WEBVTT - FULLSHOW! Is Laura too soft on her kids?

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<v Speaker 1>Laura, come on.

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<v Speaker 2>Friday, feeling my favorite time of the week.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeay, welcome to pick up everyone and heading to Chempus

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<v Speaker 3>swear house today. Great savings every day Britain, Laura, have

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<v Speaker 3>we all at one point in our lives? We're all

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<v Speaker 3>in a relationship at the moment, all three of us.

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<v Speaker 3>Have we been on the apps?

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<v Speaker 1>The dating apps that a sink Jo Brittany is the

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<v Speaker 1>dating app I have iris.

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<v Speaker 2>My thumbs listen.

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<v Speaker 3>The reason I ask all this is because today on

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<v Speaker 3>the show, we have Tinder's most swiped man.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, fourteen thousand, six hundred right swipes, the most wipe

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<v Speaker 1>man in the whole world, which I would I want

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<v Speaker 1>to know, Like, what is so good about your bio

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<v Speaker 1>that is making every single woman swipe?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes? I reckon, I reckon. His radius is just open,

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<v Speaker 2>like one hundred million, fourteen thousand swifes sounds. It gives

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<v Speaker 2>me anxiety.

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<v Speaker 3>We'll be the judge. He's joining us and it's on zoom,

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<v Speaker 3>so we'll actually get to see what he looks like,

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<v Speaker 3>which is the best part.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, Well, I need to get your opinion on something

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<v Speaker 2>because I'm currently in a little bit of an argument,

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<v Speaker 2>not really like a soft argument, gentle argument with Matt

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<v Speaker 2>about parenting. This is the first time that we have

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<v Speaker 2>not seen eye to eye on what's the best approach

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<v Speaker 2>in terms of building resilience in kings or I can't

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<v Speaker 2>even keep my plant alive. You're talking to the wrong

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<v Speaker 2>people for parenting. Well, I need some help, she is.

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<v Speaker 3>You might be on the app sooner than we think. No,

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<v Speaker 3>that's a big debate. We'll have it next on the pickup. Plus,

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<v Speaker 3>don't forget if you want to fly to the UK

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<v Speaker 3>for the King's Coronation. We've got your tickets to go

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<v Speaker 3>pick up Friday afternoon around the country. Britt, Laura, Mitch,

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<v Speaker 3>we're all here bit a role call here, present, present,

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<v Speaker 2>Guys, I'm gonna fight with my darling husband at the

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<v Speaker 2>moment now it's not really a fight, but very recently

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<v Speaker 2>Matt has decided that he wants to teach Mally May.

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<v Speaker 2>She's three and a half, she's always four. She's very

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<v Speaker 2>good at swimming, she's very good at balancing. Matt wants

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<v Speaker 2>to teach her how to surf because he's a surfer.

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<v Speaker 2>It's something he loves doing, and he's always envisaged that

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<v Speaker 2>he would have kids who can serve so they can

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<v Speaker 2>go together.

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<v Speaker 1>You live on the beach, so it makes sense.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, okay, So we went to the beach. Matt

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<v Speaker 2>took Mollie May down to the ocean edge. She was

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<v Speaker 2>so excited about it. He had this one, like you

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<v Speaker 2>know those really massive boards that literally a hippopotamus could

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<v Speaker 2>stand on top of it and it wouldn't go under

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<v Speaker 2>get a male, Yeah, like a big board, so it

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<v Speaker 2>was really safe for her. She had a vest on

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<v Speaker 2>and everything. Anyway, we get down there and she gives

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<v Speaker 2>it one try and obviously couldn't do it, because who

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<v Speaker 2>the hell can stand up on the first try of serving,

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<v Speaker 2>especially when you're four. She went from absolutely loving it,

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<v Speaker 2>being so excited to hate it, like she did not

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<v Speaker 2>want to do it. She was scream him. She was like,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not I don't want to do this anymore. And

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<v Speaker 2>Matt I got really emotional because I was like, let's

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<v Speaker 2>just stop. If she doesn't want to do it, let's stop.

