them in real life or did you
Speaker 2: just connect with them on Facebook?
Speaker 5: We well, they lived in England, so we about eighteen
Speaker 5: months after we got in touch with them, we flew
Speaker 5: over to England with my mother in law and we
Speaker 5: went and met them.
Speaker 1: So sorry, just I feel like I missed the connection there.
Speaker 1: Who are the family members that you discovered?
Speaker 5: It was my mother in law's half sister.
Speaker 2: Oh wow, So and what's their relationship like?
Speaker 1: Now?
Speaker 2: Are they friends? Are they keep in contact?
Speaker 5: Well, she was my mother in law's half sister was
Speaker 5: terminal with cancer, so she actually passed away about twelve
Speaker 5: months after we went to England to meet her.
Speaker 3: Beautiful to have that experience though.
Speaker 5: Yeah, she was such a lovely lady and her children
Speaker 5: really reached out and saying to me, they said that
Speaker 5: the reason she held on for so long was because
Speaker 5: of she got to meet her half sisters and they
Speaker 5: were part of her life. They would talk every day.
Speaker 3: So wow, it was really wetly. So you're saying the
Speaker 3: mother in law was sixty seven when she found out.
Speaker 5: Yeah, she was about sixty seven and her half sister
Speaker 5: was in her mid seventies.
Speaker 1: It's like beautiful that they met and they you know,
Speaker 1: got that time together. But much sixty seven years to
Speaker 1: be like, oh my god, there's I have another family.
Speaker 3: But I was like half class full. At least she
Speaker 3: got to have that experience before she passed away. That's
Speaker 3: amazing exactly.
Speaker 2: Yeah, to catch up on where I, well, do you
Speaker 2: know about the marriage? Like, did no one know that
Speaker 2: that marriage existed or that he had another relationship prior?
Speaker 5: No, So we only had an inkling about it when
Speaker 5: we applied for our British passports and my husband, my
Speaker 5: partner at the time, had to get his mother's birth
Speaker 5: certificate and we realized that her parents weren't married when
Speaker 5: she was born, which was a surprise to her. And
Speaker 5: it was only a little bit more digging that we
Speaker 5: did that we found that he had been married previously,
Speaker 5: so we think they never got divorced and that's why
Speaker 5: he couldn't remarry.
Speaker 2: Now, I wonder if she even knew, Like you hear
Speaker 2: these family secrets and family stories and you're like, who
Speaker 2: knew and who was who was kind of kept in
Speaker 2: the dark with all this.
Speaker 3: I wonder that's.
Speaker 5: Instant there was a half sister knew that her father
Speaker 5: had had a son, but didn't know about her half
Speaker 5: sisters and obviously didn't know any names. Or anything. So
Speaker 5: she lived a whole life knowing she had a half
Speaker 5: brother out there.
Speaker 1: I reckon there's a lot of people out there in
Speaker 1: this situation, you know, I reckon a lot of people
Speaker 1: have long lost siblings.
Speaker 3: DMS at the pickup if something like this has happened
Speaker 3: to you, because these are so interesting.
Speaker 2: I think it's harder and harder though now because now
Speaker 2: with like the Internet and Facebook and everything else, things
Speaker 2: are an ancestry ancestry dot com. People can't have double
Speaker 2: lives and separate families. People.
Speaker 3: I don't trust humans the dms. This could be a
Speaker 3: good investigative series for us. We could picture to sixty minutes. Anyway,
Speaker 3: I'm getting aead of myself. You need to go and
Speaker 3: watch Sisters on Stand. It's phenomenal. So just go and
Speaker 3: watch that. This afternoon. We will be back and Will
Speaker 3: and Wood you are up next
Speaker 2: To Hey, you guys, have a good afternoon, My guys,