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<v Speaker 2>There's no need to force her into doing something that

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<v Speaker 2>she doesn't want to do. Now, the argument that Matt

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<v Speaker 2>and I got into was I very much approached our

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<v Speaker 2>parenting style as like gentle parenting. If the kids don't

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<v Speaker 2>want to do something, we're just that's fine, they don't

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<v Speaker 2>have to do it. And Matt turned around and said,

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<v Speaker 2>at what point do we make them do something that

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<v Speaker 2>they don't want to do Because it's resilient building, they'll

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<v Speaker 2>get better at it, they'll learn how to do something,

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<v Speaker 2>and then they'll enjoy it. And now we're at a

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<v Speaker 2>bit of lockerheads about this because I don't I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think that we should make them if they

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<v Speaker 2>don't want to do something. And Matt's like, well, what

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<v Speaker 2>what about when they don't want to go to school?

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<v Speaker 2>We're gonna let her cry and then say she doesn't

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<v Speaker 2>want to go to school.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I'm not a parent neither, as michituary, but I

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<v Speaker 1>did have to just google gentle parenting because it's actually

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<v Speaker 1>a thing. It's a it's a form of positive parenting

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<v Speaker 1>that emphasizes understanding in child's behavior through empathy and respect,

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<v Speaker 1>giving choices versus commands, and responding in a way that

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<v Speaker 1>considers a child's intellectual and development levels. So it's it's

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<v Speaker 1>literally sounds like it's just letting the child do what

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<v Speaker 1>they want. No, it's not completely letting a child do

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<v Speaker 1>what they want, but you don't. You have to when

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<v Speaker 1>they're upset about the validate the therap set.

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<v Speaker 2>You listen to it. But the thing is is that

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<v Speaker 2>every so often there's gonna be things that you kind

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<v Speaker 2>of have to make them do. I ego to school surfing.

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<v Speaker 2>I think, pick your battles. We don't need to make

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<v Speaker 2>her surf. But I guess the thing with kids is

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<v Speaker 2>like they're never gonna like something when they first start

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<v Speaker 2>doing it if they're no good at it. And then

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<v Speaker 2>you try and then you get a little bit better

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<v Speaker 2>at it, and it's as you start to develop your

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<v Speaker 2>skills that then you actually really enjoy something. And Matt's

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<v Speaker 2>mentality was like, well, I didn't enjoy surfing when I

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<v Speaker 2>started because I was terrible at it, and then as

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<v Speaker 2>soon as I got good, I loved it.

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<v Speaker 1>My parents made me do things, but only to a

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<v Speaker 1>They made me do it for X amount of weeks

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<v Speaker 1>or time and then I could decide. And I think

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<v Speaker 1>that's why. So I did like I did martial arts,

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<v Speaker 1>and I did I did surfing. I did loads of stuff,

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of boy sports, surf life saving, but they

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<v Speaker 1>were always like Dad was like, you need to do

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<v Speaker 1>surf life saving for two months, and then if you

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to do it anymore, you don't have to.

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<v Speaker 1>But the idea was I'd learn to swim, I'd learn

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<v Speaker 1>to save my life, and then if I didn't want

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<v Speaker 1>to do it, and I quite I dropped out.

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<v Speaker 2>I hated surf life saving, so I stopped straight away.

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<v Speaker 1>But the idea is you do it for long enough

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<v Speaker 1>to get semi good at it, and then you can

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<v Speaker 1>decide what you want to do. Because like you just said,

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<v Speaker 1>she's never got a love surfing. And I think, honestly,

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<v Speaker 1>kids are wrapped in cotton wool these days, that is

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<v Speaker 1>what I think. I think kids are giving too much

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<v Speaker 1>leeway to do whatever the hell they want. They speak rudely, now,

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<v Speaker 1>they argue, they don't they feel like they're way more entitled.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think there's anything wrong with giving a child

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<v Speaker 1>who's literally learning about the world some direction and some

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<v Speaker 1>guidance and saying, you know what.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm the parent.

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<v Speaker 1>We do what I want to do, not what you

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<v Speaker 1>want to do because you're kicking in.

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<v Speaker 3>Scrabb I had friends growing up that had a Brittany

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<v Speaker 3>Hockley for a mum, and I was terrified to go

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<v Speaker 3>over because I got missus smith, can I have a snack?

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<v Speaker 3>And she'd go, weat bits with no milk. I don't

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<v Speaker 3>care if you're.

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<v Speaker 2>Child milk, that's not me.

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<v Speaker 4>No.

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<v Speaker 1>I just don't think the child should should be the

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<v Speaker 1>one dictating life to the parents.

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<v Speaker 2>That's all I think.

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<v Speaker 1>And I might change when i'm a parent, I will

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<v Speaker 1>say that, but for now, I think, put the kids outside,

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<v Speaker 1>let them play, you tell them when they go to school,

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<v Speaker 1>you tell them wh it's time to eat dinner or.

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<v Speaker 3>This is classic non parent. I'm just saying I'm staying

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<v Speaker 3>neutral in this film.

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<v Speaker 2>You Switzerland, I think like, where's the line. Where's the

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<v Speaker 2>line between like acknowledging and accepting that kids have their

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<v Speaker 2>own boundaries and they don't want to do things, and

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<v Speaker 2>then also being like I don't care you're doing it.

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<v Speaker 3>Nah.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's in this particular case. I don't think

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<v Speaker 1>that if she's literally having a band in his dad,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think you drag her back out there and

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<v Speaker 1>make her do it. But I think you say, let's

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<v Speaker 1>try it again tomorrow. I think if she's actually hyperventilating,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god. Let me be clear. The kids not

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<v Speaker 2>Matt to not like get on their surfboard or don't

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<v Speaker 2>come home.

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<v Speaker 3>Structure to it.

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<v Speaker 2>Just like I think I just cave too early. I like,

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<v Speaker 2>as soon as they cry about anything, I'm like, let's

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<v Speaker 2>not make them do it. But to be honest, the

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<v Speaker 2>only thing my kids want to do is sit at

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<v Speaker 2>home and iPad.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, of course, right, every kid wants to do that.

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<v Speaker 3>Even I want to do that the same. You can't

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<v Speaker 3>wait for the day Britt has kids. We all turn

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<v Speaker 3>up and they're laying bricks and making Rabioli Lily No,

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<v Speaker 3>you laugh, you laugh, Knitty, and you're all going to say,

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<v Speaker 3>I wish I was more life. Britt, we walk in

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<v Speaker 3>there was all right, everybody. Next on the show, if

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<v Speaker 3>you'd like to go to London to see the King's coronation,

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<v Speaker 3>we've got your tickets to win him. Next, it's the

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<v Speaker 3>pick Up Friday Afternoon with Britt Laura and Mitch where

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<v Speaker 3>here thanks to chemist Warehouse head in today. Great savings

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<v Speaker 3>at chemist ware House every day.

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<v Speaker 4>Now.

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<v Speaker 1>It's no secret that I was single for a very

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<v Speaker 1>long time, a solid decade. I was on the app

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<v Speaker 1>swiping left, right and senate. I came across a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of people in that time. One person did not come

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<v Speaker 1>across is a man by the name.

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<v Speaker 2>Of Stephan Pierre Tomlin. He's thirty two.

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<v Speaker 1>He is the most swiped person in the world on Tinder.

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<v Speaker 1>That was in twenty seventeen, fourteen thousand, six hundred right swipes.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to know how the hell someone does that,

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<v Speaker 1>so I decided to call him.

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<v Speaker 3>He's in London, Hy, Pierre Stefan. How are you?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah? Really well, thanks thanks for having me guys.

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<v Speaker 2>I need to know how on earth is it even

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<v Speaker 2>remotely possible to have fourteen thousand matches?

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<v Speaker 3>Like?

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<v Speaker 2>How much time do you spend on Tinder in order

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<v Speaker 2>to rack up that many swipes?

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<v Speaker 4>Do you know what? Yeah? Obviously it became in a

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<v Speaker 4>bit of a game for me at the time. I

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<v Speaker 4>spent probably about two hours a day wow on Tinder

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<v Speaker 4>back in twenty seventeen.

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<v Speaker 3>Wow, Stephan Pierre, I need to know people in the

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<v Speaker 3>car would be thinking what the hell does this guy

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<v Speaker 3>look like? Because to get that many right swipes right

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<v Speaker 3>froo to one on the apps, right is yes, left

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<v Speaker 3>is no. So I mean, how tall are you? Do

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<v Speaker 3>you want to? I mean, you're handsome, You've got beautiful,

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<v Speaker 3>beautiful eyes, white teeth.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm currently well, I'm six foot two and a half.

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<v Speaker 4>I've been a fashion model for six and a half, sorry,

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<v Speaker 4>thirteen years. Signed. I've worked with some big brands like

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<v Speaker 4>D Squared, DORMONI, Berbery.

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<v Speaker 1>Let us know what your profile is like because you've

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<v Speaker 1>i mean fourteen thousand, six hundred people swipe right, so

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<v Speaker 1>give us some tips. What are your picks like and

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<v Speaker 1>what you buy?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, So the first picture was a professional one is

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<v Speaker 4>a portrait photo of myself. The bio is quite snappy.

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<v Speaker 4>I think I had a little joke in there. The

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<v Speaker 4>pictures have to be really used to be careful not

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<v Speaker 4>to have your friends in the pictures because then it

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<v Speaker 4>becomes a game of like where's Wally? And if we've

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<v Speaker 4>got hobbies as well, so mine's flying. So I had

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<v Speaker 4>quite a few pictures of me flying as well, and

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<v Speaker 4>then you sort of attract people into aviation. But I mean,

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<v Speaker 4>if you're like into horse riding, then it's always recommended

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<v Speaker 4>to put a picture of your hobby in as well.

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<v Speaker 4>Always helps.

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<v Speaker 2>So in order to go through the many swipes and matches,

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<v Speaker 2>did you have your like parameters set to everything? Were

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<v Speaker 2>you like you can be up to a hundred and

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<v Speaker 2>live in Spain?

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<v Speaker 3>Like?

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<v Speaker 2>What was your parameters for dating? Were they very wide

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<v Speaker 2>or was it narrow?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah? They were quite wide. Actually, I think at that

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<v Speaker 4>time I was probably eighteen, not to forty five?

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<v Speaker 2>Forty five?

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<v Speaker 4>And how old were forty five?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that's a widemit.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm actually helping unfortunate men. So I'm using AI chatpt

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<v Speaker 4>and some special AI prompts. We basically ask them for

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<v Speaker 4>photos and we put them through. We put them through

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<v Speaker 4>the software and it makes about forty to forty five

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<v Speaker 4>AI generated pictures and so it helps with Some people

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<v Speaker 4>say catfishing, but I don't think it is. It's just yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>it's just being ahead of the game.

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<v Speaker 1>Really, but it's changing their picture.

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<v Speaker 2>How much does it change?

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<v Speaker 4>But if you compare it in comparison to like in

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<v Speaker 4>the past, then I was swiping. There was a lot

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<v Speaker 4>of girls that use filters, right.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh I get his No, I get his porn. Yeah. Girls, yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>and guys yeah, I mean.

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<v Speaker 4>Those filters attracting a certain type of guy, right that

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<v Speaker 4>that that's exactly the same thing.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't you feel like you Yeah, you turned up and

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<v Speaker 1>you were like, hey, you tricked me with your filters.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't you think you're tricking people now with my band filters?

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<v Speaker 4>Well? Yeah, yeah, I kind of felt like that at

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<v Speaker 4>some stage. By at the end of the day, you

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<v Speaker 4>still bag the date.

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<v Speaker 2>In the door.

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<v Speaker 3>There he is, mister Tinder, Tinder's most white man's to find.

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<v Speaker 3>Pierre Tomlin. All right, coming up next on the show,

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<v Speaker 3>have you reconnected with a long lost sibling? That's what

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<v Speaker 3>we're after. Have you not grown up lived your life

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<v Speaker 3>not knowing you have family out there in the world,

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<v Speaker 3>only to discover they've been there the whole time. That

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<v Speaker 3>is what we're after, and we'll unpacket next to the pickup.

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<v Speaker 3>It's the pick up Friday afternoon, Britt, Laura and Mitch.

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<v Speaker 3>to put the call out thirteen one oh six five.

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<v Speaker 3>This might seem weird, girls, but go with me. Have

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<v Speaker 3>you been reconnected with a long lost family member?

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<v Speaker 2>Is this the show you've been talking about?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I'm one of those annoying people that like, find

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<v Speaker 3>a new show and I get hooked and I tell

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<v Speaker 3>everyone in my life about it. It's on Stan I mean,

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<v Speaker 3>everyone has stand but it's called Sisters with the Capitalist.

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<v Speaker 3>I got a little bit of the trailer to play

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<v Speaker 3>for you because it is. It's so good, and it's

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<v Speaker 3>essentially that.

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<v Speaker 1>Imagine that your dad died, and then that your mom died.

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<v Speaker 2>Something I need to tell you about your father, And.

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<v Speaker 3>Then if you found out that if you had a

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<v Speaker 3>dad and he lived across the world, wouldn't you at

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<v Speaker 3>least want to meet him?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, that's my father's when that there is what? I

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<v Speaker 2>have a sister, my sister.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, and you're a Jewish singer something Jewish business or

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<v Speaker 1>go on?

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<v Speaker 2>Could you imagine growing up thinking, like thinking your whole

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<v Speaker 2>identity is wrapped up in this one thing, and then

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<v Speaker 2>finding out as an adult that actually, you know, you

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<v Speaker 2>have a sister, or your dad is still alive or something.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you know what someone in my life. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>want to out who it is exactly. That they found

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<v Speaker 2>out when they were an adult that their mother was

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<v Speaker 2>actually their sister and their grandmother was actually their mother.

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<v Speaker 2>WHOA isn't that messed up?

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<v Speaker 1>My friend found out as well, but their dad wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>their dad and they had another dad out there. Then

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<v Speaker 1>they had to go find the real dad.

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<v Speaker 3>This happens more of.

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<v Speaker 2>Who keeping these skeleton?

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<v Speaker 4>Why are you.

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<v Speaker 2>Lying you well?

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<v Speaker 3>Producer Tony said, she's got someone Natalie's joining us? Is

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<v Speaker 3>this right? Natalie's on thirteen one O six five. Hi Natalie?

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<v Speaker 3>Did you reconnect with a family member that went walkabouts?

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<v Speaker 5>So? I was doing family history for my partner at

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<v Speaker 5>the time, and I found an army record for his

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<v Speaker 5>grandfather and found a marriage on there that we didn't

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<v Speaker 5>know about, and a child that we weren't that we

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<v Speaker 5>hadn't heard of. And so it was his mother's my

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<v Speaker 5>partner's mother's half sister that we found. So I pretty

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<v Speaker 5>much used ancestry to find their marriage records and the

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<v Speaker 5>births of her children and tracked them down on Facebook.

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<v Speaker 2>Did you meet them in real life or did you

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<v Speaker 2>just connect with them on Facebook?

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<v Speaker 5>We well, they lived in England, so we about eighteen

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<v Speaker 5>months after we got in touch with them, we flew

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<v Speaker 5>over to England with my mother in law and we

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<v Speaker 5>went and met them.

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<v Speaker 1>So sorry, just I feel like I missed the connection there.

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<v Speaker 1>Who are the family members that you discovered?

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<v Speaker 5>It was my mother in law's half sister.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh wow, So and what's their relationship like?

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<v Speaker 1>Now?

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<v Speaker 2>Are they friends? Are they keep in contact?

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<v Speaker 5>Well, she was my mother in law's half sister was

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<v Speaker 5>terminal with cancer, so she actually passed away about twelve

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<v Speaker 5>months after we went to England to meet her.

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<v Speaker 3>Beautiful to have that experience though.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, she was such a lovely lady and her children

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<v Speaker 5>really reached out and saying to me, they said that

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<v Speaker 5>the reason she held on for so long was because

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<v Speaker 5>of she got to meet her half sisters and they

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<v Speaker 5>were part of her life. They would talk every day.

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<v Speaker 3>So wow, it was really wetly. So you're saying the

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<v Speaker 3>mother in law was sixty seven when she found out.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, she was about sixty seven and her half sister

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<v Speaker 5>was in her mid seventies.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like beautiful that they met and they you know,

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<v Speaker 1>got that time together. But much sixty seven years to

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<v Speaker 1>be like, oh my god, there's I have another family.

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<v Speaker 3>But I was like half class full. At least she

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<v Speaker 3>got to have that experience before she passed away. That's

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<v Speaker 3>amazing exactly.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, to catch up on where I, well, do you

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<v Speaker 2>know about the marriage? Like, did no one know that

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<v Speaker 2>that marriage existed or that he had another relationship prior?

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<v Speaker 5>No, So we only had an inkling about it when

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<v Speaker 5>we applied for our British passports and my husband, my

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<v Speaker 5>partner at the time, had to get his mother's birth

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<v Speaker 5>certificate and we realized that her parents weren't married when

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<v Speaker 5>she was born, which was a surprise to her. And

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<v Speaker 5>it was only a little bit more digging that we

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<v Speaker 5>did that we found that he had been married previously,

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<v Speaker 5>so we think they never got divorced and that's why

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<v Speaker 5>he couldn't remarry.

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<v Speaker 2>Now, I wonder if she even knew, Like you hear

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<v Speaker 2>these family secrets and family stories and you're like, who

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<v Speaker 2>knew and who was who was kind of kept in

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<v Speaker 2>the dark with all this.

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<v Speaker 3>I wonder that's.

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<v Speaker 5>Instant there was a half sister knew that her father

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<v Speaker 5>had had a son, but didn't know about her half

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<v Speaker 5>sisters and obviously didn't know any names. Or anything. So

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<v Speaker 5>she lived a whole life knowing she had a half

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<v Speaker 5>brother out there.

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<v Speaker 1>I reckon there's a lot of people out there in

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<v Speaker 1>this situation, you know, I reckon a lot of people

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<v Speaker 1>have long lost siblings.

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<v Speaker 3>DMS at the pickup if something like this has happened

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<v Speaker 3>to you, because these are so interesting.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's harder and harder though now because now

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<v Speaker 2>with like the Internet and Facebook and everything else, things

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<v Speaker 2>are an ancestry ancestry dot com. People can't have double

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<v Speaker 2>lives and separate families. People.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't trust humans the dms. This could be a

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<v Speaker 3>good investigative series for us. We could picture to sixty minutes. Anyway,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm getting aead of myself. You need to go and

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<v Speaker 3>watch Sisters on Stand. It's phenomenal. So just go and

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<v Speaker 3>watch that. This afternoon. We will be back and Will

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<v Speaker 3>and Wood you are up next

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<v Speaker 2>To Hey, you guys, have a good afternoon, My guys,